INTRO: This episode of The Gorman Limit is being released very shortly after episode 011. The reason for this is that I thought about the topics I've been riffing on during episodes 010 and 011, and there was more I wanted to say about jouissance, the death drive, & negativity or lack. CONTENT: 0:00 - 3:02 | Introduction stuff. Coffee... This is coming out soon after episode 011 I've got more to say about jouissance, the death drive, & negativity or lack You should really listen to 010 &...
May 20, 2021•59 min•Ep. 12
INTRO: In this episode of The Gorman Limit, Neil talks more about the concepts of negativity as lack (rather than as bad) and the death drive. This episode is a continuation of Neil's work teaching a seminar on doing clinical work with individuals. CONTENT: 0:00 - 0:11 - I got this song stuck in my head... 0:11 - 5:00 - Introduction. I'm reaching a seminar. In this episode, I'll be talking about the concept of... Negativity Death-drive 5:00 - 20:35 - The Negative Pt. 1 Negative does not mean "ba...
May 18, 2021•44 min•Ep. 11
Hi, In this episode of TGL, Neil starts to talk about the concept of Jouissance (i.e., enjoyment). The claim Neil makes is that understanding the way jouissance functions in our lives is essential to understanding why people do the things they do, in particular when those things don't make a lot of sense. Breakdown: 0:00-0:15 | Coffee 0:15-7:50 | Context, background, setting the stage 7:50-20:10 | The question: Why do people snatch defeat from the jaws of victory? 20:10-38:00 | Five points about...
May 12, 2021•54 min•Ep. 10
Intro 0:00 - 8:15 - Ezra Klein Interviews George Saunders about A Swim in the Pond in the Rain . - They talk about being parents - They talk about moments of crisis, and the moment before the moment of crisis Moments 8:15 - 18:01 - Daniel Stern’s The Interpersonal World of the Infant - The BCPSG ( A book of their articles ) - Life happens on a moment-by-moment basis - Moments last 3-10 seconds - We can see the moments before now - We don’t see the moments that are coming as clearly as we do the ...
Mar 07, 2021•43 min•Ep. 9
Intro: 0:00-9:55 - Hi - I've got another kid now - Live is crazy but also wonderful Story: 9:55-28:15 - Who, what, when, where, why - The kids of kids I was working with at this point in my life - Curse word warning! - What happened Thoughts & Commentary: 28:15-39:20 - I hope I don't become sanctimonious - We all like the idea of non-defensiveness - We all also enjoy being defensive - The goal (in so far as there might be one) is to generally lower our baseline level of defensiveness on a da...
Mar 01, 2021•39 min•Ep. 8
TGL 007 Intro 0:00-9:20 I teach in a school of social work... When I ask students, Why are you here? Why are you studying this?” They will usually say, “Because, I want to help people.” When I follow that up with a question like, “What does that mean?” or “What would it look like for you to help people?” Students don’t always have a well-thought-out answer. What I want to do on the podcast today is think about that, to think about what it means to be helpful to other people. The signifiers in “I...
Jan 27, 2021•53 min•Ep. 7
Intro 0:00 - 6:24 - Headache - The concept for today’s show: How we react when we screw things up Bryan 6:24-14:36 - Being socially awkward in your early 20’s - This dude named Bryan walked into a glass door - Everything that is embarrassing is also potentially hilarious Don’t try to “look smart” 14:36-21:52 - Did you ever get the feeling you don’t know what people are talking about? I did fairly often when I was younger - I talk about how I would try to look as if I knew things I did not know b...
Jan 20, 2021•46 min•Ep. 6
In this episode of The Gorman Limit , I talk about listening. A lot. About how I learned to listen better when I lost my voice, about what I learned about listening from my dissertation, and about full speech v. empty speech. Intro: 0:00 - 5:38 Why title the podcast "The Gorman Limit" In particular why the word "Limit"? Losing my voice & learning to listen better - 5:38-24:28 The phases of my time as a mental health professional I lost my voice and learned something really important My disse...
Jan 13, 2021•50 min•Ep. 5
TGL-S1-004 Intro 0:00 - 3:20 - Today's podcast is about the concept of respect. - Why people desire it, how they try to get it. - How they fail to get it. - And how they might get better at getting it. Context 3:20 - 13:50 - People coming to you v. People being sent to you "I don't care if you like me, but you're going to respect me!" 32:40 - The first part (before the coma) is a negation. - The second part (after the coma) is an impossible demand. - Have compassion for people who say this sort ...
Jan 06, 2021•49 min•Ep. 4
Hi Warm-up: I talk about waking up early, liking winter, drinking tea… Content: What I want to do in this episode is tell you a story. - A story from early in my career. - One of the most important lessons I learned - It’s a lesson about control… or perhaps it's not… - It might be more accurate to say that it’s a lesson about a LACK of control.
Dec 30, 2020•56 min•Ep. 3
Intro: In this episode, Gorman gives some answers to a few questions he gets sacked regularly when he teaches. It aims the questions and their answers at people who want to go into mental health. Content: What kind of advice would I give people who are going into mental health? Remain curious about who you work with. Don't get too invested in goals & objectives. If you don't like kids, don't open a daycare, and if you don't like troublesome people don't go into a job where you're going to be...
Dec 28, 2020•35 min•Ep. 2
Intro: This is episode 001 of The Gorman Limit (TGL), a podcast done by Neil Gorman (DSW, LCSW) where he thinks out loud & in public in an attempt to expand the limit of what he knows. Content: This episode explains the reasons behind the making of TGL.
Sep 10, 2020•24 min•Ep. 1
