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What Do You Want? Conscious Coupling With Sarah Krippner

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What do you truly want in a partnership? This pivotal but long-overlooked question sets the stage for an episode all about transforming connections, especially for women embracing their later decades. Vibrational and couple-focused healer Sarah Krippner and I explore how romantic relationships have evolved from part of survival to opportunities for soul expansion and joy. Learn how to energetically attract your ideal partner and become a match for that energy, creating profound conscious connections that deepen your relationship with yourself and others.

In our discussion, we tackle the importance of emotional communication, boundaries, and self-care, highlighting how these elements are crucial in nurturing both personal and professional relationships. We focus on the unique challenges women over 40 face, many of whom have been conditioned to put others first. Through practical examples, we illustrate how understanding and addressing one's own emotions can enhance relational dynamics, leading to stronger, more balanced connections and overall well-being.

Finally, we delve into the complexities of relationship reflections and the necessity of accepting partners as they are. Personal stories and experiences shed light on the emotional work required to maintain honest self-conversations and manage expectations within partnerships. From exploring the evolving nature of romantic relationships to the transformative power of breathwork, we share insights and tools designed to help you create deeper, more supportive connections in every aspect of your life. Don't miss out on these valuable lessons in self-awareness and spiritual integration from our insightful guest, Sarah Krippner.

To connect with Sarah, go to sarahkrippner.com.

Learn more about, book a session with or contact India Leigh at indialeigh.com

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Speaker 1

I was really excited about this because in our conversation before about connection and relationship at different times in your life and now I really had an epiphany when you asked me , at age 51 , to pinpoint what I want yeah .

I mean so funny , because I was just listening to a podcast where they're talking about the movie in the notebook and they were specifically talking about the what do you want ? What do you want , what do you want ? And so , and then you asked me , you know , would you like a session ?

I was like , oh no , I think that those , what four words were all I needed for a session for me , because I could sit with that for for however long I want to , because , realizing that as a feminine and , like I said , a you know , five decades feminine um , that question is new . Well , it's new .

Speaker 2

And we're at a different . I mean , I'm a little bit younger than you , but not much a couple of years . But it's new now too .

Speaker 1

It's new to the earth , it's new to all of us .

It's new to all of us because isn't this the first time since the dawn of the planet that the universe is saying , hey , relationship and romantic relationship doesn't have to have anything to do with survival , yeah , yeah , or procreation or anything can just be for the expansion of your soul and for the enjoyment of your life . So so it is new for us .

At the end , it's really rocked my world to to just even put that question to the forefront of all my relationships , past and present and future , and go wow that that , as a motivating focus , is radical . Yeah , living that .

Speaker 2

Yeah .

Speaker 1

So how does that work ?

Speaker 2

Well , I spent , um , you know I had several relationships that were not were the way I look at just about every relationship . Well , I think every relationship it's going to bring you something and , um , it could be , and I had a friend of mine said it's either a lesson or a blessing like , or or maybe both .

And I had , especially during this time when we had COVID and things were kind of locked down and I'm not really like a I don't go out and go to bars and not like that's a great place to meet people anyway , necessarily .

But I didn't , I wasn't going out to find people and , um , and I was really against the dating apps because I'm like you , I'm like I gotta , I gotta feel their energy , like I got more than just what people post on profiles and stuff . So , anyway , I spent a good couple of years going .

I need to create energetically the mate that I want , be honest about it with myself . But then I also have to become the match to that and it was actually in that that I started deep diving and spirit told me very strongly like you're going to start doing couples workshops and retreats and I'm like this seems odd , I'm not a couple , and it was that really ?

It took out that that detail actually doesn't matter , like the connection is the point , the conscious connection is the point . So it's the connection with ourselves as well as the connection with our partner .

Speaker 1

So , yeah , I feel like when you said , but I'm not a couple of spirit was like well , exactly , that's why I want you to teach this , because don't you find yourself drawn to to teach and coach and do whatever it is that you're growing into , because that's part of becoming the match for it , right ?

Speaker 2

For sure , and I also think at that , and what it turned out to be too , is that actually the outsider's perspective was what these couples needed . Me just looking at it straight from energy touch , you know just all these components of like this is . This is what I want . This is what I believe keeps two people connected If they're both desiring to do so .

So it doesn't matter if you've been together for two weeks , two months , two years , 20 years , and I've had people all over the spectrum and since I've been in my relationship , this has been constant , upfront for it's it's how I , it's how I created my partner , how does your partner feel about having been created ?

It's so funny Cause he's , he's so not , he's not , he's not into all the energy and all that kind of stuff . He's like sure , yeah , you created me , okay , he's so open to it . Like , yeah , he's not out there pulling cards and using crystals , but he does have crystals by his but he's like you never got me here is great so , yeah , we joke about .

I'm like , you know I manifested you , right . I'm like , not that you didn't exist before , but , um , so it's a funny conversation , but yeah , it's . But that's what I did is a couple of years ago . I was like , look , I don't want to just mess around dating Um what , but what do I really want ? And it was all energy .

Yeah , there's some other tidbits , some structures , and you know what they look like , this and that , but most of it was energy . How do I want to feel with this person and how do I want our relationship , our connection , to feel ?

And when I honed in on that , and then again , through the guidance of spirit , teaching it for a couple years , boom , here he comes and then how , and then how did you recognize and receive that boom moment ?

Speaker 1

because you know it , it seems that sometimes we have a great , an easy time manifesting and then a difficult time letting spirit actually bring the manifestation in . So how did you move through that ?

Speaker 2

Well , that , yeah , that's another piece too . So there was just a small small tidbit of our meeting . Like it was literally my body was .

It was a full body , yes , and um , I'm not super , um , like , I know a little bit about human design , but out of town , so I'm not sure if that's in your field as well , but of practice , but I know that is who I like , my body , my gut . I'm a yes or no , and so my everything was yes , but it was my mind that was like , but what about this ?

But what about that , like this thing and that thing ? And it was a conscious connection for me to daily say love him . And it wasn't forceful , it's not saying , you know , love somebody that you don't love . It was like shutting down the self-sabotage or just some of the little piddly stuff that actually doesn't really matter , because we're all individuals .

I was kind of ignoring or not giving the full weight to what I actually wanted , the recipe that I created . I was like , oh , that's great , that seems , but but what about this ? So it really took a little bit of conscious effort for me to go wait , no , sarah , this is , this , is what you've created .

And and I just kept telling him that lean in , lean in , and the more I lean in , the more he expands and we grow together . And it's expands and we grow together and it's um , yeah , it's really amazing that , as much as I knew what , like what to do , how to create this , I knew what I was asking for .

I knew the , I knew the game I was playing not game but you know the , the system I was working in . But I still had my old triggers of , like you know , going so many years with all the stuff that I've tried to heal over the years , I still had to kind of face that head on and go wait a second . I see you , you're trying to sabotage me .

I'm not going to let that happen . I'm going to , I'm going to lean into the good stuff . So it there was the manifestation , and then there was the conscious , like connection to totally absorbing and allowing in what . I wanted .

Speaker 1

Yeah , that's beautiful . And let's talk about the what you want , um aspect , because you know , certainly , uh , the models of relationship that we've seen in society , or you know , very little of that does seem to do with what you want . You know to have to do with what you want .

It does seem more to do with , you know , these other factors you're talking about , like what the mind says is important . Also , you know , just getting swept up in emotion or passion . And of course , we know now , through doing this energy work , that a lot of that intense passion is actually your soul saying there's something for me to heal here .

So it's not really a sign of sustainability , but it is a sign of oh , you're going to transform through this relationship , not that you can't have the passion and stuff with the other , but right you know , so it it .

How do you view that shift from all these other factors of the way we look at relationship to this central focus of just focusing in on what you want and creating space for that and being the match to that ?

Speaker 2

Well , I think part of it at least . My initial response would be age . For me , you know the age . For me , personally , right now , I think it's different when you're 20 because you're looking at or 22 or 25 or whatever , there might be a little bit more of a plan of you . Know you're starting your career or figuring out your career , your path .

Do we want kids ? You know what do our parents say ? Religion . There's still so many other voices coming in and I think it's probably harder at that time and I would say it would be great if we were teaching our kids not to get like into that too much , but more about yeah , what do you want ? Like not , what do you want from ?

Like I want a BMW and a million dollars and that's great . Like that's fine , but like what is your soul calling for ? And I do believe there are some parents and paths , some religious areas and spiritual practices that help people find a mate through , I guess , their belief system . I didn't grow up with that .

I didn't grow up with any kind of direction as far as who to be like . What are your values Like ? So it took me half my life to find out who I am and what I really want . So I guess my personal journey is a little different . In a way it was like , finally , I finally woke up to say , oh , I get to , I get to create the partnership that I want .

Yeah and so , but yeah , I . So I'm not sure if I'm totally answering your question , but I think later in life some of the things I want are different . But I'd like to think the outcome might be different at , say , 20, . But I don't think the question what do I want ? Should be any different .

Speaker 1

Yeah , and I do believe it comes comes down to never putting what it is that you that is right for you , that you're like you said your soul calls for , behind anything else , you know , because that's the thing that it feels like this generation or young people now , for the first time , are being given permission to not sublimate that call of the soul underneath .

Well , what does society want ? Or what does this other person want , what does this masculine person want ? You know , if I'm a feminine , so it's , you know , really shifting to this place of no , it's okay to make that your number one and it is a masculine , feminine issue , because certainly masculines are mostly taught to make that your number one .

Speaker 2

Well , and and and yeah , I think , um , well , and yeah , I think I just , you know , I've been in a little bit of a phase of because I just came back from hosting this women's retreat and the idea that being selfish is not selfish .

And I think people think , oh , if I put myself first , that's egotistic , that's this and that and nobody else is going to serve . I look at it from a place of that spiritual connection . It's not just what I want and what can I get from other people , it's who do I , who do I want to be , and , from a relationship standpoint , the mate of that .

It's not just what I want , like I want to serve my partner and I want him to appreciate that . So it's and vice versa , like it . It's not just about what I want from somebody else , it's actually who I want to be and how I want to be appreciated .

Speaker 1

How do I want my gifts to be received ? Yeah , how do I want to . How do I want my gifts to be received ?

Speaker 2

Yeah , and that's kind of the same in work too . Like I , it's been hard over the years . But sometimes you probably get this too , like a client comes forward and they want all this stuff from you , but I'm like , you're not my , you're not my client . Yeah , I'd love , I'd love for you to find what you need .

Speaker 1

Yeah .

Speaker 2

But we're not a match .

Speaker 1

Yeah , I think it does come down when we're talking about the feminine energy to , to boundaries , you know , and it's learning those boundaries , whether it's in personal relationship or or work . And it does seem in a lot of the work I do , when I'm working with feminists who are kind of changing their whole way of looking at themselves in their lives .

It's , it is news , especially to those of us over 40 . It's like you mean , I can , you know , put put my own self at least among those that I'm valuing .

And you know , because really subconsciously it was taught no , you're , you're last , everybody else is first , because that's what makes you a good feminine and we're just learning that actually , when you receive and when you allow yourself to focus on what does nourish you , what do you want , and that's in that regard , you're benefiting everybody , you're connecting to

so much more right , yeah , that , and you know it's the kind of the old common , um , you know , analogy or whatever , put your air , you know , put your mask on first on the airplane .

Speaker 2

And it's so true because I know when , when I am , and especially now , like I've found inside this container of my relationship how we've blossomed because we're both , we're both being fed , yes , and , and it's equal and we talk about it and it's his needs versus my needs and what have you , and it's the you know , like with the women in this retreat this past

weekend . Uh , several of them were like it was hard for them to say yes to to taking a weekend , I mean Friday through Sunday , not a lot of time , two hours away , it's beautiful , but it was hard for them to say yes to put their family on the back burner for a couple of days , whatever .

And I see this too in a lot of the conversations , kind of tying it back into the relationships , where the couples that I know who have kids , who have been together for a long time , they're like our relationship comes before the kids .

And that doesn't mean the kids are not taken care of and not nourished , but what's beneficial for the kids to see is that mom and dad are like , they are strong because they are leading their kids through this journey , and so individually .

And so when I work with my couples , I'm like it's a , it's a it kind of I think it's more of a spiritual phrase , but I love it and a triple braided cord is not easily broken .

I say it's you , your partner and the relationship , and so you have to , inside the relationship , you have to be served and whole and taken care of and nourished , and you know whoever your partner is does as well , and then that will take care of the relationship as well .

And and and lay that into any other area , if , if I'm working with a client who is take , take , taking and I'm not feeling like it's a good bond or a good connection , then that's going to limit , I believe , my ability to really take care of them . So I look at that , it's the whole container .

And just as we look at the body , you can't just look at the nose and the eyes and the hands and the knees . You've really got to look at the whole body .

Yes , some of those are independent , but to make the whole thing work , I mean , yeah , it's , it's , it's um , I love the idea of helping women , cause I work with women specifically , but then I work with a couple , helping them own what they need , and own what they need could be different than what it was 10 , 15 years ago .

So I think intention , intention , is so important . One of the things are you familiar with Dr David Hawkins ? I forget .

Speaker 1

A little bit .

Speaker 2

Talked about that when we had our chat the other day .

Speaker 1

Yeah .

Speaker 2

Helping people understand what they're truly feeling at any given time is a . It's always a mind blower of an exercise for for the client , and that's one thing that I use so much . So one thing I like to help my couples do is what are you actually feeling in this moment and how far away is like what you actually want to feel ?

So if I'm in anger or fear or something like that and you expect to go from anger to love in an instant , it's probably not going to happen .

It doesn't mean it can't happen or it might happen for a moment or whatever , but that's a big stretch of emotional yardage to move from and that's usually where I end up talking with my couples most about is in the emotions and the energy . Where I end up talking with my couples most about is in the in the emotions and the energy .

So expectation of I'm going to come home in a super bad mood and my husband or my wife or how you know , however that place , my partner , is just going to take that and love me anyway and have the smile on their face and and that's going to make me okay and I'm going to release it and all this is going to be fine . It's just not logic . It's not .

It doesn't work that way . So what I help them work through is a series of real and then you know somewhat fantasy situations of what that looks like emotionally . And when they realize , oh yeah , when I come home and I have this , whatever it is , this fear , anger , frustration , and I'm bringing that in , and I have no idea where my partner's at emotionally .

Now , if they're supercharged , it might not hurt them that bad , but if they're feeling weak too and I think Brene Brown talks about this as well Like where are you in any given moment inside your relationship , how much do you have to give ? And being able to clearly communicate hey , this isn't about you , but this is where I'm at .

And like I just don't have anything else to give at the moment . And hopefully they can either understand that if they don't have anything extra to give or if they have more , like I got this , like I'm on a high , I can help you . And I just went through this with with my partner , where I was .

I'm just like beat up in a lot of ways , and I was just sitting in silence . He's like is it about me ? And I was like no , it's not about you and he's like you know , what do you need ? I'm like , just , let me . Just I'm going to like we're big touchers .

So we just held hands and we are at an , a public arena , so I'm like I , I'm not going to lose my you know what here , like I just need to process it . And then he could feel he could he knows me well enough now he can feel me relax . And then he had the opportunity where he could put on the butter and I was willing to receive it .

But there was a small little time where I was like I have to process it , I have to . It wasn't his to fix and he wasn't feeling like less of a partner because he couldn't fix it . At the moment he just let me be . But that's something we've had to talk about .

He understands how I work through stuff and I have to give him enough information so he knows where I'm at . It's not about him . So I think that's a huge thing around . Expectation is I do think women tend to expect men to read their minds , or maybe it's their partners in general , and we both want them .

Speaker 1

I mean just a little opportunity .

Speaker 2

We expect men and other women to read our minds yeah , yeah , like , and it would know all the the , the full outline chapter a one . You know all the sub , you know the sub notes of what exactly is going on in this brain and that's what makes women beautiful , Like I'm not . Not .

You know , I love being a woman , I love having all these layers of emotions and how all this stuff works emotions and how all this stuff works . It's just not . It doesn't make sense to everybody . And so I think that's in the way a lot , and I know I experienced this a lot feeling like I know a lot about this stuff . I should act better sometimes .

And then I remember I'm still human and stuff happens and I'm like all right , so I get to , I get to check myself and communicate around what's going on and then do it . It's weird I hate to make it sound like it's not romantic , but I think it helps like and then ask the follow-up question Like does that make sense to you ? Do you get that ?

Like what do you think I just said , does that ?

Speaker 1

make sense to you . Do you get that ? Like what do you think ?

Speaker 2

I just said yeah , and then you find out if you're on the same page or not .

Speaker 1

Right , it does kind of have to be like a workbook exercise in order to , to , to , to move past where our egos automatically want us to stop , cause our egos want us to , to go .

Well , they should just get it if they love us and they don't so , and you know , yeah , and we'll just go into our ego coping mechanisms and , you know , just sort of be big babies in the situation , but the mature viewpoint is to say , okay , there's going to be something beyond this , let's work that together .

Now I love something you said earlier , because you were talking about working with partners and and you said if both partners are wanting to do that , yeah , a lot of you know the clients that I'm working with and and I've certainly had many experiences in my own life , but you know it's it often happens that the other partner just is not willing or able because

of all the conditioning factors we talked about as many as there are for the feminine , there are just as many for the masculine energy that say you know , we did not equip you to go past this point . This is you know , we did not teach our masculines how to connect , you know , or how to even want to connect on a level .

So I would love to hear your insight there , how you approach that . If you find that , wow , we're im willing on some level .

Speaker 2

But I would say , speaking one on one with a couple of my , where I'm just working with one one of the two partners , usually the female , there's a couple of hard decisions that need to be made . What are they willing to do ?

Like and I'll say this about my one of my previous relationships he , he , he had reached his limit of where how he thought he was fixed . I was moving beyond that and I gave a certain Just for the listener .

Speaker 1

That was fixed in air quotes . No such thing as fixing ourselves . But yeah , he had this impression that he was done .

Speaker 2

He's done , he's yeah . So there was a certain amount of extra legwork . I was willing to do when I felt I was . I was pulling a little bit more of the emotional work and and creating more the opportunities to connect and do all that and I was fine doing .

I was fine with that being lopsided because I wanted to give this as much opportunity to heal as it possibly could . And then it just came to a point where I it clearly was not going to go that route and I don't ever like to . You know , for clarification , I'm not a licensed , you know , like marriage counselor or anything like that .

I think that's an individual choice . If somebody is not willing to and maybe that's their human route on this particular trajectory is not to heal .

Speaker 1

I do think some you know it is what it is Like some people just don't heal , um or maybe you know they get to a certain point and then it's sort of like I'm going to bookmark this for the next lifetime or for much later in my lifetime .

Speaker 2

Yeah totally like . It was great for a lot of reasons , and then it catapulted me to another level of my healing and my awareness , my understanding .

So he was potentially maybe a little bit more of a uh , supporting character in my journey and I've been that and other people's journeys and I believe in that part too , and so I would find you know , like you've got to have an honest conversation with yourself of what you back to , what do you want , and kind of what are you willing to live with , so to

speak . Yeah , how important is that ? Because , again , with my current relationship , I don't think he's ever going to be sitting down and Lotus meditating with me , with sage burning and whatever . I don't need him to .

Speaker 1

Right .

Speaker 2

What I need him to do is meet me in certain of those emotional categories . Yeah , and so there are certain things that I guess that's where we have to take that personal checklist of like . That's where we have to take that personal checklist of like what ?

Speaker 1

do you ?

Speaker 2

want what's not really that big of a deal , and what's the deal ? You know ?

Speaker 1

like what's the deal breaker ? And telling yourself the truth is so potent because you know . If you , let's say you are in a certain situation or you're meeting certain limitations in yourself or someone else , at least know why you're doing that and be clear about where you are . In that there's no contest .

It's not like anybody's going to come and test your relationship and be like so let's test you on all these areas of compatibility and perfection . No , but at least know and I'm getting huge spirituals with this If you just know , you know and embrace the what is ness of what is that can . Oh , look at that .

And I just pulled the ace of swords which is that part of truth . Just the truth is so powerful and not trying to hold up these illusions of no , no , it's really this , or but it's only this , but then that , and because that's just wasting your internal energy that the universe could be bringing in so much more good stuff .

You know , within and outside your relationship , if you just operate in that place of truth .

Speaker 2

Yeah and I know I get it in the work with my clients and then in my current relationship that some of the stuff that I thought was important a long time ago isn't important now to me . Currently and it's , it's OK to I had to have a big ego check with . I didn't realize just how much of a list of what I had .

I was like they have to be this way , because this is what I expect . It was like kind of going back to the expectation thing and I realized I was trying to impose a little bit too much on other people's right to be who they are , because I thought this is the right way to be . And so there's a huge ego check . What does that mean ?

Like why do you feel like you need to control that part of that person ? So yeah , being really honest with myself and also being honest with my partner in in , in vocalizing some of this , which has been hard sometimes to be like , hey , I , I know I'm this way , I know I have lots of opinions and lots of things I said , but I'm also willing to .

Um , like I , I kind of want you to understand a little bit of what I'm working through . You don't need to fix it and and it's not a bad thing , but this is where I'm getting caught up in my own trap a little bit , my own mind trap . And even in that communication sometimes he wants to know more and other times he's like all right , I get it .

You were kind of , you know , in a space there for a minute and , yeah , being honest about , hey , I'm working through something and it's not a big deal , you know , but I'm realizing something that , yes , our interactions , something happened in our relationship that caused this to come up , but it doesn't mean it's wrong or bad . But I have enough work .

I've done enough work to realize that's my thing , I get to process and he can hold me and support me in that . Yeah , but yeah .

Speaker 1

And you know yeah , and just understanding that this is our role . Spirit was just giving me an image of you know , you walk through some houses and maybe you don't see that many mirrors . There's just why . Why do they just have this tiny little mirror in here and then where was their full length , you know ?

And then you walk through other houses like dang , there's mirrors everywhere .

Speaker 2

And I could just see myself everywhere . Oh , look at this .

Speaker 1

It's a whole mirrored wall , okay , and you see more than you really maybe want to have here . This is a big part , don't you think , of you deciding what do I want in relationship , because that person , when you are enrolling this person to be in your life in this capacity , their number one thing is being a mirror to you .

Speaker 2

Yeah .

Speaker 1

You know , not in a hey , you got to match everything about me , not in a hey , you got to match everything about me , but in a way where you realize , wow , if I move into this partnership , I'm going to be moving into a house of mirrors , basically . And you know , let me first be real with what I want to see .

You know what I do see and what I refuse to see , because all those things will be played out . And if I like , let's say , there's a room where it's like I don't want mirrors in this room , okay , I do not . This is a part of me that I really don't want reflected to me all the time .

It doesn't feel loving to me , because we don't have to be that okay with our every single part of ourselves all the time yeah communicating , that being like there's this wing of me that I would really prefer to only visit sometimes and just communicate all that , so that your mirror partner is like you're on the same page with that .

Because I feel like a lot of us are like , well , marriage and that just means house of mirrors everywhere , and then others of us are like I don't want that , but we don't really say that .

Speaker 2

Yeah , Well , yeah , I like that . That reflection is so important , whether it's in your romantic partnership or if you've got front image , because , yeah , I have my romantic partnership mirroring reflection . And then I've got other people colleagues or other people in my field that will help me share , that are a little bit more attuned to that topic .

Um , you know my partner . He can see some things , but I have other people in my career and in similar paths who can see things in a different way . And , yeah , reflection is so important , both for supporting our growth and acknowledging stuff that we don't see Again .

This retreat that we were at it was a lot about helping these women acknowledge what they weren't seeing in themselves , because the good things , like how far they're coming , all this kind of stuff and and holding them through their pain and the joy as well . But then , yeah , there's the reflection of like , listen , sister , you're pushing it , I love you .

But and and yeah , you're right there's some areas where and there's a lot of mirrors where I don't want to keep them up all the time . I have to prepare myself to put it up .

Speaker 1

Right , can we only take this one out on special occasions . Yeah , yeah .

Speaker 2

Like I'm ready to hear .

Speaker 1

Right .

Speaker 2

And then I got to put it away and I got to work on everything that was reflected during that time .

Speaker 1

Yeah , there are a lot of illusions in reflection when we're not on the same page with that . I will say another aspect of when I was just listening to this thing and they were talking about the notebook movie it was , you know they made . Someone made the point that you know , this is . It's just sorry to spoil that . You know three decades old movie .

But the part where they're you know she doesn't remember . But the part where they're you know she doesn't remember and they die together at the end that's like the best case scenario .

Speaker 2

Yeah .

Speaker 1

For a romantic partnership is that you live this life together . You know it's very , very important to you , you cherish it , and then you're able to kind of , you know , thelma and Louise off into the beyond together , yeah , of you know , thelma and Louise off into the beyond together , yeah .

But if that doesn't happen , if that doesn't happen , there are , you know , sorry to be like a downer , but it's like there are various and sundry other ways that this particular partnership can go yeah that aren't , that , you know .

But it is going to reach an end and I feel like , with partnership and with marriage particularly , we in the past have held ourselves to such a magical and idealistic picture that denies this reality , that , hey , either gonna , you know , um , come to the end of the season of this partnership or we're going to come to the end of the season of one of our

lifetimes , or both but .

But the partnership is about what we're doing in the meantime , you know , and , and I feel like we are so afraid of that ending to connection , how we view it , because it's not really an ending , but we're so afraid of the loss of , you know , because even when I describe that , it's like , oh God , I can just feel people being like thanks a lot , I was

getting married tomorrow and now I'm , but , but we're . But when we embrace the truth of that , when we embrace the truth and say , yeah , and that is beautiful , I mean that's like one of the most beautiful love story movies of all time . So it's every time right , but it gets you because it's in truth , not because it's an illusion .

Speaker 2

Yeah , yeah .

Speaker 1

And I feel like that's an important part of embracing partnership that we have not done before this point in time , because we've been like let's just , you know , squirrel that away . Divorce has been seen as a sad ending , you know , long-term marriage has been seen as happy , no matter what is happening behind the scenes .

And now we're spirits saying , hey , we live in an age where these illusions are not going to continue . The light is going to go everywhere . So do you feel that that's an awareness , that is an ingredient when you're talking about manifesting , that you have to manifest into this partnership of you know , it's not going to be about some happy ending .

Speaker 2

It's about how we're moving through every moment in presence and changing and evolving and allowing yourselves one of one of the couples that came to one of my events said something that I loved , which was he's like our relationship and they've been together for like 20 years I think they were high school or college .

You know , boyfriend , girlfriend , been together for a long time , couple kids , and they're doing all the things Like they totally love each other . Nothing's wrong per se , but they just know all the things like they totally love each other . Nothing's wrong per se , but they just know , like , I still choose you .

So we're going to do all the things that we can to um , to support our relationship and I love them to death and so .

But what they said is our relationship is it has a container and it has a fence , but the door is open , he's like but every day we choose not to walk through that door and leave the commitment and the relationship and everything , and I love that . They're like yes , they're married , they have no desire to separate .

They , I mean they're still continually choosing every , each other , each other . But they , they know a , they can't , they can't see the future , they can't predict how things are going to , and they got together at such a young age . They're kind of , I mean , who knows .

But yes , their daily plan is I still love you and I want you and let's keep working at this . But it's a , it's a daily choice or weekly choice , or however you want to look at it . And and I love that again , it's not saying divorce is right and it's not saying it's wrong .

It's not saying , just because you've been together for you know , 60 years or 50 years or however long , which seems crazy right now , but you do see , and they barely talk , they're still together . And I'm like and that's something my partner ever talked about Like we want to .

We , we want to be together for a long time , but we want to literally actually be together . It's not just a , it's not just about racking up the years to say we've been together for this long . We , we want , we want to be connected . And again it goes back to that what do you want and what is your expectation ?

Like , I don't want to just clock down , you know , clocked down , you know certain number of years together . I want our relationship to be full and nourishing and loving and that my , my goal , personally speaking , is a emotional and energy goal , it's not a timeline .

Speaker 1

Well , it makes sense . Yeah , I can't predict . It feels like what we want . Partnership is the same thing that spirit really wants with us , which is , you know , every day , just get up and align with spirit , just get up and align with today .

I want to live this day in alignment with spirit , not kind of , you know , being half engaged or half connected or disconnected , but really be and knowing you can't do that every day , but that that's your intention and I feel like that's what we want with our partnerships too to say like I'm aligned and I'm here and I'm going to do my best .

Speaker 2

Yeah , yeah , and , and there's going to be plenty of days where it's going to seem hard and and we've had some hard times recently with you know . You know he's a father and I'm not a mother . I don't have any kids and it's it's different for me being around kids .

It has nothing to do with him or his kids per se , it's just it's a new energy for me , it's a new experience for me , and it's both what I want . But also I had no way of like predicting how that would actually impact me . So there's been some surprise energy that's come up .

Oh , okay , all right , like I get it , but I kind of do it , I still have to .

Speaker 1

You got some like bonus soul partners out of the deal . Some mirrors . So , whoa , this is the whole kaleidoscope of mirrors over here , yeah .

Speaker 2

And there's a whole bunch of again like I couldn't have necessarily predicted um how it would . I knew it would be challenging at times .

I just didn't know how it was going to actually manifest and we're getting through it and it's totally great because my , my overall goal with that is that I , I love , I love his family , like and , and I want to be a part of it .

but I get to navigate how I get through those pieces to get to what I want and it would be silly and I believe in the past I probably would have gone oh this is hard , it must not be right . And I think that's another thing . Navigating any kind of relationship or just our life individually is like oh , this is hard , so it must be .

Speaker 1

Yeah yeah and it's like no . In some other scenario I'd be having a different kind of hard right now or at a time , and that's just life . Yeah , that's just the one part it's .

Speaker 2

It's hard being home alone too , you know . It's like , so what what ? I think it was Tony Robbins who said a long time ago he was one of my first people who inspired me back in my 20s , which he's had an amazing career , but it's like , yeah , you choose what's hard choose your heart .

Speaker 1

I know I'm a Capricorn moon , so I'm real good at that . Choose your hard . It's all hard . You're going to just live , to live all your life and then die together . Yeah , but there's some romance in there too , you know .

Speaker 2

Yeah , yeah , yeah , it's like working out .

Speaker 1

It's hard to work it up and work out when you haven't done it in a while . It's also hard to not fit in your jeans . So right , exactly , which leads me to this . So at the end of every podcast , I like to show you a card and you tell me what it means . You read this card for our listeners .

Speaker 2

oh , choose wisely , wow . Well , at first course I see all the different hands doing different directions , different indicators , and I love the idea . Looking at it , it looks like it's over water , or actually even kind of muffled by the water . Um , but the , the birds I can't quite tell what kind of birds those are but um , just flying over all .

There's only one hand that's actually closed off in a direction and there's several hands that are at least have some op , outlet some opportunity . And and I guess I take from that is choose wisely means to me sit with it , contemplate and move forward , Cause we're never going to fully predict what's going to happen .

But at least if we move forward with intention and not just reaction , then we get to navigate that path a little bit with peace , because I made this decision and I made this decision with my conscious working mind . I think it's when we're unconscious and something happens that we don't want that we look to blame and that blaming is uncomfortable .

Speaker 1

Yeah .

Speaker 2

But if we make the decision intentionally with our soul , we're like , okay , well , this is . There's something I'm supposed to get out of this .

Speaker 1

Yes , and I have to tell you , you and I connecting with spirit over this card , so much more came through . I have worked with this deck forever . It's the psychic um tarot . Let me read it by John Holland , and , and I love it .

But you just opened me up to a whole other layer of meaning with this card , because when you said um , and you sit with yourself , I don't know if you saw this person sitting on the dock .

Speaker 2

No , I did not know . I did not see that .

Speaker 1

I saw like the color , but I didn't know that was person sitting on the dock and the person in the middle of all those hands you talked about , just contemplating , sitting with himself .

And what's so beautiful is this card represents the seven of cups , which is about options and choosing from your options every day , and I love it because there are five hands doing those different signals you talked about , and then those two birds represent the other two cups .

So you have your , maybe your ego , other people you know , pointing in these directions , and then this connection that you have with some soul , maybe it's your partner , you know , while you're so , you just opened up a whole other layer to that , just being the importance of being connected with yourself within partnership and within all the things that are coming at

you . Yeah , oh , so beautiful .

And you know , just to be really candid , and one thing I love about the way you work and the way you express yourself and the way you talk about your partnership is that a lot of people in this spiritual realm of working and doing stuff I say a lot of people , but we will run , run across , across stories of these soul partnerships and then it's like it

feels very supernatural . It feels very , you know , because it does on some levels , but you do a great job , I feel , and it's very helpful of integrating and you're still a human living life and you're going to be a human living life in partnership .

And that's really important , because so many of us do make ideal partnership this kind of fantasy island that we're escaping to , escaping from reality and going .

But if only , if only this partner would be this , and if only that other partner would come be this , and if only that other partner would come in and if only that partner from the past , maybe a partner in the future .

And you not only are living with this reality and saying , yeah , the partner's there and life's still lifing , but you also are saying , and at some point I hopped out of my fantasy and I just invited him on in the front door .

Speaker 2

Yeah .

Speaker 1

Yeah .

Speaker 2

Yeah , it's . I , yeah , I think that's , and he's helping me grow . He's grounding in so many ways because he's he looks at life differently than I do , but we look .

But what we want together is is is what's connected , and there's times where I help him pull into a different space and there's time where he helps me by being him , and that's what's so beautiful and magical about it and sometimes it's very eyeopening to me . I'm like , ooh , I got to work on that like those full-length bathroom mirrors .

I know yeah , it's that reflection which is so I love it beautiful and he's open .

Speaker 1

He's open to it and I'm open to it , and that's what makes it work yes , you really have to go to the , to youtube , if you want to see a lot of the visuals in this podcast . But yeah , sarah has a way of visually punctuating what she's saying . That's really , that's really neat .

Um , and how can people reach you and work with you and what would you , I think the best place .

Speaker 2

You can go to my website , sarahkrippnercom , and you can hit me up , like you did , with a little information request or appointment request . That way you can find me on instagram . Embody your intimacy and there's a dot between embody and your um and um . I do have a youtube channel but , to be honest , I don't use it that much .

But I'm being told , uh through uh spirit , that I've got to branch out .

Speaker 1

So that's why I'm pushing everybody to youtube , because I never do that . So , yeah , yeah , that must be a little thing for you , yeah , so , um , also , you work with shamanic modalities and drumming , I know , and um other .

Speaker 2

So , yeah , my practice , yeah , my practice is a combination of the energy and the motion with , like some , like we talked about , a little bit of the practical tools , that real life tools of just getting down and doing the work , but so much of it around .

Energy amazing connection tool for my clients is healing through breathwork , individually and together , and then , yeah , with the support of the sound and the energy around that it really creates a container where my clients open up to a different side of themselves that they weren't really necessarily thinking was there or , you know , paying attention to .

So , the combination of the real practical tools and I think that's what's great about breathwork is that it's breathwork is something that my male clients tend to be a little bit more attracted to , because it's and the women love it as well .

But it's not quite as woo-woo , but once you go through a session you're like , wow , that was way more than I thought it was . So lots of tools for everybody to integrate and find a practice that suits them where they are .

Speaker 1

Yeah , also not as many words that can appeal to masculine energy as well .

Speaker 2

For sure , for sure , and that , yeah , they get to have their own experience with it .

Speaker 1

Like there's no yeah , there's no judgment around any of it .

Speaker 2

It's a little , yeah , a tool that tends to bring all the parties together .

Speaker 1

So yeah , well , thank you so much and I've enjoyed this talk so much with you and I know connecting soon .

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