In this episode I want sensitive people to hear how an HSP…highly sensitive person…curates their life to find more peace and wholeness. I was highly interested in this, as I’m new to understanding, I’m an HSP, and I’m working to reorient my life, with grace, to help me be more at peace, and from this, be more at peace with others and the world around me. I’m back with Andre Sólo, the force behind Sensitive Refuge, the world’s largest website for sensitive people, and the co-author of "Sensit...
May 22, 2023•1 hr 1 min
Adi Arezzini was 23 years old and as you’ll hear, bloated, constipated, and only going to the bathroom once per week. This is critical digestive illness. She started researching the colon and herbs and from it found healing agents in tea, from which she started a business, Teami Blends which is sold online and also across the country in stores like Target. But this isn’t an ad for Teami Blends and it is of course not a stand alone magic bullet. Adi made other significant lifestyle changes which ...
May 19, 2023•1 hr 1 min
My hope for you in this episode of the Self Helpful podcast, is for those of you nearing midlife, or already past it, to divest yourself of frustration you have from lacking strength in some areas of life you’ve relied on, and find great hope and inspiration and start shifting to a new strength. I’m wrapping up the series with Arthur Brooks and the message in his book, From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life. It was a gift to talk with A...
May 18, 2023•17 min
Here is my hope for this show…that a lot of you, especially those of you who like me, were unaware of your sensitivities, will find comfort and understanding in areas of your life you struggle. Introvert, extrovert, macho man, whatever you think you are. You’ll find some grace for yourself, and some equipping of how to better manage your life to find more peace and success. Sensitive does not mean fragile, or delicate. Sensitive means; quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals, o...
May 17, 2023•1 hr 27 min
We live in a world construct based on achievements. It’s what you do that matters. What you’ve done. And we miss the daily, primary engagement of simply…what we are doing. I recently hiked four, thirteen thousand foot peaks in one day with a group of guys. I honestly don’t remember much about the peaks themselves. We’d stop, look around, grab a drink or bite to eat and adjust our packs…then move on. What we remember is the mountain goat that came up to us along the way. The clouds boiling up...
May 15, 2023•1 hr 1 min
Without making a case that there is more negativity in our world today than ever, it’s simply more easily delivered to us through our constant devices. The media want our attention and if it bleeds it leads. Negativity gets more views. And on social media, I don’t know the exact stats, but I tend to see more sharing of and discussions around criticism and debate, than joy and peace. We can’t get rid of it either, all the negativity is impossible to avoid. Not long ago we went through a covid...
May 12, 2023•44 min
I’ve had three guests on this show recently who really have me grappling with the realities of what we as humans say and think we want, and what our behavior proves we want. What you’re about to hear may shock you and make you take a step back, as it did me. I usually give you the punchline of the episode right here in the beginning, but in this case I’m not going to…just hold tight a moment and I’ll unpack it. But you and I, right now, think we want to be happy, authentic, and healthy. But ...
May 11, 2023•19 min
How many times have you been asked, “So, what do you do?” Meaning, what work do you do. A primary way we establish hierarchy in our culture. But have you ever had anyone follow and ask why you do what you do? Have you asked yourself recently? And the answer must go deeper than just for the money. If there is no meaning for you in your work beyond money, then ask what that money is for? It’s supporting something you care about, even if it’s merely food and shelter. This was brought back to my att...
May 10, 2023•57 min
Many of you listening to this show are at or nearing the midpoint of life. The rest of you will be there before you know it. This show is geared to blow away a myth and massive problem we live within our culture. We churn and grind away to achieve and provide...and as we age we just try to buckle down and keep it going as long as we can, or as long as we feel we have to. This is a message to say..."Whoa! Stop! You've totally got it wrong! You don't want to keep doing what you've been doing. ...
May 08, 2023•1 hr 12 min
I staunchly believe perception is everything, and regarding our health and wellness and concerning the concept of exercise, there is a paradigm shift we can enact with ourselves that works wonders. The word exercise does not create positive feelings in most people. It sounds like a chore. The point is movement and we have to “exercise” because for most of us, our daily life does not require much of any utilization of our lungs and muscles and joints. But I want you to consider the term…athlete, ...
May 05, 2023•56 min
I’m wrapping up my series on Laura Tremaine, host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. Our focus is on friendships, but vastly elevating them from mere peripheral benefits, “if we have time.” A point I’m expounding on in this series is we don’t need friendships to survive. We need them to thrive. So if thriving is your goal, this is a vital topic. Normally on this part four episode, I briefly discuss lessons I’m learning or grappling ...
May 04, 2023•1 hr 13 min
Friends, when I first started writing my new book, What Drives You, I sat down with some influential people to get their stories. I wanted to know what took them from, wherever they started, to realize the significant achievements that landed them on my show. Dr Benjamin Hardy is a favorite guest of mine, he's a prolific writer of best-selling non-fiction in the self-help space because he's a great writer, of great research. His books, Willpower Doesn't Work and Personality Isn't Permanent a...
May 03, 2023•1 hr 8 min
There are two options for gaining the valuable relationships you want and need to have a rich, fulfilling existence. Before I tell you though, there is a foundational assumption that must be met regardless, and we actually didn’t address it in this episode, so I want to cover it here. You must have exposure. I find many people who lack friendships also don’t get much exposure to people, and especially new people. I won’t belabor this but I’ve found the absolute number one way to achieve this...
May 01, 2023•1 hr 13 min
When we look back on who we were five years ago, even more so 10 years ago, we recognize ourselves as very different people today. Yet today we think who we are is really…who we are. But in five years you’ll look back to yourself, right now, and realize how much you’ve changed. So think to what was normal for you five or ten years ago? What was normal, that you don’t do at all now? If you are growing and evolving, things will have changed. So…how about today? What is normal to you right now,...
Apr 28, 2023•59 min
Friends, many of you have listened to this podcast for many years. You’ve listened to me dig into the stories and messages of over 200 of our world’s most profound and important influencers in the self-help space. You listened as I hosted The Ziglar Show and went from 50,000 listeners to over 300,000, then as we transitioned to the Self-Helpful show and grew to over 600,000 listeners. We’ve had over 60 million downloads and are ranked in the top 1.5% of all podcasts on the planet. So first…t...
Apr 27, 2023•20 min
In my experience with myself, and with others, when we seek out another human we do so like a heat-seeking missile. We seldom, if ever…stop. And ask what we are wanting from the interaction. Often it’s merely transactional. Sometimes this is ok, in the workplace especially. But even then, whenever we want the best and most from someone we will serve them and ourselves well if we connect. And we can connect best with them when we again, pause for a moment, and connect with ourselves. How are we f...
Apr 26, 2023•1 hr 26 min
We all know relationships are ultimately what we desire most. This is where we get the most happiness and fulfillment. Yet we generally don’t make friendships a priority, and as you’re about to hear, there is a high chance you have been doing friendships…wrong. This episode is intended to give you a new perspective on how to look at friendships, and go about them, and get clear on what you are hoping to get from them. My guest is Laura Tremaine, host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and ...
Apr 24, 2023•1 hr 24 min
We all spend a lot of time listening to wise counsel. Getting guidance. Gleaning great information and trying to apply it to our lives. Sometimes however, what is most inspiring is simply to hear from others on the same journey we are. The good, the bad and the ugly. Which is ultimately, hopeful. I asked the Self-Helpful audience this question, “What area of your health do you feel good about and what area do you not?” What followed were many personal testimonies of strengths and weaknesses ...
Apr 21, 2023•1 hr 2 min
In our series on stoicism, I kept coming back to the aspect of control. Controlling our emotions. Controlling our reactions. Controlling our internal world so as to not be controlled by the outer world. It’s a valid perspective, but then I was reminded that I don’t actually want control any more than I want money. I just want what money can hopefully buy. Likewise, I just want what control can hopefully afford me. And the word that surfaced was…harmony. I often find myself saying I want ...
Apr 20, 2023•18 min
What’s the difference between a hero and a villain? Virtue. Which is defined as, “Behavior showing high moral standards.” Having a purpose for good as opposed to evil, or even just others as opposed to self alone. We love the character who is resolute upon doing the right thing and seeing it through no matter what. We spend billions of dollars on superhero stories that depict this. People didn’t tear up at the end of The Avengers: Endgame when Ironman dies just because a battle is won. It’s ...
Apr 19, 2023•1 hr 4 min
Each of us is waking up every day and engaging in a “way of life.” It’s either one we’ve chosen, or one we’ve allowed ourselves to fall into. Though in truth, none of us ever lives a perfect day, so we are all then on the spectrum of living how we intentionally want and living at the mercy of our appetites and ignorance. The more aware, decided, and convicted we are to a way of life we uphold and are dedicated to, the more we will fall on the healthier side of the spectrum. As Tanner Campbel...
Apr 17, 2023•59 min
Ah. The vacation. Or a holiday, depending on where you’re from. It’s supposed to be a term that makes us all smile and feel warm, nostalgic, and hopeful. However, many of you will feel a bit, or a lot, of anxiety at hearing the term. And rightly so. Vacation has been part of life for a long time to give us a rest from the toil of everyday life. Even if you love your work it is beneficial to get away to rest and recreate. But a listener wrote in recently asking for ideas, as he recently got b...
Apr 14, 2023•58 min
There are many personality profiles you can use. Knowing your type does not by proxy…help you. You need to know how to utilize it. This is part 4 of our series on Ian Morgan Cron and his insight and guidance into the Enneagram personality assessment. In this episode, I’m going to cover 7 aspects of our discussion that have really stuck out to me and seem to be resonating with other listeners. I want to quote something I read this morning by dandapani in his book, “The Power Of Unwavering Focus”,...
Apr 13, 2023•20 min
What is reality? Is there a reality? We would say a tree falling on your house, or inheriting twenty million dollars are objective realities. They actually did happen. Those would be facts. But it’s our perception and interpretation of them that matter. That becomes our reality. Are those events good or bad? Why did they happen? Stoicism is interested in our impression and assent, which I paraphrase to say our interpretation and ensuing belief. Then Stoicism would ask what our role and respo...
Apr 12, 2023•1 hr 28 min
𝗗𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗬𝗲𝘁 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗹𝘆 𝗙𝗹𝘂𝗶𝗱 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗦𝘁𝘆𝗹𝗲 | 𝗜𝗮𝗻 𝗖𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝟯 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗝𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗔𝗻𝗴𝗮𝘇𝗮 We all want to know who and what we are. We want to understand ourselves so we can understand this world we live in. Our tendency is to label ourselves as this personality style or that personality style, just as we seek out genetic testing to know where we came from. We want clarity. We’ve been talking about the Enneagram a...
Apr 10, 2023•1 hr 17 min
We want our sleep to be like plugging our phone in overnight. You plug it in when the battery is low and wake to find it fully charged, energy-filled and ready for a quality day. Don’t you want to be the same? Go to bed and wake up fully charged? But is that happening for you? Do you ever sleep through the night only to wake unrested and not...fully charged? There is a lot of content out about sleep, but I hear most of it focused on actually getting to sleep, staying asleep, and getting ...
Apr 07, 2023•1 hr 18 min
As this Self-Helpful podcast grows and as I continually read, review and critique the latest and greatest knowledge being shared about self-help, I’m frequently exposed to misconceptions around what self-help is, and isn’t. I admit my own constructive criticism of the category, yet and surprised by often incredibly wise people who sometimes give unconstructive criticism to the concept of self-help. I find myself wanting to ask them, if self-help is not the foundation of our personal evolutio...
Apr 06, 2023•14 min
Today, very few if any of us will have one job. One thing we do from young adulthood till the end of our lives. Which is fine. The marketplace today is full of opportunity to try our hand at many different endeavors. While we can do many different things to earn a buck, long-term vocational fulfillment will come from working in roles and doing tasks that fit our skills, and more so, our values. When we are self-aware and know our values we not only can find work and pursuits that fit and...
Apr 05, 2023•1 hr 4 min
We were all kids living in a life we didn’t choose, for better or worse. To make sense of it, our minds crafted a story. It’s impossible for it to be a perfectly reasonable story. It has flaws and fractures in it that are hurting our progress, achievement, peace, and fulfillment today, to some degree. How do you become aware and course correct? Whether you’ve heard of the Enneagram or not, this is going to be a new perspective. At face value, it’s a personality profile, but we’re going to take y...
Apr 03, 2023•1 hr 21 min
Low energy is an ongoing national pandemic. Not many years ago coffee was a little pick me up for the mornings that people enjoyed. Now there isn’t a checkout counter in America that doesn’t offer some type of energy drink. The “energy drink” industry that didn’t exist in the recent past was estimated at $86.35 billion in 2021, $91.94 billion in 2022 and is forecasted at $177.5 billion in 2030. Billions off our increased lack of energy. What is happening to us? Our voracious appetite for any res...
Mar 31, 2023•59 min
