In today’s show, we hear from a woman reeling after her husband of 20 years announced he no longer loves her, a teacher struggling with crippling anxiety at work, and an exhausted mom who needs some space. My husband told me he doesn’t love me anymore I’m a high school teacher dealing with overwhelming anxiety I feel exhausted trying to meet the needs of my husband and kids Lyrics of the Day: "Your Body Is A Wonderland" - John Mayer Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3...
Apr 01, 2022•1 hr 3 min
Today, we’re talking to a woman who’s been contacted by a stranger claiming to be her father after believing him to be dead, a young man who feels like he’s outgrown his closest friends, and a woman who has no idea who she is because she’s been people-pleasing as long as she can remember. A man reached out claiming to be my father; I want a DNA test I’ve matured out of my friend group, how do I tell them? People-pleasing has paralyzed me Lyrics of the day: "Kip's Wedding Song" - Napoleon Dynamit...
Mar 30, 2022•56 min
In today’s show, we’re talking to a man in search of change after his brother-in-law confronted him about being a terrible husband, a single woman who’s considering starting a family via sperm donor, and a man who wants to reconnect with his spouse after they haven’t had sex in five years. My brother-in-law thinks I’m emotionally abusive. I’m considering having a child through a sperm donor. My wife and I haven’t had sex in 5 years. Lyrics of the day: "Sometimes Salvation" - The Black Crows Let ...
Mar 28, 2022•58 min
In today’s show, we’re talking with a resident assistant at a loss for how to help a suicidal student, a young man realizing he never grieved his parents’ divorce, and a husband wanting to support his wife who is a survivor of domestic violence. How do I help students with mental health issues as a resident assistant? I’m struggling with the idea that my parents are never getting back together. My wife is a survivor of domestic violence. How do I help her feel safe? Lyrics of the day: "Falling t...
Mar 25, 2022•49 min
Disconnection is one of the most common problems couples face. Today, we’re talking with a burned-out newlywed struggling to support his wife, a woman realizing her husband’s outburst could be a major problem, and a woman whose husband has zero real friends. I feel burned out trying to physically & emotionally support my wife My husband yells when he’s stressed. How can I help him stop? My husband is lonely, has no friends, & I’m worried about him Lyrics of the Day: "I Wish I Knew How It...
Mar 23, 2022•59 min
Over the last couple of years, suicide rates among teens have spiked. Today’s show is an adolescent suicide awareness hour, where we talk with a mom still plagued with guilt after losing her son to suicide, and a parent needing advice about how to talk to her teen daughter about a friend’s suicide. My teenage son committed suicide & I can’t get past the guilt, grief, & pain Teenage daughter lost a friend to suicide. How can I help her? John teaches about the signs of suicide, what to do,...
Mar 21, 2022•1 hr 1 min
Today, we’re talking with a parent who wants to transition their discipline style away from spanking, a woman who’s keeping a secret about her mom’s will, and a man whose marriage is on the rocks as a result of how his traumatic brain injury has changed him. How can we effectively discipline our kids without spanking them? Mom changed her will & asked me not to tell my siblings… should I? We can’t seem to recover our marriage after my traumatic brain injury Lyrics of the Day: "There Is a Lig...
Mar 18, 2022•1 hr
In this episode, we’re talking with a husband who thinks it’s weird that his wife and his ex work together, a new therapist who wants to help first responders, and a wife who wants to best support her husband as he starts trauma therapy. My wife works with my ex-girlfriend & it’s creating tension between us How can I help first responders as a new therapist? How can I support my husband as he’s going through trauma therapy? Lyrics of the Day: "All These Things That I've Done" - The Killers L...
Mar 16, 2022•44 min
Today’s episode is about handling difficult situations with kids. We talk to a recently remarried woman who’s struggling to blend her and her husband’s families and a woman who wants to become a police officer but worries about how it will affect her kids. Then Delony goes on a rant about school mental health days. We’re struggling to blend our two families after a re-marriage I want to become a cop but I’m worried how it will affect my young kids Delony Rant: Hey schools, maybe do something tha...
Mar 14, 2022•43 min
Today, we’re talking with a young woman whose boyfriend doesn’t know how to process her kidnapping and sexual assault, a mom who doesn’t know how to balance her career with her special-needs child, and a father struggling to help his young daughter cope after she lost a finger. Dealing with trauma after being kidnapped & sexually assaulted Struggling with my identity raising a special needs daughter How can I help my young daughter rebuild her confidence after recently losing her finger? Lyr...
Mar 11, 2022•1 hr 2 min
Today, we’re talking with an overwhelmed single dad of three who just lost his job, a mom desperate to help her teenage daughter who’s struggling with depression and anxiety, and a young woman understanding her childhood trauma for the very first time. Newly divorced after a toxic marriage & I’m completely overwhelmed How can I help with my teenage daughter’s anxiety & depression? How do I deal with adversity as an adult if I never encountered it as a child? Lyrics of the Day: "Times Lik...
Mar 09, 2022•51 min
You can't change what’s happened to you, but you can choose a better future. In my new book, Own Your Past, Change Your Future, we’ll walk through a not-so-complicated approach to mental health, relationships and wellness. Enjoy listening to the first chapter in this special episode. Preorder your hardcover book before April 19, 2022, and get one month of free weekly therapy sessions: https://bit.ly/34dxq9u Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 07, 2022•23 min
Today’s show is a prime example of why I say it’s worth choosing guilt over resentment. We start by talking with a man whose younger brother is struggling to grieve their father’s death, then we hear from a woman needing to set boundaries with her special needs sister, and finally we talk to a wife who’s feeling guilty for leaving her abusive husband. My brother needs help grieving our father’s death. How can I help? I’m struggling with guilt & boundaries trying to support my sister’s Asperg...
Mar 07, 2022•56 min
Today, we’re talking to a mom about teaching her kids healthy habits despite her husband’s family history of obesity, a father wanting to divorce his wife who’s addicted to alcohol, and a young labor and delivery nurse who needs to learn to cope with the trauma she faces at work. How should we teach our kids healthy habits despite family history of obesity? We might divorce over my wife’s alcoholism & I worry about the kids' safety with her I’m a labor & delivery nurse & struggle to ...
Mar 04, 2022•55 min
Today, we’re talking with a wife who’s resentful of her husband for letting his brother live with them and a young woman who’s coping with her mom’s schizoaffective disorder. And I dive into why everything Hollywood has taught us about romantic relationships is ridiculous. Husband invited his brother to live with us and didn’t ask me first My Mom has Schizoaffective Disorder. How do I cope this this? We need to change the way we think about relationships Lyrics of the Day: "Walk" - Pantera Let u...
Mar 02, 2022•47 min
In today’s episode, we talk to a deployed husband seeking to better support his wife as she parents their struggling daughter, a wife wanting to keep her marriage strong when her husband enters the police force, and wife whose immature husband refuses to go back to work. I’m deployed & our adopted daughter is struggling back at home How can I support my husband as he becomes a police officer? My stay-at-home husband refuses to go back to work Lyrics of the Day: "I Feel Like a Number" - Bob S...
Feb 28, 2022•1 hr 7 min
In today’s episode, we hear from a mom wondering whether she and her husband should tell their kids about his past sex addiction, a parent whose young son’s intense behavior issues are disrupting the family, and a young couple who’s overworked, burned out, and looking for reconnection. When do we tell our kids about my husband’s past sexual addiction? Our son has behavioral issues & it’s affecting our family vacation plans I’m a trauma nurse struggling to connect in my marriage Trauma Stewar...
Feb 25, 2022•1 hr 4 min
Today we talk with a woman needing boundaries with her homeless mother-in-law who continues to cause family chaos, a parent who can’t trust her teen daughter after she’s been repeatedly caught sneaking around, and (bonus!) I launch into why you absolutely must come to terms with being human. My mom is a mess and I’m struggling to set boundaries with her My 13yo daughter snuck out of the house. How can we rebuild trust? Spoiler alert: We’re all gonna die… Lyrics of the Day: "The Lakes" - Taylor S...
Feb 23, 2022•48 min
Today’s episode is a heavy one. We start with a caller afraid his friend has pedophilic tendencies, then we talk with a woman who just bought a farm with her husband but feels like their marriage is suffering because he never stops working. My friend might be a pedophile & I’m not sure what to do My husband works all day on our new farm & our family never sees him What is the deal with modern mattresses? Lyrics of the Day: "Feather On The Clyde" - Passenger Let us know what’s going on by...
Feb 21, 2022•59 min
Sometimes, family hurts. Today, we hear from a man whose deadbeat stepson won’t leave his home, a woman whose father joined a biker gang and is now using meth after his messy divorce, as well as parents struggling to forgive their daughter-in-law after her affair. My adult stepson still lives with us, is a hoarder, & doesn’t pay rent My Dad joined a motorcycle gang & is using meth Email: Our son’s wife had an affair; They are reconciling but we’re struggling to forgive her Email: What do...
Feb 18, 2022•52 min
In today’s show, we’re talking to a father worried about his kids’ safety now that his ex-wife is dating someone with a history of abuse, we cover why gratitude is good for your body, and we hear from a woman who feels stuck in a relationship with a “guitar-shredding Peter Pan.” Ex-wife’s boyfriend has a history of abuse and we share custody of our 2 kids The unsurprising science behind gratitude https://www.wsj.com/articles/is-the-secret-to-happiness-having-a-gratitude-practice-11642691301 “I l...
Feb 16, 2022•51 min
Even good life changes aren’t easy for most of us. In today’s episode, we talk with a woman who’s waiting for the other shoe to drop because life has been great after starting new job, a mom struggling with how to tell the kids they’re moving, and a dad who doesn’t know how to approach the topic of sex with his growing kids. What do I do if my counselor is violating our confidentiality agreement? Life’s great but I have a sense of dread that something bad is about to happen Husband’s job is relo...
Feb 14, 2022•59 min
In today’s episode, we talk to a woman who feels estranged from her fundamentalist father after leaving the religion, plus a young man whose crippling anxiety is starting to affect his career. I’m estranged from my father because of his religious beliefs The US mental health crisis is out of control https://www.yahoo.com/news/exclusive-poll-overwhelming-majority-says-100020629.html How do I deal with my crippling anxiety? Lyrics of the Day: "When The Levee Breaks" - Led Zeppelin Let us know what...
Feb 11, 2022•56 min
Your family probably looks different than the perfect picture you’ve always had in mind. Learn how to cope as we talk to a mom who doesn’t know why her child is having fits of rage, the father of a special-needs boy, and a wife struggling to connect with her husband now that they have kids. Our 6-yo son has outbursts of rage & we’re not sure what to do My son has special needs & I resent that life looks different than I planned My husband makes sexual jokes around our young kids & I ...
Feb 09, 2022•59 min
Today, we’re talking to a college-age son whose mom is in denial about her abusive marriage, a mom at a loss of what to do for her suicidal teenage son, and a woman whose boyfriend wants her to lose weight so she’s more attractive. Mom is in an abusive marriage. How can I help her? My teenage son is suicidal and we don’t know how to help him My boyfriend wants me to lose weight so I’m more attractive "I So Hate Consequences" - Relient K Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.6...
Feb 07, 2022•59 min
Today, we’re hosting leadership and organizational health expert and legend Pat Lencioni. In one of the best conversations on the show to date, we cover topics like why money won’t make you happy, the purpose of pain, and how to lead through serving. Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3291 or visiting johndelony.com/show. Support Our Sponsors: BetterHelp DreamCloud Churchill Mortgage Resources: Questions for Humans Conversation Cards Redefining Anxiety Quick Read John’...
Feb 04, 2022•1 hr 4 min
Today, we’re talking with a woman whose stepdaughter’s mom is a deadbeat, a retired cop who needs to heal from trauma, and a parent whose child’s PANDAS diagnosis has changed everything for their family. How can I help my teenage stepdaughter work through issues with her mom? I’m a retired cop & there are some things I still haven’t dealt with How do I deal with my child's new PANDA diagnosis? https://pandasnetwork.org/ Lyrics of the Day: "Pictures of You" - The Cure Let us know what’s going...
Feb 02, 2022•1 hr
In today’s show, we’re talking to parents about when and how to share difficult (and awkward) topics with their kids, as well as a woman whose wild relationship situation sheds light on her past trauma. Divorced with kids and dating again. When should I introduce the kids to a new boyfriend? My wife and I have a messy origin story. Should we tell our kids? My boyfriend lives with his ex-girlfriend. I have a problem with this… Lyrics of the Day: "Extreme Ways" - Moby Let us know what’s going on b...
Jan 31, 2022•44 min
Today, we’ve invited Ryan Michler—veteran, author and founder of Order of Man—to the show for an awesome conversation on what manliness and masculinity means in today’s world. Visit https://www.orderofman.com for more Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3291 or visiting johndelony.com/show. Support Our Sponsors: BetterHelp DreamCloud Churchill Mortgage Resources: Questions for Humans Conversation Cards Redefining Anxiety Quick Read John’s Free Guided Meditation Listen t...
Jan 28, 2022•1 hr 5 min
In today’s episode, we talk with a woman who’s worried her bipolar disorder is hurting her family, someone struggling with self-control when it comes to food, and a pastor looking for advice on how to teach about emotions. I have Bipolar episodes and worry that I’m not loving my family well enough I’m overweight and need more self-discipline when it comes to food As a pastor, how can I preach well about emotions? Lyrics of the Day: "Ice Ice Baby" - Vanilla Ice Let us know what’s going on by leav...
Jan 26, 2022•1 hr