New goal in life! From now on I am going to work on listening to my gut and activating my gut center. Which is gonna be hard because I am very much a heart-centered person. My heart is the one that makes most of the decisions in my life. But my gut is where I’m supposed to be the most confident, the most daring, the most courageous. I want to be more of all of that! So does that mean I’m going against my Enneagram type? Not exactly. The Enneagram has taught me a lot about balance. I’ve learned t...
Jun 24, 2023•34 min•Season 2Ep. 18
If you haven’t noticed, we don’t hold anything back on this podcast! I’ll talk about the hard feelings of moving around the globe, the ups and downs of deployment, and the silver linings of every situation. Which is why I wanted to invite not one, but two, very authentic speakers to the podcast. This week we’re talking to Candus Griffin and Mary Monroe, the masterminds behind the Shine Sis podcast. These ladies do not shy away from the rough realities of life, including how hard it is to maintai...
Jun 03, 2023•44 min•Season 3Ep. 11
Enneagram typing can be tricky for people in the military lifestyle. The frequent relocation, changes to plans, and being separated from your spouse can make you look like an Enneagram type you may not recognize. But that’s also not a bad thing, funnily enough. It’s a learning tool in and of itself! This is why me and my guest, Kellie Artis, love the enneagram framework! You always have a core type, which never changes, but as we move through life’s stressors, our strategies change, and learning...
May 20, 2023•57 min•Season 2Ep. 17
Life comes at you fast, but that’s ok! Creative Director and Business Owner Morgan Specht is ready for anything. When she first met her husband, they were both employees at their local Costco. Fast forward a few years later and they became new business owners, her husband re-enlists after 10 years, and she has to restructure her business to work from anywhere. How did she do it all?! Morgan Specht is the creative director, brand strategist, and founder of Specht & Co. creative studio. Profes...
May 06, 2023•36 min•Season 3Ep. 10
Have you ever felt lonely and wanted to call your milspouse friends, but put down the phone because you were afraid they’d be too busy to talk? You want to keep in touch with your friends all around the world but you just don’t know how. This is exactly the problem our guest Mathew Shanks is solving for us today. Mathew hopped on a call (or three 😅) with me to talk about how he created communities halfway around the world when he had none. Matthew Shanks is a military spouse, dad, and entrepren...
Apr 22, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Season 4Ep. 2
Welcome back to another installment of the Late Career Milspouse series! This week I have the pleasure of speaking with the amazing interior designer and business owner, Brittany Zimmerman! Brittany is the owner of Bleu Bee Designs - a boutique residential interior decorating company. Bleu Bee Designs offers in-person and virtual design services across the United States, making it perfect for the ever-changing Milspouse life! Brittany is a half-glass-full kind of person as you will hear on this ...
Apr 08, 2023•38 min•Season 3Ep. 9
This week we are switching it up and speaking to male milspouse and Marine Corps veteran, Chris Molina! Chris is a girl dad and a leadership coach who finds himself navigating the female-dominated milspouse space. Chris and I discuss his experience as a milspouse, why he loves being a girl dad to his daughter, and his passion for understanding code-switching in every environment. As a man in the female-dominated milspouse world, Chris feels the sense of isolation that many milspouses can relate ...
Mar 25, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Season 4Ep. 1
💁🏻♀️ Welcome to an episode that is the first of its kind! Join a brave milspouse (and friend of mine), Manda Lynn McVey during a live Enneagram Typing Session! Together we addressed: How can two Enneagram types feel like a fit? What’s the difference between leading with your gut and following your heart? Through a series of questions and vulnerable shares, we were able to: Narrow down to her Enneagram type (huzzah!) Make meaning of her lifelong attunement to her gut center, and how it has inf...
Mar 11, 2023•51 min•Season 2Ep. 16
🤓 Welcome to a new type of episode on this podcast. Join me for an impromptu, introspective conversation between me and my service member about potentially retiring from the military in the next few years. We're in that limbo period where no decision has been made, but this conversation has come up more frequently in the past 6 months. If you're where we are now, we want to hear from you! Let us know what resonated with you: I love DMs! @mil.spouse ------------------------------------ The backg...
Mar 01, 2023•51 min•Season 1Ep. 24
If you're catching this episode in real time, vote for me for the AFI Military Spouse of the Year® here (and thank you! ♥️): https://msoy.afi.org/profiles/2023-jayla-rae-ardelean ...Everyone get ready for a dose of inspiration on what Late Career Milspouses are capable of! 2022 AFI Army Spouse of the Year®, Monica Basset entered military life in her 30's, and has never stopped building community wherever they've been stationed since! As an advocate for fighting military food insecurity, her pass...
Feb 10, 2023•44 min•Season 3Ep. 8
Talking with Tonia felt like an inspiring pep talk on vulnerability, how to make career pivots, and relationship woes I didn't even know I needed! Please enjoy her spirit ♥️ Topics we cover: 👉🏻Where Tonia was at with her relationship history as a single mom when meeting her service member 👉🏻What it's like to be a black female mother in the construction industry, and how she pivoted to keep her career 👉🏻Her experience with seasoned spouses 👉🏻Tonia's beautiful permission slip to fellow Lat...
Jan 28, 2023•30 min•Season 3Ep. 7
Welcome back to the deployment series (where The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast began in 2021 ❤️)! Our reintegration period isn't exactly over yet, but in this episode you'll hear how it started , and where are marriage is now . Though we had to huddle together to successfully PCS overseas and take on my step kids on full time in summer 2022, we had a huge obstacle to overcome: We had just been apart for 11 months while he was deployed, and were struggling to work together. We went through a rough...
Dec 18, 2022•29 min•Season 1Ep. 23
Get ready to discuss how and why Late Career Milspouses are nowhere near the default messaging for milspouses, and why we should care about this! The future of this category of milspouses is in our hands, and my guest today shares her infinite wisdom on how to get resourceful. This is Episode #6 of The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast series highlighting Late Career Milspouse/Milso stories + their experiences ♥️ Topics we cover: 👉🏻How Manda Lynn was backed into a professional corner, and where she...
Dec 03, 2022•49 min•Season 3Ep. 6
Ever wonder how or why mental health advocates for military families get their start? Maybe you too see this in your future as a milspouse? Join me and Jenny Lynne Stroup of the award-winning Holding Down the Fort Podcast for a debrief on what it's like to assimilate into military culture (after spending much of your life on the outside), and how seeking mental health resources for yourself is the best way to see cracks in the system. Warning: this conversation just might inspire you to take on ...
Sep 03, 2022•59 min•Season 3Ep. 5
Welcome to the Deployment Recap episode! ❤️ I began this podcast as a way to record my experience of a 12-month-long deployment, and along the way it turned into so much more! In this episode you will hear clips from chosen episodes from the Deployment Series, including a reintegration update at the end. Thank you for listening to the podcast for one whole year - we're celebrating its first anniversary together! 🎉 ------------------------------------ Consider supporting the podcast by buying me...
Aug 20, 2022•56 min•Season 1Ep. 22
Get ready for the truth about what it means to have a strong identity before joining the military lifestyle! In this episode I talk with Jessica Wright, as she vulnerably shares her point of view with us. Becoming a Late Career Milspouse is like this: 👉🏻Don't know how or where you need to catch up? Yep. 👉🏻Hearing archaic advice from spouses who've been doing this for a long time? Yep. 👉🏻Feeling like your identity prior to becoming a milspouse is painful to change or even let go of? Absolut...
Aug 06, 2022•53 min•Season 3Ep. 4
Are you ever curious to hear a female veteran's perspective after leaving the military? Join me and Jeanette for a no-holds-barred conversation on what it means to be a black woman inside and outside what she describes as the most "toxic" relationship she's ever had. This is Episode #3 of The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast series highlighting Late Career Milspouse/Milso stories + experiences ❤️ Questions we cover: 👉🏻How and where Jeanette met her service member (it's scandalous!) 👉🏻Challenges ...
Jul 30, 2022•52 min•Season 3Ep. 3
Join me for an open + honest conversation with Samantha about what it means to shed our biases about the military, after having begun relationships with service members later in our lives. We bond over our challenged relationships with the military through the lens of punk rock, being millennials, and share our complicated thoughts about the Iraq War and the War in Afghanistan. As a Late Career Milso and nomadic copywriter, Samantha's story about entering military life is one you don't want to m...
Jul 02, 2022•53 min•Season 3Ep. 2
Join me for a fun + candid conversation with Lindsay! As Late Career Milspouses, hear us bond over how we have pivoted our careers AND marriages countless times! This is Episode #1 of a brand new series highlighting Late Career Milspouse stories + experiences ❤️. Questions we cover: 👉🏻Intro to how you and your husband met, and where you were at in life when y'all met 👉🏻What are some particular challenges you've experienced as a Late Career Milspouse? 👉🏻When we use this term "Late Career Mi...
Jun 18, 2022•55 min•Season 3Ep. 1
I captured all of the feelings and worries leading up to homecoming in this episode! It's been a wild ride preparing for him to come home after 11 months of being gone. But what's consuming my headspace may not be what you expect. ------------------------------------ Support the podcast by buying me an espresso here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jaylarae The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast is hosted by Jayla Rae Ardelean, Late Career Milspouse Mentor. Grab your ✨free✨ deployment resource here: jayl...
Jun 11, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 21
I'm giving you the the 3 steps to harnessing the full power of your personality using the Enneagram in this episode! Listen in for a special announcement 🎉 ------------------------------------ Join the Milspouse Spark group coaching program here: j aylarae.com/spark Support the podcast by buying me an espresso here 😉: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jaylarae The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast is hosted by Jayla Rae Ardelean, Late Career Milspouse Mentor, Speaker, and Writer. Grab your ♥️free♥️ enne...
May 09, 2022•13 min•Season 2Ep. 15
Learn about all 9 types’ idealized self-images, (2) journal prompts to help you wake up to this constructed image, and how these images inform the roles we take on. The Enneagram Milspouse Spark group coaching program is now open for enrollment for a limited time! Head to jaylarae.com/spark to see what it’s all about ♥️ In this episode you'll find the idealized self-images of all 9 types. Type 1 Type 2 Type 3 Type 4 Type 5 Type 6 Type 7 Type 8 Type 9 ------------------------------------ Support ...
May 02, 2022•13 min•Season 2Ep. 14
In the Enneagram every type has a set of triggers. Why should we care about this? Because even though the triggers may always come, what we *can* do is control our reaction to them. But first comes my fav thing—building self-awareness around the things that scare or threaten us ♥️ This episode is devoted to the Head Triad: Type 5 Type 6 Type 7 ------------------------------------ Support the podcast by buying me an espresso here 😉: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jaylarae The Heart of a Milspouse ...
Apr 25, 2022•8 min•Season 2Ep. 13
In the Enneagram every type has a set of triggers. Why should we care about this? Because even though the triggers may always come, what we *can* do is control our reaction to them. But first comes my fav thing—building self-awareness around the things that scare or threaten us ♥️ This episode is devoted to the Heart Triad: Type 2 Type 3 Type 4 ------------------------------------ Support the podcast by buying me an espresso here 😉: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jaylarae The Heart of a Milspouse...
Apr 18, 2022•9 min•Season 2Ep. 12
In the Enneagram every type has a set of triggers. Why should we care about this? Because even though the triggers may always come, what we *can* do is control our reaction to them. But first comes my fav thing—building self-awareness around the things that scare or threaten us ♥️ This episode is devoted to the Gut Triad: Type 8 Type 9 Type 1 ------------------------------------ Support the podcast by buying me an espresso here 😉: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jaylarae The Heart of a Milspouse P...
Apr 11, 2022•9 min•Season 2Ep. 11
In the Enneagram, everyone has a Vice unique to each type, as well as a Virtue. In this episode we're covering the Heart Triad (2, 3, 4), and learning how to build more self-awareness around the process of moving from Vice to Virtue! Type 2 Vice to Virtue I Pride ➡️ Humility Type 3 Vice to Virtue I Deceit ➡️ Hope Type 4 Vice to Virtue I Envy ➡️ Equanimity ------------------------------------ Support the podcast by buying me an espresso here 😉: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jaylarae The Heart of ...
Apr 09, 2022•8 min•Season 2Ep. 8
In the Enneagram, everyone has a Vice unique to each type, as well as a Virtue . In this episode we're covering the Gut Triad (8, 9, 1), and learning how to build more self-awareness around the process of moving from Vice to Virtue ! Type 8 Vice to Virtue I Lust ➡ Innocence Type 9 Vice to Virtue I Self-forgetting ➡ Right Action Type 1 Vice to Virtue I Anger ➡ Serenity ------------------------------------ Support the podcast by buying me an espresso here 😉: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jaylarae ...
Apr 09, 2022•9 min•Season 2Ep. 9
In the Enneagram, everyone has a Vice unique to each type, as well as a Virtue. In this episode we're covering the Head Triad (5, 6, 7), and learning how to build more self-awareness around the process of moving from Vice to Virtue! Type 5 Vice to Virtue I Avarice ➡ Non-attachment Type 6 Vice to Virtue I Doubt ➡ Faith Type 7 Vice to Virtue I Gluttony ➡ Sobriety ------------------------------------ Support the podcast by buying me an espresso here 😉: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jaylarae The Hea...
Apr 09, 2022•7 min•Season 2Ep. 10
In the Enneagram each type has an individualized Worldview that perpetuates a Vice unique to each type. Learn how these two things are connected! After hearing this episode, you're ready to hear more about how we move from Vice to Virtue ❤️ Type 1 Vice: Anger Type 2 Vice: Pride Type 3 Vice: Deceit Type 4 Vice: Envy Type 5 Vice: Avarice Type 6 Vice: Doubt Type 7 Vice: Gluttony Type 8 Vice: Lust Type 9 Vice: Self-forgetting ------------------------------------ Support the podcast by buying me an e...
Apr 09, 2022•20 min•Season 2Ep. 7
Preparing for a 3-week R&R (Rest & Recovery) during this deployment presented a few challenges, and I'm going to share it all with you! Plus, our vow renewal story in Vegas, because hello--that was a huge part of it all! ♥️ In this episode I mention AMSE , Association of Military Spouse Entrepreneurs. ------------------------------------ Support the podcast by buying me an espresso here 😉: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jaylarae The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast is hosted by Jayla Rae Arde...
Mar 26, 2022•31 min•Season 1Ep. 20
