Are you READY for 2023? Have you taken the time to reflect on the year that was? Have you thought about your GOALS for 2023? What is your INTENTION for the year ahead? Today I have my amazing hubby, Hamish Cramer, joining me on the podcast! As we walk you though our yearly ritual of reflecting the year that was and intentionally creating the year to come. This is our personal process that we have been doing for YEARS as a couple. It is THE process that is responsible for supporting us to build a...
Jan 02, 2023•1 hr 11 min•Season 1Ep. 322
How has this year been for you? Did you have a word for this year? Did this year go how you wanted it to? Get your journal ready and join me on this episode as I’m going to walk you through some of my personal end-of-year processes that I do to help me really COMPLETE the year the right way, and to set me up for the year ahead! In this episode I cover: What my word for 2022 was and how it manifested in so many areas of my life and business The EXACT process I use every year to reflect on the yea...
Dec 26, 2022•29 min•Season 1Ep. 321
Are you a coach? OR are you thinking about becoming a coach? OR are you thinking about INVESTING in a coach of some kind? If so, I want you to listen to this episode because there are some big issues in the coaching industry that I see all the time. Issues in regards to the INTEGRITY of coaches. The coaching industry is NOT regulated in any way, and that means that really ANYONE can call themselves a coach. But at what cost? What happens when people who don’t have the toolkits and the SKILL SETS...
Dec 19, 2022•35 min•Season 1Ep. 320
How has this year been for you? Have you been GO, GO, GO? Are you EXHAUSTED? Have you been taking ANY real breaks to actually REST and RECHARGE? If this year has been BIG for you, this episode is your permission slip to really think about and PLAN to actually rest & recharge this holiday season. In this episode I cover: How to actively PRIORITIZE your rest AND what happens if we don’t The questions to ask yourself to discover what habits you need to change for 2023 What NOT to do this holida...
Dec 12, 2022•19 min•Season 1Ep. 319
Do you ALWAYS do the same thing every year for the holidays? Do you go to events you don’t want to go to? Do you feel STRESSED out by the whole festive season? I get it, there are too many presents to buy, too much food to cook, too many invitations and parties and events to go to. It’s a lot. In this episode, I invite you to think a little differently about what CHOICES you are making this holiday season. AND, what might the end of this year look like if you made a different choice? I cover: Wh...
Dec 05, 2022•19 min•Season 1Ep. 318
I wanna ask you, do you think you are addicted to social media? Are you ALWAYS on your phone? Are you always scrolling and scrolling and never getting the things you want to do, done? Do you take your phone to BED with you? Is it the first thing you look at when you wake up in the morning? This is not a podcast about social media being bad or negative - I built my whole business on social media and I LOVE it, okay? - but I want to share with you some knowledge I recently found out about HOW we a...
Nov 28, 2022•31 min•Season 1Ep. 317
My love, I had this piece of shower wisdom the other day - all my best thoughts come to me when I’m in the shower - and I just had to share with you. I was thinking about confidence and how what we REALLY need in order to become confidence, is actually courage. We need the courage to show up, to mess up, to get it wrong, to get back up again and again. That is how we then CREATE our confidence to do the things we want to do. In this solo episode, I invite you to dig into this idea of courage and...
Nov 21, 2022•20 min•Season 1Ep. 316
My love, this one has been a long time coming! I am SO excited to share this episode with you where I introduce you to Mon and Alisha, The Reels Queens who have skyrocketed their joint business as well as their own businesses using - you guessed it - Instagram Reels. When I say these two are Reels pros, I mean it - they have even created content for Instagram themselves! They have launched the World’s number 1 Reels course - Rise with Reels and have generated over $1Million in sales using Reels ...
Nov 14, 2022•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 315
I want you to think about what AREA in your life you might be struggling with right now? And how long have you been struggling in that area for? Do you think that NOW might be a good time for you to invest in yourself and get someone to support you through the thing you’re struggling with? A good mentor can help you to change your life in so many ways, but how do you know who to work with? With so many coaches, healers and mentors out there, how do you pick the right one? If you’ve ever felt con...
Nov 07, 2022•19 min•Season 1Ep. 314
It’s November my friend! The year is nearly over, can you believe that? I don’t know about you but this year has been WILD. So much change, so much growth, so many big things happening…it’s like we’ve all been sprinting after being on pause for two years, right? The end of the year is always a good time to stop for a second and think about where you’re at. Think about what your goals were for this year and if you’ve achieved them or not. And if not, then asking ourselves: What needs to change? W...
Oct 31, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 313
So you want to be a speaker? To get incredible, paid speaking gigs and the opportunity to deeply impact people with your words, your message… Well, in this week's episode I’m gonna keep it real with you. If you really, truly want to be a speaker, there are a few things, a few KEY STEPS you have to take to make that happen, to make it your reality. And Queens, I’m about to speak at Business Chicks! This is a HUGE bucket-list moment for me and I want to share with you what I did and what it took t...
Oct 24, 2022•32 min•Season 1Ep. 312
My love, let me tell you something. During and after the pandemic, the statistics show that more women than EVER have started their own businesses. More women, especially women of color, are quitting their jobs and going after their dreams. Amazing, right? The thing is, a LOT of people who want to start their own business have this idea of how it’s going to be so easy and they’ll be on the beach with their laptop and make all this money and have all this free time… BUT, I’m going to be really ho...
Oct 17, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 311
When was the last time you allowed yourself to ‘Think Big’? Those big, audacious crazy dreams and goals you have, you know the ones that even YOU think you’re crazy to have … the ones that make you “nerve-cited”? When was the last time you gave yourself permission to say them out loud or write them down? Queen, when you want to create things you’ve never created before - you gotta embrace #FWOT and think about what YOU really want, big things start to happen in your life and in your business. So...
Oct 10, 2022•24 min•Season 1Ep. 310
Are you putting yourself on hold? Have you been procrastinating on your dreams, your big goals, that thing you keep on telling yourself you’ll get around to ‘one day’? Do you begin to make a plan and then say ‘I don’t have the time’? I always hear people say ‘Well you’ve got as many hours in your day as Beyonce’ and yes, we all do have the same hours in our day as Beyonce BUT what resources does she have? What has she sacrificed? What CHOICE did she or any of the other women who HAVE WHAT YOU WA...
Oct 03, 2022•23 min•Season 1Ep. 309
Is there anything you’ve been wanting to do that you keep putting off? Maybe you’ve thought about doing it but the self doubt takes over and you put your dreams on the back burner once again? Maybe you’ve been waiting for the “perfect” time to go for your dreams? In today’s episode I want to share a pivotal moment with you that completely changed my life (and the life of millions of women around the world) This week my youngest child is about to turn five and everything you see in my world right...
Sep 26, 2022•32 min•Season 1Ep. 308
Turn this episode UP if you’re struggling to pick yourself up and keep on going 💯… If you feel like the world is against you, if you just had someone say no to you … that right there, it’s your power. In this one, I’m dishing you out a bit of tough love💘. You won’t achieve any of those dreams if you just QUIT every time you fail. Let me tell you, I’m still wearing the bruises from all my falls like fierce badges of honor👑. You need to get back up, brush that sh*t off and keep going because I ...
Sep 19, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 307
One of the toughest things in the world – especially for women who have had to learn to be strong – is being vulnerable. When you’ve spent your life building up walls just to protect yourself, we fight with every nerve not to take those defenses down! But being vulnerable can also be a gift. It’s real. It’s in the moment. It’s unapologetically you. It creates connection – not only within ourselves, but with those who love us and who want to love every inch of our bare souls. So today I’m getting...
Sep 12, 2022•21 min•Ep. 306
THIS episode right here is the reason you shouldn’t compare yourself to others. So much of what I do at The Queen of Confidence centers around sharing the stories of confidence, the epic wins and helping other women feel empowered to do the same. Who doesn’t want to shout it from the rooftops when things are going right for us?! But I also believe it’s important to talk about it when things aren’t going well. So in this episode, I’m sharing a big win – being nominated for seven prestigious busin...
Sep 05, 2022•22 min•Ep. 305
When it comes to relationships, we all think we know what we want. Somebody kind, thoughtful, funny, good-looking, or (insert your adjective of choice here!). But it’s rarely that simple. We spend a lot of time thinking about our ideal partner – but usually not enough time thinking about ourselves. So when I talk to women who are struggling with dating, I always start in the same place: What about YOU? What makes you feel loved? What do you want from a partner? Do you know what you need? Do you ...
Aug 29, 2022•29 min•Ep. 304
Sometimes, in order to reconnect, we have to disconnect. For someone like me, who loves being on and available and ready to go 24/7, I struggled with the idea of taking some time to recharge all the way up to getting on the plane. Five days at a spa?! Without my husband or kids?! (Or phone?!) It seemed crazy. But it was necessary. I read books. I journaled. I ate good food, slept well, and even tried equine therapy. I also let go – of thinking it’s all on me, my childhood pain, overworking. And ...
Aug 22, 2022•46 min•Ep. 303
Ladies, if you’ve ever been curious about being in aligmement when starting your own coaching business, today’s episode is for YOU! Today I talk to Jazze Jervis , who mentors women to six and seven figure success through strategy, mindset, energetics. The core of her work is mentoring the whole woman, with an emphasis on self exploration and connection back to our truth, our values, our desires, and what really drives us in life. Jazze shares how she got her start as a mentor, how coaching has e...
Aug 17, 2022•50 min•Ep. 302
As a little girl growing up in a rough neighborhood, who was in and out of foster care, who depended on food stamps, I never expected that one day I’d be able to buy a house. I was letting my past hold me back. “I’m too poor,” even though I wasn’t anymore. “I’m too Puerto Rican. I’m too whatever.” These beliefs were still keeping me down, years and years and years later. But I wanted to give that little foster kid inside me a home of her own. I wanted my kids to grow up in their own home. So I m...
Aug 08, 2022•20 min•Ep. 301
Ever heard the saying that change is the only constant in life? It’s true. Our lives are never the same day to day. Some days those changes are amazing – new job! New partner! New house! New baby! But other days, those same changes can feel scary: New responsibilities. New bills. New commitments. New vulnerabilities. So what can we do to stay strong and centered in the face of change? How can we remember, when we’re anxious to pursue our goals, that the growth waiting for us on the other side wi...
Aug 01, 2022•26 min•Ep. 300
The process of becoming is all about choices. When women say, “Damn, Erika, how did you get that career/house/husband?!” Here's what I say, “I had to choose this for myself”. And they were hard choices. I have had my share of trauma in my life. Abuse, loss, grief. It would have been so much easier to numb out every night on social media, or stay in a job I hated. To stay miserable in general. Here's the truth, we all have trauma and we all have choices to make. So today I want to share with you ...
Jul 25, 2022•36 min•Ep. 299
You know when you’re feeling on fire? Maybe your nails are fresh, or you’re wearing your favorite colour, or you just woke up really feeling yourself and just owning who you are? People seem to gravitate to you. They smile at you, compliment you, it feels like all's right with the world as things fall into place with ease…. You just feel good! It’s not about how you look – it’s about the vibe you’re putting out. You’re in flow. Sista, that is true confidence. It comes from knowing who you are, k...
Jul 18, 2022•17 min•Ep. 298
We can all pretty much agree: cults are bad. But if there’s one aspect we can steal from them (and improve on – no Kool-Aid here!), it’s the idea of creating a community – a close-knit group of likeminded people who are united under a common cause or goal. So what does that look like in our own lives, or for our own small businesses? For me, there are three keys to creating my own following that I want to share with you: understanding why you want to help people, being real and consistent, and q...
Jul 11, 2022•32 min•Ep. 297
Do you ever feel like your past is creating your future? Maybe the early loss of a loved one keeps you from getting close to people today. Maybe sexual trauma in your childhood prevents you from being intimate with your significant other. Maybe domestic abuse in a previous relationship makes you hesitant to fall in love again. Often, that’s your inner child – full of unresolved trauma, grief, and pain – calling out for Adult You to help, to listen, to accept. When we do this – and it can be diff...
Jul 04, 2022•34 min•Ep. 296
Ladies, we all want to leave a legacy. But for most of us, that’s a huge challenge – the world already feels full, and the Internet is already packed with noise. It can feel like we’re all competing over the same tiny piece of pie, especially as coaches. That’s why I made this episode – because this is what niching is all about. It’s claiming your space and owning your throne – in other words, laser-focusing on one specific area and making it yours. In fact, niching helps you establish an answer...
Jun 27, 2022•47 min•Ep. 295
We all do it: “He cheated on me!” “She stole my man!” “My mom lied to me!” “He manipulated me!” When we’re hurt, especially by people we love and trust, it’s easy to dwell on our pain and fall into a victim mindset. But when we do that, we get stuck – and we only hurt ourselves more. So how do we reframe this mentality into something that can rebuild and reaffirm us? In this episode, I share a life-changing reframe that’s given me a new sense of confidence, power, and freedom: “This person gave ...
Jun 20, 2022•21 min•Ep. 294
Holy moly Queen, Today I am sharing my insights and personal and very private feelings after watching Jennifer Lopez's Halftime Netflix Documentary I have loved Jennifer since I was a kid. She has and still is a massive expander for me. Today's episode is a very personal vulnerable share from me. Honestly, this is a level-up for me, I can feel it. I hope it resonates with you. If it does, reach out to me on Instagram or via email, I'd love to hear from you. Support@thequeenofconfidence.com Love ...
Jun 14, 2022•19 min•Ep. 293
