Episode 91 The Art and Science Behind Manifestation Part 1 of 3 Series with Mo Naboulsi - The Masculine & Feminine of Manfestaiton

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check it out. I love you and enjoy this part one of part three episode series The Art and Science of manifestation. All right, hey, guys, I'm super excited for this collaboration that Moe and I are doing. It's a three episode series for both of our podcast. And we really want to dive deep into this of really going in the art and the science of manifestation. And so this is our first one, we are just gonna basically flow have a dialogue conversation like you guys are probably used to us doing

individually. And this week one, the part one of three is going to be the masculine and feminine of manifestation, to really begin to understand the difference between both the masculine and feminine manifestation, why it's important to understand the balance and what each individually mean and also how to merge them together. So mo it gets to you anything else you want to add for this or anything like that?

Well, I just want everybody that's listening to keep an open mind that this, that this isn't the end all be all these are just our opinions, what we're able to take on what we've able to gather over the course of the years that we've been on this Earth, our perception. And hopefully it can give you some insight to be able to take what is useless, I mean, excuse me take what is useful and discard what is useless, useless to you.

And I really believe in that mantra because what ends up happening is everybody believes what they want to believe but they tend to side with, you know, a bias and and I just I strongly urge everyone listening to just be able to put together their own perception of what they're listening and and to be

able to utilize. Maybe something thing that we said resonated with you man or woman, and you're able to apply it to your to your life and it becomes part of your belief system, it becomes part of your ritual becomes part of your habits, then that's a win. Yeah, right.

I think that, I think, too, when we're talking about the science and art of manifestation, even masculine and feminine, like, there are going to be things based on your life journey based on your life path that you resignate with, and things that

you just are repulsed by. And I think the power and listening to something in that conversation Mo and I are about to dive into is beginning to feel into intuition beginning to feel into your body of what feels right for you, and what doesn't, and then what feels right for you to begin to cultivate habits and practices that allow you to design a life that's empowering you to be a master of how you want to feel and how you want to go throughout this life with memories and experiences. So

anyway, I'm super excited. And I guess we could just start off even with the first thing is like, what do you feel like manifestation is if you had to describe it? What would you say it is? Manifestation to me is the culmination of, I guess, culmination of like a force, or a collective of pursuits that I've been able to compile into my belief system, at the core of who I am. And a lot of it had to do with really trying to discover the future self versus the present self versus the past

self. And having the understanding of how to manifest from, you know, let's call it a masculine energy. As a man, it's been, it's been a journey, because it's not what most people think it is, it's like, I'm pretty sure most people when they hear the word manifest, they think of the law of

attraction. And, and they leverage that book or documentary that came out where, you know, I'm going to, I'm going to write down on a piece of paper that I'm going to make a million dollars, and then magic $1 million is going to come into play. What's interesting, and I think Joe Dispenza, Dr. Joe Dispenza, touches a lot on this, which is the the little bit more of the science and a little bit of the

art combined. Whereas he explains that really, manifestation, all it truly is, and this is my own definition, is being able to understand that you are trying to put yourself in this rhythm in this energy field of the future versus the story as of the past. And so what ends up happening is we all do it. negative self talk, oh, you know, like, your, you know, your wife did something that pissed you off? Oh, she's never

gonna do that. I don't understand why she doesn't clean the house, I don't understand why I have to go outside of the things that I that are my chores list, or the things that I have to get done or my responsibility and why this why that? Or why can I make $3,000 Why do I only make $3,000 a month? Why can I make 10,000? Why does this person make so much more money

than I do? Why does this why this Oh, woe is me victim mentality, start to put yourself in past and start to put yourself in, in a negative mindset. And all you're doing is you are telling yourself what you're going to get, and you're creating a frequency. That is, I call it the bitch frequency,

from a man's perspective. And I don't think that's true, I think as a man with masculine energy, you should be you know, it's a combination of understanding what it means to be tender, and to be kind and to be generous and to be decisive and to be a leader and to be strong and to be full of grit and discipline and resilience. And and it's it's a combination of of all of those things, but if you're constantly putting yourself in the frequency of yesterday of Oh, woe is me, I can't do this.

And I can't do that and negative self talk constantly all the time, then you're no longer going to be you're no longer to be the in the in the frequency of creation. And that's what I think masculine energy for me is, is to be constantly in the frequency of creation. And that was a long winded definition of that but this is this is my culmination of the years that I've been on this earth and what I've been trying to put together and that's what's been working for me so far. What about you?

Yeah, but it's so I love what you shared on so many levels. That's so important and I do agree with that, that people think of manifestations like law of attraction are the secret and manifestation is a science it is neurologically proven and manifestation isn't a job where you go to nine to five it's a lifestyle manifestation is a way of being it's a way of what you said of you tap into yourself, what is your belief system, how do you operate and then you will literally see why your life is

the way that it is. It's it's a way of Yeah, the way Life, I think it's very simple, just a way of life in a way of how you be in from that beingness you cultivate anything you want, right? And that's like example, if you dream small, like it was funny, I was just at a party this weekend. And this one guy was like, oh, what's your dream and I was joking. I was ago, I'll buy a yacht one day, and

he's like, dream bigger. And I was like, Well, I actually want to be one of the first investors like when we have spaceports. Like instead of like airports, like when we have like spaceships, and I want to be one of the investors and like designing that we'll have like different design teams, like going to be leaving the earth. So it's like different than just airplanes. And I think that'd be really cool. These like, think

bigger. And I'm like, and it was so funny, because he kept getting me to think bigger and like what my dreams were, and I just loved it. Because that is like the art and science of manifestation that gives a place of getting you to think in a way that you normally don't think, getting you to think of the impossible and like, yeah, allowing your mind to that.

Because the more you focus on whatever it is you want, the more that's going to become your reality, like, the more it's going to become a thing so that I think manifestation is a way of being it's a way of life. It's basically tracking your thoughts. And that is the way it is. And I think what you said and I want to go into this episode, which we want to talk about in this three part series is the masculine and feminine of of manifestation. And neither is wrong. Like there's many ways to

manifest, right? You can sit there and you can obsessively think oh my god, this is what I want. This way when someone text me if someone texts me again, million dollars, if they win the lottery, right, you could do

those things, right. And that's more of a feminine, obsessive mentality when like we're obsessing over things, but the masculine way of manifestation is really looking at, do you have a strong foundation like masculine is infrastructure masculine is this is the system, the process, the structure that things run through, so that I know that this will occur, like let's say, someone who's a multimillionaire and someone who's a billionaire, right, they have different systems in place

right there, their branding is different, they have probably different distribution centers, they probably don't just have one product, they have multiple products or services, they probably have real estate that has different employees that are involved, they probably have a sales team, they probably have a team of advisors, like there's much more infrastructure in the manifestation of a billion

dollars. where let's say something like the feminine of manifestation would be the creation, the idea that that you've allowed to come through you to then have it go through the system and processes. And you could be the idea person in the manifestation where you're in a team or you're in a support system, where you just idea, idea, idea idea, and that's what you do is that you're the creator, you're the artist, you're the feeling connected

person. And that's like, that's the feminine part of it, because that's like the the, the capturing and the creation, but the infrastructure is the masculine, you can't have manifestation without the other like, you can't have money, right? No one can manifest money if we didn't live in a place that had banks, like we would not, you know, you'd be trading or there was a currency like, right, that's someone created the coin feminine, but the actual infrastructure of that

trade is masculine. And so that's really the art of the masculine feminine of manifestation is combining both and knowing again, back to self mastery, in a way didn't know it was going to go this way. But knowing what your I think is tied to it, oh, oh, God, knowing your knowing what your role is, in a way, like knowing what you're good at knowing what brings you joy. And then I mean, just go all in on that. I love how you phrase that. Which I honestly haven't looked

at it that way. I haven't looked at it like, okay, feminine energies, creation. masculine energy is like the foundation. So I'm thinking like, logic versus creative, right? Emotion versus facts, kind of, in a way, which is interesting. So like feminine energy, intuition, emotion, you know, love creation, that kind of thing. Whereas masculine energy like, well, what would you like? What would you put in? Well, that loser? What would you put in that? Like, block? Yes. Energy for, for for the

biology level, right. And I'm not saying again, I'm just saying from biology, and then I'll relate it to gender. But biology, right, men provide the seed, right, which is, you know, sperm and the sperm and then woman have the womb in the womb is where, like, the soil is the womb is where the creation happens, right? But the creation couldn't happen without the seed, right? So it's still like, the guy provides the infrastructure, the woman then has the creation, how this plays

out in life, right? And ways is that you have to look, are you the person that's there to provide the structure, you inputting infrastructure? This would be like someone who codes if you're doing coding, if you were to design roads, and you were to design a city, right?

The creation or part of it right in that space would be maybe the execution of it, the sales that the connecting the marketing, maybe the building of the financial team, but even that like it, they go so hand in hand, like it's not like you can have one without the other, you really do need a balance of both. But what I think I'm saying or what I'm wanting to say is that you've just got to know what your Zona genius is

like, right? I'm not a genius and finance or accounting, it's never going to be me, but there's definitely bookkeepers that I have are people that are amazing that they're great at that and I need them right. And so They provide right a masculine structure. So I have a creative business, I have a creative soul lead intuitive, I'm designing courses, I'm creating things and transform people's lives and they have the structure with that can be on a

back end process. So my business can keep growing, while I'm also getting benefits, right. So that's another thing, like you can't have one without the other. They're both happened

simultaneously. But you the sooner you know yourself, the sooner you know, what makes you happy, what brings you joy, the sooner you can kind of find your role and you get in really good practices and habits, that maneuver you into a more balanced life instead of trying to force yourself into things that aren't really the truth of you, which is the false illusion of manifestation because then you're like, literally seeing they're in a science, you're, you're making yourself unwell,

you're making yourself do things you don't want to do, and then expect in a life that you want to happen. It's not like, I force myself to do the things that I don't want to do, and then the life is gonna happen. It's like, okay, am I enjoying every step of the process? Who am I being in that process? What am I thinking that I'm like, Oh, I have to do this, to get the million dollars, I have to do this, to get to six figures, I have to do this to get to the

clients. Like if you're doing that it's never going to manifest because you're not doing it from your connected state, which is the truth of manifestation? Yeah, I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that people don't understand and whether you believe in this or not, they're their particular chemical makeup, right of their brain. So from a scientific perspective, like, there, I'm not going to get too detailed than this, because that's, that literally

can go on for five hours. But there are people that are more susceptible, or more predetermined to be analytical thinkers, right. Whereas you have some that are more creative, creative wanderers, artists versus accountants, that kind of thing. So it's, it's interesting to see that once you find your lane, once you are in line with, you know, your, your natural state as what I like to call it, then things tend to really open up for you. And

that's, that's amazing. And then the same thing can be said for like, well, you know, when you start a business, hire your weaknesses, don't hire your strengths. And that's a big thing. And it's, it's, it's almost, it's almost, it's such a thing to overlook, but at the same time, it is one of the most fundamental things that you could do to, you know, scale

your business. And it's one of the things that you can learn, if you have some form of level of self awareness, which leads me to my next point, I think a lot of this has to do with understanding who you are. And once you can have some form or some level of self awareness, you can then start to understand these, these more nuanced topics of, you know, manifesting masculine versus feminine. And, and a lot of people are going to be thinking, well, it's just, you know, I'm a man. So

definitely masculinity. Not true, because I am more of a creator, and an innovator than I am of like a building blocks kind of guy, I'm a starter, I'm not a finisher, I have the big picture. I know what my strength lies in, but at the same time, I'm very decisive. So that's also a trait from from a masculine, right, you know, I'm saying so like, there's bits and pieces, and I don't think people should worry too much about what

box or categories they fit in. I think they need to understand that once you develop an an essence of self awareness, you can then start to really focus on these little nuance, which could cultivate a really fulfilling life for that. Do you know what I mean? And that's the whole point. I agree with everything you

said. And I think that I think why this conversation is so important is because when I was living my life, right, when I was out, I just graduated college, I worked for $23 billion company, I was covering a multimillion dollar territory, and I was very masculine. Like, in many ways, I think I'm still masculine, I'm balanced, but I was very masculine, right, like, get up, go to work, do the thing. Like, I mean, I was a hustler. Like, I love the

hustle, I loved the grind. I loved it and but there was this big piece of connection and creation that was missing for me, like a very big piece that was missing, where I felt like I couldn't find that way of expressing myself in a way that was gonna guide me into a life I would be proud of, I guess. And so I started learning about

energies. And I started learning about designing creation, awareness, all these things, right, just just to have a better cognitive understanding of my life, because a lot of us are walking through life and we don't even know what we're

feeling, right. We're just like, going through life doing whatever and all these things are happening, but we don't have an outlet to literally move through what's incurring what's occurring on the internal reality and that internal reality is scientifically causing a biology and chemical reaction and how you move through life built up over time, which can cause a disease which is which is what I say my mic fell twice. I have no idea

what's going on here. Okay, it was like, um, and that's why I had cancer at a young age as I was walking through life with a chemical biological reaction where I wasn't speaking what I wanted to speak about in the world. And so, it's important to understand these energies and who you are. Because if you can't master yourself, you don't have self mastery, it's much more difficult for you to say no to things that you know are going to put you in a jeopardizing or compromising

situation. And if you can't Own your no, you definitely can't own your hack. Yes, because if you're saying yes to everything, you're not only to know, the opportunities that are actually like the manifestation, let's say isn't that's like $100,000 dropping into your reality, right? If you're saying yes to all these things are like 5000 $100 this or that, like smaller things, right? You're saying yes to all these things that are dropping into your

reality. This space over here is gonna require much more space time attention, and it cannot drop into your reality because you're so busy masculine Lee doing and saying yes to all these things. There's no space for creation to actually land which would actually give you more room to move, like, think of a billionaire. Or even someone who's, you know, a multimillionaire five, you know, 5 million, 6 million, they're not going to be saying yes to

everything, they just can't. And so you have to start right now saying, what is it who I am? How do I want to live? How do I want to remember this life, start to say no to anything that's not that and just say yes to things that are and that's going to get you in a new habit and a new formation, to allow you to experience and explore these different energies, which is kind of what I what I talked about this in my first book, live your truth. Step three, explore like, you really want to

get into that. So I think it's important. And I think that there's a way to know that, once you do it, you'll see your result and like your results of when you do something and the result that happens that time lapse gets quicker and quicker and quicker. And that's the point of doing this work. Yeah, love it, I can see that you have went through quite a journey to end up where you are today. Which speaks volumes, because I think a lot of times, people talk out of their ass,

like, let's be real. And whether it be whether it be from a genuine standpoint, or a disingenuous standpoint, people a lot of people talk about talk a lot about this stuff, and it comes out of their ass have really no idea what they're speaking about. Because it's so profound. It's so profound, but it's so simple. And if people were to understand just how simple it was, and that they do most of the shit anyways, without even knowing about it, at random times throughout their

life. If they were able to leverage this consistently, I think it would be so powerful, like one of the greatest things that I learned was that a lot of this stuff is like it already happens. Like, I'll give you an example. Okay, so I remember when now I've had a lot of ups and downs in my life, financially and otherwise. I come from a family of

entrepreneurs. And so, you know, I got to see a lot of the, the, you know, the crazy rides the peaks and valleys, and an early age and was in was, and I was thrown into it very young. And I got to learn and at the time, it sucked very much. But, you know, now it was a blessing, a big blessing, because it taught me a lot. But what I'm trying to say is, is that the you're always in life, no matter how things how good things are, until you've really, let's say figured it out. I don't think you ever

really figure it out. I think it's just one giant journey. There, there are moments in time where you have these like aha moments. And there was this moment where I was, I went back to having this negative fucked up story with money. Even though I had already I had already, like, beat it. Right? I've already went past this whole story of, you know, money not being scarce. And money is a

tool and blah, blah, blah. But for some reason, psychologically, it's subconsciously decided that, hey, I'm going to go back to scarcity mindset for some fucking reason. I don't understand why. So what ended up happening was, I was having a conversation with my friends who we started out broke, and we both, you know, made it to life. And he's doing phenomenally well. And every asset and at the time, he sent me a voice note, he goes, Why can't you do the things that you say you're

wanting to do? I don't understand. Because you've already done those things before. So why can't you do them for yourself? And he listed them all out for me. He said, Stop talking about things like they haven't happened before, because you've already done them. You're just putting them in in a different application. And that was huge. For me. It was like this big fucking Aha, like, oh, wait a second. Like, yeah, I can do those things. I can do them for myself. I've already done

them before. I've already showed success. I have a track record. I've done X amount of business, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But yeah, here I was in a framework Mind of like, I can't get out of scarcity mindset because for some reason, I decided to create this victim mentality again, because it was the easiest thing for me to get to. I don't know what I'm doing. You said that was so profound. I talked about this in my third

book and uncompromised life. As you said, I was focusing on doing these things for other people so easy, but I couldn't do it for myself. And it's it's such a common thread among those of us who are givers, those of us who want to impact the world, those of us who want to just do good, we I call it well, it's codependency it's in a way where we emotionally codependent Lee, we are able to support our help others before we help ourselves, because that means we don't have

to look at ourselves. It's like a subconscious way for us not to look at ourselves, but we feel good about it when we're doing it. But it also builds like resentment and it builds like frustration. And so what your friend said was so powerful, because I actually talked about this in my one of my, my first program, how to create your fairytale life in six weeks is I really talk about looking at what you have done and the story, your history, what's happened to you, your marketing

message is already there. And from that marketing message, or whatever that it is, it's already guiding you to see all the things you've already done, like you've been doing what you've been doing for decades, probably like, for example, for me for traveling the world, it was a no brainer that I was going to leave college and go to Texas where I'd never lived there before because I just did with Arizona and moved to Maryland before I'd never been interested in Texas, and I moved

across the world to New Zealand without ever been there. But this was a multi year laid out plan that I subconsciously already put out. And I'd been doing this all the time, I'd go to new places and go to new places and go to new places just wake up one day that happened. It's like, this was a plan that I started back when I was 17 years old, when I lived with my art when I went to college that I'll live with my parents the summer after my freshman year, then I live in East Lansing and

I live out of state. Like I literally set this up at 17 years old to do this. And so for me, it's like no big deal to travel here, go there, whatever it is. So you did it subconsciously I had that plan conscious, right, I had that plan that this is what I was

constantly to do. But what I'm saying is that when you look at being a digital nomad or traveling the world, right when people are like, Oh my God, I want to travel the world like I had been traveling the world or in my mind, I had that mentality of traveling and being a wonder less than being a business person from 17. Like, and I'm

20. So it's nearly a decade. But what I share is like your marketing story, what you've already what you want to do, you've already done, you just aren't looking at the pattern. But if you were to look at your life, look at your history, what

you've done. And you're saying this is what you want, you already have a foundation, a masculine foundation that you've practiced majority of your life, because you always knew the desires inside your heart, which is feminine, the desire, the idea was always there, it was placed there by something higher, you've already been acting in a masculine structure. But maybe it just wasn't the right structure and the balance of both. And that's like your

own lives. That's the both energies coming through you to manifest what you want. It's just the awareness what you said they could do you have the awareness of this is what you want. Let's stop reflect for a moment. From that reflection, look at my history, from the history, I will see everything I already want I've already done and just asked me for it at a

bigger scale. So my infrastructure needs to change like going from the millionaire to the billionaire going from a smaller one to a bigger one. Like the infrastructure, the mass construction of the infrastructure needs to change the idea can flourish. Like if you want to plant one flower, right? You can have a pot, you want to have a I don't know, National Garden or global garden that's recognized, you probably need more land, you know what

I'm saying? So it's the same thing, but it's the same, but it's it's the same thing like what you said, Okay, I know, I know, I was saying, I know what you're trying to say. And I didn't want to interrupt. Oh, no, I think I was just, I,

it's the same. Like what you just said was so powerful, because yes, whatever you've already done in your life, whatever you want to do, your future has already been done in your past, you just need to remove the bullshit that's in your mind from the past, take the good things like take like, I have traveled the world I have done business, I have been a great husband or wife or I am

caring, I am supportive. I know how to listen, I get whatever it is, like look at the things you already have run out of the bullshit. And then just take, take that focal point and run and that's that's like where the that's where the gap happens. And like when something is taking too long, like something's happened in your life and you want to go

somewhere new. The gap of time is the the more you can release the bullshit is when you close the gap because then you're no longer neurologically focusing or allowing your body to carry that and that that is the mask and I mean, that's the body and this I mean the art and the science, the body in the mind. I love that I and just to clarify and give a different example of what you were saying like you you've already done those things. Well, if that doesn't resonate with you think

of it this way. You already Have all of the potential inside of you, like, it's there, the energy is circling within you, like, no matter what stage of life you're in right now, you have this like untapped reservoir. And the only thing that is inhibiting you, is you.

And so if you were to start taking steps on a day to day basis, towards the thing, then it's like, the universe is just fucking moving mountains for you, literally, like you're just creating, the path is already there, the path is created, okay, you're walking towards this path. And, and, and, and it's like the Earth is being split into two for you. And all of the resistance that you were dealing with every single day that you were creating, and throwing upon yourself, right?

Is, is essentially gone. And I'll give you a real life example. I consciously decided, six months ago, maybe seven months ago now or in February, that I was going to dissolve my digital marketing agency, that I was going to get into something that I wanted to be a part of, that would move the needle from a fulfillment standpoint, because money wasn't a driving force for me anymore. I've made money, I get it, like your money is there. So that wasn't my thing. I wanted fulfillment.

That was the next chapter of my life. And I wanted to impact people. I didn't know how I was going to do it. I didn't know if it was gonna be through coaching. Through nutrition, through health through podcasts. I didn't know I knew that I made the decision to start this podcast, but it didn't know what I was gonna do. Two weeks ago, not even probably like, 10 days ago, I was meditating. I got out of my meditation. And literally, within an instant, my entire being my entire self was like,

This is what I'm going to do. I fucking knew I just knew right away, like, there was no question it was 100%, there was no 2% Doubt, there was no 1% doubt there wasn't a point 0000 1% Doubt, I just knew that at that moment. This was the this was what I was going to do. And ever since then, like every day, I can't believe the shit that's been going on is unreal, unreal, how much you can obtain. When you have decided for

yourself. And you've committed to yourself genuinely, wholeheartedly, sincerely, and, and you're not lying to yourself. And that's a big thing. But you can trick yourself into thinking that you've made your choice. But that's a that's, that's so that's gonna fuck you up in the long run. So to sincerely 100% be all in and make that decision. And then and then start start to work towards that thing. You'll be surprised how lucky you get. What do you think about definitely think what you said?

I definitely agree. One of my mentors. I mentored with her for a while Katrina, Ruth and I, she's so powerful. One thing I really believe that she shares is no, until you draw that line in the sand, you will always be suffering. And I think that you have like, it's that moment. And she says that she was actually on my podcast, I think was like episode 66 or something. She's amazing. And she's made 20

million in the online space. I think more than that now, but just an incredible woman and she says like you're pregnant or you're not you're either with the universe or not you believe in God or you're not like, there this is not like your dreams, your goals your desire to do in life. There is no sitting on the fence like you're either going for it you're going all in. Yeah, you're either going all in you believe in it, or you don't.

And I think that's like I think it's really I guess the question probably listening to this is how do you get to that shift? When you're if I was listening to this, maybe okay, how do I get to that shift? Like there should just be something inside of the reason you're here. The reason you're listening is you feel like there's something in resignations. You feel like there's something more you want, you feel like there's something greater to experience, you feel like you want to let go of

something in your life. So you can go and live. I don't know, like you. You feel that and that's like the feminine. That's like the attraction and then from that the action is the masculine, like go do the thing. You can't just listen and absorb and whatever and not do anything like there has to be a point when you draw a line, like this is just not what I'm going to do or not when I'm not going to tolerate and then from that you

just make it happen. Like literally and I know it sounds so easy, like yes, we're doing all these energies and we're giving you stories and we're giving you metaphors and whatever. They're all tools, right? And I definitely think like I've I've really narrowed in right on my systems and my processes on my creation stage. Like how I do it all I've really narrowed in on it right? And that's why it was important for me to understand all these

things. But there was a point when I just decided like, I'm not going to live this corporate life and I decided I'm going to invest money that I didn't have into mentors I decided I'm going to go to retreat, I decided I'm going to do breathwork, I decided I was going to be a lifelong learner, I decided that I don't always want to be the smartest one at the table. Like I decided I wanted to be accepting of people in different industries to understand their business strategy and what

they're doing. Like, I just made a decision. And from that, I just kept going, and you keep going until you make the decision one time again to say, I'm going to go to the gym, today, you go, Okay, I'm gonna go to the gym, I'm gonna go again, I'm gonna go again, that you don't just wake up and say, I'm going to be a mom today.

Like you choose to be a mom, over and over, or you like leave, and you I don't know, like, it's the same with a partnership, like something either isn't working, so you leave or you're like, I'm choosing this, I'm gonna keep choosing it. It's not just a one time like, Hey, I'm getting married. And yes, we had the wedding now, okay, what, like you keep choosing it to make an effort. And I don't know why, like you said in the beginning, like, we all do this. And obviously, my third book was on

it. But we do this where we think that we can just choose other people instead of choosing ourselves our own dreams. And somehow, magically manifestation or law of attraction is going to work. But you have to be attracted to yourself, like your own attraction, your own dreams, your own excitement. And I don't know, it's never going you do, it becomes debilitating. And like you said it, it starts

to draw resentment. And resentment is like a poison that spreads like a fucking cancer throughout your entire being in existence. And then all you're doing is making everybody else miserable. But you said something interesting, you made a choice. And, like, you just have to make a decision. Like, I think it was Will Smith who said, he said, You have to decide who you're going to be and how you're going to do it.

And the thing that's most important is that you just decide, you decide who you're going to be how you're going to do it. And and you're going to stick to it no matter what, like you can't, like you said it's not a one time deal like this is this is a conscious decision that you have to make and that you have to fall through it. Day

in and day out. So if you're going to decide that you're going to lose 100 pounds, and you said I'm going to lose 100 pounds, you're not going to lose 100 pounds in a day, or a week or a month. I mean, you probably can in a month, but that's not going to be the healthy route. So so it's it's like Okay, so what's, what is what is attached to decision, you've got discipline, right? Motivation, I think is a fleeting emotion and that shouldn't be attached to

it. Motivation is is is like a spark, but it's not the thing that's gonna keep you going. I think discipline is going to keep you going. Okay, well, how do you how do you develop discipline? Well, you create habits, okay, how can you create habits? Well, you make a decision. Okay, so you make a decision. Therefore, you need to create a habit to fulfill that decision day in and day out. And then you need the discipline to be able to fulfill those habits. Yep. Right. Okay, cool. So we

got all those things done. Now how can I tap into this energy? I'm asking you how do you tap into this energy once you've made those choices? Right from from a step by step perspective because I'm trying to be a little bit more methodical here so like what would you like I mean, obviously right let's say to do my PhD I made the decision I this is this is something that I feel like is my life path I have no idea why didn't know why just felt a calling just felt a

knowing Yeah, right. And so I made that so I have to show up. I don't have to I decide to show up and study I decided to do and still do a four I'd have a 4.0 while running a multiple six figure business. Like I like it looks like yeah, like it looks like you showing up and doing doing reading like my fourth book I'm so so let me let me let me pause you there. Let me pause you there. Okay, what do people normally say and and we're all at fault. I'm fucking at fault

for it. So what was it I decided I'm going to get a 4.0 I decided I'm going to study my ass off I decided I'm going to get a PhD. What do most people say what do we what is the route that we fall into? I have to I guess I didn't even know that. Oh, I just had to do it. Right it's it's a subtle word. But that I have to that victim that's not abundance that's not positive that's not working with you that's working against you.

That's victim mentality. I just wanted to point that out continue with your and what's powerful about what you just said and this is actually the art and science of manifestation like the fact that that is so in the core of my being is right like I didn't it was like what No, I have no idea like you I'm sure I wasn't always that way I'm positive I wasn't always that way but right i i got in environments that literally the way that I speak the way that I think it's so

encoded into me and that is even the masculine and feminine like the feminine is so like, the feminine create tricks in me is so like it's habitual for me to create like, I don't know what it would be like to not create an online course I have no idea what it's like to not have a podcast I have no idea what it's like to not have clients messaging me. I have no idea what it's like to wake up and not have people enrolling in my courses. I just do not know what

that feels like. I can't even go to a point when I can relate to it in a way because it's so core me. Obviously there was a point when that was it, but because it's becoming So much integrated in who I am, it's almost hard to relate, they would almost be hard to relate. Like to bankruptcy, not that that's bad, right, but I have not experienced it. I just don't even know the way that I'm at.

Like, that's my experience with credit card debt, I can still remember that but it's hard for me to remember they're like really experienced it because I'm such a different frequency now. And so how do you do that?

And you don't want to go back to that frequency anyway, because all that's gonna do is pull you back in something, but I don't think even like I don't even know if I could go back because it's so encoded that it's almost like it's almost like if you've Okay, yeah, I get what you're saying. Like, let me let me ask you this, how, if you can't figure out how if you can't, like you can't put yourself back in that position. Let me ask you this for people

listening right now. And they're in that mind frame where I'm like, Hey, I'm in credit card debt like I can't get out of this negative mindset of Oh woe is me and I'm just playing the victim and I know I am and I'm making excuses for myself well first don't ignore it. How do I start start ignore I call your bank call whoever it is and get on a payment plan whatever it is, you know, close it down. Say hey, I'm going to default on payment or whatever that it is.

What can we do to work together to get this closed out and I can make a monthly payment plan with you a don't run from it don't hide just it is what it is. Be

honest about it. Don't ignore it and realize that debt is simply just an investment you're paying off over time debt is not bad there is no multimillionaire there is no billionaire there is no and there's no business owner that owns anything like they have offices I mean every corporation look at Wall Street there is assets liabilities equity like I don't know if you look at the liabilities there is mortgages there's debt on there there's I don't know there's a bunch of things on there I have

no idea their thing that they're

paying off overtime. America For Chrissake isn't yeah you leverage that you leverage that you don't want that to weigh you down you want to leverage it and you want to be able to use it to buy properties or investments yeah portfolio but when you're just starting out like why are you like oh, shoot I made a bad decision in this debt or whatever that is whatever it is whatever I did to at some point my life and I was like okay, you know, it is what it is but just don't run from it

just be what it is you know, there was times when I had in my in the beginning of my business where I was definitely wanting to pay people crazy amounts of money to like think that I was going to get a result somewhere and I honestly my my business didn't have that capital so it took me longer to like pay them or whatever like than what the terms were, but I always paid it I always paid it off even though it was longer like this was other companies or people even though it was later I still

always paid it off and whatever I said my agree thing my agreement of like this is what I'll pay I always paid it even though you know whatever, but that's part of being in business and I was like okay, you know, calling you did your best you honestly really wanted to pay them you believed it and you just the capital just didn't come it was a lesson in your life. It was a lesson in your

business. Why be mad about it? I knew they were going to get paid I knew I was going to pay them in my life in a very good amount of like in a reasonable amount of time. I don't know it's part of the lesson it's part of business why beat yourself up

about it? Like I don't know anyone who's ever done anything great who I don't know like I don't know if that's mean no, no totally but I'm just I'm just giving these examples but so if you do this first thing is you want to call the bank or whoever it is that you are right do not ignore it do not run Do not hide that is the worst thing you can do because

no one likes to be ignored. This money is a feminine frequency because it's cash flow it's always protected in banks it's put in wallet right the infrastructure banking wallet it's but the feminine the feminine energy feminine does not like to be ignored if you're in a relationship with someone do you think they would like it if you ignored them? Absolutely not. So do not ignore it just you know, face it head on whatever it is, be responsible

what needs to happen. Change your mindset go this is an investment that I'm paying off over time I'm going to take the experience when I take the learning lesson I'm going to move on with my life. Now if you're actively going to choose to go in debt like which I did, I actually chose that because investing in education online experiences learning from people services, you know people with knowledge.

Yeah, but you're doing it with a with a D but um, yeah, but I'm still saying but you I'm not saying that if you are in debt right now that's how to close it but if you want to invest in you know, something's gonna be investing in that. It's also not bad either. Yeah. So what it wasn't like you were just Oh, yeah, it's not like you're opening up credit

card. Now that's down shop, maybe you can say dumb, but I that might be your life experience and what you chose, don't judge yourself for whatever reason, that was part of your healing process that was part of what needed to happen. Just be honest about it. Finally, close it, do whatever it is, and then actually start to invest your money into self improvement in education, like you're never going to get better if you don't begin to master

yourself. So that's like one don't ignore it to close it come up with the payment plan for the bank or whoever you're lending or whatever you're doing. And then three would be invest in like even with that money, invest something into mindset around money into something that's going to change your relationship with money. Like I have a course actually called change your relationship with money. It's, I think, like $300 on my website, but I think like that, you can't just ignore it

and that isn't bad. Like anytime you go into even if it was a silly decision, just say okay, this was Colleen gallagher.co And even if you did go in debt and it was something over like shopping or I don't know about decision, just go, okay. It was it was something I invested in, that's gonna pay off over time and over time I'm gonna take this money and invest so that way I can buy all this stuff and not be in debt like I want to be abundant believe I can have it all and you can have it all.

That's like the what I would do, but it's a process like that. And that's the work. Right? That's that's the work of the mind instead of the mind controlling you. And you're like, Well, what if I do go ahead? And the reason why I'm? Yeah, and the reason why I asked is because I think there's so much different. There's a lot of variation when it comes to this stuff. Like, I think the biggest thing that most people may struggle with, and this is coming from me because I

struggle with this. And I know people that that had similar struggles, which is the authenticity behind trying to create something out of nothing. Right? It wasn't until I started to realize that it wasn't like I was faking the funk. I wasn't faking it till I make it. I was I started talking about it like it already happened. Like it was past tense, like, oh, yeah, I already made 100 grand last

month. Like, yeah, I actually I'm a number one podcast, you know, in the self help industry or whatever niche Oh, yeah, I, I, I'm, I'm a percent body fat. Like, oh, yeah, you know, and, and it took some time to, to truly believe those things. And it was a big struggle, because it was almost like struggling with identity. And it was like, Okay, why am I creating this illusion? Like, why am I creating this fallacy? This isn't real. So I had to get real

with myself. I had to, I honestly, would, I started meditating every day, I've been meditating forever. But this was like an act of meditation with a, with a purpose. And that was to really try to meet the real Mo. Like, who are you? Dude? Who are you? Who are you? I forget, forget your skills, forget your associations forget the businesses forget everything, like who is Mo at the core. And without any distractions, distractions without anything. And I had some pretty prolific

experiences. And I'm not a very, like, I'm not a very like, woowoo kind of guy. I never was, like, I, I was very factual, very, I mean, I'm not I'm an optimist, but I'm very, like, you know, science based. And, and, and I am a creative, but I was very science based. So a lot of this stuff, to me was like, This is bullshit. You know, so understand everybody that's listening. This isn't something that I just easily went into. It took a long time for me to get

to this place. But I'll tell you what, meditation and being able to at least and what I mean, meditate, I mean, just sit there, like, sit there, like, remove everything, remove distraction, remove noise, and just try to clear your head, and then do it over time, day by day by day by day. And what ended up happening with me is that the, the, here's what's so funny, Colleen, no longer was I trying to struggle with this illusion that I was creating, or this

fallacy. The reality that I was living became the illusion Wow, that's powerful. It was, it was crazy. It was crazy. And the moment that I realized that is when everything changed. And I and is like, I'm going to create the reality like, I get to create my reality. And you have to sincerely believe that because everything that you do, creates the tomorrow that you either

want or you don't want. So your actions of today can create the tomorrow of for you to create the tomorrow that you want, or you don't want and so what I wanted to do was to be able to, I wanted to have, I wanted to have, you know, a fulfilling relationship with my wife. That wasn't, that wasn't, you know, sexless or without without merit, or without being able to date her without having fun. I wanted to have a friendship with her. I wanted to, to, you know, to thrive with her in every

aspect of our lives. I wanted her to find fulfilment in the things that she wanted to do. I wasn't I was no longer concerned about how what she was going to do was going to impact my time. I wanted to be present with my children. I didn't that didn't matter if it was five minutes or 15 minutes, being present, and being existing next to them are two very different things. So I started to create my reality because i i The Well, I'm getting fucking, I'm gonna start getting emotional because I, I

knew what I wanted. And I knew that I had the power to be able to create it. And I want nothing more for everybody to be able to do the same. And, and it's just it sucks because so many people just throw this shit. It's, here's the thing, Colleen, I've seen one of two things. I've seen extremists on this side, like, you know, like voodoo stuff, right? Where they're just creating, like this nonsense. And it becomes this like cult, like experience. And then you've seen this side where it's like,

oh, this is all bullshit. I haven't seen too much of like, the happy medium, like, no, there's, there's, there's an art to this. And then there's also a science. So everything that we're saying over here, is actually backed up. And vice versa. You know, it's like, just, you know, just because you can't see it doesn't mean it's not real. I love what is real. It's so powerful and profound is when, Oh, I love what you shared as well. When your reality became a

what is it? Sorry, when your reality became a delusion in a way or like I forget the exact word that you use? But yeah, so So my, my reality. So the the fallacy that I was trying to create, or the the world that I was trying to create felt like an illusion and a fallacy, but ended up happening was that my reality became the illusion. Yeah, that

is powerful. So I was able to create this as powerful because I think a lot of us live into that illusion, I think it's easy to get sucked in on social media and see these things or whatever that it is. And yeah, and that is even in itself a balance of masculine and feminine, because the illusion, the painting of the picture, the creation of the picture is the feminine, the acting of the illusion is the masculine. And so yeah, if you can just change that picture.

Because often the picture that you're trying to create, or the image you're trying to show, it doesn't even, it isn't really what makes you happy or fulfilled, get exhausting to try and keep up with that identity view. That's not that and so changing the picture in your mind what that really looks like, and then going on and on going and taking action on that like that. Yeah, that's powerful. That's like one of those things I've heard in a while. That's, that's really

powerful. And I think for those of you listening, like it's really taking a good look at yourself in the mirror and going, am I being honest with myself? Am I being in, in, in tune and in alignment? And yeah, and what actions I needed to that's gonna allow me to live a more balanced, fulfilled and

sustainable life. And I think that's really the part one of this ever, the art and the science of manifestation, I'm saying the masculine, feminine and what you can do to really balance yourself, your actions, your energy, your thoughts to create a life that you want. I think if people get rid of I think people get rid of the things that stand in their way. Which is a lot of times their own self doubt, right? Because they questioning everything. Like, what, like, just let it

go. And I'll just let it be like, let's and because I was a big control freak, and still have those tendencies wanting to control everything. It was a moment that I realized that I cannot control anything, for the most part. And you release that is odd. Yeah, what a weight. What a weight lifted off of your shoulders. I agree. I love this. And I think this is a really great start for you guys listening to know kind of what to expect for

the next two of the series. But I definitely know that by opening the conversation, opening your mind to a new way of thinking a new way of being, it's never going to hurt you. It's only going to support you and getting closer to mastering your thoughts mastering what it is you want to do in this life and say no to things that aren't serving us that you really can live a life beyond your wildest dreams. And I want everybody listening to understand that I am not the coach in this aspect that is

Coleen. I am merely a practitioner. This is I mean, I've been on this path for years but the break through these seams is relatively new. So I'm learning with you as we go

along. And if you guys have any questions for the follow up calls, please, please send them you could do them directly from anchor.fm Like you have been or you can shoot me an email at questions at moldable see comm or info at habits of the few calm and calling if they people want to reach out to you directly to you via email for what's the best way Social media is the best way but the Colleen Gallagher Hey those ones that my email is Colleen at Colleen gallagher.co But I'm

always in my messages or DMS. Wonderful. Yeah, this has been amazing and I appreciate you dedicating your time to do this. And, and I'm learning a lot too. So I'm super awesome. And we will see you guys on the next one.