Stop 2: Being honest with yourself while Dating

Block. I would I would like for us. I mean like we got smoking hairs all over the point of Roland that while I'm on count play in the background. What's going on? Everybody? Welcome to what another edition of What is Love Toward? Is I? Mister tone deaf? I am off camera today because I don't look like I'm loved. So that's the nigga with his hair all over? Is that? That's what I don't look like I'm love You've growing into your look. That that's different. I had to grow

in it. If you have to figure out where you want to shake them grades at. So you're trying to find your length. Next, you're gonna find your color. No I can't. That's I gonna call it gay, but it ain't for me. You haven't found the right color yet. That's why I don't want to tell you. Man. You get them, you get them all burned tips, bread holes, go crazy. That's why I got locks on the beer. Now. I gotta stop doing that's supposed to be. That's why we're here, what we're supposed to be doing here.

But as you can see, we are back in the building on this and I got more beautiful women y'all thought that we just being here with niggas. No, we don't ever be here with the niggas always, but shout out to yay coming through last week definitely definitely what I thought you would be here this week. You know what. It's funny. I asked him what he was doing, but I think I never went back to confirm if he for sure, for sure was gonna make it for a few episodes, and he

gonna he gonna be back. I'll make sure confirm. That's my fault, because Joe, you know what it is. I think I never confirmed that we were starting at seven thirty. I think I told him eight, but then I never went back to confirm if he was gonna make it. But at the time, I also had two other people who were supposed to join us who had to drop off the last minute. It'd been too many people. So because I'm notorious for like overbooking, cause niggas be niggas, so

I want to make sure that the show is great. So who dropped out on the I suggest I was on Facebook and I saw your story first. I was like, it's more fucking line. It's all cap, It's on It's on CAP right here. Then I like, then I lost the story. I was want to go back, so like right, this is cap but good thing you didn't up so fiving, but we definitely want to go ahead. And you want to introduce family, because they not guessed. They

fucking family. There's at least ten episodes each of them on the network. We are joined by Big Red, not the Little One, one third of some podcasts that decided to take a forever break. See some podcasts. Some don't do that. Some that bro. I fun with her because that's family. I like the other two too. That's it didn't resuscitate this time. I'm flat line, but we'll figure some things out. We got to get the new back in. But I do gotta give her credit because she completely

came out of shell during that that run. So we're making a very good he's gonna be out there for the summer. For the summer sounds really canky, like what so you put put that on both of our jackets. It's not even how we roll, that's not even how we look at you. That's why, more so her, we would say that about then you because she you got a whole business dedicated to that. So that's a different story. What's a business? Always a business? Okay, Yeah, that's all

you gotta say. But we are we are joined by which you wanna go about ki Ki banks if you're lasting. I'm just like, I don't know who to call you. Just Keisha, Just Keisha comes up? See pull you might closer to you talk to the dick. That's your fault. I mean we could when I was like, that's one. I'm just I'm here because it's a podcast jokes. That's what I didn't say. Nothing was wrong, But you know what, bro, I might take it on air break

and let Johnny said there for the summer. You got Denise and Johnny for the summer. I don't really know folks like that, but that's the part where you learn folks like that. You want me to get to know a nigga in real time, like we want to do some of the loudest ship in real time, but just get into niggas on air. That's that's consent. So we just disagree. Is just that just that I would as long as we've been doing this, you think I would just put someone here who

would who would mess up the groove? Keep it a buck right, I'm saying not not intentionally, but it may happen. It's been a few episodes that I have looked across the room and like this one was your fault. And there's been times I definitely looked like, Nigga, this is all. Usually I accept that, like when she go off the rails, it's usually my fault. There's been a few episodes I looked across the table like he fucked up on this one. But I took that l you have than you

most definitely, most definitely, I'm going to the championship. You might not make it out the Eastern Conference fires. I'm not even in the playing damn, not that bad. I'm trying to get you some hope. But we are here on the second stop of the What Is Love Tour? What's Got the Dude? Got the Dude? What's Love? For the second handy move? I felt like we just sang two different songs. No you did.

I'm like, that's why I said we. Motherfucker do y'all not know what the definition of we is, But what we're saying is we were good. You were somewhere else because motherfuckers aren't like that, don't understand the definition of what we we meaning more than one. It's plural, but we saying you loop right because I was see fat Jones was like, I beliveen to Team turner An, yet you still went to Ji roup like no one get about what y'all has to say. They wasn't playing What's Love? Got to do

it? At work? They play we Don't Need Another Hero? And I don't even know if that's the name of the song, but that's the song they play, I think or absolutely so bad that even DiAngelo, even though his song was called untitled, he had to give the second type niggas like no, this is called how doesn't fit right? Like it's called untitled? But they when they play the other song where she'd be just all right, which one UH share? Because What's Love? I loved? What's the other

one? When I think of it, I'm gonna let you. It was like that's the song. She was this, I don't want to fight. Oh that's not that's not this ike, that's just getting tired to get hit on. She telld like, look, bro, I don't want to fight. I don't care who I'm right and if I got to, I put this on your ass. You just beat up? Yes, you got to let you know that you like a buck and fifteen. So you let wait, wait, you let niggas know out the gate that you hit them.

Yes, I don't know. We too old to be passing lis. I'm not passing givings. I've always been very sometimes people kids, Please don't please, don't people, you gotta go. I don't care where she goes. She got to go. No, No, I don't hear people, but I do get triggered. But people sit in my face. And because I put my bitch in the full nelson, that's a lot of If you think that this is a game, I will him big dude. So everybody is bigger than me. You think size when my little stelf get upset when I

move, I move. You do like that, But I don't know where you're gonna move to? You ever saying the motherfucker just like step to a wall. This is not love talk one, It's not y'all get to y'all been fighting all day. I actually found love. You found waitbay, all right, let me look, let me take let me take notes, e bay, all right, I'm here for it. It might be some good

love. Ony. It's not they selling. They selling dick on. We didn't say dick love becoming the okay coming to niggas gotta do better that it's free. It's free. That is not free is not always good. It's good, I said, I'm about to put the price right on my corn. Is free. But when you go to the olds, you get better quality, don't you, Not even not even the good ones you The o F is the biggest finesse. And it's the other ones you gotta go to. I know, because right now I don't even got my real self no

more. I got like a bit yourself right now. That's subscribe. Subscribe that's wild. You know, you get something like I'm gonna tied your back hurt. It's too many friends. Digitize this real quick, Tom, Why are we here today? What? What? What? What? What leg of love are we on today? Last episode we talked about what you know,

just definition, how to and how to love you. This week we're talking about being honest with yourself while dating and being able to tell people you're just not interested in them, which I think is very hard for women these days because niggas don't listen, you're true. Because Wan has really been on this tangent the last few days about like just women need to accept the fact that you know means know now real shit though, Like, but women be

acting like, ain't no nigga ever told them no? And I just don't believe that it's because of what you're telling them no too. But because the guy he said I'm sorry, I'm married. I respected that, like, oh okay, well respect, then they be like, but but not you can just can't. You can't. That's not that's not, that's not.

But I never just had to dude that just been straight and not married and and turned me down the scene like that because I asked, I'm like, just ain't no, Like y'all like, ain't no nigga ever just says, you know what you cool, but this we can't do. You're just not interested, right, And I feel like women be like, I ain't no nigga ever said no, I don't enough to. That's what you'll see.

If women would have commented on my post was like, yo, I don't really shoot my shot enough for a nigga to say no. I would understand that more versus told me a couple of you're not putting yourself out there for people to tell you no. Correct, So what would you That's like they're essentially saying, See, that's that's what the wrong with you. I never, I never, I probably I probably would like if somebody, do you like people? Like people? But how do we know you like them?

No? And I say that on some real ship because I feel like I may flirt with a guy, I may mess what you pick with you, so you will get the idea to ask me. I just but that doesn't mean you like him though, because y'all will flirt with y'all board, that's true. I feel like work on social media. Then they come back the next day and I'll be like, what like, I'm like, you act like I don't know her A lot of somebody else. I know you. I've seen you do it. I mean, because I'll be bored at work.

So whoever you are when I'm on my nine hours shift, I mean, you have off my full attention. But on a Saturday when I'm not working, while you in my inbox, sir. This is this is why see a lot of niggas think that we like to surround ourselves with women because we're freaky, creepy niggas. It's not it. It's a social experiment. That's all I'm saying, Like, bro, I just pick up bull shit,

which is why I don't fuck with people. I stay till myself because I know the type of time women be on and when you own ship like that, you are not interested. And if you're not interested, you're not gonna be interesting, which means whatever thought I had about you, that shit's gone in two point two seconds because you're on bullshit, and that's okay. Be on your bullshit. Just don't bullshit me. Yeah, I usually bullshit people. I seem like, I just meet you with your ship, but

you're a really nice guy or whatever. I don't even play with you. I'm not gonna lead you on. I'm not gonna mess you up for the next one. If I know almost if I know my bullshit fade, most guys gonna get messed up regardless of their own. You ain't gonna be your fault because you can tell them I'm not here for nothing. I'm just here for a good time another long time, and niggas will still keep going.

They'll know what they getting themselves into. But I'm like, but women are I'm telling you, like so many ways, I'm not checking for you. Know your relationship or like we were still fantasized that and and we will still take that little inch of piece that he's willing to give us, and and built that into a whole fantasy, even though this is sitting here telling us not what he was willingly, willingly delusional. I just came out of that

delusion for three years for no reason. It's comfortable, And actually it was comfortable. I didn't have to change I have to meet nobody. He already saw me with my hair and saw me with my t s. I didn't have to meet. I didn't have to Nobody knew right. I didn't have to go above and beyond because you already saw me in my raw state. So I don't have to do all of this extra ship for somebody else who

I'm just meeting. I don't have to do all of this actually getting dressed up, doing my hair, doing I'm like, I'm going to do these things for myself. But if I'm meeting somebody knew that, and I have to keep up this look for a certain period of time. But you a model, you always got that look. Sometimes you don't women women women do. Sometimes you want to do all of Sometimes you don't want you don't want to put lotion on your face. Sometimes you just good. Give me that,

give me that we can sit down. I won't eat tacos while watching ab Elements. I want to. I want to see the woman in the fiftieth pick in this moment, because that's what that's what you is every day. This fiftieth pick with your bonnet on or your scarf and your bare face, that's you every day. I just don't want that all the time, though. Don't give me. Don't give me what you look like in your first ten picks, because that's that's that's what you put on for the Facebook.

What you look like on pick number fifty, that's that's Give me that. Catch me, work me, work home. I'm like that. I guarantee you I'm ugly and crunchy. Let me appreciate that. Like every day show, I didn't roll, I don rolled out the bed, wash my face and burush my teeth, and that was extendedly for the day. Because I feel like y'all spend y'all do all this ship to how who you are, and then it's like, what if this ship get like deep, super

deep. You just spent this whole entire time I've known you hi and who you are. Now I'm spending the night at your house and I'll be like, what the fuck is this? So listen before I'm like before, I'm like saying before, before you staying not in my house. You don't see at some point the fiftieth pick because but you're not gonna see it. But you're not gonna see it on week one though, No, no, bro because you got to make sure you even make it out of week one,

like typical dating don't happen like seven days. I want you to find out I'm broke week one, so you don't expect up. They're not gonna expect nothing, just like you ain't gonna expect another phone call from them. Hey you broke, Nigga, I ain't broke, but I'm broke. Broke, but you presented yourself as broke, so they like the Facebook videos and the like you broke, But don't don't be that person absolutely absolutely wearing your money. Got it. Yeah, See, that's not gonna be what they want.

What you want. You want to like what they want to know that you're gonna be stable, you're smart with a real person wants to know real one want to know. Okay, so that you fishing for something, just want to know can I pay for the day? That's different. But while after you find out that, Here's what I think the misconception is. I don't think we entertained ship on purpose. We kind of just find out the type of people you beat. Yeah. Like, but I wouldn't go in

to a situation entertaining the chick that I know. All she wanted some fucking money again, as like they say, niggas, do women do it too? You send me your representative? Yeah, bro, now I'm meant to check that. Oh man, the picnic, that's fly, like all the ship you type on the internet, Oh, that's fly. Then when I say, well, you know I'm off on Saturday, it's nice, you

know, let me You want to take me up on that picnic? Oh no, we gotta go here and such and such a got But then at that point, but that's at that point in time, if she say let's go somewhere else, it is up to you to entertain that. You can easily say no that I'm good, I'm good. Love and joy you know what I'm saying. I don't. I don't go there. I don't. I would totally take the picnic over a restaurant I've been to a million times.

Listen, but it's different, and I was looking to do something different. Every that food. Every day I work from eat at these restaurants all the time. I'm tired of that. You know what I'm saying. They tired of that one been there? You different? And then a lot of people work from home now, so they don't even really want to go out nowhere. You just can't come to their house on the first couple of days. Correct, what kind of nasa? I was like, damn you.

You wouldn't believe how many times I've been extra money and I'm like, sorry, what, I should buy him a pair of shoes because I got the money. Episode because I got some money. They hit you with it. No, you got the big money, nigga? What No I believe I told the girl I wouldn't date because she don't buy shoes because you don't buy you that's what you're saying. I want to buy your ten shoes either, like three hundred dollars. That's not my problem. Ain't either, Okay,

But see I looked at it from a standpoint. If we are seriously dated then, and I like you, I know the type of nigga that I am. I'm gonna go to the end of the earth to make sure you have it. So that means whatever you won't, as long as I got

it, you got it. And if you bitching over a pair of two hundred dollars tennis shoes and you're gonna ask me for something that costs way more than that, and you bitching over two hundred dollars sneakers, this ain't easy, but because I get it, But I just like I'm two hundred dollars sneakers is the least of your worries when you asking a nigga to be your

provider, your protector, we live together. When somebody kicked that door in, I'm the first line of the fish, You're gonna look at me like, hey, you bet, you gotta get up, you gotta go do that. But I'm just saying these are things that as a woman, you should already know what you're gonna expect from your nigga. If I'm trying to be your nigga, correct And if I ask you for a two hundred dollars pair of tennis shoes and you bet your fucking hollys I slapped the mother fuckers

off. Wait a minute, this show is about love, and I sound like I got I'm very it's a little women. Just be like, I ain't doing that for no nigga. That's because it's a general it's a general statement more so direct. You're not gonna do it for anybody. But if you're doing all of that, then I can see I would do I would do that for my man. So listen, I don't know if you say all that, all that nigga said, it's a nice player, George, make sure and I don't even just be up at nine o'clock and just hit

the button when I hit the button. So ship, I'm nothing to do that. I'm gonna cash and you figure all that. I'm not gonna be shoes. Let's get however, we got so type of the type of person that I am is I'm very big on reciprocity. The energy that I give is the energy that I expect. So just a couple of weeks ago, I heard on the radio that there's an anime conference coming up. I know someone who likes anime. If we were actually fucking each other on that level,

I'd have bought tickets to the Anime convention that level. Do you like him? I do? But there has to be a mutual level of interest. So if there's not a mutual level of oh, I know that there's not a mutual level of interest. My point is there's because there's not a mutual level of interest. The thought crossed my mind and that's where it stopped. Like, but if we were fucking with each other on that level, I have no interest in anime. I don't know what the fun going on

cracks I'll but I would have. I would have bought tickets either for us to go or he can take whoever he wanted to take. I have bought two ticket, like you want me to go with you, or you're gonna take somebody like I'm not even that her person. I think you might have actually liked to make convention because the way they be wilding out, trusting and having fun like big ass kids. I doing that twenty three years You wouldn't You wouldn't mature enough for her. You're not, but you wasn't you?

Oh my god, oh my god. She just said like why, I'm like, you just make me out this terrible person I did not. We gotta get agother like you didn't, but exactly so believe it at that I need not. I did not. I could be eighty five if you grin you you it cut deep clearly because she called me fat coming in, I was like, all right, never gonna be skinny again. Ship. I

rode with this. That's okay. I just it's clearly and that okay because you still bring the trip from over ten years ago a cancer let stuff. Because some chances, I just want to remind you that you are well. I will always bring up like we have wrong. So I don't need to apologize on the air. We had time. You don't need to apologize because I'm never gonna not find it. I don't apologize. I'm never going to

mercy. But I get what she's saying. I dated a guy once and I had like no interest in chess, but I learned how to play chess because he was a chess master. I think he would watch him beat so many people, and I was like, oh, you think he coldn't even about the injury of the fact that you want to hold you want to but I found But it was also out of time playing chess and if I learned the game that he loved, then that'd be more time than we correct correct.

So now I'm learning so I can spend more time with you as you should. His chest is gonna take up two hours with the person who really knows how to play, and then that's two less hours that I had with you. So look the thing though, it taught me how he how he thinks, because yes, play chess. They think that way to life, and that taught me how to do this. They always think moves ahead. That was a good move. Learning that I thought it was. Learning it

for him actually broadened my rights and a lot of different things. So I'm interested in that person. I'll get involved in what you're involved in. Just we can have some mutual things. Right when I like you, I do my homework. Yes, thing just like on that with one of them reality shows and the lady was like, you don't know if that's your husband back. How you do know that's your husband back? Because you my boyfriend, I can know if that's your ankle, that's that's that's the top of your

head, I know that's the bottom of your feet. I know every inch of the person I'm wake because you're not gonna have to ask me for anything because I'm already gonna know how you move. I know what movie you can come here. If you text me you're having a bad dad work, I

know how to not have that energy when you come home. That energy when you come home gonna be peaceful that day, work on me that at work, you're gonna get your mind off that and sometimes a nice little relaxation, little blow job downes that know how to for sure, I'm definitely like if my next girlfriend don't know how to roll the blunt, first thing, I'm oh, my god. First thing I had to learn how I learned how to roll blum because first of all, I used to I used to be

that person that pushed off on all my friends. And then I'll moved to Michigan, I had no black friends. You got nobody to do it. You have to do it. I figured it out. I had a lot of loose blunts and a lot of waste of weed on the ground, but I had to figure it out. But when I learned that this this is how my man liked to come home, this you come home to, I was gonna be clean, dinner, gonna be done, bl gonna be rolled. I'm gonna be ready. Y'all's gonna be un locks. Let me I'm

talking about it didn't cost me two hundred dollars a pair of shoes. I bet you, I bet you'd wear about the shoes. Off the shoes, take your mind off them shoes. You got a point there, bro ain't took in the moment, in the moment, right in the moment, in the moment, you ain't think about them shoes moment. Maybe maybe tomorrow once I come, I gotta go back to I cast that request a couple of two ndred dollars. Damn we didn't forget right, Like, damn it?

All right, man, I'm showing them about ask them about this wig next week. Let me right. If you know, these heels did just come out, my favorite designer, just just release these heels. And you know, as a model, I got to have these shoes. So listen, or Betty, I know I'm gonna take this trip, so listen, just all I need to just pay for my flight. I got the rest, just put my flight. It was crazy. She was like, she was like, so why why would you She was like, you would never dave

me one? And I was like she was like, Wow. I was like, I'm like, you do not buy shoes. She was like, but I sucked. I guess it's not. And I wish you would stop thinking how it's okay. It's not even that you can be the best damn dick sucker in the world. Right after a while, that's not what we want anymore. If you're not the best damn dick sucker in the world. The fact that I can get my dick sucked from almost anybody out here in this day and age, so you gotta come better than that. Can only

sucking dick because I can get just like y'all. Just like y'all say, a man who presents you with nothing but dick is not a big deal to y'all because y'all can get dick from anywhere, right and can and can because regardless of how ugly a woman is, she can get dick from somebody. There's a lot of ugly bab I got. I mean, it's it's probably a couple of y'all out here, like, no, bro, I can't, I can't do that one. But it's a lot, but it's a

lot more of y'all. But it's a lot more of y'all, who man, listen, she got a fat ass though, and that but that as that as women. But there are a lot of guys who look past the face because they got ass and I hate titties or both, like I really do. And then they wonder, Then they wonder why women. I'm not gonna say it's the right thing to do. However, they wonder why that same woman dog the ass because she wasn't really in it for you. You

just and she's seen you. You weren't really in it for her. You just wanted some pussy. So I mean, in turn, she gave it to you, but also she dogged your ass. So you give what you go looking for, you get what you're going. I was a nice, cute, little skinny, flat booty girl right there that liked you, and you just couldn't see past that, past that. Speaking from experience, well, yeah, why didn't to come at her like that? That was not even that he doesn't take a shot at you, Yes, you are shot.

I was speaking speaking from experience like that was kind of that was kind of uncalled for. That's what you want. Hold on, hold on, hold on. Do you remember the time about twenty five minutes ago. How passionately I felt about that, right, Okay, you get passionate and you feel the certain way because you get triggered because it's usually an experience that you had that was like that was the lame we was going there? Are you

speaking from experience? Yeah? I have been Okay, Okay, we're human, we are nigga say no, women say no. I've had that was a nice cleaned up on the bush. I've had. Yeah, because I definitely shot. It was a shot. But at the same time, it's still podcasts. You know people you know, people past, you know, they're just wipe bluff on me. You have you on Facebook dating? I am on Facebook? Are y'all on Facebook? I am on two different pages. I don't know, mind. I got one on me and and one

for females. There's nothing. It's really not the same. Damn people and like and with Facebook dating, I don't know if you've ever been on that side of the world time I have not Facebook. It tells like it's show you who they be friends with, so you already know who they connected. It's like I've seen you in passing. Like when I look and see who you friends, I'm already of time you been, ain't nothing here for you.

See. To me, Facebook dating is stupid when using the actual dating app, once they tell you who you're friends with, you just go to their friends. Yeah, just find you. Secondly and me, and you know this for a fact, if two to three people we personally know a Facebook it was like anything. He's like he said something about big to the other. He was like my little brother right there with his freaking ass. I'm like nigga YouTube that's saying certain people are friends with them. I'm just

not gonna go. It's not worth going. And it's not because they've done something with them. It's just a simple fact you automatically get associated with a certain crowd. Correct, And it may be an unfair assumption, but it's a safe one. Yeah, it is. It is safe one, especially if if that person is friends or you are Facebook friends. I mean depply that with an X. You definitely can't be that person's You can't go there because like, why do you know this person? Are you the reason why

me and that person is not together? How long have you known this person? Did you know this ship already know? If that person is friend? How many degrees of separation? You are from my excuse I've been. I've been already through the pages, like I like to hacking the ship because I can, like even when like I hacked in my my cousin friend ship, but because I'm just taking I'm just too smart for my own good. Like I just this here, just this here, just big, and it's just

no ship. So I broke it to my cousin boyfriend Paige on your phone one time, and just on a humbugs. I was like, I had know you know what I'm saying, because I could, because simply simply because simply because she could, because I knew how to break in his phone without I'm pretty sure I can start knocking niggas out, but I won't. I'm pretty sure I could. But that's I feel like that's a that's another level

though, like you are hurting people. No she's not. You didn't release this information to him, Okay, so it's just between y'alls, but still you did it. So let's go do some prop Let's go do some like robber thanks no IP hacking niggas Facebook? Why would I could just I can't say that on here, but why would I go physically rob a baker, I could just do a different way. You're working too hard. I'm not trying to break no sweat and go to jail. She just said that she

is techy. I know that's that was the point for you. See, Yeah, you see okay, because why if you can break into my Facebook? Why the were physically going in the bank. But at the end of the day, the end of the day, I do it. It's not necessary again, got to don't make this out about me. Don't go looking for something that slide. You ain't gonna find something. I'm sorry. Did you forget where you was? I know where I'm at. You wonder if you forgot who he was talking to? And we bring on some love?

Do we need into I don't know what he's on today. I don't either. I'm taking I'm not taking a shot, take the shots and podcasts. Just gonna let y'all know that y'all are loved over here. They love. I love y'all space because I always says very such one is all. I'm safe space win you. I don't. I thought I was coming to see my favorite fat guy, but I don't know you are. I'm not thinking. I mean your feel if I had him, but that's how we feel, Okay, if I had them first question, Yes, because you read

the first you have called such a command. No, I am, let's let's let's stop. Okay, we've been rightnutes right, and the show was only an hour and a half. You're just sucking up half the show gone? And he all right? Have you ever struggled with being honest with yourself about your own interest and your level of interest in somebody else? So the summing up in a nutshell, have you ever really just like, I love this nigga, but I really don't love this nigga. I love what this

nigga do for me. So love is a strong, very strong word for me, So I'm not gonna use that. But my level of my level, my level of interest has definitely been Like, I like him, but really, how much do I like him? For real? Do I just like the convenience of him conveen or do I just like him as a whole like everything? So yes, the answer to that question is absolutely, because, like you said, conveniency is a thing. Like I got a question for both of y'all. I don't think this is y'all, but I don't

know how y'all are dating, because I ain't dated. Y'all are y'all fixers? Meaning like eject, you see something, but you know something ain't right, so you put forth the effort to try to get him out that like you might see mama issues in that nigga a little bit, but you know that you just need someone to hug you a little bit more than normal. That was my problem, and I had to really look back, like I love this guy, but do I really see a future with this person?

Like is he really gonna be more than just this? So even though I was comfortable for those three years because you know, I'm a god, like we do everything together. You already know my jokes and you already know my attitudes, but I have to really sit back and be like, is he really gonna be more than this? And this is what you want to tie yourself to and trying to fix. Oh. I can help you with it.

Oh, I can show you you can do this, he can do that, But I have to understand that he just had no interest of being more than what he was already. Right, because you're you are a very skilled woman, and I don't mean that in no like random sexual shit, actual you know a lot of shit, because we both know a lot of shit together. Do you find yourself trying to look bruh? You need to. You got this going on with you. You can do a B C D. Have you thought about doing this or have you gone here? Or

hey, let's get you enrolled in this. And then the nigga was like, damn, I'm just not interested that, and you was like okay, but I still love you, so whatever, we'll figure something out. Yep. That was the last situation, just trying. I set up a whole fucking hold fucking trucking company. Whole fucking trucking company. I even got motherfucking funding for the truck and company. Hold on, you know he bought tennis shops to flaws and look good on social media. I'm like trying to start

a business, like I'm opening up a whole store. I got you the funding the start a business, and you worried about tennis shots so you can show the bitch on social media that you got the tennis shoes. So I have to take the money back because you ain't We ain't invited. It's not about That's what I'm saying. Like we sit down, we sitting down. We discussed and then once the money hit and we I'm like, okay, now we talked about this money. Here, let's do X, Y and

Z. And your focus is let me get this bitch attention. Who ain't paying me no attention? Why I'm trying to get money? You in my way? So now I got to take the money back. You go over there with your tennis shoes, and your bitch said, you figure life out. I don't understand. So yeah, I've been that person who trying to fix your trying to because I come from such humble beginnings that I always try to look and say, maybe if they just had an opportunity I do that.

I end up staying too long in that ship. Correct then knew that ship wasn't gonna work. I should just carry my happy ass on a long time ago. Yeah, long to get people. Too much time trying to. I don't say I have a think. I felt I felt too tis shoes. She looked, sorry, you said, you said the top all that, But you know what I'll tell you, My priority ain't never been fucked up over in the tennis shoes. Well that's all that matters. As

long as as long as your priority is straight with those tennis shoes. That you know something I don't know because I I ain't never. I ain't never did no goofball shit and fucked up none of my money, just trying to buy some sneakers. Okay, I give you that bill. Bill's paying on time. I ain't got no kids, I ain't got no bitches. So what else am I gonna do with my money? You're sitting here waiting on the drop day? Lee, All I'm saying, bro, I don't have

no other responsibilities outside of what I do. So once all my responsibilities is done, I can buy shoes and I can flex for the bitches when not paying me. No, but let me ask my boy shoes. I'm a sneaker. He let me ask you a question. You got a girl who likes you. She told you she like you, right, Okay, she checks off ten of your thirteen boxers, got you. You got to learn

the other three of their that comes in time. It's to drop day, but it's also the day she wants to go to Chicago and do some ship, right, which when you choose it, now we gonna go to Chicago. You're gonna miss it. It's the phone pole that you've been waiting on some ship is just some ship come before that. But but at the same time you're talking to wanm so before she even spring the Chicago ship on me, I know already put my money to the side because I knew the ship.

I knew for effect the shoes was coming. I didn't know about the Chicago ship. So what you got dip in your shoe budget? Nah see? But once I already know something that's already taken care of. You know how most niggas saved for the ship. They saved for a rainy day. I got a shoe fum. Even if you got dip in your shoe budget, I got a shoe fump. I never have to do that. I never have to dip in the shoe. He should be invested in the shoe company for what? So you can make your money? Makes money? This

is this is where you cross. You tell your girlfriend what she should be doing. That's not what she's interested. So you got the opportunity to make money. Why can't you do both? I'm not saying that you can't do both, but what don't you do both? That's a good question. But you can't force what you think I should be. I don't want to do it's notally That's essentially what she was saying is that she started my fuck a whole trunking company, but because he wasn't interested in that ship, he bought

shoes with the money, and she's like, no, fuck that. So if you if this was the fun you want to do, then I'm gonna move around and let you and your shoes have your way. You drink all your liquor. Bro, you feel bad because that's not I feel. That's not good, that's not that's not what we're doing. Plan. We talked about something. We discussed something right, and a lot of a lot of

problems that we have as women. As I have as a woman is I always have to be the head of the household, even when I'm with a man, because they don't have They have no initiative to want to lead or want that responsibility. They just want to be. And then some men wonder, I wonder, why, ask shit? We act the way that we do. We're we're almost forced to act the way that we do until someone

comes in and takes over that responsibility. We're forced to be masculine or hard or whatever other adjective that you want to use, because but if I if I see that you're not doing the ship, and I'm not, well, who the fuck is? Don't do it. If I'm not doing it, you're not doing it. We don't know too much fucker's here. So it got to get done somehow. So if you're not gonna do the ship,

then obviously I have to do the ship that I've been doing. I just feel like men in these days and I'm not gonna say, oh man, but some of these men these days have got so consuming what women get to do and what women get and what women they try, and they want to be They want all the stuff that women want, get so bad like they lose a sight that you a man, and this is why you Okay, so as as women do, y'all acknowledge the fact that times have changed.

Yes, times have changed. I'm not I'm not saying that, yo, man gonna be a woman. I just feel like there there there aren't as many traditional old school niggas as women would like, because there are a lot of I feel like there are more men who grew up like me versus somebody else. When I say that, I'm like, well, you know you grew up and you watched your moms do that ship. So when you watch your mom do that ship, when you go out and you look for women,

most of your first reference to what kind of girl you want? You want somebody like your mom. If I watched my mama get it out the mud and do that ship. When I come to the relationship, I'm looking at like, well, this could be fifty to fifty because I know what I'm a bring. I'm just saying that's how niggas be looking at it. Why is that mother? No, no, no, I'm saying that.

But what what my point is? I disagree with both of you. So my point is, so, yes, your mother had six jobs, race ten kids on her own, two side hustles, miss me like all of this ship, just so you know, she could provide for her kids. Her roof over, your head lights closed, everything that y'all want to y'all never wanted for nothing. So now you're looking for a woman to the exact same thing. Absolutely, the I'm looking for my woman to wake up and

not have a problem with going to work. I'm looking for my woman to win. When I say, all right, this is these are the bills what you want to split type ship. So I don't. I don't, I don't, I don't necessarily, I don't necessarily disagree with splitting my My only issue is so you say you want a woman like your mother, But like she said, first of all, I'm not. First of all,

I'm not. First of all, I'm not your mother. Secondly, just because you watched your mother do it all nine times of a teen, she was probably struggling one straw, one wrong move, and all that shit was crashing down, So you shouldn't want your woman to be in the same predicament. You should want to come in and see that nine times of team, She's already doing it all by herself, kids, no kids, whatever the case may be. She's already doing it all by herself. As a man,

you should want to come in and take a load off. Let me help you. You comeing in and want to just pay a half of a cable bill, A half of that ain't hand a hole. Listen, Really, I'm already taking care of my entire household on my own. Now you come in talking about splitting shit. What I've been I've been doing this shit. I've been doing the sh it on my own for a long time.

Okay, Okay, you're right, you've been doing it on your own, but now once you decided to merge your life with someone else, it is a us thing. Absolutely. This ain't your house, it ain't just my house. It's our house, so definite. Okay. So my definition is splitting could be completely different than someone else's definition of splitting. Right. I ain't saying if the light bill is fucking two fifty where or half that. I'm saying, well, if I paid the light bill, grab the table

bill, that's the lesser of the two bills. That is what I look at is splitting because I got to see how my mama got it out the mud, and then I got to watch my step pops walk in and be like, you ain't got to worry about it. You ain't got to worry about that. I got it. And so I'm like, that's that's absolutely

how it should be. Because again, if a woman has been doing it all for X amount of years, they're looking if a man comes into her life, she's not still looking to do what all because at this point you're just another dependent. I don't want I don't want another I don't want another dependent I don't. That's not what I need in my life. I need an equal I need someone who's gonna meet me where I'm at niggas away talking about some what you bring to the table? I bring the table to the

table, motherfucker, what do you bring this already? You know what you hello your table? I bring a whole nother table. So the question is do we put these two tables together? That a lot of these asking you bring you bring to the table? They got a chair to they don't even got to bring it to the table and use a suitcase. It's the same we're gonna get from his girl you and you you your cold cash correctly suitcake at the same time. But you got women who'll be like what you bring

to the table. What if what I bring to the table your table came hand? Your table? Wow? Your table? Wi we gotta prop your shut up with a book. You know what I'm saying? Like you what you got to entertable table? You got a card table? This ship the bottom ship made the oak is a sturdy like everybody always saying, what you bring to the table, bitch, you don't got a table. You don't got a house to put the table in you down, man, just like,

why don't we your cousin house? Are you talking about this house? What I bring to the table? You? You women in the basement of your anti sensul my brother house and you're trying to ask me what do I bring to the table table? Because you don't got you ain't got ship. You asking me for a ride to work? Like, so what we need to do? Well, we need to start doing everyone at some point at some point, Yes, okay, you need to look, I got that.

At some point. Does this sound like this gonna come back and bite folks? No, But at some point I need you to get your life together. Okay, as as a grown adult, there are there are some that there are some things that should be No maybe you, I'm like, maybe you. I'm not taking those time soon, I'm here, But there are things that you should have as a minimum. And so I can understand that if at a point in time you don't have those things. Obviously life

is not fucking easy. We're not fucking billionaires, so we don't have everything all the time. We don't have money at our disposal. So I can understand at some point things get hard, you fall off shit happens cool, But at what point do you regroup, look and get your life back together and get back on track. Hold all that, hold on you haven't. All that you said is nice and ship like that. But everybody in this room, the majority of people that listen to this show, it's like thirty

four and up. That basic necessity shit, it doesn't matter if you ain't got a car, a crib, or a source of income. We're not even considering you. It's correct. I'm down. I ain't got none of that, and I still slang that. But that's all you can slang. That's all you got, though, bro, And after a while it slanging dick becomes empty. But just don't call you after a while, so you

starting that rotation all the way over again. Now you're back on Facebook date looking for the next bitch to accept the fact that you're just slanging dick, and the shits get hollow. Then you turn thirty eight, and now you slanging dick to a twenty five year old. Enhancements and stuff you have to meet the enhancements and all that, don't you all start to go bad In the late thirties and forties, I'm thirty, still work I can get it up. I am in my forties and I will gladly show you what love

it. So I heard different men say that, you know, when they get to me and forty, they start to have some issues. But that's natural. That's natural. Everybody's body changes when you get older because we start doing things differently, Like with so many of us now working work from home jobs. We're not as active as we used to be. We're gaining weight

or we're losing excessive weight. Therefore our bodies is acting different. We're starting to get joint pains because we're not moving around like we used to be and whatnot. So as you get older, you're gonna have issues period, unless you nip it in the bud early. But at the same time, you can only go for so long looking for physical love only after a while. Where is the intimacy right after a while? Where is the camaraderie after a

while. Where is the someone that you can be like, yo, I'm having a rough day and I just want to be able to vent to you,

And they don't look at it like you vent. Before you even get an opportunity to say this day is fucked up, they asking you already how your day is while rubbing your scalp and playing in your hair, you know what I'm saying, Or you walk in the door, or you simply want to be in that person's Like you come home and it is Monday, so just thiggas wrestling and either they in there asking you questions about it because they notice what you're into you though, they will give a fuck, or they

leave you alone. Look, I ain't got no problem asking questions. Ask me, Hey, ain't that such and such? Yes, it's not the rock. No, he's been not been here all the time. Please don't go crazy over you. Get out of my room. You know it was cool with that somethink some for some For some people speak okay, I don't want to say something. For me, being in my person's presence is enough.

Like I just want to be with you, be around you. You can do whatever you want to. I don't preferably I would like to be touching you, but I don't even have to touch you. I used to be like that. You can be on this couch, I can be on that couch. I'm we're in the same room. We're experiencing each other's presence, watching TV. You're like you said, it's Monday, you're gonna watch wrestling, all right, I don't know what the fuck going on, but

I'm gonna watch this ship because this is what you're watching. And eventually you're gonna find somebody you're gonna like, and next thing you know it, you're watching it on Monday with me. Yeah, that's how I got into certain TVs. So into football and basketball now, like I'm watching college sports and all this stuff just because you're sitting there right now interest And now I'm making GPTs to help me get my prize pick, so you know what I'm saying.

So like I get into it, like I get interest that I'm with because you naturally just want, yes, I want you want to have commonality. Like say, he got into reality TV is because of that. I got into watching cooking shows because the girl's mom used to watch all that ship. Next you know, we sitting up there at the talk. Hey, man, did that one chick make it past next to her? Then fuck

her dog? That bit sheld have went home instead, Like I'm more to the show to the point where I'm getting yelled at cause I'm four episodes ahead of you. Like, look, you've been at work too much. I have to figure out they are watched. Keep watching my show. I bet you won't write. That's that's why for every but that's why for every streaming service. Their family one and there's mine. I can go over here and watch all my ship and you don't know. I'm ahead of you. I

go back over here and now watch and I'd be acting. I could be in my phone. I'd be looking up ship and then be like, oh damn, what through that bitch didn't know. I already know what happened three weeks ago. That's a nasty rabbit hole of my life. Rabbit holes the

reality TV. Like, Bro, that's it was so nasty. I was looking forward to this ship, like I know that, like all that ship, love and hip hop or what like whatever that block and it was crazy because that block is on Monday. I was giving up wrestling for this, bro. I was loving you. I was like, I watched the replay on wrestling but love it hip hop, watch that going through now ship. That's how I got to watch a Keisha the way it is. She was into that ship and like why am I here? Why am I here?

Why am I here? But fuck Nephie. You know, there's certain refts that I don't like. It's certain teams that I don't like. I got players on teams that I got beef with. Yeah, people you don't even know, they don't know, But when I see them in the streets, they're gonna have to see me because how they did, how they did my lebron there gonna have to see me. That's another reason why I noticed, like, over the course of the last couple of years, we got a

lot of random Bucks fans. We've been getting a lot of random Packer fans, And I'm like, have you been just don't like this shit? Because you wasn't liking it before. So while you're all in it now, Oh, you just here because we winning. And I thought about it. No, it's not because you're winning, because she's because you're spending time with your man. And because you're spending time with your man, your man got you watching all of this. So now you you're a Bucks fan because that's the

only team you really pay attention to. You don't know who everywhere else. Before I started, I was Bucks and Packers. Now I got my backup teams because my Bucks and Packers tend to fuck up sometimes, you know what I'm saying. Then I be there wishing and praying and thinking about how can I make this petition to get this coach off this team. I want to get people five like you need to go. You can't help. You cannot be a black hairen. That's just not how this works. Sound like,

have you having money on ship? Karen? Just be doing it? Because Karen be doing ship. They've been lost me like two hundred dollars. That was a week. Stop, got you got another question for a couple of weeks. I've been on everything. God, you got to learn how to live your life. You've got to enjoy it. Stop trying to get paid nor you know, I'm like, you make some money, why not? Why not be a whore? I said, wor why would you do ship for free? Said? I never understood that. No, No, I'm

not saying horror, like sexually horror. Just you do stuff for money anything and this and this is coming. It's money everywhere. Come on in this world an American way. I'm gonna maran all American looking the money and everything. All right, question, how can you effectively communicate your boundaries and limitations without feeling guilty to your partner, cause that seems to be the big thing

right now too. You don't like something, you're not interested in it, but you do it because he or she can sexualized the spectrum likes it. How do you let them know without feeling like you feel bad for doing that? I don't you just horrible. My boundaries are my boundaries, and if you don't like them, then we're not We're not a match. Like this is bad, y'all being together. I want you to watch wrestling. You

give no fucks about wrestling. You tried it, don't work, so but listen, some some things, some things are non negotiable, and then other things are okay. Because I like you, we fuck with each other. You're probably tolerated some bullshit that you have no interesting are never going to do or watch again. But for the sake of me, you tolerated it, so like like you know, damn well, you nothing to like anime tolerated

it? I think correct. I think I would like you more if you respect my family, like because it's just some ship that like it's cool, we could do it together. But at the end of the day, like some ship, you gotta understand that that's my lone time. Yeah, I get that. It's cool if you want to every once in a while. I don't think you play the game with you. But at the end of

the day, you gotta understand that this is how I decompressed. This is my alone time, and personally speaking, I'm not going to necessarily insert myself like just on some random ship. Like if you ask me, hey, you're gonna come and watch wrestling with me tonight? Yeah, sure, I don't care. But if you never presented the idea, you wouldn't just invite

yourself. Probably not just gonna invite myself because now say I don't give a so like if this isn't doing my own thing right, right, so I'm gonna I'm gonna figure out something else that I want to do in that moment while you're watching wrestling. Great, because we need to have two separate lives. We don't need to have everything together do everything to great. Got no friends, Definitely, no, you don't, because that means it's not even

that. If you ain't got no friends, that means that it's you. No matter what you will say that they did, it's you, right because while you have nobody nobody. So there's nobody in your life that you can call a friend, even times of need and the time to be out about saying somebody that just nobody is just hop it up with, like, hey, how you doing, Hey whatever, my nigga, have you Friday? It's the weekend. Let's get it like just some random ship like that.

Nobody, nobody, There's there's nobody in your life that you can that you can Hi. I wouldn't be suspicious if a dude told me I don't have no friend, I don't hang with nobody, because why why you don't hang out? Why? How many of your ex friends baby mamas have you fu bro right exactly? How many? How many? How many niggas have you snaked? Right? You're in back that means you the back door. You're in the back door about the woman outfel by the woman? How many of

your your friends and your cousin's man you don't funk with? How many cousins you're at the hard You're the whole. You're right, Just be like I see people that I funk with, say that ship on the internet. I ain't got no fro, you ain't got wine no more? Right, you don't got no friends, stupid. Then they call you what you're doing nothing? You stupid mother? You don't got no friends? Remember why that you call friends I've been having for the last fifteen twenty years. My friends haven't

really changed. I may met some new associates here and there, but my die hard friends have been my friends since beginning. And we don't talk every day. But if I called him in the middle of the night, like I'm going through some day, what you're going through? Who You're not supposed to talk to your friends all the time. So I will say that in the past couple of years, people who I thought were friends have been falling off. But I'm actually okay with that because that it's just for me.

It's just another level of growth. So the falling off, it's just they falling, falling off, dying gone. You outgrow some and I'm like, that's clearly okay. Hang with a bunch of girls like to. I used to have a bunch of girls around me, young girls, and I throw my parties and they were young, and they was younger. They was on a different level. When I got tired of it, they didn't understand. They wanted to keep dancing, and I'm like, I got skills, like

I could actually do some ship. You know what I'm saying, Like, yeah, I don't want to deal with drunk niggas every day. You know what I'm saying, Like the money is good, is fun, but it's also a headache, right, so yeah, what what comes with that? Right? So it's like they don't they didn't understand why I went and got an office job and you know, one of got a government dollar like you, oh you just this this, honey. Yes, I could devil in the streets, but I'm I'm I'm smart, so I don't have to swing

around poem and shake my little titties and my little ass. You know what I'm saying, I don't have to do right, I can do that, but I can do this too, right, you know, like y'all need to do some other ship that that y'all can, you know? But then they have some kids and now you're forced to go get some jobs now because that ship didn't didn't last, man, And I was trying to tell them, like, y'all killing that ship them titties is high now, but baby,

but practice season's gonna be in your left with your kids. Now forever ship every day a nice, good, long titty wild ride to lean up, and I'm trying to lean out like for roll ups about out the bra The only I have problems with deflated titties. I don't like big teas. That's crazy. I don't like deflated ones. If the woman got smaller titties, like like nice sea cups, I'm good for it. You got some

big as cities. I don't like big as cities. I got rid of my big as you ever seen what it looked like when you let the air out of a balloon. If your titties look like that, I'm not your guy. Don't I still love you? I don't If that's about it, I won't love on you for a while. I feel like, I mean, you know what, I won't say that because nine times ten your tites have deflated. That means they were big. You probably had a lot of

milk when the milk dried up. It's a lot of reasons. I will never body shame unless you wouldn't got work done to get bigger, and it don't look right, I'll body shaky. You chose. I mean, I've always stated a bigger guy. You know what? I'm saying, and they would be like, why are you with me? You know I'm saying. I'm like, damn, nigga, get your car this up. I chose you for a reason, right, carry into a skinny dude. I like a little sometimes it be a little, it'd be a little funny in the

light. Make sure you hear from me. Yeah, but you don't be like why are you with me? Like you could do better than me? Like that's what I hear when someone say that you can't. That is what it sounds when when someone has with me that makes me feel like you don't value yourself and you feel like yo, make can do better than you.

Which is why I feel like a lot of people do some of the pettiest, most insecure things in their relationship because they know they got somebody good and they scared that person gonna lead them once they figure out that you really are the broke one. And how do you get on? Can you like grow out of being nonchalant? Yes, yes you can. You can if you want to. That's active work because you cannot care about how you perceive.

But if it's somebody you care about and you know your nonchalant and this is affecting them, You're gonna put forth a little bit of effort to do more. I'm a very nonchalant, out of sight, out of mind dude, fact, very like I have so many people who I'm cool with. And it was like, I ain't talk to you in the week, and I just ain't thought about you to care about the figure out that I ain't talk to you in the week, Like I get eyes and talk about we're gonna

fight when I see you? Know you not? Because who is this again? Like I'm that kind of NOTIONALI person, what's not that nonchalant? But I won't say I recently. I won't say that I recently figured it out. It was recently brought more to the forefront of my mind just how nochaliant I really am. And like, so I did a I did an ig poll because somebody telling me I was notchal I was like, I can see that. I was like, I think I'm actually very emotional that you've been

to Milan. You nonchalant. I was like, I actually think I'm very emotional. So I did an ig pole and it was seventy thirty like yeah, you nochaliant, And I was like me, nonchalant, and then once it was brought to my attention, I started noticing, like my habits and stuff, and how how many times I just really say to myself, I don't give a fuck. What does this have to do with me? I don't care? Why do you care? Why is this important? This is

not important to me. None of this matters. And it's not that I don't care, because if you don't care, if you my friend, I'll try to value how you feel about certain things. But be like this ship that you do care about, or like in this moment that you're caring about, like that's minuscule. Yes, yes, Like I got a very bad habit of like I don't really I don't know how to get off the phone. So when you say I'm gonna call you back, you already enter the

conversation. You said you're gonna come me back. So I hang up, right, You got to know because if you don't, people keep talking and then like I'm taking my first way out to I'm trying to get off this, like I don't hang up, and then like a minute later the phone ring. Gall why you just hang up? It's a thing I will, Yes, you said just to call back, or just not the call back. You said you's gonna call me back. It was okay, click, like all the one sort of motion. Okay, click like that's it.

That's all. Not like you don't care about it. I'm like, what are we talking about? You said I'm gonna call you back. I said okay, and I hung up Like that that's that you want me to say? You want to say, what do you know? You hang up? No? You hap, I'm not. I'm not that's what you're waiting for you. But I guess my nonchalantness I feel like comes from, as I said it earlier, I usually don't get the same energy that I put out.

And that's not even just in relationships, that's just overall just because I'm a very loving, caring person in general. No, I'm not saying I'm not No, no, no, I'm not knocking you because I believe. I believe it's just that we've never seen that side of you. Yes, I actually am like when I when I fuck with you, I really like, I'm was just like, oh my god, like, don't bullshit at

bring to a text. No, it's because we've never seen you with the mate you tend to keep your boyfriends or potential to yourself until he's official. And that's why because we you know us, we don't bring nobody around until we ready for y'all to know who this is. Because let's be honest with all assholes, and you got to be prepared for us. You got to be prepared. You got to make sure you stay away. That's about it.

I'm hitting this right now. That's all you don't get, but bringing you and you never bring anybody around us because we've heard you say, well, I'm talking to such and such, your close close friends you know, may know like Tray, may know who would be correct. We don't know until we find out that's not there no more. I'm waiting on the party. So we don't never see you in love, that's what. And you not something like you said until it's actually something worth mentioning. You't, So

that's why we say. Even though you're saying, my sister, probably the only my cousin I was thought was holy child, I am by definition, I absolutely am an only child. However, I have a cousin who I grew up with. We talk every day. It was just fun that she said, sister, and we like what your dad, Like, we've only seen you in your mom so like, you're right, but you never talked

about him. Hold on, but stay there. How much does he play a factor in what you look for in men, because you'll relationship ain't as tight as yours and your mom's correct. But does he play a factor in your decision when it comes to me? No, like, because he hasn't. He hasn't played that much of an influence in my life to be like

I do or don't want somebody who's like my dad. So he wasn't like my dad that I try to up feel like he's like my father was the man that was there in the critical moments when she counted for real, for real, he was absolutely there all the major milestones, he was there, but some other things that you know, I may have wanted him there for he was like, and I'll see and then he just decided later on, I hate that. Nah, I'll see what I can do and don't do

that's not my bye. I'm married. Welcome to the discovery of your nonchalant I married my husband. Didn't realize he was like my dad because I didn't know my dad at the time I married my husband. I married my husband I was twenty and I met my dad for the first time when I was twenty three. Oh, and that was right around the time I realized that I was in a very very abusive marriage and I wanted to get out.

And then when I met my dad and the things that he was saying, I was like, these fuck, it's kind of like you know what I'm saying, Like I really went out here and found somebody exactly like him. Because the way they had the mindset, the way they thought they wanted to beat the boss. They wanted to do everything that the man had. My ex husband and my daddy, they weren't all the titles and all the benefits

of come for being the man of the head of the house. So they just want none of the responsibility, all the parts, right you are, don't want any response? How did that work? And it's so crazy because I met when I met my dad, I went down to Texas and I I met his wife and she was from Africa, and you know, she didn't know a lot of things, and she telling me that's all the God.

Let me tell you this. Me and my daddy fell out. We met for the first time and we fell out right in the same week, in the same week, because his wife is telling me how hard she has it. She's like, I had to take your sister, little sister, you know, to the doctor, and it's one hundred and eighty dollars every time. I'm like, why are you paying out of pocket? You know that's free health care in this country. No, what do you mean no?

You say? She's like, oh, and then we have to you know, we have to buy food, and you know I'm shopping at the good wed Like, why are shopping at the good one? That's a walk, says I'm telling her all this something in this country for nine years and never told her all this stuff. Had this woman paying out of pocket because

he didn't want to go on while he's not working. Boy, if you don't get the fuck, I'm sorry me asking for a pair of tennis shoes Compared to whoa women subject themselves to it, I'd be like, what she got her? She left my dad and got her African But he got upset because before I left, I was like, where are your phone book at? She's like, I don't even know what agency to talk to. I just need the front of your phone book. Honey. This is how long

ago? It was like, and I went through the front of her phone, like I said, this is who you call for your your food stamps, and this is who you call for your health care and you don't pay for shiit else. And she's like, what do I tell him? You? What did they ask me by my husband? You give them his name. You don't tell her that you give him that nigga name. Name is Harold, Yet he ain't from ship you got. You ain't paid for ship

for me. You're gonna pay for somebody listen, okay, hello? And he got mad at me because I before I left, I signed to Ruff for everything, because why is she paying one hundred and eighty dollars for wellness visits but she could be getting the ship for free. Can't trust the nigga name Harold. I don't even eat hero. He got like five sons and name and all of them Harold, Harold something. And ain't there for none of them. You just wanted them all to know your name, so you

gave them me. Ain't no creativity there, George. I don't even respect him for doing that ship. I don't know he got name all five of your kids, George, that's just on the eighteenth birthday. We gotta change this. George sixteen, I'm getting emancipated the sex name name me Georgia. Come on, I actually I actually agree with you when you said welcome to your nonchalantness. I actually agree with you on that because my mother, when

I say I like, I think I'm very an emotional person. But in conversations with my mother, she tells me a lot of times that I act like my father. So I can absolutely understand that and say, well, actually, you're probably right because he is very mild manner, super chill like. He's never raised his voice at me. I've never seen him get out of character. He sound like he asked you, but did you die there? That's that's their near. That's that's that's their near. His attitude,

he's just yes, very like problems in life. Everything comes across. Not because I'm chilling his respienses. Okay, because he ain't gonna stress up. He might be going crazy inside. We'll talk, Okay, Yeah, that's fine, Well we'll figure it out. Understand that a wretched luxury shirt. It is heavy on the luxury. Do he ever figure it out? And he does so? Did you die. I did not, but I'm definitely going to stress up for a minute. We are all right, We got

one more question. Then we're gonna go home because I gotta get y'all home. I gotta go home. So you got to go home and get me home. I'm not taking you home. Get you home, and I take you home. Shout to Jimmy Fox, which one yo, you know what, I'm actually upset. Michelle is here right now, Kay, Michelle. Yes, I think I asked Booty. It's not that big. She definitely got no. I like I like the that to look on her. I like I like the regular hell and like China. I like how they look.

Yeah, you take all that at Booty off, and you just naturally you sposed a proper hip to ask Ratio right, because she had got so wide at one point I thought that she was going to flow. Yeah it didn't. I'm glad she got rid of that that. I love her for that why and I wanted I wanted my down for so long and then I'm glad you got I started seeing the fucking the booties that that didn't come out right, and I'm like, look, I ain't got no money like that

only got one shot. She's gonna be on Botch like I need you to fix it. Speaking speaking of that with this little Kelly Kels because her movie Botched, which is actually about BBLS, is the number one movie on to B I gotta go watch that. I watched. It's funny as hell. I gotta go watch that. I love her. She is hilarious. She's funny, but she's more serious in this movie than she's funny. That's I

like that. Seen her do something in a while, and it's funny because she plays the role of somebody giving bbl But if you've ever seen her, it looks like she got asked. But it's all. That's all exactly. I've been a fan for a long time, you know. I watched that as love. Ladies love her for me, I am Afred. I want how do you strike a balance between being honest about your feelings and also respecting the other person's emotion. So how are you telling people that you don't y'all

nonchalant but you really don't care without hurting their feelings. That's a struggle. I'm like, that's a struggle because me telling you I don't care as soon as you say I don't care. That's going to be a trigger right there. It's very hard for me because I don't don't care for you to get to my emotions that I have such a I have the wall, abusive place, the women abusive place wall for me. So when you get to my

emotions, I have to really really fuck with you. But up until that point, I just it don't matter, Like why what are we talking about? Text? But just say it's some someplace she wants to go, she wants you to go. You really just don't want to go. Brouh, you're not a cluber for an example? What about their family to drag you around the family? You don't like their family, like I really I don't

want to That's that's even better. I don't care because you know their family is important to her, But you really just don't like being around her dad because her dad is full of shit? All right, So I'm a very honest person, at least I try to be. So if I'm at this point where I'm telling you that I don't want to go, that must have been I've been here a few times, right, and I've told you that

these experiences I have, which I found pleasant not pleasant. So on this trip, I'm gonna set out MM. So whatever you're going to So when they say where, why there, or why you ain't bring your boyfriend? He went to work. I could be at home and my drawings playing mad. You tell your mama I was at work. Now, Mama cool. But daddy is the one who's always now for my daughter. Now, you may be doing everything that makes her happy, but because you don't check his

boxes, you always got a problem. That's a conversation. I'm not dating you, right, and that's a conversation that that's a conversations like I get it to my mother so much because you're not gonna talk to me any kind of way, and you're gonna respect me as a woman. I'm not your child. This may be your son, but as a woman to a woman, you watch your tone. Who are you talking to because you're not my mama. At the end of the day, I'm gonna show you some respect

because you are an eld. But at the same time, you're gonna show me something too. And I go, I've been calling all my name by people mothers for no reason at all. I'm sitting here being as pleasant as day and trying to be respectful, and your mother keep getting out of pocket, and I'm gonna eat it. Maybe the first time, maybe the second time. Again. It's gonna be whatever the fuck is gonna be at this point because your mama is disrespecting mamma. Sometimes my mama washed you relationship.

If I got a swing on your mama, that means you're not stepping up putting your mama in the place. Correct. If I got to swing on your mama, you're not doing what you do. You should be handling your You should because I gonna let my family disrespect you, you should be. So if I got to put my hands on your mama, I'm prepared to fight you too. And then it is what it is. What if Mama jump? But what if Mama jump bad first? Then mama get a ass.

That's a conversation I gotta have with my mama. Why you out of you got why? Correct? I mean that you she caught the girl still in silverware? Gottama, the fuck's silver? Where you want some more advice? More? I mean, granted, that ain't type of bitch we need to have around us. You still, but now what I think that I would have to do with dating is I would have to give my girlfriend to be okay with like not taking everything personal, because I like, I'll fair

warn you for you walk in this like I'm my mama's son. So this notionalized ship that you get with me, that's where I got her from. She is okay, that's cool whatever. I ain't tripping type type of person, So like, don't take it as my mama, don't like you, Mama, don't like nobody. That's what has her my mam, but they don't like he like everyone. I just like getting women to be like I ain't saying comfortable, but just like just not to take everything so personal.

Like it's one of those things. It's like it's like when she opened up, she gonna open up to you, but she wanted to know that you for real, Like I can't. You can't bet the mama to a certain extick for some mamas. Some mamas don't understand their sons, ain't they man. That's also what I'm saying. So then you got to deal with that mother who put they son in the role of they man for so long and

she actually gets a girlfriend now it's like to take my place. Yeah, I got to deal with your mama feeling like I'm taking her place, and I got to deal with your baby mama's who place I actually did take. You know, it's a lot of ship that you ain't take that place because that was never wiking in the first place. So my mama like, you like this nigga, you can have them. Get this nigga the fuck out you get me. I can roll with the punch of telling people like I

come from a ship talking family. So if if your mama just wanted them ship talking, mama just just got something, I probably don't already heard it before. It's funny and she come off like my mama. But if your mama is the one that's jabbing, if your mama is a Mama D, we probably ain't gonna make it. Make it. Your mama is a Mama D. That's in the mass, that's that's stirring up, that bringing in

the other girl for the best girlfriends. I ain't got the energy washed all the girls that I thought Bamby was gonna get to her, but they grabbed. I want I wanted so bad, get a get a just jacking up for something. Lord, just overhead swap. I'm okay. With that. I've never talked to that. My mom like, yeah, that's cool, minimum minimum interaction. Yeah. I don't bring a lot of people people, Mamma, I'm like actually dealing with you, like you could pick me up.

I'll come see you. Whatever. I dated people for from the time my kids was in like middle go to high school, nobody outdated came past my threshold. You didn't come in my house and sit on my couch. You didn't spend a night, You don't do nothing. If I wasn't serious about you. And even the one dude that I was serious about we was together for four years, he never spent out on my house. I always

went to his house. I ain't like to have all those trailer people and in the Oregon Trail through my house, around my daughters and my sons seeing that shit. You know what I'm saying. That was what I did at home. Outside was outside when I was home. I was home. I would like to Dan to check that down. Got kids. I just don't think that's a reality. I gotta check that got a kid right now.

It's it's nice, that's not a reality. He ain't got No. I'm not saying her as an example but he ain't got no kids, and y'all about the same age. So they out there one, they out there. But I understand. I understand what he's saying because now you that's hard because the correct now. So I feel like it anybody fucked them, hold on all the same boat, bro, not really so yes, and now from from my perspective, they might let anybody fuck them, but one I don't

think. I don't think because I'm not that person, but I don't think that they're letting anybody fuck them wrong. Right, Look, bro, if you got three kids and all three of your baby daddies ain't ship, you weren't letting anybody. And I'm stunning on that. Kids, that's the business. I'm a stunn on this one. That's because his daddy went to prison, and his daddy would have been went to prison. I feel like all my kids would have been with the same person. My last my first one

had his own daddy. He went to prison. But then my last three is with my husband. So I feel like, if it wasn't for him going to prison, all my kids have the same daddy. A lot of misconceptions friends not friendly. I can't just sleep with anybody but I have to

have a connection. I have to like you to actually want you. Actually got to have a value, And I actually feel like I feel like that's why I do fuck with I just recycle because I don't like a whole lot of people to the point that I actually feel like I want to sleep with you. I don't even touch I want you touch me. Physical touches my love language. But I actually don't like very many people touching me if I don't like you while you're touching me, Like, what does recycling cause problems?

Like? Can you even find someone else out there? When you know that the minute you see a red flag it might be a small one, but a red flag you like not I want to deal with that. I can always go back over here or I know again it's comfortable for me. For me, Yes and no, I would say no just for the simple fact that, like, like as we stated earlier, I try to get people the benefit it out. So I see the red flags and I'm like, I like red. I'm red It's a flag? How hard how hardful

could it be? Let's let's just go past that. It's all right, we'll figure it out. And then three or four or five red bags down the line. I'm like, I've seen that first one. I just ignored the ship. Yeah, and I ignored that. My thing is I would ignore the red flags if the sex is good. And I'm like, well, you know he eat my booty a little, you know, you know, to hear it is good. So yes, he is a liar. But eating as a reason why nigga can stay around for another month. But

it's the truth. There's there's there's a munket to the reasons why niggas stay around. You find a reason to keep this. Either he's paying for something, right, he's he's licking something, or he's sticking something. It's something about him. He got one good quality. So it's transactional. Yeah,

yeah, four transactional relationship correct situation. Ship that chick tells me in the process of courting or getting to know her that she liked to recycle Boom red flag understanding to be because I don't you said what I said, that's crazy? Is that crazy? You gotta have that one person you can you could go back to that and that's cool. You can have that one person. But I'm not dealing with bitches with pre existing connections at least at least I'm

trying. My heart is not to I say about if I had ten axes, I'm friends with seven of them, I can still call and we can still we still have fun. Then we can have sex. I don't have to end every relationship with an enemy. You know what I'm saying. Some ship just that you can't move forward none. I tell this to I tell this to my cousin all the time. You want to know why you're not gonna have no prosperous relationships because you're stuck in one even and it's not a

real one. Ain't no, no nigga got a shot because you're always gonna have this point of reference that you can always go to. I'm not gonna fight for my life in a fight. I know I can't win, That's what I'm saying. So like when mother's like, nah, I'll be spending blocks, Okay, keep spending. I'm not with you like that. But if I don't feel like beginning in a relationship, I don't feel like date nobody. If I know that you clean and I can fuck with you,

and I'll just call you back. Like why I go try to meet somebody new just because I just need to give my rock off today. I know this, this is safe. That's fine for you. I'm speaking as a nigga who's this is what I run into motherfuckers who are like this is safe. I think i'd be cool and it's like, okay, I see what you want, Like I gotta go back to I feel like I feel like I only spend the block if whatever I was doing and whoever I was fucking

with didn't work out. But in the meantime, while I'm actively trying to get to know someone, and I'm we're actively, you know, trying today, we're talking on a regular basis, then I'm not even thinking about them niggas like that, like I can. I probably couldn't have blocked if I wanted to, But I'm not. I'm not thinking about that. It's not I to me, it's not a point of reference. In my opinion, it's not a point because I'm focused on you. My attention is on you.

It's just safe sex. I mean, everybody's but I thought exists. I mean, there are point there are people who are like fam like y'all cool like this, even though me and this nigga can't be what I wanted to be always gonna find it cool over here versus trying some new ship that may work, may not work. I know that this is the safe space. This is guaranteed though, no matter whatever the situation is, I need

something I can I can call on that. But like if I'm I'm looking for a relationship, if I'm like she said, if you have my attention, you have my attention, I'm not really gonna feed nobody else my time. Like if I'm checking for you, I may be dating a few different people. He may be the nigga I go to the movies with. He may be the nigga that feed me throughout the weekend. Don't don't ever tell

me just feed you. I will never feed you again. All my niggas that feed me live out of town, so they can't do anything but feed me, so they feel good about feeding me. Hey baby, did you eat yet today? Did you what's for lunch? Hey? You in Mississippi. You can't see me, but yes, you can send me lunch. You can't send up my daughter that you can't send that cash. That's when

the kick in. I'm hungry, whine me too, but I'm very hit A woman up somebody I need thirty for lunch because he's gonna be upset that I made the post anyway, So I'm not really looking for any dude on Facebook. The mind be lunch. I'm just telling my nigga looking nigga, I gotta make this post because you ain't. You ain't ask me what I want for lunch yet today. So we see that white while you're on Facebook. Shoot, you finished send me lunch then, because I'm hungry. I'm

on face because I'm hungry. It just be late, you at home left over. I just want this nigga to see that you you late. He must have been had my meal here, right, I don't funk around like that. You want please talk to me directly? Yeah, I do that too, but sometimes I play games. I got a lot of different personality. You can why that key can get the hell up out of here now, I mean, and that's why I don't check, because you may't go with me, but this key may go with him to figure out which you're

talking to. That's a slayer, right, not how our PG works. Your thoughts are unattractive, but then y'all to you know people, people thoughts are unattractive and when you see someone again. That's how the pussy all the time. Because I'm I might think you are attractive from a distance, I might see how you move with other people. And I've never heard you speak before. I've never heard you speak of on anything of relevance. Before we

didn't talk. We may have had a couple of conversations and bullshit conversations, all right, whatever, But once I hear your point of view on something irrelevant, and I see like, like, that's how you think, that's what you think, no versus way like what like what you want from this? No, it's just you get to talk about Most men articulate, clearly, articulate what he's trying to say, if he's stumbled across, just trying

to get just trying to say what he's what he needs to say. If if you just come across like you sound like you're slow, that's gonna turn me off. Like you sound like I need you to be able to hold your conversation in any any room, y'all. So I need you to be. I need someone to be. I don't won't say that I'm sucking the smartest person in the room. There's always something else for me to learn.

But I feel like I can hold my own in almost any room that I'm in, So I would need my partner, whoever that I'm dealing with, to be the same. I need you to be able to hold your own in any room that you're in any conversation that comes up. If you can't do that, if you you know, people don't know, you don't know what you don't know. So I get that, but it's like, so you want to speak on something that you don't know. You clearly have no

dog in this fight. But just because you want to be included in the conversation, now you do open your mouth and you sound stupid. Don't don't embarrass yourself from the upper crust. The greatest answer to ship that I don't know is no combat. How simple that one a hood dude I was dating on time, And this is my mistake because I just should have just left him where he was at from the bar. He's just from the neighborhood, you know what I'm saying. Like he wasn't even a street dude. You

just from the neighborhood. He's a nigga who my mo only him go from corner to corner, apparently because I took him to a military function. The mistake number one, because not everybody's built for that, right. I'm like, oh, yeah, I was at the military and something in I wasn't doing it for. I took him to a military function and he wanted to he wanted to talk guns or something, whatever you wanted he wanted to talk about. He just wasn't he wasn't well versed and whatever he wanted to talk.

Heard him saying rap songs. Excuse me exactly whatever he was saying it was not and he just came across so stupid, and I just looked. I just was so embarrassed. They looked at me like this is who you brought guy with. I'm like, God, about to get they about to demote you, about to lose a strike, I'm about to be in the bridge. You know what I'm saying. And the way that he was talking stuff was you know what I'm saying, nigga, niggas like nigga. Like

I was so embarrassed. I was like, never again, never again. But I ever I would go stag. I was. I would just never put myself that. That was the most embarrassing things I've ever seen. And like and he and he just wanted to talk all night like he never it never dawn on him. But he don't care talking about He's just talking to everybody about left early all my life. I just got out of there,

out of there injecting himself a conversations. You know, you you walking up to lieutenants and you just walking up to my I can't walk up to this nigga to have a conversation with this nigga. Step step confidence of no, no, no, no, it's right, nigga can't. You can't just talk to a nigga with barns bro. That's that's why we let you know.

That's why we corrected you down. This was like I was new to like the company, so they had me out there like I was doing like the demo ship, you know, just a little minor ship, like I funk around with everybody at work. Hey man, somebody gonna get me a chair. He looked at me like, I don't know who the fuck dog is. Like an hour later, somebody was like, yeah, that's one

of like the corporate niggas at the Giant. Oh. Like I felt bad, and I was like, that's a corporate nigga to get you a chair, nigga for a chair, Like, the most you can say is you don't get a chair. I ain't say nothing. And then when I found out was one of the bigger cool with my uncle man everybody uncle the boss talking about I want these people in the military. Bro. If they if they symbols shiny, you can't talk to it. Don't let him ship shiny

best way to describe it, if they ship shiny. When he talked to bosses, basically that it is, it's even so bad that bosses have their own club, they hang out, we go other places. Yes, you don't want you don't really want to get drunk in front of your boss anyway, You don't, even though they get way fucked up worse and you ever will. But they can get their ass out of trouble. See, we

wouldn't even if we wouldn't even thinking alone. When I found out that there are niggas in this room that I can't have casual conversation with, we go home. You everybody first face spent the room. Mistake number one she made. I wouldn't bring a regular civilian around real niggas anyway. I have treated that ship like a podcast party he said, Hi to your people, do a circle, we get to fight out. And he was gonna act like that because, like I said, he want street. He just from the

from the neighborhood would be able to have a conversation. You know what. I'm ship that nigga went in their thought and he became streets. He's not talking about niggash, never talking about about coming from light embarrassment niggas you for a month I was. I was. That's another good thing about work. They didn't They didn't rid me too much because you know, I had the women and I had I had to dirt. I had the secrets. You know, they are married. They you're talking too much. You're talking too

much. To the end of this episode at me, thank you for tuning into this episode. What is Love? I like to thank Denise and Bella me okause he out here. Hey, they're not they don't know Sergeant Jones just being funny that they're not like Sergeant Jones. Chris ain't the sergeant yet. I said, Oh, they said, Joe, that's why wild How did we get there? How did we get there? But make sure you check us out on all streaming platforms that Spreaker, Spotify, iHeart Radio,

or wherever your podcast. Make sure you check out the next episode. Uh, we're gonna be here next time to be the turning Actually, yeah, this moment, I'm a TBA because I know the topic. I know who's gonna be here. I got a massive topic with him. And it's not their faults me because some people just don't fit certain topics, so you just don't want to put them. I don't want to give you that you bitter, just not your topic. You know, people need to learn how to

be more interesting. That's another thing. Now everybody is interested, and I'm so uninterested in dating at this point of all this is crazy. I actually got a nice little going on right now. I'm having a little bit of fun. A definitely, I'm exclusively dating to people at the same time, and we all know about it. No, I'm just say es I was on your side. I had to be. I had to say it for

the right wingers. I have to. I have to. I like men and I like women, and I don't like having to choose Donald Trump. You shouldn't have voters. As long as everybody's clean, that's all that everybody's clean everybody's for it. You know what I'm saying. Three incomes is better than one. You know, it's big. It's bigger than just bigger than wrap, it's bigger than just wrap. But it's nice. With that being

said, make sure you check us out on Thursdays when episodes dropped. Kickboxing will be back one day at some point there one day well, because we're doing this for almost damn here two months, So Kickboxing will when it's really time to bring them shoes out. I don't want too much because it's still cold outside. You know, it can snow at any moment. And I'm currently working on the Fear of Flying series where I come from, so that would be out soon as well too, so we'll be able to look out

for that. Uh. Denise may or may not be on another podcast, Bellame coming. This is hanging with one awesome Uh telling me ain't leaving the house anytime soon. I will be leaving the house. I've actually got a show in production called Try Love that's gonna be going around with my following my relationship on my own network. That's gonna be popping out. So and so, just we want the exclusive interviews, we will give you the exclusive interviews.

Absolutely, I want all I want all parties involved is you is one do two girls? Just three women? Me my lady named Tia and be with the guy named Rock and this the three of us. Why niggas can't just have regular I don't want to use this regular his name is similar to that. But that's what because people, people got lives and people got kids. So that's what you know what I'm saying. But we're really gonna get in depth. We're gonna talk about why we all want to be in it,

was our what's our vision for we're you're going with it? And what we expect to come from all right, Well, that means said people, we are out of here now