Episode 14 - Forgiveness

forgiveness. A lot, a lot, a lot happening in the world as it's, I think, spring or summer 2020 that we're starting in. And if you think of 2020, right, it's perfect vision when you think of glasses, right. And so, right now, I feel like there's so much happening on our planet, there's so much disturbance, whether it's global warming, there's huge things that are happening on the world politically, social and justices economy is COVID. Black Lives Matter vegan issues,

like there's so many things. And so in this podcast, I want to talk about forgiveness, because I feel like a really big thing that's happening right now is people are wanting to express how they feel. And sometimes how I feel is going to be very different than how you feel

about something. And what happens when we have this place of two people sharing how they feel, yet in a different space, is sometimes this can create anger and resentment and divide, which is really, really sad, because we want to move into a world where everyone is feeling safe to express themselves vulnerably. And sometimes expressing ourselves vulnerably looks like anger, it looks like sadness, it looks like happiness, it looks like joy, it

looks like prosperity. Sometimes it looks like having the flashy new car. And sometimes it looks like not being able to even buy doughnuts at the store. I think every single one of us can relate to having a range of emotions that come through us. And every single one of us can relate to feeling suppressed, to not express what's coming

through us. Because we feel like if we express ourselves that we are going to we're going to have a like a bad thing happened to us or we're not going to be able to still reach the goals that we want. And so I want to just talk about this, this thing of

forgiveness. Because in this chaotic world, in this world of so much happening, we're so quick to be angry for someone else's feelings, we're so quick to say that they're wrong for saying that the political the Left Party is right, or the the political red party is right. Like we're so quickly to say like, what you are wrong for

this. And in that moment of wronging I'm shaming and blaming, we move into a state of anger very quickly, we move into a state of of moving away from Harmony and into a state of activating our nervous system very, very quickly. And so, what I specifically want to share about here is how do we

have a conversation? How do we acknowledge or honour people for having different opinions than us, different feelings in us even if we don't agree with them, and forgiving ourselves and them for not being able to find a ground zero on a topic.

And what I mean by Ground Zero is something that we can have a normal conversation with without getting heated or up levelled are expressed in a way that's hindering, hindering, love, harmony, and peace because not everything is always going to be in love, harmony and peace, but we can have a conversation that's moving towards that direction, or it's going to be

moving towards the other. And so I want to realise is this business and other things that I remember when I had thyroid cancer and I was like, just so angry at the medical field, right? So angry, like how could I have this? Why would we have to medication dress my life I'm taking parents or my parents money from this. I feel ashamed I made out of cancer. Many my friends didn't I had all this anger, right. And this anger

wasn't even at one person. Like if you think about the anger was a social injustice, that anger wasn't even at like, just cancer. It was like I was mad at doctors. I was mad at medication. Like there's multiple layers of anger. And I was like, how do you get so mad at a system so mad at someone? And how do you forget? Like, how do you move through this? And I think a lot of us are feeling that way right now. Like how do we move through all these emotions? And so I want to touch

on this. I really, really believe and this is something that I've gone through my own life, when we have anger at others is actually undiscovered anger within ourself. What I mean by this is that if we are angry at someone else for having different beliefs than us, we have not yet gone To the depth to fully appreciate why it is that we're here, why it is that we matter. And we have not fully dove in into our cap capacity or capability to use our voice to speak about what's on our heart.

Instead, we're lashing out at a moment when we feel we get an opportunity to express ourselves and mad at someone else for not agreeing. When in reality, we need different opinions. We need different leaders, we need different people doing different social movements. We need people with different types of business models. Imagine if we had everyone saying I want to be a

hairdresser. And that's the only thing for me like a world would be a mess, we wouldn't even have roads wouldn't have construction, like there'd be so many issues, right? So what I want you to turn into, what I want you to remember is that when you come into this place of anger you feel it rise in you is where can you forgive yourself for not yet accepting who you fully are not accepting that you have not yet taken the action to be all of who you're meant to

be. Because I promise you, when you come into this space of realising that you are meant to be extraordinary, you are meant to be phenomenal. You are meant to literally express yourself in such a way that it empowers you and it guides you and it moves you forward instead of having angry conversations with people.

When you start to forgive yourself for not yet living into your potential instead of getting so angry at everyone else, you stop actually getting angry at everyone else, because you don't have time for it anymore. You instead are so focused on your goals, on your dreams, on your expression on what you as one person can do, that anger has nowhere to live. So I want to give you an example of how I teach this. And this was in my book, Love your truth.

And I talked about it in the second first step, I think is becoming open our step to discover. But basically, I had a man come up to me. And when I was 1415. He said, You're ugly because of your neck. And I said shut up. And the teacher then responded, don't be so sensitive. I remember I was so angry at this guy, right? I was so angry at him. And I found out about four years later, they ended up committing suicide when I was in college. I remember I was so angry then that he

committed suicide. But here's what I was missing. It wasn't that I was ever angry with him calling me ugly. I was angry with myself that I hadn't completely embodied that I had cancer that I hadn't completely embodied that cancer makes me beautiful, that my scar actually makes me a warrior, that my scar is actually just something incredible. And I was angry at myself for not realising that. And so is not even many that I had cancer, I wasn't even seeing what a gift it was yet for the

trauma that I went through. So I was holding this anger towards the medical field and all these people because I didn't yet see the gift. And so how I started my place of forgiveness of God or the universe or my family or doctors for me getting cancer was I started to see that it was a gift. And this process of me seeing that it was a gift. I no longer had room for anger and hate. And this process of forgiving myself for not yet seen the good. The anger was

able to dissolve. And so what I want you to take away from this shorter podcast I'm doing specifically around forgiveness specifically around this time that we're in of chaotic, if someone in your family has a different opinion that you have a friend has a different opinion than you let them have that opinion. Let them have that

feeling. It is not your job to make someone see your point of view, it is your job to allow someone to feel that they can express themselves and they can go on their own self discovery

journey. It is your job to be such a place of alignment with you, it's your job to be such in a place of you're taking action to be the best version of you to make your goals happen to make your dreams happen, that you couldn't possibly give hate even you can even give anger attention to someone else that has a different belief because you're still focused on you. And your goals and your dreams not saying you was like okay, I'm

gonna go do something bad. Like I believe I actually know if you're listening to this podcast. When you are meant to focus on your goals and your dreams, it means that you are going to have an impact on a social injustice, whatever social injustice it is, there's so many of them, but you will have an impact on it. If but if you're so busy focused on everyone else, then you can't be focused on building and forgiving yourself for not yet

living into your potential. And the thing about our potential is that it's going to get deeper and deeper and deeper. We're going to hit one level when I thought I reached my potential and then we said there's a whole new level available to us. It's like when you make a certain amount of money, you're like, Okay, I'm making $5,000 a month

that's great. Then you realise you can make $10,000 a month, then you go and do I can make a million dollars a month, then you can think I can make $10 million a month and you just allow yourself to go What if I could actually live into my potential well If I could think that big, what if I had $10 million? What could I do to implement in a schooling infrastructure that would actually maybe change something that I didn't like, as a kid.

For me, I know education, I would want to change, specifically creativity and allowing people to be more creative, allowing people to step more into that. And that's what I would want to do. That's what would feel good for me. It starts with you. I can't be angry at what's not happening, I can only be focused on my goals and my dreams. And in that process of going from, let's focus on them what they're doing, what their opinions are, what their beliefs are, let me get angry at them. Because it's

not what I'm feeling. Let me just tell you turn inward, become a heart centred business leader, which I talked about episode one through eight, I let me take the action. So I can be the change that I want to see, I can be the one making the difference. And it's not going to happen overnight. However, it will compound slowly over time.

And that process of compounding over time, you're going to have so much fun along the way, you're going to meet incredible people, you're going to lose some friends that were holding you back that were making you angry because they're not going to be in alignment with where you're going. Yet this process of you being angry is going to dissolve because you're going to see that you're forgiving yourself for not living into

your potential. Because anger only stems from us not seeing that we can do it ourselves that we believe it's possible. You know, a great example that I want to share with this. And this was this was recent, maybe maybe two years ago or so. I didn't always believe that I could create success on my own right. I really believe that I wanted love. And I really thought that I maybe needed a man to help me be successful.

And I think that's something a lot of us feel I'd be really angry at men if I feel like they weren't helping me or I wasn't getting something they'd like lecture me or get really angry, right? Well, the thing that I had to learn, right, it wasn't that I was ever angry at the man it was that I had not yet forgiven myself to see that I'm so powerful on my own, that I'm so powerful that I could create

it, I don't need a man. It's that if I choose to be in a relationship, it's because I chose it not because I need it. But seeing that process of going from angry at men to seeing that I had to forgive myself for not believing it's possible. I dissolve the anger and came back into a state of pure love. And so what I'd like to invite you all to do when listening to this podcast, just close your eyes, if you can, if you're driving, just relax.

You know, think to yourself a positive thought so what I'd like you to think is I forgive myself or you can put your hand on your heart and say I accept myself. That's probably both I forgive and accept myself. I'm just gonna say a quick meditation with us together. Unit universe on behalf of the whole Galactic Federation that's available to us and on this

planet earth. I like to invite everyone who's listening and receiving the frequency of this podcast to simply tune into their heart to simply see that they are accepted. To simply state the anger that is arising in the collective between politics between social injustice is between things that are unfair that are happening that we turn our eyes away from others and instead we gaze inward we turn our mind away from hate and we look at what the action is that we can take right now.

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look at what it is we can do. So we can be the one leading the movement, the action, the whatever it is we deeply care about. And from this place, I request that forgiveness is birth From this place I request that we, we remember, we're all human beings, that we all are simply doing the best. We all just want to love and be loved. We all are wanting to just express what's on our heart, and realise that there is no right or wrong expression. Sometimes people just don't know any

better any difference. However, if they have the courage to express what's on their mind at heart, let's send them love for finally feeling free to do that. Even if it comes out in anger and blame and shame. That's usually when someone needs to love the most. When you're listening to this, remember to do your part by simply asking people, are you okay? And from that place of simply going, are

you okay? We can shift our frequency into what we can offer, which is pure presence for someone to actually express the deeper issues, the deeper emotions that are going on in their heart. forgiveness isn't about forgiving someone else. Forgiveness is about us. It's about forgiving what we allowed to happen in our space. It's about forgiving what we co created with someone, it's about forgiving ourselves to be in such a place where such darkness could have been existing in our

life. And it's in this process of where we can start to forgive ourselves. And even if there's another person, that we become liberated. And it's in this place alone, that forgiveness has to start with ourselves, because we're the ones that create everything in our reality. Forgiveness is a blessing, forgiveness brings us back to love. Forgiveness allows us to understand how to have negotiations, peaceful agreements, and any really business agreement that can

empower us to go forward. And sometimes that might mean in forgiveness that we lose that we let the dark force take more than what we really want to give. But it's because that person needed it more than us. For example, if I had something in my closet, and I had movers that I hired, and someone stole a bunch of my clothes that were movers, but I'd be upset, of course, it then I would think to myself, they must have really

needed the clothes. And in that place, if forgiveness of I forgive myself for not being more careful, if I really love those clothes to protect them, that now they can be gifted to someone else I have, there's more than enough for me to find close again. In this place, we allow ourselves to transition in this place. We allow ourselves peace in this place. We allow ourselves forgiveness and this place we allow ourselves to be part of the New Earth. There's a massive awakening that's

happening on the planet. There's a massive movement while moving from masculine structures to a creative based collaborative leadership style. There's a huge opportunity for you to see that you can be part of a community, you can be a leader, you are a leader. And it's for you to

start to see that truly. When we stop placing the blaming, wanting people to see our ideas so bad our thought process and we instead we simply just allow there to be a national a natural conversation of expression that we find much more easier we come to the ground zero, where we can have the peaceful agreements that are made so we can all move forward together. I hope this

podcast serves you. I would love for you to reach out to me on any social media channel that you feel called to to share your feelings of forgiveness or what has gone on in your life. And I would be blessed to hear about it. My Instagram is I am calling Gallagher My Facebook is the Colleen Gallagher. My website is calling gallagher.co Thank you so much for being here. I feel

honoured, grateful. Let's all forgive ourselves so we can forgive each other and we can move forward in a harmonious way for all of us collectively to feel at peace.