If there is an Instagram account you need to follow, it is progress bar underscore. What it does, it gives you basically an up to date timing of the percentage of the year that we're through. So I think at the moment we've just gone 58 percent through. and every time I share this online, people are always like, I wish you would stop sharing this because it, it terrifies the shit out of me. And that is exactly why I share it and why. I will continue to share it.
So I am going to riff and expand a little bit more on some Instagram stories that I put up the other night off the back of, you know, me talking about the fact that we are 58 percent through the year and you know what, it doesn't matter if you are listening to this later on January 1st or whenever, and you're like, well, this doesn't apply to me. This always applies to you because if there is one, Thing that I regret in all of my years of entrepreneurship, it was like 15 years now.
The thing that I regret is letting go of opportunities because I always thought that there would be so many more available to me. You know, I can look back on my whole entrepreneurial timeline and all of the opportunities that I missed, that I lost, that I said no to, because I always assumed that there would be so many more available. Guess what? There were not.
And there have been times when I have looked back with absolute regret feeling like that, I lost an opportunity because of, you know, my self confidence or the fact that I was disorganized or whatever, whatever it was. And you know what, I do believe that everything does happen for a reason and that, you know, going through that has made me a better mentor.
And I do think that it also makes me a better mentor because I now have the lived experience to tell you that you absolutely cannot waste your life, waste your week, coast through a month, coast through a day.
You know, either waiting for things to get better, just hoping things will get better or feeling like that you have all the time in the world, because sometimes we, we don't, we don't have all the time in the world and life will happen, stuff will happen and, you know, I don't know about you, but it's like, I'm going to feel so disappointed if I get to the end of my life and I feel like that I really, I didn't give it my all.
You know, following this account has probably been the best kick up the ass that I think that I ever have had in my business. And you know, I'm not someone that needs motivating. I find that I'm pretty driven myself.
But something that I know that I struggle with, Is, you know, I can be a little bit of a perfectionist and I can take some time on things and I can take so much time on things that sometimes I don't realize that life is also happening and how much time actually passes and maybe this has been something that you've experienced where you have high hopes for a month. On, you know, the first of the month and then you feel like, Oh my gosh, shit. How do we have two days left at the end of the month?
And then you feel as though it's the end of the year and you've gotten through all this time and you really don't have anything to show for it. And at the, at like, when this happens, gosh, you can just be so painful. It can be painful because all of a sudden you start to doubt yourself and you doubt your ability.
And all the self doubt creeps in because you feel like you had this whole bag of evidence where it's like, well, of course, you're not going to be able to do this because look at this, you haven't even been able to execute everything that you wanted in a month. And you know, one, one thing I will say, give yourself some grace because we are humans running businesses where life happens.
We are not robots where we just switch on to do our business and then we go to sleep and then we wake up, you know, we have life happening around our business as well. But one thing that I will say is that I do think that there is almost at times like a default mode that we can just easily switch into where we feel like that we can.
We go into our day, our week, our month with these ideas that we want to do, and we get stuck in this like autopilot, where, you know, if you drive, it's like getting in the car, going to a destination that you've always gone to, and you feel like that you just switch off for the car trip, and then you suddenly are like, oh, we're here, how did we get here, and you can't remember anything. That actually happened on the way there.
And I think a lot of the times this happens in business where we can go through our day, feeling like that we are on business autopilot and really losing track of time because we get so caught up in everything and we all have different methods of business autopilot. It could be cleaning your inbox. It could be making sure you have no DMS.
It could be doing research or cleaning up your notion or whatever it is, but it's all the stuff that will keep us busy that has us in this like almost full sense of productivity, but it's not actually moving the needle on the shit that we need to do. And I say this as someone that is just so familiar with this because it's so interesting when I can look back at all of these opportunities that I essentially lost.
I felt like at the time that I was just so in the throes of being busy in my business. That I said no, because my plate was full at the time with crap that was absolutely not important, but at the time it felt like it was the most important thing. And it's so interesting now that if you ask me what I was doing, I couldn't even tell you, but isn't it interesting that I know that I said no to opportunities and I obviously said yes to other shit that was happening.
And, um, It's so interesting that I can't even remember what that was. I think a lot of the time people just assume that I have, as well, this special gift. I hear this a lot, and if there is one thing you want to do to piss me off, oh my gosh, just put me on a pedestal and make out that I have this, like, insane ability to do anything.
And it's always pissed me off because it's so interesting that I wish sometimes people would kind of see behind the scenes of, of me doing anything and my process and how many attempts there are and how many things that I fucked up, like even recording this podcast episode, you know, I'm trying to like double down on batching my content and creating. I've got my camera set up here and I'm trying to do little clips.
And because of that, and I'm thinking about angles and I keep, I keep pausing and being like, do we actually have continuity? Should I have scripted this out? But you know, it's very much for me.
Moving in this like B minus way of doing things because I know the kind of person that I am and that it's really easy for me to get stuck in this, like procrastination of perfectionism, where the only person that ends up losing is me and future me, another thing that I'm gonna say, and God, I feel like this is just gonna make me out to feel like such a jackass, but I think I'm just gonna have to like let you let you determine that.
But, you know, I've done a lot in life and I've gone out of my way to, to make things happen. You know, one of those was interviewing Ray Morris. There was like this Priceline Media Day and I only got to the media day because like back in the day when Professional Bae was a beauty blog, I was emailing all of the like makeup companies. There's, I think it's called Beauty Directory, but there's like this beauty PR website.
Uh, I got added on there when I won the Bioderma trip overseas to France and I was just reaching out to all the PR companies when I saw that they had events coming up basically.
Because of that, I ended up going to this Priceline Media Day, and I got to interview Ray Morris, and it was just It was like a 10 out of 10 career highlight that even now I just get so emotional thinking about because having the opportunity to do that but also remembering who the fuck I was to actually make that happen just makes me feel so emotional.
The reason I feel like a jackass is, you know, I think sometimes our circle is so small that we don't realize that it is that small, that it's actually suffocating us, that it is making us feel claustrophobic, but we don't realize that we feel claustrophobic because it is so familiar to us.
And I think for a lot of us, depending on who you hang around or your friends or your family, if they haven't really done a lot in their lives, you know, what we're doing, even the ability of us just going out and starting our business feels monumentally huge. The fact that we We back our vision and we do that is just epic. You know, we may, we mightn't be doing anything.
We might be posting like once a month on Instagram and that that's still for people is huge, but I think because, you know, our circle may be so small, we don't realize how limited we have made things for ourself and how a lot of us can see what people are doing online. We can see all the cool shit and we can feel that that is just so beyond us. But one of the best things for you to realize is. All of that is available to you.
Every single thing that you see, like if you see something that is just so cool, that is not out of reach. And there may be some of you that are like, Oh, it is. Don't set people up for failure. Fuck that. Because you know, in business land, if there is something that I have seen, it is just the most like out of this world. Things continually happen. Like I won a fucking trip to France off a YouTube video. To write about skincare and I didn't pay for anything.
And I had the smallest following and I'm just a little chick with a blog in Maitland at the time. I didn't even have a passport. I hadn't been overseas by myself. And you know, that for me was just, it, it was just so awesome. And one thing to remember is.
The best thing for you to do for your business and for your mindset is to just always like ensure that you are looking and following people and being in their orbit of where you actually want to go because that is the most important thing for you. You know, I think for a lot of us, especially if we've gotten to this point in the month or the year and you can feel like, Oh my God, we're, we're almost 60 percent of the way through the year. This feels really good. Yeah, let it be terrifying.
Let it be terrifying. Because the thing is, this is going to reveal to you where you've kind of just coasted and where you've kind of held onto, I'm going to say stuff that could be happening in your life. Where you are letting the urgency of that emotion consume everything that's happening in your business. I remember saying to one of my clients who was a business mentor.
that she was going through some hard stuff and at the time I said to her, but how awesome is it that you are living the mentorship that you are going to give. That you are going to have a client come to you and you have your lived experience that is going to make you such an amazing mentor compared to the person that's trying to hype you up but can't actually relate to anything that you're going through.
And even though at the time I would not say that it felt like this, but you know, realizing that Missing a lot of these opportunities and really letting myself doubt and like the busyness of life and all of that shit. like costing me those opportunities has made me such a good mentor for you because I am here today to tell you that it fucking stings and that every day I have to live with the grief of my lack of action, of my low confidence, of me not believing in myself, me not trusting myself.
And I have to live with that every single day. I have to open Instagram, I have to open TikTok, and I look at people that probably had that same opportunity that I did and I look at them and how their profile is so big and how they have things available and I cannot, I cannot resent them because they said yes.
And they moved, they moved forward and you know, I don't know if they had the same fears or doubts or whatever was happening in their life, but they actually did the thing where I sat back thinking that there would always be more time and more opportunities. And that is not a fun feeling at all. One thing for you to think about is just imagine future you a year from now and everything that they could be living purely from the decisions that you are making today.
I think a lot of the time we can get so wrapped up in the busyness of everything, forgetting about the fact that the life that our future self has is so reliant on the person that we are today.
This is something that I used to think about when I would date and I would want to go back to like my Ex boyfriends that were incredible in bed I was like digmatized and I would go there and I would feel so shit after and I was always like You are fucking this up so hard for future peter that is going to have to deal With all the negative emotion and all the crap Of, of current Peter's decision. And I think about this every single day in business, you know, right now it is what time is it?
It's nine 30 at night. I have a headache. I don't feel particularly well, but I also know that I don't want to wake up tomorrow morning, not having a podcast recorded for you because that isn't nice for you and it's not nice for me. It's terrible for future Peter, because I also know how she's going to go through her Monday feeling like that. She's not only let. you down, but she's also let herself down and she hasn't kept a promise to herself.
so with this in mind and just hearing this conversation now, I am sure that there are going to be a few things that have popped up where you have had this little download of an idea or something that you want to do that you just continually put off. You're putting it off because it doesn't feel like it's the right time, the right week. You're not in the right mood. The moon's not doing what you want it to. You're not in the right part of your cycle and you keep putting it off.
And when you think that it's the right time for it to happen, it just never is. You know, what would it look like for you to just do everything this week and to forget about the outcome, but purely allowing the wind to be the fact that you were in action and that the win is the action. That you talk, forget about the outcome, but it's purely the fact that you just decided and that you were in action. So for example, I am hosting events.
But I have been avoiding inviting some very, very big businesses for whatever fucking reason. And just dumb shit like, oh, my website isn't up to date yet. Oh, and I don't have this. Oh, and I'm not really sure about that. And the thing is, I am not prepared to get to Christmas and still have these same stories. Because I know That I'm going to be saying, unless I can get out of this, I'm going to be having the same conversation this time next year. And I'm not prepared for that.
So what I'm doing is having these conversations and inviting the people, but I'm removing the expectation that I'm going to get the positive outcome that I want. Because I think sometimes in our brain, we have like two modes. We have the absolute best case scenario, but we also have the absolute worst case scenario. And we kind of forget about all the stuff in the middle. The best case scenario is they say yes, and it's all amazing.
The worst case scenario in my head is I just visualize everything going wrong. And I forget that there are all of these other options. And I think for a lot of us, we kind of have this like black or white thinking where if we do something, it's either going to go really well or really bad, but we forget that there could be a hundred different other options.
And that for me just feels so freeing knowing that there are so many different shades of different answers and it's not going to be All or nothing. It's not going to be all good or all bad. So as your unofficial podcast mentor on the business fondle, because if you've been here since the beginning, we've had a very long relationship. We've had, what episode is this? This is 54, 54 fucking dates.
Wow. You know, as your unofficial business mentor, live through my experience and know that it does not feel good at all so as your unofficial business mentor, let me tell you that, you know, this is not going to be moving forward. Your story where you feel like you are just Expecting opportunities to come round again, or you're waiting for the right time, the right moment, whatever. We're not doing that anymore.
Because how I see it, if we're alive, and if we have internet access, and if, you know, we wake up, I guess that means we're alive. But if we wake up and our eyes are open, congratulations. Because you are so lucky because there are some people in the world that did not have access to that today, but you did. You did. So for me, that's a good fucking day. So this is where we are going to do all the things that we are saying that we are going to do.
You know, we've got what, just over 40 percent left of the rest of this year. How fucking good is it going to feel? When you do more in that 40 percent than you have in your whole entrepreneurial career, people will be like, how did they do that? How did they do that? And guess what? They're probably going to pay attention. The people that you wish were paying attention are going to be paying attention when they see how fast and intentional you are moving. You fucking got this.
There is something that I know to be true. It's that you're incredible. You truly are. And that anything that you want, a hundred percent can happen. But you have to make it happen. Okay? You have to make it happen. Move forward feeling nauseous. Move forward with negative emotions. Just do the thing. We're doing this together. I'm there with you. I love you. I love this. I love this episode. I love your potential. I love everything.
I love you more than the fact that I have just finished the Pilates challenge of my Pilates studio I'm going to I did 20 classes I think in like It was like four or five weeks. I'm so proud of myself. Pats on the back, Peter. You're a legend. I love you more than that. I love you more than sofa shopping. Sofa shopping feels really indulgent. It just doesn't feel like a real thing.
It feels so strange to go into a store and sit on something and talk about fabric and talk about colors and talk about The lighting in the room, like there is just something about buying a sofa. It just feels very indulgent. We are nowhere near. An outcome of purchasing a sofa, but a lot have been sat on. My ass is sat on every sofa in Melbourne. Bold claim, but I'm sure it's fact. I love you more than tulips obsessed. Uh, I get them from, where do I go?
Oh my God. Why can't I remember what it's called? There's a fruit shop near me and I go and get my tulips from there. I get a bunch every single week. Um, And I love them. They also are really dramatic. They kind of grow all over the place. I think they grow towards the light or something, but they look chaotic and they're just like so romantic. And I love you more than we have to have. I feel the same way. Sweetie, because we always have like a little sweetie sugary thing on every episode.
I'm a fan of a good lolly. I'm a fan of the confectionery aisle in the supermarket. Even when I had my vegan food blog and I was making my own nut milk like an asshole. I still love the confectionery aisle. So this week. What am I talking about this week? I demolished the bag tonight. Uh, 204 grams of Daryl Lee raspberry bullets covered in real milk chocolate. I think they need to be more raspberry. Like I want them to feel intense.
I want to bite into it and be like, Wow, that feels almost like artificial, like a maraschino cherry. I think that that is the essence that I'm after, but, um, they were still good. They hit the spot. So hot stuff. I think that's all I'm off to have a shower and go to bed and wake up and be my best fucking self. we got a good week coming. Mwah. Love you.