Episode 96 - How do You Create True Connection with Other People and Overcome Fear of Rejection

Hello and welcome. Health and wellness became a passion of mine because I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer at age 14. And after nine long years of suffering I self Healed my body,

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community. I'm so excited for the day get to meet you and give you a hug. And before we get in today's episode and why my makeup is like this and all the things of ally fashion week if you've been following me oh my god, I just have so much to say and I want to say I'm proud of

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this is my cosmic painting. We are in my bed. As you guys know, I love my bed. I am obsessed with my bed. I write in my bed I if I'm not doing like videos like this, I'm normally in my bed like client calls. I'm in my bed. I love my bed. This is all off. This is this. This is a secret thing my best friend Michelle manage gave me it's a dream catcher. But anyway, so today, I was a little bit hungover. I thought I was gonna go to my desk. And I said you know what, I'm just gonna do it

in my bed. Because that's how I feel and good on me for showing up. So anyway, let this I just want this to be really short podcast because obviously I'm you know, my own lands but I wore my makeup stuff from last night and LA Fashion Week was amazing. You guys have so much inspiration and I feel like what I want to share with you or what like the learning for me was it's like, just own who you are. Like, the more that you own who you are you claim who you are, you're just sharing the truth of

you. People are always gonna mag connect with you and be magnet magnetized towards you from that like it just law. And I questioned like I went two nights out of the four nights like all the people I met I've like everyone, everyone that we're selling DMS talking messaging and like such like sincere connections. And it's so interesting. I feel like I've gone to like business networking events. And it's not been like that. It's been much more transactional, like what do you

do? What do you do? What do you do? What do you do? What do you do? What do you do what you do? And I feel like creating authentic connections starts with one just accepting yourself like accepting the truth of who you are, and allowing yourself just to share from that place. So for an example, because I'm going to back this up so it's really interesting because there's a guy that I'm kind of seeing right now that I really Like,

he's really fun. I like him. I feel like I'm learning a lot from him very different on how we view like loving connection like very, very different, which is fine. But he did. So anyway, he knows going to LA Fashion week I had a great night with him on Thursday night, I went to LA Fashion week Friday, we hung out Saturday. And then I went Sunday LA Fashion Week. But we had a big fight on Saturday. And I'm going to get to why this is

relevant, like a big fight. Like I just felt like we communicated very clearly that we had different ideas on love and connection. And it was like, there was a very clear agreement of like, what he didn't want to experience what I didn't want to experience. Well, after we won the state, I feel like he did, but I did not want to experience like he did something right in front of me that I felt like it was not what I wanted, it was it

was like a contract breaker. So it left with me leaving his house, like crying like a mess, like just a mess. And, um, I was up to like three, Saturday crying and I had a meeting at 9am I had to show up for right like I had to show up my imagined community. And then I had a friend who was coming over, I had two meetings, another meeting for the podcast video that will be here. And I had a client call on Sunday and

LA Fashion Week. So like there was a drama that occurred and I couldn't like just sit and soak in the drama. Like I literally had to move forward with my life. I just didn't have time. So I go out have a great family Fashion Week. And what I wanted to say like from this dating scenario to let's say brand new connections is like both of them. I feel like why it's such a powerful connection, even though I'm still not totally

over this, like we're talking. I mean, we're talking about it, but I still don't really have like a resolve of like feeling good about it. Because I feel like he intentionally right. His intent was I was honest about who I was, in my connection, he intentionally did something where I was boundary breaking, like, in a way like he did it with intent. I guess he's claiming an intent. But I that's what I still don't know. Yeah, I

don't have a resolve on it. Um, where, what's beautiful, though, about that experience, what I will say is, even when that happened, it's like the rules were very clear from the beginning, which is like eight months ago, the rules were very clear from the very, very beginning of what, what I wanted what I desired. And I feel like when I went to LA Fashion Week, like the very beginning of every relations, like very obvious who I am like, it's not like, I'm never going to be the person

like at this moment, right? It's just like a is like a girlfriend. Like I'm not looking for a guy. I'm not looking to go home with someone like I never have a guy ever at any event that I'm at ever asked me to go home with them. Like I've never had that happen in years just because I don't give that vibe and like guys carry a certain respect for a woman who can hold that and when you're honest and your connection if I was looking for that shirt guy would take me home, that's what I wanted.

There's something wrong if you want that it's just not where I'm at in my life. Um, but what I'm saying is, like when you're honest and your energy and you're clear about who you are and what you want. Like you just attract amazing connections, you attract people who come and you attract people who value the truth of you. And it's not like you're living in this illusion, I guess I'm trying to say is connection maybe this podcast

should be called connection. How do you really create great connection because that's something I feel like I'm so good. I'm feel like I'm really really nailed down authentic, sustainable, deep, true connection. And that's why I have so many amazing people in

my life. And that is a testament of my character of who I am and the standard I hold for myself, right I have a very high standard of where I need to perform who I'm at, like doesn't matter if I was crying it till 3am in the morning because of

this drama that happened. I'm going to show up and do anything doesn't matter those last night partying, and I show up and do my 7am Call my 8am walk my 9am you know podcast, but I'm still being authentic my intention like Hey guys, I'm hung over here and I think we have this narrative that we're so afraid to be who we are we're so afraid just today I actually don't want a boyfriend or maybe I want multiple boyfriends or maybe I want no girlfriend or maybe I want multiple girlfriends or

we're just so afraid to be honest about what we want and who we are and I think when we do that it hinders all of our connections because we're not like like like I think of last night right there was like one guy specific gave me these sunglasses that are so epic I need to find them and my friend that I went with right he was like kind of flirty with a bunch of people but she actually getting jealous man like we're at a party. You know what I'm

saying? Like and he's whatever flirty more like me, let's say right? i He wasn't really flirting with me. He like gave me glasses. He just it was like this but it's like because I never I didn't have a need for an attention and have a need for like connection. I didn't have a need for like I didn't need him

or anything. It was just pure desire that's what it is, you know what, when you are at an event and you are sharing who you are from pure desire not a need for attention not a need for money not a need for whatever your connection with men, your connection with women, your connection with other people is going to be just so beautiful. Um and so I guess the moral of this podcast really where I want to let it be because I feel like I shared a

lot of stories there. And I'm just reflecting on my name all the people I'm share the thoughts you're having in your head outside. So even if it just a person for a moment share, like, what do you think of this fashion line? Or what do you think like even one of the shows, it's kind of like this BDSM kind of like facial makeup. And one of the guys now we're talking about that. And that can be a weird topic for a stranger,

right? But it like, actually, it was so beautiful and brought us closer, and I connected with him. And he was amazing. And then like this one girl was kind of rude and pushed him between me and other girls, like excuse me that you have manners to come. So sorry, I'm sorry, that's fine. But you can sell manners. Like you can do it with grace. You can do things with love, you can do things with compassion, you can you can say what's happening inside of your mind inside of you to the

external world. And the more you do that, like you just communicate, like authentically what's running through you what's pulsating through you, even if it's even if it comes off dramatic. Like with that guy, I've definitely said some things that were dramatic. And I said some things that were kind of like, ooh, knife throwing. Um I definitely did that. But I feel like it was still true to me. And when you do that men, especially men or women, they

will respond. When they see that they they've done to me maybe hurtful or they don't want or they will respond with a place of compassion, with the pace of grace. So those whole podcasts on connection and I think but I want to say the message here is be more authentic to you be more true to you. Say the truth of what's happening inside of you to the external world. Let people connect with you. Don't be so afraid. Ah, that's so powerful. Don't be so afraid of who you are. Don't be so afraid

of your thoughts. Don't be so afraid of your feelings. Don't be so afraid of your light of your darkness of your jealousy or possessiveness or controlling or beauty or luxury or bliss or laughter like Don't be so afraid to just experience it all and share it all like the more that you do that I promise you like people will receive you obviously not from a way of like your you know, being unhealthy

or abusive. But if you're sharing it from a heart place if this is really what's alive inside of me I promise you like like just the best things happen in your life is made up of relationships. I really do believe more and more that the happiness of your life like how happy you are and how fulfilled you are is going to be the result of your relationships. So So anyway, I hope this serves you. I hope you love this and please make sure

leave a review subscribe. But I want you to know that your best life your best connections are yet to come and I feel like LA Fashion Week was honestly a reminder of that for me that I love this little light right here that that the best is always yet to come I feel like LA Fashion Week was at my best relationships are yet to come. I think LA Fashion Week was a remembrance for me and an

activation to to be all of me. I think all of us need that reminder sometimes to be all of us to let the beauty shine through us and accepting ours ourselves not being so afraid of ourselves. Making sure that we create connection like through phone numbers or through Instagram I was a social media is better than phone numbers, but through social media through whatever so that we stay connected and you have to follow up with your

connections. You can't just make a connection Mia like you didn't be like oh my god, it was so great meeting you and get it on. When you do that. I promise you the world does shift. So I love you have a great start to the week and we'll talk soon