In this episode, we kick off a series on confidence. Confidence is something I feel has gone by the cultural wayside. If you’re confident, you are arrogant or narcissistic. Yet we only pay and follow people who are confident. My expert is Heather Monahan. Heather is a two times best-selling author, she was a Top 50 Keynote Speaker in the World in 2022, and she’s host of top ranked podcast, Creating Confidence. Her first book,Confidence Creator, shot to #1 on Amazon’s Business Biographies and Bus...
Sep 04, 2023•1 hr 23 min
Dominate Your Day Before Breakfast. The point is looking at the immense power of starting your day intentionally, which I spent most of my life, especially with little kids, not doing. My daily domination expert is Jeff Sanders. Jeff has a popular and just really inspirational podcast called The 5am Miracle Podcast. His book is also titled, The 5am Miracle, and I’ve been studying it and am talking through the concepts with Jeff in this episode. For the record, as you’re about to hear, this is no...
Sep 01, 2023•1 hr 26 min
The Big Idea, The Big Takeaway & The Big Action. This is part four of my series on Boundaries, and this is my second series on boundaries in two years. Because it’s such a struggle for me, and according to the research, it is for you too. We don’t do boundaries because it rubs against our desire to serve and put other people first. Which is great. It really is. And the culmination of this series and concept of boundaries is, your heart is in the right place. Mine too. But our methodology is ...
Aug 31, 2023•35 min
In this episode of Self Helpful, “Find Peace By First Creating Boundaries Within Yourself” - This is part three in my series on boundaries, instigated by psychotherapist Terri Cole and the message in her new book, Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. In this episode my chosen co-host is Broadway and screen star, Renée Marino. Renée is author of Becoming A Master Communicator and one of my favorite connoisseurs and practitioners of personal development....
Aug 30, 2023•1 hr 3 min
What Drives Terri Cole. Terri is my expert on Boundaries from the previous episode and the message of her new book, Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, is our muse for this series. This is where I walk through the seven key areas of life and ask her about her values and motives and her daily habits around them. As you can imagine, we came back over and over to the topic of boundaries and how Terri works to integrate what she preaches and teaches into ...
Aug 28, 2023•55 min
This is part one on a series about boundaries. I’ve spent most of my life with zero boundaries, thinking I was doing the world and everyone in it a favor. Instead, I found myself serving others…with a bitter heart. Or just a worn out heart. To the point where some of those closest with me told me to just go take care of myself, so that…I could take care of them better. But I still grapple with the concept a lot and I need more help. I bet you do too. So, I invited Terri Cole to the show is a lic...
Aug 25, 2023•1 hr 30 min
Along with every illness, disease, and malady in America, Parkinson’s Disease is on a drastic rise. It’s no longer just an old person’s issue but is being rapidly experienced in the 30-50 year old range of men and women. As we discuss in all our discussion of illness and disease, there are lifestyle issues at work. But different than most other issues we cover, my co host, Dr Randy James reveals that with Parkinsons there are some significant environmental toxin issues that come into play, which...
Aug 24, 2023•1 hr 2 min
This is part four and my wrap up on this series on Emotional Intelligence. It’s rocked my world because I, like so many others, considered myself fairly emotionally intelligent because I can read other people fairly well, sense their emotions, and perform. Think of “How To Win Friends & Influence People.” A great and valuable skill for getting along with people at a face value level. But in long term relationships with ourselves and others, this skill doesn’t get us far and we find ourselves...
Aug 23, 2023•25 min
How To Interrupt The Loop of Your Natural Self Unawareness. This is part three in our series on Emotional Intelligence. A primary point is the foundation of emotional intelligence is not being in tune with others emotions, but your own. My muse has been Scott Allender, author of book is The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success and host of the Evolving Leader podcast. In this show I brought on a mentor of Scott’s who introduced us, Ian Morgan Cron. I...
Aug 21, 2023•1 hr 21 min
In this episode, I’m back with emotional intelligence expert, Scott Allender, to walk through the seven key areas of life and what drives him. As you can expect, much of his drive, values, and habits come back to his quest for emotional intelligence. Spiritually he discusses his tendency to want to control the circumstances of life and his self-deception around the idea that without him things won't get done or get done right. Relationally he really wants deep connection and struggles greatly if...
Aug 18, 2023•56 min
Our world applauds people with a high IQ. And yet someone having a high IQ has zero value to me personally. It may have no value for that person or anyone. It merely says they have the possibility of capacity. It doesn’t mean they can or will do anything worthwhile with it, and even if they are brilliant and figure out how to live on Mars, they may be miserable and make everyone else miserable. So what is a better measuring stick for overall potential than IQ? I submit to you it is EQ. Emotional...
Aug 17, 2023•1 hr 26 min
Everyone has heard of “the placebo effect” and it’s usually thought of negatively. We don’t want mind games to fix us, we want a literal ingredient or treatment. But here is the deal, your attitude and expectations can cause a placebo to heal you, or cause a literally beneficial treatment to fail you. What you expect has a dramatic effect on your reality. That’s not conjecture, it’s clinical. Do you expect your exercise to enhance your health? Do you expect your nutritional supplements to enhanc...
Aug 16, 2023•1 hr 9 min
This is part four in my series on The Art of Trying. My muse has been Hala Taha, host of the top ranked business podcast, Young and Profiting and founder and CEO of YAP Media. Talking with Hala about her trajectory of trying and trying different things on the way to what worked, for her overall goal, has been eye opening. When we understand our goal is bigger than any one role or face-value achievement, it takes the pressure off and greatly broadens the different methods we can…try. And if one m...
Aug 14, 2023•27 min
This is part 3 in our series on the Art of Trying. The previous two episodes have featured Hala Taha, host of the top ranked business podcast, Young and Profiting and founder and CEO of YAP Media, a business podcast network with an award-winning social media and podcast marketing agency for top podcasters, celebrities and CEOs. Hala is a rockstar at trying and failing until she figures out what works. Then succeeding. In this episode I brought on a fellow rock star of the art of trying. Broadway...
Aug 11, 2023•1 hr 13 min
I’m back with Hala Taha in my series on the art of trying. This is part two, my “What Drives You” episode and I walk through the key areas of life and what drives Hala. Before even diving into specifics like spirituality, relationships, and health & wellness, we simply talk about Hala’s overall drive, as she shared in the previous episode how her initial drive was fueled by her father who immigrated to the US, and an expectation to become a doctor like the rest of her siblings. This is where...
Aug 10, 2023•1 hr 2 min
This kicks off a 4-part series where my primary muse is…the art of trying. In the personal development world we give a lot of pithy lipservice to trying, quitting and failure…I could add rejection as well. But as a culture, even amongst aspiring people like us, I feel we often fail to grasp a healthy and productive perspective on these concepts. My guest expert on the topic is Hala Taha. Hala is host of the Young and Profiting (YAP) Podcast, frequently ranked as a #1 Business and Entrepreneurshi...
Aug 09, 2023•1 hr 18 min
I really want life to be only what we make it. And deny any genetic limitations. And yet realize we do in fact have some genetic set points that can help, and hinder us. I’ve suffered by denying any genetic hindering. But our culture by far and large I see suffering by blaming too much on genetics. The big question is…how much of an impact do they have on your health? We are not here to discount the role of genetics, and yet the goal is to take as much agency as possible. The goal is to give you...
Aug 07, 2023•1 hr 5 min
This is my wrap up from what I’m working to learn from this series on focus and our expert, Dandapani, world renowned, leading expert on leveraging the human mind and the power of focus, and author of, The Power of Unwavering Focus. I was fortunate to have two, long conversations with Dandapani from his Siva Ashram in Costa Rica, with the second discussion being a deep dive into a controversial view on spirituality that was profound for me. I think we’ll have some follow up discussions that I’ll...
Aug 04, 2023•25 min
We continue this series on Focus, highlighting that it’s not about gritting your teeth, but in changing your paradigm on what focus is and how to harness the focus that you do have within you. Our expert is Dandapani, a world renowned, leading expert on leveraging the human mind and the power of focus, and author of, The Power of Unwavering Focus. Listen to my previous talk with him in part one, or just type “dandapani focus” in your search engine and you’ll see his TED talk with 6.7 million vie...
Aug 03, 2023•1 hr 33 min
This is part 2 in my series on focus with Dandapani, a sought-after international speaker and leading expert on leveraging the human mind and the power of focus, and author of, The Power of Unwavering Focus. Search for him and find his TED talk that went viral. Normally this would be my “What Drives You” episode where I walk through the key areas of life and ask, what drives my guests. However, the first category is spirituality, and as Dandapani is a former monk and current Hindu priest, I pres...
Aug 02, 2023•1 hr 4 min
We all know we’re in an age of distraction. It feels like we all have ADHD. We are all consumed with multi-tasking and dealing with what is urgent and can’t ever get any of the big, important things done. Meanwhile we all follow and applaud the people who can manage to focus and achieve great things. We think focus comes from gritting our teeth and making ourselves, and we are missing the concept. My guest today and expert on this topic is Dandapani. Dandapani grew up in his family home, went to...
Jul 31, 2023•1 hr 8 min
Welcome to the Peak Wellness episode where we seek to strengthen our bodies, our foundations, and build our lives on top of them. In this episode of Self Helpful, “How To Greatly Influence Your Possibility For Dementia” - An issue that used to be a rarity has now become one of the greatest fears of everyone over 50. It’s getting to the point now of expecting that mental impairment is a given for aging. It is not. Does genetics play a part? Yes, but it should be minimal. Does lifestyle play a par...
Jul 28, 2023•1 hr 3 min
This is the wrap up to my series on perception, which continues to be a prominent issue for me amongst the whole concept of personal development. As long as we perceive our reality to be factual reality, we are greatly limited and handicapped. I brought on an expert on perception, Lynda-Ross Vega. She and clinical psychologist Gary Jordan developed the Perception Style Theory to help individuals identify their strengths, appreciate human differences, and navigate challenges. Their book is Unlock...
Jul 27, 2023•27 min
We’ve been looking at the idea of an inherent perception style. Meaning, that you have a hard wired perception style. You will naturally experience life a certain way. The expert I brought in to discuss this is Lynda-Ross Vega. Lynda-Ross spent her life in the high end business world and partnered with clinical psychologist Gary Jordan to research and create the Perception Style Theory to help individuals identify their strengths, appreciate human differences, and navigate challenges. Their book...
Jul 26, 2023•1 hr
There you are in a situation with some other people. Something happens. People react and respond differently. Later in the retelling of what happened you hear someone telling a story that is incredibly off base. Someone else chimes in with, “That’s not what happened, this is!” And you find yourself wanting to tell what really happened and you're exasperated at everyone else’s misinterpretation of what went down. The issue at hand is…we think what we experience is what really happened. It’s fact....
Jul 24, 2023•1 hr 11 min
Welcome to the Peak Wellness episode where we seek to strengthen our bodies, our foundations, and build our lives on top of them. In this episode, Understand & Mitigate Adrenal Fatigue. The Mayo Clinic defines adrenal fatigue as, “a lay term applied to a collection of nonspecific symptoms, such as body aches, fatigue, nervousness, sleep disturbances and digestive problems,” and goes on to say, “Your adrenal glands produce a variety of hormones that are essential to life.” The medical term "a...
Jul 21, 2023•58 min
This is my wrap up on this series on anxiety, though running parallel with it was the topic of trauma. My muse and resident expert was Britt Frank, a survivor of much trauma and trial. Britt is a renowned therapist and author of The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. She turns our perspective on anxiety upside down, and gives us a fresh look at what trauma is and how to come to a reckoning with it. In episode three I brought on past guest, Britt’s friend and as...
Jul 20, 2023•28 min
We are looking at trauma not necessarily at the tragic level, but defined as, “a lasting, negative, and limiting emotional response that often results from living through a distressing event.” To this degree, nobody is immune. This is my series on anxiety. I had brought Britt Frank in as my expert and we talked through the message in her book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. This is part three in the series where I bring in a peer to discuss the topic, a...
Jul 19, 2023•1 hr 7 min
I’m back with neuropsychotherapist and trauma expert Britt Frank to hear what drives her. Britt is my expert for this series on anxiety, as much of the focus of her new book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia To Find Your Path Forward, is that anxiety is a good thing. It’s the body doing what it’s supposed to do. It’s us not understanding the dynamics of anxiety and the body’s natural responses that causes problems. Here more in the previous episode. This is part two with Britt wher...
Jul 17, 2023•58 min
We are a culture caught in a plague of anxiety. But my guest states nothing is wrong with anxiety, it’s simply our bodies responding appropriately to a threat. Anxiety is not a mental health problem, it’s simply a physical cue that allows us to know when we are out of alignment with external safety and/or internal truth. Britt Frank is a licensed neuropsychotherapist and trauma expert who is trained in IFS (Internal Family Systems) and SE (Somatic Experiencing). She is a speaker and an award-win...
Jul 14, 2023•1 hr 26 min
