Recovering from injury is a popular topic, whether it’s a broken bone, a soft tissue sprain, pull, or tear, or a severe illness or disease. Yet as you’ll hear in this episode, we hit on the reality that living itself is injury. Every morning you wake up, hopefully having gotten quality sleep that was healing. Let’s say you start at 100%, which is impossible, but whatever level you start out, from that point on you are depleting yourself, physically and mentally. You spend the day wearing down yo...
Jun 28, 2024•1 hr 3 min
My headline of doing only what you want will seem facetious and likely with a catch. But I commit to you that it’s possible, right now and today, to only do what you want. Or at least give you a dramatic launch in that direction and help you get there completely in short order. Does that mean you then achieve perfect happiness and joy? Not at all, because you’ll end up facing the reality that you are doing a lot of things you want to do that aren’t your best choice. You’ll either change some thi...
Jun 27, 2024•15 min
Taking responsibility doesn’t come from some grand maturity or discipline as much as it comes from our identity and perspective. It’s a security issue. When you find yourself amidst a negative emotion and the temptation to place blame on someone or something else, it’s because something feels at risk. There are two questions you can ask to get to the root issue and generally alleviate the problem, or at least get honest with it. The questions are, “What am I protecting?” and “What is my perceive...
Jun 26, 2024•12 min
In this episode I’m flipping our concept of taking control. The normal perspective on taking control is to stand up tall and assert yourself. Take a firm grip and bend things to your will. This concept is generally related to your external life when you are striving to control things that are often not controllable or not your responsibility to control. But even internally this is the concept we can have. “OK Kevin. Get a grip! Grit your teeth. Be disciplined and use some will power! Man up! Wom...
Jun 25, 2024•17 min
The conversation explores the concept of responsibility versus blame. The participants discuss the opportunities and payoffs of taking responsibility for oneself, such as empowerment, self-fulfillment, and personal growth. They also examine the cultural factors that may contribute to a lack of responsibility, including a litigious society and the impact of social media. The importance of knowing oneself and defining one's own narrative is highlighted, as well as the need for nuance in understand...
Jun 24, 2024•2 hr 19 min
In this episode we talk about play. Non-productive activities, in essence, though what you’ll find is these activities greatly support our overall productivity. I spent a lot of years with no room for play. I saw it as unproductive. It took a while to notice the joy my friends who played had, and how it seemed to coincide with their success everywhere else. It can be a hard issue for the aspiring and success oriented individual, as the topic of play and fun can sound like a frivolity or luxury a...
Jun 21, 2024•56 min
In this episode I want to help you clarify the problem you solve for others. Think about the nonfiction books you purchase. You get them in hopes they will help you solve a problem you have. You often think we are fulfilling desires, but it’s been well proven that our greatest and primary motivators are problems. And I’m going to help you look at some so-called desires and show how they are really problems we want to solve. Think specifically about where you spend your money, and you’ll find it’...
Jun 20, 2024•14 min
In this episode we look at one of the key ways to become a famous resource. We started with a masterclass in becoming known, with brand guru Rory Vaden. Rory is known for the topic of obscurity, and helping mission driven messengers not remain a best kept secret. In the last episode I drilled further into Rory’s counsel to become known for one thing. I hope you’ve been working on what you are, or are going to be, known for. Once you decide on that, then you need to go out and tell the world. And...
Jun 19, 2024•13 min
In this episode I’ll give you the number one way to become a famous resource. When I share it, you will immediately agree. I’m not being flippant or confident, as I didn’t come up with this, I’m just the messenger. The answer is one of those super simple truths that you hear and go, “Oh, of course.” Super simple, yet it’s amazing how hard it is for us to clarify, choose, and stick to. Drive with me a moment Got a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Emai...
Jun 18, 2024•12 min
In this episode I'm giving you the recipe for being known. Notice the word recipe. It's actually a term we need to use more in this personal growth space. Everyone is promoting to you that they have the answer for you. The secret. The perfectly baked cake to give you all you want. It doesn't exist. The best you can get is a recipe so you can bake your own cake. So here we have a profound recipe for being known. You have something great to offer. If you are unclear on what it is, or even if you t...
Jun 17, 2024•2 hr 7 min
In this episode we want to gain clarity on what we are in fact, becoming. You are working to grow, which means you are looking to become…something. Something more, but what? If you don’t have a clear destination in mind, you are likely to wander. Imagine going out in your car to travel, but without a clear place to go. “I’m just traveling!” But we often do this in our growth. “I’m just seeking growth!” Well, to what end? Who are you striving to become. Another aspect is the reality that you are ...
Jun 16, 2024•54 min
In this episode I’m looking at one more angle on this topic of disappointment and ways to mitigate the negative feelings that can haunt and hinder us. I’m striving to find balance between letting disappointments handicap us, and minimizing feelings that have relevance as well. I’m going to continue a story and offer you some relevant human experiences so we can look at different angles of our perspectives and as I said in the title. Temper them. Not invalidate. But…lessen their impact. Let’s loo...
Jun 15, 2024•11 min
In this episode I'm looking at lost opportunities and questioning the stories we have around them. We've been looking at how we view disappointment and there is a lot of content around just telling a different story. But I don't feel the message benefits us much. We felt what we felt and feel what we feel and it feels reasonable. I think it is...reasonable. But I have a question I feel will cause you to really question your perspective on your past. The idea really caused me to take a step back ...
Jun 14, 2024•13 min
In this episode I'm going to confess how something I thought was a great strength, revealed itself as a weakness. And I see it so often with people who are more aware of themselves and concepts of healthy relating. They have learned not to react emotionally toward other people. They can regulate their behavior and in essence, bite their tongues. This can be good for not exacerbating a conflict in the moment. But the question is...what is it doing to us internally? I'm finding over time it can te...
Jun 13, 2024•14 min
Some people relate to trauma. Some to grief. But everyone will admit to disappointment, even if you’re a chronic minimizer like me. We’re not here to exaggerate and inflate anything, and nobody wants to give attention to disappointment so it limits them. That however is my concern. Are we healthfully dealing with disappointments or are we repressing unresolved feelings that are in fact, limiting us? You may be CEO of your company and clearing a million per year, and have unresolved disappointmen...
Jun 10, 2024•2 hr 32 min
In this episode we want to help you increase your wellness by elevating your desired healthy habits and routines into cherished rituals. Sacred even, if you will. We talk about diet and exercise and sleep we can often fall into viewing them as a chore. A should. Instead of a reverent endeavor we choose for our glorious well being. Rituals transcend mere chores and instill a reverence and even sacredness to the effort. In this episode Dr James and I talk about taking our daily health and wellness...
Jun 07, 2024•48 min
In this episode I want to draw you to the things you care about. The things you value and believe in. And challenge you with your responsibility to sell them. Zig Ziglar famously said, “If you believe your product or service can fulfill a true need, it’s your moral obligation to sell it.” Now that doesn’t necessarily mean you must take a job selling a product or service you love. It may be a life concept that’s given you value and the issue is you taking what has given you value and made your li...
Jun 06, 2024•18 min
In this episode I want to erase the myth and polarization of selflessness. I grew up in the Bible Belt and heard so much about dying to self. Altruism and serving others was held up as the holy grail of human achievement. I and so many others got the message that if an action or activity gave you any joy it was selfish and the goal was to abstain from any desire and only fulfill the desires and needs of others. My experience is this made for a lot of guilty people, and I now believe we translate...
Jun 05, 2024•14 min
In this episode we look at the motives around procrastination. I received some new information that's made me question whether we're really avoiding something and putting it off, or in fact, just giving in to a greater desire. The concept can turn the idea of procrastination upside down. It reminds me of people who don't do something because they are afraid of failing, but sometimes you find out what they are really afraid of is success. Discovering the root driver can be revolutionary when you ...
Jun 04, 2024•12 min
In this episode I'm unveiling a very common motivator for your drive that I'd not adequately conceptualized before. We all realize that negative feelings can often be a powerful motivator for us. The desire to prove ourselves to the world. But my guest took it a step further and it was an "Ah ha!" Moment for me. Self-development leader Joel Brown cited that even among the top performers he's hired to coach, he finds that many not only have negative motivators driving them, but they are actually ...
Jun 03, 2024•1 hr 50 min
In this episode we continue our walk through a fairly comprehensive list of menu items on treatments for depression, apathy, or even just feeling blue and unmotivated and fatigued. In last week’s episode, we discussed solitude, outside time, exercise, positive input, having purpose and surrounding yourself with inspiration. Here we continue on with about nine other menu items you can pick and choose from to raise your spirits and increase your hope. We really worked to be compassionate and graci...
May 31, 2024•1 hr 8 min
In this episode I want you to consider the disappointments of your life. You may not perceive them as that critical. Like me, you don’t feel you’ve really had big trauma in your life. You feel you don’t have much real pain or hardship to cite and you should just be good. But you live with a good amount of frustration and discontent. That’s the tell tale sign. I have an intriguing story about tornados and termites to drive the point home that you are possibly at more risk than someone with great ...
May 30, 2024•11 min
In this episode I want to address all of you who feel you have it pretty good. You really don’t have much to complain about. And you’re struggling with some guilt for wanting more and feeling some dissatisfaction. With all due respect, if you are hearing this podcast then you are called to more. Not to prove yourself or be worthy. But just cause you hear that call. Period. Let me explain, and yes, I’m going to make a case. I want you inspired to pursue more. Not burdened with it, and not guilty....
May 29, 2024•14 min
In this episode I cover your true heart’s desire. It’s to make a difference. To contribute to the world. Not because you are Captain Altruistic, but because you are human and selfishly this is what we most want. We want to matter to others. If you study the rich and famous, you’ll generally find them at two ends of the spectrum later in life. They are miserable and their lives are a shambles. A good number of them take their own lives or end up with lives that are nothing but pain and despair. O...
May 28, 2024•13 min
In this episode we’re delivering steps for you to stand out and be remarkable. So you don’t get lost in the shuffle of noise out there. To get much of anywhere today, we must be remarkable. But what does that mean? My guest defines it not as being famous or rich, having tons of followers or being a genius, but as making a difference. Making the world a better place. His podcast is actually called Remarkable People, and after having 200 amazing guests he’s curated tremendous wisdom in his new boo...
May 27, 2024•1 hr 14 min
In this episode we talk about other treatments for depression. Depression doesn’t take away your drive. It just leaves you stuck in park. Idling. Therapy and medications are the primary treatments for depression. This leaves out many other treatments and doesn’t address habits we often have that can massively dilute the efficacy of any amount of therapy and meds. We’re going to give you about 13. Depression, apathy, and just feeling blue and numb, are very real issues affecting all of us. We are...
May 24, 2024•1 hr 4 min
In this episode I’m going to enlighten you to another cultural illness we have. It’s explaining our decisions and actions to get other’s affirmations and validations. We want everyone’s approval and we spend copious amounts of time explaining ourselves and encountering anxiety about having our friend’s, family’s and the world’s blessings about everything we decide to do. And you may often be asked by others why we did something or are doing something or even why we like or dislike something. And...
May 23, 2024•12 min
In this short episode I want to uncover the insidious role of expectations and shoulds that often make up much of our personal and cultural drive. And, it shouldn’t. Whatever you are driving after that is fueled by a should will bear bad fruit. One of three things will happen. One, you’ll achieve the objective, but with bitterness and exhaustion. Call it collateral damage. This is what leads to burnout. Two, you’ll achieve the objective but find no fulfillment and you’ll just wonder what’s next....
May 22, 2024•15 min
In this episode I’m going to give you a shortcut to making sure you find the best fit, whether you’re seeking a new job, a date, or any new opportunity. It doesn’t guarantee you’ll get the thing you want, but it gives you the best chance, and it will nearly guarantee you don’t end up in a situation you don’t want. In the last episode I had interviewing guru Anna Papalia on the show and we talked through the message in her new book, Interviewology. If you want to land a new job you love, listen t...
May 21, 2024•13 min
In this episode we give focus to our drive, in our work. Our work is a primary, if not the primary focus of our lives, at least from a daily time and energy devotion. The message here is in relation to the interviewing process, but as you’ll hear, so much of it relates to our lives overall. In any relationship and opportunity there is an aspect of selling yourself and often a struggle between being yourself and feeling you are performing. I was recently introduced to Anna Papalia who is one of o...
May 20, 2024•1 hr 48 min
