Send us a text Marrying a man of godly character sounds amazing... but how can you know if he’s actually walking the walk — not just talking the talk? You need more than good vibes and sweet words. You need real answers to questions like: “What kind of character does this guy really have?” “Where does his heart stand when it comes to God’s Word?” “Is his love for the Lord visible in his daily actions?” “Does he truly live with Scripture as the highest authority in his life?” In today’s episode, ...
Jun 09, 2025•44 min•Ep. 208
Send us a text Is it possible to pursue godly femininity without getting tangled in legalism, fear, or performance-driven faith? In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with best-selling author and speaker Leslie Ludy to unpack the subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) ways legalism can creep into conservative Christian womanhood. We talk about the pressure to "look the part," the danger of equating holiness with a lifestyle checklist, and how to break free from rule-based faith and walk in true ...
May 28, 2025•39 min•Ep. 207
Send us a text You’ve seen the headlines: “Her Wildest Night Yet!” or “10 Secrets to Epic Pleasure.” Cosmo and other mainstream magazines have been feeding women these so-called empowering stories for decades. But what if those stories aren’t even real? What if they're simply propaganda? In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on the glossy lies and exposing how these narratives are shaping our view of sex, identity, and womanhood—and not for the better. God’s design for womanhood isn’t ...
May 20, 2025•19 min•Ep. 206
Send us a text We’re constantly told men and women are the same — just interchangeable parts in a genderless machine. But is that actually true…? What if gender roles aren’t sexist, but sacred? What if God meant for men to surge with testosterone and for women to overflow with estrogen? What if wombs and muscles weren’t random, but radically intentional? According to Scripture, the differences between men and women aren’t outdated — they’re divine. And they hold the key to understanding who we r...
May 14, 2025•21 min•Ep. 205
Send us a text We’re constantly told men and women are the same — just interchangeable parts in a genderless machine. But is that actually true… or just cultural noise? What if gender roles aren’t sexist, but sacred? What if God meant for men to surge with testosterone and for women to overflow with estrogen? What if wombs and muscles weren’t random, but radically intentional? According to Scripture, the differences between men and women aren’t outdated — they’re divine. And they hold the key to...
Apr 30, 2025•23 min•Ep. 204
Send us a text Women struggle with porn too. Have you ever experienced the fear and shame that follows the vortex of graphic movies, erotica, promiscuity, or porn sites? You may think you’re alone and feel like hiding. But you’re not alone—and there is hope and healing. We are all sexually broken. And we are all invited to participate in the love, forgiveness, and healing of Jesus. The great joy and passion of Dr. Joy Skarka is calling women to God’s gracious power of redemption. Today we're cha...
Apr 22, 2025•27 min•Ep. 203
Send us a text Let’s be honest—pursuing purity while dating someone you’re seriously into can feel next to impossible . The butterflies are real, the chemistry is strong, and suddenly you’re wondering... is kissing too far? What about cuddling on the couch? Holding hands? Where's the line?! Navigating physical boundaries in a dating relationship isn’t always black and white—and it can be so confusing. But here’s the thing: honoring God and each other is totally possible, even when the sparks are...
Apr 08, 2025•18 min•Ep. 202
Send us a text Can you be fully "crunchy" while staying fully committed to Christ? Is there such a thing as being too crunchy? How do we juggle our health goals without losing sight of our faith? Elizabeth Parsons is here to help us navigate this balance. As a popular "crunchy" mom and passionate Christian, Elizabeth shares her wisdom on how to live out both wellness and faith without compromise. If you're already following Elizabeth and her brand, Purely Parsons , you know her down-to-earth, re...
Mar 31, 2025•34 min•Ep. 201
Send us a text Is saving sex for marriage really worth it? Will the wedding night be totally awkward if we don’t "practice" first? And what about sexual compatibility—doesn’t that matter?? We’re two Christian sisters who made the choice to wait until marriage, and trust us—we’ve heard all the questions (and plenty of skeptical comments). So let’s have an open, honest, and totally unfiltered conversation about it. After 6 and 14 years of marriage, do we regret waiting? If we could go back, would ...
Mar 21, 2025•17 min•Ep. 200
Send us a text It seems like everyone is sending nude photos these days...even Christians. So what's the big deal? Isn't it good for me to keep a little spice in my dating relationship? What about the fact that I'm engaged and going to marry this guy? What's the harm anyway? Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex...
Mar 13, 2025•15 min•Ep. 199
Send us a text On a scale of one to ten, how prepared do you think you are for marriage? Seriously. Most women who get marriage look back on their single years and WISH they had done more to prepare for being a wife. So...why not get prepared? Here are four things you can do right now to begin preparing for married life. LOVE DEFINED BOOK 170 QUESTIONS TO ASK IN A RELATIONSHIP Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's ...
Mar 07, 2025•15 min•Ep. 198
Send us a text Ep. 197 - This is a replay. Let's be honest. Valentine's Day isn't always what it's cracked up to be. Regardless of what we see on the Hallmark Channel, rarely do things turn out that perfectly. In singleness, we often feel bummed because we don't have that special someone. Then in marriage, we often feel bummed because our special day isn't turning out to be as romantic as we'd imagined! We can attest to feeling both of these ways. In today's episode, we're going to spill the bea...
Feb 14, 2025•28 min•Ep. 197
Send us a text God created women be beautiful AND to posses the allure of feminine seduction. But beauty and seduction are not the same thing. In our celebrity society today, beauty and seduction have become synonymous. In this episode, Kristen and Bethany react LIVE to their 2016 video about this topic and share honestly where they stand today. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls MUST READ - Sex, Purity and the Longings of a G...
Jan 15, 2025•29 min•Ep. 196
Send us a text Ep 195 - Many conservative Christian women saved sex for marriage only to wake up on the other side of their honeymoon feeling disappointed and disillusioned. What happened? Why is sex such a huge disappointment to many Christian women? Take a deep dive with us on all things sex, intimacy, orgasm and how to make it GREAT. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Last...
Dec 09, 2024•29 min•Ep. 195
Send us a text 194 - Modesty used to be a foundational topic here at Girl Defined. We become known as the "modesty ministry." Looking back, here's what we got right and wrong about Christian modesty. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDef...
Nov 20, 2024•27 min•Ep. 194
Send us a text Today is the release of our newest book, "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity." Fighting men won't solve the deepest longings of a woman's heart. Turning to Christ and finding your complete identity in Him is the answer. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl'...
Nov 12, 2024•6 min
Send us a text Ep. 193 - Liberal women have been in full on panic mode since Donald Trump was elected President of the United States. Many of these women are refusing to date men, have sex with men, get pregnant or have babies. They are in full on strike against men. What exactly will this plan accomplish? Let's find out. MADE TO BE SHE ---> PRE ORDER BONUSES NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity" Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's ...
Nov 08, 2024•17 min•Ep. 193
Send us a text Ep 192 - What's a good age to start dating? What is the purpose of a romantic relationship? These are some of the questions we answered in our 2016 YouTube video titled, "Answering Your Guy Questions About Dating, Bad Relationships, and Guy Friends." And today, we're looking back and reacting to this content for the FIRST time. How do we feel NOW about what we said THEN? GRAB "Made to Be She" and get your FREEBIES PRE ORDER BONUSES NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan ...
Oct 31, 2024•29 min•Ep. 192
Send us a text Ep. 191 - The issue of gender has exploded over the past few years. Can a man become a woman? Can a woman become a man? Should we support the trans movement? In today's episode, the two of us are looking back at one of our first YouTube videos ever where we ask the question, "Is Gender a Personal Choice." Here's our reaction. PRE ORDER BONUSES NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity" Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan...
Oct 24, 2024•41 min•Ep. 191
Send us a text Ep. 190 - The two of us grew up at the height of the purity culture movement. We read the classic "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" and every other Christian book on courtship. We dated intentionally, wore our purity rings religiously and saved our kisses for marriage. Do we regret wearing our purity rings? What was the impact of purity culture in our lives? How are we going to raise our kids? Let's jump in. NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity" Support...
Oct 16, 2024•43 min•Ep. 190
Send us a text Ep 189 - We’ve had other YouTube creators reacting to us since we posted our very first official vlog/YouTube video on May 25, 2016 titled “Is it okay to be Obsessed with Guys?” I think it’s time for the two of us to react to that video ourselves. We’re going to be releasing two new YouTube videos every month where we react to our earliest / most controversial YouTube videos. We’re going to be brutally honest with ourselves (and you) and share what we still agree with and what we ...
Oct 10, 2024•35 min•Ep. 189
Send us a text After 3 miscarriages and 12 years of infertility, having a baby seemed like an impossible dream. Then, to my complete astonishment, God answered our prayer! In the summer of 2024, I gave birth to our precious daughter, Caroline Marie. Holding my daughter for the first time was a moment I will never forget. Here’s my birth story. WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/8CXKWgTDTK4 KRISTEN'S PREGNANCY STORY (Ep. 180): https://youtu.be/jI9B3PRfepQ?si=dvnMGKFbI-d5xNme ZACK & KRISTEN'S ...
Sep 30, 2024•47 min•Ep. 188
Send us a text Ep 187 - Women have been told that men are the "standard of success" and we should do what they do. In the name of "equality" of course. Women have been pulled out of their homes, rejected their fertility, and are killing themselves to get accolades from their corporate bosses. What if you've been lied to about womanhood? What if you've been sold a bill of goods? In todays' conversation, we're talking to Suzanne Venker about the TRUTH of womanhood and what actually makes for a sat...
Sep 24, 2024•49 min•Ep. 187
Send us a text Ep. 186 - Alex Clark has risen to fame through her daily pop culture show, Poplitics. She's a conservative Christian woman with a deep desire to get married and start a family. Sadly, that hasn't happened yet. Despite going on dates and putting herself out there. I'm taking a deep dive into her life and asking questions like: Do you think men struggle to commit? Does singleness feel like a punishment from God? How can a woman put herself out there? Should women have higher physica...
Sep 11, 2024•43 min•Ep. 186
Send us a text Ep. 185 - You're single, but you don't want to be. You want a man. You want a leader. You want a protector. You want a LOVER. So why isn't it happening? Why hasn't God brought marriage into your life? The nagging question for many... "Is it my fault I'm still single?" In today's episode, the two of us share our own experiences and offer practical encouragement with ways you can trust God AND attract a man at the same time. MUST READ: Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lastin...
Aug 29, 2024•36 min•Ep. 185
Send us a text Ep. 184 - Modern women have been trained by culture to obsess over their bodies and everyone else's. We compare butts, boobs, curves, height and everything else. Many of us look in the mirror and cringe at what we see reflecting back. This is not okay for God's daughters. Let's discuss what it looks like to value the body God has given you and take care of it in a balanced way. Connect with Lainey Greer MUST READ: Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Ident...
Aug 13, 2024•52 min•Ep. 184
Send us a text Ep. 183 - Trusting God with the size of her family was something Catherine Segars NEVER imagined she would do. She was an actress pursuing a future of fame... not a SAHM. Get ready for a wild story of a woman who put radical trust in God. You are going to laugh, cry, and be convicted in ways you weren't prepared for. Let's jump in. Connect with Catherine MUST READ: Not Part of the Plan NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit...
Jul 30, 2024•1 hr•Ep. 183
Send us a text 182 - Have you every read a passage in the Old Testament and thought, "What?! Does God even care about women?" If so, you're not alone. As modern Christian women it's crucial that we dig deeper to understand the context, history, and culture of what is happening in ancient Israel. As we do, we'll see that God's laws are actually FOR women. Grab Katie's Book - To Be a Woman: The Confusion Over Female Identity and How Christians Can Respond NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE...
Jul 16, 2024•49 min•Ep. 182
Send us a text Ep. 181 - Legalism seems to be a constant companion in many conservative Christian circles. The length of ones skirt can become more important than the character of ones heart. Leslie Ludy is joining us on The Girl Defined Show to cast a vision of what true biblical womanhood is all about. Connect with Leslie Ludy NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaimi...
Jul 01, 2024•39 min•Ep. 181
Send us a text Ep. 180 - Dealing with the pain of unexplained infertility is something no woman wants to go through. Kristen and Zack have experienced thirteen years of this heartbreaking diagnosis. In an incredible turn of events God worked a miracle. Kristen and Zack are expecting a baby. This is a God story. Listen in if you want to hear about God's mighty faithfulness in their lives. NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christia...
Jun 17, 2024•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 180
