Welcome to the podcast that’s here to flip your world—and your mindset—upside down.
This is The Hilary Silver Podcast, where being self-centered isn’t selfish—it’s the cheat code to getting everything you want in life. Because when YOU are good, everything else falls into place. Your relationships, your confidence, your success, your body, your peace—they all start with you.
So, if you’ve been running yourself ragged trying to be everything for everyone and still wondering why you feel like crap, buckle up. It’s time to step into the role of the main character in your own life.
Hilary’s the straight-talking, script-flipping, former psychotherapist you didn’t know you needed—part brain science, part universal laws, and 100% no bullshit. She’s your bestie with receipts, here to help you stop waiting for permission, start trusting yourself, and finally build a life that feels as good as it looks.
Every week, Hilary dives into the real stuff—confidence, boundaries, aging, relationships, success—all the things that actually matter, without the fluff (or the toxic positivity). Just real talk, hard truths, and tools that work, served up with little spoonfuls of sweetness to help the medicine go down.
New episodes drop every Friday on all podcast platforms and YouTube.
Hit follow, tune in, and let’s make self-centered the best thing that’s ever happened to you.
Everything you’ve been told about managing anxiety? It’s probably making it worse. In this episode, Hilary is tearing up the mainstream advice playbook—because counting backwards, meditating through a full-blown panic spiral, or just “getting more sleep” isn’t going to cut it. Anxiety isn’t the real problem—it’s a symptom. A flashing red warning light. And until you fix what’s actually going on underneath, you’ll be stuck dealing with it forever. The good news? You are both the problem and the s...
You want love, success, confidence, the dream body—because obviously. But what if I told you that the way you’re going after it is exactly why it keeps slipping through your fingers? Yeah, it’s not the goal that’s the problem. It’s how you’re wired to chase it. In this episode, Hilary drops the truth bomb you didn’t know you needed: The constant grind for external validation—whether it’s from a relationship, your bank account, or the number on the scale—only reinforces the idea that you’re not e...
They told us aging meant fading into the background—HA, not a chance. In this unapologetic episode, Hilary is flipping the script on what it really means to be a powerful woman over 50. After her viral episode “How I Turn Heads Over 50”, the internet had a lot to say—some women embraced the message, others questioned the need for attention, and plenty misunderstood the real point. But she’s here to set the record straight: this isn’t about validation, and it’s definitely NOT about seeking male a...
People are shocked when they find out Hilary is 52. They see the abs, the energy, and the glow, and immediately want to know the secret. Well, in this episode, she’s spilling it all—the workouts, the mindset, the aesthetics, and yes, the cosmetic procedures she’s done (and proud of). Because here’s the deal: taking care of yourself isn’t vain, it’s self-respect. This is not about fighting aging—Hilary loves getting older. But embracing aging doesn’t mean just rolling over and accepting every wri...
Hilary is diving into your questions, and as always, she’s keeping it real. In this Q&A episode, she tackles some of the biggest struggles high-achieving women face—from owning your confidence to battling that nagging loneliness even when your life looks great on paper. If you’ve ever felt unseen, stuck, or just plain over it, this episode is your wake-up call. Episode Highlights: Confidence isn’t about approval, it’s about presence. When you feel valuable, you become magnetic—no validation ...
Hilary discusses how to figure out what you want when you feel lost, especially after focusing on career and family. She shares practical exercises like observing yourself, using jealousy as a clue, and exploring your desires without limits. The episode emphasizes reconnecting with yourself, prioritizing your feelings, and experimenting to discover what truly brings you joy and fulfillment.
Think manifesting is just for the hippie crowd? Think again. In this episode, Hillary breaks down the science behind manifesting and shows you why it’s not magic—it’s mindset. From neuroscience to universal laws, Hillary reveals how to stop blocking your blessings and start becoming an unstoppable magnet for everything you want. No crystals or vision boards required (unless you’re into that). Episode Highlights: Why manifesting works (and why you’ve been doing it wrong). The two universal laws t...
Resentment is toxic AF. It’s the sneaky little emotion that quietly poisons your mood, relationships, and maybe even your skin. In this episode, Hillary peels back the layers of resentment, exposing it as the blend of hurt, anger, and judgment that keeps you stuck in victim mode. Feeling overlooked or undervalued? It’s time to face the real truth: resentment is a YOU problem. It’s time to stop blaming others, own your role, and set yourself free from the soul-sucking cycle of stewing and simmeri...
Tired of your own BS thought loops? Let’s fix that. In this episode, Hilary reveals the game-changing power of thought habits—the deeply ingrained patterns of thinking that shape your actions, your mindset, and ultimately your success. Drawing from her personal journey of reprogramming her mind, Hilary spills the tea on how she rewired her own mindset to become a more positive, unstoppable, self-led powerhouse—and how you can too. Trust us, adopting even ONE of these high-vibe thought habits wil...
Setting big goals is easy. Staying on track when life inevitably throws you a curveball? That’s the real challenge. In this episode, Hillary Silver shares seven game-changing tools to help you stay committed to your goals—even when you mess up (because you will, and that’s okay). Forget perfectionism; it’s about showing up for yourself, learning from setbacks, and making progress every day. Hillary dives into the practical and mindset shifts needed to turn your resolutions into realities, withou...
Control freaks, brace yourselves! In the final episode of her five-part series, Hilary serves up a truth bomb with the fifth core concept of her self-centered model: The outcome is internal. Translation? Stop obsessing over things you can’t control and start owning what’s already yours—your inner power. Hilary breaks down why we tie our worth to things we can’t control—whether it’s nailing the job interview, getting the client deal, or making someone like us. Really, It’s a losing game. She shar...
Your past doesn’t define you—unless you let it. In this episode, Hilary Silver serves up a reality check with core concept number four of her self-centered model: identity is a choice. That’s right—who you are isn’t carved in stone, no matter what your childhood, parents, or society told you. For too long, you’ve been letting outdated beliefs and hand-me-down narratives dictate your life. It’s time to rip up that old script and write a new one where YOU call the shots. Whether you’re 40, 50, or ...
We’ve been told that putting others first is the hallmark of a good person, but what if that’s a big, fat lie? In this episode, Hilary Silver tackles the myth of selflessness head-on, revealing how this deeply ingrained belief isn’t just harmful—it’s downright toxic. Drawing on her decades of experience as a psychotherapist and lifestyle mentor, Hilary introduces the third core concept of her self-centered model: "In your life, you come first and you go first." Hilary explains how the pressure t...
Ever been told, “The world doesn’t revolve around you”? Yeah, same. Hillary is here to call BS on that tired cliché. In this episode, she’s rewriting the narrative and proving why your world absolutely should and DOES revolve around you For too long, we’ve been guilted into thinking that putting ourselves first is wrong, especially women. Hillary is showing you why being the sun in your own universe is the only way to thrive. When you focus on your energy, your mindset, and your desires, every p...
If you’ve ever wished you could cut through the noise of self-help fluff and get straight to the good stuff, buckle up. Hilary is about to deliver 25 years’ worth of raw, unfiltered, no-BS therapy advice—distilled into just 12 minutes. Best believe she’s not here to hand you more surface-level band-aids for your problems. Hilary’s seen it all. After tens of thousands of hours spent in one-on-one sessions with clients, she’s got the receipts on what works and what doesn’t. In this episode, she ca...
Think self-discipline is the key to success? Think again. Drawing from her own transformation, Hilary explains why self-discipline is the anti-hero of personal growth—restrictive, harsh, and downright unsustainable. Instead of relying on rigid rules and unrealistic expectations, Hillary introduces the concept of self-devotion—a compassionate, loving, and sustainable approach to achieving your goals. Think of self-devotion as the unwavering commitment you’d expect from a devoted partner but turne...
In this final episode of 2024, Hilary sets the stage for your most transformative year yet. January 1st isn’t just another day—it’s game day, and you’re stepping into it armed with the mindset and tools to crush your goals. Hilary breaks down her self-centered approach to success, showing how internal growth unlocks the external life you’ve always dreamed of. Episode Highlights: Ready to ditch the doubt? Hilary’s hourglass method shows you how to turn internal growth into external wins Stop wish...
Who do you think you are? No, seriously. Because the truth is, you are exactly who you think you are. The way you see yourself? That’s the reality you’re living. Your thoughts shape everything—what you do, what you achieve, and what you believe is possible (or not)! In this episode, Hilary explains how your self-perception and thought patterns are the biggest factors holding you back or propelling you forward. If you’re stuck in the same old patterns, here's the good news: you’re just running an...
How many times have you said, “I’ll start after the holidays,” or “I’ll get to it when things slow down?” Waiting for the “perfect time” is just a sneaky way of staying stuck… and Hilary is here to call you out on it! In this episode, Hilary tackles the excuses we tell ourselves and shows us how to stop sitting on the sidelines of life. With her signature no-BS style, she’s serving up the truth about why now is always the right time to go after what you want, and how investing in yourself is the...
Episode 33: Mental Load: Feel More Joy & Drop The Invisible Weight Ladies, it's time to ditch the Superwoman cape! Who says you have to be the holiday magic-maker while juggling life like a circus act? In this episode, Hilary Silver pulls back the curtain on the mental load—the invisible, never-ending to-do list that's got you running the household 24/7. And let's be real, the holidays just crank up the chaos. Hilary reveals the truth about why we end up stuck in this exhausting role and how...
Episode 32: Awaken Your Feminine Energy for Beauty, Productivity, and Love Ladies, let’s get real: juggling work, family, and everything in between is no small feat. But does it have to come at the expense of your well-being (and let’s face it, your glow)? In this episode, Hilary gets candid about why living in constant overdrive isn’t the flex we think it is, and how reconnecting with your feminine energy could just be the ultimate life hack! Episode Highlights: The secret to looking, feeling, ...
Episode 31: Five Rules I Break for Fitness Who says you have to follow the rules to get fit? Hilary Silver unapologetically shreds the fitness handbook and proves you don’t need rigid routines to look amazing at 52. Forget arm day, endless cardio, and those boring sit-ups! In this episode, Hilary shares the five fitness rules she proudly ignores (plus the one rule that she never breaks). Episode Highlights: Break the rules! Fitness isn’t one-size-fits-all. Hilary’s approach to fitness is proof y...
Episode 30: Life on Your Own Terms Being self-centered isn’t selfish. It’s the ultimate power move! It’s time to put yourself first in a way that’s empowering, not egotistical. In this episode, Hilary redefines what it means to be self-centered and why it’s the key to living life on your own terms. At 52, she’s thriving in her health, relationships, business—literally every area of her life—and she’s here to show you how you can do it too. Episode Highlights: Forget the lie that “the world doesn...
Episode 29: Don’t Be Invisible Over 50 Ladies, forget “fading” with age. Hilary Silver is here to bust that myth wide open and show you how aging can crank up your confidence and magnetism. In this episode, she shuts down “Invisible Woman Syndrome”—a tired idea that women lose their spark over time. At 52, Hilary is thriving! She’s strutting into every room with a presence that demands attention, not for validation, but because she knows exactly who she is. Episode Highlights: Confidence isn’t a...
Episode 28: 6 Reasons Why You’re Stuck If you’ve mastered the “know better” game but somehow can’t crack the code to “do better“, this episode is for you! Hilary digs into the hidden mental blocks that keep you looping back to old habits. Tired of self-help that doesn’t stick? Get ready to uncover the six secret saboteurs standing between you and real, lasting change. Episode Highlights: Hilary breaks down three levels of self-awareness that expose why we keep circling back to old patterns. Blam...
Episode 27: Uplevel in 2025 Ready to stop messing around and finally start making big moves in your life? In this episode, Hilary breaks down five power plays that are going to help you get exactly what you want—faster. She’s pulling back the curtain on the mindsets and strategies that have taken her from stuck to unstoppable. Hilary’s got the blueprint to get you where you want to go and in this episode she delivers with no fluff, just real results. Episode Highlights: Get clear or get stuck. I...
Episode 26: Hard Work Won’t Make You Rich Think working yourself to the bone is the only way to get rich? Hilary flips that tired narrative on its head. Forget grinding yourself into the ground! Hilary built a $12 million business and hit millionaire status by 47, not by hustling harder, but by shifting her mindset. She’s here to tell you that wealth isn’t all about effort but also about energy. And in this episode, she’s sharing the three principles that took her from endless hustle to serious ...
Episode 25: Life Advice That Actually Sucks Social media’s got advice flying at you from every angle—some of it sounds like a hug, but a lot of it just keeps you stuck. Hilary serves up the truth about why taking radical responsibility is the only way to break free and grow. With her no-nonsense approach, Hilary dives into the harmful narratives that TikTok, Instagram, and influencers everywhere are selling—and why they’re keeping you trapped in toxic cycles instead of helping you level up. Epis...
Episode 24: 9 Things WINNERS Don’t Do What makes high achievers stand out? Hilary Silver is here to break down 9 things winners don’t do—trust us, it’s not what you think. Ready to up your game in life, love, or business? This episode is your VIP ticket! Episode Highlights: Winners don’t sit around complaining. They handle it, find solutions, and move on. Blame games are for losers. Winners own their stuff and get to work fixing the problem, not shifting the blame. Making excuses? Not a chance. ...
Episode 23: This Virtue May Make You RICH What if impatience wasn’t a flaw but your secret success weapon? Hilary Silver flips the script on the idea that patience is always a virtue. She shows how tapping into her impatience fueled her transition from local therapist to global coaching powerhouse. In this episode, Hilary reveals how urgency, action, and a fearless attitude have been the keys to her unstoppable success. Episode Highlights: Hilary doesn’t just embrace impatience—she owns it. Lear...
