Ladies and gents, corporate MILF back with another episode tonight. I want to deliver an episode for you that talks about how to improve your sex. And I'm going to put this in the context of three different places where people might be finding themselves. And I'm going to give you some ways to think about it, to shift your thinking or to position yourself in a way where you are
in better sexual relationships. I don't want to throw anyone under the bus by saying this because I was the one part of it too. But I have experienced a lot of different sex lives, shall you say, over the course of my life. And what I mean by that is in my 20s, I lived the single life. I had one night stands. I hooked up with people
casually. And I've had relationships prior to marriage that were up to four years in length where I was with someone, you know, for a long enough period of time where you would think that you could get to a place where everyone's having a good sex life. I have lived in the space of having periods of time that were more sexless. And I've spent a lot of time wallowing in like the the grief of that and all the things that can come along with with that.
Just deep breath for anyone who's in that situation. And I'm, I really am with you. I got you. This is an episode for you. OK. And then the next one that I would mention is more of an exploratory space. And I'm going to talk about this in the way that I have experienced this, which has been a ladder of growth and then trying different things and experimenting to figure out what actually worked for me. So I'm going to, I'm going to talk about this in the sense of
my own life experience. And also because I've been through all of these experiences, I have spoken with so many people in these same exact situations. So if you're in a space right now where you're not having a good sexual relationship, the one that you actually want, you are not alone. And that is why I am so passionate about the subject. I think it is everyone's God-given opportunity to have an amazing sexual relationship with
humans on this earth. All right, let's talk about my few 101st scarring incidents of being with men. And I for a so long I thought maybe it was actually the men's fault until I realized that I wasn't asking for what I freaking wanted. And so believe me, after having many experiences where no one seemed to come up with what I wanted, which isn't really their fault if they didn't freaking
know what I wanted. But I always just thought like someone would want to do more of these different things with me. And I feel like maybe I was waiting to see how they would act with me first instead of setting up the expectation for what I knew I wanted and how they could earn the opportunity to come into my presence. Let's start with your most basic one night stand fuck buddy like some arrangement that you have with somebody who you don't really connect with all that
often. There are so many ways to have this type of relationship that are more fulfilling than I know a lot of people are stuck in right now. And I know because I was stuck in that phase for so long based on my experiences, I'm talking about my 20s and 30s. Pretty often the type of sex that people would have would be, you know, maybe the guy came over and was like, there's some
hugging and kissing. And maybe it's like a little bit more aggressive at this point because you probably just met this person at some cool BBQ, which doesn't even fucking happen anymore. But anyway, in your 20s, this shit happens like all the time. And so you hook up with, you know, go back to somebody's house and have a little fun. And I feel like what typically happened or what went down was, you know, maybe there's some like, hugging and kissing in the
beginning. Maybe if the girl is lucky, he's going to go down on her. But it's probably not fulfilling for her. He's not really doing it long enough. He starts too hard. It's like not it's like, oh, then she's like, you know, faking it in a way because she's just like trying to encourage this fucking guy to keep going. You know what I mean? It's like I'm fucking moaning over here in my 20s, which is basically saying don't fucking stop, you idiot.
But of course then they stop and then they might get on top of you have like traditional type sex. Maybe there's like three positions that you try, he gets off, everyone rolls over and you're like, wow, that fucking sucked. Like maybe it was fun because you got to hug this person and you got to experience them. But at least in my experience, I never got off with these fucking guys. And I didn't know enough to like then roll over and be like, touch me this way.
Or, you know, grab a vibrator and have him participate in some way, which is something that I've augmented on for myself now that I am wiser. God, I just took the biggest side because that was my experience over and over and over. That was my evidence of how men were. And So what I started to think was I was like, the guys even like to go down girls, the guys even like to pleasure them. Like they're not really. They're just like doing the act and like going home.
And I just don't feel like worshipped or special at all in this way. And at that point, I didn't even know what worshipping could be like. Right. And then you move into, you know, having kids and being married and taking on all of the responsibility and the absolute utter chaos that comes along with that part of life, like having kids, going to work, not sleeping ever. Everyone's super aggravated. No one knows what the fuck to do.
Like, you just got these kids. Like you don't know what to do. It's like there's so many different ways to be aggravated and frustrated during this time, and it's a very, very hard time for a lot of couples to navigate. I've talked to so many people who are in sexless marriages, which I would define as having sex maybe every two to three months. And and like, one partner probably isn't really that into it.
The other one kind of feels like they have to beg for it when they do it. It's like the person's not really that into it. And so now you're like locked in this space where, yeah, you're married to this person. Like maybe you have kids with them, but you didn't really sign up for a sexless life. I certainly didn't. And then the breakthrough happens.
The breakthrough is when you have a partner who is open to hearing what it is that you want, you being interested in hearing what it is that they want, and starting to experiment and try different things. It makes me really sad for people who are in positions right now where they're not feeling desired and wanted and loved and they don't have a person to be able to share their intimacy with.
And it's definitely my hope for everyone who is listening to this, no matter what kind of space you're in right now, to consider this as an opportunity to realize that you don't have to sit in that space forever. You can actually get with what you want. And I'm going to go into a later episode on all the crazy things that people actually do want.
And when you realize people's desires are far stranger than yours could probably ever be, it's going to give you a level of acceptance where you may feel more comfortable in asking for your for what you want. Knowing, knowing for sure that someone else is on the other end who has been literally praying for you. The very first thing and easiest thing to do is simply say what do you like? And also is there anything that I should be aware of that you're
not comfortable with? And a couple of things are going to happen during that process. You're going to start flirting. So the what do you like conversation can really be fun. As you guys are discovering each other, you can ask them if they've ever thought about what their fantasies and kinks are. Everybody has them, but a lot of people aren't consciously aware
that they have them. And I can attest that because I, I knew what I was turned on by when I watched porn, but I didn't understand where that desire was coming from and I didn't understand what experiencing that was going to actually give me. All right, what I want to do is to riff on maybe a couple of different ways to make your basic one night stand fuck buddy or just like basic routine more
fun. I think I'm going to talk about this from the point of view more of like someone you just met because there's definitely a different vibe that you can play with during that time. Not to say you can't go do something like this in a a marriage, but I'm going to put this in the context of you don't really know the person that well. You're definitely attracted to
them. You probably met them at the bar and you're just stoked that you're going to have an opportunity to spend a little bit of time with them. Oh boy. Now I get to come up with what my fantasy would be if I were to have a one night stand right now. Let me see if I can come up with something good for you. So I am imagining meeting a cowboy in Texas and Oh my God, first of all, I'm already sweating. OK, hold on.
All right, deep breath. What I would expect from this man is the most amazing combination of dominance, because he's probably like this big dude who's got a ton of muscle and he's like a little bit dirty. And you can tell he's a little bit scrappy. And you know, he can definitely like put his ass back into it, right? And not back into it, not like that, but into you, right? Anyway, so he's a big strong dude. And I definitely want to have
rife sex. But I can also imagine this type of guy being like really gentle and sweet and caring like a family first type guy. Like putting his woman on a pedestal type guy. That's the type of guy I go for. Now, if a guy gives me any indication that he is not so grateful to be in my presence and he is not so incredibly honored to even have the opportunity, opportunity to speak with me, like automatically like it.
It's, it's like the people like that with myself, like we don't even connect anymore because my vibe puts out a totally different aura. My expectation is that someone's going to want to earn and earn my attention and impress me in order to get it. And that whole dynamic by the way of having someone impress you is so sexy and hot. And I need to get into that for you. But we're going to riff on this fantasy a little bit about the
cowboy. All right. So I mean, definitely I want to go back to his place, first of all. And this is the type of guy who's like starting gentle hugging and kissing, but he's going to grab on to the back of your neck like really hard and pull you into him or like pull you up by your butt and like bring you close to him. I can definitely see an opportunity to be rubbing on top of him, like basically sitting
in his lap. But like we're all still closed at this point, like rubbing up and down on a couch, kissing him, me being on top of him, which gives me like this feeling in my heart that like, I just got so excited by that thought. Let me see if I can even figure out why there's like this teddy bear energy that feels really good to sit in and then also an energy of like he can't really resist me either.
I definitely have a soft spot for guys who don't, who like don't come forward right away, who kind of like hold back a little little bit. Because then I kind of feel that like pull towards him, like, you know, I get to look a little sexy or like make it some eye contact or see if I can call him in with my energy. And that for me is fun 'cause I love that I know I'm a little deviant. This is where things get tricky. This is literally where things
fucking go downhill. Because what happens is the guy's all excited and he's gonna like, flip you up on, on on the couch and, like, start fucking you. And you know what? Hell, yeah. Like, because already I'm like, yeah, if I have a fucking cowboy fucking me right now like that, I'm like, stoked. Like it's not that we don't like that, but the difference is making it satisfying for the female.
Taking the time to rub her gently and get her turned on, stimulate her, go down on her for a while, start to use your fingers too. If you're watching the camera, I just made the motion that you know, you can make in that area and get her warmed up so she is ready to take a ride. I would say that's probably the biggest enhancement that I would
add. And I think not only I think the both sides should be kind of asking each other what they like or you can do that in a way, by the way, that isn't so bland. You can be like, do you know, do you like that? And you want, you want to hear the reaction, like their reaction when like, yeah, that's fucking honor. However, whatever they say, I don't know. Can't imitate the guy. Like, I that's what I'm looking for. I'm looking for that desire.
I want to see that he wants me so bad that he would do anything to come a little bit closer. He would do anything to have the honor and to be able to pleasure me, which is different from the way I used to think about it. The way I used to think about it was I don't know if he wants to. And I, I feel bad for that older version, you know, younger version of myself who thought that way because now I understand like, yes, like the right person for you is going to want to do that.
And if they're not, if you're in a sexless marriage, the one recommendation I'd have is to face your problems directly and see if you can start to straighten out where you're placing blame on each other, where you're getting frustrated. Have like a real division of chores. Be able to walk away. Have your own life, be able to not walk away, but be able to like go out with your friends one night to get some space to get a breath.
Anyway, I could go on and on about that probably for a while. But anyway, it's a tough spot to be in. And I do feel your pain very deeply. I felt your pain for a very fucking long time. And so I definitely recommend starting to think about the exploratory phase of sex, which is when you imagine what turns you on. What I want you to do is to realize you can actually make that happen for yourself way easier than you think maybe you could. I want you to think about the porn that you watch.
Like, see what you're actually attracted to and think about that a little bit deeper. Like what moment in it are you most attracted to? Can you start to unwind possibly some levels of domination and subtle mind games that are going on that make you excited? Can you take it back to a level within yourself where you can identify where your kinks are and start to explore those a little bit? Food for thought my dear friends.
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