#31: Without a doubt, gentlemen, these are confusing times when it comes to the “new rules” of dating and courting women. One of readers, Linda M., concurs: “I’ve been on dates where men have said they are scared to open the door for women or pick up the bill because they’ve been told off for doing so previously. I like both of these things done for me so I’m disappointed when a man doesn’t demonstrate what I classify as chivalry.” Bryan and I too often find ourselves tongue tied, stuck in uncle...
Aug 05, 2019•52 min•Ep. 31
#30: You guys are still really digging the 11 ideas for your morning routine podcast. We love hearing your success stories from implementing the techniques we shared as well as your follow up questions. Here’s one of the most persistent questions: “What do I do about my evening routine (it’s a disaster!)” If your evening routine is a disaster – and as you’ll hear in this podcast, Bryan’s is an unmitigated disaster – then your morning will suffer, as will the rest of your day. Your morning and ev...
Jul 29, 2019•52 min•Ep. 30
#29: I recently stumbled across an “article title generator” website. Since the topic of this week’s podcast is masturbation, I figured it would be the perfect time to test it out the “article title generator.” So I typed in the word “masturbation,” and promptly got 231 responses. Here are my 5 favorite: 5. Masturbation – the Ultimate Convenience! 4. 5 Oddball Tips on Masturbation 3. A Deadly Mistake Uncovered on Masturbation And How to Avoid It 2. The Idiot’s Guide to Masturbation 1. 7 Cut Thro...
Jul 22, 2019•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 29
#28: If you’ve been a regular listener of our podcast, you’re probably used to Bryan and I spilling our guts all over the interwebs about some pretty personal stuff. Namely, my journey through Sex Addicts Anonymous, 4 years off of porn and masturbation, and Bryan’s experience being diagnosed with testicular cancer and chlamydia on the same day. This episode is special because for the first time, we’re sharing YOUR stories. Two of our podcast listeners, let’s call them David and Ricky, have coura...
Jul 15, 2019•59 min•Ep. 28
#27: One of the questions Bryan and I get asked most is: How do I find my purpose? The question comes with consternation and in two forms: 1. You have no idea what your purpose is (that feels helpless) 2. You have a general sense of the direction, but don’t know exactly what it is or how to get at it…you just know it’s not what you’re doing right now (that feels frustrating). With all this pressure to find your purpose, you inadvertently push it away. This is Part One of a multiple part series o...
Jul 08, 2019•46 min•Ep. 27
#26: This is Bryan and my reaction to the interview with Paul Brunson that we released earlier this week - Billionaire Habits from a Man with 10 Businesses. After we release our interviews with our guests, Bryan and I often get asked: What did you think about what guest XYZ had to say? Do you agree with their position on ABC? What did you find most interesting? So in this "Reaction" episode, we answer those questions. We review some of Paul's greatest hits: Our thoughts on getting up at 4:30am t...
Jul 05, 2019•31 min•Ep. 26
#25: Paul Brunson and I were speaking at the same conference when I heard him describe his morning routine, which culminated in: “Also, my wife and I are intimate 3-5 times a week…in the morning.” I promptly said, “I need you on our podcast.” Interesting Facts About Paul Oprah Winfrey served as his mentor and offered him a show on her network He’s interviewed more billionaires than any other journalist As a matchmaker, he was called the "real life Hitch” (referring to the Will Smith movie) He ru...
Jul 01, 2019•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 25
#24: This episode on meditation is for you if you’ve ever said: I’ve tried meditating but I can’t clear my mind I’ve tried meditating but I can’t sit still that long I don’t have time for meditation My life is too busy and chaotic to have a regular meditation practice Meditation feels like work Meditation doesn’t do anything for me Running/Cooking/Gardening is my meditation… …then this episode is for you. This is a beginner’s guide for those of you who are interested in establishing a regular pr...
Jun 24, 2019•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 24
#23: If you’re like most people, you don’t think much about where your porn comes from. You log on. You do your business. You log off… …and say a Hail Mary (there’s that Catholic guilt!). All kidding aside, there’s a problem with your unconscious viewing habits: You may be inadvertently contributing to a system that perpetuates abuse (oftentimes horrifying) of the young women performers who have been misled into what they’re getting themselves into. Every time you go online to view something, yo...
Jun 17, 2019•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 23
#22: This time the tables are turned on Bryan and I. Women’s coach and Aussie phenom Monica Yates interviews us on the things her community wants to know (she sourced the questions from her Instagram followership). Her followership is: Primarily Female Typically between the ages of 20-35 Mostly Entrepreneurs Her audience asked Bryan and I the following questions: What was the hardest thing growing up as a male? Do guys like it more when women take control sexually? How do I get my man to open up...
Jun 10, 2019•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 22
#21: Guys say a lot of stuff about their bedroom escapades when they’re around their buddies. Most of it’s exaggerated, doctored up for laughs or fundamentally edited for saving face. How about a little locker room talk…but if we were actually telling the truth? In this episode, Bryan and I open up about the mishaps, miscues and untimely mr. softies from our (not-so-prolific) love lives… Why Do Men Classify Sex as a “Performance?”: You don’t often hear women talking about sex as a “performance,”...
Jun 03, 2019•48 min•Ep. 21
#20: This is your episode for all things that concern the physical health of your dick today, tomorrow and the many decades to come. Dr. Amy B Killen is a physician of anti-aging and regenerative medicine and an outspoken champion of proactive sexual health. Some of the highest-performing men in the world have come to her for proactive treatments for sexual health, including: Dave Asprey , Founder and CEO of Bulletproof and author of NY Times best-seller The Bulletproof Diet Vishen Lakhiani , CE...
May 27, 2019•51 min•Ep. 20
#19: Dr. David Ley is the clinical psychologist I wish I had during my 4 years of sex addicts anonymous recovery. He swears like a sailor and gives extremely well-researched and practical guidance about the most relevant issues to men: Porn. How to approach the porn conversation with your partner in a way she feels safe and you don’t feel judged. Fantasies. How to negotiate sexual desires and accommodation in your relationships. Desire for Others. Why “The Disney Myth” of meeting “The One” and y...
May 13, 2019•53 min•Ep. 19
#18: Gina DiNapoli is one of New York City’s fastest-rising celebrity fitness instructors. She exploded onto the scene in early 2018 after winning an American Idol-esque open tryout for instructors in NYC’s most exclusive fitness club – Equinox. She developed her own signature kickboxing program – Jabs by Gina – which has taken off like a supernova. Her community of “Jabbers” are fiercely loyal and active. Now, in a city with infinite workout classes, Gina’s sell out as quickly as a Beyoncé conc...
May 06, 2019•1 hr•Ep. 18
#17: Daryl Davis, a black man, attends KKK rallies, befriends its members, and through these unlikely friendships, he has influenced over 200 of those men to leave the Klan. In a time when we can’t discuss Coke vs. Pepsi without coming to fisticuffs, Daryl has somehow managed to get men who want him obliterated from the face of the earth…to eventually give up their hatred, ideology and community because of Daryl’s influence. He’s collected the robes and hoods of men like Roger Kelly – the former...
Apr 29, 2019•27 min•Ep. 17
#16: Daryl Davis, a black man, attends KKK rallies, befriends its members, and through these unlikely friendships, he has influenced over 200 of those men to leave the Klan. In a time when we can’t discuss Coke vs. Pepsi without coming to fisticuffs, Daryl has somehow managed to get men who want him obliterated from the face of the earth…to eventually give up their hatred, ideology and community because of Daryl’s influence. He’s collected the robes and hoods of men like Roger Kelly – the former...
Apr 29, 2019•43 min•Ep. 16
#15: Daryl Davis, a black man, attends KKK rallies, befriends its members, and through these unlikely friendships, he has influenced over 200 of those men to leave the Klan. In a time when we can’t discuss Coke vs. Pepsi without coming to fisticuffs, Daryl has somehow managed to get men who want him obliterated from the face of the earth…to eventually give up their hatred, ideology and community because of Daryl’s influence. He’s collected the robes and hoods of men like Roger Kelly – the former...
Apr 22, 2019•51 min•Ep. 15
#14: Fellas, we've taken your toughest questions about dating, cultivating passionate sex during marriage and navigating masculinity in the #MeToo era and solicited the wisdom of women experts, including: A prominent matchmaker, an executive coach to women and a polyamorous poet. We've gone straight to the source, and they've answered questions like: "What do I do when my wife keeps turning me down for sex?" "Why are women so confusing...saying they want me to be a MAN one minute and sensitive t...
Apr 15, 2019•45 min•Ep. 14
#13: Your morning routine determines the quality of the 16, 17, 18 hours that follow. Your morning routine is like the mental and emotional outfit you put on first thing and wear all-day. Yet most people have never intentionally designed their morning routine to set them up for the day ahead. If your morning routine is rushed, buried in emails and stressful...what energy do you think you're bringing to the rest of the day that follows? Bryan and Dominick dissect the morning routines of 3 of the ...
Apr 08, 2019•59 min•Ep. 13
#12: Do you save photos of past lovers...even when you're entering another relationship? Are you still social media "friends" with old lovers...without your current partner's knowledge? Do you "follow" women on social media you secretly desire...without your partner's knowledge? In our conversations with men, many answer YES to some or all of the above. We've come to find it's not with malicious intent, rather a lack of awareness that any of these behaviors may be affecting their current relatio...
Mar 25, 2019•57 min•Ep. 12
#11: Dominick shares his secrets that he's used with clients to reduce their screen time by 30 minutes to 2.5 hours per day. If you're like most people, you don't know the answers to these 3 essential questions: 1. How many times a day do you check your phone? 2. How much time are you spending on your cell phone? 3. What are your heaviest use times per day (morning, afternoon, evening, late night)? Studies show people underestimate how much cell phone screen time they're spending by 50%. In othe...
Mar 18, 2019•37 min•Ep. 11
#10: This is Part Two of a two-part series where Dominick shares the lessons learned from 4 years off of porn (and why he's back on the sauce in a healthier, more intentional way). How to create your own temporary porn abstinence experiments, and the benefits you can expect. Dominick and Bryan finish steps 4 and 5 of the "5 stages every man unwittingly goes through in his lifelong relationship with porn. A quick recap of stages 1 through 3 (described in detail in Part One) A deep dive into stage...
Mar 11, 2019•53 min•Ep. 10
#9: Why did Dominick take a 4 year hiatus from porn, only to go back on the sauce in 2017? How did temporary abstinence from both porn and masturbation influence Dominick's decision to leave a 15 year career in financial services and start his own business? Dominick explains why roughly 50% of the newcomers in his Sex Addicts Anonymous meetings were there for porn addiction. Men: This is a must listen if you want to understand the potential impact porn may be having on not only your sex life...b...
Mar 04, 2019•46 min•Ep. 9
#8: "Be a man...don't be a p____," Masculinity is not something we as men are simply given. It is something we must earn, and then vigilantly maintain over a course of life's actions. The consequence: We unwittingly build an entire life defending micro-threats to our manhood, even when it goes against our own natural desires. The result: We live a life of drift. This episode presents the essential questions for you to ask yourself in order to intentionally define your role as a powerful, intenti...
Feb 25, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 8
#7: Why the "unhappiest person in the world" is a 45 year old man, based on global happiness surveys. Dominick's CEO clients in their 40-50s quietly - and puzzlingly - lose their fire, despite never having more responsibility on their shoulders. How inner work led both Bryan and Dominick to more fulfillment, more money, better relationships with women. Bryan comes clean about thinking it was weird - at first - to do personal development with other men. When being a lone wolf works...and where th...
Feb 18, 2019•51 min•Ep. 7
#6: Dominick answers your most common - and potent - questions about Part 1 of the Sex Addiction Podcast. Here are the 6 questions: 1. Does being a sex addict mean you just want to have sex all the time? 2. What about all the women? Were they just tools you used to meet your urges? 3. What do your parents think? 4. Is it hard telling your history to new dating partners? 5. When did you realize you had a problem? 6. Are men surprised by how much support you're receiving from women about disclosin...
Feb 14, 2019•27 min•Ep. 6
#5: Healing Sex Addiction and Beyond. Dominick enters Sex Addicts Anonymous in an attempt to save his relationship with the only woman he's ever loved. • Dominick's carefully curated public life and his hidden private life collapse, burying himself and others in the rubble • The eery and humbling experience of walking into the very first Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting and saying "Hi I'm Dominick, and I'm a sex addict." • In therapy, Dominick fully discloses all of his transgressions with his girl...
Feb 11, 2019•59 min•Ep. 5
#4: The Making of a Sex Addict. This is Dominick's first ever public disclosure of the life events that led him - a high-achieving senior executive at a Fortune 100 financial services firm with a corner office in NYC and $1.4 billion sales goal - to a humbling (and life changing) 4 year journey in Sex Addicts Anonymous. In part one of this two-part series, Dominick goes into detail of the origins of his sexual beginnings: • Dominick stumbles across pornography at age 8 and masturbation at age 13...
Feb 04, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 4
#3: Recorded live at The Discerning Dick: Sexual Wisdom For The Modern Man event in New York City at The Assemblage NoMad. The Discerning Dick has been recognized by The New York Times and NPR's All Things Considered for it's unique approach to bringing sexual conversations to mainstream men. If you are a man who has never inspected his sexual behaviors or desires...listen to this episode. If you are a man who wants to have more and better sex...listen to this episode. If you are a father raisin...
Jan 11, 2019•40 min•Ep. 3
#2: If you are a successful man yet feeling internally unsatisfied or underwhelmed, you need to listen to this. If you are a woman who has a man in her life who she cares about, and sees that he is disconnected from happiness, purpose and power, you need to listen to this. Too many high-performing men are only playing the games in life that they know they can win. Their B effort yields A payoffs, but deep down inside they know they aren't truly connected to their power. As a result, they end up ...
Jan 11, 2019•16 min•Ep. 2
