SAFE ENOUGH

love. Don't get me wrong, you might be able to see my face is a little red. I just got out of the shower because I went for a little three mile walk outside. I wanted, I love the heat, love the heat, but I also want to be smart. So anyways, here we are, and we're back. We're going to talk about, we're going to talk

about this concept of safe enough. Now, this is something that I kind of created for myself, for my own brain, for my own ability to, like, calm the hook down, which we're going to talk about a little bit okay, like, what I mean by all of this. So the number one, you've heard me say this before on other episodes, the number

one question that our nervous systems are always asking. Okay, so when I talk about nervous system, I'm particularly talking about, like, the autonomic nervous system, which is like the sympathetic nervous system, which we'll talk about a little

bit in the parasympathetic nervous system. I'm going to keep this really, like pretty much basic, so that you can just get a a taste, like a sip, sip, as Linda Ty says, of what I'm talking about, I don't need to make it super intricate for you to understand the essence of what what's on my hat in my mind today, and hopefully it'll be helpful and valuable to you too. Number one question our nervous system is asking is, Am I safe?

Am I safe? Am I safe? Okay? So when we are picking up cues from the world around us, and this started when we were wicked young, that's the thing with little kids and babies like little toddlers, little kids were, we were always kind of looking up at the adults around us, at the people around us, at the environment, and trying to understand, like, is it safe?

Here are these people safe, right? And this has a lot to do with how we end up creating relationships and attaching and all these other things, like attaching to our moms, attaching to our fathers, like in healthy and good ways. But we can also end up having like these dysregulated attachment styles too, that they call although, for me, I just think that we were in the situations that we were in, and we probably, as

children, did the best we could with what we had. So I don't really like to label ourselves too much, but the nervous system is either going to go into sympathetic response, which is like that fight and flight, that like, oh shit, something's wrong, right? We take a look at our environment or the people in it, or whatever, and we go into like, Oh my god. How do I want to respond to the information that is coming in that I'm perceiving and receiving, right? Do I want to go into fight or

flight or freeze or what we sometimes call fawn? Now, if you're if the threat level feels like this is to me, is just common sense, right? If the threat level feels like, okay, I can probably overcome this person, this situation, this place, we might take a fight like, we might choose fight. We're like, Okay, we're gonna fight back if we can't, if we're like, oh my god, saber tooth tiger. This thing is gonna kill me. It's bigger than me. It can harm me or hurt me, this person,

etc, this situation. Then we might flight. We might run, take off, right? Choose not to, like, put down the Dukes and just rut Hall ass, basically, right? If you can't do either of those, sometimes we go into what's called the Free State, where you literally just kind of shut down and kind of play a possum, you know what I mean, where you're just like, can't move. And there's more fancy words for these states, okay, but I just

want to keep it pretty simple. And fawning is when you kind of just like, I say, you try to befriend the thing that is that is perceived as a threat. Like, please don't hurt me. I'll be whatever you want me to be, like, whatever. Okay, so we have these different responses, and sometimes we call these also trauma responses. Okay, that's sympathetic. That's the fight and flight. Then we also have parasympathetic, and parasympathetic is what we call the rest and digest state like

this is when we go into the relaxation response. This is the response we can experience when we actually are feeling safety, when we're not feeling threatened, when we're not scared out of our minds, when we're not anxious or worried or stressed or overwhelmed. And this is what a lot of the tools right that are out there that people use, like everybody, from yoga teaches to therapists to somatic body workers to

whatever, right. Use. They use different tools that help us to return to kind of a more sympath parasympathetic state, okay, and that's what we want. What happens sometimes, though these days, is, I hear a lot of people saying, well, I want to regulate

my nervous system. We need to regulate our nervous system because we have become dysregulated because of chronic stress and social media and our phones and technology and AI in the state of the world, in the government, in the wars and all all the hatred and violence and whatever, people's nervous systems are, like, jacked up beyond belief a lot of the time. And so there's a lot of talk about like, oh, I need to be regulated. I need to be regulated. I need to return to

safety. I need to return to safety. Now I am also a teacher of some of these things, like some of the tools and stuff that we can use to help ourselves become more regulated. But I'm also a kid that grew up with, like, a lot of fear. I was also

a young adult and an adult that has a lot of fear. I've talked about this on different episodes where I think one of the reasons why, you know, I do the work that I do, is I was trying to gather as many different tools as I could to try and help myself mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, to bring myself back into a state or a sense of safety and calm. But here's the reality now, I'm not saying I'm right. I'm not

saying hashtag. I always say hashtag, not a therapist. I'm not saying other therapists and other people will agree with this, but this is just what has worked for me, and that's what I share on this podcast. I'm always trying to let you guys know that while nobody can actually pick up the tools and use them for you, nobody can solve your problems for you. Nobody can like, quote, unquote, do the work for you. But you

absolutely do not have to do it alone. So I love to share things that have worked for me, tools that have worked for me, books, resources, whatever, that have worked for me, so that as you're trying to also navigate this whole being human experience, you don't feel like, oh my god, I'm all on my on my own, and I have to figure it all out. You're not alone. You are loved, right? You're not going crazy, right? This stuff is hard. This

being human on the planet right now is hard. And then try to imagine doing it as not a white person, as somebody who maybe is in a group or a community, right? Whether you're black or LGBTQIA or brown skinned or, quote, unquote, right, what the world would say is marginalized or different or whatever. Again, I don't like to put a ton of labels on people, but we certainly know that not all of us are starting at the same

starting line. Do you know what I mean? So on top of just like being human is hard, then we have, you know, economic disparity. We have socio you know, we just have all the things that just make it this, systems of racism, etc, etc, that make everything so much harder for certain groups of people. So one of the things that I can say is that has been even more difficult, right? Meaning, more difficult as just as a human is being female in this world, being a quote,

unquote girl or a woman in this world. Because here's the thing, while my nervous system keeps asking me, am I safe? Am I safe? Am I safe? I cannot bullshit myself, right? Like I know too much, I've seen too much, and where I have landed is this, this world, this 3d world, meaning the world that we've created, although we would call it small, our reality. It's not capital, our reality, right? Here in the dream, A Course in

Miracles might call it here in the illusion, right? Yoga might call it the Maya, the illusion, this idea of, you know, we're all individual, separate beings walking around on the planet, right? Being, being a woman in this world, you do not, almost ever feel safe. Now, if you're a dude listening to this, and you're like, What do you mean? What are you talking about? Go and talk to some of the women, the girls that you know right,

the young women, the grown ass adults that you know. And they will tell you non stop stories of like not feeling safe enough to walk to their car at night, how they use their keys as weapons in their hands, how we're always aware of how we're dressed. What we're doing is my drink gonna get roofied like Da, da, da, da da, to try and move through the world, right? And again, this extends beyond. I'm just using woman, because that's

something I can talk about in my own experience. I can't talk about other groups of people's experiences directly, although I can certainly listen and try to understand and empathize and imagine how fucking hot it is. Do you know what I mean to be, to be, you know, to be in this world as well. And so we have this conundrum, don't we? Because the nervous system is asking for

safety. And I've like again as a kid of a murdered mother, like when you know that something that brutal, that tragic, that violent, that somebody can beat another person to death, is a reality when you experience it yourself, when you see the violence in the world, the way people talk to each other and treat each other the way we treat animals, when you just look at it overall, right? There's no part of my nervous

system that is sitting there hunky dory feeling safe. And I realized, like, oh, and I was just talking about this on a podcast that I was recently on. I was on a podcast called it has to be me, and the woman who tests masses is fantastic, and it's her, it's her podcast, and I talk about it a little bit on that as well. What has occurred to me is that this idea of ideal, quote, unquote, safety that I'm hoping to feel here in the human experience for me, I've just accepted it's probably

never going to come because I've just again. I've seen too much, I've heard too much, I've experienced too much. I have evidence of too much, right, cruelty and brutality and

violence and hatred and like all these different things. So my goal, my goal for me, has been to gather as many tools as I can to feel safe enough to feel safe enough to be able to do what I came here to do, to be able to follow my individual curriculum, to be able to answer the call of my divine assignment, to show up in the world as a creative to speak and use my voice to be a teacher, right? To have a podcast, to go out and lead groups like, to to help other people as a spiritual mentor, as

a coach, etcetera. Because if I just listened to the fear that my ego and my anxiety like, produces all the time, right? Practically shouts all the time. I would become completely paralyzed. I would probably become housebound. I would probably be like, terrified out of my mind most of the time. And I'm like, I can't live this way. I have to figure out a way to experience as much as much physical and psychological

safety as possible. I want to be able to move through the world without feeling a constant perceived threat that is so overwhelming that it keeps me from taking action. And when you recognize, oh, the world isn't safe, and your your your history, your patterns, your the way your subconscious works, right? A lot of us, kids who were had trauma, a lot of trauma, we become hyper vigilant, right? Like I'm hyper

aware of noises, lights, flashes of lights. I'm hyper aware of people's body language, their energy, what they're doing with their face. Right when you grow up in an environment like I did, you are constantly seeking not only verbal but body language cues and sometimes even just sounds that alert me to whether or not what's about to go down is going to be something pleasant or unpleasant, you know what I'm saying. So I'm always picking up either cues of safety or picking up danger signs. I

know I'm not alone in this. So like double A men hands, if you can relate to what I'm saying. But one of the things that I see is I feel like sometimes we're being sold this bill of goods, where it's like, just do these 10 Steps, use these five tools, and you will become regulated. You will have a regulated nervous system. And I'm like, maybe you pal, maybe you pal.

But that's not my experience. My experience has not been that I just exist in this, this little like floaty place of like, Oh, now we're just

involved, a pony and a little miniature donkey. And I was listening to all the horse people, and they were saying that, you know, horses out in the wild. And this was a some something somebody said to me, I'm not quoting it as a truth, but this is what somebody said to me, that horses out in the wild will, wild will often walk for like, 18 hours at a time. They will not bed down, they will not lay down and rest unless they feel safe. And I started to think about this, and

I'm like, Yeah, that sounds like people too. I know people who go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, move, move, move, move. Everything's fast. Everything's quick. Don't stop, because if I stop, I'm going to have to feel some things. And what I'm going to feel is I'm not going to going to feel that I am not safe. You know what I mean? So rather than me just trying to feel regulated all the time, I discovered that number one, I

don't have to feel 100% safe all the time. I just need to feel safe enough, and I'm not waiting for this perfect like little island of regulation in my nervous system. I would rather teach my nervous system over time, and this is what it's been. It's been a journey for me. I've been collecting and gathering tools for a really long time, tools that I now obviously share with my one to one clients, people in the nest and I oftentimes, you know, try to drop little breadcrumbs here

and there too. Also on the podcast, some things are just better taught in person. Do you know what I mean? Some some things that I do like Thai Yoga, bodywork, Thai Yoga, massage, yoga, certain things like that. I just prefer to do them in person. So, but here are these other hours, right? You know, I love alliteration, so I was thinking to myself, Okay, rather

than being reactive all the time. So if I'm in a state of not feeling enough safety, I will certainly be reactive, and I will be looking and feel looking for and feeling triggered, probably a lot of the time when I move out of regulation and I'm in dysregulation, right? And I don't feel cues of safety, I don't feel like, okay, I can put down my Dukes here. I can't be safe and vulnerable and open for

business, right? If I'm in that state, I'm certainly almost going to be more hypersensitive to being quote, unquote triggered or having my buttons pushed or being on edge or being anxious or worrisome or stressed or overwhelmed, right? So I don't want to be in a place where I feel constantly reactive to the world around me, and I also don't want to be in a place

where I am very rigid, right? So for me, what I found is that when in my younger years, I would tend to always, quote, unquote, react in particular ways, I wasn't able to respond yet from a place of love, I was always almost reacting out of a place of fear. And I would become rigid in my responses, meaning, like anything new, like no, I was deeply patterned in

the way that I re was reacting to the world. And I don't want to move through the world in a very reactive and rigid way, like so much of like, you know, when I when I think about my yoga practice and being a yoga teacher, you know, for I don't know, like, 25 years or whatever, I wanted more flexibility, But I didn't just want more flexibility in my body, in my muscles, in my fascia, right? Like I wanted more mental flexibility. I wanted more

emotional flexibility. I didn't want to be a person who always just reacted to things in the same way, right? I wanted to be able to choose who and how I was going to be. I wanted to be able to have authorship and agency and autonomy right over the kind of person I was going to be, what was going to come out of my mouth, the choices I was going to make. Because a lot of times when we're in fight or flight, in that sympathetic, sympathetic state, when we're being reactive, we're not coming from

our highest capital S self. We're coming from one of those parts of ourselves as trying to protect ourselves. And I always say, like, it's like, the front of my brain goes offline and all good decision making goes like, out the door, you know what I mean. And like, I'm like, I don't want to live that way I

did those years, like I did that time. You know what I mean. So now, rather than just waiting for like, quote, unquote, perfect safety, I have trying to create an experience within my own psyche, my psychological and physical experience where I am safe enough that I can feel. More regulated, that I can feel

more responsive like I can respond to the world. I can choose how I want to respond to what I'm seeing, hearing, feeling, thinking, imagining is a lot of times what we're reacting to is our fear of what we think is going to happen, what I think they're going to say what I think this person or this situation is going to do, right? So I want to be able to be more responsive. I want to be able to be more resourced. You know, when we're little kids, we don't have a lot of tools, so we

just do our damn best to survive. And a lot of the things that we do, those survival strategies that we picked up as kids, walking on eggshells, fawning, making ourselves small, trying to be the good kid, trying to be the one that doesn't need anything, whatever. There's 1000 ways right that we can like react to our circumstances as children when we feel out of control, but I wanted to be able to feel more

responsive, more resourced, like I had some tools. I had a bunch of different tools in what I call my spiritual toolkit that I could choose to pick up and use on any given day, depending on what I needed that day. I want to also just not feel, quote, unquote, regulated. I want to be able to be resilient. I want to have a resilient nervous system that can have big fluctuations, but also knows how to return to feelings of safety and calm. So

I'm not always just looking to feel regulated. I'm like no, because the world doesn't work like that. You know, I know me personally. I can't speak for you, but me personally, I'm probably not going to walk around in this totally regulated ventral state all the time. You know what I mean? It's like, I am going to have spikes of energy where my hat starts to thump and, you know, I become aware that it's a little harder for me to swallow, and I'm like, a little more hypersensitive to

my environment. And then it's like, okay, what do I need right now? And that's when I go looking for the tools. Because if I can experience physical and psychological safety, then I will feel more connected to myself, my true capital, s self, and just myself like like my body, me also. I'm not my body. But you know what I'm saying, I will feel more connected to others that I am in relationship to, and I will feel more

connected to the world around me. And if I am never feeling safe, if I'm always running scared, if I'm always in a state of overwhelming anxiety, and I can never get regulated. That's that's not soothing. So not soothing. Don't want to live like that. But I'm not actually expecting the world to be a particular way so that then I can feel safe. And that's why, like, for a long time, I used to say things like, Oh, I'm trying to create a safe space for you, this is a safe space. And I

realized, like, one day I'm like, I can't say that. Like, it's not for me to determine what feels safe for somebody else. All I can do is to do my best to create an environment and an experience of safety. But I don't know everybody's subconscious triggers. I don't know everybody's backstory and their history and what they've been through, so all I can do is do my best, and are there going to be times when I might blow it or screw up or whatever? Yeah, because a I'm human and again, I

don't know everybody's, you know, biography. I don't know everybody's history and what they've been through, and what the things are that trigger them or upset them, a particular tone of voice, a smell, it could even be a color, like whatever it is, right? A tone of voice at certain energy level. You know, people can get quote, unquote, triggered by like, 1000 little things. So all I can do is try to do my best. Okay, so again,

what I want to experience in my own body is safe enough. I want to be able to drop into parasympathetic when I find myself going into sympathetic, that fight and flight and freeze and fawn because it's guaranteed that it's going to happen. This is not a safe world. I don't even like saying that out loud, but it's the truth. It's not a safe world. It's not a safe world for the animals. It's not a safe world for a lot of

different people. And if you are lucky enough to move through the world where you never feel scared or threatened, or like you have no power or you have no voice or you have no authority, then I hate to say it, but you're probably some old white guy not to pick on the old white guys, just saying, You know what I mean. But the rest of us, we sometimes tend to feel like we gotta have eyes in the. Back of our head. You know what I'm saying. So here's the thing that I have found to be a little bit

helpful. Okay, here are some things. They're not all tools. But number one, I gotta know my own triggers. I have to be aware of the kinds of places, the kinds of people, the kinds of environments where maybe I'm going to get a little antsy, I'm going to get a little suspicious, I'm going to get a little on edge, I'm going to get a little like I need to know thyself. And this is so much of the work that I do with people. We got to know why we do what we do, think, what we think,

believe, what we believe, say what we say, do what we do. As I said, we have to know ourselves. We have to be curious enough as about our own patterns, our own habits, our own stories, our own beliefs, our own identity, how we're showing up in the world, why we're showing up that way, and if we don't like the experience, what maybe can we do to tweak it, to adjust it, to transform it, to change it, to develop it, to have personal growth, self development, right? This is the work that I do with

people. So we gotta know our triggers, and it's not like, oh, avoid them. My hope is that I can experience them and know how to come back to safety more quickly, that I can get a little dysregulated by something, and then go, oh. I know how to be responsive. I know how to do that breath, where I breathe in through my nose fully and deeply and then exhale out through my mouth twice as long with a little bit of sound. I wear a

watch. I don't have it on right now. I took it off to take a shower, but if I have on my Apple watch, I can just hit that little hat icon and it will show me what my heart rate is. The other day, my heart rate was up around like 74 Okay, I just sat and did the breath that I just described to you, inhale through your nose, fully and deeply, exhale out twice as long, through the mouth with a little bit of sound. This helps to down regulate the nervous system, move us from sympathetic to

parasympathetic into the relaxation response. And I literally watched my heart rate drop down within a minute, like six beats per minute. It went down from like 76 or whatever it was, to 70 and then I got it down to like 64 just from breathing. That's one simple tool that pretty much everybody can do. Okay, so I want to know my triggers, the other ways, the other incredible. And I wouldn't even call it a tool so much as I

don't even know what to call it, but let's call it a tool. Is building relationships with people that you feel like you can be yourself with people that see you, I would say your balcony people, right? The people who love you. And this might be one other person, if you're lucky, it's two or three or four, where you have your people for some of you, that might be your family. For some of you, your family is the place where you do not feel safe at all. Right? For some of you,

it'll be your sweetie or your partner or your best friend. For some of you, maybe it's a sibling, I don't know, but for whoever it is, it's like building relationships with beautiful people who see you, who try to understand you, who get you, who celebrate you, who support you, who say, come here, right? Let me give you a hug. I'm listening. You don't have to do this on your own. Sometimes we have to hire those people, coaches and mentors and whatever. And there's no shame

in that. And there's nothing wrong with that, because sometimes the environments that we find ourselves in, they are not supportive. They are not supportive. And you need to have somebody who can be in your corner, like Rocky to like, I always say in the Rocky movie, Mick, mix in his corner like, you know what I mean? He's like, cheering him on. He's pointing out some ways to help him grow and develop and become better,

right? The other thing is so one, knowing your triggers, knowing what might upset you, and then gathering some tools to be able to when you do get triggered or dysregulated, to bring you back to psychological and physical safety, to relationships and people. And then another thing is that body

awareness, right? Body awareness techniques are incredibly helpful, whether that's somatics, whether that's yoga, whether that's breath work, pranayama, breathing, whether that's EFT, tapping, Emotional Freedom Technique, right? Whether that's bilateral stimulation, whether that's like, you know, peripheral vision and going out, whether it's hypnosis. I mean, there's a shit ton of tools out there to help us learn, but I want to say this to me, and again, I might

be wrong. I don't want to just blame like my I don't want to ever have to blame my behavior. Behavior on my trauma and say, Well, I'm just reactive, because it might be true, but I want to be able to be aware enough that I am noticing that I'm being reactive, and then I can choose to respond instead. I don't want to be stuck in rigidity, in my patterns, and my habits and my ways of being that are causing my own suffering or inflicting

myself on other people. I can't tell you how many times I heard growing up, that's just the way he is, that's just the way she is, that's just the way that they are, like everybody else had to fucking suffer because this person had no emotional intelligence. This person never bothered to take a look in the soul mirror. This person never bothered to pick up a book and read it. The person never went to therapy. They never got a

coach. They never fucking took two seconds to look at themselves and realize that their way of being was bullying and traumatizing and awful for other people to have to be around double A men hands, if you know what I'm talking about, right? So part of how I also try to experience safety is creating more safety in the world for animals and for other humans to

to find their way home. To Do you know what I mean, we can try to be a safe place for other people to show up in curiosity instead of judgment, to listen, maybe more than we talk, which I know it's funny right now. Me saying that because I'm talking, talking, talking, but it's a podcast, right? But to be able to quote, unquote, hold space for people when they're going through a thing and to just be there, you might not always need to know the quote, unquote right thing to say that, can I hold

the space? Can I be there? Can I be a container for somebody else? So I hope that this is landing for you in some way, that this resonates for you in some way, that this concept of being safe enough that we're not waiting to feel perfect safety before we go after our dream, before we say yes to being on the podcast, before we say yes to starting to write the book or join the club or start the project or start a business, or

say yes and go on the date. You know, I had a friend the other day write to me out of the blue, and they just said, I'm going on a first date. They're like, Karen, Karen, I'm going on a first date, Karen. I don't like first dates, right? I just started laughing, and I wrote back, and I was just, you know, trying to be a safe space for them and say some things and make them laugh and loosen up and try to enjoy the experience, because you never know that date could lead to falling in love.

And how exciting is that, right? But the ego mind gets involved, and it goes into like a time travels into the future and it starts to worry and get nervous, or it time travels into the past and it goes into shame and blame and guilt and weirdness, and I blew it that last time, and it's not going to work out. And I'm like, dude, like, let's be in the present moment. Like, let's just experience this. You know, this is kind of exciting. Tell

me more. You know, it was pretty cool. So we're not always going to experience perfect safety, but if we can use some tools, if we can find our people, if we can become aware of our own triggers, our own anxieties, our own fears, and use right use these things. And if you're like, I don't know how to do this. KK, please, for the love of of all things holy, join the nest. It's 50 bucks a month. I can probably help right. Sign up if you hate it. You leave after one month, right. Find out more

about working with me one to one in the quest. You know, I love helping people navigate this whole being human experience using, you know, spiritual principles, spiritual practices and subconscious reprogramming and hypnosis and neuroscience and practical tools to interrupt our patterns when we're getting reactive, you know, oh, my God. So the goal for me now, and maybe it is for you too, is to feel safe enough so that we can do what we came here to do, so we can be who we are meant to

be, who the divine and you know, just you, maybe you don't believe in anything greater, right? Maybe you're just like, I just want to be my best self. Perfect, great. Run with it. But it's hard to be our best self when we are getting hijacked all the time by fear, right? We want to learn how to operate from a place of love. And here's just the facts. Sometimes, right, we are not going to feel safe, and sometimes we have to do it a little bit scared. I do, if you knew how many things I did

scared, right? I think a lot of people perceive me as like, you know, I am tough, okay, right? Like, and I don't mean like, Oh, I'm tough. Like, I'm gonna beat you up. I am wicked resilient. I am pretty tough. I am strong and right. And I have a lot of patterns and habits in my nervous system of being scared,

and those things rear up. They they present themselves, but now I have enough tools to be able to help myself to come back to a state where maybe I'm not feeling 100% safety, but I feel safe enough to take the leap of faith to know that my spiritual team comes with me. My ancestors come with me, my mom comes with me. God, Holy Spirit, my inner teacher, because so much of safety for me is learning how to trust myself. I can't always trust other people. I can't always trust the rest of the

world, but I can trust myself. I can trust the inner voice, the inner teacher. I can trust God and source in the Divine, or whatever you happen to call it, the universe. I can trust a handful of people around me who I know have my back, who love me, who cheerlead me, who champion me, and who want the best for me. And if you can gather these people, these things, these tools, keep listening to the podcast, maybe join the NASA. However, it is, read some good books, look up

some of the tools that I mentioned, right? And you too, because this is the goal for me, is to feel safe enough. And I've I've made my peace with that. I've made my peace that, like this is the body and the nervous system that I have, and as long as I'm alive, right, I will be trying to help myself and reparent myself and be kind to myself and compassionate. And there's going to be times when we just have to feel safe enough and maybe do it a little bit scared. But you don't have to do

it alone. I'm here hopefully you have some people around you who also love you and support you. Okay, I gotta go. I gotta go teach a yoga class. But I hope this has been helpful in some way and valuable. And if you listen to this and you thought, Oh, my God, this is great, or whatever, this was valuable. This was helpful. Please share it with somebody. Send it to a cousin, a girlfriend, a best friend and a sister, whoever

your auntie. Send it to somebody you love. Okay, wherever you go, may you leave the animals in the other humans and yourself in the environment and the planet better than how you first found it wherever you go, may you and your energy and your presence and your love and your safe enoughness be a blessing. Bye, you.