Episode 56 What is Anxiety and How Can You Begin to Manage it?

psychology. It's deeply devoted into New Age, spirituality, the cosmos universe, the quantum field, and also global development of planet Earth through my Masters of Science in global technology and development. My PhD I'm receiving right now from Pepperdine in psychology focused on global leadership and change. And so this podcast episode, I have something really important that I want to talk about, and I want to dive into, and it's on anxiety. I know I've never really done an episode on this.

And I feel like it's really time for me to do an episode on this. So for those of you who've known me, you know, I would never have known when I was growing up, like anxiety was not like a buzzword. It was not something that was talked about like ADHD, all the things like that was not a thing. Like, I always had like super good grades, I was always the smartest in the class, but I

was just like, different. Like, I felt like I would literally learn things do things and then like, I would just forget them like I it's so funny like looking back, I don't even know if I could tell you what I've learned in any of my high school courses or any of my college courses besides for college courses, and the ones where I'm travelling I'm I study abroad.

And high school, I really don't think there's one class I could tell you, I was present in like present in my body fully aware, like I have a remembrance of what I learned. Like, it's that crazy. And so I want to go into this anxiety because there's so many misconceptions around anxiety. I've personally never been clinically diagnosed, I've never yet sought that out, either. I'm sure if I did, I would be clinically diagnosed. Everyone who knows me knows that

I function on high anxiety. I'm highly anxious, I'm highly nervous, I have a lot of hyper activity very easily. And I've learned to manage this throughout my life. However, what I really wanted to tap into on this podcast is that people hear anxiety. And I think they think it's like this thing where you can't move like you're in, you're debilitated. And that's really not anxiety. If you actually look up on Google, what anxiety is, it's fear and

uneasiness. And so when you look at that, there's a lot of people who I would either say you have high anxiety, or you kind of have high avoidance, people that are highly anxious usually don't avoid things like things are so present for them, they feel things so much, it's so intense, like the sensations of their bodies, they don't have the option to avoid, like a conflict or avoid something that doesn't feel good or avoid something that just morally and ethically does not feel right in their

body or does not make sense to them. When the duality of that is someone who really is like avoidant, like they'll do anything to keep the peace, anything to please those around them anything to like, make everyone happy. Like avoidance is a lot different than anxiety.

If you have the pair of high avoidance and high anxiety, that is when I would see someone going into like a debilitating state, meaning like they can't communicate, they like have to leave situations, they can't really talk to people because they're really in an internal battle of they have this high sensitivity they they can't speak about and they're avoiding

it. So it's like it's like this duality of this inner thing of like, I need to say something but I can't say something and the only time I really ever had that happen which is so ironic is when I was in my codependent narcissistic relationship. When I was in that relationship, it really activated my my placement of emotional needs are emotional fill up from men.

And that attracted me naturally to a narcissist, because they kind of prey off of people like that where they will come and fill you up, and then they'll take from you and then they'll

leave you empty for a while. And then when it's good on their terms that come back and they'll fill you up, you'll be good for a little bit, but then they're like leave you empty, like it's this whole push pole which leads you into an avoidance because you don't feel like you can share what needs to be shared and it leaves you highly anxious because you're feeling so much that's happening around you that you don't like you can't communicate, you have to avoid

it. You're trying to keep the peace because you don't want someone to feel bad on you. You don't know what the reaction is gonna be and it's like this really crazy dance. So what I really want to go into is that anxiety is this thing of if you're just someone who's hyper sensitive, you're someone who like you go places and you feel socially awkward, or you go places and you feel like you understand people's emotions better than they understand

them. Here's an example. As a woman, predominantly, this is not an overarching men like to feel like they know what they're doing. They like to be able to tell woman, what's going on. They like to be able to have answers and provide solutions. Now, I was at the police department, I had to file my identity theft report from what happened on my Facebook and Instagram. And when I did this, um, there's a guy there, and I

was saying my story. He goes, I don't mean to interject, but you can just contact Facebook, I go, No, you can't. There's no phone number. There's no support. My personal account was hacked. And they they posted they broke the community guidelines. porn on my account with wasn't actually need to get me kicked off the platform. So I have no one to contact. But you have your business page business page. I'm like, No, I don't. I've already gone through this, like I already know. He's like, Well,

this has happened to me. It's been fixed. And these are both of your accounts were hacked, and there was porn posted on your account? And he was like, No, I was like, okay, exactly. So we're talking about two different situations. So what is predominately going on there, I you would have gotten highly anxious before and just like believe this man or not know

what I said to be true. But that would have made me very anxious because it was a man coming into my space, trying to tell me something different about my reality that I knew to be true. I've already obsessively looked for everything. I already did all the steps. I don't need a man who doesn't know my situation coming up and telling me there's an easier solution than what I'm making it. It's abusive. I don't like it. I didn't ask for your feedback.

You're interjecting. I'm getting my police report, because this is going to be a federal law case, just stop. But do you see how even there I go into a high anxious place. Like I feel like he's trying to come in on my space. And I don't like that. So I get highly anxious and easily defensive, where someone who's more avoid avoidance, they would go Oh, like, thank you so much. Like, I'm so grateful that you shared this with me, or I'm so grateful that you, you know, offered this I'll definitely

look into it. For me, I know I already did the work and I have this you know very much equality type of thing. Don't try and come in and tell me what it is that is going on in my reality. I already know. And unless you're sitting there with me by the computer looking at it, I don't really want to hear your commentary. And so this anxiousness so see it gets very angry, it's quick to anger, it's quick to defence. And so this is

anxiety. This is like it's always feeling like there's something to protect, always think there's something like I've already done the things cool it almost like you feel like you're already at battle and someone's trying to come and tell you your battle was wrong. Like it doesn't feel good. And so that's anxiety.

um another thing that's anxiety that I want to talk about is that when you feel extreme fatigue, if you're someone who has like a million things on your to do list like I always do, and I used to do them for whatever reason, all these things, the phone rings, your kidneys, you your mom needs you

your dad may do. I don't know there's a tornado in the building or I mean a fire alarm in the building whatever that it is, and then all of a sudden you like hit this brick wall, but I am so exhausted, I like have to take an applique cannot move through this. Wow, that is exciting. That would be that you are overthinking, overstimulated over extending your mind's capacity, and it's causing you to trip it's causing you to loop and the way to get out of that is you've really got to focus

one task at a time. So if you start something, you've got to go okay. This is what is happening. I'm feeling anxious or I'm just felt really tired I have to deal with I must have just went through an anxiety episode. I must have just had an anxiety attack. But I was it's so habitual I didn't even know I was in the anxiety. Hold on I

need to drink some water. Um, which was me a lot of my life like I had I had this space where I would constantly be doing constantly be going and then I would like hit a brick wall and just sleep for like five hours. I'd be like so exhausted until the day. I wake up. I feel so refreshed. I feel so like inspired. I feel so like amazing. And what I just wanted to share I guess really was that

when that has happens. I hope in this episode, I'm bringing you an awareness to your realities that you can start to realise how frequently you are functioning in a highly anxious state and having anxiety attacks. And you're not even knowing it's happening. If you would have told me in the past that I was having anxiety attacks, I would have told you, you're out of your mind. I would be I have anxiety, I don't know what you're talking about. But the reality is my life was so

habitual and anxiety. Like, it's scary looking back, like I really wasn't such a high anxious state at every moment. And so I would be doing things and doing things and never quite get things done. But don't feel like I did so much. But then it didn't do so much. And then on top of that, the things I did do, I would hyper analyse, do it right, was it Okay, did I say

the right thing? What are they thinking about me are the people talking about me, oh, my god, like I had these voice after voice after voice after voice in my head. Analysing the littlest task, which would take up about, I don't know, an hour to 90 minutes of my time to hyper analyse. Whatever I just did in my life, I have to talk it through with a friend and talk with her with another friend, like confirm that I didn't do anything wrong or think of

everything. And then I would sit there and be like, holy shit, I still don't have relief, and I and the day just passed, and I didn't have everything else I need to do. And so this is really why I'm running my anxiety relief workshop that we're starting on May 19. If you are able to join live, just go to my website, or email me Colleen at Colleen gallagher.co. And you'll see the details there. But it is running live once and after that will be

recorded on my website. However, I wanted to do this workshop because of things like this, because there are so many people that are rushing from point A to point B, they're rushing from relationship to relationship, they are in extreme fatigue, like you're like always trying to force yourself to get up or force yourself to go somewhere.

And you have no idea that it's actually because you are functioning at an anxiety attack, like your anxiety episodes, maybe lasting for hours or days or weeks at a time, and you have no idea. And so if any of these symptoms that I'm sharing with you sound familiar, this workshop is really going to be supportive for you, you know, something that I used to really, really

do. And I really wish I would have had like an anxiety workshop or someone talking about what's happening, but I will be at times, my mind will be going so quick, you guys, it was just so fast, there were so many thoughts. And I couldn't slow it down. So I would literally drink wine to slow down the thoughts. So I could just be present in my body. And it's not like I drink a bottle or a drink. I think it'd be like a glass or two. And it was every night. But it was like I

literally had to drink. I'm not kidding, just to slow it down. Because my brain was so overheated and so anxious and doing so much thinking about what I said or what I did or how I'm going to make this work or how I'm going to get these results or how I'm going to do this or if it's gonna work out like it was non stop. Like if that text message was too much did I say the wrong thing that I say the right thing. It was like, just so much it was like

it was overloaded. So I would have to really slow my brain down. And if someone would have told me like they had a podcast and I would have been listening like I'm intending to now for you to do now and be like, Oh my God, that's so me like I had that I would have wished I could have gotten in a workshop like this, like I'm doing it because I really could have bought years of my life. If I would have known that anxiety really is a chemical imbalance. It really is there's something going on

inside of your brain. And we've got to we've got to create some practices and some soul solutions. For you to understand this is a guidance a spiritual guidance that's coming through when you're in these anxiety episodes. Sometimes I had object episodes that would last for months you guys like there would be something really traumatising. That would happen. And it would leave me anxious for months for months. And I would replay the same story in my mind over and over and over

and over and over again. Like it was just so intense. It was so much and so what I really desire to land here is that anxiety is something many people are challenged with and I really want to shift this paradigm of how to deal with anxiety as a spiritual tool. Because what I've learned in the past 18 months is my anxiety is actually alarm bells and a guidance system that's designed to

redirect me. And I want to teach you what I've really learned about this because in the last 18 months, when I can now become aware that anxiety is coming on in my obsessive behaviour in my like results driven, I've been able to really like, get a hold of it and navigate it in a

different way. My life has began to shift rapidly in different results, my life has began to shift rapidly in the way I feel my life has began to shift rapidly, the way that I create ideas, the way that I'm like, I can build a lifestyle career, the way that I can create assets, the way that I can impact people, the way that I can monetize my life, like anxiety is something that really can be used as a creative force, a creative tool. And I want to shift this for you, I want to

empower you with this. And so I really would love if you're listening to this, and you're resonating deeply get inside of my anxiety workshop, it's going to be on Wednesday, May 19, it's going to be in my website, or I'll leave the link in the show notes here for you to enrol. The earlybird is going to enter on Monday, May 17 2021. So if you hear it after that, then obviously it's at the higher price, but it's still under

$100. And so it's one of my lowest workshops that ever run you we are doing a workshop specifically so I can guide you through what anxiety is some real practices, some tangible action steps. And this mindset shift in perspective of how this anxiety is a spiritual tool. It's a spiritual activation. The other thing I'm going to do is I want to do or I'm going to do is a sound therapy, healing and meditation session. So all you have to do is just show up and relax. There's literally nothing

for you to do. You just show up you relax, to be calm. We create space for you, you'll be connected with other people in the community. But I want to really create that space for us just to reset and rejuvenate you like really so you can feel like you have a really you spent the day at the spa like you feel relaxed. And then we're also going to have a two weeks after the workshop. So after Wednesday, we're going to have a

live q&a with myself. So after you've implemented a lot of these tools and practices and solutions that I'm going to share an offer with you that I've learned from Thomas specialist I've learned my own life I've never never ever ever heard anyone talking about anxiety in the way that I am with spiritual gifts and spiritual activation. It is one of the most profound things that

has transformed my life. It is one of the most profound teachings and embodiments that has literally guided me to move through navigating feeling like the government failed me feeling like the police aren't supporting me feeling like my business was the identity was stolen no one to call. Like this was the biggest thing that got me through this in the last you know, two weeks like it was a lot for one person to deal with plus my bank account being

hacked plus my Amazon. Like it was a lot in my whatsapp them being gone, you guys it was so much for me to take at one time. And if I didn't know how to have my anxiety practices and look at this as a spiritual resource, no way I would have been able to

make it through this. And I know if I'm going through this there has to be so many of you out there who are also struggling with this anxiety of feeling like I'm out of control a feeling like no one showing up for me feeling like I don't understand what to do or feeling like the world's letting you down a feeling like when is this all going to get better of 1am? I going to stop overthinking. am I messing everything up? What's going on? Why am I so stupid? Why is this happening? How do I

move through this? How do I keep going? How do I you know get the promotion and do the thing and be the Superhero Mom or the superhero dad and the friend and the thing and all and date and how do I do it? Should I quit the Nanika within Sure. Ah Just wanted to offer that short offering of sound therapy and meditation as I went into the mind of how so many of you are functioning so many of us.

And the second part of this workshop is a sound therapy work or offering 30 minutes and meditation of that to really reset you to really allow you to feel calm, to feel presence to feel relief. Because anxiety is something that we all suffer with and suffer we all are challenged with. And it really takes someone with courage. It takes long with conviction it takes someone who's empowered to go you know what, this anxiety is something that I have feelings of and I want to be

better. I want to figure out practices, how to manage this. I want to feel like that I'm educated and that I'm knowledgeable and that I feel Have competence that no matter what this life throws at me, my anxiety can be a tool for creative solutions for creative possibilities for a place for me to come back into calmness and stillness into peace and into power. And so I hope I gave you a good outline of anxiety of what it means we're really

feeling uneasy or fear. I gave you examples of, you know, friends worrying business. I gave too many other examples of how it's related in my life, I've kind of shared the thought process of the racing thoughts. That is what anxiety feels like. And there are ways to cope with it outside of taking medication, as I have done that my life, I've really transitioned my life, I've really empowered myself. And now it's up to do

the same for you. For those of you who really struggle with this, who really suffered with this, because if we can change our perspective, that it's just simply a tool for an activation of a spiritual gift to come through, which I'll educate you on what specific spiritual gift in this workshop. It will mean everything because together then we are rising. So I love you. I

hope you enjoyed this. Please share this with your friends, if you know someone who struggles with anxiety or they suffer and you know that this could be helpful for them. And there's a lot going on in their life as a re entry into the world after what happened globally. And social anxiety of being around people is going to be present. Again, if you could please leave a review on I podcast I or Apple podcasts, it will be really

amazing. So other people can see how this has helped you and that they can also tune in to listen. And lastly, please get inside the workshop. It's going to be absolutely incredible. We're going to have so much fun. We're going to make anxiety a mainstream, fun topic. It's not something to worry about something that you feel ashamed

of. It's something to go you know what, I have anxiety because I'm so spiritually evolved, I'm so feeling based I'm so aware, I'm so powerful that I have this special gifts that I've tapped into and I just get to receive the right practices to accelerate my journey in this human experience in this vehicle that I'm living in of my body of my mind of my

soul. So I love you, I'm so grateful that you chose to tune in to receive the frequency is every time you choose to tune in to receive the frequency of this podcast or any frequency within the world. When it offers you to become in a state of a higher vibration, to feel better, to feel more ecstasy to feel more in love to feel more empowered by being simply who you are.

That is what allows the collective planet to shift because we cannot shift all of us unless we start with ourselves to lead ourselves into this world as then we leave each other to rise in divinity, wholeness, unity consciousness. So I just love you. I honour you. I see you inside the workshop and I'm super excited to talk soon.