“I can do this…..Everything is fine….I am totally ok…” Any of this familiar? To tell you the truth, this was definitely my reality for many, many years. I only found out that it had something to do with creating a confident mindset. It means that you can choose how you want to react to a particular situation. It’s because your thoughts will create your feelings and that will have a great impact on your behavior and action. That’s why you have to learn the concept of your thoughts creating your r...
Dec 20, 2021•13 min•Ep. 262
I'm so obsessed with doing the workaround transformation. My whole life has been a perfect example of that. The woman I was many years ago is truly unrecognizable compared to the Erika of today. That’s why I want to share with you a little bit of my story because I may know what you’re going through right now… I know what it's like to doubt yourself and feel like you're not good enough. It’s also not new to me to know what it's like to suffer from shame, guilt, abandonment, loneliness, anxiety, ...
Dec 15, 2021•13 min•Ep. 261
Being confident requires so much hard work. And the journey to get there is an absolute rite of passage that knows no boundaries when it comes to feeling embarrassment, shame, discomfort, fear, and self-doubt. You name it! But when you create your true confidence, you are able to get into a space where you keep a hundred percent of your power to choose what you believe, how you feel, and how you’re gonna live your life. You know what? It's pretty incredible to live a life that way. It’s totally ...
Dec 13, 2021•13 min•Ep. 260
Can you believe it? Few days until Christmas. It's a different holiday season this year, no matter where you are in the world, I think we've all been impacted by the pandemic and what's going on. Here in Australia, it's pretty hectic because things are opening up. Everybody's going to be hanging out, shopping and doing all the things but for us this year, I feel like the more this goes down, the more introverted I feel. I can’t believe I’m saying that. If you have been listening to me, you know ...
Dec 06, 2021•19 min•Ep. 259
Sista, this episode is HOT. I’m pumped UP! If you’ve been blessed with a good life and you think you’re not messed up enough to work on yourself, this episode is for YOU. A lot of women say to me that they don’t have enough trauma to work on themselves. But you don’t need some crazy shit to have happened to you for it be trauma. We have ALL experienced trauma. Trauma isn’t the thing that happens to you, it’s what happens INSIDE of you. And it all goes back to childhood. If you felt sad, lonely, ...
Nov 28, 2021•16 min•Ep. 258
Shout out to all you women out there pursuing your business.. even if your partner thinks it’s just a hobby! When I first started my business, my husband didn’t believe I could do what I’m doing now. It wasn’t because he didn’t believe in ME. It was because we had two kids and he knew how risky it would be to start a new business. If you’re in the same boat, my bet is you’re feeling frustrated, lonely, angry and like you need some validation. I talked about this on Instagram recently and had SO ...
Nov 22, 2021•14 min•Ep. 257
Are you investing in yourself? I don’t mean buying handbags and getting your nails done. I mean, are you investing in your mindset, your behaviour, and your thinking? Are you investing in healing your trauma? Because NOT investing in yourself is actually costing you. It’s costing you time, money, and above all, happiness. If I didn’t spend money investing in myself to work through my shit, I would not be where I am today. It’s totally worth every cent and I spent A LOT of money! Over $150,000 ov...
Nov 15, 2021•27 min•Ep. 256
I live in Melbourne, the most locked-down city in the world. It’s been hard and strange and a wild ride that’s for sure. Whatever your thoughts are on lockdowns or vaccines or any of that, I wanted to have a conversation about what to do when you don’t agree with someone. People are losing their friendships, jobs, and family relationships over disagreements about this topic. We have to learn how to truly understand each other, even when we disagree. This is so important to me because we are livi...
Nov 08, 2021•41 min•Ep. 255
I’m currently throwing myself into Gabor Mate’s training to delve deeper into myself and find my Aha moments. Today was a big one. When I was five years old, I would visit my Mum in a psychiatric hospital. I was forever looking around and observing ways the staff could improve the way they treated patients and my Mum. Even as a little kid I had an attitude - even more than I have now. I was constantly fighting with the nurses and social workers on the medication my Mum should be taking and how t...
Nov 01, 2021•12 min•Ep. 254
I can’t wait for you to hear this episode. I am talking with the absolute best humans and hopefully one day my new neighbours! Haha! Meet Josee and Alicia. These amazing ladies have both struggled with their weight. Tried all of the diets and followed all of the rules. BUT none of them worked long-term. Sound familiar? But why didn’t they work? Because they were not creating their own way to achieve their goals. After finally finding her way to lose the weight for good, Josee used her strong pas...
Oct 28, 2021•1 hr 41 min•Ep. 253
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Oct 26, 2021•6 min•Ep. 252
Do you get triggered? Do you feel out of control or explosive in response to someone else’s actions? Today, I wanted to share with you what I’ve been learning with the incredible Gabor Mate. I’ve created an amazing space inside the Sistahood where women can be truly vulnerable and share their stories but my therapy friends kept warning me over and over that the women might get triggered by this experience. I don’t believe in triggers. I don’t think we CAN trigger people. That’s passing your powe...
Oct 25, 2021•18 min•Ep. 251
I have such a special treat for you today as I talk with my beautiful friend, Sheree Rubstein. Sheree is the founder of One Roof which, pre covid, was Australia’s #1 co-working space dedicated to women. Now it is a thriving online community for female leaders and entrepreneurs. With over 700 members, Sheree’s work with One Roof is all about uplifting women and supporting them to step outside their comfort zones, smash glass ceilings and break through barriers that hinder success. In this episode...
Oct 20, 2021•56 min•Ep. 250
Look out business ladies, this is an episode for YOU. If you’re ready to scale your business, double your money and your impact, then Scale Squad might be the thing you’re looking for. But don’t take my word for it, check out what the amazing women from this year have to say. In this episode, I’m joined by 4 of my business queens from the Scale Squad Mastermind who are absolutely killing it! We talk about why they chose to invest in themselves, some of the amazing wins they’ve experienced since ...
Oct 18, 2021•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 249
Last week my son Navah turned 4! I wanted to share this moment with you because I’ve been reflecting back on the years since his birth. A LOT has changed. People see the success of where I am now but I want to tell you what life was like for me back then. Three and a half years ago we were broke. When I say broke, I mean absolutely BROKE! My husband’s gym business struggled through Christmas every year and we were scrounging for coins in the car to buy bread. Fast forward to now, a whopping five...
Oct 11, 2021•16 min•Ep. 248
I have such a treat for you today as I chat with the incredible Bronnie Ware. You’ve probably heard me rave about her book, The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying, which has sold millions of copies around the world. Bronnie is an international best selling author, sought-after speaker, and an all round amazing, humble and inspiring human being. In this episode, Bronnie and I dive into her story, how she transitioned from corporate life to follow her heart’s desire for creativity and 14 years later lande...
Oct 06, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 247
I want to chat about a topic we don’t talk about much - Anger. Anger can mess you up and make you feel out of control. All my childhood trauma caused me to build a hard outer shell, refuse to let anyone in, and constantly have my guard up. Does that sound familiar? But the shit that protected you as a child, will fuck you over as an adult. I’ve learnt that true strength comes from exposing yourself and being vulnerable. I had to do the work to become softer so I could grow and let others in. Bec...
Oct 04, 2021•26 min•Ep. 246
Do you have big, huge, incredible dreams? Are your life and business goals Oprah level? BUT do you actually focus on them? With everything you have? We all know that not many people get what they want - their ultimate dream. So what makes the ones who do, different? This episode is for the game changers, the trail blazers, the change makers. If you’re here on this earth to do big, life changing work - this one’s for you. The most important fire you have to build in your chest is your ‘why’ and i...
Sep 27, 2021•20 min•Ep. 245
I am so excited to introduce you to my guest for today’s episode. Hannah Spilva is the co-founder of the gorgeous flower delivery company, LVLY and together with her co-founder Verity Tuck, they are changing the shape of the gifting industry in Australia. Y’all know that I don’t align myself with many brands. I get sent a lot of requests to review products, try services and talk about them on my Instagram, but I’m really intentional with who I align myself with. LVLY flowers are definitely a com...
Sep 23, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 244
THIS IS WHAT DOING THE WORK LOOKS LIKE. Ok, so I know I harp on about how incredibly important it is to do the INNER work... To make peace with your past and to create the life you desire by letting go of the beliefs that hold you back… And maybe you’ve thought “yeah, yeah Erika, but HOW?!” - It feels impossible at times”.... Or maybe you’ve heard me speak about The SISTAHOOD and wondered what it’s like to work with me inside of this incredible community. Well this week on the podcast you’re in ...
Sep 20, 2021•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 243
Do you know the power of YOUR story? Every day we are given a gift to learn from the things we experience in life. The mistakes and failures. The heartache and struggles. They are ALL opportunities to find your inner power. In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with the amazing Tory Archbold who is the CEO of Powerful Steps. We talk all about her journey of self-discovery, finding success and owning her truth to step into her power. I feel so honoured to reflect with my sista on the c...
Sep 13, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 242
Are you feeling those heavy vibes? There are so many things going on in the world right now and if we’re not vigilant to protect our energy, it can really start to affect us in a negative way. We need to protect our energy at all costs. I’ve had a lot of people contact me about their fears and concerns lately so I thought it would be helpful to talk about some of the things I’ve been doing to pandemic proof my energy. Do a little scan of yourself right now. Start paying attention to how you feel...
Sep 08, 2021•26 min•Ep. 241
Are you worn out? As women in business, we work non stop. We hustle to get all the things done. There’s a thrill that comes along with being in that energy, but it’s also not GOOD for us. We need to get off the treadmill and find the space to breathe, to go within and find another way of being so that we can really make the impact we want to make without burning out. That’s exactly what I’m talking about today with my incredible soul sista, Emma Isaacs. Emma is the Global CEO of Business Chicks,...
Sep 06, 2021•58 min•Ep. 240
Life gives us a bunch of crazy shit sometimes. Is the crazy bringing you down? Are you feeling anxious? Depressed? Are anger and frustration taking over? Have you lost your sense of purpose and everything seems too hard? You can’t always change circumstances but you CAN decide where you choose to put your focus. My invitation to you today is to tune into the solution. Stop feeding the problem by paying attention to it. Turn off the negativity, turn off the fear and raise your awareness to someth...
Aug 30, 2021•20 min•Ep. 239
This episode is an IGTV that I did recently, and I really wanted you to hear it too. So listen up! We do not need division. We need understanding. We need love. We need discernment. Love thy neighbour. Work on healing YOUR trauma We do not need anymore division ❤️ I love you xx 👑 Where To Find Erika: Want all my confidence secrets for $39? Grab a SIGNED copy of MY BOOK Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence Facebook: @Theconfidencequeen YouTube: The Queen Of Confidence LinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.c...
Aug 26, 2021•43 min•Ep. 238
This one’s for the lovers out there. You CAN have beautiful, flourishing, romantic relationships… if you do the work. But what do you do when you’ve been working on yourself and your partner’s journey is only just beginning? It can be really frustrating when you’ve unravelled your stories, healed your trauma and experienced real growth and expansion in your life and your partner isn’t quite there yet. We get impatient. “Why aren’t they making progress?” “Why are they STILL struggling with the sa...
Aug 23, 2021•34 min•Ep. 237
There’s a difference between having knowledge and actually knowing something. People have a lot of knowledge about a bunch of things, but until we actually see results in our lives, we don’t really know it. We have knowledge about how we should take care of our bodies, how we need to eat and rest to stay healthy. But unless you’re actually doing those things, it’s just knowledge. Saying “I know” will only stop you from actually learning and block you from taking action. What is it that you don’t...
Aug 15, 2021•18 min•Ep. 236
There’s a LOT going on in the world at the moment. And there’s a lot of division too. We’re not all going to see eye to eye and that's okay. In fact, it’s expected. Everyone thinks their view is right and the other view is wrong. We don’t have to agree. But we CAN try to understand. Check in with yourself here. Have you tried to understand where someone with a different point of view is coming from? Have you acted out of compassion and kindness towards people who think differently to you? Or are...
Aug 11, 2021•16 min•Ep. 235
At the time of recording this episode, Melbourne, the city I live in, had just gone into its fifth, scratch that; sixth lockdown. And it sucks. I’m ok. Because I’m doing the work, I’m armed with tools to help me and I know it’s making me more patient and resilient and expansive. But what about the people who don’t know what to do? What about the people who are deeply struggling and have no way of coping? My heart breaks for those people. As a coach and a leader, I think it’s really important to ...
Aug 09, 2021•25 min•Ep. 234
Do you feel a sense of disconnection from your body? How do you respond when you think about being erotic? What are your thoughts around pleasure? So many women are missing out on the enjoyment of life and all it has to offer, including sex, because they are bound by guilt, shame, and stuck in their heads. We think too much and forget how to BE in our bodies. If you can resonate with any of this, girl have I got an episode for you. My guest today is Tamica Wilder, a Melbourne based somatic sex c...
Aug 02, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 233
