This is a lesson that I'm in the middle of right now. As ya'll know, I recently had surgery and it's been full on. I've been pushing myself too hard, running around still doing all the things without truly acknowledging how I'm feeling. I'm sore. I'm tired. I've got a million thoughts happening with all the things I want to do. I'm so passionate about all the injustice that's going on in the world right now and I want to serve. But listen, if you're not stopping to acknowledge what your body and...
Jun 26, 2020•20 min•Ep. 142
It’s been a big year. A BIG year! As most of you know, I recently had surgery to have my breast implants removed after 13 years and then a breast lift. Ya’ll it really knocked me out and I really didn’t think it was going to be such a big deal. It took a lot of time to heal and now I’ve hit the ground running with live events starting back up and so many things happening, including my birthday!I just turned 37 and I feel like I’ve learned so much this year. These thoughts were pouring out of me ...
Jun 22, 2020•30 min•Ep. 141
I'm back y'all. I can't begin to describe how incredible I feel. I still have some swelling and some pain, but nothing too bad at all. I'm feeling like my normal self again and it feels amazing to have a clear head and energetic body. What this space y'all - we've got all the things to plan!This is the third episode in my breast implant removal series. Make sure to listen to the previous episodes first to get the full story!Connect with Erika:Instagram: @thequeenofconfidenceFacebook: @Theconfide...
Jun 19, 2020•9 min•Ep. 140
It has been a weird few days post implant removal surgery. The pain medication has caused some really tough side effects that caused me to feel like I've been in a daze for the last few days. I couldn't focus, my headaches were intense and my expectations as to how quickly I'd be able to bounce back from this were way off. This has been quite an intense experience and has required a lot more rest and healing than my initial breast surgery 14 years ago. I have stopped taking the pain medication a...
Jun 17, 2020•8 min•Ep. 139
Ya'll know I like to keep it real, so over the next few episodes on the podcast, I'm going to share with you my journey through my breast reduction surgery. When I was 23 years old I had a breast lift done because I was really self-conscious with the way they looked at the time. They were big still, but they were saggy and I really didn't feel good about them. So I had a lift and in order to do the lift, I had saline implants put in to give them good shape. It has now been almost 14 years since ...
Jun 15, 2020•18 min•Ep. 138
Y'all know there's a lot going on right now and there are a lot of people that are not speaking out, because they feel like they don't know what to say, or they're going to get it wrong, or they don't know enough. I'm here to tell you that's not good enough. It's not good enough to stay silent because you're not confident to speak up because you don't know enough to feel like you can contribute. You need to learn. You need to research and you need to find a way to be an active part of this movem...
Jun 11, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 137
My love, I have a very special guest for you on the podcast today, Madhavi Shankar. I found her when I was looking through Ted Talks and came across a really interesting talk that she gave around gender bias and women's empowerment. Y'all know I'm all about the women's empowerment and I felt called to have Madhavi on the podcast to share her story. Madhavi is the real deal. She is the CEO and founder of Space Basic which is a networking app for student housing communities. She was voted as one o...
Jun 09, 2020•38 min•Ep. 136
With everything that's going on right now in the USA around the murder of George Floyd, I have been feeling really heavy. So I decided to record an IGTV to address a lot of the comments, posts and conversations I was witnessing online. If you'd like to go and watch the IGTV, head to my Instagram. Listen stop feeling guilty for being privileged and start taking action to make some much needed change. I keep reading posts from people feeling sorry for their privilege. Feeling guilt and shame aroun...
Jun 01, 2020•13 min•Ep. 135
We're giving each other advice that we probably don't even realise is literally some of the worst advice that we can give each other. When you say, "Just be yourself", what does that actually mean? It means staying within the boundaries of who you currently are. Or maybe it freaks you out because you don't really know who you are. You think that you need to act a certain way, or be a certain thing because that's who you've always been, but ladies - that ain't serving you.You need to be open to e...
May 29, 2020•17 min•Ep. 134
Recently it was the anniversary of my first husband, Jeo's death and I received some messages on Instagram from people that got me thinking about this idea of feeling "sad" when someone has passed away. Today on the podcast, Hamish and I chat about how we celebrate Jeo and why we don't like this "death guilt" mentality. Why is it that for the one day a year that we truly acknowledge someone's death there's this expectation that we need to be sad? This idea that we need to sit in suffering and mo...
May 25, 2020•23 min•Ep. 133
I've been getting messages lately from people who are concerned that they've been copping flack for expressing their opinions on social media. Whatever the topic is, it doesn't matter but certainly right now in the time of COVID it's really being highlighted how different our views can be. My love, I need you to understand that's okay. We're not all supposed to agree. We've all come to our own conclusions in our own unique way.Remember that your social media is your place and you are entitled to...
May 22, 2020•12 min•Ep. 132
Today I have a very special guest. She is not only a dear friend but is a boss woman with so many skills it is ridiculous, Lina Escamilla. Lina lives in South America and is a business coach with an incredible story of resilience and tapping into her authentic power. We met on a business summit that Lina was hosting and there was an instant connection. Lina pours her heart and soul into everything she does. She emphasises the importance of adding value AHEAD of time which y'all know I talk about...
May 18, 2020•50 min•Ep. 131
Can you consume too much personal development information? The answer is basically no, but it's more involved than that. The issue is whether you take ACTION on what you're consuming. If you're not taking action on what you're consuming, you're not really doing anything. You're just taking in a bunch of info that you don't do anything with. That's what I'm breaking down today. As I mentioned in the episode, try to focus on one area of your life that's really messing with you right now and take A...
May 13, 2020•10 min•Ep. 130
As you may know, my husband and I used to be in a cult. The guy who ran it was a business coach and we were in his program for two years. It was full on and as much as we learned a lot and it was incredible in hindsight, the values of this man and the narcissistic behaviour were huge red flags that we didn't see at the time. We were allowing his values to take over us and when we finally got it, we realised how far out of alignment we were with this guy.So I'm talking directly to my business lad...
May 11, 2020•23 min•Ep. 129
Y'all it's almost Mother's Day, and I wanted to share with you a really special conversation that I had with my mum at the end of last year. This was just after my father had flown back to Peurto Rico after being in Australia with us for Christmas. I had not seen him in 20 years and I flew him out for the first time ever. My mum had not seen him in 25 years. It was a big fucking deal and there were a lot of emotions.So I wanted to talk to my mum about how she felt about reuniting with him after ...
May 08, 2020•17 min•Ep. 128
I received a great question via my website for our Q&A today ladies! The question was this: How to not let your own insecurities about your body interfere with your sex life with your partner when they have a better physique than you do. How do you not let your feelings of low self-esteem or low self-worth cock-block you from having the intimate relationship that you want to have?I did a podcast on this topic a little while ago "Why You Need To Love Your Body TODAY" so first of all, go and l...
May 06, 2020•8 min•Ep. 127
My friends, I am extremely excited to present my guest for today, Marlee Liss. This has been one of my most favourite episodes I've done as an interview so far. I cried many times and I feel the message that Marlee has to share is such an important one. Marlee has an absolutely extraordinary story. She was sexually assaulted when she was 21 years old and the court proceedings that followed actually concluded in restorative justice. Basically this is where the focus is on repair rather than punis...
May 04, 2020•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 126
During this weird ass time I've been getting a lot of questions from y'all about how to stop yourself from feeling all the anxious thoughts due to all the uncertainty. The answer is fairly simple, don't go future. All you need to do right now is to stay here and acknowledge that in this moment, you have everything you need. Look at how many of your thoughts are in a future that hasn't come yet. Use this time to exercise presence. What are you thinking? Who are you listening to? What are you payi...
May 01, 2020•11 min•Ep. 125
My love, you don't need to hold everything together all the time. You're telling yourself that you need to hold it together for your partner, your kids, your work, your health but there's nothing healthy about "holding it together". You need to let some of the pressure out or you're going to explode like a fucking shaken up champagne bottle. If you don't relieve the pressure on a regular basis, shit's going to get real. But there's a big caveat to this ladies - this permission to break down is o...
Apr 27, 2020•19 min•Ep. 124
After so many episodes of the Confidence Chronicles podcast, I've realised that I've barely spoken about death and the grieving process. As you may know, my husband Jeo died in 2007 and I had never had anyone close to me die before. I had no idea how to handle it, process it and work through it at the time so I suppressed the emotions. It wasn't until I discovered the work of Byron Katie that I began to process and understand what grief meant for me personallyThe more I work on myself, the more ...
Apr 24, 2020•27 min
If you're looking to start your business right now, or maybe you've been at it for awhile and you're not gaining the traction that you think you should be, this podcast episode is for you. Stop waiting until you've got all your shit together. Stop waiting for the website to be finished, the perfect logo, the mailing list subscribers....all the things. Stop making excuses for not starting, and just start. Use social media the way it is meant to be used. Connect. Engage. Share. Be real. You're nev...
Apr 20, 2020•13 min•Ep. 122
Look, I know you're sick of hearing about COVID19 and I know you're probably getting a million emails from businesses talking about it too. I don't want to add to it and I know we all just want to get on with our lives, but the fact of the matter is right now things are different. Life is different and how are you handling it? Like really, deep down, how are you handling your current situation, whatever that looks like for you.There are a few things that I'm witnessing that I wanted to bring to ...
Apr 17, 2020•19 min•Ep. 121
I've got a super special guest with me today for our Q & A Tuesday. Hamish is here with me to chat about how to cope as a couple in COVID. We're running an online coaching session on Saturday at 10:30am AEST to talk through this very thing, so get your butts there and sign up. If you can't make it to the call, still register and you'll be able to watch the replay.Visit my website for all the ways you can work with me online right nowUPCOMING VIRTUAL EVENT:Power Couples Masterclass with Erika...
Apr 15, 2020•23 min•Ep. 120
Éste episodio están importante porque estoy hablando de cómo manejar tu mente en tiempos como estos es más importante que nunca entender lo que estás pensando. Tus pensamientos son todo, si no sabes lo que estás pensando no puedes cambiar tus resultados en tu vida Tus pensamientos son todo, si no sabes lo que estás pensando no puedes cambiar tus resultados en tu vida.Cómo piensas afecta cómo te sientes, tus emociones, que afecta las acciones que tomas y termina en los resultados que tienes. Si n...
Apr 13, 2020•16 min•Ep. 119
I'm bringing back my Q&A Tuesday that I used to run every Tuesday on Instagram Live. I'm so happy to have the space to do this for you again. The question for today is:How do I get Out Of The Current Situation I Am in?X EAs live events are postponed until further notice, we are taking all our coaching and masterclasses ONLINE. Keep up to date on what we have got going on via our website. 👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast! 👑 Loving this pod...
Apr 08, 2020•13 min•Ep. 118
My love, listen up. Stop this ridiculous thought that if you're a mother, you can't also have a thriving business. I get questions all the time from women asking how I run my business and also have two kids. You know what, it doesn't have to be that difficult. You're making it difficult by thinking that you need to be everything to everybody. As much as I'm telling you here that you CAN have a business and be a great mother, you also need to recognise that you CAN'T do it all. There are sacrific...
Apr 06, 2020•29 min•Ep. 117
I'd like you to take a look at how you respond when you're under pressure. Do you try to hide from the issue, do you try and run away from it and pretend it doesn't exist, or maybe your adrenals kick in and you try to fight your way through it. Hamish is joining me on the podcast today to help talk us through this "fight or flight" response that we're all currently experiencing and how we can help ourselves out. It's so easy to get overwhelmed and slip into high stress, but what will that ultima...
Mar 27, 2020•34 min•Ep. 115
Never has there ever been a better time to work on yourself my love. If you have been listening to my podcast, following me on Instagram and you are connecting with my message, I invite you to join the Sistahood. This work is so important right now more than ever before. This community that we're building is having such a profound impact on the lives of the women that are in there together. We are creating space for each other, sharing our stories, feeling safe to unravel and working on our mind...
Mar 23, 2020•13 min•Ep. 114
I've got some fire coming at you right now ladies so get ready. Listen to this episode. Re-listen to this episode. Listen to this over and over again until it starts to sink in because I feel like it's not getting through to people!I'm sharing with you some very simple tips that you can start doing TODAY to help manage your mind and not freak the fuck out.I'm not downplaying the situation. I'm not telling you that this bitch ain't a serious as hell problem. All I'm sharing with you is the ways t...
Mar 19, 2020•17 min•Ep. 113
My love, we need to talk about what’s going down right now in the world. I don’t really want to be doing a coronavirus episode because frankly, I don’t want to give this more fuel, but what I do want to do is check in with y’all and make sure that you’re doing okay and that you’ve got your mind sorted. How are you managing your mind right now, because what’s going down is crazy. The panic buying is out of control, the stress levels are high and people are glued to the news. That’s accelerating f...
Mar 17, 2020•33 min•Ep. 112
