Every Friday I meet with three guys at a coffee shop to talk about life. Our lives. Last week we were talking about our values. I asked, “If you were videotaped for a week, would it show you were supporting what you say you value?" A couple of the guys were really impacted by the concept. I've heard aspects of this idea before and you normally follow it with questioning if your values are really what you say they are. But, I think our values are generally solid, we just often fail to make suppor...
Nov 06, 2024•15 min
In the last show I talked with licensed therapist and renowned relationship expert, Nedra Glover Tawwab. Her new book is called, Consider This: Reflections For Finding Peace. As I chew on the message, I’m wondering if “finding peace” is honestly attractive to people. Before my mid forties, if you’d tried to entice me with the hope of finding peace, I’m not sure I would have given you much attention. The prior 25 years I spent going full tilt. Anxiety was fine. I think I thought it was even fun. ...
Nov 05, 2024•13 min
Nedra Glover Tawwab is the author of the New York Times bestsellers Drama Free and Set Boundaries, Find Peace and I’ve had her on this show to talk about the messages in both of those books. Boundaries specifically is an area I greatly struggle with. Nedra is a licensed therapist and renowned relationship expert and has appeared as an expert on The Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS This Morning, to name a few. She has a popular Instagram account @nedratawwab with ...
Nov 04, 2024•1 hr 30 min
Love & Respect. This is a book that first published in 2004. 20 years ago. I just looked at Amazon and it’s ranked at #885 in all books right now. All. Why is the book so popular? Because it resonates so much with so many people. This week we’ve talked about peacemaking and respect and I thought it relevant to bring this episode back where I talked with the one and only, Dr Emmerson Eggrichs, author of Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs. Please do...
Nov 01, 2024•1 hr 22 min
I’m sure you’re aware that the online world is working to get your attention and cater to your desires. But I don’t think many are aware how far the online world is going to cater to your bias and desires. When you type into google or a search engine, it’s feeding you information that is altered to cater to you. When you go look at the news, it may be including or omitting content based on your interests and history. At the end of the day, any online source makes money by catering to you. This i...
Oct 31, 2024•14 min
As a guy who has focused too much of his life on doing and producing, I am acutely aware that everything I say yes to, everything I give attention to, has a cost. Something else doesn’t get done. Something else doesn’t get attention. There is only so much time in a day and so much space in my brain. In my recent show with Steven T. Collis, law professor at the University of Texas-Austin and one of the nation’s leading thought leaders on the First Amendment and civil discourse, he hits on this in...
Oct 30, 2024•15 min
In the last episode I talked with Steven T. Collis, law professor at the University of Texas-Austin and one of the nation’s leading thought leaders on the First Amendment and civil discourse. He just wrote a book, Habits of a Peacemaker: 10 Habits to Change Our Potentially Toxic Conversations into Healthy Dialogues. Steven’s focus is not upholding people’s rights and enforcing law. It’s helping people connect, and remain connected even when they disagree. At the end of the day I felt Steven lead...
Oct 29, 2024•13 min
The First Amendment. Freedom of religion, speech, press, assembly, and petition. It is meant to protect our freedom of religion, speech, press, assembly, and petition. On this show I sit down with Steven T. Collis. Steven is a law professor at the University of Texas-Austin. He’s a former research fellow at Stanford Law School and is the founding faculty director of the Bech-Loughlin First Amendment Center and is one of the nation’s leading thought leaders on the First Amendment and civil discou...
Oct 28, 2024•1 hr 53 min
Think about that statement - Your Future Success Equals The Size Of Your Hope. First, how do we define hope? The most common definition is: a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. Do you expect good things? The opposite of hope is despair. And I’d say, pessimism. Cynicism. And expectation of poor outcomes. It’s what I think of when you complain about something and someone responds with, “Right?!” As if to confirm negative outcomes. Where are you on the scale from compl...
Oct 25, 2024•56 min
To wrap up this series on strategy, there is no need for a strategy and systems and improvement unless there is something that we want. In my conversation with Seth Godin talking through the messages in his new book, This Is Strategy: Make Better Plans, as he focused on marketing, he said there are 3 things people want. Which means, they are the same three things we want. I found it to be a needed reminder as I try to serve an audience, and…I am an audience, for the world. I’ll take you through ...
Oct 24, 2024•12 min
Two episodes ago I talked with renowned influencer, Seth Godin about the message in his new book, This Is Strategy: Make Better Plans. In it he tells a story that points out two options for changing our strategy. I've added a third that I feel he would agree with. Let me tell you a story Seth shared and we'll contemplate what options suit us best in the key areas of life we want to improve. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign ...
Oct 23, 2024•12 min
Like you, I’ve worked hard to gain more knowledge. Create healthy habits. And I’ve seen results. From this, I really want to wake up, have a good day, and have everything in my life progress. I get healthier. I get wealthier. My relationships just get richer. I feel spiritually connected. My work is more fulfilling. I'm more peaceful and joyful. What I find however, is that things plateau. Maybe stagnate, or even start eroding. Changing systems in my life often created good change and progress. ...
Oct 22, 2024•12 min
I’ve grown up in the human potential movement and world of entrepreneurship. Having a goal, which I refer to as a destination, is paramount, as if we don’t know where we are going, we can never get there. However, to get there, you need a strategy. We generally think we have one, but we very often misinterpret what a real, effective strategy is. So I have for you…the expert. Seth Godin. Seth is known as one of the most pervasive voices in the business world, but just as many people follow him fo...
Oct 21, 2024•1 hr 20 min
To wrap up this focus on doing too much and how we run ourselves ragged, I’m looking at our relationships, from family to friends and in our work, with a focus on how we tend to be all things for all people and we do a disservice to ourselves and others. So I’m sharing a show I did with Laura Tremaine. Laura is host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. Laura worked in film and television production for many years at MTV, VH1, Fox, and Paramount Pict...
Oct 18, 2024•1 hr 24 min
As I wrap up this series on doing too much, I’m looking at the issue of responsibility. I was a superhero of responsibility. I did it all. No limits. No excuses. People were awed at how much I took care of. Until…I couldn’t. It reminds me of the attribute of being able to hold your liquor. It was a sign of strength, how many shots or beers you can have and still function. Which mainly means you’ve built up a tolerance to a toxin. How is that something to be proud of? This is what I did with resp...
Oct 17, 2024•14 min
Imagine meeting someone new and them asking, “So, who are you?” Instead of, “What do you do?” How would you even answer? Famed author Donald Miller writes about attending a therapy retreat and for the first three days nobody could share what they did vocationally. He said it was excruciating not to be able to tell people he was a successful author, and he realized how much his identity was wrapped around his roles. I never knew myself outside of what I did, until…far too recently. Here I’m going...
Oct 16, 2024•14 min
After my conversation with renowned therapist Terri Cole in the last episode, I continue to consider my history of doing too much. That is the title of her new book,Too Much: A Guide To Breaking The Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. With my nine kids and business and pursuit of personal growth and experiences, many, many people, my kids included, often come to me apologizing for taking my time, as they know I’m “so busy.” And it’s because they have seen me for so long, being too busy. And ...
Oct 15, 2024•15 min
Friends, I have discovered…I am a flag flying, High Functioning Codependant. Or rather, I have been living as one. And I’m more than ready to be done. HFC is a new term and a new look at codependency, the concept and term is coined by renowned psychotherapist, Terri Cole, who I have with me in this episode. I believe this discussion will hit many of you, as it did me, who have been living the life of overdoing it. Doing too much. With a good heart and even strong threads from religious backgroun...
Oct 14, 2024•1 hr 31 min
Outer Banks Fans…my guest here is in the new season 4, just to name drop and grab your attention. One of my daughters is a fan and wanted me to watch it with her, which I have. So the fact I had someone on my podcast that is in Outer Banks, my Dad cred went way up. My guest is Brianna Brown Keen and I’m reposting this show I did with her because the topic of art in your work and manifesting keeps repeating itself in my life. Brianna has a new podcast called Manifesting Your Mission and this week...
Oct 11, 2024•1 hr 11 min
In the last episode I walked you through X# of chapters in Michael Pollan’s Food Rules, which is a fairly short, fast, and humorous map showcasing what I am most Functional Medicine experts feel is a brilliant showcase of how to eat. What to eat and what not to eat, told by a journalist who has done extensive research and testing and become one of most influential leaders in wellness. This is meant to be brief and profound and leave you with some memorable zingers to improve your diet and share ...
Oct 10, 2024•13 min
One of my favorite nutritional guides of all time was not written by a doctor or nutritionist, but by journalist Michael Pollan. The book is called Food Rules and you can read it in about 30 minutes. It’s a distillation of much of Michael’s research into what foods actually give us life and sustain us. To me it’s so blunt you can’t miss it, it’s humorous and it’s profound. The tagline for the book is, “Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.” Some chapters are merely a headline, such as rule #2: ...
Oct 09, 2024•14 min
In the previous episode I talked with Dr Adam Perlman, former Mayo clinic and Stanford doc who is not Chief Medical Officer at Pendulum, where they provide the only akkermansia supplement. I referenced the story of Dr Mark Hyman being ill and finding he had no akkermansia bacteria in him. This is a foundation of Functional Medicine, that so much of our wellness or lack thereof is a result of what we are putting in our body that it doesn’t want, and what we aren’t putting in that it needs. And ou...
Oct 08, 2024•12 min
I saw a video recently from Dr Mark Hyman, the most well known name in Functional Medicine. He was struggling with an aspect of his health, took a test and found he was missing a vital bacteria in his gut called akkermansia. He found no available supplement that provided it so he went to work doing the best he could with a mix of different foods. He was able to improve his levels. However the video I saw was with him and the founder of a biotech company, Pendulum, who is now providing the first ...
Oct 07, 2024•1 hr 18 min
The topic of regrets has come up in multiple conversations recently, so I’m reposting a show I often reference. “No regrets” is an American slogan along with “No Fear” and “Just Do It.” Yet more often than not we don’t, just do it. Nor should we. And having no fear is psychopathic. To me, having no regrets means you have no sorrow for ever hurting anyone or making a mistake. Even if you learned a lot and redeemed some things, I’ve felt regret has a purpose. Regret is simply recognizing sadness o...
Oct 04, 2024•56 min
In my talk a few episodes ago with Alexis Fernandez-Prieksa on changing our mindset we discussed the issue of our beliefs, which is a big topic for me. On one hand, we want things to believe in, as it helps guide and anchor our lives. But on the other hand, I feel beliefs can be incredibly dangerous when we aren’t fully clear and aware of why we have them, why, and if we hold on to them blindly. This isn’t a discourse on religion or theology, but a look at considering our mindset. Sign up for a ...
Oct 03, 2024•11 min
I’m continuing on with some key points I got from my talk with Alexis Fernandez-Prieksa, author of the new audio book, How To Chase Change: 30 Days to Master Your Mindset, two episodes ago. A point I pulled out and we dug into was the idea of our limitations. We often hear we’re unlimited, we can do and be anything! I disagree, and so does Alexis who gives great research on how our limitations are a benefit. In her book she has a section on limitations and fears and says, “It’s important to know...
Oct 02, 2024•11 min
In the last episode I talked with neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez-Prieksa, author of the new audio book, How To Chase Change: 30 Days to Master Your Mindset. We hit on the concept made popular by Malcolm Gladwell in his book, Outliers, of how the world’s masters generally put in 10,000 hours. Now, I really appreciate Malcolm and the concept. And, Alexis brought up a point I not only agree with, but I’ve experienced. Simply putting in the hours does not a master make. It’s the kind of hours that ...
Oct 01, 2024•11 min
A 30-Day Guide To Changing Your Mindset. In my search for relevant messages on human potential, I have the top publishers send me their lists of new books. In a list from Simon & Schuster I saw, How To Chase Change: 30 Days to Master Your Mindset, and the title alone was worth a look. What I found intrigued me, starting with the author’s story. If you see Alexis Fernandez-Prieksa on social media, to me she looks more like an actress or social media starlet than a mindset expert. And that’s p...
Sep 30, 2024•1 hr 44 min
As I wrap up our current discussion on purpose, calling, and destiny, I want to discuss a perspective I see derailing many people. The idea that you need to forge on alone. And be a leader calling others to you. In our social media culture it can feel like everyone is chasing the spotlight. Everyone wants to be, or feels they need to be, the superstar, in order to succeed. To have a platform and followers and an audience. Write a book, star in social media, start a podcast, and get enough attent...
Sep 27, 2024•1 hr 16 min
I feel it can be very daunting to feel that finding your destiny is this epic, solo quest. In some ways I’d say much of the discovery is, as the answer is ultimately somewhere within you, not “out there” somewhere. But the living it out in your day to day world does not need to be a solo venture. You may not to be the leader of the quest of your life. It may be part of a group or organization you get to be a part of. I continue this week’s discussion on purpose, calling, interests and destiny wi...
Sep 26, 2024•13 min
