130. how to TRUST yourself and follow your intuition

Hi everyone, and welcome back to another podcast episode. My name is Alicia Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand your mind to become more self aware so that you can glow up into the best version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing? Happy Monday? If you're listening to this on a Monday, it is very early in the morning for me to be recording a podcast episode, but I just had to

get on the mic. Okay, listen. I had a very spiritual morning, like I have been mentioning, well at least last week's episode, talking about how I've been really tapping more into my spirituality, just having a morning routine that's very much so light the incense, pull an order oracle card and

listen to some Abraham Higgs vibes. And of course I did that this morning as well, and I pulled a card from my oral cold deck and it was all about trust and I want to read because it has like a little like guide to explain to you what the cards mean if you don't know what they mean. And these deck of cards that I have, I usually just like to pull them just to get my mind thinking of something. I don't use like oracle decks or like tarot cards or whatever to like truly like give

me answers. Like I'm not seeking for answers, but I do love to pull them sometimes just to get my mind thinking. And a lot of times when I pull a card, it really does resonate with my soul or resonate

with what something is happening like within my life. So I thought that this is such a good topic to talk about and something that I think it takes a long time to even understand what it means to trust your intuition or how to and I know I've just gotten a lot of questions about this, and I think, like as I get older, I'm twenty eight now, there's definitely things when I think about my life that I have done to help me trust myself more. And I guess trust my intuition and act on that more.

And I'm actively always trying to go in the direction of what I deeply know is true for me in the world and where I want to move in life. And I am somebody who loves to talk a lot about healing work and feminine energy a lot and cyclical living. And I think the more that I tapped into cyclical living, which just means like, well, there's many ways you could cyclically live, I guess, but one is cycle sinking. Just understanding that as a woman, I'm also not on birth control, that

I go through four phases of my cycle every single month. So my mood is going to be different, my energy levels are going to be different, my insights in life are going to be different. And I see that all the time. But just in general, understanding that life is not linear.

Things happen, seasons happen, and there's just periods of your life where you sometimes need to come closer inwards, do that deep shadow work, do that healing work, and then there's some seasons of your life where things just feel really aligned and things are just moving and whatever. And I just embrace all

of that. And I think, like coming from somebody who has been really strict on herself, I talk about that a lot in my book The Ultimate Globe Guide, where I went on this pursuit of glowing up in the best version of myself and I really try to change myself from a place of self

hate. So I would do habits and behaviors that were really strict and all or nothing and every morning I have to wake up and have to do the same thing, and if I don't, then I'm just I hate the fact that I didn't, and I get so hard on myself when I don't,

and I just so controlling and stressed out all the time. Once I went through a process of healing that whole, not part of me, but getting to the root as to why I was like that in the first place, and trying to self improve and love myself in a way that wasn't so strict, I found myself really resonating with the fact that things really aren't linear in

life and they don't need to be. And so even when it comes to healthy habits, like when we're talking about the glow Up Challenge, I give myself different days to do different things because I know not every single day is the same, and like it doesn't have to do the same. So anyways, I say all that to say, the way that I live my life definitely does help me be able to connect more into my intuition, my higher self, my inner knowing, whatever it is. And definitely the morning routine

that I currently have right now allows me to tap more into that. So anyways, let's just read what the Divine Intuition Oracle guide tells us about intuition.

I think this is a really really good definition of what it means to trust your intuition. And then I'm going to give you some of the things that I have learned on my journey. Like I said, so the card, which I guess I'll just show you guys on YouTube what it looks like looks like this with little hands and like crossing the fingers. I guess that's what it is. Super cute and aesthetic of course, so it says trust. You have drawn this card today to encourage you when you act on feel

good intuitions, the results will speak for themselves. And I think there's a reason why we ask the question of how do I trust my intuition more? Because I think that there's an inner knowing that our intuition, like there's something within us if we could just hap into it, that is the right action

to take from or trusting the feeling that we have within ourselves. Like I think that's why we ask the question because it's like we know that if we were to act more on our intuition or trust our intuition, we would get either the results that we really want in our lives, or we would just get in alignment to what we actually desire in ours. So let's expand on

trusting your intuition. How do you learn to trust your intuition? How can you be sure that your inner sense of guidance isn't mere daydreaming or wishful thinking. Do you need to practice for years, read hundreds of books, or be born with a special gift. The answer is actually much simpler than that. The key is to act on it. Your logical mind will protest because it wants to guarantee. It wants to know that what it's making is the

right decision and acting on the right information, which is very true. Right. It's like we almost like have this intuition, this knowingness, desire, and it feels so good, and then we get into our logical minds and then we come up with all the evidence just to prove to us why we can't trust or we shouldn't trust, and we go into the spiral of thinking.

And I think that's just like number one key to know whether the feeling that you have or the thoughts that you have really whether it's intuition or if it's kind of just like you're limiting beliefs or your negative self talk or your trauma talking or your survival mode, like getting activated is how do you feel? And usually our intuition like there's a good feeling that we want to act out of. We have this insight or this desire that feels good to us.

And then what follows that is all of the negative, the not so good feeling, the second guessing. And I want to talk about like the second guessing and where that comes from. But let's continue on. In our black and white world, we often look at life far too simplistically. Everything is either good or bad, up or down, positive or negative, right or wrong. But life is much more nuanced than that. From our first days at school, we're taught that there is a right and or wrong answer

to every question, and a right or wrong way of doing things. But where is a creativity and individual perspective? Which is another thing that is so true and something that I really learned as I got older, was like, yes, on one hand, we need logic, we need structure, we need to know rules, regulations, we need yes or nos. We need we need clarity in life, But life is just It is more nuanced than

that, like, we we have to take in consideration. We have emotions, we have we're dealing with other human beings, we have ebbs and flow of literal mother and nature. We have so many things changing that things can't

just be black or white in life. Even when I think about dieting, like I remember when I used to always want to jump onto strict diets of being like, Okay, well I want a certain outcome, so I'm the way I want to get this outcome is if I'm going to be like one hundred percent with eating clean or one hundred percent with all my meals every single day for three months, and then I'm gonna glow up. It's just like we're not taking in consideration other aspects that will play a role in our ability

to get our goals. But it doesn't mean you can't get your goals. It just means that you need to understand that there's going to be things in your life that play a role in you on getting to the path of your goal, and how do we navigate that, how do we not get tied up? And oh my god, today I didn't have a good day and my emotions were all over the place where I didn't have a lot of energy

because I had my period and whatever. When we understand that there's just ebbs and flows in life, like let's say there's just going to be a week out of the month for me that I'm going to be on my period, I learn to adapt. I learned to support myself. I don't turn on myself because I don't have all the energy in the world to hit all of my workouts. I learned the workouts that I can do on the days that

I need more rest in my life, and I continue to flow. And the more that I do that and not resist the natural ebbs and flow of life, I still get to my goals because I'm not just stopping everything right. I think this comes back to you again when we go on diet and whatever, you emotionally ate for some reason, or you just didn't have time to make your meal at home, so you just had to go stop somewhere.

But because you're so black, and you look at the fact that you had to go stop and get something to eat as like, oh my god, all my progress is loft. Oh my god, I'm not going to get to my goals. Oh my god, this shouldn't be happening. Who said that that shouldn't be happening. And then on top of that, your perception of the fact that it shouldn't be happening is the thing that allows you to continue to perpetuate the thing that is not the best for you. And

that's the issue. It's not to say that eating a piece of cake or eating something that's not necessarily nutritionally good for you is like the best thing for you. But at the end of the day, things happen. But it's the fact that you think it's so bad that you tend to then fall more into the unhealthy food or the unhealthy behavior, and you falling into the unhealthy behavior like eating food every single day until Monday because you ruin something on Thursday.

That's where you get into hot waters and then you tell yourself, see nothing works, or see like yeah, any so I'm going on a rant, but that's what I that's my thoughts on that when you act on your

inner prompts, those unexpected feelings of just knowing, you will discover more about yourself and your life and your unique language of your intuition, which is also another thing to think about, is you have a unique sense of what your intuition or your higher self or your soul is. Everyone is different the way that we experience life. A lot of us feel things more than others.

A lot of us think things than others. Like sometimes, like I think in imagination in pictures a lot, I'm very like tapped into what my higher self and my intuition is always really saying. Some people are guided by you know, maybe even if it's you know, like something to do with spirituality or even God or whatever. Like, we all move through life and we all have a different language and a different way that we actually experience this whatever

it is, higher self intuition, this deeper knowing of something. So that's just something to think about. Over time, you will start to notice the difference between a mere thought generated by your black and white mind trying to be right, and your intuition guiding you to step outside the square and explore other possibilities. They will actually feel different, as though a mere thought has a different texture or vibration from an intuitive inspired idea. And I think that this

at least is very apparent to me. When I feel good, I know it's coming from a place of intuition, my desires. I think that your desires are a part of where your intuition will kind of sit within your body, your soul, your mind. And I am very aware of when my

black and white thinking comes online. And it's not that black and white thinking or logical thinking is wrong, but I find when I'm feeling really or I'm starting to feel anxious, I'm starting to second guess, I'm starting to actually freeze, like I'm not even taking action on any black or white thinking or

logical thinking. That's what I know that it's no longer serving me. And there's times where I need to think black or white and I need to take logical action and step forward, and I have to plan and I have to be organized and have to think in the future. Yes, yes, yes, but that should still feel like flow a lot of the times. And when I am feeling this is what happens for me at least, is when I get to in the black or white thinking and over analyzing things, I

tend to genuinely not take any action at all. I get into this energy of procrastination. I won't do anything, I'll take hours doing something. And that's when I know that my black and white thinking, my logical the right answer thinking is actually not serving me, right, So thinking about you know,

are you able to take action on black or white thinking? Logical thinking like step by step processes, And if you're not able to even do that, and if you're so overwhelmed, most likely that's not actually serving you anymore. And then sometimes what I do when I get into that overwhelm, I just say, screw it, none of that's working for me. What would

feel good to me in this moment? And I know we can't always act on every single thing that feels good in every single moment, but there's a part of you that knows that there's something that would feel better than what you're doing right now, go take action on that. And then usually what happens is I'm able to It's almost like rid the anxiety that I once had, and then I'm able to have a little bit of a clear focus on what

is the next action step to take if I need to take that. Depending on what I'm talking about, the thought will come from a degree of effort, but the intuition guidance will pop up unexpectedly, often bringing with it a feeling of wonder and delight. Notice how quickly your logical mind tries to shut

down that positive feeling, telling you it couldn't possibly be right. Train yourself to recognize that the moment when the inspiration arrives, act on it, which is so it's so big when you feel good, when you have a desire, act on it. And again, this is actually inviting your logical structural like black or white thinking kind of back into the picture of you know,

stepping into the masculine energy of act acting right. It's not that we want to throw away the masculine structure, masculine energy getting things done, but it's like when you feel this, and I'll give you a quick example of today. I really when I started reading this, I was like, this is such a good podcast episode to talk about, Like I feel really aligned. I was journaling this morning about it, and I was like, this is

something I need to talk about. My intuition was like yes. And the thing is, though I had on my list of things to do, I got to wake up, I'm in a journal, got to go to the gym, I gotta do step by step by step. And it's not to say that those things are bad and those things are wrong, but realistically there's something There was a desire within me that felt just better than even going to the gym right in this moment, which I can go to the gym like,

it doesn't mean that I can't go to the gym right now. And I knew my soul that it's best to act on this inspiration in this motivation really because it's not gonna last, because what's gonna happen is I'm gonna start getting in my head about all these things, or maybe I should talk about this topic or da da da da. So I knew, let's just do it, let's just act on it right now. But I still acted on it right I still had to take that action in that alignment. So that's

just something else to think about. Learning to trust your intuition will probably take a little bit of time because it's a new habit you need to develop. Trust grows through taking action and experiencing the result. And when I read this last sentence, this is where I really thought about having this conversation. Trust

grows from taking action and experiencing the results. And I get questions all of the time, how do I trust myself more? And the truth is, is the way that you learn to trust yourself and even have confidence within yourself is if you take action. Now, the problem with a lot of us is that we've either taken action or we've experienced a result that was negative and that was wrong. Right, So let's bring it to relationships for a second.

You might have gone through a relationship where maybe there was cheating involved, or maybe somebody just I don't know, lied to you or whatever. So it's no wonder that now you go through the world with trust issues because the experience of the result was not the experience that you wanted. But in order for you to rebuild trust in other people, rebuild trust in yourself is obviously experiencing a new result. How do you experience a new result though, when

all you have seen is kind of the negative. Well, I think a few things can be very helpful. One is, let's say you broke your own trust. There was information that you acted on based off of what you knew at the time, and I think that's really helpful for a process of

accepting and giving yourself grace. You know, there's gonna be times in your life where maybe you didn't necessarily make the right decision, even though I don't actually think there's any wrong decision but it was based off of information, it was based off of whatever it was in that moment. And this is what I also think as well, is that we struggle with trusting too, especially with let's say with men. Is because let's say, i'll just give you

a relationship example. Is because when we first learned to trust in let's say dating a man, we weren't actually listening to our intuition. And actually, I'm gonna take out ween, I'm just gonna say myself because not everyone is the exact same and this is just a blanket statement, So I'm gonna just

look back on my situations. I struggled with trusting that I was going to get a better result in relationships because of obviously I never I've never been cheated on, but like there's just been things that just haven't worked out in relationships. But if I actually look back, I put myself in relationships in situations

where I was ignoring my intuition, I was ignoring signs. And if I actually listened to my intuition and I acted not out of a place of trauma or survival, I most likely wouldn't have had that result that would create distrust within me. So sometimes when we are going on this journey of trusting, we think that we are making the right decision based off of like what we really want, but actually we're ignoring the signs. We're ignoring the signals.

We're ignoring X, Y and Z, and then we get into hot waters and then we get cheated on or we get X, Y and Z, and then we're like, see, like I shouldn't have I can't trust myself, or I can't trust whatever. Now obviously just completely depends. But and this is what I'm bringing it back to, you just acted on information that you knew at the time. For me, in relationships, I ignored signs,

especially in relationships because I was acting out of survival mode. I got into relationships where I was accepting the bare minimum even though I really wanted something deep down, but I was too afraid to say it because I didn't have a lot of self worth. I didn't know sometimes the signs to even look for, right. So sometimes it's not about the fact that you just know. But there are definitely things I look back on and I'm like, well, yeah, I either did know the signs or I was just acting out

of survival mode and I was playing small and xyz. But at the end of the day, it was all based out of things that were ingrained in me. So I can't even get mad at myself. It's no wonder I ended up getting the results that I did in my life, right, and it's all learning lesson anyways, Like now I can look back and see how I was not honoring myself or I wasn't listening to my intuition. Now, there's obviously other things that play a role in why we struggle with trusting others

or even trusting ourselves in general. When we start getting socialized, when we grow up with certain parents, certain dynamics, certain experiences in our life, it takes us farther away from our actual deepest inner knowing and desires. And it's not always a bad thing, because obviously we need we need to be socialized in this world, we need direction from parents, but a lot of that does take us away from what we really deeply want in our lives.

And I think that that's the process that a lot of us are going through right now in our lives is learning how to distinguish whether is this the path that I actually want to take, or is it somebody else's path right, Or are these thoughts really what I actually believe about the world, about myself, or is just are these just things that I've picked up from my past And a lot of that is and I think a lot of you who listen to the podcast and you're doing a lot of healing work, you're starting to

realize you're starting to differentiate the difference between my inner critic that wants to control everything and keep me safe because it once learned how to do that in childhood, because I was actually in a very traumatic environment and that kept me very safe, like I just said, and I talk about that in my book. But these thoughts, these feelings, these ways in which I'm operating in my life now now are not serving me, like you're starting to really see.

So that's just one process of learning to tap more into your intuition and be able to trust. Is distinguishing whether these thoughts are serving me anymore or

not. And I think that something that's really helped me be able to trust myself and tap into intuition is this mindset of and I guess you could just take it from like the law of assumption is just assuming that when you start to trust others or yourself more, or you start to act on like some sort of impulse or desire, like a healthy impulse that you're gonna be safe and okay, even if for any reason it wasn't necessarily the right decision,

which I actually again don't think there's any really wrong decision. I think all the juiciness of your life is all meant to be happening when it's happening,

even good or bad. But I think that this helps when it comes to learning how to trust is because there's always gonna be a little bit of fear of you acting on your intuition or acting on a desire, and so you're gonna need to be able to tell yourself that you are safe, you're gonna be okay, even if this doesn't necessarily have the outcome that you necessarily wanted, right and understanding that you're really just going on a small little journey of

seeing what it even means to trust your intuition. So I'm gonna give you

a quick example of how you can slowly start to trust your intuition, because it's so subtle and it's just like not gonna be I don't know, like I just think that when you're going on a journey of everything. It's just

not going to be like black and white, of course. So let's say you are in this major in your studying studying sorry this, I don't know whatever, you're studying, and you know that it's just like it's draining you beyond just the fact that you have to do your homework and study, like we know that we have to do that, but you just really don't want to be studying this major anymore, and you really have a calling to study

a new major, a different major, something that's like completely different. But when you entertain that thought and you have this desire, just feels so good and you just love it. And if you just dream of like your next ten fifteen years, the dream job, the dream life, the dream everything based off of you switching this major or whatever, obviously there's a part of you, in my personal opinion, that would be a part of like what your soul is calling, and you really want to go in that direction,

but you're terrified. You're terrified because your parents say you can't do it, or you shouldn't do it, society's telling you shouldn't do it. You don't

know anyone else that's doing it like all that. So obviously it's gonna be really hard for you to take any action steps towards that because you have all of this evidence around you, you have all of these people in your ear telling you that you shouldn't what I would personally do instead of just taking a leap being like, okay, we'll screw it and taking this leap from this anxiety place of so much fear, right, because that can get you into

hot waters. Let's say you don't have to stop your major next week and start like applying to the new one yet, if you're not really ready but you still want to go in that direction, I would slowly start to find

signs of the path that you really want to go on. So whether it's like I don't know if you believe in God or the universe or whatever, but you could just be asking the universe like, give me a sign, and you don't have to ask anyone anything, right, you could just simply be like, you know what, in the next month, I am going to wake up and I am going to feel into how it would feel to

switch into a major and what my life would look like. And I want to go out in the world and find signs in signals to support my decision of moving forward. But whether that be you're going to start having conversations about switching a major to those around you that obviously wouldn't completely shut it down. Or maybe you're gonna go to let's say it's a new school or something.

You're gonna just go visit the school. You're just gonna go see, like you know, what the even what the campus looks like, or what your curriculum would be. Or you're going to search up on YouTube people who are in the same major and what they have been learning or what topics they're really interested in. You're just gonna start entertaining the thought of you switching a major.

And the reason why I think this is important is because when you start to entertain your desires or your intuition, you start to feel into what it feels like to feel good. You tend to start looking through a lens of possibility and you tend to find opportunities you to start having conversations. You tend to start getting in alignment with people who are showing you it's possible that you

can even take that route. But this is what we usually do when when we have like a desire intuition, We look for all the evidence to prove ourselves why we shouldn't do it, you know, like, oh, and this comes back to you have a desire, and then it's followed by all the ways of which you can't do it, all the ways that you shouldn't

do it. And now this is obviously ingrained in us, these thoughts, these beliefs about how you can't get what you want and you know you can't do this because it's not going to be safe or x Y and Z. I want you to try your best to entertain your desires and your intuition or try to follow whatever you really are wanting in your life from a positive aspect and a positive light for let's say just even a month, right, And I think that there's things that you're going to need to do in your life

though, to be able to create this positivity in this lens in which you're able to actually see that as possible, Like you're seeing evidence in your life, because you kind of need evidence to be able to take that step forward. If you don't see any evidence, you're gonna be really afraid to start,

you know, taking the major or whatever it is. But Let's say you're entertaining the fact that you want to go into this major, and now you're going to library and you're learning more about the topics that you need to learn, or you're having conversations with people who are in that major. You

are having positive conversations. You're seeing the evidence, and that brings you one step closer of feeling like it's possible for you to do this, and you're going to find more evidence to back it up, and then you could eventually get to a point where you have all the steps, you have all the resources, you are so trusting in this decision that you're able to something somewhere you will find alignment and you'll be able to take that step or you will

have trust in yourself to go in the direction. And I think the same thing can be true with relationships, right Like, Let's say you're deciding you want to learn how to trust men more, and it's going to be up to you to decide that you want to go in the direction of trusting that a healthy relationship is possible or that or you can trust men. You're gonna have to look for signs and evidence to prove to you that this man is

a trustworthy man. And so instead of waking up every single day and looking for all the ways in which he is proving you right about not trusting, what are the actions, what are the things he's saying. What are also the things you're doing in your life to show you that actually he is a

trustworthy man. And I just coming back to the fact that we really focus on all of the things that we don't want in our lives, right, And I think having a routine, a mental diet of a positive just some sort of like spiritual practice or whatever it is that you want to do day in and day out out will really help you be able to see that evidence and help you trust and move the direction of trusting your intuition. But it's

like it's no wonder. You don't know how to trust yourself, You don't know how to tap into your intuition, you don't know how to follow your desires when everything in your environment is all negative, everything that you're paying attention to is all the opposite of what you're trying to persist in. So take a look at the conversations that you're having, take a look at the people you're surrounding yourself with. Take a look at the things you're reading, or

the people you're learning from, or the stories you're listening to. Are these things really helping you cultivate a better connection to your intuition or not? And the truth is probably not. And you know, I think that being very

aware of the stories you tell yourself is so huge. I also talk about this in my book the stories you tell yourself, because the stories you tell yourself will dictate whether you're going to continue to listen to your desires, act out of the feel good energy that you might have, or go in a new direction or a positive light or not. And a lot of the stories you tell yourself are based off of just old, limiting beliefs that might have

kept you safe or you just picked up from other people. And again I go so deep in this in my book, I give you journal prompts and guides and we talk about shadow work and where your inner critic comes from and where all of these negative stories even come from. But it's really important to see how you tell yourself how hard things are going to be, how you can't do something in your life all the right ways, you can't have what you want in your life, and in the more times you tell yourself these

stories, you are not going to act on your actual desires. So something that I'm always so aware of day in and day out is the stories that I tell myself about how hard something is going to be, how challenging something's going to be, how I can't have this. And if I'm telling myself if I say, like I have a desire to let's say, when I had a desire to start my podcast channel, if I had the story of oh, I don't know if I can do this, or this is going

to be really cringey, or what if people don't like this? Da da da, I would ask myself, well, where is these stories even coming from? Because this is not actually the truth of me, even if I think about it in the sense of, you know, I really don't back myself right now, I don't have a lot of confidence. Well where is this coming from. It's not an actual, like innate thing to think crappy

thoughts about yourself all the time. It's coming from somewhere. It's coming from you know, maybe you grew up in an environment where people were really strict on you, or people were really critical of you, or you move in areas where everyone's critical about everyone, and everyone's judging everyone. Surround yourself with new people, get to the root of why you are telling yourself this story

and combat it with a new story. When I get in my head about something, let's say I wake up in the morning and I'm feeling like not that motivated to go to the gym. Naturally, I'll start to have a story of, oh, the gym is going to be so hard and all legs are going to be so hard, and like, I don't have the energy to do this is that? And Third, when I noticed that I have these just not so serving stories my head, I like to come up with a more self serving story that's gonna help me get up out of my

bed. This is not being delusional, it's just being realistic, and it's just being healthy, honestly. So I'll tell myself and some of the moments being like, okay, well, first of all, you don't even need to be one hundred percent to be able to get up and go to the gym, all right. You don't have to have all the motivation and all

the energy in the world to be able to get the workout done. And by the way, let's look at the evidence to show you that it's actually possible that you can go to the gym because you've actually done it before, you've done this leg day before, you can actually you can do it.

And now how am I going to enjoy the process. Well, I'm gonna start to listen to some positive affirmations or a positive podcast, or I'm gonna listen to a playlist that's gonna get me in the mood and get me in the energy, in the flow of being able to get up and go to the gym. Like, you have to have a new story. You have to tell yourself a positive thing. You have to have a routine that supports

you and your ability to get up and go. And the more times you do that, the less that you will have those negative thoughts and stories in your mind. Like I'm giving you that example. Realistically, I don't really have that much resistance to going to the gym anymore because I have worked so heavily on the stories that do not serve me anymore, and I've created routines

where it's just it's kind of like more motivating to get up. And now I've created a routine and a habit out of going to the gym that it's it's more of an automatic thing, but at first it wasn't really automatic. And the same thing is gonna be true with you trusting anything in your life. It's not gonna be automatic because you haven't even been doing it. So there's gonna be a level of you kind of like reparenting yourself in the moment

of telling yourself like, nope, we can do this. It's thinking about a little child who wants to go play and she's very, very shy, but she really wants to go play with the kids at the playground. I have this desire. Oh my god, it looks so much fun over there. Da da da. And then she's coming to mom, mom being you. Oh my god, Mom, I really want you, but I'm so scared dadada. What that child needs in the moment is for her mom to be like, Babe, you can go do this. Don't worry, You're

gonna be safe. They want to be with you, they want to have fun with you. It's not going to be scary. Even if you don't know all the right words, you don't know how to play the rules of the game, don't worry, they're going to teach you. You can ask questions, and even if these kids are going to be roote to you, or if for some reason it doesn't work out, you're still going to be fine. I'm going to be there for you. You're gonna be fine. Da da da da. That's how you have to talk to yourself in those

moments. That's how you get yourself to do things. And bringing it back to the fact that at the end of the day, when you want to build confidence, you want to build trust within yourself, you need evidence. So there's gonna be a level of you having to take that action and showing yourself as possible. So the next time you want to go play with the kids, the next time you want to go to the gym. It's not that you're going to be one hundred percent ready, because it depends right on

what it is that you're trying to take action for. But you're gonna at least be able to go in your memory and think, oh, well, last time I went to hang out with the kids and it was a really

good time. Now the reason why we shall go with trusting is because maybe you've gone to the playground and the kids weren't nice to you, right the kids weren't welcoming, or for some reason something happened over here, But we don't need to continue to go to that memory and use that as evidence for us moving in the direction of what we really want, which is to play with the children. Okay, which it's very hard, obviously, because you

have to rebuild that trust again. But the only way you're gonna do that is if you take action. And what you need to tell yourself in those moments is, Okay, these kids over here that were rude to me over here, they're unwell, they for some reason weren't taught how to be nice children or whatever it is. Or maybe you know, like I messed up over here, but that's okay. That I messed up is not a big

deal. Or I dated a guy who ruined my trust. But realistically, if I'm being honest, I actually knew the signs way sooner, and even if you didn't, maybe that wasn't your situation, but even if you didn't, Okay, I acted, and I dated somebody, and I put trust in somebody that you know, Unfortunately, for whatever reason, they ruin that trust. But I am not going to let this person who's no longer in my life take my life moving forward. We're not going to do that.

And I just think when it comes to trust though, a lot of the times we are not connected to our truest needs and desires to begin with, and then we override ourselves and then we get ourselves sometimes in hot waters. Like I said, it's not always our fault, but I think about, you know, my life circumstance, there was always a level of suppressing my emotions and suppressing my needs and my wants and not listening to what I really

desired in my life. But that was based off of the fact that I was programmed to be like that from a parent, which then I would go into relationships or I would go into situations where I would suppress my needs and want in my emotions, and then I would have a shitty outcome because realistically I was led into a not so good situation based off of me actually not standing up in my worth. It's not my fault because I was programs like

that. But I can see now if I actually was connected to myself, if I didn't have all that trauma, that survival mode, that information that I was operating out of, I most likely wouldn't have been in a situation where I was led astray from somebody, or somebody broke my trust or whatever the case is. So sometimes again we just naturally were never even connected to our intuition in the first place, based off of what we've gone through in our past, which we forgive, we need to move on, we need

to heal, we need to understand that. That is, honestly the majority of what happens in life is unfortunately we get this deck of cards that's dealt to us where for a lot of reasons, we get really disconnected to our intuition. But we can learn how to go on a process of reconnecting. But that first starts with understanding WHOA I've always had this intuition, but I

just was an attune to it from my life circumstance. And now I'm going to go in a process of no longer focusing on all the negative, crappy situations in my life because that was based out of what I knew back then anyways, So I'm not going to use that as evidence, and I'm going to create a life and I'm going to look through a healthier lens now and I'm going to show myself as possible that I can go in that direction of feeling good, of trusting myself, and I'm going to take those baby steps,

and I'm going to tell myself it's also going to be okay even if things don't work out one hundred percent, because I have myself. But you have to start small, bringing it back to like the major or whatever. It is just entertaining the idea of going in the direction of something that you really want in your life and seeking those opportunities and those people, in those conversations and reading into things more and you will see those signs. You will

see them and you take those steps. So I hope this episode was insightful. I didn't really plan this episode other than literally this morning when I read this and then I was like, oh my god, let's do it. So yeah, I will always be on a journey of connecting more to myself. I think the best thing that we can do for ourselves is have some sort of routine, whether that's in the morning. That's why I talk about

journaling so much. This is why I talk about healing work so much, is because the more you heal, the more you journal, the more you ask yourself questions as to why why do I think like this, where did this come from? How do I connect the dots, the more you're able to open up space of your actual truest desires and your feelings, right, And sometimes what we do is we suppress the feelings, and we suppress emotions

and this that. But realistically, underneath a lot of this trauma and distrust is our intuition that will guide us in in the direction that we always really want, which is feeling good and bringing so much abundance in our lives. So I hope you enjoyed this episode, have an amazing week, and I'll see you guys in the next one. Bye.