Hey everyone, it's Colleen Gallagher here for the third episode of a man's best friend podcast. And we are on episode, the RE yet it is a part of an eight part series of How to Become a heart centred business leader. And so on this podcast, what we're really going to be focusing on is to really, truly thrive in life to truly, really get into that that next paradigm that you're looking to reach, you have to really transition yourself from, quote, unquote, my career, to growth of
others lives. And I know this may seem a little bit of a simple concept yet, when you really think about how the world is set up, how the world has set us up, like when we went to high school, or we went to second grade, or kindergarten, whatever it was, is that we were really focused on what my grades are, where I had to be in order to fit into the top half of the class and making sure that I pass that I could move on to the next grade, it was very much about my grades very much about
our movement, our momentum of going into the direction of graduating something. And so it's kind of been programmed in us or it has been programmed is to very much thing about my career, like you want to have good grades to get into a good college, you want to go to college, because that lets you get better opportunities with bigger fortune 500 companies, which allows you security with health care, and all these
things. And so you've been taught from a very young age, everything needs to be focused on my career, things for me to do. And I believe that that's a beautiful way to programme people, when they're first initially entered into a world of learning how to care about yourself and furthering yourself becoming motivated, becoming
inspired. Yet, the reality is, is when you're doing something just for yourself, when it becomes my money goals are finishing a master's or as many of you know, I'm starting a PhD and to finish that when it comes just about me and my caring, and my ego. And once on my checklist, there will be a point in life that we we lose motivation. Because you see, it's it's all about instead of caring about the growth that we
can offer other people. And so there has to be some time somewhere in your life, there gets to be a shift where it's no longer just about you, it becomes about what's the greater offering that you can give to other people, what's the greater inspiration, what's the greater knowledge that you can impact someone's lives with them, this means that you could be come a manager at maybe a facility or a big corporation or you start your own kind of side hustle and side job, yet, you you have to
have something that's a greater motivation than yourself. Because if you get to the point, when you're 3040 5060 years old, and still just about you still just about me, my career, what's happening, you're probably going to feel exhausted, you're not going to be excited to wake up out of bed, there's going to be times when you lose momentum, because I've never truly seen someone who's really living an extraordinary successful life that is completely happy and fulfilled, that just focus on
themselves. Yes, you can do it that way you can create success that way from just focusing on yourself. Yet, it's so much sweeter when you start to realise that you can help other people rise and it becomes so much sweeter that as you watch other people rise that you naturally become taken care of.
So what I mean by this, let's think of you if you think of professors even it could be universities or teachers, it could be a high school or middle school, whatever it is, a lot of them you know, they're not really focused on just their career as a teacher, they're focused on the, excuse me the grow that they can have at other another's lives. And so you want to start looking
at that for yourself. And even though maybe it's not monetary success that teachers receive our doctors even sometimes they don't receive the monetary success that may be an entrepreneur does or a CEO does. Yet they're impacting the way that they know how to impact it.
And so the the short term gain of of not going for the goal of money going for the gold impacting someone's lives, over time compounds in a way where they'll become so much happier, someone's more fulfilled, so much more excitement and that their financial goals, their business goals may not come even from their main source of what they do. Yet it comes from who they be. There's other opportunities that get brought
into their life. Maybe it's not money that's directed to them, but they create a Cancer Foundation or they start to create a nonprofit and money starts to show up for you in
different ways. And so, what I like to share with you on this is transitioning from my growth to the growth of others is, as leaders, we've been programmed and trained to think about our rise on the journey, we have to hit sales numbers, we have to manage a team, we have to work endless hours on doing things we hate just to achieve money
success goals. If the question truly becomes, are you going to wake up one day when you're 80 years old, 30 years old, 4050, whatever, and ask yourself, are you even really enjoying the process of this beautiful journey of life, because the one thing that you could never get back is time, you can get back money, you can always create more of it. But you can never get back time, I would almost argue to every single person that a moment is time wasted is actually more expensive than a
penny being wasted. I would actually argue with you that a moment in time being wasted on something that's not fulfilling a mission is actually a million times more expensive than $1 being wasted on a candy bar. Time is something that when you use it correctly, it's going to empower you and guide you to
feel fulfilled. When you are coming from a place of choosing to feel good when you're coming from a place of choosing that you want to help other people grow in their lives, you want to help other people succeed a lot just free very quickly, because it's no longer just you that's now working with you, you now have what I like to call it other galaxies, there's angels, there's a whole other light avatar team that you can't see in the physical plane, yet
they're here to support you. And what I mean by the physical plane is in our bot, like our bodies are physical, this microphone is physical, my phone
is physical. Yet, when you're just focused on my my, my that light avatar team that I spoke about here to support you can't support you in the way that it wants, because you haven't yet allowed them to access the point of moving through you and that trust with them that they're going to move through with you and you're going to take the action to not just cause success for yourself but the growth of a
collective group of people. And so in the second golden rule I call it is moving from I am AI to we are and collective growth. And just notice maybe how many times throughout the day you're saying I'm my versus we are things like that. So it'll create a big shift in your life. And to the people who have quote unquote, made it the Warren Buffett that Jeff Bezos and Nelson Mandela's it was never about their success. It was about how they were going about how they were doing was going to
change lives of others. And from that space in place in their life, it created a business infrastructure to come through, which then allowed not only their career, but many people's careers to grow. Think of how many people Jeff Bezos employees giving them health insurance money to pay for their rent and mortgages and so on. Think about how many kids Jeff Bezos has helped paid for them to get their master's or part of their undergrad because their parents
are working at Amazon. That's not just Jeff Bezos group career, he's empowering a lot of other people to get the tools and resources they need to go live the life that they want. So to truly become a heart centred business leader, you must suck it up, that in the small moments, when no one is watching you, you will not be applauded.
It's because you did the right thing in those moments that they compound over time, you took the time to truly care about someone else and empower them to live a better life by speaking with them. That's what you have the results of you becoming your own Jeff
Bezos. When you start listening to your obsessive knowing, which I talked about in episode two, these moments become more frequent, apparent, and you become more masterful at sharing the moments of caring about other people's gross over yours, with no attachment to the outcome of what's going to happen when you simply help someone when you've been Two Minutes offering your value to say hello, how are you? Everything changes, when the value you place on time isn't
about where you're going. It's about the journey of who you're impacting to where you're going.
So that thing of you just going to the grocery store to get that those eggs or the milk or whatever that it is it no longer just becomes going to the grocery store and doing that thing at the process of they're like the cashier that you're speaking with the people that you meet the the stranger that's walking on the sidewalk and it becomes a new care about making other people smile more than you that it makes a bigger impact.
And so this is where you really become a leader that's heart centred instead of a results driven egotistical human are person that is causing your own suffering instead of success. So an example that I like to share here is you know, when we're using language of my Think of it, like, we're only talking about ourselves and our
achievements. Were working alone, instead of what the team were being tasked driven instead of vision driven, believing that you have to help every single person just by you, and then if you let go of any control that anyone else can help or support you on your mission, that they're not going to do it as well. Well, that's only gonna
get you so far in life. And I've seen many people in life maybe out the the million dollar even 10 million even $50 million mark that have made it to my Yeah, I think what do you really want to go to that next place that greater place, that's when you move to our and I truly, truly believe when you're coming from a place of our when you're coming from a place of we, when you're coming from a place of enjoying the journey and wherever it is that you think
you want to go. And that destination of where you want to go no longer becomes the destination of a thing it becomes the journey becomes the destination. And the journey of helping others through your specific way of helping them is what really makes a huge shift of transitioning from no longer just about you dissolving all the programming, that's false.
And it's an illusion. For you to truly start making the impact, you know, you're meant to have, just the things I like to say with are shifting your language is. So an example for our growth are helping we movement it is someone is sharing, they're looking for a new house, and you put them in touch with your friend who's a real estate agent, and you expect nothing in return, you don't expect a commission, you don't expect a thank you, you just simply did
it just to be a good person. The second thing is holding a team member or a team meeting, and you let other people lead the meeting instead of you. So maybe if you have a monthly call and said you give the opportunity for someone else to lead it, and maybe multiple people and you you shift that up so the team can start using their voice, they can grow their competence, they can be nervous to be doing
all this stuff. And you get to see them rise, you get to see them practice using their voice to become the next management teams, the next leaders or whatever that is. And the last thing is that your goals as I kind of touched on, stop really revolving around you and your goals really start to become about empowering others to rise, your goals start to become a little really about what you want to do, because you're so concerned or so motivated or inspired by what other people
can do through you. And so one thing that I wanted to share with you with this, and a good way to start moving to this is to ask yourself, what brings me joy. And when I actually ask people this question of what brings me joy? Not once when someone truly authentically answers it has it really been about them. Most of us if we look at who we all were, we are energetic beings, we are light
beings. And if you look at you know, even our hand button, or the best telescope, or whatever it's called telescope, I think it is that I think NASA has are the space agency has, you literally just see atoms moving around our hand, you don't even see like the actual outline of our hands, you literally just see atoms moving through space.
And when you think about that, it shows that all these little atoms together had to come together to make up the density of my hand that you're actually able to see within your own eye. And so when I ask people what brings them joy, I share this story with you is we all just really want to help people just like our atoms really want to help us have a body that is healthy, that is strong, that is resilient. And most people, what they really brings what really brings them joy is helping other
people. When you really ask about people, it's not about the money they make. It's not about their job. It's about the satisfaction they get when they get to see someone smile. It's about them being able to truly see that they made a difference in someone. It's that moment that you took in time to buy someone a coffee that couldn't afford their own. See, those are the things that bring people joy. And so I'd ask you to really sit down and question
What does bring you joy. Now the second thing that I want to share with you is in this process of really transitioning from my growth to growth of others lives. I always asked people to say this. If I were to die tomorrow, what I'd be proud of myself. I would have died tomorrow, would I be proud of
myself? And I get a lot of mixed reviews because people go, Oh, Colleen, it's so easy for you to say that you had cancer at a young age that was, you know, really imprinted in you from from very young to think that way. I think that's something that I'm very grateful for. Because I do think cancer, I know it cancer really changes
your life and perspective. And since I was a little girl, I've been more willing to take the risk that other people haven't to make my dreams happen, and just have a knowingness and a trust in my heart that they're all working out. Yet, yeah, I've made a lot of mistakes on that journey as well. And I've done a lot of things that were focused on me rising to the top me making a difference for a woman empowerment. And me doing this and I made it a lot about me.
And even when I first started my business, I made it a lot about me, my growth, what I wanted to see the number of followers I followed, I had the number of clients I had the number, the amount of money that I made, I made it a lot about me. And that's a programming that even we all fall into yet, I started to realise more and more like
one was I truly happy. And I'm truly truly happy when I'm sitting with a human being discussing their life and giving them that sparkle of hope of what they could still achieve, what they have the potential to be. I want to travel the world for a whole year. I remember I stayed at so many Airbnb hotels, all the segments, like everyone gave me five star reviews, everyone was like always helpful to me. The food guides or the baggage people always like went
above and beyond for me. And I remember I was just like, why does that happen? Is I realised that when I was travelling, it wasn't about me, because it was me about it was about me seeing that connection was real. me seeing that when you share your heart with someone else, that they instantly share theirs with yours, me seeing that these walls that we've built don't
actually exist. And so what I ask of you is to look at your life and say, if I were to die tomorrow, what I'd be proud of me to do impact the people that you know, you're meant to impact from that obsessive knowing. Have you truly gone into the life that you want to create? And have you travelled the world? Have you loved the people that treated you? Right? Have you really done what you know you were meant to do? And I know deep down you know that you have a greater calling or you
wouldn't be here. I know deep down that whatever you're doing right now, there's still a part of you that's in my career, my success? And what did you completely dissolve that? What if you could no longer care about your success? You just so badly cared about the success of others? What would happen if you allowed yourself to shift into that? So I remember when I worked for $23 billion company. And I was covering both of them got to cover a million dollars in a multi million dollar
territory. And I remember people ask me calling you're not a sales engineer? How was this happening for you? And I remember I wanted to be a sales engineer because I want to make a difference for a woman in a male dominated field. And why did I do so? Well, it's because I truly know I truly believe when I was with a lot of these older men, engineers, white, white older men.
You know, a lot of them maybe didn't have the emotional intelligence training or opportunity to understand what love can really mean, what being a father could really mean, what true joy could really mean. A lot of them didn't really know anything, except that I have to do something to have money to pay the bills. They never really allowed themselves to think outside that box. Yeah, when I was there, I allowed them to express the engineer that they truly were what it is they love
about engineering. And I was able to connect the dots in a way of relationship building, what they really loved and what the company that I worked for offered. Now see in that step of allowing someone the freedom to express themselves, that creates a trust and relationship building that isn't my career, and I wasn't doing it just to
build my sales. I was doing it because I truly wanted them to feel seen, heard, loved, as I do with every single individual that I mean, I want every single person that I touch to feel like I can hear them. I can see them I can feel them. And that they truly know that they have the opportunity to express who they really are. And so because I did that, I really believe that's why I had such a successful career when I worked in a corporate job for an as an engineer for both male dominated
fields. And because it wasn't about me, it was about allowing others to feel seen, heard and felt. And the third thing that I want to share with you is that when you tap into feeling guided, when you tap into tuning in, when you tap into knowing that none of this is really about you, it just your body is a physical vessel, for other people to become initiated into truly becoming alive in life. You know, a dear friend of mine the other day, her and I were talking and she told me there's
alive well and thriving. Most people are not even alive. There, there's existing kind of through life, they're walking almost like a zombie, because they're not even realising what's available for them around them in this beautiful planet. Well, being well means you have a healthy body, you're excited, you have happiness, you have emotions. So thriving is when you really go into the state of pure ecstasy. Thriving is the state when your negative
emotions just dissolve. Thriving as a state when you don't have resistance to anything that you truly desire. Thriving as a place when you change your perspective, so it's broaden and the lens is greater for you to truly see. What it is you want out of life. Thriving is when you no longer even just know that it's what you want out of life. It goes into what you can offer others. And that's the place where my career no longer matters, because you've now just gone to the growth of others.
That's when my life no longer matters because my life is so much greater in the collective growth to other people. That's when I just one little human being is so small and the greater equation of the collective of where I fall in just to simply express me and that's enough for someone else's life to change. And if you know of knowingness in you right now, I know that you do that you can change someone's life, and you are acting on it. That is
selfish, that is focused Lee. So focusing on your career, your love and your beliefs, the things that are holding you back, we actually aren't going out there and making a difference in someone else's life. So I wanted to share these with you as you transition from my career and growth of my career to growth of others lives. And I hope this serves you please feel free to leave any comments or reach out to me. My name is
Colleen Gallagher. And in the bio section, I will leave the link to my first book that's on Amazon that talks about living your truth. I go through five steps. The first one starts to share become open. So opening yourself to new opportunities and discovering who it is you're meant to be a step two. So I'm excited to be here. I'm excited to be sharing this. I'm excited for you to step into becoming a heart centred leader and we'll talk very soon