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Ending a relationship — whether it’s romantic, professional, or personal — is never easy. But dragging it out or softening the blow too much? That’s not kindness, that’s confusion. In this episode, I break down exactly how to cut ties with clarity and compassion, so you can move on without burning the bridge behind you. This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Upgrade Your Every Day. Get 40% off at cozyearth.com/jefferson or use code JEFFERSON at check out. Order my new book, The Next Conversati...
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering how to answer “What’s your greatest weakness?” in a job interview—or how to ask for a raise without it getting awkward—this episode is for you. Jefferson sits down with workplace communication expert and viral career content creator Erin McGoff to break down the exact words to use in the trickiest on-the-job conversations. From handling passive-aggressive coworkers to quitting your job with grace (and keeping that door open), Erin shares practical advice a...
Who you're around shapes how you speak. In this episode, I walk you through a personal communication audit—looking at who’s influencing your voice, what words no longer serve you, and how to raise your standard by surrounding yourself with people who lift you up. This is about breaking old patterns, speaking with purpose, and setting the tone for how you show up in the world. This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Upgrade Your Every Day. Get 40% off at cozyearth.com/jefferson or use code JEFFE...
If somebody came and wiped out my entire reputation and communication history — gone, erased — this is exactly how I’d rebuild it. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the three rules I would live by if I had to start over from scratch. We’re talking about how every word matters, why consistency is non-negotiable, and how welcoming the hard conversations can completely change the game. If you want to be known as someone who leaves a lasting, positive impact — at work, at home, everywhere — this is wh...
If you're a parent, there’s nothing more important than teaching your kids how to communicate — how to handle a "no," how to disagree without disrespect, and how to show kindness even when it’s hard. That’s what this episode is all about. I’m sharing a few key lessons from my own upbringing and how my wife and I are applying them with our two kids today If you're serious about raising kids who can communicate clearly, respectfully, and powerfully — this one's for you. This episode is sponsored b...
Have you ever been in a conversation where no matter what you say, it’s clear—there’s no winning? Some people are committed to misunderstanding you. In today’s episode, I’m breaking down how to protect your peace, stand your ground, and keep your integrity when someone’s trying to make you the villain in their story. Whether it’s a bully, a manipulator, or someone you just can’t reason with, this episode will help you hold your standard and respond without losing yourself. This episode is sponso...
Feeling nervous before a big conversation is normal. This episode shares three practical techniques to handle pre-conversation jitters. Learn how to declare your feelings openly, reframe potentially challenging phrases, and use breath to connect your actions with care, leading to smoother, more open discussions.
In this episode, Jefferson Fisher reflects on a powerful book review and delves into the foundational rule of his book, "The Next Conversation": say it with control. He explains how to regulate your fight-or-flight response to everyday conflict and introduces techniques like using your breath as a pause button and asking strategic questions to maintain your peace when disrespected.
Ever feel like you’re talking but not really connecting? Or maybe you’re in a conversation, and you know the other person is just waiting for their turn to talk? Well, today’s episode is about to change that. I’m sitting down with Charles Duhigg, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and author of Supercommunicators , to talk about what the best communicators do differently. And here’s the kicker: it’s not about being the most persuasive—it’s about knowing how to ask the right questions. Like what y...
Alright, let’s do something different today. This is a special bonus episode where you get to hear Chapter 1 of my new book, The Next Conversation . In this first chapter, we’re setting the stage. You’ll get a feel for what’s inside the book, and if it clicks with you, you’re going to love the full audiobook. I recorded it myself, so it’s like we’re sitting down together, walking through these conversations step by step. Take a listen, and if you're ready for more, order my new book, The Next Co...
Today is a big day, y’all. It’s book launch day. The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More is officially out in the world, and I could not be more excited (or honestly, more emotional) about it. If you’ve ever gotten something valuable from my content—if even one thing has stuck with you—I'm asking you to grab a copy of this book. Because this isn’t just a book. It’s an investment in your next conversation. And if there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s that the way we show up in conversation...
Ever walked into a conversation and felt like you were on the losing end before it even started? Whether it’s a tough negotiation, a disagreement at home, or just trying to get someone to see your side, there’s a right and wrong way to do it—and Chris Voss is the guy to teach it. I’ve been a fan of Chris’s work for a long time, and getting to sit down with him was a masterclass in negotiation, tactical empathy, and human connection. Chris is a former FBI hostage negotiator, the author of Never S...
Ever find yourself stuck in your own head, overthinking a conversation, or worrying about how someone will react? This episode is for you. Today I sit down with the legendary Mel Robbins – NYT #1 bestselling author, speaker, and the force behind The Let Them Theory . She breaks down the power of self-communication, why the way you talk to yourself shapes your confidence, and how to stop wasting energy on things you can’t control. Dive deeper into The Let Them Theory , and buy the book today at h...
How do you raise a good communicator? How do you teach kids to be kind but not a pushover? And what actually matters when it comes to parenting? In this episode, I’m sitting down with the two people who shaped my life the most—my parents. This is a personal one. But whether you're a parent, thinking about becoming one, or just curious about how childhood shapes the way we communicate, I think you’ll take something valuable away from this conversation. This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Upg...
You’re in a conversation, and things get heated. You want to make your point—but so do they. Suddenly, it feels like a battle. And if you "win," what have you really won? In this episode, I’m sharing 3 truths that will change how you communicate—for good. These simple mindsets will help you stay grounded, connect more deeply, and navigate tough conversations with clarity and confidence. Plus, I’ll share why I’m stepping into a new studio for season 2 and what you can expect moving forward. This ...
Today’s podcast is a little different. It’s personal. I’m wrapping up season 1 of the podcast, sharing some big highlights from 2024, and giving you a preview of what’s coming in 2025. And yes… I’m launching something new soon :) 2024 was full of surprises for me. Things I never saw coming. And you were a big part of that. Thank you for listening, learning, and showing up each week. I’m truly grateful to have you here. Stay tuned for season 2 of the podcast. Register now for my free live masterc...
To wrap up 2024, I’ve pulled together my top 3 podcast episodes of the year—all in one place. You’ll get tools to handle rude comments, navigate belittling remarks, and stay calm when someone isn’t being honest. No matter what comes your way in 2025, these tips will help you stay confident and in control. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Pre-order my new book, The Next Conversation , today! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Wa...
Small talk can be so awkward. You’re trying to fill the silence, but the conversation just isn’t clicking. What do you do? In this episode, I’m sharing 3 ways to make small talk feel natural, engaging, and even enjoyable. You’ll learn how to ask better questions, keep the conversation flowing, and avoid the awkward silence trap. These tips will help you turn any small talk moment—whether at a party, in line at the grocery store, or before a meeting—into a real connection. Like what you hear? Don...
This episode provides actionable strategies for managing people who dominate conversations. Jefferson Fisher discusses techniques such as interrupting with acknowledgement, summarizing to redirect, and setting time limits to ensure balanced communication. The episode also addresses the underlying insecurities that often drive this behavior and offers advice for handling superiors who monopolize meetings, emphasizing the importance of self-respect and clear boundaries.
You’re excited to share something you’re proud of, and then someone jumps in with, “Oh, that’s nothing—I’ve done [insert bigger, better thing here].” It’s like they can’t help but make it a competition. Every win you share becomes their chance to one-up you. At first, it’s just annoying. But over time, it starts to wear on you. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 simple strategies to deal with one-uppers. You’ll learn how to protect your peace, set boundaries, and stop letting these moments steal you...
Someone brushes off their rude comments with, “It was just a joke.” Or they tell you, “Don’t take it personally,” or, “You’re too sensitive.” These comments might seem small. But they can slowly tear down your self-esteem. The good news? You don’t have to let them shake you. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 simple ways to respond to dismissive comments. These strategies will help you protect your self-esteem, stand your ground, and respond to dismissive comments with confidence. Like what you hear...
Someone says something that hits a nerve, and before you know it, you’re on the defensive. Defensiveness is a normal reaction. But it can quickly escalate arguments and make things worse. Good news: there’s a better way to handle it. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 ways to stay calm and not get defensive—no matter how heated the conversation gets. These strategies will help you stay composed and avoid escalating the situation. So you can turn difficult conversations into productive ones. Like wha...
Ever feel awkward when someone compliments you? You’re not alone. It’s easy to downplay, dismiss, or deflect compliments. But there’s a better way to respond to compliments. A way that shows appreciation, self-respect, and kindness. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 simple strategies to respond to compliments. Here’s what you’ll learn: #1: How to accept compliments without feeling the need to dodge or downplay them #2: Why a simple "thank you" can make you and the other person feel great #3: Ways t...
Ever been in an argument where someone twists your words, denies things that happened, or makes you doubt your own reality? Gaslighting can be one of the most frustrating and confusing behaviors to deal with. It leaves you questioning your memory, feeling blamed, and wondering if you’re the problem. But here’s the good news: you don’t have to play by their rules. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 strategies to take back control when dealing with gaslighters. These aren’t just words. They’re practic...
Ever had that nagging feeling that someone isn’t being honest with you? It’s frustrating when you know something’s off, but you’re not sure how to address it. Especially without things getting messy. Here’s the good news: You don’t have to call someone out directly to get closer to the truth. In this episode, I’m breaking down 3 subtle ways to handle conversations when someone isn’t telling the whole story. These 3 strategies will help you keep your cool, let the other person’s honesty (or lack ...
Ever been caught off guard by a question that feels too personal, invasive, or just plain inappropriate? You’ve probably found yourself scrambling for the right way to respond—without getting flustered or defensive. Good news: You don’t have to answer those questions, and you don’t have to let them derail your confidence. In this episode, I’m breaking down 3 ways to deal with inappropriate questions that put you back in control, without causing a scene. These 3 approaches will help you respond w...
Find yourself using filler words like “um” or “uh,” or ending your sentences with uncertainty? You want to sound more confident, but you’re not sure what to do. Good news: There’s an easy way to sound more confident in every conversation. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 ways to respond with clarity and confidence, even in high-pressure situations. You'll learn how to eliminate filler words, control the tone of your voice, and use phrases that make you sound assertive—without coming across as unsu...
Ever found yourself in a heated argument with someone who just won't back down? Arguing with strong personalities can feel like you're constantly being overpowered, but there's a way to stay in control. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 strategies to help you navigate tough conversations with dominant personalities, without feeling powerless. These strategies will help you stay calm, keep the conversation productive, and confidently handle even the most forceful personalities—whether it’s at work, ...
You’re stuck in a conversation that you wish you could escape. Maybe it’s office gossip, someone oversharing, or a topic that doesn’t interest you. But you’re not sure how to get out without seeming rude. In this episode, I’m sharing my top 3 strategies to exit unwanted conversations—without being rude. You'll learn how to calmly disengage, acknowledge without agreeing, and even directly express that you want to avoid certain topics. These simple techniques will help you navigate tricky conversa...
Ever had someone put you down, but you weren’t sure how to respond? You don’t need to get defensive or fire back. There’s a better way. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 strategies to handle belittling comments with confidence and control. These strategies will help you stay calm, avoid escalating the situation, and hold your ground when someone tries to belittle you. Like what you hear? Subscribe to this podcast and leave a 5-star review. ——— Pre-Order my new book, The Next Conversation Subscribe ...
