Many parents struggle with this concept of "natural" consequences because they don’t fully understand what constitutes a “natural” consequence. And sometimes parents have difficulty relinquishing control because they feel they always have to get their child to obey. Here's what you can do as a parent. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/5-areas-to-let-your-child-face-natural-consequences/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/p...
Jun 06, 2024•11 min•Season 24Ep. 17
At Empowering Parents, we often hear from parents who feel frustrated at their teenager’s bad attitude and irresponsible behavior. Whether it’s doing well in school or keeping a job, some kids just don’t seem to care. Here's what you can do. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-deal-with-teenage-attitude/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empo...
May 16, 2024•14 min•Season 24Ep. 16
When your child says, "I'm sorry, but..." you can be sure everything after "but" is bull. You can also be sure the inappropriate behavior will occur again because your child is not owning their mistakes. Here's what you can do to end the bull and improve your child's behavior. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/kids-blaming-and-apologies-everything-after-but-is-bull/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transfor...
May 08, 2024•12 min•Season 24Ep. 15
When your child has made really bad choices it is devastating and feelings of guilt and grief are normal and okay. This episode offers heartfelt advice on how to cope with these difficult situations. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/grieving-your-child-whos-gone-wrong/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our news...
Apr 25, 2024•12 min•Season 24Ep. 14
Kids often use violence to deal with frustration, disappointment, and anger. It’s how they solve these problems. And it’s how they gain power in the home. Here's what you can do when your child or teen gets violent. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/when-kids-get-violent-theres-no-excuse-for-abuse/ https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/should-i-call-the-police-on-my-child/ https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-talk-to-police-when-your-child-...
Apr 18, 2024•16 min•Season 24Ep. 13
While it’s common to fall into the trap of feeling guilty, your guilt won’t get you—or your child—anywhere. Understand that when you blame yourself, you’re taking responsibility for your child’s behavior instead of holding them accountable for their behavior. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/am-i-a-bad-parent-how-to-let-go-of-parenting-guilt/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscrip...
Apr 11, 2024•14 min•Season 24Ep. 12
spotify-template.txt Have you ever heard someone talk about how well-behaved your child is and thought in disbelief, “Excuse me? Are you talking about my kid?” We frequently hear from parents whose kids save their worst behavior for home. It’s a common problem. It’s one thing if your child acts out with everyone, but it’s a completely different thing when their anger is directed at you and only you. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/angel-child-or-devil-ch...
Mar 27, 2024•14 min•Season 24Ep. 11
When we do too much for our kids—when we over-function for them—we rob them of the skills and practice necessary to develop competence and mastery in life. Instead of learning life skills, they learn helplessness. Here's what you can do instead. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/learned-helplessness-are-you-doing-too-much-for-your-child/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ ...
Mar 14, 2024•17 min•Season 24Ep. 10
Some of our most popular and helpful parenting tips. Plus, a Total Transformation tip from James Lehman. Lots of great parenting content in this episode. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/8-best-parenting-tips/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/...
Mar 06, 2024•11 min•Season 24Ep. 9
A major part of getting your child to do their homework lies in establishing a system so that your child comes to see that homework is just a regular part of home life. Once they accept that, you’ve already won half the battle. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/child-refuses-to-do-homework/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ ...
Feb 28, 2024•19 min•Season 24Ep. 8
You can’t punish your child into better behavior. Forget about over-the-top punishments or ineffective rules because you’ll just end up in a power struggle. Here's what you can do instead. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-give-kids-consequences-that-work/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter:...
Feb 22, 2024•16 min•Season 24Ep. 7
As soon as you knew you were having children, you probably began to dream about who they were going to be. But then reality sets in and you end up with a child that is different from what you expected. Understanding and accepting this is one of the keys to effective parenting and managing behavior. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/parent-child-you-have/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-progr...
Feb 15, 2024•13 min•Season 24Ep. 6
If you find yourself doing everything for your child, you may be engaging in what I refer to as martyr parenting. Without even realizing it, well-meaning parents can turn into martyrs for their kids. If this is you, you must learn to step back. You must learn to stop being the martyr so that your child learns to face consequences and overcome hardships. Here's how. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/mother-or-martyr-are-you-doing-too-much-for-your-child/ Th...
Feb 07, 2024•21 min•Season 24Ep. 5
The distinction between mild rebelliousness and disrespect has to be drawn very clearly. But how do you know for sure if your child’s behavior has crossed the line and become truly disrespectful? Here's what you need to know. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/disrespectful-child-behavior-where-do-you-draw-the-line/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://ww...
Jan 31, 2024•14 min•Season 24Ep. 4
You are your child’s authority—that’s your role and responsibility. Do you have an emotional relationship with your child? Yes. But if you try to be friends with your child, it comes at the cost of your authority, and it undermines your role as a parent. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/your-child-is-not-your-friend/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https:/...
Jan 24, 2024•14 min•Season 24Ep. 3
If you’re struggling with disrespectful behavior from your kids then this week's podcast is for you. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coaching/...
Jan 17, 2024•14 min•Season 24Ep. 2
A child who uses anger with an angle looks like they’re losing control. But in reality, they’re using anger to gain control of their parents and the situation. The anger gets them what they want, whether it’s a candy bar at the store or avoiding homework and chores at home. Here's what you can do as a parent when your child uses anger in this way. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/anger-with-an-angle-is-your-child-using-anger-to-control-you/ The Total Tran...
Jan 10, 2024•13 min•Season 24Ep. 1
Parents face many challenges. And as we all find out, there are many, many challenges that we never expected or knew about before having children! In this podcast, we offer advice on dealing with five of the most difficult. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/5-of-the-hardest-things-parents-face-how-to-handle-the-most-challenging-parenting-issues/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscr...
Dec 19, 2023•18 min•Season 23Ep. 46
One of the real tragedies of dealing with behaviorally disordered children is when you see everybody blaming each other. The parent blames the teacher, the teacher blames the parent, the child blames both the teacher and the parents, and it goes on and on. I’ve seen many parents get stuck in battles that don’t help their children. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/stop-the-blame-game-how-to-teach-your-child-to-stop-making-excuses-and-start-taking-responsib...
Dec 12, 2023•14 min•Season 23Ep. 45
Responding to your child’s rage with your own anger is not effective. Instead, you need to have what I call a rage plan so that you know exactly how you will handle the next outburst or temper tantrum. Here's how to set up a rage plan that puts you in control of yourself and the situation. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/child-rage-explosive-anger-in-kids-and-teens/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transf...
Dec 05, 2023•12 min•Season 23Ep. 44
Kids thrive on the connection they have with their parents, and this includes the reaction they get from constant complaining and negativity. Here's what you can do if you're the parent of a complaining child or teen. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/negative-children-how-to-deal-with-a-complaining-child-or-teen/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www...
Nov 28, 2023•11 min•Season 23Ep. 43
As parents, it’s easy to focus on the kids and lose sight of ourselves and our needs as adults at this time of year. So, when we look at how to manage family and behavior problems during the holidays, we need to look at the effect the season has on us and on our kids. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/the-holiday-ceasefire-how-to-manage-family-and-behavior-problems-amidst-holiday-stress/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/...
Nov 21, 2023•11 min•Season 23Ep. 42
There’s no possible way parents can control every aspect of their children’s lives. Here are ten things you are (and aren’t) responsible for as a parent. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/parenting-responsibilities-10-things-you-are-and-arent-responsible-for-as-a-parent/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our new...
Nov 14, 2023•12 min•Season 23Ep. 41
Clamming up or exploding are both ways your teenagers attempt to manage their stress and defend themselves. In fact, these may be the only ways your teen knows how to communicate when things get intense—which of course only causes more conflict. Here are 5 secrets we've found to be helpful for communicating with kids through the difficult adolescent years. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/5-secrets-for-communicating-with-teenagers/ The Total Transformatio...
Nov 07, 2023•11 min•Season 23Ep. 40
James Lehman discusses and gives you insights about the following characteristics of kids with defiant behaviors: dishonesty, misinformation, false apologies, and other behaviors. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/parent-coac...
Oct 24, 2023•12 min•Season 23Ep. 39
James Lehman discusses how kids reject positive role models but willingly accept negative ones. He also discusses our kids' wishful thinking and how they try to put things off long enough that you, as a parent, just give up asking them to do things. Plus, James discusses several other characteristics of kids with defiant and abusive behaviors. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empowerin...
Oct 17, 2023•9 min•Season 23Ep. 38
James Lehman continues to discuss characteristics of kids with abusive and defiant behaviors. In this episode he discusses concrete transactions, pride in negativity, anger with an angle, one-way training, and other concepts. There's so much to learn in this episode. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/n...
Oct 10, 2023•11 min•Season 23Ep. 37
James discusses in-depth the characteristics and practices of kids with obnoxious and abusive behaviors. He explains the fallacy of victimhood, injustice, uniqueness, and what he calls one-way boundaries. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringparent...
Oct 03, 2023•11 min•Season 23Ep. 36
Listen to James Lehman discuss the important concept of the "good enough" parent. You don't need to be perfect, good enough is good enough. This is a critical concept for parents to understand when dealing with the most challenging child behavior problems. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-s...
Sep 27, 2023•6 min•Season 23Ep. 35
Listen to James Lehman discuss the myths about self-esteem and your child's behavior. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/low-self-esteem-in-kids-part-i-forget-what-youve-heard-its-a-myth/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https:...
Sep 19, 2023•11 min•Season 23Ep. 34
