Join us for the final episode of Season 4 while I take a break for a while and you have time to catch up on all the past episodes you may have missed. While you’re here a HUGE request to please leave us a rating and review on Apple – your reviews make such a difference to our visibility and viability to return with even more episodes. To remain ad free and bullshit free – your support REALLY matters Now this episode’s guest...someone whose internet presence is as witty and acerbic as it is compa...
Feb 07, 2023•56 min
Today's guest is Kate Loree, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities and the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships. She cohosts her own sex-positive podcast, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. In this episode Kate and I dig into the work of intimate relationships and she offers insight into how we can show up better in our relationships. We look at how to m...
Feb 01, 2023•1 hr 2 min
This week is Cuckweek! Who knew? - not me until I recorded this interview with Dr. David Ley, someone whose work I have followed for many years and indeed the world's foremost expert into the world of cukolding, hot wife-ing and the impact of religonn on human sexuality. Dr David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He's the author of several books and research articles on sexuality, including his first book, Insatiable Wives, Women Who Stra...
Jan 23, 2023•1 hr 8 min
Today's guest is an absolute delight and I am thrilled to introduce you to Goody Howard. Goody is an award-winning sexologist, educator, and consultant. She provides pleasure development and professional development workshops worldwide. Her authentic and enthusiastic presentation style allows her audiences to connect quickly to the concepts and enjoy learning about sexual health, pleasure, and human variance equity. She makes pleasure-inclusive, comprehensive sex education accessible, intentiona...
Jan 17, 2023•52 min
Ever wondered what makes a person kinky? How we define it or what does it mean you’re your partner is into kink and perhaps you are not? Today’s guest is Dr Richard Sprott. received his Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology from UC Berkeley in 1994. He is currently directing research projects focused on identity development and health/well-being in people who express alternative sexualities and non-traditional relationships, with a special emphasis on kink/BDSM sexuality, and polyamory or consensual...
Jan 17, 2023•47 min
Today's guest is Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn a sex and relationship expert, tenured professor, relationship coach at Luvbites.co , and host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast with a bustling social media presence on TikTok. From a shy immigrant from Thailand to a confident sexpert, her goal is to normalize talking about sex in a healthy and fun way. In this episode we learn about Dr Tara's research into sexual communication and we explore what makes sex fulfilling no matter the stage of life yo'ure...
Dec 28, 2022•56 min
In this episode we meet Dr. Holly Richmond - a Somatic Psychotherapist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Clinical Board Member for Dame Products. Her newly released book Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life (New Harbinger, Oct. 2021) is an innovative look at both somatic and psychological factors in survivors’ erotic recovery. In this interview we look at what it takes to recover from sexual assault, what SA even is, we bust some myths ...
Dec 28, 2022•44 min
In this episode we meet Lola Jean. A Sex Educator, Fetish Wrestler, ProDomme, and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting (solo). She provides the 'No Frills Sex Education' we both need and deserve. Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality, and kink to invite individuals through what they think they are capable of. In this episode Lola Jean talks to us about her signature squirting demos, but then we take an intimate turn into how LolaJean deals with performance pressure, sexual...
Dec 28, 2022•48 min
Dr. Nan Wise is a certified sex therapist, relationship specialist, neuroscience researcher, and author of Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life. Her research has addressed gaps in the literature regarding the neural basis of human sexuality and garnered international attention. Her clinical approach highlights the critical role our evolutionarily wired-in “core” emotions play in physical and mental well-being. Imbal...
Dec 09, 2022•54 min
This week's guest Dr Roger Kuhn is a Poarch Creek Two-Spirit Indigequeer soma-cultural activist, artist, sex therapist, and sexuality educator. Roger’s work explores the concepts of decolonizing and unsettling sexuality and focuses on the way culture impacts and informs our bodily experiences. In addition to his work as a licensed psychotherapist, Roger is a faculty lecturer of American Indian Studies at San Francisco State University. He is a board member of the American Indian Cultural Center ...
Dec 01, 2022•59 min
If you've ever felt conflicted about your relationship to love, romance and even how you love, you're going to enjoy today's guest Anne Hodder-Shipp an award-winning certified sex and relationship educator dedicated to providing accurate, expansive, and compassionate care. They are the founder and lead educator at Everyone Deserves Sex Ed, a sex ed and professional development organization , and they work with people and couples of almost any age to help build skills, knowledge, and confidence a...
Nov 24, 2022•43 min
Ignacio G. Hutía Xeiti Rivera (they/elle), M.A., is a cultural sociologist with expertise in sexual trauma, healing, and liberation for marginalized people. They are an internationally known gender non-conforming speaker, trainer, and consultant. Ignacio is the Founder and Co-Executive Director at The HEAL Project, where they work to prevent and end Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA). Ignacio is the co-host of 'Caution: Unrestricted', a survivor-centered talk show inviting everyone to engage with the ...
Nov 17, 2022•56 min
In this episode I am rejoined by my dear friend Eric G. Schneider who you met in Season 3, but this time he joins me to discuss his very personal experience of with surviving and living with the effects of prostate cancer and its impact on his relationship and his sex life. Eric's willingness to share his story here is a cruicial aspect of our collective healing work - insofar that few men discuss or extrapolate the emotional and personal impact this condition has on them, their relationships an...
Nov 09, 2022•56 min
Welcome back to Season 4 of The Erotic Philosopher. In this episode we talk with Dr Eli Sheff, one of the world's foremost relationships researchers. Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach and educator. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ yea...
Nov 02, 2022•1 hr 8 min
In this final episode for season three we finish by completing the circle of sex education with Justin Hancock. Justin is a sex and relationships educator, trainer and practitioner working with young people and adults in this field since 1999. His website BISHuk.com is one of the leading sex and relationships advice websites for all those over 14. It receives thousands of visits per day and is highly regarded by young people and practitioners alike. Justin has worked in schools, colleges, univer...
Aug 03, 2022•51 min
You may not have heard of the Wheel of Consent, but you really should. So much more than consent as a Yes / No transaction, "The Wheel" as its referred to in sexology circles, offers a frame work through which we can discuss sex , pleasure, power and so much more. This really is the sex education all of us should have received in high school, but I am certain none of us did. To me, the wheel is one of the most powerful revolutions in sex education in a generation and today's guest is te creator ...
Jul 29, 2022•43 min
This episode brings two leading powerhouses of gender, trauma and their intersections with sex and pleasure. In this episode we look at the notion of intersectionality and how pleasure is informed by so much more than whats in our pants. You can find joy and pleasure after trauma and why generic sex advice can often make things worse for us than we intend. Alex Iantaffi, PhD, MS, SEP, CST, LMFT (they/them) is a family therapist, WPATH certified gender specialist, AASECT certified sex therapist, ...
Jul 21, 2022•52 min
Strap in friends. This episode I dive deep with Dr Patrick Grant a Clinical Psychology Resident in Atlanta, GA. His interests include using clinical practice and research to expand the narratives of Black folx; and exploring the ways diversity-related experiences impact mental health outcomes. Grant’s published works primarily center same gender loving (SGL) Black male issues, which include but are not limited to the availability of sexually liberating spaces for Black queer men. Should anal sex...
Jul 14, 2022•53 min
Dee Dee Goldpaugh, LCSW (they/them/theirs) is a psychotherapist and clinical supervisor in private practice specializing in sex and relationship therapy, trauma, spirituality, and Psychedelic Integration Psychotherapy. They are also a member of the Woodstock Therapy Center Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) Team. Dee Dee has written and presented widely on the topic of psychedelics and sexuality, queer identity, trauma, spiritual practice, and pleasure. Dee Dee is the Community Support and In...
Jul 06, 2022•45 min
Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Non Monomgamy. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com
Jun 30, 2022•44 min
As the founding producer and director of Pink & White Productions, (CrashPadSeries.com, PinkLabel.tv), SHINE LOUISE HOUSTON has always had unique vision. Graduating from San Francisco Arts Institute with a Bachelors in Fine Art Film, her works have become the new gold standard of adult cinema. During a five year position at the women-owned, sex toy purveyor Good Vibrations, Shine recognized an underserved demand for an alternative to mainstream pornography, and began to create well-crafted q...
Jun 20, 2022•51 min
Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women's Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, "Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage" in 2001, paving the way to the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the "Super Nova of Kink," while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching. She is also the author of "Wild Side Sex," "Master Ha...
Jun 14, 2022•52 min
Join me this week (after a brief hiatus - apologies life got in the way) for a good ol' chin-wag with my buddy, collaborator, wisemind companion and peer therapist Eric G. Schneider. Eric & I dig into the nature of intimacy. What we experience in contrast with what we believe. The myths that infect and interfere with romantic partnerships in particular, and how we are with ourselves, and each other, impact all our relationships from friends through to lovers and partners. For the past 33 yea...
Jun 02, 2022•1 hr
This week Nadine Thornhill Sexuality Educator , and all round wise tour-de-force explores what it means to guide young people in helpful ways around, sex, pleasure, gender, power and relationships cultivating healthy minds and healthy bodies. Far from the simple yes /no tropes of consent, Nadine offers insight for parents, carers and families to create meaningful sexual discussions at home, that reduce shame, and increase fun, pleasure and respect. IG: @NadineThornhill YouTube: Nadine Thornhill...
May 16, 2022•50 min
Sex Addiction? Porn Addiction? Think again.. This week we are joined by Europe's leading expert in compulsive sexual behavior Silva Neves. In this episode, Cyndi & Silva talk about the roots of this condition, how common it is, what it is and how media spin has made this the monster under the bed of male sexuality over the last 30 years. https://www.silvaneves.co.uk https://www.sexpositivityuk.com Twitter: @SilvaNeves3 Instagram: @silvanevespsychotherapy...
May 05, 2022•57 min
Somatics nerds gather 'round. This discussion with somatics expert and doyen sexological bodyworker Ellen Heed PhD, is a grand schooling into the machinations of sex, arousal, the body, pleasure and how these things work together. Not a light discussion, but a meaty inquiry, Ellen & Cyndi dive deep into how our bodies really work and how these functions inform sex and pleasure. https://ellenheed.com/ https://www.scartissueremediation.com/ https://www.facebook.com/ellenheed.somatic.educator h...
Apr 26, 2022•49 min
In this episode Cyndi is joined by the wonderful Dr UC, Queen of the Pelvis and The Erotic Philosopher's first physical /physio therapist. In this episode we explore the relationship between the pelvis, pleasure, sexuality and so much more. This is a feel-good joy and love packed episode. Pour yourself a Bourbon and settle in for a heart-warming lecture of love, pride and possibility with Dr UC www.youseelogic.com Socials @youseelogic
Apr 19, 2022•55 min
This week we are joined by Aussie sacred sex teacher and men's coach Cam Fraser. Cam and Cyndi explore why so few straight guys are interested in sex education and the effect it has on their relationships & lives. Cam is a Certified Professional Sex Coach, Certified Sexologist, Registered Counselor, and Registered Tantric Yoga Teacher. His work integrates scientifically validated, medically accurate information about sexual health, with sacred sexuality teachings from the mystery traditions....
Apr 10, 2022•57 min
Sex therapist and educator, self-described queer-as-fuck author and creator Lucie Fielding joins Cyndi on The Erotic Philosopher podcast. Learn about the revolution in gender affirming erotic embodiment with author of "Trans Sex" (Routledge 2021) Lucie Fielding . IG:@sexbeyondbinaries Twitter @lucie_fielding www.luciefielding.com
Apr 03, 2022•1 hr 1 min
Welcome back! Kicking off season 3, Cyndi is the guest on her own podcast, being interviewed by Elle Chase about her forthcoming book Sex, When You Dont Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire. In this discussion Cyndi & Elle discuss the nuances of desire, what it is how it works and so much more. Perfect listening for partners experiencing mismatches in the bedroom and singles longing to feel passion again. Order Your Copy Here...
Mar 28, 2022•53 min
