Welcome to the K6 Wellness Revolution podcast . My name is Sharon , I'm the owner of K6 Wellness Center in Dallas , texas , and Elena and I will be your hosts tonight . We're going to discuss another interesting aspect of health and wellness , and for today , we decided to discuss the broad topic of trauma and trauma as it impacts our health more succinctly .
There's so many types of trauma , be it physical , mental , emotional , sexual , and all of these traumas can either positively yes , positively or negatively impact your health . So what Positively impact , you ask ? Yeah , okay , cut . I was like who wrote this shit ? sammy come back . No , it's fine , we're just gonna cut . Okay , one , two , three go .
Welcome to the k6 wellness revolution . My name is Sharon , the owner of K6 Wellness Center in Dallas , texas , and I'm going to be your host as we discuss all things health and wellness .
Today , elena and I have decided to discuss a very broad topic of trauma and how it impacts health , and there are a lot of different types of trauma , like physical , mental , emotional , sexual , and these things all impact our lives in many ways , and so let's just go ahead and get started .
Hey , elena , hello , tell us something about trauma that you've experienced in your practice as a health coach .
You mean my trauma as a health coach ?
No , no , it could be your trauma or just trauma .
You know , I feel like what I see on a daily basis is people who come in with all these physical symptoms that we're trying to deal with and as you get to know them a little bit better , you start hearing more about some of their life experiences .
And then you hear things that you know they need someone on the outside to point out to them and say , hey , you know that that's trauma and that's not a normal experience you should have had to go through . And if they don't even realize it , then they can't acknowledge the connection between their physical and emotional health .
So I really think the biggest thing is people aren't aware how much not dealing with their trauma can actually impact their physical health .
Yeah , yeah , absolutely .
And there's so many different kinds of traumas and people have trauma on a daily basis , and it's not always severe trauma , while there is a ton of that . It could be just the trauma of a stressful drive to work . You know stress , stress and trauma there's just so many different kinds and we're all going to experience it in some form or another .
No one is immune to it , no matter how strong and resilient you think you are . You know you are going to have to combat that one way or another . And of course , some people have more resilience than others . So it's just figuring out what those traumas are , recognizing them and then learning what to do about it .
But the thing is too I'm sure you noticed this , sharon is that if we look just at family , let alone clients , how two people can come out of the same situation and have different side effects from it . Some people could be okay .
Yeah , and different perceptions of the trauma itself . Right .
Right . That we're all going to have unique triggers and responses to that trauma , so it's just learning how to recognize that in ourselves and others .
Yeah , for sure . And I think too , when you just consider like how much , well , how much trauma there is , how many different types of trauma but I started just looking at , you know , statistics and child abuse for one , like that's trauma , right , trauma isn't just getting hit by a truck .
It's bad things that happen to people , whether by accident or on purpose , or through negligence or with malfeasance . But child abuse and neglect one in four children experience it . That's alarming , it's sad . And domestic violence they estimate about 10 million Americans are affected each year by violence in the home .
Almost 20% of middle school and high school students say they've been bullied . And suicide we have one death by suicide in America every 11 minutes . Suicide we have one death by suicide in America every 11 minutes .
And if you think about the circle of influence that you have and people you know , you can think you're all alone , you can think that nobody cares . But when you , when somebody ends their own life , they leave a pretty wide net of trauma and that can affect some people more than others .
But you're leaving behind , yeah , a lot of grieving family , friends , acquaintances , and those are really easy to spot traumas , I think , or easy to describe . And then there are more vague versions of it . A lot of times we don't know about sexual traumas , unless it's not always somebody getting mugged in an alley . You know there's .
There's the sexual trauma that comes from family members . There's the sexual trauma that comes from date rape . There's trauma in the workplace that can be also bullying or intimidation or whatever . But yeah , there's a lot of trauma in our world .
Well , and when you look at some of those statistics that you just noted , basically all of us are walking around with someone who has been a victim of some sort of severe trauma , let alone the little ones , right , the little traumas of stress and whatnot . But it just is a good reminder to have grace for people around you .
You really don't know what people have been through and what could be their breaking point just in being a rude person or being impatient . It's a good reminder to have grace Because for some people too , trauma can be an ongoing experience .
Some people are stuck in a situation and the obvious ones are going to be the sexual abuse or child abuse , domestic violence type things . But there are so many things that could go on and on and no one's aware of it .
People get good at hiding trauma because they don't know how to handle it , so they don't know how to tell other people to let them in on it , and it's usually not a one-time event .
It can be right , I don't want to dismiss those one-time events , but it's just going to be so different , so you got to remember that you could be stuck in it and you have to learn how to get out of it to get the right help and to get better .
And I think sometimes , when you're in those situations where it's a repeated trauma , we tend to hide those things , whether it's , you know , the self-messaging or the whole idea of shame or being fearful , you know , a safety issue . We get really good at lying and covering up and that's to our own detriment usually .
But yeah , there are a lot of types of those repeated traumas and I think it's almost easier to know about a trauma when it's something so outside . It's almost easier to know about a trauma when it's something so outside the realm of your normal that you go oh my gosh , I was mugged on the way to work today .
Or , you know , you end up in the hospital because of some and not all trauma is intentional . Like a bad car accident , that's a trauma . Or military , that's a trauma , and you can .
Or military I mean look how many people we have with PTSD and just from being witness to violence and very difficult situations and not necessarily being a party to it over again , and the more you're around it , the more of a trigger it can become .
But yeah , dysfunctional relationships , even abandonment issues , all of these types of repeated traumas can influence your perception of the world , how you view the world , how you form your own relationships and , um , that can be , you know , it can be good . Some people , whether knowingly or unknowingly , happen into a very healthy place .
But a lot of times we all end up with scars and we end up with our own level of dysfunction , kind of as a coping mechanism almost . And it's important to , I think for that reason , recognize some of the more subtle traumas , like emotional abandonment and recognizing verbal abuse .
You know it's often in domestic relationships , whether it's parent-child or spouses or partners , whether it's parent-child or spouses or partners , we can see that . But manipulation and neglect are sometimes harder to identify , right , they can be more subtle and abandonment isn't always physical abandonment , it's not . Oh , my husband ran off 10 years ago and left us .
Sometimes it's just emotional abandonment and that can be very , very harmful and very hurtful . Gaslighting you know that's something we hear about a lot now .
Gaslighting is basically minimalizing or marginalizing another person's concern or perspective or ideas and that can have very traumatic effects ongoing when that gaslighting comes from somebody you trust or somebody you love , whether it's your spouse or family member or your doctor or your teacher .
These types of traumas from people who we trust can definitely make us question a lot of different things and physical traumas right , if you get smacked around , if you're raised in a physically abusive home or if you marry into a physically abusive relationship or if you're in a type of environment that is just just involves a lot of risky behaviors where people get
hurt , that can be very traumatizing . So I don't want to just make it sound like , oh , it's all you know abuse . It's not just abuse , because trauma can be anything that negatively impacts your life in any way right . Right , I mean it can even be repeated .
You know a miscarriage or repeated miscarriages it could be traumas like that , things that you have no control over , and it's going to eventually shape or change the way you look at life .
If you aren't careful Because you know whether it's a subtle trauma or a less than subtle trauma , that does impact our future behavior , we're going to have different views of the world and what we think is good and right . These experiences can change how we cope with things , and we may not cope with things as well as we would have had .
We not experienced that , but the beautiful thing is you can learn from every experience how to be stronger , how to develop better coping mechanisms .
So it's just important to be aware of the problem so you can make sure you don't continue a behavior pattern , because you don't want to continue to impact the people around you and , once again , not blaming people for what has happened to them , but just learning how to change that pattern behavior going forward .
And I think we can even see that on a national scale , right . So for people out there who are like I , you know I've really been spared from trauma and nothing bad's ever happened , and kudos to you , you unicorn . But I think we've all been traumatized .
If you even just look at our nation , like , look at what COVID shutdown did to people , right , how has that shaped our future health or our future relationships , or our expectations from people , from government , from doctors , from coworkers , from bosses , friends , all of those things ? I think that you know there was a fair amount of gaslighting that went on .
I think there was a lot of fear that helped drive a lot of decisions and , yeah , that's a trauma , just like being in a car accident . It's a trauma like a sports injury and I , yeah , I think that all of those things , some people , like you said , will learn .
Those things some people , like you said , will learn , oh , okay , well , I'm not going to respond that way again , I'm going to do this instead .
And but sometimes , when that , when we don't , when we're not able to step outside ourselves or we don't have the benefit of outside counsel , we can develop very dysfunctional patterns of response or coping that , like you said , will impact our future health , our future health , so yeah .
Right ? Well , I mean you want to talk about trauma . Turn on the news . All you're going to hear about and see about are traumatic things , and they have a way of bringing things to our attention that are already frustrating . I mean you just look at disappointments in elections or celebrations in elections that is a traumatic thing for some people right there .
Or looking at job losses across the country , or you know , just looking at all these different things that are already negative , and if you turn on the news , they're going to just repeat and repeat and repeat how negative these things are . That creates a stressed response to anybody . Absolutely nobody can hear that all the time and be okay .
That's why I've always said social media is traumatic .
It is . You know there's this whole addiction that happens with social media . You always want to be on and see what's happening , and most of it isn't going to be positive , or the things that are positive can still make you feel bad about what you are aren't doing . So that's a constant stressor .
They're not trauma , but stressor , but that's where you see a lot of bullying , too , is in social media , and not just for children . It's not like school bullying . I mean it can be , but you see adults in the gaslighting or the bullying that causes people to question the value of their existence , or should I live ?
Or you get this real warped sense of reality and sometimes it's easy to look at stuff like that , like I feel like I'm grounded in reality and somebody else might look at me and go you are so out there . But , I feel like it's important , you know , to have real relationships , to have outside counsel , but sometimes we do .
You know you talk about these like collective , where as a society or as a bigger group , we go through traumas that can be helpful in forming a good response .
Or it can go the wrong way and we can end up with this mob mentality or this , what do they call it , mass formation psychosis , you know , where everybody thinks really poorly developed thoughts together , but it's kind of a mob mentality and they've shown , like you know , you can get this mob mentality where bad things happen to good people but it was a force ,
if you will , of multiples that drove a certain action or a certain outcome . And you can also see where somebody can stop that just by saying whoa , whoa , whoa , no , let's do something different .
And if you people's minds open enough to counteract , you know , whatever the trauma is or the impending trauma , you can change the course of a potential trauma or the coping mechanism that's going to be developed . Is it going to be constructive or is it going to be detrimental . So , yeah , that's more societal .
I guess I'm talking more societal connection and more stress , because you need community and you need healthy community to cope with life as it is , let alone when there's traumas that you need to be able to talk about and deal with . Because if you can't , what do we see every day Physical and physiological side effects of those emotions . Right For sure .
Yeah , because we'll see it . It can manifest as behavioral problems , like it could be ADHD , it could be a person , it could be like schizophrenia , it could be depression and anxiety . There can be all kinds of things that come from trauma , right , even chronic health conditions , trauma , right , even chronic health conditions .
And I think that when you consider , like in Chinese medicine , every organ has an emotional relationship .
And if you look at our major organs and I'm not an expert in Chinese medicine , but I know the big ones I was talking to somebody about this earlier today , talking about kidneys and the emotions that go along with kidney health or kidney dysfunction , or fear and irritation , and so oftentimes , when somebody has a kidney problem , you might be .
When somebody has a kidney problem , you might be . If you're holistic and you're going in deep , you're going to look for what are the fear , invoking situations in this person's history or , you know , or current situation .
The stomach if you think about stomach , like what are some common health problems we have with our stomach Ulcers , reflux , and what brings those things on , elena , stress , anxiety and worry . And so worry is where is seated , if you will , in the stomach .
And then we have our heart , which is the seat of joy we have our lungs , which is the seat of sadness and grief and one of the things that really drives that home if you look at people who've been together a long time I think I've mentioned this before on this podcast but people who've been together a long , long time and one of them passes , and this can
even be . It can be a child , it can be a married couple . I've seen it with people and their pets .
When one goes , or you lose your pet , or you lose your spouse or a child or a dear friend , it is very common it is not normal , but it is very common to see the person left behind succumb or really suffer with a lung problem like chronic bronchitis or pneumonia , things like that , and it's unresolved sadness and grief .
The large intestine the big thing we always think of with large intestine , besides colon cancer , is constipation and I can always remember this one because the emotion is feeling stuck . Go figure , yeah , go figure . But those I feel like just understanding a little bit of why we feel the way we feel .
So think about like if you've ever been sick , you know , and you've thrown up so much that now you're just throwing up bile , which is the bright green stuff . That bile is stored in your gallbladder . Your gallbladder is the organ that represents resentment and bitterness , and bile is rather bitter .
Your liver is the seat of anger and rage , and so you know , um somebody with an angry liver , I always think of an angry drunk . I mean , if you're an alcoholic and you're drinking a lot , it does affect your liver a lot .
And then that anger , when you don't resolve , turns into bitterness and resentment , right , and so that's where the bile gets stored in the gallbladder , and maybe it just stays there . And when anger gets stored it becomes resentment and bitterness .
And so I think if we all kind of look at ourselves and go , okay , what , I'm an angry person , or I tend to be , you know , a worrier , or I'm depressed or whatever , you'll often find some physical connection to that emotion and and trauma can be something that leads you down that path .
So it's kind of interesting , you know , from a health standpoint , just to acknowledge those relationships , because you don't always know what came first , the chicken or the egg .
I know Is the drunk angry because his liver's bad or because he's drinking that much . So then he's in a vicious cycle .
And that's yeah , I think that's a more accurate tell on that whole situation is it becomes a very circular dysfunctional cycle .
So , yeah , chronic health conditions , um , behavioral issues , and then even patients who don't have like a solid diagnosis which we get a lot of that here , right , like we'll get somebody in here and it's like , well , I was told I had this and then they said I had that and none of it really fits and it's not having .
It's people without these reliable , solid diagnoses , but they're suffering . They're suffering every day in many ways . It can cost jobs , relationships , friendships . It can cost financial security where you're losing a home or losing a car , things like that .
Those can be residual effects from unresolved trauma , whether it was an accident and you didn't have health insurance , or your husband left you , or you know you were viciously attacked and left for dead and you didn't have health insurance , or you know there was no justice in the justice system for you , whatever that was .
Trauma can affect all of our major life areas job , home , friends , right , yeah yeah , life areas , job , home , friends , right . So yeah , even mere survival . If you look at Maslow's Pyramid , it's our physical needs at the very bottom , you know security , food and shelter .
When those things become threatened because of trauma , wow , you know , we're in a real desperate place and I think when you look at homelessness in America , I mean there's a lot behind that , right , but how many of those situations have trauma attached to them ? Every single one .
Right , right , well , and you kind of touched on some of the symptoms and conditions that are linked to trauma . A big one is memory issues , because that's actually a defense mechanism that our bodies do for us . You can block out some memories that were too bad to remember and you might not recall them .
I feel like oftentimes people do begin to recall as they heal , because you've got to work through some of those memories . But a lot of the mental health disorders we see were triggered by some sort of trauma , be it schizophrenia or even depression and anxiety , and PTSD is a big one , and then all those lead to sleep disturbances , insomnia .
That's a big problem and once again there's so many factors that can go into insomnia . But that is something that people are going to deal with when they've been through trauma and if you don't get good rest it's really hard for the body to heal . So we want to make sure we're coming at that from every angle possible .
But just having even chronic fatigue , you've done everything but you can't seem to get over that hump because there's unresolved trauma in your life and that also leads to learning disabilities like ADHD and dyslexia and hyper-focus can be an issue , but I think addiction is one of the biggest things people turn to or can , because you need something to cope with this
thing inside of you that you haven't been able to talk through or work through yet .
Yeah , and America , if nothing else , is the land of band-aids , pharmaceutical band-aids , and we can get you addicted to anything and make you forget your trauma momentarily , even sugar , yeah , especially sugar , but yeah . So there are lots of coping mechanisms for all kinds of triggers and there are all kinds of triggers that we've gone through .
But the body's response to trauma , to triggers from past trauma , those are things that can be very difficult to , I think , fully resolve because sometimes your brain will block memories , right , and it's for self-protection .
So I know I learned like your brain's not going to remember a trauma that your body's not ready to resolve , whether because the pain was too great or the it was just so traumatic or so shocking , um , there's no way for the body to deal with it . And so , as a self protect or self-defense mechanism , brain shuts that off .
And you look at people with amnesia after traumatic events or bad car accidents and like they don't remember anything from maybe 15 minutes before the car accident or two hours before , and that's the brain . That's the brain saying nope , nope , it's just better if you don't know . But then there are things , like you know , chronic stress .
I think chronic stress from just our day-to-day life can be traumatic , right ? Because this leads to high cortisol levels . Well , when you have high cortisol levels , you're going to put on weight , which can be traumatic .
You're going to be wired and tired , which can be traumatic , which leads to , like you were saying , sleep problems and insomnia and , over time , then you don't have motivation , or you're constantly grabbing on for control , like I've got to control everything and everybody , and you feel that way because you actually don't control anything and it's all from some trigger
or some buildup of various traumas . That may not seem traumatic and that wouldn't make the six o'clock news , but it's still there .
Yeah , yeah , well , and making the six o'clock news . You don't make it to that point if you haven't been pushed to the point of snapping because you haven't been able to deal with anything or have a proper expression up until that point .
Because once you've been through a situation where you have been hurt be it physically , emotionally , any which way , you're not going to have the best response to people around you . You're not going to have the best response to just daily stress around you .
Stress is going to impact you more than an average person , even though really I think the average person is carrying around something . But just remembering that those behaviors are going to affect everyone else , it's a chain reaction .
If you are carrying this and you have a skewed view of how you should treat people or how you should behave , it's going to just continue from there . So there's also the secondary game . Some people they benefit from their trauma because it gives them identity , it gives them something to cling to and I feel like that's more of a victim mentality .
And you really want to acknowledge when you've been a victim right , always know that you shouldn't have to suffer alone or even carry the stress alone , but you don't want to get stuck in a victim mentality where , if you get better , who would you be ? Yeah , right .
That's not a healthy place . No , it's not . And I think too , like we used to say well , a lot of people use their diagnosis like their sickness and they're more interested in whatever value they gain from having that sickness .
There have been people who've come in and maybe their symptoms started with a trauma but then they didn't feel acknowledged and I think sometimes that's it . You know , back to this whole , the trauma that comes along with abandonment .
You can get , you know physical features like maybe it's chronic fatigue or maybe it's fibromyalgia or some pain syndrome or autoimmune condition , and you just keep going along and you realize , oh , I actually get sympathy now my kids are calling or my husband takes better care of me when I'm sick , my husband takes better care of me when I'm sick .
So where's the motivation for a person who feels alone and abandoned to get better when by being sick , they get more care ?
And I think that , okay , I just made that very black and white , but when you're in it , when you're walking through that , that is a very difficult thing to see and I think , as the person with that secondary gain , it's very hard to drop that , to say , you know , I'm going to let go of that and I'm going to work through my abandonment issues because I want
to be better and I don't want to live with this pain .
Because I want to be better and I don't want to live with this pain . Yeah , because I don't think most people make a conscious decision to stay in that place or get to that place . It just happens . It happens , it's subconscious . Well , I don't know about most , but not everyone's going to be that manipulative . It's just they realize .
Oh , I do appreciate the attention I'm getting because I do feel heard and I feel seen . But that goes back to why you need to have community . You need to have community with people who can understand you and love you the right way . Otherwise you fall into patterns .
In relationships that aren't healthy , you can seek out similar trauma that you've lived through and , once again , I think it's a very subconscious thing . People don't realize they do it until they get to a healthier place . You can look back and see oh , wow , yeah , I was walking down this path because it's one that was familiar to me .
I think sometimes you can even see that in support groups , where there are great support groups and I am not bashing support groups at all , but I've seen a few through the years where it's like everybody just got stuck in their trauma and it was just a weekly .
It wasn't support , it was more like a pity party or it was a let's all get down in the mud together and just stay here because it feels real comfortable and real familiar . And I don't feel so alone in my trauma when I'm with these other people . Nobody ever gets better , nobody ever learns a healthy coping mechanism .
There's no resolution , there's no way through Right .
Right , and that's where you want to make sure you're in a community that can approach healing from trauma in a complete way , because you have to acknowledge it .
I think there are a lot of times , like I said , there's clients you can work with who don't realize that they had a traumatic childhood or that something about the way they grew up or the last job they came from wasn't normal . And if you can't acknowledge it , you can't process it .
But the funny thing about traumas and the emotions that we have with trauma is you have to move through it . You can't avoid it , you just can't . You can stuff it for years , but it's eventually going to come out in some negative way or another .
Even if it is grief eventually going to come out in some negative way or another , even if it is grief right , grief can turn the nicest people into very ugly , unpleasant people . And once again , I don't blame anyone who's been through something where they've lost something or someone .
But if you are not around healthy people who can help you be healthy , you can tend to just bring each other down . And you know there's a lot of um modalities and therapies that you can do . Um , sharon , what are some of the ones that you've seen that are helpful .
Oh , there's so many and and I think , um , there's no one guaranteed right , like there are all these amazing things . I was talking to a holistic psychologist several months ago and she was like we got to get past just having talk therapy .
We've got to do more .
And I went whoa , did you really just say that ? Because there is talk therapy , and I think talk therapy is so valuable . I know for myself , at various points in my life I needed to just verbally process with a licensed professional and it helps you sometimes , just leading you to be able to able to consciously acknowledge and then process things .
Talk therapy , it's great , right ? There are things like EMDR , which is the eye movement , desensitization , reprocessing , and this is one that's , I think , fairly new on the scene . Well , no , was it 80s , 90s ? I don't know , but I hear about a lot more yeah .
It's becoming more common .
A lot more people do it Now . I have never done it myself , but I have talked to people who have had very , very good experiences with it and , whether it's grieving a loved one or resolving childhood trauma or helping with addiction , I've heard a lot of good feedback and I've had some people say it made everything worse .
And I think that's where working with a mental health professional who can really help guide you , based on their clinical experience and their knowledge and expertise , to a modality that is going to be beneficial for you and that suits your belief system and your lifestyle and just your communication and your situation but yeah , emdr is one .
There's emotional freedom technique , which I mean , I love . Emotional freedom technique is an amazing free .
You can just go type it in a search engine and it was made free to the world by the man who developed it and it's using certain like neuro-lymphatic reflexive points and affirmations and just different ways of classifying a stress or a physical symptom that's undesirable .
Um , you can to to help the body reprogram itself , if you will , like my daughter got to when she was this was a long time ago and she was going to be a performing student for a professor from Juilliard at a university and it was like this masterclass and she was in eighth grade and so it was .
It was a , it was a big honor and she was not really a stage fright type kid Like she . She'd get nervous , she'd get up there and rock it and she was fine and her hands were shaking so bad and I was like , oh well , this is not good .
And I had my mom , who's really good with EFT , at her , do EFT with her before she went on stage and she just she said it calmed her down so much and she's 13 at the time and she just felt so more in control of herself and more empowered to go out there and do what she knew she could do , and so that's really good .
It's really good for physical symptoms headaches , migraines , pain . Eft can be useful for a lot of things . There's , in fact , there's on Netflix there was , I think it was Netflix , I don't know that .
I said that there was a documentary series called Heal H-E-A-L and they kind of talk about using EFT to for people going through cancer or people who had , like , walked away from traditional cancer therapies whether it was because of money , relationship issues or they were feeling alone but EFT played a role in their recovery . Emotion code is huge .
There's a book One of my favorites , yeah . There's a book by a man named I was looking for it on my shelf over here Dr Bradley Nelson , and he kind of goes through the emotion code . Do you want to talk about the emotion code ?
Well , sure , sure , because I love this one for absolutely anybody and everybody . It's not going to be the end all , be all , fix all , but it is such a great tool to either have done for you or to learn to do for yourself . And if you're sitting here listening and wondering , I wonder if I have any trauma or any emotions .
Hey , you all have emotions , we all have emotions . I get emotion code done on myself regularly . I'll do it for myself sometimes , but I feel like it's helpful to occasionally have someone else do it for you , kind of get an outside point of view , but it's such a great one that you could just try and see .
Huh , I wonder , if I release emotions , am I going to feel any better ? Probably , I mean , I don't think I've had anyone not feel better from it , because we do these sessions in the office here .
But it's where we're just testing through all the different organs in the body and when we find an organ that needs to be rebalanced , we test through emotions that are contributed with that organ and then we can find out if it's a current situation , a past situation , and basically we're just resetting your body's software and helping your body have a normal response
to this emotion or this situation . So it's a simple , simple technique . There's really no rocket science to it . We're just measuring where the body's weak and reinforcing some , I guess , vibrations . You use a magnet . The way we do it , you use a magnet over the governing vessel of the head and it just resets the polarity there .
That's how I explain it , yeah .
Well , and I think too , the interesting thing that I've come to experience with emotion code doing it on other people mainly is I may not know this person or know their background and I don't really delve into counseling or that kind of therapy with people because I'm here to take care more of physical health .
But I acknowledge that emotional health matters and spiritual peace matters and we have to have those conversations . But in doing emotion code , you start to learn more about a person's history because they may not be aware of something .
But when you go , okay , we've got this fear , and it's fear from your childhood or you know whatever it is , and and they're like , oh well , you know , and there'll be something that stands out to that person invariably .
And and then you can start to see patterns in a person's life where , if you ask that person before they ever started , were you ever traumatized ? And they go no , no , no trauma here . And then all of a sudden it's like , wow , I did have trauma . I didn't realize how it impacted my life and now I feel better about it .
So it's not that we want everybody to go through the muck and the mire and sit there , you know , and stew in it . That's not the point . The point is , like you said , let's give the body new information and a chance to reset , and that's a positive thing .
And acupuncture can act very similarly because you know you're dealing with conductive pathways through the body , which in acupuncture are called meridians , and there are very powerful points on the body that you can stimulate or tonify to create new behavior . I love acupuncture . I have , you know , great experiences with it .
First time I ever got acupuncture from well , that was the first time I ever got acupuncture from well . That was the first time I ever got acupuncture , I think , like a traditional five element um acupuncture treatment from , uh , one of the best , and her name's Amanda Milo , in Dallas .
She didn't pay me to say that , but I'm going to give her that she's amazing . But she worked on me and she did the moxibustion and then she did some liver stuff and I laid there on the table and I was okay , fine , everything's fine . Well , I got in my car to go home and I was the angriest I think I've ever been in my whole life .
And I just got angrier and angrier as I drove home . And I got home and I walked in and this was a long time ago . My kids still lived at home and they're like hey mom , how was acupuncture ? I was like don't talk to me , don't talk to me , don't look at me . Something's wrong with me . I think I'm going to commit a crime .
I'm just going to go shut myself in my room because my rational mind knows I should not feel this way , but I really want to hurt somebody . And everyone was like whoa , something's really wrong with mom . And so I went to my room and I just I laid there and I let it pass and it went away and I was like what the heck ?
And I didn't know what had happened . I thought , did I get triggered somewhere ? And this is how little self-awareness I'm capable of having . My husband came in and said I think the acupuncture did it to you . I was like , oh yes , that would have been it . She was on my liver , so .
But then I was fine when it passed , then I was fine and and I think acupuncture is so powerful , so powerful . And then of course we have meditation , Just the mindful . It's like the mindful emptying out of your mind , right To give . Sometimes it's just good for our nervous system to have a moment of rest .
It's like turn off the lights and have nothing , just be still . You know , even in the Bible it says be still , be still and know . And I think that we need to be still in our daily life . We live in such a high distraction world . In such a high distraction time .
It's so important , I think , meditation for mental health because we need to remember what it's like to be still .
We need stillness and silence . Yeah , if you don't create that , you won't have margin for anything else .
That's exactly it . And then there's exercise and nutrition , of course , because if you're eating garbage , guess how your mind is going to work Like garbage . And exercise is just a great way . I think you have less angst and less pent up stress and emotion when there's always a physical outlet .
And I think that goes for , you know , for for having sex , for going for a walk , for lifting weights , for riding your bike , for rowing , dancing , right . It's all an outward working of inner energy , and so it's a good , healthy thing to exercise , let it out . And then , of course , talk therapy , somatic therapies and psychedelics .
I mean , people use psychedelics many times to help work through things . I'm not advocating and I'm not arguing , but I do think there's something there that should be investigated more thoroughly , and the goal , of course , is just to create a new , positive memory by revisiting a trauma or clearing that trauma .
I think , ultimately , in any of these things and I'm sure I've left out a universe of modalities , right , but these are ones that we see frequently . What did I leave out , elena ?
I mean I can't think of anything offhand . Those are the big ones that I know that we have either experienced or seen positive results from . It's just , it's a whole body approach . You know you can't just do physical health , you can't just approach emotional health or spiritual health . It is all of it . You have to do all of it .
But I think what's interesting to note too , it's like we talked about talk therapy being very helpful , and I think that's a great starting place for people sometimes because they don't know where to go , nor do they have the motivation to start doing any other kind of self-help or self-healing .
And so , whether it's you want to start with nutritional counseling or talk therapy just getting put in motion , you've got to get in motion , you've got to know you need help to be able to seek the help out and then get accountability . And that's where we come in with our little bit of knowledge .
With the emotions , just doing emotion code or emotional clearings . We're just the beginning point , but we always want to make sure in the scope of our practice that we're helping you be the healthiest person you can be physically , so you can think better and process better as you go through the emotional aspects of life .
Yeah , when you were talking earlier , I was thinking about that . I don't know why it came into my mind , but you remember that little rhyme that you would do . We did it in school it was . It was to teach rhythm and different sounds with the body and it was like we're going on a bear hunt . Um , come into a forest , oh look , there's a lake .
Can't go over it , Can't go under it , Can't go around it . Got to go through it and there's all these different obstacles . I feel like trauma should be in that , because you can't Trauma heck yep , there's a trauma . Can't go over it . You can't go under it , you got to go through it .
You're going through and we don't have people who are interested in us or care about us to speak into our lives . That can be a hindrance to addressing trauma , and that is also a reason that it's important to have community . And it's hard to have community . It's easier now than it used to be , right , four years ago .
But people have lost community and that in and of itself is traumatic .
And so finding a group of people with similar ideas whether it's your church or your sports team or , like we do , monthly gatherings here , because we and we've gotten to watch some friendships form from people who you know wanted community , who , whether they were transplanted here or whatever you know , lived here and just needed more like-minded people we were able
to help them find that . And and I think that having having community helps us to have a little better self-reflection and self-awareness and trauma never stops happening . Trauma is not normal . Trauma is very common .
I think it's universal in that people on the other side of the world are going through the same trauma as we are , maybe a different flavor , but it's the same . It's the same thing . And it's that whole idea that there's nothing new under the sun , right ? We're all going through things that everyone has gone through before us .
So it's just so important to have people who can help you acknowledge and then having a way to process , who can help you acknowledge , and then having a way to process , and then part of that processing is recognizing the role of the trauma in your life so that you can grow from it , because ultimately we do want to grow from it .
I know , for me , losing a parent to suicide is traumatic and it doesn't matter at what point in life that happens . It's something . Then you , you have to process , and part of it is okay . What happened on ? You know , my father committed suicide and and I watched him and beforehand you would have never thought .
But now , on the other side , I think what are those steps in the path that I can now identify that maybe I need to be aware of in my own life so that I don't go down that path ? And I think that's a big trauma , but there are other ones right , like addiction . That's a big trauma , but there are other ones right , like addiction .
How can I prevent myself from becoming an addict , like my blank , blank , blank was , or I used to be , addicted to this and it caused this trauma in my life , and how do I change my behavior now or how do I reframe or reset so that I don't go down that path again ?
It's part of human growth , it's a part of the human experience and it's part of becoming a better person and living a better life and a healthier life right .
Right . And it's just having self-awareness and understanding what choices you need to make , like if you need one of the modalities we mentioned , or if you've tried one and it didn't do anything for you . It didn't help , it didn't work . Or maybe you went to counseling and you didn't go to a good therapist .
You know that makes me so sad when people have tried that Neither it wasn't a good therapist or it wasn't a good fit and they think , yep , well , that's not going to help . Or hey , I tried meditating one time . It's not going to , didn't do anything , it's not going to help . You got to keep trying .
You just have to keep working towards improving your health in every way . Work towards improving relationships . Or , if you have unhealthy relationships , get away from those in your life . You want to be around people who are going to help you be your best self , not bring out your worst self .
And when it comes to family members , you know you don't get to choose your family , but you can choose your friends , who become what I call framily .
You know , if you don't have a healthy family life , find people who can be your friends and be closer than the dysfunctional relationships in your family , because ultimately , the way you're going to be successful in life is if you have that to build you up so you can keep working and fighting for your best self .
So just keep working on finding a method that's going to work for you .
Don't give up , don't lose hope , and if you're listening to this , maybe it resonated with you , or maybe it resonated with you in regards to someone else in your life , because I go back to that like you , don't know who's suffering from what , and I find some of the most frustrating people that have been in my life .
If I ever took the chance to get to know a little bit about them , there's almost always an aha . That's why this happened to them . Or maybe they made a choice and there were consequences and they're suffering from that . But whatever it is , there's always a reason .
So continue to work on you being your healthiest , happiest , most whole self , and you're going to bring that out of the people around you . Iron sharpens iron .
It does , and I think that that's a really important thing , because the end goal is not just me and it's not just you , but we're supposed to make the world a better place .
Now , if I'm garbage , acting like garbage and swallowing in my garbage , I will never , ever , never ever be able to shine light or share joy or create joy or help the world around me , and and I think that even goes back to , like a lot of you know , wallowing in our trauma Sometimes one of the things that helps us to get out of it is just to go do
something for somebody else .
Absolutely .
Yeah , and that is part of iron , sharpening iron . So I think you know , for our listeners out there , definitely , you know think about , okay , you know acknowledge your trauma and then let's find solutions . And we're here to help people find solutions . And this is something we can do , whether you live in North Texas or the Dallas area or wherever .
I mean we have virtual appointments that we do , and we do work with people all over the world . But this is something to it's so important because if you want to just feel better , then fine , let's fix the physical symptoms .
If you want to heal , then you have to address the emotional component and develop spiritual peace , because without those things you're never going to have true healing and experience great health . Right , that's right . I think this is probably where we should end . I hope that you all found this information to be valuable . We would love to hear from you .
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