Why Some Guys Are Scared To Make The First Move
Dudes - do you get nervous to shoot your shot, because you don’t want to come across as creepy?
Jul 18, 2023•35 min
The Hook Up
The Hook Up is about love, sex and relationships. We answer your questions, learn things together, cry over heartbreak and normalise shit. Every Tuesday Dee and Pip debate your dating dilemmas and hear your cooked stories. Every Thursday it's the sex ed you never had — we call on an expert to go deep and find answers with Dee.
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Episodes
Love Me Hate Me But You Still Date Me
Have you dated someone where you love each other so hard, but at the flip of a switch, you hate them? We investigate the rollercoaster of love-hate relationships and why you stay on the ride.
Jul 11, 2023•26 min
BONUS: Pomara Fifth on Indigenous Culture In Drag
If you don’t know Pomara Fifth, hit play on this episode and get to know her. She’s part of the deadly new generation of indigenous drag queens in Australia who’s charisma, uniqueness, nerve and talent has seen her on Rupaul’s Drag Race, Miss First Nations, and up on stage with Jess Mauboy at the Opera House. In this chat, we celebrate Pomara and hear her journey as an artist and how she incorporates her Aboriginal and Maori culture through her drag.
Jul 06, 2023•29 min
Nipple Play: How To Have A Nipple Orgasm
Did you know nipple orgasms are a thing? 👀 We didn’t, so we asked you about it and you told us nipple play is a huge part of your routine - so we find out how to lick, suck, clamp and suction our way to pure nipply pleasure (and how to get over our nip-securities).
Jul 04, 2023•41 min
Should You Tell Your Friend Their Partner’s Kinda Shit?
We’ve all been there, when your mate is dating someone you just don’t vibe with. But is it ever your place to say something? We hear your hot takes and find out the best way to tell your friend that you don’t like their partner.
Jun 27, 2023•35 min
BONUS: Linda Marigliano on People Pleasing in Relationships
“On my thirtieth birthday I got engaged. Six months later I was single for the first time in almost ten years.” Presenter and podcaster Linda Marigliano was in the ‘perfect’ relationship, so why did she decide to end it? In this bonus ep, Dee chats to Linda about her struggle with perfectionism, people pleasing and how she finally learned how to love with boundaries.
Jun 22, 2023•31 min
The Slay And Flop Era of Your Menstrual Cycle Explained
If you have a regular period cycle - ever wondered why you hate everyone a few days before you get your period? But some days you’re in a full on slay era? Ever wondered how many eggs you actually have? And how to tell when you’re ovulating? In this ep - we’ve got the ultimate masterclass on the menstrual cycle from Dr Theresa Larkin - everything you need to know about hormones, periods, and your follicular (slay) and luteal (flop) phases.
Jun 20, 2023•40 min
BONUS: Dr Yves Rees On Their Journey Transitioning
Dr Yves Rees is a trans non-binary writer, podcaster and historian who recently wrote a book about their experience transitioning - called All About Yves, Notes From a Transition. In this bonus ep, Yves spoke to Dee about when they first realised they were trans, their journey transitioning, finding their non-binary identity, navigating their sexuality and finding their community online.
Jun 15, 2023•20 min
What You Need To Know About Transitioning Gender
If you think you might be trans, or if you’re starting to transition, what are the first steps to take on this journey?In this ep we get advice on some of the health and medical info you might need, as well as how to navigate your sex and dating life during this time. You’ll hear from trans writer Dr Yves Rees on their journey and discovering their non-binary identity during lockdown.
Jun 13, 2023•54 min
Is It Ok To Trauma Dump On The First Date?
On a first date, if someone overshared about past trauma would you be put off by that? Or find that kind of vulnerability refreshing? We hear your hot takes on trauma dumping, why some people do it and how to share trauma without traumatising the person on the receiving end.
Jun 06, 2023•29 min
To Trust Or Not To Trust From Date #1
In dating, should you trust people from the start? Or should trust be earned over time? We get full philosophical in this ep, hear your hot takes and get a psych’s professional opinion. And we’ll also find out how to build trust in a relationship and how to deal when it’s broken.
May 30, 2023•31 min
BONUS: All Things Drag With Monét X Change
We chat with singer, stand-up comedian, and Rupaul’s Drag Race royalty Monét X Change.
May 25, 2023•27 min
When You’re Worried About Being Inexperienced
Ever feel like you’re inexperienced when it comes to dating, relationships, kissing or sex? If everyone around you is hooking up or falling in love, it can feel isolating, like you’re being left behind or that there’s something wrong with you. It’s a super common experience and we unpack why there’s nothing wrong with you, or hitting these milestones later in life.
May 23, 2023•39 min
How To Talk Dirty (Without Giving Yourself The Ick)
Talking dirty can be SO hot! But if it’s something you’ve never really done before, it can be kinda awkward. In this episode, we get your hot tips and find out how to chat to your partner about what you like.
May 16, 2023•29 min
How To Keep The Honeymoon Phase Alive
When you first start dating someone, you’re infatuated with them - you’ve got the rose-coloured glasses on and everything is just so passionate. For most of us, this starts to fade after a few months. But not everyone. In this episode we find out how to keep the honeymoon period going.
May 09, 2023•29 min
What You’re Entitled To In A De Facto Relationship (It’s A Lot)
If you’ve lived with a partner for two or more years, you’re actually considered de facto. Which means if you split up…there’s a lot on the table when it comes to your money, assets even your super. It’s pretty much the same as getting a divorce. In this episode, we find out what you’re entitled to and your rights, plus how to protect yourself.
May 02, 2023•24 min
BONUS: Your New Rules with Chris Cheers
If you’re being honest with yourself - how’s your life going? Do you feel like you’re just coasting through, or stuck in a bit of rut? Or feeling uninspired? Chris Cheers is a psychologist who’s been helping people change the way they think about love, their bodies, their emotions, and self-care. In this bonus ep, he’ll give you some great advice on how to do just that, so you can be your best self.
Apr 25, 2023•39 min
What Is Pocketing? And Is It Happening To Me?
If you’re dating someone and they’re not introducing you to their friends, family or posting about you on socials - they might be ‘pocketing’ you. In this episode, we investigate why people are pocketers (lol Pip) and how to know if there’s something shady going on (aka cheating).
Apr 18, 2023•28 min
Everything You Need To Know About Soft Cock Play
Did you know you can actually cum from a flaccid penis?! There’s SO much emphasis on hard and erect cocks (hello porn) that not a lot of people play with and embrace a dick when it’s soft. It’s something a lot of you told us you feel awkward about. So here’s how to feel more comfortable around them, some practical tips for solo and partnered sex, and how to orgasm without an erection.
Apr 11, 2023•29 min
How Often Should You Be Messaging In The Talking Stage?
There’s so many unspoken rules and expectations when it comes to messaging someone for the first time. You can find yourself over-analysing texts and getting anxious if someone doesn’t reply to you for ages, honestly it’s a total headf*ck. And a lot of you told us - a shit texter is a deal breaker for you.
Apr 04, 2023•39 min
How To Deal With Insecurity And Jealousy In Relationships
It’s completely normal to feel jealous but sometimes it can make you act out in ways that can be damaging to your relationship. Maybe you go through your partner's phone, or won’t let them be friends with their friends. We find out how to deal with insecurities and how to best support as a partner.
Mar 28, 2023•36 min
BONUS: Rainbow History Class With Hannah McElhinney
Ever heard of the Ancient roman trans icon Elagabalus who set tigers on her dinner party guests? Or what about the San Diego lesbians banding together to save gay men during the HIV AIDS crisis? There’s so many queer and trans stories that've been erased all the back from ancient China to now, but author and content creator Hannah McElhinney is here to teach the history you never learnt in school.
Mar 21, 2023•32 min
How To Actually Nail Foreplay
The great Esther Perel once said “foreplay begins after your last orgasm”. So if it’s something you do for a couple of minutes before sex - target audience reached. You need to hear this.
Mar 14, 2023•23 min
QUEER LOVE BITES: An Asexual Love Story
To celebrate WorldPride this month, we’re hearing your queer bite-sized love stories - and now it's time for the big finale.
Mar 08, 2023•19 min
What's Performance Anxiety? And Why Can It Cause Erectile Dysfunction?
If you’ve struggled to get hard or ‘get it up’ it might be because you’re stressed or anxious about being good in bed. And so many of you told us you have so much shame around erectile dysfunction. In this ep, we find out what performance anxiety is, how to cope, and how to best help as a partner.
Mar 07, 2023•32 min
QUEER LOVE BITES: The Art Collector and The Artist
To celebrate WorldPride this month, we’re hearing your queer bite-sized love stories. And nothing screams modern gay love like a grindr hook up that turned into the love of your life moving into your place the very next day. That’s what happened to art collector Wade who fell in love at first sight with artist Teejay.
Mar 01, 2023•8 min
How To Date And Find Love In A Small Town
Dating in regional or rural Australia can be pretty tough. There’s like five people on the apps, everyone knows everyone’s business and you have to be careful you don’t accidentally go on a date with your second cousin.
Feb 28, 2023•25 min
QUEER LOVE BITES: Kitchen Encounter
To celebrate WorldPride this month, we’re hearing your queer bite-sized love stories.
Feb 22, 2023•7 min
When Is The Right Time To Move In Together?
Moving in with your partner can make or break a relationship - you might see a bunch of red flags or it might make you closer than ever. We find out if there's a right time to do it, and get some hot tips from you on how to make it work.
Feb 21, 2023•35 min
How To Explore And Embrace Your Bisexuality
You told us that dating as a bisexual person can be a really shit time. You've had people say stuff like "it’s just a phase" or "pick a side."
Feb 14, 2023•33 min
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