How long has it been since someone- anyone- poured into you? In 2023, over 600 mothers gathered together to learn, to worship, to grow, to encourage, and to be encouraged. We are still in awe of what God did! The Spirit moved, the Father spoke, and Jesus healed. It was so incredible that we can’t wait to do it again! We want to invite you to join us October 3rd - 5th, 2024, for a three-day retreat designed to pour into you. We know the task of motherhood is both beautiful and hard, life giving a...
Mar 05, 2024•2 min
On today’s show, we are asking some questions to get us thinking about conflict in a helpful way. What does conflict bring up internally for us and What do we do when we are overwhelmed with the feelings that surround conflict? We not only take a deep dive into what we feel when conflict arises but also how to see others in the conflict and how it affects them. When we interact with each of our relationships we are not just interacting with the person, but also with their story and their woundin...
Feb 28, 2024•58 min•Ep. 159
Welcome to our living room! Today is our first Intentional video podcast! We hope now more than ever you feel like you are sitting in our living room conversing with us and that you leave with hope and encouragement to keep stepping into the person God sees you becoming. Today, we sit down to talk about mentorship and our influence in our families and out in the world. We discuss why mentorship is important, what makes a great mentor, and how we can become great mentors ourselves. We discuss the...
Feb 21, 2024•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 158
We have a fun show for you today. All four of us recently traveled to a great church in San Diego called Rise City, and we got to sit down at the end of the conference to do a live question and response time. Their community asked many fantastic questions that many of you have asked us, so we thought we would share this with you today. We cover questions about discipline, parenting children with special needs, our best advice for marriage, what we would do differently in our parenting, blended f...
Feb 14, 2024•1 hr 38 min•Ep. 157
Today we are covering the topic of one of the eight primary emotions, anger. Anger reveals what matters to us- both good and not good. Anger becomes a warning signal, compelling humble people to look inside to identify what emotion they are experiencing and why. Fear? Hurt? Sadness? Resentment? Anger is possibly the most important feeling we experience as emotional and spiritual beings because it is the first step to authentic living. It shows our yearnings and hunger for life. We will also cove...
Jan 31, 2024•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 156
When we teach our children to accept the word no, we give them a gift to help them as they mature into adulthood. On today’s show, Phil, Diane, Brook, and Elizabeth share some recent events where teaching the word no has proven challenging and has also provided a ton of fruit in their family. Join us today as they unpack the stories and lean into how God teaches us to accept the word no, how welcoming the word no brings contentment in life, and how we can give our children a no without breaking ...
Jan 24, 2024•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 155
Today, we discuss all things digital. How does technology form us? How does technology influence our children? What is our responsibility? The primary thing technology does is change our minds, and God invites us into the renewal of our minds. If it feels hard not to be conformed to the culture around you, you are not alone. On the show today, Brook and Elizabeth share what a digital rule of life is and what their digital rule of life looks like in their home. We have some tools that we hope are...
Jan 17, 2024•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 154
In today’s show, we have Diane, Elizabeth, and Sally Lemos Lpc sharing a conversation about Christmas and all the expectations and pressures that can come up. So often, we strive to do everything, but do we know why we are doing everything? Is it to perform for others or even to prove something to ourselves? It’s so easy to make Christmas about what we want instead of focusing on something far more important: how we make others around us feel. We hope this conversation feels like you are sitting...
Dec 20, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 153
Today, we continue answering your questions. Thank you for sending in such great ones! The first one we respond to is how to parent children who have the opposite personality as you; there is a challenge and a blessing that comes with that. Then, we discuss what repentance can look like after you have responded in anger to your kids. Listen in for some hope and helpful practices, even if you blew it. The last question for today is about how to have a conversation with your kids when someone is h...
Dec 13, 2023•57 min•Ep. 152
Phil+Diane and Brook+Elizabeth respond to a few great questions in today's show. First, they talk about what to do when you feel overwhelmed with the load God has given you. Do you constantly feel like you are living outside of your capacity with no margin? Secondly, they discuss how to navigate the subject of death with your kids. This can be a tough subject when your kids feel afraid and even harder when you, as a parent, have fears around death, too. Lastly, they respond to a question about f...
Dec 06, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 151
It’s our pleasure to welcome back Katharine Hill on our podcast today. Katherine Hill is an Author, speaker, and director for Care for the Family. In our conversation today, we discuss challenges like busyness, distractions, striving, and the digital age. Katharine shares some brilliant thoughts on attentive stillness even when life is busy and the value of being interruptable. We dive deep into finding a slower pace with God despite facing many challenges that want to pull us away. Katharine al...
Nov 29, 2023•57 min•Ep. 150
Anger is a part of the human experience and can be unpleasant, but our anger can be a gift when we listen to what it wants to communicate. The incredible Sally Lemos, MS, LPC, is on the podcast again today. Sally shares some helpful ways to learn to be aware of our anger before it turns into rage. We discuss storytellers, limits, how to slow down to go faster, and the unforced rhythms of grace. We give you four practical tools in today's show that will help you as you practice becoming a peacefu...
Nov 15, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 149
Our culture is fascinated with fear, but as Christians, how is God calling us to walk with him amid our fears? Today, the whole crew is here, and we talk all about fear, how we naturally respond to fear, how shame comes into play, how we can moralize our fears, and most importantly, how we fear not. We cover 4 points today to help you in your spiritual formation journey that God wants to use to transform us into who we really are. This process takes time, so remember to give yourself loads of gr...
Nov 08, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 148
Today, we have Matt Markins on the show. Matt is the president and CEO of Awana. Some of you may have grown up in Awana, and others have never heard of it; Awana is a child discipleship and formation program that focuses on helping parents thrive in the daily mundane formational process with their children. In this episode, we talk about the three pillars of discipleship, how to work these into our families, a vision for your home, a culture of transparency, how parenting is both mundane and mir...
Oct 25, 2023•35 min•Ep. 147
Today, We have Elizabeth Smith on the podcast. Elizabeth Smith is a professor at Moody Bible and an author. In this conversation, Brook and Elizabeth cover transparency with your kids, humility, and allowing shame to propel us to repair our relationships. Elizabeth shares the question she is researching in her doctorate: Is the Church a spiritually supportive community for children or families recovering from trauma? You will hear a few of her perspectives on crucial characteristics like empathy...
Oct 18, 2023•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 146
Today, we have ALL the speakers from our recent Motherhood Retreat sitting down and responding to your questions! There were hundreds of questions to respond to, but some to highlight in this episode are "How do I connect with boys emotionally"? "How do I interact with my parents when my maturity has grown past them"? "When it comes to saying no, how do we gracefully decline without sounding dismissive or uncaring"? We discuss these questions and many more. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram: @intent...
Oct 11, 2023•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 145
Today, we are diving into the waters of resentment, the pleasure principle, and what happens when we operate from a place of busyness and not rest. Often, in our very full lives, we can forget our end goal, Christ-likeness and being people of love. We walk through the pleasure principle and how we can move to become people who embrace maturity and not resentment. Enjoy How to move towards maturity and away from the pleasure principle 1. Acknowledge your disappointment 2. Remember Hope 3. Daily S...
Oct 04, 2023•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 144
Today, we have Jon Tyson on the podcast! So many fun and exciting topics are covered on the episode. We cover the problem of men in our time and what we can do to help our fathers, especially young boys. We talk about breaking them out of their childish thinking, bringing them into a liminal space, and then walking them through becoming men. We also cover how we can help form our daughters into adulthood and prepare them for womanhood? We lastly cover forming men, and how to get what you maybe n...
Sep 27, 2023•46 min•Ep. 143
Today, on the podcast, we walk through what it looks like to create a culture of mercy instead of judgment. We cover how God's awareness can shape our awareness and how we create this culture in our homes. We also cover the four necessities needed to cultivate mercy in your homes. Enjoy! The Four Ways: 1. Create a culture of self-awareness 2. Create a culture of curiosity rather than judgment 3. Create a culture of discernment 4. Create an others-centered culture Follow us on Instagram: @intenti...
Sep 20, 2023•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 142
Consecration is a blessing for you, your family, and generations to come. It's a beautiful gift you can give your family. In today's Show, Phil and Brook break down what consecration means and what it looks like to live a life consecrated to God. They get honest about how it is so easy not to live this way and how we can push against the current culture to move closer to holiness. Life is hard, and we all find things that help us cope or soothe our pain, but it leads us away from consecration an...
Sep 06, 2023•53 min•Ep. 141
Mean girls are not just in the movies. Today, Diane and Elizabeth talk about bullies, in particular mean girls. Our culture tolerates a level of speech towards one another that we have never seen before, especially online. It's everywhere, from prominent leaders to our families and children. The culture our children are navigating through is tricky, and the method of killing them with kindness doesn't always work. Diane and Elizabeth share some wisdom about what to do if your daughter is facing ...
Aug 23, 2023•47 min•Ep. 140
The whole crew is here today to answer more of your thoughtful questions. We cover topics like what to do when your kids test the boundaries with grandparents or other caregivers. We tease out some tricky elements like the parent's role and the grandparent's role in these situations. We also answer the question, how do we deal with catastrophic fears in parenting? We dive into the root of fears and turn to the Bible for wisdom about what God says about anxiety and our troubles. We differentiate ...
Aug 16, 2023•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 139
In today's show, Brook and Elizabeth, desire to bring you hope in the painful parts of your story. They answer your questions about kids with special needs, chronic illness, when to start testing your kids for a diagnosis, and how to help them walk through trauma. Because Brook and Elizabeth are so familiar with the pain and trauma in their own family, they want to speak to those of you who are also suffering. They share personal examples and lessons of what they have learned along their journey...
Aug 09, 2023•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 138
In today's show, we have the privilege of talking to a beautiful couple, our friends Ryan and Annie Miller, about a challenging and sensitive subject. Ryan and Annie started a non-profit called Share the Struggle. Share The Struggle is a non-profit organization that seeks to showcase God's redemptive power through media. This ministry began out of a profoundly sorrowful experience of the miscarriage of their first baby. As they walked through this trauma, it became clear that so many couples wer...
Aug 02, 2023•55 min•Ep. 137
In today's show, we respond to some of your great questions. We cover praying over your children, what it looks like, and what it doesn't look like. We discuss how easy it can be to use prayer to manipulate our children into the version we hope to see more of in them. We dive into some helpful and practical tips on praying over our children that you can start doing today! The second question we respond to is connected to the first because so much of parenting comes down to the connection between...
Jul 26, 2023•51 min•Ep. 136
In a culture that puts a high value on retirement as the ultimate destination, this insightful conversation invites you to a different perspective on Grandparenthood. We talk about a mindset shift from grandparenting being a burden to a mindset of a joyful responsibility. Phil and Diane share their insights on what they have learned through their 17 years of experience while Brook and Elizabeth talk about what adult children are needing from their parents as they raise the next generation. We ex...
Jul 19, 2023•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 135
On today's show, Brook interviews Lead Pastor, Songwriter, and author Josh White. Josh White lives in Portland, Oregon, with his wife and two kids and leads a beautiful church called Door of Hope; he has been in the music industry from a young age and has just released his first book, Stumbling Toward Eternity (see the link below). In this conversation, Brook and Josh explore Josh's childhood wounds, from bullying to becoming a parent as a child to his younger brother. This interview is full of ...
Jun 30, 2023•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 134
Today we cover the critical topic of not getting what we need as we are growing up. We cover emotional neglect, trauma, and how we recover. We talk through what happens when others accept us. Acceptance of who you are, acceptance of your idiosyncrasies, your bents, your personality. Then we cover focused attention and the idea that maybe you never received the needed attention, but God is waiting and can’t wait to give you all of his. We also cover how God gives us direction and especially moral...
Jun 21, 2023•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 133
Today's show talks about five ways moms are called to be shepherds in their homes. We define what a Shepherd is and what it looks like for moms of all ages. Our conversation circles around some vital elements like mom guilt, God's sovereignty, guarding what God has entrusted to you, pursuing wholeness, and continuing to grow in each stage of motherhood. As moms, it is easy to feel like we have to do this all perfectly, and if we don't, we are messing up our children. Still, we invite you into th...
Jun 14, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 132
Today we respond to one of your questions that we think deserved some thoughtful conversation. The question was asked, "If you could do one thing differently, what would it be?" In our response to this great question, we explore a variety of insights and wisdom that God has taught us through the years. Some topics we discuss are shame versus regret, understanding the need behind our kid's emotions, how God deals with our emotions, our need for control, limitations that are gifts, the secret to h...
Jun 07, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 131
