The podcast for learning to light your soul on fire and become exactly who you want to be.
Join Therapist Flynn Skidmore as he dives into eye-opening conversations about some of the most interesting and important human development topics in the world, offering you the tools and perspectives you need to live your best life.
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Flynn Skidmore delves into the often-overlooked fear of joy, using a client's story and personal experiences to illustrate how we're conditioned to repress our natural expression of happiness for survival and belonging. The episode discusses the energetic cost of dimming joy and the profound impact this has on personality, relationships, and creative output. It encourages listeners to recognize joy as the safest bonding energy and to actively pursue its amplification through self-expression and creation, ultimately transforming their lives and the world around them.
In this episode, I delve into the journey of navigating darkness and discovering the beauty that emerges when we embrace our contradictions. I share my personal experience of living out of alignment with my true self, the pain of hiding behind masks, and the profound transformation that comes from aligning your external reality with your internal truth. Through the lens of congruence—where your inner essence and outer life harmonize—we explore the creative potential unlocked by authenticity and ...
In this episode, I guide you through a powerful meditation designed to help your desires feel safe to grow and flourish. I’ll help you create a space where you can explore what you truly want, hold space for the fears that may arise, and transform them with warmth and tenderness. This practice allows you to connect with your desires, understand their potential, and create an environment where they can thrive. This meditation is an invitation to expand your capacity to hold both your dreams and t...
In this episode, I share my thoughts on why material wealth alone doesn’t create a truly fulfilling life. I talk about the epidemic of isolation in our culture and how many of us, myself included, have sacrificed genuine connection in the pursuit of success. I explore what’s at the core of this need for “life force” and how nurturing friendships with shared aspirations can shift our experience, bringing us closer to true abundance. I also open up about my own journey through loneliness, my strug...
In this episode, we explore the journey of becoming someone who genuinely inspires yourself. I share my personal transformation from relying on fear-based motivation to cultivating a life of true self-inspiration, highlighting both the struggles and revelations along the way. We dive into: Owning Your Desires: Why aligning with what you genuinely want can shift everything. Self-Actualization and Collective Growth: How your personal growth impacts the world around you. From Manipulation to Inspir...
In this episode, I’m diving into the heart of self-love, breaking down some of the biggest misconceptions that can actually hold us back and deepen self-criticism. I’ll share how looking at self-love as an energetic process can help us move beyond judgment and obligation, opening up space for real acceptance and powerful transformation. I’ll guide you through exercises to help you reconnect with your inner self and build a nurturing presence that reaches beyond your own boundaries. Together, we’...
In this episode, I explore the profound impact of completion on personal growth and success. I share my journey in recognizing the importance of signing off on both tangible projects and intangible parts of myself, including past versions of who I’ve been. By acknowledging what’s complete, I’ve found that it reduces overwhelm and frees up energy for new creations. Using the metaphor of water flowing from a mountain to the ocean, I illustrate the process of creation and the obstacles that can blo...
In this episode, we explore the intricate dance between energy and the material world, uncovering how these two layers of reality shape our experiences. Through the lens of my personal journey, we examine how our energetic states—whether rooted in shame or love—ripple out to influence the physical world. Understanding the cycles of creation, assimilation, and completion, we gain the power to cultivate life-giving energy, transforming not only ourselves but also the environments we touch. By proc...
In this episode, I dive deep into the concept of creating our desires in life. I explore how our general orientation, like my goal of becoming 100% love, guides our actions and shapes our journey. I emphasize the importance of embracing the tension between our current state and our aspirations, viewing it as a space for creation and growth. We discuss the rhythm of creation - birth, maintenance, and death - and how honoring each stage is crucial for sustainable progress and energy management. I ...
In this episode, I dive into the concept of creation and share my personal journey of identifying as an artist. I explore how this decision has transformed my perspective on life and creativity. I discuss the importance of embracing all dimensions of ourselves, dissolving perceived contradictions, and how identifying as an artist has allowed me to love mistakes and take myself less seriously. I also touch on the idea that we are all artists, constantly creating in every moment, whether we're con...
I share how I've transformed potentially tense situations into opportunities for connection and growth. By approaching these encounters with an intention of giving of giving - offering presence, friendliness, and genuine interaction - I've not only often avoided traffic tickets but more importantly, created moments of real human connection. This approach, I believe, is about transcending societal programming and contributing to a collective evolution in how we interact with one another. I also e...
In this episode, I ask the question, “Why does growth take time?” I explore the mechanisms underlying the materialization of desires and intentions, and consider why sustainable change takes time, using my own experience with eyesight as an example. I discuss why quick fixes or "winning the lottery" or “chiropractor” scenarios might not lead to lasting transformation, and how God (or the universe/love/nature/light/oneness) might actually be loving by allowing us to go through the process of chan...
In this episode, I dive into the complexities of personal growth within relationships and share my 4-part framework for co-creation. We explore the challenging dynamics that arise when partners have different visions for their lives and the importance of understanding each other's ideals. We discuss the three options you face when your partner's growth doesn't align with your expectations: accept them as they are, change your expectations, or choose to leave the relationship. I emphasize the imp...
In this episode, I follow up on last week’s topics of superiority and inferiority and share my growth since. I speak about into the concept of empowerment and the journey from perceiving relationships vertically to embracing horizontal connections. I explore the realization that safety and genuine connection come from allowing ourselves to be seen horizontally by others. This shift in perspective has transformed my creative process, enabling me to operate with a more nourishing worldview. I also...
In this episode, I dive deep into the personal journey of understanding and transforming my internal concept of worth and value. I explore the idea of being seen as the "best option" and how it has influenced my actions and relationships. Through a reflective process, I discuss the importance of shifting from a vertical, hierarchical mindset to a more horizontal, interconnected view of relationships and self-worth. I share insights from conversations with friends and personal reflections that le...
In this episode, I dive into one of the most challenging and transformative aspects of personal growth: conflict. I share my perspective on how to navigate, embrace, and engage with conflict in the most next-level way possible. Conflict is golden because it accelerates the process of bringing unconscious material to the surface of your conscious awareness. This gives you the opportunity to make conscious choices about how you relate to that material and, ultimately, transform it. I discuss how o...
In this episode, I dive deep into my transformative journey with Connor Milstein's movement system. This isn't just about getting in shape; it's about aligning your body, mind, and spirit to the highest degrees of love and transformation. We kick off by exploring my initial resistance to adopting Connor's system and how committing to it has led to unprecedented levels of personal growth. I'm talking about physical changes like increased neck size and foot growth, as well as deeper shifts in conf...
This episode is a re-airing of the episode published on December 13, 2023. In today’s episode, I teach you about the The 6 Principles of Your Unconscious. These principles, informed by Neuro-Linguistic Programming, are the key to understanding your unconscious to transform your internal and external realities. The 6 Principles: Your unconscious stores and organizes memory Your unconscious takes everything personally Your unconscious works on the principle of least effort Your unconscious does no...
In this episode, we dive deep into the themes of purpose and our contributions to the collective well-being. We explore how aligning our internal and external environments can empower us to trust our instincts and fully engage in our lives, unlocking a state of fulfillment and creative power. Here’s what we cover: Purpose and Contribution: Understanding how to live in service to the greater good and the profound impact of aligning our actions with our deepest values. Trust and Instinct: Discussi...
In this episode of the Flynn Skidmore podcast, we delve into the relationship between our internal states and the external environments we navigate. I challenge the idea that joy can be cultivated internally regardless of external circumstances by emphasizing the interconnectedness of the internal and external worlds. Here’s what we cover: Interplay Between Internal and External Environments: How surroundings influence our inner experiences and the importance of creating supportive external syst...
In this episode, we delve into the depths of the unconscious mind. We begin by unpacking the concept of the unconscious, drawing on insights from Carl Jung to appreciate its complexities and potential. This episode is dedicated to helping you explore and embrace the hidden treasures of your unconscious, moving beyond fear and into a profound engagement with your deeper self. Here's what we cover: Understanding the Unconscious Mind: This segment explores the unconscious mind and how it influences...
In today’s episode, we explore the journey of "Becoming Love." This isn't just about romance or affection; it's about transforming every interaction and everyday moment into an opportunity for growth and kindness. Today, we delve deep into what it means and what it takes to embody love in all aspects of life. What you'll discover in this episode: We begin by challenging the traditional hierarchies of emotions, such as those that rank love over shame or enlightenment over fear. I discuss how thes...
In today’s episode of the Flynn Skidmore podcast, I delve into what we often hide from the world and ourselves—our fears, shames, and those dark corners of our psyche we seldom dare to illuminate. We’re discussing the energy it takes to keep these secrets buried and the transformative power of bringing them to light. Here’s what you can expect in this episode: I’ll share personal stories, starting with a seemingly small but significant memory from fifth grade involving a rotting apple in my back...
In today’s episode of the Flynn Skidmore podcast, I discuss a personal pattern that has challenged and defined a part of who I am in relationships. I discuss the times I've walked away from relationships, leaving others feeling hurt due to my lack of communication. However, it’s not a simple story of complete avoidance; it's a pattern that doesn’t define all my relationships, as many have grown stronger and deeper over the years. However, the pattern of withdrawal absolutely exists for me, and I...
In this episode, Steve Hoskinson, founder of Organic Intelligence, joins me to discuss a range of topics, from mindfulness and meditation to how we understand change and compassion through systems theory. Steve shares his insights from decades of studying what it means to be inherently whole. We dive into the paradox of change, exploring how accepting ourselves as we are can lead to transformation. We also discuss the role of compassion in our lives, looking at it through the lens of systems the...
Today, I'm thrilled to share a conversation with Derek Sivers, a former musician, programmer, TED speaker, circus clown, and author. From selling his first company for $22 million and donating all the proceeds to charity to moving from Singapore to New Zealand, his vibrant presence shines through every story he shares. In this episode, Derek and I explore his unique life experiences, from his early days in Fort Greene, navigating the gritty reality of New York City in the late '80s and '90s, to ...
In this episode, we explore the concept of human tribes and the pervasive sense of disconnection many feel today. We look at how our shift from tribal living to agricultural societies marked the beginning of what I call the 'great disintegration'—a move away from a unified, integrated experience of life. This shift, driven by fear and the pursuit of resource accumulation, has left many feeling tribeless and isolated in a fragmented world. Despite these challenges, I encourage you to create your ...
In this episode, I sit down with Jeff Guenther (TherapyJeff), a therapist who's made a huge splash with his engaging mostly-relationship content. We dive into Jeff’s personal backstory, including his challenging relationship with his mother, his battles with anger, identity formation, music and culture, and the impact of his mom's drug addiction during his formative years. Jeff also opens up about his content journey, from the excitement of his initial viral success to the challenges of monetizi...
In this episode, I explore dealing with those who aren’t invested in their own growth and what I call 'magnetism'—essentially, how to best set ourselves up to influence others. I share insights from my own journey to boost my magnetism, shedding light on the crucial role of sincerity and truth in self-discovery and our interactions with others. We'll talk about the significant impact our environments and relationships have on our personal growth and the strength of our magnetism. I emphasize the...
In this episode, we explore the concept of self-sabotage, analyzing how our internal experiences, like shame and fear, often reflect our unconscious desires. We’ll look at how these patterns can be traced back to our early years, especially from infancy to about seven years old—a critical period when we were learning to navigate our surroundings. I emphasize that self-sabotage isn't inherently bad; it’s a survival mechanism we’ve developed. I explain that transforming these patterns is entirely ...
