Do you ever feel like the day just got away from you and feel even more frustrated and overwhelmed than you did the day before? Distractions could be the culprit. When you are constantly being driven by distractions it feels like you are the adorable dog named Doug in the 2009 Disney movie “Up”. Whenever Doug saw a squirrel, regardless of what he was chasing, he’d immediately be distracted and go after the squirrel. Your “squirrel” is usually anything new because new always seems better. Whether...
Sep 15, 2019•21 min
As humans we all desire to have the feeling of hope sometimes. Like when there’s been a tragedy somewhere in the world and you hope everyone affected will be ok, then hope can be comforting. The word hope has such a nice ring to it. So if the feeling of hope indicates something positive, then when is it not helpful? Aren’t we taught at a young age to wish upon a star and hope for things? The issue with being hopeful is that it is not a strategy that gets you what you want and really negates your...
Sep 08, 2019•16 min
Many women believe they need to either hire an accountability coach or partner with someone in order to take certain actions. They have a certain goal in mind that they haven’t yet achieved, they don’t feel motivated and they look to work with someone else to hold them accountable for reaching their goal. In essence, if it wasn’t for someone or something else in the equation, they would feel less committed to take action. If this rings true for you, it’s not your fault. It’s the message that a l...
Sep 01, 2019•20 min
While the term Attention Deficit Disorder or ADD may be familiar, the less familiar term Intention Deficit is something I believe we all suffer with to certain degrees without knowing it. Intention Deficit is when you are living your life unconsciously as opposed to living on purpose; when you aren’t clear on the direction you want to go and are stuck focusing on what you don’t want rather than on what you do want. Living with intention can show up in “big picture” decisions like what you want y...
Aug 25, 2019•18 min
In the last few decades more employers see the idea of offering to meet their employees need for more work-life balance as a win/win situation. They believe that if they create an environment that their employees are happy working in, they will stay longer and be more productive. It sounds like a no-brainer from the employee’s and employer’s point of view. Achieving balance seems simple – the employee negotiates spending X amount of hours at work and Y amount of hours at home and wha-lah! They a...
Aug 18, 2019•18 min
Why is that you can make certain decisions all day, every day yet agonize over making other decisions? Some decisions are a no-brainer like deciding to not roll through stop signs on your way to work but then some decisions seem tortuous like whether to eat what you brought for lunch or order in with everyone else. Have you ever gotten so caught up in the fear of making the wrong decision that you made no decision at all? Most people experience this trap, agonizing over what to do or not do, and...
Aug 11, 2019•18 min
One of the most challenging and rewarding roles you can have in life is being a parent. I have yet to meet a parent who wasn’t surprised at what parenthood required of them. With each new stage in your child’s life it seems like you have to learn a whole new language. There’s the language of early childhood, of toddlers and adolescents, of the teenage years and of adulthood. Each stage offers its own unique opportunities to learn and grow along with your child. In order to successfully parent yo...
Aug 04, 2019•20 min
According to Wikipedia the definition of the term compare and despair is “to distress oneself by comparing one’s own situation with others who are more successful” however I believe it’s more far reaching than that. When you compare and despair you can be judging yourself, your situation, your choices or your worth as a woman, mother, employee, friend, spouse, etc. The tendency to compare yourself to others and then despair about the comparison can come in the form of believing you aren’t as (fi...
Jul 28, 2019•18 min
In 2013 the Chartered Accountants Benevolent Association (CABA) reported survey results showing that around 30% of accountant participants admitted to a drinking problem. The key is the word “admitted”; if 30% admitted to having an issue, imagine how many were unwilling to. Unfortunately this isn’t just an issue for accountants. In a 2016 study of lawyers, nearly 3 out of 4 participants reported problematic use of alcohol and drugs to cope with stress starting as early as law school. It doesn’t ...
Jul 21, 2019•17 min
Before I explain why believing new things is important, I would like you to consider something for just a minute: Everything that we have created in the history of human existence started with a thought Nothing has been shipped from another planet All the materials for everything we have has always been here Really consider that Whether it’s a candle or a lightbulb, a piece of paper or an iPhone, everything that surrounds us, other than nature, has come into existence because of a thought. First...
Jul 14, 2019•18 min
As a working mother you are probably juggling more balls up in the air than most circus clowns. If you’ve ever done a Google Search on how to multi task you probably discovered over 6 million hits offering to help you figure out how to get everything on your to-do list done. If only there was a way to focus on one thing at a time that would actually shrink your to-do list. It would be great to have a way to know exactly what to do in each moment that would create a domino effect and help allevia...
Jul 07, 2019•20 min
However, sometimes the idea of feeling justified or offering a justification isn’t as dramatic, as in the example of laying on the horn of your car when someone cuts you off. No matter what comes to mind when you hear or use the term justified, it’s a pretty common feeling. When I work with clients, I often get asked “Is that normal?” when they are trying to justify a negative thought, feeling or action. This question comes up in many different situations like “I have too much work, too much res...
Jun 30, 2019•17 min
Whether it’s to raise your children, to be the caregiver for aging parents or any host of reasons, hitting the “pause” button on your career may be something you’ve considered. The concept of pausing the trajectory of your career by working a reduced schedule or leaving your career entirely with the plan to return at some later point can come with a lot of questions and concerns. Thankfully things have changed over the years for women looking to pause their careers and for those looking to re-en...
Jun 23, 2019•18 min
For women, money is one of the last taboos. Women are often more comfortable talking about personal details of their sex life than they are talking about money. In order to eliminate shame and build confidence around money you have to be willing to take a look at your beliefs. The results you currently have in your relationship with money are due to some unconscious programming that needs to be acknowledged if you want to create different results. This week I’m going to discuss why women experie...
Jun 16, 2019•17 min
I’m sure we can all agree that rejection doesn’t feel great. In fact most of the time, it sucks. Whether it’s in your professional or personal life, rejection can destroy your self-esteem, create anger and fear, as well as take up precious brain space. If only there was a way to be willing to experience rejection without it stopping you from being, doing or having what you want; a way to be self-confident and give yourself all the approval you need. Sound good? Then I have a secret to share. Thi...
Jun 09, 2019•17 min
So many women wear the badge of “people pleaser”, especially mothers. On the surface using the term people pleaser seems so nice. It seems like all you want to do is make people happy and what’s wrong with that? You may not even label yourself as a people pleaser, you just consider yourself a nice person. Doing for others allows you to feel loved and valuable. You also may believe that pleasing others is what a good mother, wife and friend does. What if you are actually attempting to manipulate ...
Jun 02, 2019•16 min
If you are a high achieving woman and feel you need to always be producing at a high level, then it’s safe to say you may not know how to enjoy time off. If you can’t stop thinking of work when you are off, you are not alone. Many hard working moms, and accountants in general, have the same pattern of thinking. This week I’m going to explore why you may be resisting enjoying time off and what you can do to change that.
May 26, 2019•16 min
Have you ever experienced that insidious feeling that you’re out of your league, not good enough, that you are only in your position because you got lucky or that sooner or later you will be found out? It doesn’t matter if it has to do with your profession, with your ability as a mother or any other area of your life, imposter syndrome can creep in at any time. This week I’m going to discuss what imposter syndrome is, where it comes from and how to cure it.
May 19, 2019•17 min
I have to admit that my inner judge and jury is quite a bitch! How about yours? The issue is between making judgments and being judgmental. One is discerning and feels empowering and the other feels defensive, fearful and often justified. One gets you the results you desire and the other gets you a whole lot of emotional pain. This week I’m going to discuss why you are judgmental, how it’s hurting you and how to stop being the judge and jury in your life....
May 12, 2019•13 min
By learning that the results you create in your life are within your control, you can create the awareness that “problems” are just neutral Circumstances that you get to solve with your thoughts about it. This week I’m going to discuss the Manage Your Mind Model and how to use it to solve any problem.
May 05, 2019•19 min
Is there something you need from someone else in order to feel better? If you have unmet needs at work or in your relationship with a partner or your children then I’ve got some great information to share with you. This week I’m going to discuss the issue with wanting others to meet your needs and the secret to ending that struggle.
Apr 28, 2019•16 min
Becoming aware of the questions you ask, how you phrase those questions and looking at the default answers you’ve been getting, is how you can start making some big changes in your life. This week I’m going to discuss the problem with dead end questions and how to ask better questions so you can get better results.
Apr 21, 2019•17 min
Drama has become somewhat of an addiction just like the overuse of alcohol to numb your feelings or the overuse of social media to escape your life. If you identified with any of these statements, you may want to keep reading. Even if you don’t think you are full-blown addicted to drama, you may be affecting your children without even realizing it. This week I’m going to discuss why drama is enticing, how that could be affecting your children and how to stop....
Apr 14, 2019•16 min
The issue isn’t that you feel good when you are paid a compliment from others; the issue is when you desperately need other people’s positive opinions to create your own self-confidence. You want other people to compliment, approve of or validate you because you haven’t been able to provide it for yourself. This week I’m going to discuss why you may be seeking validation and how to create self-confidence so you can have your own back.
Apr 07, 2019•16 min
This week I'm answering Jackie's question about feeling better when her husband isn't acting the way she wants...
Apr 06, 2019•15 min
If you are like me, overwhelm can become, well…overwhelming. It can feel like being on the proverbial hamster wheel with no relief in sight. Your feeling of anxiety seems to be playing tag with your feeling of overwhelm and you can’t make those feelings take a time out and watch TV instead. This week I’m going to discuss what causes overwhelm and how to overcome it so it so you can get back to having the life you want.
Mar 31, 2019•15 min
A listener asks about the podcast on difficult people and wants to know how to deal with a coworker that drives her crazy...
Mar 27, 2019•13 min
There’s a story about a man riding a horse, galloping quickly. It appears that he’s going somewhere very important. A man standing along the roadside shouts, “Where are you going?” The rider replies, “I don’t know. Ask the horse!” This is the story of most people’s lives; you’re riding the horse of your habits, with no idea where you’re headed. The results you have in your life are created by the actions you take so if you don’t like the results, you have to start looking at the cause. Your habi...
Mar 24, 2019•17 min
As a female accountant you can probably relate to struggling with different areas of your professional life. This week is all about improving your time management and productivity, improving your analytical skills and improving your confidence. Sound good? Great....come join me!
Mar 17, 2019•17 min
Imagine how different life would be if it wasn’t possible to take things personally. Your mother-in-law’s comments about your house wouldn’t affect you, your co-workers not mentioning they were going out for drinks wouldn’t be an issue and your child’s teacher sending home a note encouraging parents to send healthier snacks into school wouldn’t be a personal attack. It would be great if you could take a sip of some magic potion and not react to people’s words and actions in a self-deprecating wa...
Mar 10, 2019•15 min
