Who Raised You?

go discuss something to night like that. We've been talking earlier about parenting and how parenting um plays a role and who we ultimately become as people, you know, and I want to touchdown on something first. Man. I've always preached nothing but respect in my household, for your elders and just for people in general, even people your agge, you know, not talking crazy to people, being humble at all times, you know, and not every thinking that she's

really better than nobody else. And I wanted to kind of touch when this one situation it's kind of old, but it feeds into what we were talking about to day. So I was paying attention to the t I cat online right right, And I guess his son that felt um that fell out with one of the employees at this restaurant that's really big in the soft called the waffle House. I'm pretty sure you're familiar with the waffle House. Yeah, I seen the video. Yeah, so um when I saw that,

a couple of things came to mind. First of all, you know, when t I addressed a situation he was talking to his son rather than discipline him. He was almost like, why are you wasting your time talking to a short order cook? Right? And that really pissed me off, man, because you're sending the message now the way you're telling your son, who seems like he already arrogant as all get out and spoiled, that you above the working class man.

And you know, Mr t I, those people that work at the waffle House places like that, to work at Walmark, that me work at Target and start shelves, and like, those are the ones off to find crickets. The man's first of all, right, average day people. Yeah, and they should be treated with respect. So t I, if we had to dunk you the fucking days there would be tis. Don't ask for that ship because I didn't really think

that was cool. Well, you know, I watched him when he had his little thing with tiny their little show, and it seemed like he was raising his kids to understand value. But then when I seen the little incident in there with him, you know, I just slapped the ship out of my side because you out of line and to have wealth like like they like they do, and for him to grow up and not have to worry about anything or para shoes or Christmas and ship like that. The way he runner his mouth be take

life for granted. He wants to be a you do. You're not cut from that club to be a street dude talking about shooting in air and shipped out. Come on, man, shut your son down as a father and tell your son I made these mistakes. I don't want you to make these mistakes. Don't tell him. Why would you argue argue with somebody beneath you? Come on, that's funked up. So yeah, you get a He get an f for that one. But you know, these kids grow up. I don't give a funk if you rich or not. Like

you know, man, it depends on the parent. Man kids a certain kind of way. So you know, he get an fl on that one. He dropped the ball. He call you have a real man, and I'm might gonna stay stuck with him for too long. Man. But that's and I see that a lot because I had a partner of mine, and I'm gonna be real careful and kind of float around this because I don't want to putting nobody's business out there whatever. But I saw as he made his way kind of up in the industry,

the attitude of his kids they changed. They kind of turned into little unbearable assholes. So it was to the point that where once they wound up leaving the league that we was in, I was actually kind of happy because I was like this, I'm not about to sit up here and called with your kids, man, right, you know, I'm not just gonna do it, because I don't do that.

But my own kids, man, And I would like to say that my kids grew up with a little bit more than I did, not a little bit more, a lot more than I did, you know, just even when you go to such amenities as them having you know, fift against from TVs in the room, video game stereos um, stuff of that nature. You know, it was I remember it was a time man with me and my brother shared the bed at one point, right, we did you

know that was just what it was. You know, you should you share be able with your brother and then enough like that. You know you've got three beds in the room. You might have to bunk up with somebody, you know. So, oh, I think man, and I would like to think that I've raised my kids to be respectable, you know, be respectable young men and women and not talk craisy to nobody else. But when we talked about this earlier, do you think it's a such thing it's

giving the keys too much? Or do you think it's a such thing? Is when you give the them these rewards, do you need to kind of let them know that this is not average everything stuff you need to be prateful for, like like what you think, say, yeah, you gotta, you gotta definitely telling them why they get the things they do. Most of us wait a minute, no, go take that in there, pop up doing something when I'm finished. Okay, most of us, you know, we befriend our kids the

wrong way. We give like like me that I'm gonna speak on me. I tried my best to give nine of everything that I didn't have, and I tried to treat him totally different from how my all the words with me, the same as I was with my two sons. Now my two sons has never been to jail, never saying in their parts. They both in the college, and they understand where I came from. Now giving line of the ship that I give him and trying to give him everything, I try my best to give him everything.

He tends to be spoiled, well he is spoil And then you have to work your way out of that type of ship. What I mean, if I work your way out of it. I had to switch it up with it because when we go to the store, he sees something he wanted not even want to part about it. No, that's not what it's about. I give you two things because I know you need things. I'm not just buying

this ship just so you can have it. Man, knowing half of the ship he got last Christmas, it's still in by still still he's not even tripping on him no more. No, he ain't even like you got a brand new bicycle. He ain't road He got uh a four wheeled truck in the garage. Then in the damn box he got a goddamn scooter with the uh the the gas scooters. He got this motherfucker's sitting in the corner in in his room. He got a hubbleboard, played

the music everything. He don't touch it aboard. Yeah, man, I'm coming jealous, Mona to let me ride them now you just have surgery on your knees, going right back to the hospital. Yeah. But what what I'm saying is, yeah, we do give our kids too much. You know, our kids grow up getting too much now they expected and they become a daughter lessons where they think mommy and daddy is supposed to continue to give them the way

they did when they was kids. That's because we stopped teaching them at a certain age because they think they knew everything, so we let ship be what it is, and now they all funked up. So yeah, it's parents faunt that we do too much and give too much without without a reason for real. And you know, let me ask you this, James, because we came to the you know, we were talking about discipline the other day and in my household, I haven't gave too many woomans.

I don't really believe in hitting him a kid, you know. I mean, you know, don't get me wrong, I believe in punishing the kid if you do something wrong, you have to be able accountable for your actions. So I was being on the accountability, but at the same time I didn't think the accountability ment slapping the shot out of somebody, or getting switches and off the tree and belts and all that. Ship man me and my personal opinion, I think that that was back in our days. That

was time of the norm. And so I chose because I got some fishers are us man, Well, it all depends on what what what you consider a vicious ass whooping? Uh? What I've learned you can discipline your kids without whooping your kids in a vicious manner. You can discipline your kids by taking the things they love. You know, sometimes it works, sometimes they don't. I used to say, I'm not putting my my kid on no damn time out.

Lite will be on time. I like, Mom, but go in your room getting your bid turned TV off, don't touch it. But then he get up and coming the room, and the first thing he said, Papa, I'm sorry. Why are you sorry for what I did? What did you do? You know what I'm saying. So whooping has asked for conversation and taking ship from him. He gets it and he don't repeat it. It might be two months down the line of five days down the line before he repeat what he done. But it all depends on the

parents broke. It all depends on how you parent your kids. You know what I'm saying. So you know, and that barries in all different households because you got most parents that befriend their kids before they parent their kids. And that's a big problem. That that's a huge problem. Let's give me that a little bit. People making turning their kids and the friends. I look treatment kids like they're

the homeboy, they're the home girl. You know, the day you see fathers and son getting high, you feel you see mommy and daughter at the nightclub twerking, you see mommy on the walking in the market with tights on, titties out, the whole nine. They're not teaching their their daughters how to be ladies. So once we start taking away from that, we're not teaching our sons. You got father's out here committing crimes, robberies, murders, doing all kinds

of ships with their sons. So those cats out there writing with their sons, well, the the boy pop smoke or whatever, not pop smoke, but pe me something. That boy murdered pnb Rock pnb Rock. Yeah, him and his son and and baby, and and the boy mama in jail for that. You know you cannot. And and I'll be damned if I get caught doing any crime with one of my kids or you know, in my kid life,

because I'm out here on some stupid ship. Now, that boy might spend the rest of his life in prison with his father, and this is what he got for having that type of parents. You know what I'm saying. I can't befriend my kids. I'm your father at all times. I can't sit back and play dominoes and smoke weed with you. I can't do that. Now you're you're older,

twenty some years old, thirty years old. I can sit down and have a drink with you, But you're not gonna sit under my table at my table and drink and be sloppy drunk. You know what I'm saying. So there's nothing wrong with it. They adults, they've grown, they don't live with you. Is something different. But if you're sitting in the house all days smoking marijuana, then you're doing something wrong, Pops, because at the end of the day, that little cat that's your son that you befriended. He's

gonna start, He's gonna see something. He's gonna now he ready to fight you because he ain't scared his father, you know, hommie. So yeah, man, You know, it all depends on the parent and how we're parent and you don't have to be in the same household to be a parent. You just got to learn how to be co parents and be on the same page with what's best for your kids. And you definitely, James, you definitely had to set boundaries and you have to set lines where you know what I'm Pops and we can show

here and there. You know, I love joking around my boys, but they know it's a certain level to take that. You feel what I'm saying. At the end of the day, I'm still Pops, so it ain't no disrespect. Will be celebrating. At the same time, I see a lot of parents they demand always respect for their children, but yet they're

not giving their children respect. Because you do have to give your children respect to you know, because I've heard you know, I think we've all been in the grocery store and we to hear the parents calling their kids all kind of motherfucker's and niggers and this and that, you know, and just like and it's like, you know what, how do you think this kid is gonna grow the field from you at a certain point? And you called the mother's name right now? I grew up on that. Uh.

I was very, very disrespectful to my mom's. Her birthday was yesterday, Happy birthday, Happy birthday, right. Uh. My mom was every bit every hole the way, the way she was and how she talked. It wasn't until I got older and Pops was talking that discipline here fucked me up. I don't know. I car regards down home boy, and you ain't. We ain't playing that ship. He couldn't touch me after that. But that was just how my parents was. And you know, me being a game member, being in

the streets, she couldn't tell me ship. It wasn't until going to prison, sitting down listening to the Motorcats. You only get one mama, And I came home with a with a with a different respect from my mother. You know what I'm saying. Even when ship was rocky, I didn't I didn't go back to those old ways, calling her bitches and all that. Ship very disrespectful. I didn't know how to love a woman until I started loving my mama, you know what I'm saying, and then having

those conversations. It was to me it was never We never had a conversation about what type of man I should be, all how to be a man, until to me it was damning too late. We didn't have enough time for it. So this the this the killer part. My mom she raised five kids by goddamn self. Hmm. And when we got older, we complained about ship. You know what I'm saying now, if you look at it, when your kids get older like mine did, they comp aimed about ship. I didn't understand parenting until I started

having kids and my kids started acting like me. They called me, I'm a motherfucking name. But when they started, you wasn't there for me. You did this for me. This is the same shing I said to my parents and kids, history repeats herself and these kids doing the same ship. You know what I'm saying. You know you can do so much, and thank you doing all the right ship for my daughter. You think you're doing right

by your child. You know I raised her for eight years when her mama was gone and I allowed her to go back to her mother and the next thing you know, she's seven eight months pregnant. This when I find out. So I think that was a big mistake on my part there. I shouldn't have I should have raised her and it would have been totally different. But you know, you can't go back and say if I would have should have of that? If I if I know that I would have did it this way, because

it's too late. It's already is there. So bro, it's a it's a lot. But you know, our kids are selfish, And then I gotta look back on how I was. I was selfish as a motherfucker. I wanted things that I couldn't get them, so I had tentional tantrums. I I acted out a way that a kid should never act with his mother, knowing that my mom was taking care of five clothes, food. We never wanted for ship, you know what I'm saying. Way back then, we went from a two bedroom apartment to a house and living

a way we did. I don't know, we thought we should expect more because we didn't, you know, like the Jeffersons, we moved on up. We wanted Yeah, so you know, it wasn't nothing she could of it did different, And

sometimes you get frustrated dealing with your kids. So she that probably was her way of, you know, the way she had died with me, because I was one of the worstest, the toughest ones she had to deal with, and you know, frustrating anger, you know, blaming me for the reasons why, like pops don't want to be there. If it wasn't for you, I mean, your daddy would be fine, type of said. So, yeah, man, some things we say shit to our kids that we shouldn't say.

We try to chastise and discipline a little rough sometimes and we shouldn't, you know what I'm saying. Uh, my mom thought her tough love to her boys was whiling her fists that are built you at some point you're gonna be a man. But that that made me resent women. Another motherfucking women ain't gonna hit me. You hit me, I'm gonna try my best to hit your heart. And the motherfucker she had never hit another man. So it might work for something, it might not work for others.

It didn't work for me, you know what I'm saying. It made me resent her more and that's why I last out with you know, to be words, fuck you, hoole, uh, kiss my ass, all of those words. But at the end of the day, you know, kids grow up to be grown men, grown women, and then you start realizing this ship that you've done, because your kids are our image of you, the way you were when you were younger.

You know what I'm saying now, the way your parents it's totally different from how our fathers was back then. I t to too left. Well, I never used the stitching chord on my kids. Oh no, I think, see my problem, and that's my thing. James. You know, you gotta remember I was raised by a man. It was from Mississippi. He was he was a little bit older than my mom. Not a little bit older. He was about quably, like fifteen years older than my MoMA, right,

So that was how he was raised. They got asked woman's you know extinction chord switches when they braided the switches up when they come in there and make you get button naked, and he was getting them, you see

what I mean. I remember one time he had like a little basin in the backyard, in the back porch, and he had these sticks and they're like keeping them wet like and had the things tied up, and just the thought of me possibly get my assport with that gave me a bunch of act, right, because when you felt that thing hit you, ain't nothing more like switches. This braiding together, ain't nothing like fishing rids, and ain't nothing like just a good old fashioned ass swooping. James.

That should be borderline and legal dog, because I would have up on my body. I still got marks from right. My popes used to me out and Timmy had to take a bath together. We was little. I mean when we got out to tell we had to line up in one line together, and he had this razor. You remember how they used to sharpen the straight razors, those those belts for sure. Man, We used to try to fight to get in the middle because you really didn't feel everything in the middle, and and on your far left.

The way he had us. The one on the end to the right got it more and he tricked us and he would just he would move to the side and he would whack that man. That was the worst his ass whooping besides the stitching cord you would ever want. So I'm a proven fact to saying, whooping your kids with objects that should remain plugged up are play somewhere. It don't work, Yeah, it don't work. It don't work because what you do change. I'm gonna tell you something

like you said. And this is what I always tell my homeboys right when they got young kids. Always tell them that little boy ain't nothing but a chrome man inside of a look ky his body, and he's going to remember everything. So everything that you do to him, he's gonna get it back to you and then something offens, right, so you have to treat them with respect. Now, don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with discipline. It's like with my middle son. He didn't give a damn about

no ass whoop. Even if you did, you know, because I'll pop them a little bit into but you know what I'm hearing there, But he didn't care about that and didn't hurt him. My wife would be trying to whoop his ass and she would get so fresh friate because he's sitting there looking at it like that, don't hurt, that, don't hurt. I don't care. And he was just right even if he went in the room and cryed. Later on, he wouldn't gonna let her. No, you're not gonna break me.

And that's how it was. But what I figured out with him, he liked to be outside all the time. He liked to go pride to school and go play. If you took that ship from for a couple of days, you got all kind of act right, right right, That's what I was saying earlier. You know, you don't have to beat your child to get him to understand. Like having landing in my life today. It's so different because as a father, I was in the streets. I was doing all kind of ship when my first time was born.

I was I was twenty years old and went to prison and him come to visit me in prison, like damn my son. He running around and goddamn visiting room, talking about that's my daddy, my daddy. And it was so crazy that I whooped myself one time and he called his teacher a bit and I went to the school and whipped his ads. He got act right and never got a whoopman after that, never in his like my son thirty seven, my oldest boy is thirty seven,

never got a whooping after that. Everything after that was conversation come on, get in the car, let's roll and we talked. You know what I'm saying with Lionel, when Leno mess up me and line, we sit down and we talked. I don't let him get up until he tell me what he understands. M h and and man to do to so damn smart and understand so much norm that I'm raising a young man. And I know

I'm raising a young man. I don't need no credit for it, my sister, and you're doing to get note, man, I love this like makeup for me with my two boys, my daughter. So you can only be what type of parents you're gonna be. You can't if you if I went through trying to make up this and do this and do that, I'm gonna make a whole bunch of mistakes. I'm gonna make a whole bunch of mistakes like I did with my with my daughter. You know what I'm saying.

When you know what, though, bro, one thing I'm gonna say right is that it's quite possible change because I'm gonna tell you I've seen all different scenarios I've seen. I've seen people that were horrible parents and kids turned out to be a one adults, they just turned out to be great kids. Right. I've seen parents that go above and beyond for their kids and do the most, and they turned out to be the worst. I'm gonna tell you a story, and again, I don't want to

put people's personal business out there. Some gonna league names out right. But I know a family, and I've known this family since I've came to California, that was I would say, I came out here in I've known them since then. Great family, man, I'm talking about an awesome father, awesome mama. Professional people. So they're your brother was one

of my best friends. So you figured you've got four kids in the household, right, I've known all these kids, they adults, and I've known them since they was little kids, you know, since I was a teenager and they were babies, you know, walking around two and three years old, six years old, seven years old. Right. I just recently found out that two of those kids were adopted, and I never knew that. I never knew that. And when I tell you right now, they're going through some stuff with

one of the daughters is so disrespectful to them. She feels like um an a monster towards them because they both went out of trying to find their real pearance. Right and and one thing she told me, she said she always promised them that when they got older and got ready to go try to find their parents, we'll let you know. We give you all the information we gotta well help you go find your parents. But I

never knew that these kids were adopted. It was to the point, I swear the sister and the brother looked at like my homeboy and his little sister. I always thought that's his little sister. And so two of them wounded up just turning on the parents. Right and and father is suffering from Alex Hummer's right now. Right, So I said, you know, y'all wait to this great man started going through the worst thing in his life. He don't remember when he was last time I want to

go see him. He was looking at me like he want to woo my ass. We're just two months before. He was laughing and joking, but you could tell his memory wasn't all there, and it would be coming back and forth. But they pretty much, you know, they told the mom. You know, they called the mom's out of name. You know that bitch didn't do nothing for us, and it's kind of like it wasn't my place, but I wanted both of the asks. I was like, y'are a

little ungrateful motherfucker's and the Howard are the man? They have to be in their thirties right now, ce Cee, just like I was saying, you could be so so selfish now you wouldn't have made it to thirty. And these kids don't understand this. You're the home just say, if they wouldn't have got you, you would have been treated all different kind of ways. You don't know what type of person you would be at this point. They don't sit back and think about that now that they

already know that these they would foster kids. Yeah, they knew that they were adopted. They legally adopted their last name. They all shared the same last name. And it was such a shock to me, always like hun and they said yeah, and you know what, they wouldn't obligate to tell me. Remember when I was talking to moms about it, because that's what I call the moms, and she was saying, well, you know, norm, I always thought that that was their news.

To pray. We didn't go around advertising that the people not that we was ashamed of it, but we felt like that's y'all news to break if y'all want to break it. So they gave them every bit of respect. You know, had all their documents and who their parents was. So what happens he was, they go to meet they buy a lost of parents and the one man tells the boy, your daddy is the man that raised you. You know, I'm I'm gonna be honest with you. He said,

I gave you a four adoption. I was fifteen years old and had a baby with a little girl I've met at a party, and I don't know this little girl. For Adam, the best thing for her and for me as fifteen year old kids was to put you guys up for adoption. You went to a wonderful home. When he kind of schooled him and said, you know, you can come and talk to me any time. You can talk to you know, you can meet your brothers and sisters, but you have to know that that man is your father.

That's why I never interfere, you know, because I knew you went to a good home. It wasn't that I just gave you away. But I was a baby myself. I was I gonna take care of you. Gotta give you the worst life possible. I gave you the worst life, father, so he told him. Then another girl she went to go try to find her mama, and the mama said, well, I don't want to meet you because I gave she was on drugs and everything. And she asked me. She didn't talk to the mom. She talked to her auntie.

She found Auntie and she said, look, your mom has a bunch of problems. She is not well. There's no way she could be somebody's mind right now, you see what I mean, and especially going through something like this man. And that goes to the thing because when I tell you, James, that they gave these kids everything that you could imagine. All of them are colleagues, graduates, and they paid for it.

All of them are professionals. They're doing great in life, great people outside of this little bullshit they pull them right now. So I can't even make that statement that that bitch never done nothing for him. Why would he even say that. Well, that's what I'm saying, James, because people people have a tendency. I noticed now if some people have a tendency to blame whatever little thing they got going on in their life, on their parents or

whoever they can. It's never they fault but me looking to see that's some bullshit, And I'll tell either one of them, because these people have been over backage for you guys, y'alls on summer trips everything. You know. Folks, I'm talking about sameings, going to Puerto Rico, going to England, going to all these different far off locations and just like I was thinking, like, damn, you don't had a

pretty good life and shames. Will I tell you? These kids were raised in the Orange County, the Orange County I'm talking about nice part of Orange County, lived in a nice house, had good experiences growing up, like they every Friday might football games they have. They're hanging because they ain't nothing going on out there, ain't know hood stuff going on out that they having fun. All of them had cars when they turned sixteen. Just all the

amenities that you could hope change. They grew up so they grew up so opposite with me, especially you and especially me, even me, They grew up way different than what we came up. And you would have thought there had been some gratitude. But that's another example of somebody giving someone they y'all and getting shipped back in their face for it. They don't understand the value of life.

They don't respect the life that they live in now, the post to the life that they should think of if they might have had with certain individuals, their real parents. So just because you say I'm an adult, don't mean I'm an adult. You still have an adolescent mind. You still think on an adolescent level. Like like myself, I didn't understand really parenting and what a man was until I got in my fifties. M hm, really understanding responsibility and what it really takes to take care of child.

I swear to God right now today I would never downplay speak bad about a woman that's taking care of kids on our own. That ship is hard work. We gotta be the hardest thing possible, especially a woman taking care of a little boy, taking care of kids, cooking, cleaning constantly, washington, taking them to school, school work, just general conversation on the day. We know what's writing, what's wrong. This ship is a twenty four hour job. And that was one of my grads. You ain't did ship. What

are you doing? I'm I'm doing what I wanna do you ain't washing my ass? And this isn't antimo. So this is where we get that bullshit miskings. True, we get it funked up. Being a parent, especially a single mom, is hard work, bro, and I'm living that right now today. It's hard work raising the child for Biden and bad. You know what I'm saying, it's not And can't nobody tell me it's easy being a parent. And it's not like you're getting a lot of help. Bro. No, I

don't get none. I don't, I don't. This is what I don't do. Can't nobody say you're going here, You're going there? I washed nne No, you're going our party? And then you do on this. I got line on all my my party and activities and everything else. I cut loose. Now this is what my daughter and all these other young women need to think when you start having kids. Those party days is over. Now. That's all right to go out and unwinding in bad. But you are a parent. You are a parent, You're a mother,

you know what I'm saying. So you should be wanting to be with your kids. You you didn't have kids to give them to your grandparents, to your paminem. No, No, you know what I'm saying. So it's it's crazy though, because as kids we don't think. Then we get older and we think worse. Sir m you know a lot of ship I can't blame my mother for and that's why I'm at peace with where with her. Uh let's say,

my pops, this dude probably didn't want five kids. This dude probably didn't think he thought that you can have more if he didn't have these kids. But see this is my problect. Motherfucker. If you don't want to know kids, well, Robbie, even if he is with your woman, put on the motherfucker strap up. Don't have kids. Well, that's what I was gonna say. James, you know the thing is shorter.

Don't ask to come here. It's not like somebody you know, beating down the walls and your balls telling you, hey man, let me out of here. Let me hear you feel what I mean. So when y'all here, there's your responsibility to take care of, but your frustration, you take your frustration out on children and your children. I don't give a funk what you do in life. Your children shouldn't have to pay for it. You know what I'm saying, your kids was an act to be here. M hm.

You know. So you know a kid like t I Sun, it ain't his fault. He's a kid. He's see differently here different and he reacts different from a normal ass kid with with everything he wants and it is. It is gonna take his father or mother to say, listen, no, motherfucker, I don't care what you do, how you doing, whoo whoo whoo, set your ass down. I'm not gonna lose you to the streets. That makes him a regular ass motherfucking kid. And these kids ain't understanding. They don't even

have a sense of death. You know what that's like, having a sense of death, knowing that I could possibly just my last time laying in my motherfucking bed or walking out of this front door if when I go outside, you know what the problem he is broke because and you know, for the people out there, however, these rappers raised their kids, that's their business, that's their household. We're speaking on it though, because they're making the public so

we're give them public responses to their behasior. So apparently this kid has been arrested already, you know, and I'm not talking about for him out there, just um him committing egregious crimes out there. No for stuff like you know, they get pulled over and you don't have the seat built on, and he resisting kind of the authority right and everything with him, it looks as if he has

an issue with authority. And that's because when you got a day that's telling you all the time, especially when he's telling you ship, like, um, why are you ordering with a short or the cook? Right? It makes it like you don't have to you're above everybody else. You if they're not in your pay grade or were not in the range of money that we're making, you don't have to give them respect. That includes police officers, cooks,

or whoever the hell else in the world. So he's been to jail a few times and he thinks it's a real game. We'll ship this is when and t I it's gonna sit down and think, bro when his son not, when he go to jail, not, he ain't gotta get two years, five years, ten years, to say, get a six months deal ninety days. It's gonna be the hardest motherfucking time in that little boy life. He

ain't bodybuilt. He ain't mind shaped. The only thing is possible is but fuck, he ain't ready for that, and and and and going in there with them grown ass men, Them grown ass men in jail, in prison will eat his little ass alive. And Daddy can't go up in that motherfucker. Daddy can't go spend a million dollars and say put my son here. He can't do that. Yeah, and you know Tipping Tipp has done some time before. You know, he haven't been in an hour before. But

you are not your father. Even even that, you can act like your daddy old motherfucking day. And I'm getting kind of pissed off because as a father man, you gotta think you didn't like jail. If you did, you would have never built out that motherfucker. You just stay and then did what you had to do so for your child to go to jail. And phraise God that now one of my sons ever seen or being handcuffed in their motherfucking life, or they would have really had

a goddamn problem with me I at home. See like, look at that, James. All both of your sons a college graduates, they have been to school. I ain't seen them no graduates, I say that, but yeah, well you know you got one of them with the college and you got you know, but your kids are good young men though, Oh yeah, they're good young men. They're handling their business. But look at your background, James compared, he is, this kid has everything, and you would wonder why the

fund are you off? There costs and all this confusion when your wife is easy? If you right, motherfucker right. This is what I'm telling you. Just because I'm a game member, I know what it's like in the streets. I'm not gonna sit here to debate whether my boys would have been able to handle or deal with this ship the way I did. So I refused for you Catt to put rings in your ears and looking different kind of you're not gonna look that life. You're not

going to play that part. We're not doing that. So Mommy's would have had a motherfucking problem with with marm James. If my boys is looking like their street niggers, we ain't having that. You when they came to see my mama and came to Compton or stay and spent the night or whatever. If niggas one don't know block hanging drinking beer. The niggas weren't hanging on in the street, I wouldn't I wouldn't have it. So this is what I said, This is what he needs to be with

his son. Son, you ain't ready for this type of ship. Son. I don't want to see you living this type of life. The worstest thing can come out of that it is death. You know, you run up on the wrong motherfucker, little boy. The way people are today, they're gonna take your life. They don't give a funk who your daddy. And you know, James, And I'm gonna tell you this, when if, at what point does a parents say, you know what, I'm gonna exercise some tough love. I'm cutting you off just to

show you how real it is. Well, first of all, it takes you to see what you have created in your child, the way you raised and just saying you're giving them everything. But if if you're giving them so much, you have to sit back and say, Okay, man, I know I'm sucking up, I know I'm wrong. My son is wild and my daughter is wild and just what I'm fit to do. So once you see it, that's when you need to nift the ship in the bud. You don't let it go, keep going and going because

you said back drinking and you would eat. Don't give a fuck you can you can never not give a funk about what your kids is doing. Now. You want to be an adult and you're out there living your life so big. I'm telling you, I'm living this ship right now. You know, my daughter has her own room here, she has her son here where she can be with her son and her daughter. She chose to be in the hood, and as a grown woman, I'm not going to the hood looking for you to bring you here. Now.

This is my tough love. Gonna do what you do. But when you go back or if you go back to prison, don't talk to me about ship. Hold on, hold on, don't let me say this. So here's the difference. Whatever you're doing out there, you're doing it. But if you come and say, Daddy, m I know I messed up. I need your help. I got her, come on this stuff right there, that's fair. You know. Let me ask you this, James. I know a lot of people have known when she's came home and to how long she's

been up. She got out in February March of this year. Mm hmm. And this only November and she's already on the run. It's been three months, two months since we saw not gonna stop pop off talking. No, you're not using her phone. No, go in your room and mine and look at TV. You want me to check up my house? Shoot, get your ass on. Thank you? So you know if you choose to live like that. And then here we go again. When I talked to her mother, her mother said, Mocha is wild and out. Mike, what

the fuck is Mocha Thailand? Don't you ever call her? No? Motherfucking Mocha talking to me. You're talking to me about our daughter, So don't call her by her street name talking to me. So she goes to tell me, oh, we just out of here kicking it. Husband, How the fucking you hustle with your child doing what? See? This is what I'm talking about. She informed the friendship with her daughter instead of me and her mother, which I knew this from the beginning. Uh. I have never seen

pam Comb Thailand hair. I've never seen her dressing. When she dresses, she just threw her clothes on. I took that ship off of her. I ironed her clothes and I combed her hair, you know what I'm saying. I used to give her a little bangs and the two ponytails. I used to do all that. Ship. So some people are not not meant to be parents. Yeah, my daughter used to crown when not being there because I used

to suck them ponytails up. No, I used to like Lionel, I praised just had some time when when I got to take it down and watch it, I played him up all day. But some some people are not meant to be parents. Bro, you know what I'm saying. But they have these child and these kids, and they really don't give a funk. They're not paying attention the kid. Huh, They're They're really not, man, you know what I think things like I'm gonna tell you a story, man, I

remember my daughter. She bugged the hell out of me and my my wife for a dog, just like really bugged this about. Oh this dog is so cute, so cute. So I kept telling them dog is a lot of responsibility, always a lot of responsibility, especially when you get them young. They get the crying all the time. They need attension, you know, especially when you're trying to break them from using the bathroom. They will wake you up at night when they got to go use the bathroom. It's a

lot of stuff to it. It's almost like having the child, it is, especially when they're a puppy. Right. So it was a good experience for her because she lasted all the three weeks, and when I tell you about the third day, the public was laying by my feet all the time on myself. And then I'm just trying to get a tax to this dog, you know, because I like dogs. I like the dog, right. But I was showing her something. I says, you have to take care of this dog. But Dad, I'm so tired. I gotta

go to school. You wanted to take care of the same thing if you have a baby. But you know, I don't want to compare a puppy to a baby. But man, that's how it is. So these kids go out and have these kids, right, and that's what happens. Oh, can't you help me. It's so hard because you know, you gotta using the baby's with the little girl and the boy running off doing whatever he want to do it whatever. Only time he come through is when he want to take some pictures or whatever like that. But

you see it all the time. Same thing with the dog. So I wind up taking care of the puppy, right, And so my thing was this, I didn't I actually wanted to keep the dog, the puppy, because I grew liking to him. You know, he got a custom to me, was following me around the house all the time. I said, Okay, this dog see me? Is his outfit? And I told my wife, I said, it's not fair. Our lifestyle don't permit for us to have a dog. That's why I don't have a dog's I got too much stuff going on.

I can't give it the time that they property need. Right. So we wound up really finding a nice family for the dog. We just wasn't gonna give him away to anybody, you know what I mean. We wanted to see so so so. So we met a family. They had five little boys, and I said, this is gonna work. As it was a husky. And you know, huskies are real huskies staying this ship, you know what I mean, They're smart. The dog had already figured out how to get out the little cage ahead of me. And you know what

I'm saying, I look up, he looking at me. I'm like, hey, what are you just in your cage? So I go put them back in the cage and get out again twenty minutes later. So we took them to a family man and five kids. Man, and they used to send these pictures you know, as a dog got bigger and stuff defense. You know, they faded off anything. But that's

a classic example right there, what happens. That's how granddad winds up raising the kids because they really people literally are throwing kids away because they have other family members, because ain't nobody to let their grandkids go back. I don't care, I don't care how funked up, how mad you el is. I know I'm not gonna looking a brand kid of mine. He's get raised any kind of way, right, you know, I'm gonna go and give him to her

if I see the parents. Ain't that that my kids ain't fit to do the They're gonna get an earful from me. But that kid would be in this house right right, You feel what I mean? And now we just had to do whatever I had to do in order to take you know, help them, help They had the best life possible, right, Everybody don't think like that. Everybody don't feel the ain't way, and that's why we have and we're talking about this situation now. You know

your methods are doing. Ship is totally different. When I got a dog and my girl didn't wanted the dog, I got the dog, loved the dog, buying the dog, bids and all this ship. When she stopped taking care of it, I put that dog in my truck. I hit about ten blocks tin conors and I let the dog out. I jumped out and let him out, let her out, and jumped in the truck. And all you heard with me burning, rubbing the truck, and I'm looking back and I'm seeing her trying to catch the truck.

When I hit the corner, I ain't see it no more. I'm gone. I hit another corner. I ain't at the one butty no more. But I let her know I had to take it away because I next for the dog. How a dog with a pet bull. Her name was Sentiment. Yeah, she was about one two years old. Somebody picked the dog up. Dog. She was healthy as fun, she had pretty your pretty cold, you know. She was a pretty as dog. And but I'm not taking care of but I'm I'm on the motorcycle, said I'm not at home,

I go on trips. So if you don't want to take care of the dog, and then if I'm not there, you put her outside. So yeah, responsibility is the motherfucker. But you know it's you know, life is life, life is it's bullshit, But you just gotta know how to live life and how to respect what's yours. That's from your kids, to your mom's, your grandparents, your aunt, cheese and all that. My uncle's and cheese, I still call him uncle. I still call him ANCHI. That's respect right there.

These kids don't do that. They called These kids call you by your name, huh, either by your name or O G. Yeah, so you know the respect is standing out. Every year it gets worse and worse. And that's the timeframe we're on. Every year. Ship changes. M hmm, it changes, it changes made. But you know what, though broke. It's just what you see exchanged. Because we got parents out here being the kids homeboys or the home girl versus being a parent. Ain't no guidelines being said, ain't no

basic principles like respect and honor. Because I was always talking, James. When you go in the room and it's grown folks talking you don't just interrupt the conversation and coming in and start talking. Who was the old praig? What was the old thing when grown folks talking at the funk up? Exactly, you're grown folks talking. Shut the funk up. I wasn't allowed to have nob the socialize with my people, with with my parents and their friends when they're out there

having conversations. Now you see, you you live to be having the conversation. You see the kids jump right in the middle of it. Yeah, and and and be in the conversation. Oh yeah, for sure. And the parents so scared to say something of the kids like they gon hurt their feelings. Something's the craziest you've ever seen. And it's like you're the father, you're the daddy, you're the mama. They do what you say. It ain't the vice versa.

You set the rules and the foundation, right. I know, over here where I'm at, I set the rules for the house. Me and my wife set the rules. We set the foundation up in here. It ain't the other way around, man. I didn't change people disrespect their parents when their parents get to a certain age and they can't take care of itself. I just change people put their parents in a combination home, and their parents gave

him the best, gave him everything. But this is what I'm not gonna do, so they they throw them off. M hm. You know what I'm saying. We don't respect our elders, We don't respect life. So I got bigger and better things to do than take care of you. Man. I didn't care if if I had to change my mom's I didn't care if I had to go and clean up back through three times a day. This is what we we are. We are here for to take care of parents when they get older. You know what

I'm saying. People don't think like that today. Well you know what man, I just said this um you know, knee surgery a couple of weeks ago, and one thing I we will say. My kids have been a one though, daughter, my son a one. Daddy. You need anything that that you need anything? Daddy? Are you hungry? Daddy? I'm gonna get some socks and put on your feet, you know, because you can't move to one leg right. And you know, between them and my wife, man, they a one that

gives me hope. That one. I am an old, real old dude and can't take care of myself, and I'm around here driven on myself that they ain't gonna dog me out well is a proven in fact what they're doing now. But but you gotta look at no him as a father. You deserve that because you're you're a good father. You raised your kids. Your kids didn't have to see daddy with with multiple women. Your kids never grew up happening to to beg nor getting their ass whoop and all this other ship. You and your wife

are still together and they see that. So whether you know it or not, you're still something in your daughter. Because your daughter ain't gonna walk and she shouldn't want a man if he ain't on the same pedal stove that she put her father on. Oh man, let me tell you dog the other day. You know, sometimes I got a tendency because when you want to think all you're doing is rehabbing all day, you know you gotta do them exercise all day, and you can fucking need

it if you don't. Right, and you're taking all this damn medicine and ship man, so by the in between, next you're laying on the sofa with your leg propped that way in the air, with the ice thing with ice machine on, and you wind up dozing off, so I wake up the other day. Man, not get the smell and the nicest meals ever, No, I'm like, Man,

she somebody in there getting down and I'm hungry my stomach. Brother, Man, when I tell you my daughter came in there and here, Daddy, I cooked for you a boss play macaroni and cheese, meet loads mashed potatoes, you know, green beans, and just like daddy, you want some more? Daddy? You could? She come up there, rubbed my feet for me. Man, almost brought tears to mind. Let's it's my little girl. She's taking really taking care of her daddy. And that's the

way it's supposed to be. Man. Family is supposed to take care of each other, just like that little girl taking care of me. It's my job to take care of her and make sure she are right and straight. You know what I'm saying, This is my job. I don't expect no damn rewards. I've never said around here asking you know I hear something is Man, my family don't appreciate me. What you mean? Your family is gonna preach you what expected for it war for you doing

your damn job. I don't. I don't need no problems. Dog, That's what I'm supposed to do. I just knew. I just tried to give my kids the childhood I wish I would have, and I give it. You gotta give a shout to my mamacause my mama did a hell of a job. He want dad, He did a hell of a child. But my father and no bad dude. I had my daddy in my life, you know what I mean. So, but my mama did a real good job as far as extended in stilling certain values in me.

And one thing I love about my mama is my aunt Tie uses to talk about my biological daddy like a dog. My mama didn't allow that. She because I got kind of caught up in them things to where I was attacking my daddy too, And she put me in check about that. She said, listen, your dad loved you. Your dad loves you. Whatever girl went on between me and him, and that's our business. And I don't never

want to hear you disrespect them again. And that's what to do because she realized, she told me, she said, I want you when your and your daddy to be in each other's life. It was never no stuff. My mom didn't play that of me going to things and she would check out and she would check my uncle's aunties. Whoever else had something bad to say about my father, she said, you're not gonna do that, because he was he loved his son. Yeah, he wasn't perfect, you know,

about a long shot. He had his issues, like everybody got issues. I didn't come to find out my father grew up. You know, it was nineteen to them, and all of them wounded up in foster homes at a certain point, so it was a lot of stuff he had to figure out as a man. Like my dad broke it down to me one day, I had you when I was tween two years old, and I didn't have a real idea of what the father was holps to look like, because he know he had this old

man in his life. My grandfather was a rolling stone. He had nineteen kids in Ohio, had another teen in Tennessee, had another five in Mississippi somewhere. So during his younger years he was rolling around. He eventually came back home and put his family back together. But if you think about the situation that my father went through like that, it had to mess what is he here a little bit and when he broke it down to me, I'm gonna tell you, man, I love my father. Me and

him got the best relationship in the world. Now I love my old man. I don't have time because what I figured out, James. Either I can sit up here and be bitter about some ship that happened a few times that he may not have came and picked me up or whatever. Or I could really make the most out of the time that we got right now and not living the past to be worried about move on from it the past, and and and enjoyed the life in the time that you have now. So that's the

important part. Most of us don't get it. I don't think I would have been able to do that. But you know, I can't do nothing but forgive let it go. You can't do something. But before we get up, Barty the James, I want to tell the people something. We have Gangster Chronicles merchandise on sale, y'all. Make sure y'all hit that link below. We got some big James T shirts with big James face on there. And I'm just

messing with you. We ain't got no stuff like that. Okay, no, but we do have merchs and we got some new designs out there, gonna send them to you. Bray actually ordered by some stuff already so we can start winning them. Okay, So when we get back in the studio, we gonna start that's what we're gonna start doing our things. But y'all make sure y'all support that. And we also have our own stream of that coming in the next month. Is so y'all you wanna look out with that all

kinds of exclusive stuff with the Gangster Chronicles. My boy Big James has his own show coming. You're already for the drum Rogue James. They don't tell you what the name we thought of it together. No, no, no, we have life, the Life and Times of Mob James and his transformation at the James McDonald. It's gonna be a powerful and the cold think about that man. You know a lot of people don't think that it's possible to change your life are. They think that they're stuck in

the life that they are. And today I'm here to tell you we don't have to be stuck nor stagnated as that person. Everybody got move for change in life, regardless of what we've done. You know what I'm saying. And I want to say I'm glad that I had a chance to change and see different. I really did. And man, on that note, man, I wish everybody out there, well, yeah for sure, big dog have more details on Shames show as it comes. That don't mean he not on

gainst the chronicles no more. So don't start doing no missy stuff. That don't mean he there. But y'all gotta remember this. He was a business and when you got three people on the show, that money gets tricks all kind of way. So we had to go out and do other things. So what my boy had nice sent me. What's the monel? Man, I'm gonna come over there and take your here. Man, you know I'm ball here. I need him here, man, Can I have some of your braids? Can I have? Can I have one of your braids? Now?

How come I need? I need two of them? So I'm gonna get my sisters when I come out there, and I'm gonna take me some of them braids. All right, Yeah, we're gonna do that. Losing two stays now, I've seen him right now, heady back in there and they start bothering them yet No, he just lost the two top ones. Yeah, like Candy. No, he's good. We we we try to do different. He looked like he getting bigged up. Need to put football field. Yeah, yes, he's starting to get big.

He probably athletic as all get out to him. Man, he's flipping and he's doing everything else. She scared me. Momm you want to play football? You do? Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna tell my friend to sign you up because James isn't beating. She was, how old is he not? Dog? He'd be six next year. Yeah, yeah, you can play on the tinies, dog. But y'all know what football and football? He needs something. I was gonna put him in karate

because with karate dad discipline, that would be good for him. Bro. Yeah, where I'm at, witty, but I think karate will give him that. You know that discipline get need outside of home? Yeah, for sure. End of the show him how to work with other people and giving patience because James, I'm gonna tell you something. I took jiu jitsu for four years.

I don't tell a lot of people that, Uh, martial arts gives you a confidence to know that you can Russian motherfucker, So you gotta tenden see to less stuff slide and just kind of laugh at it, and you just really just waiting for them to make that one move and you already got them figured out kind of, you know what I mean. So I've never like once I took once I started studying jiu jitsu. Man, it

took me to a thing. I used to fight a lot before that, but then after that I didn't because it was kind of like I'll be looking at people like to you, it doesn't matter if there was a big dude to us, small dude like you know, you don't even know, you ain't got enough. But man, we're gonna get up out of here. Man, we appreciate you

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