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The Change Paradox

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Change is a given of life, perhaps even the point of it. And now more than ever, it’s everywhere we look. But how well do we understand it? Psychologist Dr. Dodge Rea and guests explore the mysterious, paradoxical nature of change navigated well. If there is a single element of human experience that is both most feared and most longed for, it is change. And on both sides, our relationship with it tends to be defined more by struggle than any other experience. Does it have to be this way? I’m Dr. Dodge Rea. I’m an Integrative Clinical Psychologist, practitioner of Medical Qigong, and the co-founder of a prominent holistic health center in Nashville, which is to say, I’ve helped people work with change on physical, psychological, and spiritual levels for more than 25 years. And here’s the thing. After you’ve watched closely this long, you start to realize something: Deep change — every change that really matters — has surprising elements we’re all inclined to overlook. Welcome to the Change Paradox. This is a podcast devoted to helping all of us unpack the mystery of how change really works. Whereas innumerable writers and speakers have taught us the values of superior goals and effort, that’s not our focus here. We’re more interested in why willpower alone so often falls short. What are we missing? Why is it that lasting change so often succeeds when it involves the realm of paradox — the “union of opposites”, as Carl Jung put it? And how can we use this wisdom to bring healthy change to our lives? In illuminating, often personal conversations, we’re going to talk with Change Agents from a broad range of fields as well as laypeople who’ve experienced huge transformation in their own lives. Guests will also bring with them experiential exercises for you to engage with directly, and we’ll have a playful “Afterthoughts” series for subscribers where my producer and lifelong friend, Pete Wright, and I unpack and integrate what we’re learning as we go. We’re convinced that if we can uncover some deeper principles to the transformation process, we can all get better at it as a planet. Join us! Subscribe to the show in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or anywhere else you get your podcasts. The Change Paradox will launch in two weeks. For more, visit trustory.fm/thechangeparadox.

Episodes

Afterthoughts • The Change Paradox

Dearest friends of the Change Paradox, old and new, As you’ll hear in today’s Afterthoughts episode, this will be our last episode of the show, at least in its current format. I’m sad to share this news but also very proud of what we have done over the past year and at peace that it’s the right thing for now. I have really loved this experience, most of all the wonderful guests I’ve had the pleasure of talking with and the enthusiastic feedback from so many of you. I suppose this long-deliberate...

Jul 19, 202158 minSeason 2Ep. 16

Afterthoughts • Bruce Greyson

Hey all... This week we try to unpack near-death experiences in the wake of Dodge’s conversation with Dr. Bruce Greyson. It leads to jealousy and a review of ‘Defending Your Life’ staring Albert Brooks, in addition to some key lessons on adapting to change in our own lives without having to pass through near-death ourselves. Thanks for doing the work, as always, Pete

Jul 02, 202127 minSeason 2Ep. 15

Dr. Bruce Greyson and the Paradox of the Near-Death Experience

Hey everybody... it's Pete. I have a distant aunt who used to tell me of all the times she almost died. A sample: she was once bit by a black widow spider. The spider was indeed black but examining it on the heel of her shoe there was no way to determine if it had been married. She swore it nearly did her in. Nearly attacked by a bear while camping. Though the bear was never actually seen, there was some evidence that her cooler had been pilfered. Almost fell into an icy river while rafting and ...

Jun 25, 20212 hr 31 minSeason 2Ep. 14

Afterthoughts • William Martin

Hey everybody... This week, Dodge and I are unpacking his conversation with William Martin. We try to have a simple conversation on a simple concept and fail terribly. But that's the path of the Tao, right? Thanks to William's guidance, we know not to beat ourselves up about such things, but move through it. We appreciate you moving through the conversation with us. Thanks for showing up. — Pete

Jun 11, 202141 minSeason 2Ep. 13

William Martin and the Gentle Path of the Tao Te Ching

Hey everybody... it's Pete. At one point in our conversation today, Dodge will say that he's going to try to explain to you all what the Tao is. Our guest, who has been studying and thinking about the Tao for more than three decades says in response, "Good luck with that." That pretty much says it all for me, too. I've read a bit, thought some, studied my fair share. But the Tao is one of those pesky constructs, an intellectual raccoon trap, and just when I think I have a handle on what it means...

Jun 04, 20211 hr 17 minSeason 2Ep. 12

Afterthoughts • Jerry Campbell

Hey everybody... This week, Dodge and I are unpacking his conversation with Jerry Campbell. There will be wordplay, for sure, but also a review of the story of the lonely amygdala and its journey to find purpose through extreme sports. There's a reason Jerry has developed a reputation for being a therapist's therapist. We appreciate you joining us for a conversation on what that means this week. Thanks for doing the work... — Pete

May 28, 202139 minSeason 2Ep. 11

Jerry Campbell and the Dynamic Tension Between Love and Fear

Hey everybody... it's Pete. Jerry Campbell is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. He's been doing the work since 1975. In those early years, he worked in an agency, supervising therapists serving as head of therapy, a road that eventually lead to private practice in 1988. Judging by his reviews online, it's no question how Jerry has developed a reputation as a therapist's therapist. He joins Dodge today to talk about his approach. As he says it, it's "an integration of mind, body, and spirit moda...

May 21, 20211 hr 15 minSeason 2Ep. 10

Afterthoughts • Ted & Brad Klontz

Hey everybody, it’s Pete... Dodge and I do our best to unpack a triggering conversation for the both of us. Money’s tough. Too few of us are doing the things to maintain a healthy relationship with it. We’re trying to figure out why. We hope this conversation helps someone out there to move their own ball down the field just a bit. Thanks for all you do, Pete

May 07, 202145 minSeason 2Ep. 9

Ted and Brad Klontz and Finding Financial Peace in the Money Mammoth

Hey everybody... it's Pete. Raise your hand if you've never had any challenges with money. Look around. See that? You're all alone. OK, all gimmicks aside, it's money week and that's scary. Jobs won and lost. Health care, insurance, education. Bills coming due. Major, unexpected expenses. It's no understatement to say that how we relate to money defines how we relate to the world around us. Ted Klontz is back on the show with us this week. Last time he came around he was talking about readiness ...

Apr 30, 20211 hr 19 minSeason 2Ep. 8

Afterthoughts • Lynne McTaggart

Hey everybody... This week Dodge and I do our best to unpack this conversation with Lynne. We come at this discussion from very different perspectives so much of this week is devoted not so much to Lynne and her work, but to how we approach those things that run counter to our worldview. I'll be honest, I was a wreck going into this one, but I'm happy with how it turned out. It's challenging, personally, but deeply satisfying as we remember that it's about the journey, not the finish. Thanks for...

Apr 23, 202145 minSeason 2Ep. 7

Lynne McTaggart and the Paradoxical Power of Eight

Hey everybody... it's Pete. It's April. I hope, after everything we've been through, that you're someplace you can walk outside, fill your lungs with clean air, and breathe deep. If we ever needed a spring full of new life, it is right now. So let us take advantage of it by reveling in it and letting ourselves grow through that nourishment. Journalist and author Lynne McTaggart joins Dodge today to talk about her work. She's written seven best-selling books, and the scope of that work makes it p...

Apr 16, 20211 hr 10 minSeason 2Ep. 6

Afterthoughts • Victoria Castle

Hi everybody, We dish on the Trance of Scarcity and Victoria Castle's perspective on generosity. Thanks to you all for showing up and doing the work right along with us. — Pete

Apr 09, 202143 minSeason 2Ep. 5

Victoria Castle and The Cycle of Abundance

Hey everybody... it's Pete... I just finished editing this week's conversation and I have to tell you it hit me where it hurts... you know, that place in the solar plexus that goes hollow when someone outs you effectively as having been lying to yourself? Yeah. That place. This week, Dodge and Victoria Castle are continuing their conversation on her book, The Trance of Scarcity , with a special focus on the Cycle of Abundance, building a routine of breaking out of the trance and focusing instead...

Apr 02, 20211 hr 28 minSeason 2Ep. 4

Victoria Castle and the Trance of Scarcity

Hey everybody... it's Pete... As I write this, Victoria Castle and I just jumped off of a quick FaceTime call to talk about a new project. I say that with the full intention of practicing what it will sound like when I drop her name in conversation with friends in the future. Did it sound OK? Just ... you know, casually telling you that Victoria Castle and I FaceTime? Dodge introduced me to her book, The Trance of Scarcity, a few years after she'd written it. Must have been 2010 or thereabouts. ...

Mar 26, 20211 hr 15 minSeason 2Ep. 3

Afterthoughts • Lance Bennett

Hi everybody, This week we’re talking about Lance Bennett, Professor Emeritus and the founding director for the Center for Communication and Civic Engagement at University of Washington. His speciality, political science and civic engagement. He joined us last week to talk about politics, partisanship, and the climate crisis, and today we’re going to try and pull that conversation apart. Thanks to you all for showing up and bringing your best selves to an often difficult conversation. — Pete...

Mar 19, 202138 minSeason 2Ep. 2

Lance Bennett and Climate, Division, and the Political Science of Change

Hey everybody... it's Pete... Welcome to Season 2. We're still here, me and Dodge, talking about change and the paradox therein. We learned a lot last season and in spite of coming face to face with our own in adequacies as we work to impact change in our lives — I'll go ahead and speak for myself there — we're pretty darned tickled to be back with another slate of guests to keep us pushing forward and learning this season. We start with Lance Bennett. Lance is Professor Emeritus and the foundin...

Mar 12, 20211 hr 18 minSeason 2Ep. 1

Afterthoughts Season 1 • What Have We Learned About Change?

Hey everybody... Well, we made it. We hit eighteen. That wraps our first season. And with it, after all the interviews and all the Afterthoughts, we decided it might do us some good to reflect on the season as a whole. To Ben, Ted, Dave, Carleen, Nikki, Sam, Suman, and Linda, your generosity and expertise are boundless. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us and brightening the world with your courageous teaching. To those who are hearing us for the first time, this whole Afterthoughts thing ...

Jan 22, 202145 minSeason 1Ep. 18

Afterthoughts • Linda Odom

Hi everybody, We go through Linda’s exercise and — even as superficially doing it on a podcast — we learn some crazy things about ourselves. Especially yours truly. The dream, now titled “The Little Piano Boy”, is far more than the comedy I’d first thought. It’s bananas. Thanks to you all for showing up and doing the work right along with us. — Pete

Jan 15, 202141 minSeason 1Ep. 17

Linda Odom and the Sacred Dialog of Dreams

Hey everybody, Happy New Year. As this episode drops for members, it is New Years Day, and we made it. We made it to 2021. We closed the door on 2020 and are on to something new. But are we, really? What is 2021 more than an arbitrary flip of a calendar page? It is powerful to so many of us because we invest that power in the New Year. I'm not great at resolutions. I don't usually set them myself, but I know more than a few people who live by their resolutions, who are able to make change in the...

Jan 08, 20211 hr 10 minSeason 1Ep. 16

Afterthoughts • Suman Chaudhuri

Hi everybody, This week we’re talking about Suman Chaudhuri. First, we acknowledge just how charming and handsome he is. Then, at some point, we realize that it’s not just skin deep. This is a conversation about how we exist in space and time, how our limbic system gets in the way of our curiosity, and how we can all learn from guides that come from surprising places. Thanks to you all for showing up, and for taking those first steps — actively — to do nothing. — Pete...

Jan 01, 202131 minSeason 1Ep. 15

Suman Chaudhuri and The Practice of Vipassana: A Show About Nothing

Hey everybody.... I can’t believe I have an opportunity to talk about Seinfeld twice this season. First, “world’s collide.” And now, “a show about nothing.” You remember the thing, right? George and Jerry are talking about salsa and seltzer and decide that the TV show they’re about to pitch is actually void of any sort of story, but is instead a show about nothing . It’s an homage to the “who’s on first” classics of vaudeville. “So it’s a show about nothing? I think you may have something here.”...

Dec 25, 20202 hr 49 minSeason 1Ep. 14