Ladies and gents, it's corporate MILF back with another episode. The question tonight is just so juicy to answer and I hope I can give you a number of perspectives on this to start thinking about this in more ways and I'd love to hear your thoughts on this topic. The question is, what's the biggest misconception couples have about keeping sex exciting
long term? The first thing that popped out to me about this question is that this assumes that people actually can keep sex exciting long term. I think it also assumes that both people even have a desire to do that. But assuming that the couple is into that, then let's explore this a little bit further. Perhaps we can tackle this from the perspective of a couple who
is married. This is very complicated when you're looking at a couple that's married because first you have to take a look at who's working. You know, what's the stress pattern within these people's lives? Do they have kids? Is this a couple that has only been married, not only but has been married for a couple of years and doesn't necessarily have the stress of other aspects of life yet?
Or is this a couple who's been together for 15 years or more and has seen a lot of stuff already together? Because I think answering this question is going to be different depending on what space that couple is in and what is going to even be required to move from where they are now to having it be more exciting. Because that's the premise of this question. This question assumes that the couple would like to have more exciting experiences.
I think one of the first things is that just because you're married or just because you are in a relationship with this person right now, a lot of couples forget to take care and date the person who they're with.
And when you're married and you have a lot of other things going in on in your life, like having, you know, kids and taking care of a lot of different things, this can get really, really tricky because you end up moving into the space where you're more just like managing your life together. So I think that if you're not taking the time to date the person who you're with to, then that alone is going to completely take out that level of interest.
It's going to remove that layer. So if you are considering adding in a little bit more spice, maybe part of that just simply starts with what are you doing together? Are you going out together? Are you experimenting with new places to go, whether that's traveling internationally or checking out a new restaurant or going to some event together, it
it almost doesn't matter. What matters is the two people are enjoying going out together during that time and that can create a space that that couple can exist in that is outside of that normal household routine. I also think that an entry level space to think about sex is definitely penetration. I would think that's probably the first thing that most people are thinking about. And when it comes to sex, does
it have to be that all the time? I'm posing the question because are there ways to enjoy each other that might not be just that? Is it possible to investigate other ways to be with each other intimately? Is it possible to drop some areas of jealousy or maybe even use jealousy to your benefit to create a little excitement in the relationship? And what I mean by that is, I don't know. Can you guys go to a strip club
together? It depends on what each person wants and what turns on the other. And then you can create certain rules around it. So if I were to go to a strip club with the guy I'm dating, I might say you're not allowed to touch her and you're only allowed to touch me. You can look and you can get excited, but only I'm allowed to touch her. So I set that rule right, because that's what I desire, but that doesn't mean that that's what everybody wants.
Some people might have completely different scenarios that could pique their interests, and maybe it's time to consider what those might be for each other. I think it's a mistake to think that just because you're with somebody, you've now locked them in for life. And I understand that's what marriage is. But if we can all just simply recognize that marriage is not perfect, I think we can all agree on that, then that means that there may be some flaws within the system.
And The thing is, is that there might be a standard for a person of marriage, but that standard might not work for another couple. And it's up to that couple to decide themselves how they want to handle this partnership in their life. Just because one person says you can only have sex with the person who you marry and you can't watch porn and you can't do this and that, OK, why? I would just pose the question why?
If you can open yourself up to the possibility that whether you're right or wrong, you're right, which is the same concept with somebody else, whether they're right or wrong, in other words, and if you agree with them or not, it doesn't matter because that might be their perspective at the time.
And when you begin to honor the other person's perspective and simply listen and not necessarily internalize that for yourself or not necessarily even accept it for yourself, but accept that that is where they are right now, then it can create an energetic boundary between two people where you don't feel like you're being crossed if someone doesn't agree with you. And I think, at least in my experience, it is so easy to begin to blame the other person
for literally anything. Like, I literally probably spilled Lube on the floor myself and I was blaming it on someone else. For real. And I'm like, why is this still slippery? Well, Abby, because you didn't clean it up yet. And when you can start to hear yourself and the little ideas that come into your head where you're like, God damn it, this person did this. And you're like, actually, no, I can take responsibility for that.
I don't know why I'm placing this blame on this other person when you can start to do that with yourself and just have a little game with it and realize like no one is perfect. Everyone has these crazy thoughts that enter your head. It's about can you hear the thought number one? Can you objectively look at it to figure out if it's true or not for you in that moment or the other person and just sit with it and be kind of like OK with however that is in the
moment. One thing that I've realized over the last couple of years is that everyone is on a different place in their journey. I actually kind of thought that as we grew up, like we're all supposed to be sort of equal in a way with our experiences. And what I realized is like we all take these crazy wandering paths and we all go through these different experiences at different times, and they're all
shared in a way. There are all these shared experiences that manifest in different ways for people, and I love hearing about my friends experiences and just figuring out like, wow, that's wild that you're going through that right now, but you're always taking in what they're saying and appreciating it because you know what? They are dealing with that right now and it's a valid thing if
they're going through something. It is so easy to get into a space when you're with somebody and you expect certain things out of them and maybe don't allow the space for them to have their own human mistakes. I definitely did this and it's something that I'm always trying to work on now that it's something that I've been aware of.
And so when it comes to the biggest misconception couples have about keeping sex exciting, I think this is so multifaceted because there's so many views that society has about intimacy and there's so much that is taboo around this topic. And it really doesn't need to be. It's one of the most amazing, pleasurable experiences that we can have on this planet. And when it's done with someone who is reciprocating that interest, I really don't see
what's wrong with that. I guess all the ways you can spice up a relationship with sex are all the other episodes that I have released, so go ahead and listen to those and let me know what you think. You can always find me on TikTok at Corporate MILF on X at Finn Dom Jim Queen and Only fans at the real Jim Queen. As always, you are not allowed to come until I do Peace.