Hello, everyone, it's Colleen Gallagher here. And I'm super excited to be present with you as we are on episode seven of a man's best friend. And right now we are doing an eight episode series. And this is
number six out of eight. What I am calling this series, which I've actually love doing, as I started, my podcast didn't realise this would be such a trend of something that I like to do, because you always have something that you're moving through and something to have all of you look forward to, is the eight golden rules to become a heart centred business leader.
And why I started the podcast off this way is because this podcast is really a bridge between spirituality, psychology and business, it's really meant to put your mind into a new way of thinking, it's really meant to expand units really here to empower you to tap into your heart and see what's possible when you tap into that frequency. So Golden Rule number six that I'm super excited to present with you is your
alignment trumps everything. And now some of you may be familiar with the word alignment, and some of you may not be. However, the word alignment that has really vibrated with me or really empowered me in a way that I get a lot of value from is from Abraham Hicks, if you haven't followed her, you can go to her content on YouTube or one of her events, she's
extraordinary. And something that I share a lot when it comes to alignment in the teachings that I specifically teach is that there is no absolute truth. Everyone's truth, and the reason why they believe that they are here is unique. And that is what makes each of us unique human beings. So if you read my first book, it's called Live Your
Truth. It's on Amazon, I go deep into a little bit about how people express their truth and how people can have this same experience show up to the same event and literally take away two different things from it. So the whole purpose of us existing is to understand that everyone's alignment is going to be different than our alignment. So in the previous episode, when I was talking about the importance of your No, well, it's important to say no, because someone else's alignment isn't your
alignment. And by saying yes to things that aren't in your alignment move you further and further away from who you're meant to be. So an example that I wanted to open this up with is, let's say there's two people who are going to go meet at a coffee shop. And the one person wakes up in the morning and they jump out of bed, they literally give themselves a big hug. They go to their closet, and they're feeling the texture of all their clothing, excited to decide what
to put on. And basically, the other person simultaneously wakes up snoozing, their alarm gets ready five minutes before they have to go makeup is from yesterday, they just clear clear it off. The Other Woman is like so happy putting her moisturiser on her face. And they both show up to the coffee shop, right? Well, you can tell that one person is completely in alignment with every area of their life. And you can tell the other person is completely out of alignment with every area of
their life. Because how these two people showed up to life is very, very differently. And how can it be that two people are getting ready to go meet each other at coffee and have such different experiences? Well, that's because of alignment. And alignment comes to a place when you are consistently acting on the obsessive knowing you have within you. And that's something that I've defined it as and see when things are not going how you want them to go in life.
It's only because of unreason only because of one reason if something isn't going away, it's because you're not in alignment, you are out of alignment. However, the beautiful thing about alignment, that's why I love this word so much is you can always get back into alignment, you can always move back into the person you're meant to be, you can always take the lesson from whatever's happened in your life and go you know what, that wasn't really my smartest decision, that wasn't
my best decision yet. I'm going to take that and integrate that into who I am as a human being. And then I'm going to take aligned action and create that as part of my mission on the planet. And so some of you may be asking, Well, isn't this well calling? What the heck then if I'm just out of alignment, or I feel like I'm in an alignment? Why isn't my relationship working that I really, really want to work? Why didn't I get that promotion that I really
deserved? Why didn't hear back from that person about a date? Why did that important person turned on my business idea? Or even something greater is Why was my offered services or products to a potential client rejected? Well, all of these are because of one thing, alignment. Nothing can be received into your reality. If you are not in alignment with it or it is not in alignment with you. So back to the example of the coffee
shop. One woman is in alignment with her bed, she loves how she's sleeping, she loves all of her clothing. She loves how she brought She's our hair like she literally has treated herself like her own queen. Regardless of what external reality is going on, the other person is suffering to even get out of bed, let alone go have a conversation at a coffee shop. And you could tell if these two people were together one woman, you could tell like she would probably have the coffee cup in
front of her. And she would slowly sip it and she would feel the steam from the coffee come off it and move on her tongue down her throat. We only just got called Gob Gob got the copy down, not even taking the time to actually feel how that coffee taste. And I've been both woman so I can't say that it's not
I've seen men be both men. For men, what it will look like again is you know, you're rushing into bed, you're rushing to work your snooze your alarm versus you're waking up, you're setting a prayer, you're you're journaling, you're writing things, a thoughts down that you're having, and you're probably part of a men's group, you probably are doing a lot in personal development, you're working out your body is like something that you're treating
very well. Well, those are two different types of alignment, right, versus the man who's rushing out of bed jumping, doing this going there going that he's not really in alignment. Now, it's not your job to go and police everyone and tell you if you're not in alignment, and that's why it's happening to your life, that's not your job, your job is to simply tune into yourself and go, if I'm the creator of my
reality, which we all are. And these are the things I really desire to, to have manifest in my life. And they haven't, why not? And it's time for you to become the detective of your own life, instead of being a detective of everybody else's
life. And being a little busy body, as a lot of men can be like, Oh, their relationship sucks, or, you know, a lot of my girlfriends and they've caught me like, oh, they sack or they don't make that much money or, you know, they got that job because their dad or whatever that is. And then at the same time, those guys will like be out together drinking and whatever that is. And that's not in alignment, right? Because what you're saying about one person, and then what you're
doing is totally different. And I've been that girl times to like I can't lie and pretend that I haven't been that girl who has said one thing and then done another thing. And I think I know that's because we're just moving so quickly through life sometimes that we're not actually stopping to take a moment to pause and breathe and
just ask the simple question. If I was in alignment, would this be what I'm doing back to even when the lesson the golden rule number five, falling in love with saying no. And so, for an example that I like to share with this, if you want to start a new business venture with most of you who are here either want to start a new business venture, or you want to completely pivot into a new type of way of living, you want to pivot into out of a corporate matrix or out of the entrepreneurial hustle
and really be a heart centred human being. You're someone who's made quote unquote good money in whatever capacity it looks like for you. But you really want the next layer so you can impact more people, you're ready to hire people, you're ready to get people shifting in different vibration. You're like, if I do that thing, if I do this creative nature that's coming through me, how am I going to make money from that?
We'll see you thinking about money, instead of being the creator is taking you out of alignment. See, if you want to start a new business venture, yet you maybe are still in the bad relationship, or you're overworking yourself in a job you hate. You haven't even taken the time to create a plan for your new business venture. are you blogging? Are you writing? Are you going to be in the cannabis industry? Are you going to be shopping? Like what is it
that you're going to do? See, each of these are indicators that you haven't even created the space to be in alignment with your true desires. What you're truly desiring what you truly, truly want for this world, it's going to take up a lot of new time and space. And if this space you currently have is already occupied with things that are not serving you, and you're not in alignment to receive what you truly want.
It's like if you have your room, right, and you really want a king bed, but right now you have a queen bed, but if you get a king bed, you're not going to have room for the dresser and other things and the 50 Other uses toys that you have in your room. Well, the king beds never going to come because you don't have room for the same thing is true energetically with your dreams and desires. You have an energetic body around you that no one can see except source universe. Whatever it is you
want to call it. And that energy field is taking up space by other people's emotional baggage by your unresolved unresolved trauma, emotional baggage and from the way that you interact with life. So you constantly get to ask yourself, if I'm living in alignment for my truest desire, what will be going on.
And you go through all the other things the obsessive knowing that when I talked about in episode two, you're going to go through that you're going to go through learning to fall in love with saying no the power of choice, your language these are that's going to empower you to understand your alignment. I have these in a specific order on purpose. So become aware of this alignment. It's actually
really fun. Like I love alignment once I've really gotten to understand how to play with and how to work with it, which is, again, the teacher that I like learning from at best is Abraham Hicks. However, it literally becomes a game like you literally have life becoming like almost a chess game. And you are like moving all these pieces around you all the time for you to literally receive the most ecstasy and bliss from
literally just being you. And so when you get to start playing with your life and actions and goals in this kind of exciting way, because you realise I'm actually in control of this all, I actually have the opportunity to transform whatever it is that I want, I actually have the opportunity to not worry and police everybody else's actions, but just worry about me. And that can be a little bit scary, because we don't want to look at ourselves, we like looking and
judging everyone else. However your true desires come from the first golden rule, which I share, it is becoming aware of the obsessive knowing, and you literally just already exist inside of you. Everything you already want the connection to Source universe, God, it already exists for you. It's already there, it's already available, you don't have to do anything, you just get to remember, we're golden rule number six is actually the physical manifestation of your knowing.
Because you're either in alignment to receive it, or you're resisting the alignment to like, the alignment to receive it. There's no in between, it's like the king bed, you can't like buy a king bed and not have anywhere to put it. I mean, you could but it wouldn't really make a lot of sense. Like, it's the same way your alignment trumps everything, like you literally cannot receive the physical manifestation of something until
you're ready to receive it. So if you want new clients and you're receiving your clients, well, where are you not adding value to yourself where you're not taking care of yourself. The next thing, or the thing that I wanted to share with you is a really good exercise for you to do with this is write down on a piece of paper, career, income, relationships, health, family, and on a scale of one to 10 rate how happy you are with each of
these. Anything that is an eight or below there is definitely a misalignment that is worth looking at. And that's when you want to become curious. And you simply ask yourself, if I was in alignment with this area of my life, what would be going on. And then you just become radically honest with yourself to take serious action to bring yourself back into a state of
feeling good. And alignment, which is the part of your life that creates the results that you want and your career and your income relationships,
health and family. And so an example that I like to give with this was a few examples that I like to give with us yet the first thing that I like to share is once you realise that you can literally shift all of your reality by simply changing your thoughts by simply allowing yourself to receive different language patterns, which we went over, by literally allowing yourself to stop saying yes to everybody else, except yourself. And to literally allow yourself to see what is it I actually
want? What is it I actually deserve to be loving. And knowing that it was never too late to start, no matter if I'm 3040 5060 that I can start right now today to live the exact life that I'm going to be proud of for the rest of my life. It's never too late to bring yourself into alignment. And that's why alignment is so beautiful. Because we all get out of alignment, I get out of alignment on a daily basis. Anyone who tells you they don't get out of alignment is fine.
But the point is that you have these practices and you have these tools that bring you back into alignment. A beautiful thing Gabby Bernstein says I don't care how much you get out of alignment, I care about your rebound rate. I care about how quickly you come back into your state of peace, how quickly you come back into your state of harmony, how quickly you come back into your state of being who it is that you're meant to
be? How quickly you come back into allowing the vision that you want to impact humanity come through you again. And that's the fun part of alignment. Because you literally get to function this way of Oh, that was a lesson that was a learning. Thank you. Thank you grateful now I'm getting to shift here, move here do this. Oh, I didn't know life could be that way. Thank you for that beautiful lesson, that beautiful
awareness. And now wow, I could create a whole different type of life because I'm aware that I have that available to me, I have a I have that I'm able to dream that big to love that big to great relationships that way. And so the thing is that I want to share with alignment. It's also another little rule here to this or a golden law universal law is that we can't have our relationships going well and be in alignment yet our businesses
aren't. We can't have it where our family dynamic is great, yet our health sucks. With alignment, everything is either expanding and moving in an upward spiral or it's contracting. con con. My gosh, contracting kind of isn't even the word I think it's contracting, contracting. There we go. I was like, what is that word? It's not going through and contracting and moving in a downward spiral. And what are spirals you may ask spirals are how energy moves. So think about
it. When you look at a water bottle and you spin it right it's moving in a spiral think about the toilet whenever fleshes, it's in a spiral. Think about even the shower, when it goes on the drain, it's moving in a spiral, things move in spirals, things move in circular motions, it is not normal for something to move in a vertical or just horizontal view. Everything with energy moves in a circular motion, it's just moving so fast that we can
always see it. But we have a big thing of water that's creating density for the energy, we can actually slow it down to see it. So smoothies, it's another example for making a smoothie. It's in the spiral, right, it's not like moving up and down to shake the thing like it's moving into a spiral. And so alignment, again, is allowing us to move in a circular motion, it's allowing us to go full circle of our career, income, relationships, health, family, anything else
that you want. However, we can't have something that's moving upward and expanding like our career, and also have a shitty relationship, that would mean that we have to either let go of the shitty relationship or the career isn't going like you can't literally have to contrast or going on your life for everything to be momentum of moving forward with Alignment.
Alignment is really funny that way where it doesn't separate your life, even though you can separate your life and see where you're out of alignment as a tool to be like, Okay, well, this is going well, this is going well. But there's gonna be a point in your life when there's things going well, and the one thing that's not going well, it's going to leak into the things that are going well, you're going to start that one thing, I've had it in my life, mine usually has been through
relationships. And I've seen it with a lot of men, which I've called this podcast, a man's best friend, the biggest thing that leaks into your life is you're in a relationship you hate and you're in a relationship because you feel lonely, and you're in a relationship, you don't know what to do. And that literally seeps over to every area of your life. Sure you're getting somewhere, yet there's such a deeper layer for you to be
existing from. And you can try to be in alignment, you can try to be open to the different things like different options you have available to get, there's going to be a point when you get between a rock and a hard place. And you're going to have to choose and that's part of you going deep within my obsessive knowing is telling me this and the thing that I've always known about myself. And I know a lot a lot of the guy friends that I haven't girlfriends is they know and they stayed way too long
relationship. And they know when they were making trying to make something work and trying to make something work and it just wasn't working. And it was literally impacting so many other parts of our life, and they just couldn't ignore it.
And my hope for you is that it never gets that way is that when you're obsessive knowing starts to speak to you, you start to listen and you start to bring yourself into alignment with that knowing because that obsessive knowing is what allows you to be really healthy, instead of giving a cancer like I did, or instead of how ease is arising, you are weakened immune systems or depression or anxiety like those things are because
you're not in alignment. And you may be like, Well, I'm depressed or I'm stressed because of work. No, no, it's not because of work. It's because you're out of alignment. So where's the stress really coming from? It's because you're probably doing a job that you know you shouldn't be doing. Those are the type of shifts that you want to start having when you start having the conversation about alignment. So here's an example of alignment. I know for me that I realise I'm
so out of alignment. When basically I'm doing the things I know my soul doesn't want to be doing. However, I'm someone who I can get distracted sometimes very easily. I don't know if many of you can relate to this. It's maybe my ADHD which I've been diagnosed with but I've never been on medication for anything. I've started getting Neurofeedback Neurofeedback stuff done on my brain, which
has helped with it a lot. It's a holistic healing and when I would get distracted, I'd go that shiny that's pretty I want to go over there and I want to touch it I want to play with it cuz that looks great. And that's like, you know, so great because that's fun right now. And I A lot of guys do this with women with money with buying objects to get the girl yet you're going to get yourself
into trouble with that. Because there's going to be a point your life whether you're going debt, whether it's drinking, whether it's literally dating the girl
that's not for you. Or a guy if you're a woman listening to this you're going to get so far out of alignment trying to impress everyone else because you never took the time or listen to the obsessive knowing to impress you the for an example when I worked in corporate I knew I was like super super unhappy Yeah, I kept doing it because making what I thought was amazing money which was $64,000 a year with and with travel benefits, benefits and
bonuses. I made extra commission it was around like $100,000 and I had a company car and I literally would sit there and be like I hate this job. I hate this job like I would be I was the girl it was like a snooze any alarm. I literally would like not want to go to bed I would like literally randomly put things on it wasn't excited to wear clothes like it was a
mess. And I would just want to walk when I was at work I wouldn't want to be on like client calls are exhausting and like I would literally like I'd get home I would work out and I would just be so exhausted go to bed. Well, the thing that I rise I was like okay, I'm literally taking this for money, like because it's good money and I, I'm 20, what would I 23 Then, and I'm like, This is my early
20s. And this is already happening, like, I can't do this for the rest of my life, I'm literally gonna, like, scratch my eyeballs out. And I felt like in a way, no, that's the time that I was. Now, this is what I would call it, I was taking like blood money. And for those of you who don't know that term, an example I would share with you is that, like, if you're a defence lawyer, you're helping like bad guys basically get not like knock it into prison, because they always have lots of
money hidden to pay you. That's like blood money. And so I'm not saying that, obviously, the corporation was doing that, however. And then anyway, arguably, a lot of corporations do do that with like bypassing laws in third world countries and developing countries. However, I literally hated the shop so much that I was like I needed I need to leave. And so I literally just looked at the
calendar. And remember, I saw the obsessive knowing this is the date that I need to leave, I'm doing it and going, Wow, what I didn't know is that that day I picked was two weeks before my commission check was coming for the whole year before. However, I was like, you know, if I stay just for money, I'm not really committed to my mission, I'm more committed to making money doing something that I hate than being in alignment with who I truly am.
And the thing that I've learned is you always, always, always, in the long run, make 10x more than when love whatever it is you desire, you have 10x more emotion, your relationships, 10 times more passion and whatever it is that you want 10x More money tenants, like you have everything when you are in alignment with who you really are. And I can tell you at that time, it didn't seem like it was 10 Next for money, but it definitely 10 Next mentality.
And so I moved across the world to New Zealand and I got another job for 400 million with a $400 million company again, my salary 64,000 All these things. So I was sitting there, like, oh my god, I literally just got up, I changed my environment. I didn't change anything really with me besides doing yoga for hours today. And I realised that I literally hate this, like, I hate this job. I like have so much to offer the world, I can't do this. So I'm like, What am I gonna do? Like now I literally
have no idea. I've never thought about being a business owner, like, what the heck am I going to do? And so I was like, Okay, I'm gonna set a date. And I'm just gonna leave. And so I look at the calendar I Okay, it was January 26 2018. What do you know? Exactly two weeks before I supposed to get my commission check before the year before. I was like, Are you kidding me? Like this, again, is happening. And I was like, alright, well,
do I stay? Or do I go and my I tuned in and I was like, I'm reading my book, I'm doing this like, No, I absolutely go, I absolutely go. So I left both those commission checks total, that'd be like $30,000, between the two of them that I just left on the table to a corporation that I put a lot of hard earned time and work into. However, looking at my life now, that $30 $30,000 Definitely text not in a direct way, yet. And like it has an indirect way as well. Not initially in a direct way.
Yeah, over a longer period of time and highs. And I feel very grateful for that. And that's something that I want to share with you. Because alignment is everything, the longer you stay in a place of alignment, okay hated my job, I couldn't have a creative force as of writing
these books. And doing this, I remember when I worked in my last corporate job before I left it, like I was literally waking up at 4am in the morning for my mentor to have a two hour call with her and then have book writing to then do yoga to then work like nine to six or if I was travelling, it was even longer. And then come home, do yoga for another two to three hours and then write again and then be up and like doing this.
And this is like literally what I was doing for like two or three months before I literally left the job. And I said okay, this is not sustainable for me to truly create what I want to create. And so I brought myself back into alignment, I left having no idea how it was going to work out yet I just trusted with an obsessive knowing that I would always be taken care of. And I was always
taken care of. And so what I want to share with you is I want you to take a look at your own life, do the exercise that I shared career income relationships, health and family, write down on a scale of one to 10 how happy you are with each of those. Anything below and eight, I want you to look at how you can bring yourself back into alignment. Feel free to reach out to me on social media.
Share this with me or your creative ideas that you have how you want to do this and bring yourself back into alignment because there's so many ways to do it. And I'm just super excited to share this with you because alignment when you really start to understand it is a fun game. Where how every moment you show up to life begins to matter. Because you realise that by you actually expressing who you are. And you actually allowing the ideas that are going on in your head to
come out of your mouth. You actually then give permission for other people to start feeling safe to realise that they can be themselves and that they can bring themselves into a state of alignment. So instead of you as the man or the woman listening to this thought wants to force everyone and at least every one of what to do and how to do it, you actually just start worrying about you and then through your being Eunice.
Other people just magically start to fall into alignment for you when you don't really have to do much work or police anybody else. So I hope this serves you. I'm super excited to talk with you soon. And absolutely tune into this to receive the frequency and let this mindfuck your reality