#140: Getting Sloppy Drunk and Getting a Guy To Respect You

uh get their their dirty laundry. We did say on yesterday's episode that you were gonna be here today, So I think that's why we have one of our listeners calling in in just a couple of seconds. The thing that's crazy is we did a really serious show yesterday. I don't know if you listened in on it. I did, I did. It was serious. It was the New Jersey Sharing Network. We're up here or up here and uh, you know the you know, our guy Tom came in.

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show like this? And after reading the email that we got the feedback after yesterday's show, I'm like, it's okay to have those kind of shows once in a while. Right, It's a little deeper, but it's something that's important and it needs to be shared. Yeah, that's right. But I do have to also say I loved some of the reactions the last time that I was on with the show. Knows, I know that that was a little bit more. I don't know. I guess should say deep, it's smart, but

did we call it smartest into the weekend? Well, I have to tell you something scary. The message that's that I got the responses to that we're just overwhelming. There were people that actually went on some of the sites that I gave and said they didn't never knew that it existed, and they found things that that helped them. They spent that just reminding them about the weekend really was something that was like more inspirational. I loved all

the remarks. Thank you everyone for everything that you send into me. I love it. Make sure you keep sending it in to at scher nos fan page on Facebook. That's right. And uh so, so we've been informational and we've been deep and smart and smart, and now we're going to change all that and get stupid. Oh yeah, that's what we need. Hi is this uh Renee? Your real name? My real name is Renee. You're cool with using your real name on the Affair Show. I'm okay

with that too right now? I am. Maybe not later, but for now you are. As you're driving home, you're gonna be like, delete that file, take down the podcast, my parents list name edit, edit, edit, So you're you're a new fan of All Fair Show. We like that, You're not. Are you really an affair head? Just yet? Not yet? Right? Not yet. I'm super excited though it sounds really awesome. I think you need to binge listen to a few episodes to be an affair Yeah, and

then you can join the nation and everything. Ye whole chat room after time. I don't. I don't even know what goes on in there. I think most of the time it doesn't talk about the show. They're fun people. If you like, if you like filthy memes, go into the Affair show chat room. Wait, may I suggest baby steps, Baby Steps, I want the air. It's a group chat on Facebook. It's great, it's awesome. You'll you'll be there all day, all night, and they get really filthy after

dark too. Oh and it goes on. Yeah, but you get what. I have to work to devote my fat You have a job. Um, yeah, well we'll keep that off of this. So you wrote a couple of questions. You just spewing, like what's going on in your life? I mean, you have some stuff for share knows about getting sloppy drunk. I have a lot of things. I have a lot of things. I don't know if you can help, but clearly I'm not doing well on my own,

so maybe you can help me. Try. So typically me and my friends just go out in the weekend, get super super sloppy and don't really remember what happened. You can say ship faced, but yeah, like belligerent, like just done. Black tapper, black app we'll talk backwards here, so it's

tissue faced. Oh yeah, yeah, all of you above. But we also want like a marriage material man in our lives, but we don't really know how to balance like being black out and like throwing up and not really remembering anything finding a guy that will just take us on dates and paper ships. So how does one go to the bar, spent all of someone else's money and then still have someone that gives a shit about you at the end of the day. Oh my god, you've got

you respected while you're barfing in the bucket. Yes, and someone to hold my hair back, not get pisto off. And you also want somebody wait, and you also want somebody that's going to assume that you want them to call you the next day, even though you're like, hey, just take me and my girls out, let's have a good time and see you later. Yet you really do want that call the next day? Yes, And I don't want Yeah, I don't assume that they're going to call it.

And you can know that they're going to call. Real men, Real men can appreciate a woman in her worst time. What is there there? There's there's that saying. I always say, I always go back to it. If he doesn't deserve you at your worst, if he can't accept you at your worst, deserve you something that I don't know. If he can't, he cannot accep your worst, he doesn't deserve you at your best. But you should be able to

be sloppy ship faced in front of him. And if he doesn't, if he doesn't respect you, he's not marriage material to begin with, red flag, move on, you've done yourself a face. Well, wait a second, though, it's scary. I agree, But wait a second. When that's the first meeting, though, it might be a little difficult because you're kind of starting to get to know each other. So it's almost like us because girls are girls are a little judgmental

on this, right, scary. So let's say you go out with somebody and it's the first date or the first meeting, right and you're you're with people. Do you primarily go out with your girls on these meetings or you alone to try to do this m that's a really good point. I think the problem is we're meeting a lot of these people when we're wasted, so like I can't, like, we can't go out and meet them sober and then show we're like wasted either, you know, yeah, because who

is this girl? Like? What planet is she? Froblem right, Because although I totally agree with Scary that you should be able to show somebody your worst and then they still accept you, it's hard when it's a first meeting, because first impressions really do count. I've said that a hundred times on the show that no matter what you do, whether it's just the style that you wear or the way that you present yourself and your confident I always say girls have to show like that confidence when they

come in, even if they're a little nervous. But then it's like, you cantry, she wants even she wants to be able to be herself in front of these dudes. And if being herself means you know, tie in one true, well getting to the world. Okay, So here's an idea. Here's an idea. Maybe you should start out a little light for the night, like maybe try something a little new, maybe start the early hours. That wine is fine, but liquor is quicker. Ideah, pretty much, if you're starting out light,

then you don't have the balls to talk to them either. No, that's where you're gonna do things different. You do have the balls to talk to them. You do, you would actually do. You are more confident than you realize. You don't need the alcohol. That's probably the first thing. You guys don't need the alcohol. Actually different muscles like guy, because muscles, yea to go up to talk to a guy, get beer muscles. Oh, I have been doing that lately.

I have been doing that lately. My friends have been forcing me to do that, and that's time I did well. The last two times I did, the one guy warn and didn't speak English, so um I had to walk away a shame. And then the second time the guy said, oh, are you talking to me? Because I'm married, so I'm giving Okay, wait a second though, that's not your fault. Was he wearing a ring I couldn't see because I was wasted? Okay, okay, I get it, I get it.

All right. Well, here's another thing. Do you have anybody in the group that could kind of be like the guider. Do you have like one of your girls that's maybe like not somebody that parties as much and maybe she could be like the designated Hey this week you do this or maybe you guys take turns here's an idea. You guys go out in groups, maybe somebody could take two. Okay,

that is a really good idea. She also just likes to see us like get shut on, so she uses that to her advantage when he's not really a girl friends like that. You know, Um, David Brodie just walked in, by the way, Hello Brodie, please have a seat and hang with us for a while. We're talking to Renee on the phone. He's a brand new off airhead and she has, by the way, guys, five or six rapid

fire questions. So that was just one. Yeah, so yeah, a couple about a half hour ago, and you told me we're gonna talk to through an a. You said one of her questions was, and I think I just caught the tail end of it, was how can I be a train wreck in a bar roughly and then find material? No? No No, no, no, no, I'm paraphrasing. I'm paraphrasing. You want to get drunk a little bit when a party a little bit? Right? What was the exact question

that you want drunk but also found yourself a marriage material, boyfriend? Exact? All right? So here's what I would say is, as someone who I am married, and I am MARRIEDE married material. It's okay. Well listen, if you want to get married, don't be sorry for me. I'm I'm happy. I'm not complaining. But here's the thing. If you're sloppy drunk, my thought is what kind of marriage material guy is going to approach you if you're sloppy drunk because he's looking for

a girl. He can find his marriage material if you're slop but handling his alcohol like I don't know, but then he's not looking not wasted. Yeah, but they want the same Yeah, but that but that's just it. They want the same thing. It's like when you play tennis. Everybody wants to play tennis against someone better than them so they can get better. But then the other person doesn't want to play you because you're not. They want

to play somebody better. You have to find someone that you expect the other person to want different things than you want. You expect the other person to handle a liquor well, but want someone who doesn't. But they might want someone who handles their liquor well, So maybe a corner. Listen, you may find someone that drinks the way you do, who is marriage material, but you're not going to learn

that if you're both hammered. You just said you couldn't tell if the guy was wearing a ring, So I guess, I guess The question is what do you want more? Do you want to get hammered every single weekend or do you want to or do you want to invest one weekend a month to find the right guy? Or and also where are you going? Where? What types of places are you going? That might also point out why

you're going to have this trouble. You know, there's different places that call different people, so maybe you could like team it down a little bit and go to like one place where you know there's more of I don't know what type of guy are looking for, but let's say you're looking for like a business exact that's like a young business exactly, you know, might be towards that time in his life that he wants to get married.

Maybe there are certain places people can go you know this that there's more of that professional crowd, and then there's more the let's just get damn drunk crowd, you know. I mean, I guess, So, I mean, okay, I want someone that's like borrowing perfect but not too perfect you're gonna make you look really bad. So someone that like dresses nice, smells nice, doesn't get too wasted, doesn't throw up because I have to throw up, has a good job, can speed me. It's how to hold your hair back.

Your hair knows how to pull your hair and hold your hair back. I love it. Yeah, you guys get me? Why can you be the boys at the bar table that one for a while. But I think a guy has to get to know you sober before he's gonna love you drunk. If but but if I'm gonna want to cuddle you and coddle you and take care of you and fall in love with you, I want to fall in love with you. So if you are the drunker all the time, then you're asking someone to fall

in love with a drunk girl. But if you're asking if you're asking for someone to fall in love with who you are when you're sober, and then love you despite the fact that you're drunk, and get a kick out of it and get amused by you, that's fine.

It's like it's like when you love someone, it doesn't matter if they chew with their mouth open or they have ugly two tonnails, or whatever that whatever their things are, because you already love them, but if you saw their tone nails on the first date, you would never fall in love with them. So so you need to keep your demons in check so he can fall in love with you and overlook your demons. Okay, and here's one last note. I think you need to challenge yourself. I

want you to try that's okay. I think you need to raise the confidence bar for yourself. I think you should really try being sober and see who who you are and see if you like who you are going up to guys, because you're never gonna know. No, I guarantee you're not. You're not. You just need to And if you are, wait a second. If you are, there's probably a guy out there that's gonna love you for That leads into our next question. Sounds a little jealous.

Here's the question number two from Renee. What do you do if you see your boy is liking other girls ship on Instagram? Oh the social media drama. So you see you're dating a dude, You're going down his Instagram feed and you see in your news feed he like this person, this person, this person, all these pictures and it's all other women. Oh boy, that's a problem, and ask him like what if it's his fucking cousin, Like I don't know, and then you look crazy like yeah,

that's why. That's why. Okay, So at the beginning are you talking like the beginning when you first start dating somebody? Yeah, okay, fine, right, so get right, okay, So here's one thing. Don't look. I've tried to explain this to people over and over, the stalking idea of no listen, sen to me. I'm telling you this. If you look, you're gonna drive yourself crazy and you're gonna end up looking like an idiot. That's the problem because we people, people will assume, we

will assume that's what we are. We're creatures of habit. We look at things were very we're innately, we're curious. Try to cut the curiosity, Try to cut that down and not look, because you're gonna put yourself into a hole. And chances are that one girl you look at is you're gonna look write something stupid. But I will say, as time goes on, and I don't think this is bad. If you could wait a little bit before you start

doing that. And it's a real natural progression into you know, being around each other and everything, and you see some repetition on something. I do think social media does say a lot. I think people use it as a screen to hide behind what they're doing, and I think that it is something people need to recognize. If someone's hitting on the same pictures over and over, they're talking. People do have relationships online, so you've got to be a little careful with that, but keep it to the end.

A girlfriend, don't be the jealous girlfriend. Cool girlfriends, you know, because quite honestly, you know, he could be just randomly selecting stuff and just liking stuff to maybe get more people to follow him or some stuff like that, so you just don't know it's true. I think she's thinking more about the repetition of like a single person like Instagram model, and what if they're real tists, does that change it. I don't have that kind of money. Sharon

brought up a good point. It could be his cousin, it could be a friend, whatever he is. One of the things that to take into consideration is he liking a picture of a girl by the Eiffel Tower on her vacation or is he liking her picture at the beach in a bikini or is he is he liking a picture that he had to go back and scroll seventy posts to find a good one, Because if he's going back to see summer and he's liking it, then he's trying to get her attention and hoping you don't notice. Yeah,

you should never like another girl's bikini picture. You like her picture with her dog. Oh that's a cute puppy, but you should never like look at her blouse. Puppies. And that's what that's what they want you to say. Oh, well, chill, I like because the puppy was cute, Like you don't care about the puppy kind of that's why. But that's but that's why she But that's but that's why. Shar was right. You can't stalk him on Instagram or Twitter what you don't know him. When you know him for

three months, you will know if he loves dogs. You will know if he loves the cup of coffee. He's like that girl, I love that coffee mug. You know I collect coffee mugs. You'll know more. You'll know more about his cousin's a bikini model, and that's the girl that he's hitting on because he's just being supported. If your cousin's a bikini model, you still shouldn't be like the pictures because then it's creepy, creep out their model. You call your cousin and you say, it's like my pictures.

I'm finding out the boys. I'm funny. Girl shouldn't be doing I say, your pictures. This is I'm finding out the kind of person that Renee is. By the way, just from the the questions and the progression of them, here comes another fun one from Renee. Renee, you're just fully we just have you on us. We have a couple more from you, and then we didn't we didn't get to our official share nos of the week. But how do you here's another question? How do you hook

up with someone if you live at home? So how do you actually remember when I told you, I'm not like, I'm really hoping my parents ever hear this. If you're if if you're in a house with your family, I was gonna the first thing I was gonna say was what kind of house is it? You know, if you're not if you're not in a separate quarters, if if you're if you're in a high ranch or a regular

traditional home. I think you're limiting what you can do because you're talking the bedrooms are probably all on the same floor, and there's people around you all the time. I used to come home at like night, like late night with I used to live at home until I was like twenty four, and I used to show up around I used to go out around nine or ten, knowing my parents went to bed at eleven, and then I'd hang out and then run around midnight. I'd come

back and I would use the living room downstairs. You got to use use that floor. I guess you could do that. I mean, so I did the typical like post grad thing, and I just forced my parents to give me the basement and I redid it. Okay, so easy, okay, but you have to hear the problem. So the only way in and out to go down there, there's no door. You have to use the garage, which literally makes so much noise. And I knew you were going to say that how to open the garage door at seven am?

And I'm like, well, how to let my friend go home? Like so the only way al is through the garage. Mh, Like, I'm not kidding enough to fit through the here's a little trick for you. There's a release on the garage door where you can lift it manually and it won't make any noise. And if you're going out with a plan to bring him home and you don't and you think the house is secure, no one's gonna notice unlocked the latch inside before you leave, so you can open

it manually outside. Yeah, you're welcome. Now. However, do you have an alarm on the house? Yeah, but no one puts it on, so there's no tiger. There's no dinger that goes off as you walk in and out. There's something like that. Okay, you know, the only thing is is that you know the fact that you're living at home isn't really the problem. There's a lot of people that go back home nowadays and stay until they want to, like, you know, revamp their careers or do this or do that.

So if you're actually at home, is there any way that you could kind of have this like relationship with your family where you're like, hey, it's not that you're like bringing somebody into bang them. I mean, they're not going to go for that. But I think that the idea would be that Hey, listen, I'm maybe in and out. I maybe you know, I'm doing my own thing, yes, but I might be in and out of the house

on random nights, you know. Can you just respect the fact that I'm not, you know, like I'm I'm back and forth, like I'm not checking in with you guys. Obviously I'm old enough to not check in. I have the place downstairs for a little privacy, you know, when my girlfriends are coming in or whatever have you. I I just want to keep able to go and come as I please and down. Yeah, kind of like a garage store that doesn't have a anyway, how old? How old?

But listen, at twenty four, your dad doesn't think that you're a virgin. He doesn't. He's smart enough to know that you don't. I don't know. Well all right then that so, so a couple of options from my from my microphone. Number one, you talk to your mom because that's easier, and you say, mom, listen, I want to have a social life. And you wanted to make him my husband, even you and Daddy had that first time. And remember when you were drunk all the time and

Dad looked overlooked at um. You could ask I don't know the relationship we have your mother, but at some point she'll be she you can relate to you, and you can talk to her and say, listen, if the time comes when I want to bring someone back to you know, I have some coffee, will dessert, whatever you know, is that gonna be a problem for dad? Is he gonna have you know, maybe that you come up with an arrangement that the guy can't sleep over and he's

got to come and go as he pleases. Whatever. Number number two, the guy's gonna maybe the guy has an apartment. You can hook up at his place. Number three. They do make places called hotels where you can go and hook up. When we've done a prostitute. No no, no, no no no no no. Listen, listen, listen listen. Hotel Yeah, why had a hotel? Right? So when I first saw the same hotel? Yeah, my god, not at the same time,

is from Brooklyn, I'm from Motel the Golden Gate. Okay, so when I when I this is like a thing cupids fantasy, the Q motor in Okay. Listen. When I started dating my wife, she lived at home, she was she was younger than you. But at some point she was around your age, still living at home. She was in college, and you're both are living at home. Yeah, we're both living at home. So Number one, I had a big car. There's that big card. Number two number

Oh please, you never had sex in the car? Okay, alright. Second of all, you pick a nice hotel. Doesn't have to be a doesn't have to be an hourly motel. You say, you know what, there's a really nice radisson. They do a nice brunch whatever. And you say, you know what, we're gonna go out to dinner, we'll go to a movie, we're gonna have a couple of drinks. Not worry about driving. Maybe you go to a place like this. There's a there's a place near near me

in New Jersey. I don't know where you you're in New York. There's a place, there's there's a there's a beautiful Hilton that has a Root's Chris steakhouse. Oh, actually, I know where you're talking about. Go to a nice dinner. You go to a nice dinner at the steakhouse. You have a room reserved, and if the evening goes well, you retire to your room as if you were home, and you just go let's go up to the room, which you're not charging him. I agree with all that.

The thing is is that when she's when she's saying something about her house. Is it because, like Renee, I'm trying to see if there's a reason you're asking specifically for that. Is it because you haven't thought of hotel ideas in this and that, or is it because you're really thinking a little bit more about the fact that, Hey, I'm out, I'm close to my house and I just want to take this guy back home and I don't know how to do this anymore. Is that kind of

why you're picking the house? Yeah, I mean because I feel like it's like everywhere we go out is fairly close, and then you're like ship, like I live at home, so I can't do that. Well, here's a good suggestion, though, and it did. Brodie did come out with it. If this guy can't take you back to his place, I almost see other issues with that. I think you should push the fact of going back to his place. But I also say be careful, because I'm not the person that tells a girl on a first night to go

back to a guy's place. I always say play it a little cool, and I'll tell you one other thing to night. And I don't know if the guys will agree with this. There's always exceptions, Okay, this is never like the like completely the only way to do this. But I don't think you should go home with the guy. If you want to really try to keep him as the guy. That might be something that could be more. You may want to wait to let second date anyway, to go home with him. And I'm seeing Scary's face here.

He's smiling at me. But I swear to you if you could hold off, you have no idea the respect you get as a woman. I saw you guys. I hate to say this. I'm not trying to block you, okay, I think I think that you should do that, and then then you don't have the problem of the you know that that weirdness, because guess what, now you're on another platform with him, and you could say to them, hey, listen, I just want to be honest with you. I live at home right now. It's a little weird for me.

Where do you live. Then you also can feel more confident going back to his place. It's a win win situation. You've earned his respect. He might be somebody who get to know better, and at this point you can feel comfortable going back to his place or being honest with

him and saying, hey, listen, it's a little uncomfortable. And you both, if you both live at home and you do want to do the hotel option, do what I did and go check into the Hourly hotel where the guy who's accepting your money behind the counter is behindproof glass. Oh my god. And wait, there's a room, pick a good fan. There's also the Cubist Fantasy and the jungle suite. There was another one at the and just remember and a wherever you're having got wherever you're having sex, he's

there also. So don't feel like, well if I go on the slut, well then he's an asshole. So you're even Yeah, it's not just like what your image is. If you feel something for somebody and you want to be intimate with them, then the setting is not important. That's actually where you should be. You a little bit more than that first night when you're meeting him and you're just kind of intoxicated galore. Maybe the real you

needs to come out. Like I'm saying, keep the confidence up, be you, And I think that's all kind of every single question kind of goes back to the confidence level at the end of the day. Here's here's the last one. How about this one? I love you? Yeah, I love Here's How do you make conversation with people when you're sober at a Starbucks without being creepy? So it doesn't have to be for the record, of course. Example, Yeah,

there's a new there's a new vanilla mocachi. No, we're all peppermint, and you just say, excuse me, have you ever had that? I'm thinking of trying a new drink and I don't know any have you tried it? Is it any good time? I was a manager in an area, trainer for Starbucks. I sold the first rappuccino in New York State. Thank you? Oh my god, he's here, stuffy waiting for your drinks. Do you like to Hey, did you give him a fake name? I know, I did you know? How that kind of thing? You know? Yeah,

like you go? You know what? Every time I'm here, they're so that's the slowest Starbucks in the area. But what if it's not. Well, I'm just saying these are examples right right now, asking about a new drink is a way to break Doway, what are you drinking Grande? Yeah, the the Unicorn listen. I think this is I think that's a good A good thing for you actually is to start talking to people during the day and like

walking out the people when you're sober. I think you're going to I think you're going to find a new you. I think the fact that you're even calling the show and you're talking the way you are, you are a lot more outcoming than you realize. And the idea of talking at people. I could talk to a wall. So for me, I don't know, I could walk up to anybody and start talking. The quality of guy you're gonna meet in the daylight is going to be better. Yeah

you know that because Scary goes to clubs, Dick. But you know what, I love the nighttime meeting and I love the daytime meeting, but the night left. Yeah, well that's it, that's exactly play it. Can you play that for a Scary? Can you play that? Parents? He does the voice here? Your parents definitely made made whoopie to the song. Yeah, people like when I do this, I

don't know why, I don't tell me. If you ever heard of the song, you ever heard the song records should get you in the mood to talk to someone Renee about love tonight. Please don't talk about please don't talk about these don't all lands. My head's a broken romance. I want to go with the people shown to get I love the Nightline. I got it on the Oh my God, so so put that in your mind. The next time that you see someone, and it's during the day, make yourself laugh a little, put on that smile and

just kind of let it flow. Keep it light though when you talk to them. Don't you could use the same same technique when you're out at the bar, you know, when you're standing up at a bar. I actually go out alone a lot of times because I like the challenge of having to meet people. I think it's kind of cool and you you kind of go out and

you're like, you kind of just hang out. You know, people are also I'll tell you another thing about when you're going out and you're meeting guys, it's almost easier during the day to meet somebody that's quality because you're alone. Usually when you go out in a group of girls, and I don't know if the guys could could help me out with this, I find that it becomes something that's more intimidating to a guy also to come up

to you. You may actually find somebody. I seriously talk to a ton of people when I go out because I roll out alone. And it's something you have to learn to do. You've got to be comfortable in your own skin and do it. But it's fun. It's actually fun to do. Or maybe by groups of girls. Yeah, so I feel right, and I feel like if you just tried it a little bit or maybe listen, how about this go an hour earlier to the bar than your girls. I'm afraid to penetrate your circle, but you

know what I'm saying, hey itself. Oh my god, now you are. You're awesome. You're like a new part to this whole podcast. We're like so happy to you. Do you feel like like a changed person? We wanted to report from you in a couple of weeks when you know, try some of these tactics when you have enough date let us know right to us or get in touch okay, and make sure it makes you proud, and make sure you write in to share nose too, so I can hear what you're doing and I could bring it alive

on the off air show. Sometimes I will so I'll embarrass myself yet again with the bad news. I'm supporting. You're not talking you with day's pay for sitting here slacking off for the past half hour wherever they probably are. They probably are probably, but listen, it might be worth it. You might just find your husband now, Yes exactly, you're some rich dude. Take care of you for the rest of your life. Then you're all. You know, you'll be all set that half an hour won't matter, That's right,

Thank you? By re name, oh my god, also know the name just by ready. Singer Forna knows Bertie. She comes in here with a clipboard every week. I know she writes notes down, more prepared than Greg Te will ever be for anything. I don't think there's a comparison need right there. Actually Gregg likes to wing it off

the top of his round head. Well no, he actually yesterday, in all fairness, or two days ago, he put together a five page outline of the show and he he had very important things to him and we got through a lot of material. But this stuff here is all scribbled. You know, you're not type definitely, thing about hold on a second, I just want to say this, Okay, you're not supposed to be able to read it. Deliberately wrote it even more messy today for you, so you can't

see anything that's on here. Okay, what do we have going on? Alright? So, um, Caroline one of our off airheads, A few others have written in about the Carolin Thompson from the off air Answer had Army. That's right. So a couple of weeks back, Sorry we're getting to this so late, but um, a couple of weeks back, she had mentioned that she's gonna be going to Mexico's favorite place right now. There we go, really Mexico experience. Let's see if I hit on one of the reasons why

you didn't have a good experience. I'm gonna am I going to get it Mexico. He had a great time in Mexico, that was silent the first time the trip, that he wasn't on the toilet that half the trip. Okay, continue, yeah, go ahead read it okay. So um, basically, so basically, so everybody's been writing in about this idea of doing and all around the world we share. So I have a couple of tips, specifically for Mexico for Caroline, and then a couple of things that will flow over to

some other areas when you get outside the country. So here we go. You ready, here are some things to run off your list. Hotels, the beaches, safety, tipping, around the world. Music, Yeah, come on, give me some music from Mexico and around the world, around the world by daft punk song continue okay, stop ready, rental cars getting the best rates, and a cell phone trick. So here we go. So hotels, guys, you know that when you go to Mexico, a lot of the stuff's all inclusive.

I think Elvis Duran's show did that right, all inclusive. So here's some things that have come up. If you don't do the all inclusive as you do, you can do an airbnb real popular right now all around the world, all around the world, all around the world. He la la la, you man laugh, la la la. I don't know what to say. It goes okay, So if you do the hotel. Um things came up about trip Advisor. Definitely, definitely, definitely go to trip Advisor. I don't know do you

guys use trip Advisor. It is amazing. I did not know how great it was until recently it is kick ass. Let me tell you something, if people are not loving their hotel stays, they let you hear about. If they see a bug like one bug, you will know about it. I mean, this stuff is hardcoreports. Don't even get me started on the bugs. So people really give you an up to date. They include safety things on there. Also, if you're gonna go to their The thing about tipping

comes up a lot. You don't have to tip. I know that I'm somebody that likes to tip, but when you're at an all inclusive, you actually the biggest question was do you have to tip? In Mexico it has specifically said you can tip if they go out of their way for you, but you actually don't have to tip at the all inclusive, so keep that in mind. Depending upon the pipe range. That extra dotted line there

that says gratuity. So yeah, but wait, propina means that the tip has already included on the bill, and I guarantee you look at the bill closely. It says that somewhere they have said specifically that they include ten on all the bills, so you have already actually paid for it. But again, if somebody goes out of their way. I say, kind of hit it up. At the airbnbs, guys, here's the thing to know. And at the hotels the parking.

Make sure if you get a rental car, which we're gonna hitt on soon, do not just get a rental car, make sure parkings included. Some of the hotels that are all inclusive don't have parking for you, so that's a real problem. Sometimes they bang you over the head, which is gonna kill you because now you thought you had this totally covered and all of a sudden boom, So that's another thing. No, it's crazy though, right, scary like all these little hidden fees come up. Also with the

rental cars guys. With the airbnb is a lot of times they don't bring it up because it's not included. You better ask them if that's included, if wifi's included. You have to make sure all that stuff is included. It sounds like something I had a time because it sounds like something that would definitely be included. But when I go away, I have to make sure I emphasize it. And I've gotten emails back that have said, no, really sorry, but our house doesn't include WiFi, like how do you

survive without? I mean really right, how are you gonna listen to the off air show? So you're talking about being around the world. Song is called around the World a world headline, golf Ball on Sunday, You're You're the songs the Chilie Coppers, bad songs like oh yes you should up for you all? Just Drant shows this boy around the world. We can make time continue. This is like, this is better, this is more all right. So the beach it like the beaches for all inclusive guys, right,

it's included. You go to an airbnb, guess what, they're not included. But there's a trick, especially in Mexico, when you go to the beaches, ask the restaurant to put you out on the beach. Don't go up to the chair guy and get put out on the beach. It's a separate fee. If you go to the restaurants and you actually saying they will never list this for you. So listen to me. If you go to a beach, okay, that's not part of the all inclusive because you're doing

an airbnb and you're in Toloom, you're somewhere. You go to the beaches okay, and you go to the restaurant part first that's out on the on the beach, ask them do you have a package for chairs on the beach? I want to eat on the water And they will actually tell you yes, if you spend x amount of pastos, you get the chairs and the umbrellas for free. If you just go to the beach and you go to the beach part and say can I have an umbrella and chairs? They actually charge you separate not what do

you mean it doesn't happen? And do you mean they don't charge? But I'm telling you this is out of country Okay, this is all out of country stuff that we're geting to go to a restaurant, nightlife club action. You sit there, you go have dinner at the restaurant. That does not guarantee you admission to the club outside, all right, like in Vegas? Yeah no, no, no, totally separate, that's totally separate. What the so, So this is a good trick though for Mexico. I'm telling you this is

a good trick for that. The other thing is is that you want to pay and pay, so it's do not give them a credit card. I'm telling you right now, they hit you with an extra fee if you pay by credit card when you do that little finagling on the beach. Come on, man, Mr Thrift, come on, I love it. I didn't know that though, Well, why I listen to the show. The next thing, if you're on the beach, don't leave your important things on the beach people.

Something I went to Rio in Brazil. I was told by the people at the resort, Hey, we know you're gonna go across the street to the beach, which is a public beach and is also the Atlantic Ocean. When you're there, Uh, don't leave anything. Don't leave you sunglasses, don't leave your shirt like anything, right, leave your towel. I left, I left my kids gone. Did you wear bright colors? Okay? I mean, how do I how do I even call that a vacation. I don't call it

a vacation. When I came back, I was more stressed than when I left. I needed a vacation when I got back. So so that must paces where I can't leave my ship. Yeah, but I don't think anybody could leave stuff anywhere nowadays. And this was going to lead into the next thing. So towel, Well, I don't listen. I'm not saying take the towel into the water. Okay, here's what I was going to suggest for like, go over to bed bath, get yourself into the waterproof cases. Okay,

you could actually keep your phone in it. You could put a passport in it. If you decide to take your passport, you get to put your passport in it. Wave the room. Well, and this is something else I was gonna say, cash and your pastos when we're in Mexico or wherever you are. Um, I suggest you also hide things in three locations. So I suggest you use the safe in the room Florida, if you New York, Cayman Islands, know, if you're going to take Now, I'm telling you you need to do this. Take an extra

little lock for your suitcase. Lock something in a pair of shorts, like put it, put some money in a pair of shorts in your in your hotel room, fold it over and lock it in the suitcase. Now, then you find money, Then you're happy because you find money. Then you're thrilled. Email yourself where you put the three things now, because if your phone gets saken and I'm

not going to get his email. So Here's the thing though, make sure you do that because I'm telling you could actually carry little safety things that have locks on them. Keep things separate though, Guys, especially Carol, when you go there, I'm telling you, there's there's hotel issues, no matter what what's range hotel you're in. You could be in the hop top notch hotel. There's issues in every hotel. If

somebody wants to take something, they'll take it. Airbnb is you have even more of a chance because of the fact that you know there's there's a flow of different people coming in and out. You hope that they're locking the doors the right way. Just make sure you keep yourself separate. Okay. The next thing is is that when you are tipping in Mexico, here's a little trick also if you're not going to tip on the bill because

you don't have to. It's very similar to France with the idea that you don't have to leave a gratuity that's extra. There is a rule with drinks you're supposed to leave tens per drink out a bar, So make sure you do that because they really frown upon it, and you don't want them frowning upon your drinks, so I suggest that you do that. Um. The next thing is download two apps. I don't know if you guys have these, but the translator app and the Units plus app for the pass to US D dollars is a

life saver when you go out of the country. No, it's perfect. Come on, you need that, Yeah, exactly. Uh No, you need a translator on your phone. I'm telling you it's the best thing to do. And pasos. Make sure that you go to travel money USA dot com. I found in looking around for the money exchange that when I went to France and I went to Mexico, those they had the best rates. They have absolutely no faith

and no commission. And no matter what you do with your banks, chances are even though they say there's no bank fee, I'm telling you that they up the rate so you and up paying more money. I don't Oh hello, I mean really, does anybody like do we have a money song? Scary? Like? Come on? I mean, come on, Rodi is not filling it over? Come on? I got an important text. I got distracted. I noticed I noticed you use credit cards when you go away. I take one credit card with me. Does it have no fe

on it? You check that ahead of time. Oh yeah, I use I use only cards that can go to the countries, absolutely, so some people don't know that though, so it's good to remind everybody to make sure they check the fees on that. I use a credit card because you get the best exchange, right usually. And do you rent cars when you go away to places like Mexico and France? I have rented cars in foreign countries, yes, but again I use a credit card to get the

best exchange, right. Okay. And did you know that they have like a little trick with the pricing, especially in Mexico. So well, let me tell you, first of all, reserve a car before you go, if you're gonna do it. When you walk out of the airport, there's about seventeen people standing there, and it is the craziest thing to me.

You could literally bargain a better price in five seconds because and even if you don't want to and you're like, get away from me, they're like, hey, listen, I know you probably paid nine dollars a week for that car, but I could get it to you for five. Now. I know that sounds crazy, but are you ready for what they hit you with? They hit you with the liability. Now, the liability, especially in Mexico, guys keep this in track

should be between fifteen and eight a day. That's where the rate goes up to the twenty two or whatever. But what's not included is collision insurance. So here's a pic trick that happens to people when they go out of the country. Collision insurance is never included. You have to ask them, let them give you seventy five to eighty five percent, And I say tap out at that. Your home insurance is not going to cover you. They might. They don't cover you in Mexico, they're gonna cover you

in Canada, so they're definitely not covering you in France. Okay, And I know that they're gonna give you eighty five if you ask them for collision. But if you say I want a percent, you scared the hell out of me. I don't want to get in an accident and have any problems here. They'll add four hundred and fifty dollars onto your bill and you don't realize it till the end. What. Yeah, it's a big thing. I'm telling you. You need to

look at thet How you get that past me? Without me noticing, because they put a hold on your credit card for a couple of thousand dollars, especially in Mexico. They put a hole on my credit card for over visiting. Well, well, this is a rental car company that I went to. This has nothing to do with the resort. This has to do with me renting a car. And you learn this stuff. I'm ubering all over the place. I don't care. Lots of uber and Tijuana. Yeah whatever, and listen. I

like the idea of being adventurous. Even when I went to France and I don't speak friends, I don't want to drive in their streets. Oh my god. It was so much fun, though scary, like you do everything on a vacation. You guys could show for my ash. You know what, though, it's such an adventure to be able to drive from France to Italy and then drop on a plane to another plane on a pillo tour. I would let them take me on that magic bus. Do

you want to go on the shared tour? Got good on your back center and walk from Italy to France. It's so much easier. Why not? Right? And here's the last thing. Drink around the world. Right, drink around the world. Well listen, I'm not saying don't sit around and drink. You're you're telling me stuff right now, and I'm hearing blah blah blah uber uber Uber called so you have never tried to be adventurous and like I rent, I rented a car Italy. How great to do it when

you rented a car. Here's what I'll say this, Will you get speed? Like crazy? Am I right? Brodie? You want to risk getting into an accident? Speed? By the way, I've been to Naples and they are ruthless. You know, Naples. Naples is craziness. Now I would do it if I had a vesper. Those people are crazy. That's really the problem in the sports car Naples or as they call it, Napoli, which is probably why we should call it Napolis their country,

like like Spain they call it a Spania. Why don't we call it a Spania because we're America, we should call it a Sponge. Okay, fine, anyway, Naples and Naples. I wouldn't drive in Naples unless I practiced, like I had a couple of weeks to practice. But but the autobomb, but we rent that's Germany. Come on we Um. We ducked um in a town called Citavecchia, maybe where it's between Florence and um Pizza. And you have to rent a car. You have a choice to go one to

the other. I took a pill in Pizza. Really were you? Were you? And so we rented a car and drove to the Tower of Pieza. We want to see the pizza. Okay, we had to rent a car the way to get there, and you do have to sometimes rent a car cars in Mexico. That's a double negative anywhere. Well, I'll wait a second. I completely disagree, and again this is I'm not get diarrhea in Mexico. You can't drive. Oh that's horrible.

Maybe I just went to the right place either. No, it was so much fun though, it's so adventurous to drive through and then you know, yeah, adventurous, adventurous to walk through like Compton at night. But I'm not doing that. I'm gonna drop you in Tijuana. And with rental car listen, if you do rent a car there, check on the rates and also make sure to see if your rental

car company can give you a piece of paper. There's a little trick with that too, get a piece of paper because when the cops try to stop you, the piece of paper that some of the rental car companies have says that you've been approved and that you have insurance in your license was valid otherwise, well, otherwise, otherwise you might get in a few conversations with some Mexican plane. Thank you for traveling information share, You're very welcome, and

listen with the cell phones. Call your cell phone companies because guess what, in Mexico Canada, you do not need to pay extra. You just need to tell them that you're going so you could talk away. We landed in Mexico. That was the best thing there was that Verizon wireless boom. Well you did it. I did it to. Verizon used to have a plan. When you'd call them, you'd have to pay like a three day or a four day and a price right, and then when you got back you had to call them to turn off, and if

you forgot, they just kept charging you. Now it automatically shuts off when you get home, and as long as you don't make a out of network call, you don't pay anything. It's great. Or Macco, thank you for your report. It was a did you like mean, come on, it's an all around the world which share for share. Wait a second, we just we just got live. Now we're live. Yeah, we got live now, So that means everybody's got to go back to the off air show to actually see it.

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