Should You Bring Flowers To A First Date?

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It's DJ env Charlamagne the gud We are to breakfast club Nowhew just joining us.

We're talking about this guy I've been trending on social media.

Now.

He was trending because he went on a date and it didn't go as planned. He was damn there crying.

Let's see what he said.

So I just left the restaurant after waiting thirty minutes for a day to show, and apparently I got stood up. I don't know what to say. I'm trying to do everything right to be a gentleman. I brought flowers.

I've been consistent talking with this girl for two weeks, trying to get to know what she likes.

But she doesn't like I made plans. I picked the restaurant the day of the time. I've done everything to be just the kind of guy that the value somebody's signed like. I just I'm just looking for my first I'm just looking for the one that I guess he's out there from me. Ladies, tell me what is that you wrong?

And we're asking eight hundred and five eight five one oh five one, what's your thoughts?

Now?

Willie D doesn't feel like this guy should have brought flowers at all. Thought that was the first red flag.

First red flag, second red flag is all that damn crime. Look, man, don't know women want a dude like that leading them. I know it's a lot of women who was in the comments or the dumb meant section making these suggestions that we should show this guy some sympathy. Poor guy. That's bad. Those same women would not date that guy under any circumstances. Bringing. Bringing flowers to a woman on the first date is a red flag. She probably saw him, That's why she didn't show up. She probably saw him

What?

Oh girl? And she probably called one of her friends cause it's crazy. He got some goddamn flowers, a whole bouquet of flowers. Yeah, flowers is that bad?

Man?

I think it depends on what kind of flowers.

Like.

It's a first date, so I do agree with Williams. A first date, you know what I mean? So I might be moving kind of fast, but I don't think it's a bad gesture. But I just wouldn't bring a dozen roses. Maybe maybe some two, some lilies.

Some sun something, just you know, because you know it's it's something nice. I think the starts the date off in the positive direction. You come pick up or she come here, you go madys as a bouquet of flowers.

It can't be roses is very sentimental. Romance especially depends on what color.

Man, This ain't no prime date, bro, it's saying prome. This is just a regular date.

Man.

Yeah, I've been talking to this chick for a couple of weeks. I'm trying to get to know it. It is very important that you're not spook a woman that you first meet. Yeah, you know, after they dated for a while and they really know each other and she understands him, he understands her. You know. He can buy roses anytime. It's great, but you gotta be very careful because women can easily get spooked.

You think flowers, I don't think.

Can spook a woman because.

They roses will I think a little back of.

Sun flowers isn't roses. Flowers?

Yeah, but roses there.

Different colors mean romantic, Like red means romance means love, I thought means love and romance.

I forgot what white and all that means.

But I was like some.

Tulips, some lily.

Okay, So if rose is cool, it's diamond stud it rains.

Cool, flowers crazy.

You can get flowers for ten dollars fifteen dollars at Walmart.

Hell no, I'm.

Gonna change the situation right now.

Listen, whether you've got a door right, yeah, and the gentleman comes to pick up your daughter, you don't want them to come with some flowers.

Nah, I want them to come with the right attitude. It's more important. So we're trying to learn each other. So it's more important that that that you know you you learn each other and watch each other manner hysms, and and and and get familiar with one another. That's the most important thing. I think, you know, like, it ain't even where you where you take them. It's not about fancy restaurants and and and and gifts and all that kind of stuff. It's about the human connection. That's

And this is where we get confused that you don't think the flowers help to open up the human connection.

No, damn A lot of people.

Let me tell you something. You have to really think when you're doing this, when you're dealing with a woman, you have to like get out of your feelings. You got to get out of your emotions and think to yourself, if I do this, how can she how how might she interpret it? And you got to take out the as much wigger room for interpretation as possible.

She might say, Damn, nobody ever gave me tulips before.

All right, this is special, this is nice, something that nobody ever gave me tuolips before.

This dude is a cornball, Tanya, Yes, what's up to talk to us with flowers on the first day?

Tanya?

What you think?

Hey, guy, listen, Yes, flowers on the first day.

I mean, it's fine. It's not like it's a big fill. He did everything right. It's just the only thing that I felt that he did wrong is he's whining about it. A woman does not want to hear a man whine.

I think I agree with that.

Yeah, but the flowers, I don't see nothing wrong with it.

This wrong?

What's your name?

Bro?

Just brew from the Bronx.

From the Bronx. What what you bring on that first day?

Bacon?

Egg, and cheese and cheese, bacon, egg and cheese, a box of backwood, a box cutter.

I want to ask you that question with the flowers.

I think what he is wrong about that.

I think you can give a girl flowers any time you feel like that's how you feel about it one day school. It doesn't about him. And if you're a ladies man, you're gonna do that anyway.

And that's why the bodega cell flowers, right.

And the flowers is cheap at the bodega.

Stop hanging up on people.

Hello, who's this you know this morning?

Can you hear me?

I can hear you.

Now.

What's your thoughts mind, Susie?

What you think about flowers on the first day? Susie, I think that that was a good jest, like four three, hold of that Geechee and yourself. You know, we were romant, were romantic from the.

On the mask already know, yeah, talking man, But I think like that was my thing for him to do, was to bring the flower.

Was that was her all? Okay?

I agree? See, we were romantic in the low country. You know what I'm saying. Willie just made all the floors in Texas lose money.

This morning, say I'm I'm I'm a romantic guy too, but I believe that romance have to be earned. I'm not just giving them any chick romance, Like, yeah, we're gonna have a conversation first, let me see if you are deserving, just like a woman shouldn't give any man romance. I think all that that's levels to it, and and and if and if it don't work out, whatever's left is better than whatever left.

Rod, what's your thoughts, Rod?

Yeah, yeah, I will.

Will you did?

Man?

First off? First off, you gotta set up the date. There's something that you want to be doing yourself. If somebody don't show up, you can still do you. Number two never Shunty's much better nowadays as far as women appreciate it like that, they gotta you gotta make a work.

To earn that.

You know, you gotta you gotta get out there and use.

Your mouth piece.

At first she would say about something, and then after that you could aculate to get get us and get flowers.

I don't think we should, uh let let women dictate how we move as romantics, meaning that if I'm the type of person that like to bring a woman flowers, I'm gonna just bring the woman flowers.

Now she messed that up. Then we don't go, no, you won't go no further than the flowers in this day.

You know. Yeah, but you see how it ended for him crying on the internet. See see, so we could say all this stuff that we want to, but but if we look at that, we've looked at these situations in general, this this is usually the result. You know, there is a such thing as a guy being too kind too fast. Too kind too fast is a red flag.

And I think this is the thing that what that lady said about the wine and is important because I feel like he had a sense of entitlement, you know what I mean, even though he did get stood up, like what if something happened, like do your mind, don't even go to maybe something.

But it seems like this, it seems like he's been stead up numerous times.

Come on, That's what I'm saying a lot of times these guys. I heard some people saying that, well, you see, this is what happens when you do guys stuff, do stuff like this, the guys they end up being mass murderer, serial killers and rapists and all this kind of stuff. Because people pick on them, bully them. Let me tell you something, man, If being rejected is going to make

But we'll take some more calls eight hundred and five eighty five one o five one. But really, I will say that's that's today's society.

And that's part of the problem, right.

Because before you know, you get rejected, what your pops or or your family tell you do you go back out there and try and get suck it up. Same thing if you get into a bully. Let's say you got a problem with a bully, what did your pops do? You go fight that bully. If you lose, you go fight him again. You go fight him again. All you learn if he's making fun of you, learn how to make fun of him back. It was never to the point where you gotta go cry because your family wasn't gonna allow it.

Now I feel like a lot of times we put gloves hand.

We hear massides these kids with gloves where they feel like it's the end of the world when they get talked about, feel like it's the end.

Of the world, when they get dissed on a date. The only thing I don't agree with is that whole bully thing. I always thought that was a lie. Somebody beat your ass good one time, you ain't going back and put you to go back.

Well, well, the thing about it is that if you fight a bully, typically, if you fight a bully and you fight back, you usually don't have to deal with that because bullies don't like resistance. Bullies like easy targets. They like soft targets. And this is why it's important when somebody bullies you iportant to stand up for yourself the first time, because if you don't, you're teaching them that it's okay to belly.

So you don't think that man stood up for himself on the internet by whining like that, No, no, stop playing with me.

No.

I think he laid down for himself and he did himself for a huge disservice. And no woman, no woman, that's really a boy. Something would want appro create with a dude like that, what is he gonna teach his boy to cry harder? Look, Dad, your cry was weak. Look at my cry? Dad. You know what I'm saying. All that No man, get on up out of here with the woman.

They stop all that crime.

Man, stop all that, and not just him, all you other dudes, you newscasters. I've been seeing news. I've been wanting to say this for a long time. You news casters out here. All this damn crime. Stop all that I'm talking about, specifically black men.

Stop all that damn crime.

Man.

You know, like, it's a time and a place for everything. I'm not one of those dudes who subscribe to the concept that men should not cry. I'm not that dude. But there's a time and place for everything, and we have to learn to control our emotions. If that's two things that a man must control in order to operate at his optimum, it is his emotions and his penis. We gotta learn to control that. If you can do that, man, you can.

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Everybody is DJ NV, Charlamagne, the gud. We are the breakfast club. Now if you're just joining us, we're talking about this video that went viral about this man that we're on a date.

It was his first day.

He brought flowers. He got stoed up, he was crying. Will he d said, well, he shouldn't have brought flowers. Flowers is too early. You don't understand why, right, So we're taking your calls. Eight hundred five, eight five, one oh five. One of course WILLI did is our guest co host this morning Me shit, good morning, me shit, good morning, good morning.

What's your thoughts? Misha like he was wrong for bringing her flowers?

It was nothing wrong with that?

Or you don't see nothing wrong with that?

No, flowers are not expensive and it's a good gesture.

Yeah, I think as long as they're not roses, I think it's cool. What if you would have brought her brought her a pair of red bottoms? That's a little too far, that's wow. I like sweet flowers seven to ten dollars bottoms of a committed might be like, yeah, but what woman ain't going to accept those red bottoms?

Yeah?

But I wouldn't do that. That's it, that's doing too much. Because I'm a woman. I'm looking at do you do this all the time? You just randomly give people red bottom flowers a.

Little randomly, just give people flowers.

Flowers are different tho, because you can just give them a person just because you want to light up their life.

Flowers are a sentimental gesture. Being sentimental to a woman should be earned. It should be something earned. If you give her to give it to her too fast, she's not going to appreciate it. The same thing with you don't pay for the meal, give it to it too fast. We're not you don't pay for the meal, pay for the meal. That's you know what I'm saying. I would, I would do that. I mean, I mean, I'm I'm I'm old school in the sense that that that that

And it was going on, good morning morning, Matt, what's your thoughts?

Brother?

Hey, so, first of all, everybody flowers, I'm not vering her flowers on the first day, and first of all, I'm not thinking. And then if we're gonna go to a coffee that or something like, it's a talk and get to go each other in the pumping space if you're safe, and that's it. Before I got married, every day that I had we went to Barnes and Nobles. We could see what kind of books you're in, and if you want a coffee, I got your head the stone bus. That ain't nothing bee, and then.

I liked going to Night's Day afterwards. I'm gonna be honest with you. I think that's more. I think going to Barnes and Nobles is very intimate.

But you but you know what.

The guy also said he was talking to her for the last two weeks. I guess on the phone.

I guess he was. He gave the initial conversations.

He said he was feeling around to see what she liked, but she didn't like, so he was already doing the initial conversations.

I hope some of y'all keeping notes, because I you know, even though Willie did, I think bringing a woman flowers on the first day is cool, but also that Bonds and Nobles thing is dope. Meeting a woman that bonds and nobles and y'all just having a conversation that bonds and noble, y'a can talk about what kind of books y'all like and stuff like that. That's that's cool and it's very cost effective. What's the moral of the story, Oh, the moil of the story?

Man?

I really want y'all to listen to me, because you know everybody's looking for somebody.

I understand that, So please listen to me. Please, are y'all listening?

Okay, just because you haven't found the right person doesn't mean you will not mistake