183. the work you're putting in WILL pay off.. just stay focused. you are doing ENOUGH!

whatever it is that you are putting in the work on. Okay, whatever you're working towards, whether it's goals, or you're staying strong with something, or you're waiting for the fruits of your labor to come, I want you to remember and I want to remind you that your work will pay off. It will all pay off. You just need to stay focused. Now, let me talk to you about what made me inspired to talk about this topic, and I'm going to give

you some advice. If you are currently feeling like you aren't doing enough and or waiting for your fruits or your labor to be fruitful and it's just not and you're feeling maybe down, or you feel like you want to give up, or you're looking around you, and you're kind of in this energy of the grass is greener. We're gonna recenter, We're gonna recenter. So I personally like to watch a lot of commentary channels on YouTube. I like to watch Kiki Chanel, like to watch Adam McIntyre,

Smoky Glow, Ccy Sorez. I like to watch all different types of channels, whether that is something to do with like the influencer world, or social media, or just crazy things that are happening on the Internet. I feel like it's my way of kind of disconnecting from the self development world and the healing world and working on yourself and this that. I also love reality TV shows too, Okay,

I just love it. But the other day I was watching some commentary video where they were kind of talking about how some influencers, let's say YouTube, how they gain a lot of virality, they gain a lot of success, they gain a lot of subscribers and money essentially, like those big ones. Okay, we're not talking about like mid

tier content creators. We're talking about the big guys, Okay, the ones that are making millions and millions of dollars, And how some of these commentators are basically kind of following some of their stories and how not all of them, but some of them ended up like burning through a bunch of money, or they're not really successful anymore, or they ended up being like dead beats or whatever the case is, and how their message, like the commentary Channel's

message to a lot of people who might be watching these big YouTubers or people who have success, the message is, you know, be careful with who you look up to. You know, not everything is what it seems, and don't look at your current life circumstance or your success against others because you have no idea what is going on behind you know, closed doors or behind the scenes. Even you can think about this with people on Instagram or whatever.

We kind of know that, right, but also just shedding light on the dangers sometimes of always wanting things very quickly or lots of success quickly. And I think about this when people come to me and ask me about being a content creator. Some people will ask me, well, how did you get viral or how do you go viral? You know, people always want to go viral, and people want millions of views and that. And it's not to say that you can't want that as a content creator,

and that it's not amazing when that happens. It's not the best measure of success. And I feel like in this generation, we're always looking at that as a measure of success, and if we don't have that, we're like, oh, we're not successful, or oh what I'm doing is not good enough, you know, if I'm not going viral, or if I don't have all of this money, if I don't have all of this material success or whatever everyone else has online, like I'm not doing enough, I'm not being

successful enough, or I'm just not enough. In how growing up and watching you know, some of this generation have so much of that success kind of makes us all want things quick, fast and in a hurry, especially with the fact that that's just how the generation works now, you know, whether it's you order something in three seconds you get off of Amazon, or yeah, you can post a video on YouTube or TikTok or whatever and it

does go viral. It's like we're getting really trained to have everything quickly, and so when we don't have things quickly, we're automatically like, oh, see, like I'm not successful or it's not happening, and we lose faith and we lose a lot of hope, and I think it's such a facade.

And I've definitely seen this within my own self. I feel like I've grown up watching people be really successful for many years, and I've had to remind myself, like, Okay, you don't need to always measure your success against others because everyone has their own journey, and be careful to even do that because some things are not as it seems. But I've just had to remind myself that I'm not

as behind as I think I am. It's usually when I sign on to social media or I see everyone else's successes that then I'm like, oh, well, I should be further in life, and honestly, let's just take this outside of success. We will do this with our age. Right. Oh, I'm twenty five years old. Why don't I have the long term relationship of my dreams? Why am I not getting pregnant? Why am I not married? Why don't I have a house? Oh my gosh, I'm still in debt.

Oh I don't have this much savings, like I have been through all of that, And if you do that enough, it really strips you from the reality of which is you right now? And your life, and it's actually perfect. You are exactly where you need to be. You actually don't need to be anywhere but where you're at right now. But it's like you get in your own head based

off of the things that you're seeing. So it's not necessarily full of your fault because this generation is like bombarding us with you got to do it at this age and this that. But I want this video to be a reminder to you that you know, whatever you're working on or whatever you want, keep working on it, stay focused. You are also exactly where you need to be, and bring your attention, in your time and your energy back to yourself. Okay, kind of back to this, like

the grass is not actually greener over here. The grass is or where you water it. And why that's also so important is if you are working towards something, it's going to be important that you stay focused and you keep taking the action towards what you want. But when you're constantly looking outside of yourself and being like, oh, this person's doing it that way, or maybe I should do it this way, or this person's whatever it is, then you stop being consistent with the habits that will

actually bring you to your success. There's a million ways that you can get to your goal. There's a million ways that you can build subscribers on YouTube. There's a million ways that you can go out into the world and be successful in this career or that career. There are a million pathways. You basically just have to choose one. And yes, do you have to change some of your methods and rebrand sometimes or you know, take a different

route if things aren't working. Yes, But I find and I've seen this in myself, especially in my earlier days. This generation, we're so quick to jump to the next thing and the next thing, and you know, we don't even finish a book. We don't even finish a thought before we're like, oh, let's go onto the next thing. We don't even start the project before we have a

new idea to do another project. And it's like, well, maybe if you just started this project first and then actually flushed it out and seeing if it was actually going to be successful, maybe it would actually be successful. And I think about this when it comes to YouTube. People are always asking well, how did you grow and this that it's like, first, yeah, I had belief in myself, and I feel like I have a purpose and I

have a message to share. You know, I have this thing about me and I'm bringing it to the world. But for the most part, the way I grew my first channel and the way that I'm growing my second channel on YouTube, and the way I've grown my audio version of this podcast is consistency is showing up every week and knowing what I bring to the world and my value, and staying focused on my goals and trusting and knowing and reminding myself that the grass really is

greener where I'm watering it. So some reminders for you if you find that you're wondering when your success is going to happen, or when life will change, or when you'll get that dream relationship, or when it is going to be that you're out of debt, or life is just going to be different, whatever it is, stop letting yourself get distracted with everyone else's timelines. Understand that everyone has a unique path here on this earth, okay, And yes we can get motivated by other people, and other

people can definitely be our expanders. I talk about this a lot, you know, looking up to people and seeing the way that they do things and learning and growing

from other people. But you have to really see how a lot of your anxiety of the future or your second guessing of your path or you getting it in your own way, is you looking outside of yourself and seeing everyone else's path and being like, oh, well, they're doing it this way or I'm not on that path and this that, and it's not needed, and it's really taking you not only away from your future but the present moment right Like, we're also here to live and

experience life and be happy in the present moment, and we're not even doing that, and we're not doing that because we're just constantly looking outside of ourselves and being like when and where and how, and you know everyone else is doing it better than me, And it's that No, just because somebody is your age and they have a better financial situation than you, it doesn't mean that you

are behind. And I know it's hard to really think that, Like we have to sometimes measure ourselves up to something to know that we're going in the right direction or this that. But as long as you're having a plan, you know, you have some sort of vision for yourself and you're taking certain steps, like you are fine. You are way more fine than you think and I think

this really correlates to worthiness and reminding yourself that you are enough and what you are doing is enough. And again, this is really hard in this generation because we are constantly bombarded with people, places, and things and messages everywhere all the time being like, do more and be more productive and start this business, and you can do that. There's there's a million things, right, There's a million things that I can do as a content creator. There's a

million ways I can make money. There's a million things that I can work on when it comes to myself, myself development and this thing that I need to heal and that person that I need to meet and X, Y and Z, and I think we just need to bring it back down to basics sometimes and remind ourselves that we are enough, what we are doing is enough. Okay. So I think about this when it comes to my podcast episodes. Sometimes I will get in my head about, oh, like,

am I doing enough? Should I have more episodes? Or is this valuable enough? Or should I be just doing more? And I think it's a little bit difficult sometimes in your head as an entrepreneur and or if you're a podcaster or a YouTuber, because it is a different realm of work, right, I'm not going into a nine to five and putting in all these hours. I work very efficiently and quickly, and so even when I put out an episode, it feels like I sometimes haven't done a

lot of work. But the work is so potent and so valuable, and the way that it's touching lives is in a way where it's amplified. But anyways, sometimes I'll be like, oh, no, I need to do more. I need to be working. I need to constantly be working. And there's many reasons why we think that. You know, we have this reptilian brain of ours that is wired to always make sure that we're safe and we're doing the right thing and we're moving forward, and we're moving

forward in society, right. So it's constantly looking for threats, constantly looking for things that we can work on and this that, And we have to kind of reprogram that in a way and remind ourselves like, Okay, there's no threats,

we are fine. We can relax sometimes, but again we have to remind ourselves to bring our focus back to what we are here to do, what our purpose is, or what the current goal is in our lives, and usually it's just like one or two things, right, But we look outside ourselves and like, oh, no, we need to do three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten a million things. No we can't. We can't do one

hundred thousand things at the same time. But it's going to be up to you and I have to do this with myself to constantly be reminding our subconscious minds, the beliefs that we hold about ourselves, that what we are doing is enough. So for me, my podcast episodes are enough. My weekly episode is enough. This message is enough.

It will help people. It is enough. If you're currently studying right now, and you're going to school, and you're in university or college or high school or whatever it is, you being in the chapter of your life of just studying right now, that's enough. Okay. Yes, do you have career goals, yes. Do you have aspirations to be bigger and do better in all of these other goals? Yes, and you can have them, and you can know that

you're going to hit those goals. But stop creating so much more stress, in suffering and overwhelm in your current reality. Right now, give it a second, give yourself time right now, focus on one thing, which maybe it is you doing your studies. That's good enough. That is good enough. You working your nine to five right now, and you trying to figure out what you want to do for the next ten years, but you having to basically just go into your nine to five or whatever type of job

that you're doing. That is enough. You working as a server or a bartender. I'm just saying that because that's what I used to do, or a job you might not like, or maybe you do like it, but you know, you might need new skills for something down the line, whatever it is, stay present in this. This is enough.

What you were doing is enough. I remember when I was bartending and serving, and a lot of that money that I was making was really going to paying off debt and fixing my finances and learning about finances and saving money and things like that, and I really had to just remind myself, like, this is just a chapter, This is just a period of time right now. Let me stay focused, let me keep grinding, let me keep

doing this. Let me not get distracted with all the other things that I need to do or I should do, or I want to do, and let me stay focused with this thing. Because this is the thing that's going to allow me to get to that next step. And

I think what can help you with this of reminding yourself that one thing, baby steps, This is just a period of life, This is just a chapter of my life, whatever it is. And feeling like you are enough is to have a daily practice of reminding yourself that yes, you are enough and this is enough, but also a gratitude practice. And I know we hear this whole time, and we hear it and it goes in one ear and out the other because we're like, oh, this is not enough. This is not going to make me feel

da da da. I promise you you being more grateful for the period of life that you're in and the things that you currently do have in your life that are going well, and you focusing on the positive aspects of this current chapter of your life will get you a long way. It will take you from this fight or flight looking at everyone else and da da da

da to your current present moment. By you being grateful for all the things and all the lessons and all the opportunities, even if they're not perfect, that you currently have in your life, it will keep you rounded. And that's the type of mindset that you are going to need to have if you want your work to pay off anyways, Because again, if you're constantly jumping outside of yourself and outside of your life and outside of your goals, you're just never gonna get anywhere. You're just gonna be

a chaotic mess. You're gonna be going to one thing to another, to another to another, and that's just not really how you're gonna see a lot of results consistently

in your life. And when you do see other people's successes or people doing things a different way than you, when you are rooted in gratitude and you are reminding yourself that you are blessed to have this current chapter of life and the lessons that you are learning and the things that you are accomplishing, and yes, you're looking forward to your future, but you're here in the present moment.

You're gonna be less susceptible to jump when you see other people be more successful or have different things than you. And there's this Pinterest quote that I really like, and it feels good to my nervous system, so I figured I would read it out, and it says I want to plant the roots of my inner piece so deep that the external winds of chaos and change won't phaze me.

And I think that's what gratitude does for you. And that's what also reminding yourself that you're on your own timeline can do for you, is to really help you feel grounded and be grounded in your own life and your own reality as life hits you. Meaning when you see people have success or you know you see a new thing that you can do, you have a new insight or a new goal that you have in mind, but you're kind of like noting it. You're not jumping out of your own current reality, your own roots and

distracting yourself. Now, something that I have learned as I

moved from I would say twenty five to now twenty nine is that the best things in life, they do take time. And let's bring it back to this virality situation. I have had videos go viral, and that's great, but I've always known, because I have learned this by watching other people, that just because a video goes viral doesn't

really mean much for you down the line. You need to continuously show up for your audience and build a community in an audience if you want to continue to have a career, let's say, being a YouTuber or a podcaster or somebody to do on social media. I think about this with my book. The reason why my book was successful and a lot of you guys got my book wasn't because I just had one viral video and

then I talked about the book. It was me continuously showing up for many years and you getting to know me and my story, and you guys getting value from my episodes that you came to trust that, oh, maybe this book would be helpful or oh, I'm really interested in it. But also not everyone bought my book on just one video, whether it was viral or not. It was the continuous action of me showing up and having my book here and talking about it and referencing it

whenever I needed to. And there's still people who buy my book, and there will continue to be people down the line who buy my book or even watch some of my episodes. And with whatever else I come out with down the line, that's going to be a result of me showing up consistently right now in my life and building this trust and building this community with you guys. When it comes to my future marriage, I know that that marriage is going to be so aligned and so beautiful,

and will it be perfect, I'm sure not. But the more times I learn what I want and what I don't want from current relationships, and I take my time and I allow myself the room to breathe and to not rush the process and not tell myself I need to rush into a relationship because I'm this age and I have to get going in this that and learn

the lessons from the people that I date. I know that all of that, all that time that I've put in, all that time that I've waited, all that time, and I've been patient and reminded myself that I am deserving and I will get it. All of that that is going to make it so my marriage will be as good as it possibly can. Okay, And I'm not saying that you can't ever just like all of a sudden, just get into a marriage or get into a relationship and it be like flawless and perfect and amazing. I'm

sure that happens. But realistically, all of this time, these lessons, all of this is the reason why I'm gonna have a beautiful, deep, meaningful relationship because I've learned so much about myself and I've learned what I do want and what I don't want, But that wouldn't have been possible if I didn't have this time, right, and sometimes we just want to rush things. We want the relationship, we want, the money, we want the success instantly, all at once.

I think about this when it comes to friendships as well. The relationship that I have with my best friend Joyee is different than when it first started, and I think about how she's obviously been somebody who I've really been going to when it comes to losing my mom, and I feel so blessed and so grateful that I have somebody who I feel so comfortable with calling and just

having her just be there consistently every single day. I talk to her literally every single day, which is pretty unlike me, because I don't typically talk to someone every single day unless it's somebody i'm in a relationship with and or now like my best friend, Like, I'm not necessarily that type of person who's constantly always talking, but for some reason, that is how Joey and I have been, and I'm so grateful for that. But it makes me

feel so safe, and that is a result of time. Okay, when we first started hanging out, it wasn't us talking every single day. We got closer when we were serving together. And then when I left my job, she was helping me with like thinking about finances, and then I was giving her advice when it comes to her leaving the same job so that she can go full time content creation. And then of course we built a relationship with that. We went through breakups together, we went through trials and

tribulations and spirals and all of these things. All of that time and that effort and that consistency and that showing up for each other, and that doing the work on ourselves right to continuously let somebody in, all of that created such a potent relationship where I am very grateful and very blessed to have her, especially in the

times where I need somebody like that. And I think that again, sometimes we're wanting these deep friendships and I want this type of you know, girlfriend, or this that, and I've wanted the same thing too, and I realize it's just it takes time. It takes you showing up, and honestly, it takes you realizing that it's only like you don't need a lot of people sometimes, you know,

you don't need a lot of goals. You don't need a lot of things to accomplish, Like, how about you focus on that one person and pour into that person and see where that goes. Or that one goal and pour into that goal and see how it goes. Or that one workout regimen that you keep going off of, and you want to try this thing that this girl's doing over here, how about you try to finish that

challenge first and see where that leads you. So, when I'm feeling like I want to jump out of my life and I want to look over here, or when i feel like I have rushing energy towards myself because I have to keep going or this is not enough, or I have to do more, I like to ask myself how do I want to feel in my day to day basis? How do I want to feel when I wake up? And for me, I want things to feel meaningful. I want them to feel deep. I want to feel rooted in stoude. I want to feel like

people get me. I want to get myself. I want to feel nourished. I want to feel full. And when you're nourishing yourself, when you are feeling grounded, when you're feeling like things are meaningful in your life. That's all a result in you staying focused, you taking your time with things, you showing up consistently and nourishing your body and nourishing your mind, and doing a lot of the

same things over and over and over again. So this really is your reminder to stay focused with whatever you're doing. You are doing enough. I know it feels like you're not. And this is a reminder to me. I'm always constantly fight or flight, need to do more survival? Is this enough? Da? Da da da, It's enough. The results, the fruits of your labor, will come if you stay focused on your purpose, on your desires, and what you know to be true about what you are currently doing in this phase of

your life. Also have many different chapters and phases of your life where you will learn a new lesson or you'll be able to do a new thing. It's okay if you can't start everything all at once. It's okay. If you're not there yet. It's okay if you haven't seen those results. It's okay if you realize that you know what it's going to take a few years to pay off this or that or whatever. It is. That's fine. You are on the perfect, most flawless timeline, even if

it doesn't feel like that. I know sometimes it doesn't feel like that, but you have to remind yourself of that because that's going to be the mindset that will keep you grounded, and that will be the mindset that will help you also see the beauty, the blessings, the lessons that are currently in front of your face that will help you get to that new level in your life as well, and will help you experience a more peaceful life, right Because at the end of the day,

I personally don't want to constantly be waking up and looking outside of myself and being like, okay, living for the future or living for the future, when where da da da da? We have to come back to ourselves to enjoy what we have here, even if it's not necessarily perfect. And also when it comes to love, because I don't know, I just feel like I really wanted to share this quote. It says someone will ache for

your soul, wait for them. Okay, I think about this when it comes to anything in life, right, But even with love, sometimes you get lonely. Sometimes you want more money, sometimes you want that success. Yes, yes, yes, but just think about how good it will feel when you get the right love, the right amount of money, that success that you always want. It. It will come. Somebody will ache for your soul, not somebody will just half ask for your soul. And is that No, somebody will ache

for your soul. We'll get the exact job that you want, you will get the money that you need. You will get the life that you've always desired. There's so many things that I still desire. A home, I still desire, a relationship that's super aligned with me. I still desire. There's different things for my health, my wellness, and all

these things I still desire. I know it will come in and it will be so beautiful because I've been willing to wait and work on the things that I need to work on now and be patient and trust trust the process. So with that said, that's really it. I hope this message helped. It definitely has been prevalent in my life, and these are things that I have to remind myself of. I like to have a morning practice, a journal practice where I'm reminding myself that what I'm

doing is enough. If I'm having thoughts or if I see myself acting out of scarcity, or remind myself, no, we don't need to do more. It's fine, it's okay. There's many people in life who are doing less than you and they're feeling just fine doing what they're doing. This is not to compare, of course, you know, and put people down. It's not about that, but it's to realize, like, listen, stay focused, you got this. I'll see you guys in the next one. Bye.