Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. We start by exploring how the quest for status can hinder the authenticity of our relationships. It's a harsh truth many face - a picture-perfect relationship that's hollow on the inside. Identifying these signs and confronting the discomfort will pave the way for a more fulfilling relationship. From there, we will delve into the essence of authenticity in a relationship. In a society obs...
Oct 16, 2023•24 min•Ep. 88
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In our increasingly tech-saturated world, balancing the digital and physical aspects of our lives is becoming more challenging. This issue has become even more prevalent as our emotional immaturity and lack of emotional intelligence, coupled with the lure of the digital world, tend to affect our real-life relationships negatively. Digital distractions have a significant impact on relation...
Oct 09, 2023•26 min•Ep. 87
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They discussed that surface-level relationships often manifest as interactions that skim the surface without delving into emotional depths. This can leave individuals feeling unsatisfied, unfulfilled, and craving for more. Transforming your relationships from superficial to significant requires courage, vulnerability, and humility. It involves acknowledging your emotions, addressing confl...
Oct 02, 2023•24 min•Ep. 86
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Money, often considered a taboo subject, is an essential part of our lives that we cannot overlook. Especially when it comes to relationships, harmonizing financial goals with personal aspirations becomes a crucial factor. They emphasize the connection between money goals and tangible experiences, making financial conversations less intimidating and more relatable. If you've ever felt ove...
Sep 25, 2023•21 min•Ep. 85
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They delve into how understanding your partner's resourcefulness level and incorporating 'cup fillers' into your relationship can make a significant difference. These seemingly small tweaks can introduce refreshing variety and enhance relationship satisfaction. They provide insights into the formula that helped them avoid an 'old and miserable' existence and promote a ten out of ten relat...
Sep 18, 2023•26 min•Ep. 84
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Many of us believe we know our partners well. However, we often fail to recognize our inherent cognitive biases that reaffirm our existing beliefs, hindering our relationship growth. They discuss that recognizing the problem is only half the battle. They talk about practical tips for overcoming these beliefs and issues. Disagreements often exacerbate cognitive biases, causing unnecessary ...
Sep 11, 2023•23 min•Ep. 83
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talked about the impact of optimism and pessimism in every relationship. They discuss how these tendencies can sway us to either overcommit or undercommit and the lessons we've gleaned from our experiences. Discover the value of self-awareness in mitigating the downsides of optimism and pessimism and how a better understanding of our tendencies can bolster our commun...
Sep 04, 2023•23 min•Ep. 82
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the profound impact family dynamics have on relationships. The discussion centers around seeing our family through our partner's eyes, a perspective that often uncovers the 'comforting lies' we've been telling ourselves and reveals some 'uncomfortable truths.' They also discuss recognizing the signs of our partner reverting to their childhood behavior in t...
Aug 28, 2023•25 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they discuss the delicate balance between expressing your truth and your partner's capacity to receive. They share insights and tips from personal experiences and their clients' journeys, who grappled with the fear of outgrowing their partner. They also share how avoiding the uncomfortable truth can lead to suppressed emotions and potentially harm relationships. To help you visualiz...
Aug 21, 2023•24 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the hidden world of insecurity in relationships. Insecurity can lead us to hurt those we love unintentionally. They discuss navigating this complex terrain, sharing the importance of understanding your and your partner's insecurities. They also dive into how apologies and insecurities intertwine in relationships. They share some of their experiences, highl...
Aug 14, 2023•27 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today, they discuss finding the balance between selfishness and selflessness in relationships. They discuss how understanding your partner's perspective can influence your interactions and how recognizing the need for more selfishness or selflessness can significantly alter the relationship dynamic. "Is your partner being too selfish?" might be a question that plagues your mind. Overbalan...
Aug 07, 2023•22 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they delve into the intricacies of our core beliefs about love. and how these can impact the love journey. They show how these core beliefs shape our interactions and the relationships we attract. They also talk about how conflicting love beliefs can lead to unmet expectations, and share valuable insights on maneuvering through these tricky waters with your partner. Show ...
Jul 31, 2023•27 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Have you ever felt unseen, unheard, or unappreciated in your relationships? Have you ever wondered how to express your truth without causing pain? In this episode, they embark on a soulful journey into the power of vulnerability and courage in our relationships. Drawing parallels to the Tango dance, they unravel the intricate steps of building a lasting bond based on the 'Triad of Belongi...
Jul 24, 2023•26 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today, they talk about a powerful concept, something they fondly call guilt-free pleasures. They believe in giving ourselves the liberty to occasionally enjoy that video game, that movie marathon, or that wine we love. Of course, the key lies in not going overboard. They explored how these guilt-free pleasures can supercharge our lives and relationships. They talk about their own guilt-fr...
Jul 17, 2023•26 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they talk about navigating fear and vulnerability in your relationships. They discuss how understanding different attachment styles can equip you to express fears more constructively. What happens when you see your partner’s energy shift, but their words don’t match what you notice? Too often, we personalize this mismatch, leading to downward relationship spirals. They...
Jul 10, 2023•25 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they unmask the varied levels of violent communication that have become our 'normals.' Drawing parallels with the Richter scale, they illustrate how these 'normals' echo in our relationships and interactions. Their anecdotes shed light on these communication patterns' profound influence - shaping our attitudes, reactions, and existence. They share practical tools to cr...
Jul 03, 2023•25 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they talk about being in an unresourceful emotional state and unknowingly allowing it to affect your relationship. They explore how staying aware of our mental and emotional states can make a world of difference in our connections with the people we love most. They discuss how recognizing and navigating our unresourceful states can open doors to celebrating successes a...
Jun 26, 2023•25 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they talk about the critical issue of toxic masculinity, which was the topic of Relationship Talks #24. Discover the answers to the three questions that the couple answered in the event. They also talk about the traits such as arrogance, self-absorption, and entitlement that can lead to disconnection and how we can replace these with humility, empathy, and vulnerabilit...
Jun 19, 2023•26 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they uncover the impact of fear and avoidance on relationships and how couples can grow stronger by facing their fears together. They discuss the tendency for some men to struggle with reaching out for help and for some women to feel hesitant in asking for assistance with math and finance. They dive into three scenarios that could arise when one or both partners do not...
Jun 12, 2023•23 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore the powerful connection between personal growth and healthy relationships. They talk about how our own ego can hinder our progress and hinder the growth of our relationships. At the core of this discussion is the importance of understanding oneself better through therapy. They highlight how therapy can provide insights and tools to overcome personal obstacles...
Jun 05, 2023•30 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they share the secret to cultivating stronger relationships. They begin by emphasizing the importance of investing more in one's relationship, acknowledging that meaningful connections require dedicated time and effort. They talk about sharing things that you are grateful for about each other, highlighting how this exercise can foster a deeper appreciation for each other'...
May 29, 2023•22 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore the dynamics of relationships using a powerful ship analogy. They emphasize that relationships are like two ships, and each person represents a different kind of ship. They stress the importance of taking ownership in a relationship and understanding each person's role. They highlight the significance of acknowledging and expressing emotions. Individuals can ...
May 22, 2023•23 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today, they will discuss three warning signs indicating a relationship is in trouble: arrogance, dishonesty, and immaturity. These behaviors can erode trust and create a sense of distance between partners, leading to frustration, disappointment, and, ultimately, the decision to end the relationship. But it's not all doom and gloom! They also discuss three key attributes that can help coup...
May 15, 2023•26 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they delve into who is showing up more in the relationship - and what that means. They discuss the importance of bringing your best self to the table and the crucial role that belief and gratitude play in sustaining relationships over time. They also touch on the actions that can support your words and help you build trust and connection with your partner. And finally, th...
May 08, 2023•21 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the importance of being cautious during the honeymoon phase. It's easy to get caught up in the initial rush of emotions and make long-term decisions based on short-term feelings. However, we must be mindful of the potential consequences of acting impulsively in a heightened state. They explore the common pitfalls of going off the rails and falling into a scar...
May 01, 2023•21 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the essence of what truly matters in a relationship and discuss practical ways to focus on the things that truly count. In a world where we are constantly bombarded with distractions and expectations, it's easy to lose sight of what truly matters in our relationships. Are you prioritizing the right things? Are you measuring the right metrics to assess the hea...
Apr 24, 2023•20 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss what causes drama in relationships. Whether with friends, family, or partners, drama can be a considerable burden. We’re talking about the significant differences between being surrounded by emotionally immature people and those who are more mature. They discuss that the amount of drama in your life is proportional to the people around you and their level of ...
Apr 17, 2023•35 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about how conflicts in lifestyle preferences can be a major issue for couples. Do you let the little things build up in your relationship? Regarding lifestyle conflicts, it's important to talk openly and honestly with your partner. Instead of allowing resentment to grow, take the time to voice what you want and need in the relationship. Make sure to stay respect...
Apr 10, 2023•22 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about how your attachment style controls you and affects your life. They share their attachment styles and examples of the different attachment styles, that they talked about in Episode #49 - What Is Your Attachment Style . They talk about understanding yourself so you can improve your attachment style. Attachment styles are not rigid, but you first need to iden...
Apr 03, 2023•27 min
Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about what causes fighting in a relationship. They zero in on where the disconnect happens. They discuss that it is critical to consider both your preferred type of listener and your partner's preferred type of listening style in your relationship. You might want to use various listening styles depending on whether you are in a growth paradigm or a relationship paradigm. S...
Mar 27, 2023•25 min
