ASKING FOR HELP

I'm holding up this book. It's called meditations, by Marcus Aurelius, and this is the translation by Gregory Hayes, this is such a fantastic book. So some of you may know this about me, that I am a writer. I am a storyteller. I am a lover of books and words and reading and books have absolutely like changed my life. And you know, back in the day, way back in the day. And I was just talking about this with my friend Tess

masters. Tess masters also known as the blender girl. Some of you might know her as the blender girl, but Tess has a podcast. It's fantastic. It's called, it has to be me, and I'm actually going to be on her podcast. It's coming out, actually, on the same day as this episode. So Thursday, I think June 19, 2025, I think that's when it's coming out. So she and I were just like talking, I'm gonna, I'm gonna make a point about, first of

all, the name of this episode, right, asking for help. But she and I were kind of talking about how, back in the day before, there were like, all these coaches and all these, like certified mentors and like all these people that you could hire like when you needed support, like back in the day, so much of how I helped myself transform, make changes, do stuff is I read books like I found so much wisdom, and so many of my mentors were like, first and foremost in written form, in

like, the Self Help section of like, you know, the the crown bookstore in California, or borders here, you know, in conk and whatever. So back in the day, like I said before, there are people like me now who are, like, certified spiritual mentors, certified coaches, all these things you had to, you had to help yourself, right, like the self there was a reason why it was called the Self Help section. And if you wanted to

make change and stuff, you had to, like, go do the work. Just to do the work, meaning, like, you had to get your ass to the bookstore to buy the thing. You had to order the cassettes, or you had to go to a lecture to meet somebody in person. There was no internet. There was no like, dialing it up and like hiring people online or whatever. So back in the day, like we really had to do it, and a lot of it came through books.

And this book, Marcus Aurelius meditations, was, like such a powerful and potent it still is. That's why I'm like, I reread it all the time. I picked this sucker up all the time and thumb through it. And I was reading it this morning, and I was like, Oh my God, I want to make sure that I talked about this. And then I went back, and I tried to check through my episodes, and I'm like, How have I never done an episode called asking for help?

I, for sure, have talked about, you know, talked about asking for help, or getting help in, like, certain situations. I think I had an episode called, How can I help, or whatever, but I don't think I've ever approached it in quite this way. But let me read to you what this this passage in meditations, Marcus Aurelius. Now this book, this book, the translation by Gregory Hayes. It's like bitten, bitten. No, it's not been, it's broken, broken down into like 12 different books. That's what

they're calling them, like 12 little books. And in book seven, so it's like 7.7 so Book Seven, entry seven, 7.7 I just read this today. I highlighted it here, and I thought it was so fantastic. And I want to share with you, because I think it's wicked helpful, especially for us, some of us New England kids. And it's actually, it's actually fitting that I'm wearing my navy mass hole, my navy mass hole t shirt today, because for us little mass holes, this is a really wicked helpful reminder.

It says, Don't be ashamed to need help. Like a soldier storming a wall, you have a mission to accomplish, and if you've been wounded and you need a comrade to pull you up, so what? So what? Don't be ashamed to need help. And I thought this was so fantastic when I first read it, and it stopped me in my tracks, because I was a kid who, because of my upbringing, and I guarantee you somebody else there, if not, many of you out

there are going to be able to relate to this. So one of the things that happens a lot with like traumatized kids, not all of. Like everybody kind of responds to the events of their life differently, but a lot of us became like hyper independent. Some of us became hyper independent because we were number one, highly unsupervised, highly, highly unsupervised as children. Oh, my God. I always, I always jokingly say, I write about this in my memoir, and I say, you know, we

weren't just highly unsupervised. We were like, fucking feral. We were like, feral, you know. So you had a bunch of, like, first of all, you had a bunch of young parents. I always call it like babies raising babies. That was kind of how it was. And a lot of times those quote, unquote babies, which were the adults, the parents, the Guardians, whatever, the people who are supposed to be taking care of us. You know, they were like working. We were like blue

collar kids. They were either, like, working two jobs, three jobs, hustling on the side, or just off doing shit like, I mean, you know, I generation, they had to, like, do a commercial, like a public service a PSA, a public service announcement. You guys remember that sucker? And it was different celebrities, and they like Grace Jones and Andy Warhol and like, I'm trying to think there were a bunch of them. And they'd like, stare into the camera, and they'd be like, it's

10pm Do you know where you I can't even get through it. It's so funny to me. It's 10pm Do you know where your children are? Here's the answer, no, most of them did not know where we were again because we were in feral we were just like running around. Okay, but the reason why I'm telling you all this is a lot of times we did not have good guidance. A lot of times we didn't always have people who were, like, teaching us or helping us or showing us. So we had to figure out a lot of stuff

on our own. And because of that, we tended to become really like, like, talk about self help. We had to help ourselves quite a bit. We became vigilant, like, almost like, hyper, hyper independent. And in some ways, that can be a really powerful and beautiful thing, because we, like, we That's the original fafo, right? F, A, F, O, fuck around. Find out. We had to a lot of times. Find out the hard way, because nobody was telling us, like, Hey, you might not want to play on the train

tracks. Like, hey, you might want to, might not want to drive over there and, like, buy drugs off that person you don't know. Like, hey, you might not want to, like, go do this thing. You know what I mean. So a lot of times we had to find out the hard way. But which can be valuable, right? Like, being really independent is a powerful thing. It is also when it leans too far, goes too far, it's like a trauma response, and you start to feel like that you cannot ask for help. Number one, because

there's nobody there to actually help you. Number two, you don't want to when you get rewarded, that's another thing that happens is when you don't ask for a lot of help a lot of times, especially if you're in a family where there's already one sibling or one child who is challenged or sick or struggling or whatever's going on with them, and your parents might not have a lot in the tank left over, like for you or for your siblings or anybody else, right? So whatever, there's different

circumstances. It could be. You could have grown up in an alcoholic household, or a drug, you know, drug use, whatever. There's 1000 ways where families, right, or parents or guardians, whoever you grew up with, you're in foster care, whatever. There just weren't people available to, like, walk

you through some of the harder parts of things. And another thing that also happens in a lot of families, and especially, I know, for like, a lot of blue collar kids and kids I grew up with, you know, you would often feel shame for needing help, yeah, for if you you felt like you couldn't ask for help, and to ask for help made you look weak, made you sound weak. Now, it's one thing if you're asking for help, sometimes for physical

things, like, like, Hey, I gotta move. And there's like, I only gotta, you know, I only got my little car, and I need help, like, those kinds of things. It's not necessarily that, although I have known people who would just go rent a U haul and like, you know, rather just like, and just try to do it all themselves, rather than ask for help, because a lot of times, you know that stigma of needing help, especially, especially

emotionally and mentally. You know, it was okay to to ask people to help you, like, move a table, move a couch, like, do something like that, right? Because when things would be, quote, unquote, physically impossible, but to ask for help because you were struggling emotionally, to ask for help because you were struggling, you know, mentally, a lot of times

it was seen as a weakness. And what I love about this little passage, again, you know, in in meditations is it's just saying, Don't be ashamed to need help like a soldier storming a wall. You have a mission to accomplish, and if you've been wounded and you need a comrade to pull you up, so what? And I really. Relate this, like, if you've been wounded, like, yeah,

maybe some shit went down in your childhood. Maybe some stuff happened to you as a young person, or as a young teenager, or young, you know, human being, where you weren't given everything that you needed. And that could literally be like the clothes on your back, food in your in your body. It could have

been the protection that you needed. It could have been the education that you needed, the support that you needed, you know, there's a lot of ways that kids fell through cracks, you know, and still, still to this day, I'm not just saying, like, Oh, back then, that's how I can, you know, I always say, I tend to talk about my own experiences, because that's what I tend to be an expert on. Like, that's what I tend to, like,

know about. And I don't assume that everybody has had the same experience as me, but I think a lot of us can relate, you know.

And I think that this is prevalent, not just for, you know, blue collar kids, but also you see it in different populations, you know, where it can be hard for men to say, to admit, like, Hey, I'm struggling, or whatever, like, I'm having a hard time emotionally, you know, for a lot of for a lot of boys and men, you're not allowed, you're not allowed to, like, cry or have those feelings in some people's

homes coming up, you know. And I really was, like, thinking about this, because this stigma of the stigma of like, asking for help makes you weak, or you should be ashamed. And I started thinking about how, like, when you're born, right? When you're like, born into this little body, you cannot feed yourself, you cannot clothe yourself, you cannot, like, get around on your own. You know, you, you, you are totally helpless. You cannot

verbalize other than to cry, right? You cannot verbalize your wants, your needs, like your suffering, like, I've got a wet diet. All you can do is, like, cry, but like, you're completely helpless. We didn't know how to do jack shit as a baby, except, like, stick our feet in our own mouths and like, you know, make faces and, you know, and poop in a diaper. Like, that's what we knew how to do, right? So from the time we were little kids, we

needed help, and we could ask for help. Like, think about it, we didn't know how to ride bikes, we didn't know how to tie our own shoes. We didn't know how to make, like, a sandwich. Like, we didn't know how to do things. We didn't know how to sew or cook or do laundry or drive a car or, like, think about the gazillion things that we didn't know how to do when we were little kids, when we were young, when we were babies, and how much help we needed, not only how much help we needed,

how much help we probably got. I'm not saying they were perfect. I'm not saying our parents were perfect, but how much help we kind of did. We learned how to button a button. We learned how to zip a zip up. We learned how to like, you know, walk to school. We learned how to like, you know, read a book. Not everybody, but a lot of us, you know what I mean. So we got, like, a shit ton of help. So we were also, though, encouraged. We were often encouraged by teachers. Like, if

you don't know something, raise your hand. Let me help you, right? That's a whole profession of like tudas. What do you think tutas Are? Tutors are designed to, like, help kids who are struggling with a particular subject, you know? And when you just still look around you people in my profession, what I call the helping professions, right? The service professions.

We're here. I always say, if everybody figured everything out on their own, if everybody was doing fantastic, like, I wouldn't have a job, you know, I wouldn't be teaching yoga if everybody knew how to do it and do it fantastically and didn't need help. You know what I'm saying? I wouldn't be a spiritual mentor. I wouldn't be an integrative coach. I wouldn't

be doing any of these things if nobody needed help. And so I want to, kind of like normalize this, for us to get out of this, this old limitation, like limiting mindset, that that it's weak somehow to ask for help. And I think we're kind of like, sold this load of bullshit that, like, just because we're a certain age, or just because we've gone through a certain thing, we should, quote, unquote, know this already. We should know how to do these things, and sometimes we just

need a little bit of help. Because, again, we have to go back to, like, the brain, right? And how the brain functions. The brain is always going to try to access, like, what's familiar. It's going to want to try and, like, do things based on what it's already experienced. You know, it goes it time travels. Obviously, it likes to time travel into the past and and just assign meaning to, like, the Oh, I know how this cup is going to be, I know how this chair is going to be, I know how

this trip is going to be. I know how this person is going to be. Because I've interacted with them before. So it's always like looking for the familiar. It's not really, I think it's so fascinating how much we rely on on the brain. And a lot of times I will say to people like, Okay, here's the deal. Your your best thinking, like your number one, numero uno, like best thinking with your current brain is what got you here, right into trouble, into this suffering, into this pattern, into this

habit, into this way of being like your best thinking. So if you want to do something different or novel or new or transformative or make change like what got you here is not going to get you there, and we need to bring in, sometimes, new

resources, new tools, new teachers, new help is right. Who can you know, not boss you around and like, wag their finger and tell you like at you and tell you like what to do, but can certainly be a guide along the way, you know, and say, Hey, and I used to hate, like hate asking for help for a couple of reasons. Number one, I had that old stigma of like to ask for help is weak. Number two, right? Part of the ego and part of like, the pride of like, I like to do things on my own.

Look how independent I am, look how capable I am, right? That felt good to be able to do that. Also, there's another thing that kind of happens with a lot of that kind of, you know, the upbringings that I came from in like, trauma, and I know other people again, double Amen hands, if you can relate to what I'm about to say is that you don't ever want to feel like a burden to somebody else. You don't want to feel like you're a

bother or that you're bothering somebody else, right? That's one of the things, and it's also like risking rejection, like you're going to ask for help and somebody's going to say no. And, man, what that would do to like a kid like me back in the day, like I would just feel ashamed, first of all, for having to ask for help, and then if I allowed myself to be vulnerable and ask

for help, and like, gotta know, oh my god. Like, back then, that would have just felt like I just inside, like I just got a little squishy, like, my hat, just like, squeezed a little bit thinking about, like, younger me, like, trying to be so brave, and, like, put down her Dukes, you know, and like, Vicky with 2k from large is being like, Okay, I'm gonna ask for help, and if somebody, like, you know, wasn't nice to me about it, or made me feel stupid for needing help, or I felt ashamed. Like,

why can't you figure this out? Like, how do you not already know how to do this? Right? That's the thing again, the mass hole thing, right? There's like, people talk about people from Boston and people from Massachusetts, like, they'll say, we're kind, but we're not nice, meaning we're kind. We'll

help you. We'll do stuff for you. We'll literally give you the shirt off our back, but we're going to bust your balls the whole time we're doing it. We're going to make fun of you and be sarcastic and, you know, cheap shot you, and do all that

stuff. And I'm like, Oh my god. So like, a lot of times, your vulnerability, you know, I always say, when you we when we would have tender places as a kid, you would think that another human being would recognize that it's a tender place, so that they would tread lightly and it's no they would find your tender place, and they would find, like, noogie it, you know, like they would go for it. So there's kind of like this built in protective measure across the board, for a lot of

people, where they're expected, they feel like they're expected to know so many things. And I remember, you know, I remember, like, back even, even as a my mother, like, I got, I got my sex talk pretty young. I think I was, like, six years old. And so I also learned all about menstruation and girls having their period, and, like, the whole thing, which I totally dreaded, like I totally dreaded. And, you know, my mother, I

think, taught me about, like, I know she did. She taught me about, like, maxi pads and whatever, and said, like, there were, you know, other things, like tampons, whatever, Playtex, Kotex, all the different brands. But she died before I ever used a tampon. And I remember I did not want to ask my sister to show me how to do it. I wasn't going to ask my aunt. I was like, nope, right? Like, and so I had to figure it out on my

own. And I'll never forget that whole experience. You know, it's like, you don't know what size to buy, like, you have to go to the store and, like, get them, and you get then you get to go and, like, figure it out, and the string and the whole thing. I'm sure somebody out there is laughing right now, because you too, you too, had to figure it out on your own. But then I helped other girlfriends who also had, who were also feral,

who were also highly unsupervised, right? Who didn't want to wear maxi pads like you know, again, I'm not bagging on any. Anybody who that was your preference, or whatever. Just for me, it was not my preference. So I apologize for making it. But for me, it was just like, No. But I also had to, like, help them. And one of the things that I try to remind myself all the time as a reminder, obviously, for my tone of voice with other people like I never want people to feel

ashamed for not knowing things. I want to reward curiosity and I want to reward courage and vulnerability when somebody like doesn't know how something works or doesn't understand something, and it's so easy to be flippant, right? I know I've done it. I know I've been quote, unquote guilty of this before in my past, and I really try to be mindful these days, because I had to reform my own thinking about like, it's okay that I

don't know how to do everything. It's okay that I might need a like, you know, a reminder on how to like, you know, do something, you know, and in this world where everything is becoming increasingly, like, more technical, I've just accepted, I always say, the older I get, the more that I realize that, like, it just becomes painfully aware to me,

like, just how much I don't know. So I am willing to take a book out, or to buy a book or to read an article or to Google something, but sometimes it just hits a point when you're like, I need another human being to sit down with me and to walk me through this, to talk me through this, to show me how they approach this thing. Preferably, I always say like, again with Marcus Aurelius, right in meditations. I'm like, when smarty pants people are saying smarty pants things, I am smarty

pants enough to pay attention and to listen, right? So I try to, like, go to, you know, somebody who I feel like has been successful in doing this thing before me, or a friend who I think is pretty smart, and I'm like, maybe we can figure this out together. And that's the thing, like, where my work comes in. You know, it's like, I kind of like, through my own desire to end my own suffering, and as long as we're human, there's

gonna be suffering, right? I mean, we cannot eradicate all suffering, however, we can gather some tools and some perspectives and some resources to help us as we're navigating these things, so we're not suffering as much. And I know

for myself along the way. You know, I had some teachers, and I certainly had a shit ton of books that really, really, really helped me, but it was that human connection, the intimacy of another person being with me and talking with me and, you know, helping me to see again, to shift my mind, maybe from a perspective of fear to one of love, you know, to gather different tools. And it's why, you know, when people say to me, like, what do you do? I'm like, Oh my gosh. Like, I do so many

things. I've gathered a lot of tools from a lot of different traditions and a lot of different what do we even? Modalities, even, because I wanted I needed help physically, somatically, I needed help spiritually, right? I needed help. You know, in my subconscious, like reprogramming my subconscious, I needed help with practical neuroscience, right, patterns and habits and being able to like interrupt the way that that my brain would like was going down habit road

all the time, as my teacher, Melissa tears, says, right. So I wanted to be able to help myself mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. And that's where, like all the different things that I, you know, trained in and studied and practiced, and now also teach and share with my clients, my one to one clients who, you know, join me in the quest. And then also my membership people, my beautiful nesties, as I call

them, my group coaching program. The nest is passing these things down, and that's the beautiful thing is once you just admit, like, I don't know everything, and I do need help, and let go of the shame, and let go of the story, and let go of this idea that you now, just because you're an adult, you're supposed to know how to do everything. And this is the thing, like this

bot, I always say, like as human beings, right? Like moving through the world in this body, with this brain, with our life experiences and stuff, we're operating heavy machinery, and like nobody gave us the manual. So why should we be surprised that we need help, and why should we feel bad about it, or talk down to ourselves or see ourselves as less than it's a

really powerful thing to ask for help. And my hope for you, you know, I look at like I look but first of all, my hope for you is that you receive good help when you ask for it, that nobody like you know, makes you feel stupid because of it. Um. That you are met with kindness and openness, and that your curiosity and your desire to change, to transform, to grow, to learn, to better

yourself, right? Is met with enthusiasm and encouragement, because otherwise, like you know, if anybody's trying to tear you down or try to make you feel stupid because you need help with something. Here. They can suck it in a bucket. You know what I'm saying? Like them, move on. Find somebody else, because they're not your people. Okay, so I also, you guys know, Marita and I do a lot of daily reading. I have like, a bunch of

what you can call them daily devotionals. You can just call them daily books, read books that I read on the daily that are literally, you know, broken down. It'll say, like, June, whatever. June, 14, June, 16, June, whatever. May this, whatever. Okay, so some of you may know who Ryan Holiday is, and Ryan Holiday, I had just read to you about meditations Marcus Aurelius, right? This is like, he's known as one of like, the Stoics and philosophers of stoicism. And so I also read the

Daily stoic. And this is 366 meditations on wisdom, perseverance in the art of living. And Ryan Holiday, this is his book. He and Steven Hanselman wrote this. But what was awesome is when I was flipping through this and reading this, the reading for Marcus Aurelius, 7.7 which I shared with you earlier, came

came up right? Don't be ashamed of needing help. And I also want to share with you something that Ryan said, because it's right in line with what what's been on my hat, and it made me smile the whole time I read it. He says, so he starts with the quote from Marcus Aurelius, right, the stoic quote. And then he says, no one ever said you were born with all the two tools you'd need to solve every problem you'd face in life. In fact, as

a newborn, you were practically helpless. Yes, someone helped you then, and you came to understand that you could ask for help. It was how you knew you were loved. Isn't that so nice? And then he goes on to say, well, you are still loved. You can ask anyone for help. You don't have to face everything on your own. If you need help, comrade, just ask. And I love that, right? It's like, and this has been the hot beat, not from this. I mean, this was something I've been talking about long

before I read this book. But nobody can do the work for you, right? Whatever the thing is that you need help with, whether it's like, you know, getting out of your own way, or like, you know, trying to, trying to make your way through. You know your lack of self worth, your lack of self love, the struggle that you have, you know, in your relationships within yourself, the spiritual struggles, the mental struggles, the emotional

struggle. You know all this stuff you know you don't have to nobody can do that work for you, but you don't have to do it on your own. And having somebody that walks along beside you is a game changer. It's a game changer. It has been true in my life. It has been true in the lives of my clients. It's been true in the lives of people that I know, who I've coached, but also other people and friends who have that I know, who have also had their own coaches, their own mentors, their own

teachers, their own help is, you know what I mean. So I guess I just kind of want to normalize this for you, because I think we've been sold a bill of goods, sometimes from our families, sometimes from teachers, right? Sometimes from coaches, sometimes from elders, sometimes from whoever your siblings, whatever your environment, that we're supposed to have it all figured out, and we're somehow stupid because we don't. And

look, I'm the person in every lecture, in every class. I'm going to ask, like, a gazillion questions, and I'm going to ask until I understand, because I don't. I no longer feel bad about not knowing things or needing help. And it has been so freeing for me to be able to just raise my hand and be like, Yeah, I don't get it. Or, Hey, can you show me that again? Or that pot one, like, okay, I get Pat one, but like, Pat two, you lost me. Or, can you please help me to understand how to do this?

And look, I'm just gonna say this because I see it, I just see it, I just see it. I just see it. I'm grabbing my face. If you're not watching this, you can probably hear it in my voice. Chat, GPT is not your new coach. Chat, GPT is not your new spiritual mentor. It will never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever be able to replace the hat and the intimacy of human connection.

It's never going to be able to replace somebody being able to look you right in the eye as you tell your story, as you pour out your soul, and as you ask for help, and the other person says, I'm here. I've got you. I've got your back. John. That GTP can give you all kinds of information, but as my beautiful friend Mary Ann C says, information does not heal. Intimacy heals, and we need that hat to hat. We need that face to face. We need that human connection. And even books like

books can be great, but let me tell you something. I can read something in a book, and there are people who learn fantastically from just reading, and I know like that's I learn in different ways, as well as, like, reading, but being able to do something alongside somebody, somebody who can really see us and acknowledge our brilliance, but is also not afraid to call us out on our bullshit, and to say, Hey, I'm seeing a pattern here, like, hey, what about this? You know, it's not going

to be it's like, humans can't be replaced in that way. You know, chat GPT can't give you a hug. Chat GPT can't, like, hold your hand while you're crying. Do you know what I'm saying? Chat GPT can't see you. It's just so take that for what you will. I don't think that the quality and the caliber of that kind of information is ever going to replace human tenderness and human grace. And you know, having a human mentor or a coach

who's gone before and knows kind of where these places are. Yeah, information will only get you so far, I guess, is what I'm trying to say. So if you're somebody who's been a little afraid to ask for help, I hope that this, in some way, is going to give you the courage, maybe a little motivation or inspiration, to say, You know what? I don't have to figure everything out on my own. I'm not expected to know how everything in the world

works. You know, there's a reason why all those books, how things work like, exist, because we don't know, you know what I mean, like, You're not expected to know how to change a tie without having ever done one before. You're not expected to

know how to like, like, you know, not a tie. If you're a young person who wants to wear, you know, or anybody who wants to wear a tie, like, if nobody taught you how to shave, if nobody taught you, like, you know, how to, you know, operate a lawn mower, or whatever it is, things that might seem really simple and basic to another person if you've never been

exposed to it. How should you know how to do it? How should you know how to be in a relationship where there's intimacy and deep emotional, excuse me, conversations and connections, if you've never had it before, if it was never mirrored for you, if it was never if it was never played out in front of you, if you never saw a healthy marriage, how are

you supposed to know how to do it? If your parents all they did was scream and yell at each other, how are you supposed to learn maybe it became painful enough, and you decided I'm never going to do that like I'm going to be a person who, like, talks about my feelings rather than screams, you know, or whatever, maybe. But we get so conditioned as young people. We are literally being hypnotized all the time as young people,

you know. And it gets in there, it gets in there, and sometimes we need help and support breaking those patterns, and one of those patterns and habits is believing that it's not okay to ask for help. So let's destigmatize this. Let's unchain this, and know that you know you are loved and that you are smart, and there are people who want to help you, and you're not expected to know how to do everything you know, and I try

to remind my clients of this all the time. A lot of things were not demonstrated to us and how to do things in a healthy way, or in a way that is in a way that is moving us in the direction of how we actually want to be and how we actually want to feel. You know, we just have, sometimes have an old, rusty set of tools. We need new ones, and that's okay. And there are people out there who want to help you, and there are people out there that you can hire to help you, to walk along beside

you, and there's no shame with that too. You know, sometimes we think, Well, I have friends and I have family members. You know that? You know I should be able to ask them, Well, I love you. And sometimes our friends are like, knuckleheads, like,

sometimes they are not the ones. A lot of times, your friends are just going to agree with you, and they're going to yes you, and they're going to be like, yeah, you have every right to be mad because he did this and she did the it's like you need people in your life who are going to stop you and say, Hey, but yeah, it sounds like you don't really like whoever taught

you how to forgive. Do you know what I'm saying? Some of the who taught you how to really love, who taught you how to express yourself, who taught you how to help your nervous system to feel more safety in the world. This is what I'm saying. There's so much we don't know, and if we can just accept it, and if we can be willing to try something new, and to say to ourselves, there must be a better way, and then to be open and receptive,

to ask your in. Teacher right to ask your inner teacher, and then maybe an outer teacher somewhere to go help guide you. It can be life changing. It can be completely transformative. And I know because I'm living proof. So that's all I wanted to say today. Little Love Letter from my hat to yours, because I know what it's like trying to move through the world trying to figure it all out on your own. It's exhausting. It's

exhausting. And you know, if you can find somebody where you feel safe enough to kind of put down your deuce, to lower your dukes and to lower that shield and to be vulnerable, it can be absolutely life changing. So I hope again, hope this is helpful in some way, and you can always find out the ways to work with me on my website. Karen kenney.com, I'm never shy about

it. That's where to find me. It's easy. You'll see things for the nest and the quest and yoga and even how to use my tip, ja, how to join my email list so that you find out shenanigans and what's going on. I have some cool events actually, that I'm going to be doing in the next few months. So if you want to find out what those are like, get on my newsletter. Just Karen kenney.com/sign,

up. Alright, you guys. Thank you so much for tuning in. Wherever you go, may you leave the animals and the people and the place in the environment, the planet in yourself better than how you first found it. Wherever you go, may you and your love and your presence and your energy and your willingness to ask for help be a blessing. Let me also say this because it just came to my head, and when spiritual team s, t, o, t, J, they hit me thing. Sometimes when we think we're being a

burden to somebody else, right? If we don't ask for help, we are robbing the other person of an opportunity to also be your friend, to also be helpful. It feels really nice when you're able to help another person, and if we never ask for help, and if we insist on doing everything on our own, and if we don't allow other people to help us, we sometimes Rob other people of being able to also have that really satisfactory feeling of knowing that they did a kind thing or that they you know What

I'm saying. So okay, just had to say that before I go. Okay, bye. Have a great rest of your night, your day, your week. Okay, much love you.