You're at the Coaching Inn, 3D Coaching's virtual pub where we enjoy conversations with people who engage in the world of coaching. Hello, it's Claire here. Welcome to this week's Book Group Extra, where Becky Hall is going to talk to us about chapter one of her lovely book, The Art of Enough. And here's Becky responding to your questions and insights.
Hi there, it's Becky here and I'm delighted to be back with you responding to two more comments stroke questions that have come from chapter one, from your reading of chapter one. It's such a wonderful experience as a writer to have this connection with you and have this conversation. My aim for the book was always to start the conversation about what is enough in our lives and in our work. and in our world.
So I'm just very grateful to you for engaging with it and offering the questions that you're offering. So thank you. I'm going to read out the first question. It's more a comment really than a question, but I'm going to read it out and then respond to it and then I'll do the same at the second. So here's the first question. not a question, the first comment.
I loved the examination of the different mindsets and what an enough mindset consists of, along with the suggested practices to help us to consciously choose an enough mindset. I know enough connection is dealt with in a later chapter, but I almost felt that the enough mindset was also about connecting with ourselves, our self-talk, our emotions, our bodies and what we appreciate about ourselves. Thanks for framing it so beautifully. Well, thank you for that comment.
It's wonderful to hear that it resonated. And yes, I agree. The idea of the book is that it's all about connecting and connecting with ourselves, then with what we do in the world, and then the wider systems. So I think of it like a pebble dropping into water and you know the ripples going out. So yes, I absolutely agree with you. And in a sense, although the model I've created looks linear with a sort of scale on the top, I really wanted to find a way of making it cyclical.
I talk a lot about cycles in the book. And it seems to me to logically connect that when we get to enough connection and you'll read this later in the book. it feels like a sort of return, a coming home. So well spotted really, that what we start with in terms of connecting with our self-talk, our emotions, our bodies, is exactly what is required really as a start of the movement towards enough. So there's a lot in my... thinking which is about connecting the micro and the macro.
But of course it's easier for us to focus on the micro because it's something that we can do something about. know, are much, we have much more agency over ourselves, arguably, than we do about how to stop climate change. Of course we can contribute to that, but it's a big system we can feel powerless in the face of. Whereas with ourselves, we have more choice. I think, although I'm not suggesting for a moment that that's easy for people or for us, any of us.
But I also like the suggestion really that it's about connection and because it links to this idea that how we... how we perceive ourselves and how our relationship with ourselves and our connection with ourselves actually of course influences how we interact with the world. So at the heart of an enough mindset, three parts of the enough mindset, are enough comes from love, not fear, acknowledge things as they are and focus on what's there in the moment.
And the world is abundant, resources are replenishable. their values about the world as much as they are about ourselves. And that's a really important thing to remember. For me, that's a very useful frame. So thank you for that wonderful observation and comment. The second question leads directly on from that, really. So this is the second question. The scarcity and excess mindsets seem so prevalent on a wider society level. Do you have any ideas to introduce the enough mindset to be louder?
I've understood this question in two ways. And the first one is a continuation from what I've just been saying from the first comment, which is yes. And it actually. links again to the final chapter to the Enough Connection piece, which starts, it's not really a spoiler alert, but it starts with a piece on the culture of scarcity and the start of chapter seven is an exploration of what I've called the high cost of living in a culture of scarcity. And so, yes.
One of the challenges for us all in adopting an enough mindset about ourselves is that we live in a culture of scarcity where we are sold the myth of lack, which leads us to pretty much everything. The whole system, the whole economic system that we have is that we're convinced that we're convinced by advertising and the society really that what we really need is something that we don't yet have so that then we crave it and then we buy it. That's the sort of way that capitalism works, I guess.
And also the culture of comparison. So whether it be on social media or even just the old fashioned keeping up with the Joneses, we compare, we're happy. until we notice that someone else has got something different or more than us, and then we want that. And that's a culture of scarcity. That's a culture of fear. It's a culture of sensing that we are inadequate in and of ourselves and what we have isn't enough somehow.
So the idea running through the book, which... amplifies as we go through the book is that coming from an enough mindset and a state of enough internally connected to ourselves as I've just discussed really makes a difference to how we were able to then go about our daily lives and create healthy boundaries and resource ourselves well.
And then of course if we collectively do that, connect with each other from a state of enough, consciously choosing that what we have is enough and that we don't buy into this myth that we need more, we sort of defy or change the culture of scarcity, then we're able to meet the challenges that we're facing as a world. So... Yes, it's this sort of complex and so important dance between micro and macro.
But it is my firm belief that we have to start with ourselves and that in starting with ourselves, we face into the tensions which are there in our world, in our culture, in our society. The choices that we make for ourselves get amplified into the world. So I think that that's what you meant by that question. On a more prosaic level, do I want the enough mindset to be louder? Yes, I do. I want to create an enough movement.
I want to create a sense that we can all begin to build mindsets of enough and start focusing on flourishing and gratitude and abundance. so that we are less enthralled to the myth that we aren't enough or that we don't have enough or that we can never do enough. So yes, I want to amplify it that way too. So that's my musings on your questions. As you can tell, it's wonderful to have these thoughts and questions because it helps me to.
both communicate it but also to deepen my thinking and learning about it too. So thank you. And I really look forward to how you get on with the next chapter. Take care and speak soon. Bye bye now. If you've enjoyed what you've heard today, we'd love you to share the podcast with a friend or leave a comment on social media. And if you'd like to become a regular at The Coaching In, you can subscribe on Podbean and all major podcast channels. We look forward to welcoming you next time.
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