Episode 101 - How do we Begin to Accept Ourselves and Accept Our Choices We've Experienced Through Our Painful Relationships

Health and wellness became a passion of mine because I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer at age 14 And after really it was so long guys it was nine long year this Efrain I self Healed

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how everything is going. I love you and thank you for being part of this collective community. I'm so excited today I get to meet you and give you a big hug. And so with that, let's get into today's episode. Oh my goddess. I'm just so excited to be here on this Monday morning than the fact that I arrived early to my podcast is like a big deal for me. Oh, but I should show you guys as if you're on the video.

So this is my brand new award that I won from education 2.0 I'm actually going to grab it really quick so you guys can watch on the video. But look at this is my ward I won outstanding leadership from education 2.0 I need to find where like the perfect place to put it in my place. But right now it's just kind of on this desk hanging out while I figure

that out. And then as you guys see I have my third book and uncompromised life, we have my crystal line, the crystella crystal, the rose quartz, we have my Oracle deck object to pick the card for us. And we have my sunglasses, but so anyway, oh, and I have my coin, my magical coins. So if you guys want to activate abundance, this is perfect. Like put in your wallet or like by your laptop if you're working. I made these coins and they're just

beautiful. So anyway, but before I get into today's episode, let's pick a card from my magical creature Oracle Card Deck, you can get them on Amazon, you can get them on my website or on Indy deck hub, which is really cool. We actually just sponsored an event with my Oracle deck, which is going to be so fun, and I'm really excited about that. So the card for each of us wherever you're listening to this, it's Freida threat that has a pink background. She's very

beautiful, she's feminine. The pink background means working on your mindset. So this one says Be your own hero. Take your own hand and lead yourself to the land of dreams. I love that. So wherever you are listening to this, I want you to know that you can be your own hero. You're the one who can lead yourself into the life that you want to live and everything else. So with that today's episode we're gonna get into it's all about

acceptance. I really want to talk about acceptance, because I think it's a word that keeps coming back into my life. And for those of you who watch my social media this weekend, why shouldn't we just say this weekend. I feel like I went through I'm going through a really big uplevel like 2022 I feel like is this year for me where I'm like purging. It's like a release. Yeah, I'm just letting go. Like everything that's no longer mine to carry.

I'm letting go of weight, letting go of ties, I'm letting go of conversations. I'm letting go of expectations. I'm letting go of ideas of how I thought things would be for like a long term. And I'm just releasing all

these things. And so this weekend particularly was a little bit traumatic, which I want to start out and share with you guys and just talk about because I feel like I leave this part of my life so private, and I want to be more honest, because I'm not this perfect person that lives this perfect life. There's, you know, a lot of pain that I've experienced in my life, which is what's made me so happy or so positive.

There's a lot of pain I experienced you know, there and I think I've been able to maybe it's my Scorpio nature or my commitment to enlightenment that I've alchemize these things but it doesn't mean that I don't go through things. And so I'm gonna write a post on it but really recently I went through a splitting up of friendship that was really deep and profound. But both of us kind of knew for a while the friendship had took

his toll. And then sadly, due to a, what's it called, due to an action that I did this person felt like, you know, they that's what gave, I guess our relationship to do an action to the space for us both to say like our time was friends is past. And it was really hard because it was someone I thought would be a friend for a long time. And it was like family. But I think what I've learned is what I'm learning is that

nothing is forever. And you have to accept the fact that sometimes we change and grow and evolve, and it's okay to part ways. It's okay to say like, we're not in alignment for where each of us want to go in our life anymore. And there's nothing bad about that. Um, the other thing that happened that was, you know, I think, as you guys know, with my third book, and uncompromised life, it's right here. This book and uncompromised life is my third book. And this is my first book,

live your truth. And this is my second book, The future for writing is education. I have three different books, but this book specifically, I went through a really deep experience with a man where, you know, he was dating another woman, he lived with her but wasn't honest and still, to this day isn't honest. And like says they never

lived together. And we kind of all went into a relationship together, I had a relationship with her, I had a relationship with Him, we all three had a relationship, like, it was a very interesting dynamic. And I guess I obviously wanted to experience it, or I wouldn't have experienced it, right. But they like kept it from me, like basically, it was almost like they had intended something with

me. And then I was kept in the dark, and they painted a picture a certain way to get me to do things, then then I realized that it was a different picture. So anyway, I ended up getting pregnant because I stayed in that relationship way longer than I wanted, because I knew that's not what I wanted for my life. And I became pregnant. And that was like my wake up sign from God of like, you're not living your purpose. You're not living who you're meant to become this relationship is not enhancing

your life. And so I aborted the child within six days of knowing had no conversation with him. And then within two months after that, I deleted him out of my life. And he showed up ironically, to the woman who was this person that was my best friend showed up to her birthday. And waited there eight hours to talk to me to speak to me after not seeing me for over a year. I'm sorry, that was one one year it was like short.

These are the few months and then the next year, it was eight hours because so much time had passed. I never reached out. I never texted I never emailed like nothing. And it was really hard. It was probably the it was like I'm overcoming a heroin addiction. It really really was, it was so challenging, because there was so much a child and unknowns are questions with this person. A year and a half later, they came to 18 months to be

exact. Previous time I saw them before at a birthday party, they came and they waited eight hours at this birthday party just to talk to me. And I waited 13 days till after that, and I reached back out. And we went on another deep relationship. But what I found out in that 18 months that he actually had another woman pregnant at the same time that I was pregnant. It they planned it. She paid her that money to become pregnant. And the other woman he was in a relationship

with it ended. And he now had a son. And I still chose to go into this relationship. From this relationship. I chose to do a collaboration with him on my social media. And I actually paid him out 15 More than that $17,000 from my company, for the collaboration that he didn't share. They were all my clients and I did back end work on funnels that I never got paid for. I basically did it for free. And I did this in the name of love, right in the name of love. And this weekend, which

was really fascinating. I found out that he's lied again, and the whole time he's been with the child's mom, and the child's mom having no idea how much had been in the son's life. All the shit that this her child's father has talked about her that, you know, just so much like all the things he's told me about her and her relationship with her child like it was just this insane experience that I found out by going on Instagram and But it was heartbreaking. It was a heartbreaking situation.

And in a way, it was exactly what I needed, because I finally came to an acceptance of this, that he is who he is, and it's never going to change. And I think as people, we have to learn to accept people for who they are. And I think that's been really hard for me, I've always wanted to see people on their highest timeline, or they say that this is what they want to do, or this is what they want to experience in life. And then I see them at that place of what

they're doing. Because I'm an action taker, if I say something I'm going to do, I'm going to take action I'm going to move towards I don't think about it for a long time. I don't dwell about it for a long time. I'm fucking think about it, and I make it happen. And I think what I've learned to these two experiences, these two releases and had one of their friends that I released as well wasn't as profound as these two friendships. But it was, you know, a meaningful relationship,

I have to accept. And I think all of us like people are who they are. And we have to accept who we are. And sometimes the standards and the things that we desire in a relationship, someone can't deliver, like, this man did not have the capacity to hold what I want, he couldn't do anything in the digital world. He manip I allowed him to manipulate my mind to not be paid for services that I did that if it was anybody else who was collaborating with would have

absolutely charged him. But because we were relationship I didn't paying him money because he needed money for a car because his money's locked up with this axe that, you know, whatever movie knows if that's true or not, it could just be making it up. But I just did all these things out of the name of love. And I think that it's okay to accept sometimes that we are naive or that we make excuses for ourselves to the behavior of others to hope that they'll get

a different result. But I want this podcast to be about acceptance, and accepting that people are who they are. They're not what they say. They are what they do. So the moment that you're in a relationship with someone in your relationship with everyone, everyone like right now we're in a relationship. And the moment you listen to this, and you feel like how do I describe this? The moment that you feel something like this is not in resonance, something's going wrong here.

Something doesn't feel right. The moment you feel that you have to accept that that's probably truth. And that's probably the universe trying to guide you in a different way. It's trying to let you refocus your energy, where it's meant to go instead of the thing or person or job that you're currently at. And you want to really begin to tap into that feeling like moving your body if you're watching me like you and I do this. It'll be like, What do I feel? How's what's going

on? And I'll feel right like the landing in my body. You can feel like Ah I feel safe here. I feel a gentle or you'd be like, tense something doesn't feel right. What's going on? And it's really funny because this man, right who I wouldn't accept, right? He'd always come over to my place and be like, you haven't offered me this. You haven't gotten me this You haven't given this you haven't done this. And he would say like all these things I haven't done as much as he's like, walked in

the door. Like, you haven't give me a hug. You haven't done this. You haven't? Where's my food? Where's this where, like, a million things and I like if I was a stay at home mom, or you know, someone didn't work? Sure. But I'm like a working woman like I work you know, and it's like, I don't have the energy to do all those things. Because I'm

also working as a career. I also am leading a team of people, like, I have clients that I'm leading, like, I don't have like time to take care of a whole man on top of everything I'm doing. Like in that way. It's like a child. And so it's funny because I was realizing these things and then I would go on dates with other men and it's funny like other one would be like, Hey, I'm going to be about seven I'm going to surprise you on where to eat. I know you're so busy.

I'm so excited and like, it was like with other men I was like able to breathe like able to release instead of like up so tense of what did I do? What didn't I do and scurrying around

your mind. And I think you have to see these signs sooner and accept them accept the signs of what someone is doing, not what they say not but I love you not that I want to be with you not that I want to work on things like that doesn't show that that's words but doesn't show action on wanting to work doesn't show action on change or transformation or alignment. And so I just want this podcast to be on acceptance and I'm gonna go deeper into it. But I want you to look within yourself.

That's probably the first thing look within yourself. I want you to accept who you really are and accept your desire. So like one of my desires, right is I love Have to go out to dinner. I love dinner dates. I love love, love it like that's when I favorite

things I love. I would take a dinner date and dancing you know, any night over a lot of things that I think that's one of my favorite favorite things or even just actually, I should say like I would take laying in bed and watching the movie and hanging out over a lot of things to like, to me I like more like intimate spaces. And I don't know, I like events, obviously going out and doing events, but I don't mind like my intimate private, romantic space. I don't

know, I love that. And that's like something I have to accept about myself. Right? Like, I love that. And I love being taken to dinner. I love that I'm like a working successful woman and yes, I can take myself to dinner but like, the guy's got me like, he's got it and he can pick me up and you know, and even oh my god I loved and I think that was like my guys. Like, where this like it tells me what to wear. Or like he gets something like it's just so

sexy. Because it's like, like, this life that I have to always lead and like, be this top performer and like with him, I can be told what to do. I can be guided, I can be led. You can even see my face light up if you're watching the video. Like, it just melts me right. Like there's something about it. It's just so ironic to me. And I don't have to shame myself for that. Right? Like I can love myself for that. I can accept that about myself. I can accept

that I'm different. You know, a lot of guys that you know, date me if they're not conscious or they're not awake at all. They're always like, You're weird, or you're different. Or, you know, this guy after our you know, our fight on Friday night or Fallout, he told me that I'm hard to have a relationship with that he never I was never his girlfriend, I love that line. You're in it you whenever my girlfriend, okay? Just like

funny. It's coming from the guy that we were going to live together, it was going to have me pay for the rent, but he didn't have money to pay for the rent but claims he has $100 million company, like, yeah, we never dated. It's just like, so funny. And like, I just look at those things. And it's okay to accept about yourself that you want to be labeled as a girlfriend or a boyfriend or that you want to be showcased by your significant other to

people. It's okay to say that you want your partner to claim that I'm dating this person, right? Like, that's okay. It's, you know, it's okay to say that you want someone to hold your hand in certain ways or whatever your you know, sexual desires are that you you like these things. And this is what makes you feel loved. And until you can accept, this is what you want out of relationship. This is what you want, like just accepting your true desire. This is what you want out of a

friendship, right? Like my friendship that ended I decided that I accept the fact that this was not a friend that I was really kept, or what's it called, I was not really compatible for what they needed as a friend and they weren't for me, like I don't fit in what they need, it doesn't make me less or worthy doesn't make that person less or worthy of a human being that they are. We're just

not compatible. Right. And I don't need to shame myself with the desire as if what I want for a best friend, which is like an you know, an entrepreneur, a business owner, someone who can travel, someone who has freedom, you know, someone who's living their purpose, that's not but someone who, you know, is just as successful in their own right as me that's not a bad thing to

want, right? That's good. That means if you want to be surrounded by people who are going there, and they deserve someone if you know, whatever their life is that that's compatible for where they're at. But acceptance is big, because you have to begin to just accept what you want out of life. And sometimes, a lot of times, when you begin to accept what you truly want, your circle is going

to become much smaller. You're not going to have 55 people texting you, you're not going to have you know, you may not be the most popular person on Instagram or Facebook because of what you're sharing who you're becoming, people aren't going to like to see you rise right and even Elena CARDONE says this in her book of build an empire, an empire isn't destroyed from the outside, it's destroyed from the

inside. And so you have to really look at who around you even if they're not intentionally destroying you, who's destroying you with your thoughts, their thoughts, because thoughts are powerful. And if you have anyone around you, who's having negative thoughts about you, like, oh, this person is crazy, or this person's weird. Like when guys are like you're weird. You're so different. And you know, whatever that is, it's like okay, thanks. Look, we never would be dating like yes, I'm

intelligent. I'm smart. My business owner, the way that I operate is out of a feeling based system not logic, and it's also based on colors, frequency. That would be very weird to someone who's used to logical results and doing things are one plus one is two instead of one plus one is three, right? That would be weird. That would be like oh my goodness. So I feel this whole episode.

I want you to know that I've had to accept a lot of parts about my myself in this Path of Awakening in this path of enlightenment, I was not always

as courageous. I wasn't always as fearless I had to really dig deep into who is Colleen and I had to invest 10 I mean, hundreds of 1000s But 10,000, you know, 7000 1200 $888, you know, money that I could have used for nice clothes, money that I could have used for Gucci things, or this or whatever it was, but I used it into discovering who I was in my early 20s, from 24 to really 28 Now, the past four years, all I've done is invest in education and personal development and

digital marketing. So that when I'm in my 30s, and my 40s, I can buy everything that I like, because I'm educated and I know how I work and I know how I operate. So I know how to make informed decisions based on how my body my intuition is feeding me is communicating to me like I've tapped into that.

And so in this whole process of becoming me of what you see online acceptance as part of the journey, you have to accept not everyone can come with you, you have to accept that not everyone has the heart you do, you have to accept that sometimes you will just not be compatible anymore at the people you thought were going to be in your life forever. And it doesn't make it easy. Doesn't make it like woohoo. But it does make it

worth it. And it makes you grow and it makes you evolve and it makes you believe in yourself and it makes you trust yourself and it makes you love yourself and makes you smile motherfucking resilient you are when you choose you over settling for something you know you don't want because you've accepted your true desires. And you see you've accepted that the people currently around you can't meet those true desires. Oh my God, my ears are ringing

too big. Yes. And when you do that your life changes magic is birth beauty is full that unfolded. And yeah, so my wish for you is a mantra of I accept myself I accept my desires I trust myself, I accept where other people are out on their journey and I still choose myself and my desires and so that let's do a short meditation together I think it would be really helpful and beneficial unacceptance for all of us here.

So close your eyes we're going to do three or roll your shoulders up and back and we're gonna do three deep breaths Heather's gonna go in breathe in ah breathing letting your body settle into herself herself removing a little bit feeling spaciousness occur within you putting your eyes up and towards the middle for your third eye activation really slowing down your breathing watching your thoughts, whatever they are, come to the surface whatever the first thought is the second

thought the third thought then just learning to accept these thoughts, not judging them and not holding on to them. Allowing the thought to simply come up inside of you and for it to pass through you seeing how many thoughts you think how many thoughts arise are the thoughts that you can accept? Now I want you to choose any thought the most present thought thought that keeps coming up in your head. Maybe Why am I doing this for some relationship, some drama, some future reality that you want.

Grab on to that thought. I want you to be Breathe into that thought I want you to imagine that this thought whatever you grabbed onto how do you begin to accept it for the current reality of what it is. And what I mean by that is if it's an argument, it resists accepting where the reality of relationships that accepting where you want to be your goals, your dreams, where

you're not happy. The next thing I want you to do is to alchemize this thought, what I mean by alchemize is I mean turning the thought into good turning the thought into gold. So it's the relationship you are happy with saying, I accept my part in this, I accept that I want more. But to career a job you're not happy with. I accept I want more. I accept that I desire more. I accept that I will be more good streams you want to go after I accept that I want more

in this life. I want a man or a woman who will pick me up to go to dinner dates I want a man or a woman who will cook for me, I want a man or a woman who will whatever. alkalizing the thoughts become a thought that is expansive, is something you can accept instead of dwelling in what it is currently. And feeling the difference in your body of when you begin to move into a state of acceptance accepting for where things are instead of trying to change them.

Acceptance of your money situation acceptance of your relationship, your career your business, acceptance of where it is an acceptance that you want more you desire more and not shaming those desires oh I should tie up today on the way up but today I'm the Kaya or no go out today I shouldn't go out that I Oh repeating after me, I accept myself. I accept my desires. I accept that I've allowed myself to stay in relationships, situations or career paths that are no longer

serving me. I accept that there is more for me to experience in this life. I accept myself. I accept and approve of my desires. I accept the best is yet to come. Put in your eyes up into your third eye. Breathing in holding it. Breathe it out. Somewhere. Breathing in holding it and what breathe in holding it breathing out slowly opening your eyes slowly getting back into your body. slowly realizing that acceptance is the key to liberation.

Acceptance is the momentum that will inspire you to move forward when it feels like the weight of the world or weight of people or sadness or pain of letting people go is too much. And when I say as soon as I accepted this friendship that was over in this relationship that was over but they are who they are. I am who I am and it's not compatible. I've had an amazing brand new man that I'm dating and that's my life. He's incredible. I adore him. Every day I see him I adore him more and more and

more. I've had new friends jump into my life that are so expansive One friend just gave me this beautiful swan Onix bring another friend we call last night and a cop talk for two hours. I've learned to accept that I'm at the place in my life where I no longer have to experience my lessons through pain, but I can experience my

lessons to pleasure. And so if you liked this episode and you want to go deeper, I definitely recommend going to my website, www dot Colleen gallagher.co and getting my remembrance activation as well as my alien activation will really support you and the next level of acceptance and ascension and remembering why you're here. And if you want to go totally deep and you want to go jumping off the deep end with me my program meow to six week program is

launching on May 1 or second. So you can enroll and it's going to be an amazing experience where we go through acceptance and beauty and luxury and digital marketing and selling from Seoul. So message me, talk to me, let me know this font for you. I love you