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72. your summer glow up starts NOW

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Hi my loves 🦋 in today's podcast episode I chat:

-how to actually build real confidence within yourself
-how to self accept and embrace your shadow self
-how to stop caring what people think
-the importance of detaching and "needing" people to like you
-the most important thing that helps you REALLY feel confident about yourself
-learning how to validate yourself
-the new summer glow up series
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Transcript

Hi, everyone, Welcome back to another podcast episode. My name is Alicia Gogan, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand your mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up into the best version of yourself. And girlies, aren't we going to be glowing up into the best version of ourselves this summer? And we need to talk about how we are going to do that. And first we need to talk about confidence. Okay, you guys ask me all of the time to talk about

body confidence, confidence within yourself, even outside of physical appearance. And recently, I just posted a YouTube video talking about how to stop faking it until you make it and just be confident now. So I want to talk about a few things that I said in that video and also set us up for a either six or seven part series that I'm going to be starting on. The podcasts all about glowing up into the literal best version of yourself, because

that's literally what the podcast is about. But first, I needs to address a few things before we get into today's episode. So the first thing is Apple doesn't seem to want to update my podcast art, so I didn't end up mentioning it in last week's episode. So you, guys, whoever is listening on Apple podcasts and or if you're listening anywhere else, you might still not have seen the podcast art. When I go onto my podcast for Apple, it still has the old cover arts with all of the blue, and

so I'm assuming it's like that for everyone else. But I'm also assuming if you listen to the episode where I talked about the rebrand, then most likely you probably just went to Instagram or something to go see it because you're probably like, what the heck what is she talking about? So I'm sorry if you still haven't seen it. And if you haven't, then just go to the podcast Instagram the Globe Secrets podcast and follow and then you'll see the podcast

art. Also, I saw on Spotify that they have this option for you to give your response of each episode of the podcast. So if you click on the episode, it will ask you what did you think about this episode, and then you can press reply. So let me know, because that's kind of cool to be able to interact with you guys. Vias something for

the podcast. If you don't watch on YouTube and you don't even follow the Instagram, I feel like podcasts is one of the things where there's not much of an opportunity to build a community the same way YouTube used to be. Other than the comment sections, we never used to have like community tabs,

So I feel like that is essentially like a community tab. But also you're really giving me feedback on if you want me to talk more about something that I spoke about in the episode, So definitely try that out if you'd like. You could also give me a review on Spotify or Apple. Another thing that I addressed today on my Instagram, Alicia Googin if you're not following, is that I get so many dams from you guys, and I don't even have that many followers. Okay, guys, I'm at like sixteen k Instagram

followers, which is pretty small. It's my smallest platform considering my other ones. But I have such an amazing audience, Like you guys are so amazing in this community is so strong that you guys take your time out of your day to send me a message and let me know just how amazing my content

is and how it's changed your life. And then, of course the nature of the type of content that I create, I attract a lot of people who really do want advice, And on top of that, I post all the time on my stories also of course in my feed, but my stories, so I'm constantly getting responses back, replies, just you guys hyping me up, you guys loving something, you guys asking questions, and I love that, and I feel like for the most part, I do interact with

majority of you guys, Like there's even some of you that are like, wow, I can't even believe you answered me. So with that said, though, I am getting to a point now that I'm feeling a lot of

like stress and anxiety with seeing my dms. And I'm somebody who is a people pleaser and I want to answer every single person and I hate leaving people on red and on top of that, I hate having a inbox that is filled to the rim, which I'm over that now, Like I'm just I've accepted the fact that I'm always going to have notifications and I've been like that even with TikTok YouTube, like there's always going to be that. I just had to get over that. But that's fine. I realize that I just

I can't get to everyone at all points. And there were some people who you know, they sometimes you guys respond to my stories and then I won't see it for a few days because I'm just not checking my dams because like I'm outliving my life or I'm working or I'm doing things. And then I see like there's a bunch of responses and there's a few people being like, oh, like did I do something wrong? Did I say too much? I'm sorry, Like I really love you, da da do not ever say

sorry for sending me a message or responding to something. But just no, I'm never, never, never ignoring you. Sometimes I will read them, but I just don't have This is a thing with me. I am such a deep thinker. I am somebody who wants to give advice. I want to get deep into something, and so when somebody is giving me a message, even if it's not asking for advice, I want to like connect with you and give you a deep response, not just a service level like hey,

thanks by whatever. And on top of that, I do get a lot of advice. And I've already told you guys like I just cannot get to these long paragraphs like I get guys, I get voice notes, I get paragraphs, and I just can't do it. I do offer email coaching, but I don't really do much of that, like in terms of promoting it, because I have so many projects on on the go right now.

I am going to be opening one on one coaching in the summer once I'm finished, like really sending in my book, which is very much so almost done. So I just wanted to say that if you've ever sent me a message and I didn't see it and or I didn't reply, I try to look at all of them. I take it all in. I really like, I really appreciate you guys, and definitely don't like you don't have to stop messaging me or anything. It's not about that. It's just just know

that I'm never ignoring you intentionally. And I do also appreciate the fact that you spend your time sending me messages and I do my very best to respond to you guys. But I try to take my time off of social media as well, like you know, for my own mental health. So anyways,

let's about how you can build real self confidence within yourself. So, like I mentioned that video that I had posted, I talked about a few things that were very crucial to being someone who is truly confident because I even said, like, I don't really love this idea of faking it till you make it. Now, if it works for you, then it works for you. But for me, I want to be confident, not fake being confident. And I understand the whole theory about like you fake it still until

you actually are, but that's never really worked for me. Like how I became confident within myself were a few things that I'm going to list, and on top of that the series that we're going to continue, I really built up my life every aspect of myself in order to actually stand in front of you or sit in front of you, I should say, and feel confident

or go out into the world and feel confident about myself. Now, one of the foundational things that is so important when it comes to actually feeling confident within yourself is embracing the parts of you that you reject, you deny, you disown, the parts of you that are basically in your shadow, the parts of you that you don't accept and people don't want to hear that.

And this is not to say that you have to be fully self accepting and you have to love every part of you, but realistically, it's like, why do we not feel confident. It's because we have parts of us that we don't like right, and we want to hide and we want to shame

ourselves for and whatever. But realistically, if we just didn't care so much about these things, and I get not caring as way easier said than done, and that's not where we're going there, But you know, all of these parts, if we didn't have so many of these parts that push into our shadow where we hated and we deem as bad, we would be more

confident within ourselves, Like we wouldn't feel like we're hiding things. I don't know when this switch happened truly in my life, but there was definitely a switch that turn on or off within me. I just realized, at some point in my life, I am so done hiding myself. Like there's so many times, even just thinking back in high school, I was so not comfortable within my body, and I would wear these jackets or these jeans or

these shirts that just covered all parts of me. But it made me feel even more uncomfortable in my own skin because I was like it would be summer and I'd be wearing a jacket because like I'm covering my arms because I don't like my arms, or like my stomach or something. And I just remember so many times being like, I just wish so bad I could take this

off, But who was stopping me? It was me, And of course there's reasons why I didn't want to take off that jacket, right because I was taught, Okay, maybe bigger arms don't look good, or my arms don't look good because I'm looking at tumbler girls and their arms are tiny. But it's really all the stories that we tell ourselves. It's really all the things that we picked up from our existence living on this earth, and we need to learn how to start being okay with some of these things. It's

okay that you're not perfect. It's okay that you have big arms, it's okay that your body's not where you want to be yet. Honestly, once you start this self acceptance journey, you can then actually start to change yourself from a place of self love. And I want to use change yourself very like lightly. You don't have to change anything about yourself. There's gonna be many things when you go on a self acceptance journey that you realize I don't

need to change. It's not even needed, like seriously, but when you are in such a state of self hate, you feel like you have to change everything and not only until you change all these things will you be happy. And it's crazy because there's so many things that I thought that I wanted to change about myself, and then when I finally just decided to not care so much about, Okay, how big my boobs looked or how big my arms are, I realized I didn't want a boob job, Like I literally

wanted a boob job when I was younger, I wanted it. And now I'm like, not only did my mind change, and when it comes to surgery, especially boob jobs, because there is so much evidence out there showing just how unhealthy that can be for the body, and listen to each your own if you want to get it whatever. You see so many girls getting them out now it's insane. Like literally, I'm pretty sure every single influencer or person that I've followed on social media back in the day has gotten them

out. Even Lauren Bossick, she got hers out the other day, which is insane because like she was also somebody that I looked up to when it came to like body goals, in a way. I don't know if she got like new ones in, but I'm pretty sure she just got them taken out. I don't know, it doesn't even matter, but I realized that, oh, okay, like my boobs are not they're actually nice. But I only started thinking that they were nice until I decided that they were nice.

You know, Like my boobs didn't even change that much from when I was younger, But it was only me deciding, you know what, I don't care anymore, you know what, I'm going to accept myself and then, you know what, if I still feel uncomfortable with myself, then I'll decide to change. And half the time it didn't even change, And if I wanted to change, it really came from a very balanced place, a

very self loving place, like working out. You know, some people don't want to self accept or be okay with where they're at because they're like, well, no, like I do want to have a nice body, and I do want to look good, like obviously, like obviously you want to look good, and that's okay. We don't need to shame ourselves for that. But the way in which we try to achieve that body and health will come from a very different place depending on the state of mind we're in.

If we hate our bodies so much to the point where we're telling ourselves we have to change, and until then we can't live our lives and we are inherently wrong. Babe, your workouts and your diets, they will reflect that self hate. Trust me, I've been there versus Okay, I'm not a bad person because I look this way. Yeah, I want to take care of myself a little bit more, but I also don't need to have this picture perfect body to be loved, to be accepted, to be honored.

Whatever you will see your habits reflect that. Truly, I have such healthier fitness in nutrition, habits in general because I'm just supporting myself and I'm loving on myself. I'm not telling myself I need to do this from a place of self hate and discipline and oh my god, you are so inherently wrong.

So getting good at learning how to accept certain parts of you and how you accept certain parts of you is not telling yourself that you need to, like I said, be obsessed with this part of you, let's say your stomach, you know, or that this needs to be the way that your stone's going to look forever. You're allowed to change, you're allowed to grow,

you're allowed to evolve. But just simply just being okay with even not being where you want to be yet is very, very helpful when it comes to building confidence to trust me, it will make it so much easier.

Like I said, it's easier said than done. And this is where most people stop on their self acceptance journey, their self confidence journey, because accepting your shadow self is literally sometimes feels like death right because it's like, Okay, you're telling me to accept something that I literally been told all my life that I should, you know, feel like crap about because social media,

pressure people around me, whatever. But I'm saying yes, yes, And this is not gonna be perfect and you're not gonna accept every part of you and that's totally fine, and it's a journey. You don't have to be perfect, but like it will help. And this whole not being perfect thing, it's fine that you don't have a picture perfect body, and by the

way, most people don't. And I know you want to tell yourself that no, I know people who have the most perfect body, okay, And that first of all, most of the time that's very rare, and even if it is, and so what, And in my opinion, we are the ones that are deciding whether somebody's picture perfect or not. Right, So you might see somebody who's like, no, they are perfect head to toe in real life everything da da da da. Okay, Well, not every

single person perceives this person to be absolutely perfect. So you can't also say that that's like the objective truth, that like there is such thing as like a perfect human being. I mean you can, but then you're you're really stressing yourself out and you're making things way too complicated. And I just think that it is so much more freeing in life to just not be perfect and not hold yourself to this insane standard, and on top of that, you

become I'm a very real person to other people as well. I find the people who I feel the most comfortable with are the people who accept themselves and they allow themselves to be imperfect. But you know, I can feel imperfect

around them. I can make a mistake and know that they're not going to judge me or like hate me or yeah, okay, maybe I'm not having like the best like body image, or maybe my body's not where I want it to be this summer, but I'm around my friends who don't even care about that anyways, Like I want to actually be in the present moment when I'm going to the cottage. I don't want to worry about how my body

is looking. I want to worry about if I'm going to get a nice tan for one, okay, but for two, talking to all my friends and join their company, going out to watch a sunset, going on the boat, trying to fish for the first time, like real life things. And the truth is, there are going to be times where you're just not going to be perfect. Why would you want to be around people and why would you want to be that person where there's just no room for error,

there's no room for bad days. Like that's insane to me. And even when thinking about like dating someone, I would I never want to date somebody who wanted me to be perfect, because that is there's so much pressure there. And on top of that, I just I'm not perfect. And I feel like you really connect and you could fall in love with somebody who you feel like you can be yourself and they can really accept all parts of you.

But realistically, you have to start doing it for yourself first, honestly, because if you don't, then you're going to look at everyone else being like, no, people don't accept me for me, or people expect me to be perfect. No, you expect yourself to be perfect. So let's stop expecting ourselves to be so perfect. Literally, being perfect is an actual illusion. And I will say it over and over and over again, and

you do not need to be perfect. Something to help you when it comes to accepting your shadow or trying to integrate more parts of you, you can just write out a list of all the things that you don't love about yourself, or you tell yourself that if this was different then I would be happy. Then you know, these are all the parts of you that are just

like pushed into your shadow and you don't like. But then to go further and start to question, Okay, where did I first pick up this belief about my body and why it's bad that it looks like this or something that I say, and why it's bad? And there's always going to be a story, right, And it's going to be up to you to decide,

Okay, well, is this going to continue to be my truth? Is this really the truth of the matter that because my arms are this big, or my body's looking like this, that I'm inherently not worthy of love. I'm not accepted. People aren't going to love me. If you keep telling yourself that story, then that will be your reality and not because there won't actually be people out there that will love you. There will be people who

will love you, but you won't be able to accept it. You won't even see it because you're so obsessed about telling yourself that you are not worthy

because you look like this. So finding that route, finding that story and trying to tell yourself a new story about whatever it is that you're not liking or not rejecting, by also showing yourself, Okay, well there's other people out here who clearly are getting loved, or clearly have friends, or clearly have success whatever that look like this, that act like this, who have this interest, Like, show yourself, find people who resemble you, find

expanders, things of that nature. Another thing that is helpful is to start to embrace these parts of you by letting them out more. Right. So, let's say you're not confident in a bikini, but you really just want to be whether your body is going to be super fit or not like you're

just sick and tired and you just want to feel somewhat confident. Well, you can start walking around in your place, looking in the mirror and seeing your body in instead of pointing out every single thing you hate, pointing out the three things or the one thing that you actually you don't not hate about yourself, or maybe you do love about yourself. Just getting used to seeing yourself in the mirror and telling yourself better stories about yourself can help. And

again being comfortable letting yourself be more of your shadow self. Even when it comes to let's say singing or dancing, you are told in your life that, okay, don't do that, it's weird, it's awkward as cringey, So you don't want to do that when you're out, but you really love doing that. Okay, we'll start doing more of that in your own home. Get comfortable with yourself doing that and be okay with being cringe be okay with not being perfect, and continue to make that a practice for yourself.

Another thing that's so important is to seriously stop caring about what other people think about you. And I know this can be difficult, I get it. But one thing that I do when I find my thoughts going to, oh, okay, well, what if this person thinks that I'm were because I just did that, I tell myself that is an old story, that's a manifestation of my low self worth. And we're not going to go there. We're not going to continue to think about what that person is thinking of me.

I'm going to care more about what I think right now. And what I actually know to be true about myself is that I am inherently worthy. I'm not a bad person because I look like this, that I acted like this, that I said this thing, that I'm doing this thing, whatever. But it's going to be up to you to be able to tell yourself that story. No I'm not actually wrong. No I'm not actually cringey. No I can wear this outfit, I can look like this in a bikini,

I can whatever. It's gonna be up to you, though, And this idea of not caring about other people think just kind of remind yourself that every time you are thinking about what other people think, it's like you have this spotlight and it's completely shined on everyone else, external everything, and a very confident person has that spotlight shining on them. So when you find, oh, my attention is going through the outside sources. No, let's bring

it back to ourselves. Let's remind us how amazing we are and continue to move on. Now. I know this can be definitely difficult, and you're not going to be perfect with doing this, but trying to detach from the need, the incessive need to have people like you will really help you not only just allow yourself to integrate shadow parts of you, because you literally won't

care what people think. And honestly, the reason why we care so much about what other people think is because we have this belief or this like thought of Okay, well I need them to like me. I need them to tell me that I'm okay, I need them, I need them, I need them. And if you need somebody so badly, then whatever you think that they are going to accept or reject, you are going to act from

that place. Right, So you're going to be like, Okay, well I need this guy to really like me, and I know that guys like very pretty perfect girls. Or if that's the belief that you have in your head. By the way, that's not every man, But I'm just saying, if you had that belief, then you are going to be very critical on yourself. You're going to try your best to make sure to conform into this little box that you've told yourself that you need to be because you need

this guy to like you. But if you stop needing people to like you and to tell you your worth all the time, then you won't really care to fit into this box. If this guy doesn't end up liking you. Okay, I'm not going to change myself just because you don't like me. And the way you stop needing people to like you and to tell you that you are worthy is for you to start telling yourself that you are likable and

that you are worthy just the way you are. Now. This is going to definitely lead into the series because I know it's easier said than done to just reaffirm to yourself how amazing you are when you have low self esteem, because it's not just about self accepting yourself and affirming to yourself that you're amazing. That's not the only thing that's going to make you feel confident. I know that to be facts, so don't worry. I'm not going to set

you up for failure. But that is definitely the first piece is just telling yourself like, okay, I don't actually I'm gonna be okay. If this person doesn't like me, you actually are going to be okay, I promise you. And one very important reminder when it comes to other people, if they are judging you, if they are saying something negative, if they are talking crap, if they X, Y, and z, it is seriously

all just a projection. Okay. So anytime somebody ever says anything rude to me, which is very rare, but you know, I get the comments on YouTube or wherever I get it, it's seriously just a projection. When somebody doesn't like something about somebody else is because they don't. They haven't integrated that part of them within their shadow. They've been taught by other people or

society that it's bad, so they look at it as bad. Or simply they just have certain likes and wants and needs, and they value certain things, so naturally they're just not going to favor something. Let's say that you have about yourself, the way that you look like, whatever it is, so just leave it. Who cares If somebody who is judging you or being rude, it's a projection. Whatever. But even in general, if somebody's just like being nice, but they just I don't know, maybe they reject

you in a way. It's fine. People have their wants and needs. You can't tell me that you like every single guy that walks into your existence. Okay, you probably have a type, You probably have a preference, and that's okay. And like I said, I don't believe you can fully one just accept every single part of you and just like that's how you're going

to feel like the most confident about yourself. Because on the other side of this whole advice I'm giving you is how you build confidence within yourself is doing things in your life. Okay, so building up your character, achieving things in your life, feeling good within your own body, having a life that you are excited to be living, Like, those are things that are going

to make you feel very confident. So, like I said, in the next six to seven weeks, I want to do a series where we break down different pillars that I believe will help you glow up into the best version of yourself and how you can feel more confident in these areas. So I have them written out. I definitely want to get your guys's feedback. If you feel like there should be like another pillar that we need to talk about, but there's also going to be like topics within each pillar. But this

is how I have them listed out. So we have physical, mental, emotional, financial, social, and spiritual. So I want to give you guys tips and also will definitely be doing Q and a's for each one when it comes to building confidence or building routines or tips on how you can glow up in each area. Because this is a thing. When I think about myself, I think about these areas in my life, and for the most part, I feel confident in all of these areas. Now each area I'm

always working to level up. But when I think about myself and why I can have confidence with myself and why I can have confidence when relationships and knowing like yes, I would be somebody with who somebody would commit to, or yes, of course I can speak with conviction because I know what I'm talking about, or yes, I can back myself and I can trust myself and have confidence within myself to be able to take myself in the right direction because

of the work that I have done on myself in each area of my life. Obviously, I feel confident in my body because I take care of my body. I go to the gym, I eat very healthy. I've learned what works on my body, what doesn't. I accept myself for who I am as well. I have spent so much money in time in educating myself and healing and speaking and doing all these things that, of course I've now created a career where I absolutely love and I'm being very successful in and that's

because I've down the work. Even when it comes to finances, I am in such a better financial situation that I was my entire life. And when you are confident within your finances, when you understand finances, when you are making money and you're just like your life is finally coming together and you're in this bundance mindset, you feel more secure. You feel like you can relax, You feel like, Okay, I can do this. But that's taken

time. That's taken me literally understanding how finances were, getting myself out of debt, literally like switching everything to do with finances. When it comes to my mental state, which really finances and like being financially ambundant, it is I don't even know the percentage. I'm not going to say it right now, because I haven't really thought about it too much, but it is so

heavily mindset based. But then, of course, like certain habits that you need to do, things you need to learn like but those are all the things that I had to do and I had to do at a very young age. Honestly, all of these things that I did, I did start doing them at a very young age because I had to. I didn't come from a lot of money. I didn't come from a lot of resources.

I didn't come from a very healed family. My dad passed away when I was sixteen, and even when he was alive, we didn't have a healthy relationship because he was emotionally distant. Lots of daddy issues, I should say that I had to work through. My mother went through addictions. I had to go through that at a very young age. Right when my dad hass away. I had to grow up very quickly. I had to learn everything on my own. I had to do everything. And so you know,

those are the things like going through trials and tribulations. I'm not even saying that you need to go through this level of life circumstance that I went through, Like I went through a very lot that is a tiny little snibbet of my life, but you know, going through life things. But on top of that, just being educated and doing the work and putting that in.

Of course it's going to make me feel confident. Of course I can sit here and guide people and help them become a better version of them because I have done it. I've put in the work, I have practiced, and yes, so it's going to be a level of me just accepting myself. But the things that I've done and put in the work towards are the things that have really made me actually feel very confident with in my life. And I want you guys to feel the same way because I get questions all the

time. I get so no matter what it is that I get when it comes to like certain questions, whether that be like physical health or like mental health issues that people are working through, or relationship issues, everything everything comes from this low in my opinion, not everything, but like in my opinion, when I read a lot of things, it's coming from this very low self worth state. It's not coming from a lot of confidence. And that's

okay, though we can fix that. I have done that. I'm not saying I'm the most absolute confident in the whole world because perfect just doesn't exist. But I have completely transformed my entire year life and self concept and I'm able to continue doing so because I'm doing the work. So, like I said, there will be six or seven pillars, I don't know. I want to get your guys's feedback. Like I said, physical, which will be next week, that we're going to talk about how to build more confidence

around you, like your physical looks like. We'll definitely talk about health and wellness. I'll definitely pose a question to you guys on the podcast Instagram. By the way, you guys need to follow that because that is where I'm asking all the questions in terms of advice and things that you guys want me to focus on, because there are a lot of ways that we can go

about that. But obviously, feeling confident within yourself on a physical level around others and so that you're just free to live right, So you're just like free to not feel like you need to wear that jacket anymore like I did in high school. Oh my god, girl, the way that I was sweating take it off, to take it off. And mental for me, when I think about mental, actually think about more so like intelligence and skills

and finding your value that you bring to the world. And this is different than your innate value as a human being, Like, yes, you don't need to prove yourself to people in order to be valuable. But obviously, like we there's certain things that we're going to I want you, guys, I should say, to be able to find something that you know is so valuable that you can bring to the world or you can bring to your workplace, where you can bring to whatever you know obviously doesn't need to be something

like I'm doing. But for me, like I know my value and I'm bringing that to the world. So obviously me knowing that and me believing that that is my value, me doing the work that I do, I'm very confident. We'll definitely talk about the emotional side. And for me, when I think about this, I think about being confident in yourself to be able to make a decision, to be able to guide yourself in the right direction.

For you to seriously know that you have yourself On the worst days ever since maybe my first ever rock bottom in my life, whenever that was I started to realize I have myself no matter how bad the day, it gets no matter what is happening. I have myself, and I know that there's some people out there who literally just like don't believe that things are ever going to get better. They can't trust themselves, they feel lost, and I don't like that's not a good state to feel in. So we definitely need

to talk about that finance. Like I said, honestly, I really want to talk about getting out of the scarcity mindset because that's been coming up a lot around me with my friends that I've been witnessing, and you know,

like I've worked through the scarcity mindset. So it's so crazy because I don't even talk about it that much on the podcast, but the scarcity mindset and manifesting, I don't really like to talk about messing too much because you know, I'm not going to get into it, but I really do think that honestly, when you get to a certain point, and I'm not trying to put myself on this pedestal, but once you really understand the game of life

and you are very confident and you've worked through a lot of things in your life, you realize you don't even really need to manifest things because you believe so heavily in the things that you're going to get. There's obviously still things that I do in my life that kind of help reinforce a certain path that I'm trying to go on, but I find I don't need to do a

bunch of manifesting in the way that most people might think of it. I also did make a heal to manifest guide, by the way, if you're interested in it, it will be linked in the show notes description wherever you see this my link in my bio, because I actually just really think that to manifest things in your life is really just to heal and to work through

all that. So anyways, we're gonna talk about that in relation to finances, and of course I'll tell you not just like mindset abundant stuff, but just actual practical tips, because yes, we can think about the abundance mindset and like mindset stuff, but also understanding certain practical things to help set you up in the three D physical realm is very important too. I'm not just a spiritual manifest or like, oh my god, I just leave it and

you'll get it. And then I want to touch on spiritual and I think

reprogramming your beliefs will be a really big part of that. But I think that just having some sort of foundation or faith in something or some sort of concept of how you see the world and how it works can definitely really help you continue to become the best version of yourself and take certain action, because if you just start like believing a million things and you're all over the place, then it's hard for you to continue to take aligned action because you're all

over the place and you don't know what to believe. Now, it's not that I'm going to tell you what you should believe or not, but I do find like for me being someone who is spiritual, being someone who believes she's a creator of her own reality, someone who believes in the universe, the law of attraction manifesting, even though it's not like this Bible that I'm going by, but from everything that I've been through in my life and how

I've seen it correlate in by analyzing certain things, that's just what works for me, and that's what I believe, and it just really helps me solidify the trust that I have within not only myself, for the universe. When things come up in my life or maybe I don't know the answer or I'm getting a little confused or I'm stressed, I can kind of go back to this foundational belief system and be like, I got this, this is how it's going to work out. Again. This is not me like being psychic,

but you know, trusting and the unseen and the unknown. It's really really helped me in times when yeah, I've been stressed or things aren't working out the way that I thought that they would. So I want to start touching on all of those throughout the summer. And why I'm saying like six to seven weeks because every episode we will talk about that. So let me

know your thoughts. If you're excited for this, I just think that will help a little bit with the structure of the podcast as the months go by during summer. We have a lot of things to do this summer. Girlies. I don't care what it is, but you're doing things. You're not going to be sitting in your bedroom not being the best glowed up version of yourself. I will help you with that, but you also need to take

that action and go out there and do the damn thing. But don't worry, I will be here with you as we level up, as we continue to grow. Just a quick mention once again for anyone who is watching on YouTube. I have more episodes of the podcast, but they're only available Spotify, Apple or wherever you listen to your podcast. I only started posting my

visuals on YouTube at the beginning of this year in January. So if you want more content and you've already binged my videos and you can definitely go to Spotify or Apple. And yeah, thank you guys so much. Please let me know in the comments what your thoughts are about anything I talked about. But on top of that, like the series that we're going to create, if you think I should add something or not. Again, within each topic that we'll be talking about, we will expand on a lot of things.

So make sure you're following the Instagram so that we can keep up to date and you can get motivated because I've been posting. I mean, I only have three posts, but I will be posting more, even outside of just updating you on the podcast episodes. Like I said, it's going to be like a Pinterest but Instagram. Okay, love you and I'll see you the next one. Bye.

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