Should You Apply Marriage Rules In Dating?

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Everybody's DJ Envy Charlomagne the God. We are the Breakfast Club. We got our special guest co host, Big Sue K ninety seven Memphis. Now, if you're just joining us, we're asking eight hundred five A five one oh five one. A gentleman called this morning during Get It Off your Chest, and we're talking about this book marriage Rules in Dating, all right, and we were talking about should you use marriage rules in dating? Eight hundred five A five one oh five one. Charlamage said no.

Uh yeah, I agree with him. I don't think marriage rules should be implied. Uh in dating are not implied or imposed. I don't know what the word I'm looking for, but marriage rules should not be involved when you're just dating somebody. When you do dating somebody, you're dating them,

So you know what, I got to co sign that.

I think sometimes people get to dating and they're too early in the relationship and then they start you know, dating with a marriage mind is one thing, but starting too early before you really know a person, that's when you run into problems.

See.

I also think there's different stages of dating. Right there's young dating, where I think people are young and they're just out having fun. But I think there's also an age where it's like people are ready to find that right person. And in that situation, I feel like you almost have to have marriage rules because you don't want you don't want nobody to waste your time.

That causes a lot of problem.

You want to make sure that that person has the same aspiration, the same inspiration, the same ethics, the same morales, even when it comes to financing and it comes to credit, it comes to because you're trying to build a life with this person, and if they're if their values don't fit with yours. You want to know early before you waste your time, because you could be in a situation for a yeah, and you're wasting your time with that person.

A lot of people lose people like that though, because you know, you be a man or a woman that's really looking for marriage, like you're really looking to get chasing it right, and then you get with a person that might be forty something fifty something that don't want that, that person might have already been divorced, or that person may have never wanted to be married, and being that you want such a major commitment, they falling back from you like.

Oh, but don't you want to know that early if that person's not on that same vibe as you, if you're ready to rock lock and you know, do it now? And they like, Nah, don't you want to know early before I waste my time, waste my birthdays, waste my valentine?

Tell me, so we don't even go on a date.

Yeah, but at the same time, you can't go in play some real heavy expectations.

On it early in the relationship.

Yeah, Well, let's go to.

The phone lines eight hundred five eight five one oh five to one Lake.

What up?

Lake?

What?

Man?

What's going on?

Interviewing?

How you feeling?

Brother?

Can't?

Good morning?

All right?

I want to stop.

In a marriage rule in my opinion, I want to say that first because it's just my opinion. Dating is an interview, for marriage is an extend. Your interest in the position is show and you're performing. So if you're gonna show up and step better the interview, you're not interested.

I think it's the difference in seeing if somebody is marriage material as opposed to laying down marriage rules, right, because like the things that you give a person in marriage, when you are dealing with an individual, you can say to yourself, man, this is somebody that I would.

Do all of that force. I think what he's saying is true.

I just think that you know, when you're dating somebody you're realizing that they are marriage material.

That don't mean you should apply to marriage rules yet.

Hello, who's this?

And dingo?

Dingo?

What's going on wrong?

Hey?

What's up your husband? In a minute, how y'all feeling blessed?

Black and holly? Favor? Good? Brother?

That's what I'm talking about, And how you feel good? I'm the name, but God, I love you my brother Big two.

How you doing, Hey, I'm doing good. How you doing this morning?

Hey, I'm good represented Memphis. I like that you're playing great.

Thank you.

Absolutely so my take on this whole situation. I just recently started dating the night young lady. We married a couple of weeks in, and uh, you know, it's really important to make your attentions clear when you're dated, Like those first couple of dates are very vital to express yourself and what you guys want in a relationship because it'll make the dating process that much simpler. You know,

I agree with you so much.

Ding Like dating, dating is a process, right, It's a process in which two people get to know each other better.

Marriage, man, is when two people make a commitment to be together for the rest of their lives. You're not getting that we're just dating.

But you got to get to that.

But you got to make sure that y'all aligned the same, you know, I mean, because you can be wasting a lot of time with people, you know what I mean some people, one side might be in there for fun and another side might be in there for the long distance. But you want to know these things now. You want to know if you're compatible, if everything actually matches.

That's why you date. You date to learn all of that.

Let's call it one more caller.

Hello, who's this?

Yeah, what's up? And be just cue. Don't put marriage rules and dating themselves.

Oh yeah, you wrote the book. Yeah, we talked about you this morning.

Yeah.

I wanted to elaborate on it. You know, I could definitely give some commentary contact to that. You know, it's like this. You know a lot of people get into relationships and they asked the wrong things. They try to find out the wrong things. You got to know who your mate is, you understand. I want to know how you was raised. I want to know if you had both parents. I want to know if you carry in some trauma, some PTSD. I want to know everything about you.

I agree with you? You got I think I agree? I agree with you. Yeah, thank you.

Eight hundred five A five one o five one.

We're asking, do you guys put marriage rules into dating?

That is the question, should you? Let's discuss. It's the Breakfast Club.

Good morning, it's topic time. Eight hundred five five one five one to join into the discussion.

With the Breakfast Club Morning, everybody.

It's TJ n V. Charlamagne to God. We are the Breakfast Club. We got our guest co host, Big Sus of course K ninety seven Memphis, and we're asking eight hundred five A five one oh five one. Do you guys put marriage rules into dating? Kind of feel like you have to, though, I kind of feel like if that's that's what you want as a goal, you want to get the I don't want to say the judge, but the duds out the way early.

But what about the process, whether it dating is the process you're going through the process, You're learning a person, you're getting to know somebody better.

I'm not saying you're giving me the ring the first day. I'm just saying, not even the ring.

That commitment that comes with the ring. Marriage is a commitment to be together for the rest of your life. Correct for the person. I'm not going in there giving somebody that energy.

I'm just dating.

Hell.

Hey, good morning, mama, good morning. What's your thoughts.

In those relationships? I feel like marriage wills kind of make them well their way depending on how connect it you are in the relationship you in. I think will kind of brings themselves into the relationship that you're in, especially.

Out of respect.

I don't I don't feel like like you said, and you should be treated like a wife or a husband because that to me, that levels to to ative roles in relationships.

But certain rules just to.

Find their way in there. And if you expect yourself and know yourself, then and then you can have a conversation with the person that you're with and you guys can be mutually will mutually agree on certain aspects of your relationship.

Okay, thank you, mama, Regie, good morning.

Good morning.

Uh to one such on the barrass subtific roles and whatever. Yes, sir, and I feel like, man, it's definitely made roles that you know, single people shouldn't get, like, uh, next week is my three year anniversary, and you know four three years ago, I couldn't see myself giving a woman pass, goes to my phone jailed. My location is definitely always and stuff like that. Man, Look, it's it's completely different, but I love it, you know, damn going up three years,

And we all know the difference because we've all been in situations where we were dating and we've all been into well.

Not all of us, but most of us are. We're all married, is what I'm saying. We know the difference between dating and marriage, right, So yes, there's.

Certain things that you are doing in a marriage that you wouldn't think of doing with somebody you just dating.

Coach David, you know what's going on these and be struggling me to god, how y'all doing? What?

Say? What up the big sue, big shoe?

How you doing, beloved?

Good morning, Hey, good morning?

How you doing all right?

Listen? You asked a very good question earlier. The difference between being married and being you know, just dating, you know, as a man, as a man of a current age, and being married to my wife over twenty one years. I look at it like this, there's a difference between dating and courting. If you're dating, you know, we're we're just being friends. We're being friendly, being caught. We can know each other, you know, we go out on a

For breakfast, turkey bacon.

There's a different level of commitment between a chicken and a pig. A chicken can give an egg and still leg that pig gotta get his life for us to eat bacon. But there's a different level of commitment when you.

Married, you're calling your wife a pig.

Man.

I know how I know you, Bro, I don't know.

I don't know.

I'm now I don't want to no, bro, get what you're saying.

I expect you respect what you need taking my guy.

Okay, I get what you're saying, though, I do understand what you're saying.

Thanks coach.

All right, you've been coaching saying be pork. I'm hungry. Now I'm saying be pork.

I Actually he made a really good point, the difference between you know, like courting and just dating, because some people are just dating and marriage isn't in the cards. They enjoy dating, they like the companionship. Marriage isn't a goal for them. You need to know that.

I never thought about that either.

There is levels, right, because I guess it's dating, and then I didn't realize courting is when you're about to take it to that next level, which is probably the engagement in marriage.

I never thought about it like that, at definitely levels.

All right, Well, what's the morrow of the story Tomorrow?

Dating is a process, you know what I'm saying. Marriage is a commitment.

You know, can't give somebody the commitment while you just going through the process.

All right, all right, when we come back, we got your room and report big. So what we're talking about in the rooms this time?

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I laughed at that yesterday so much, but I always knew that day was up to no good.

In that damn house.

I had a whole love theory okay, that I still think is true, but we'll discuss.

All right, we'll get into that nextus The Breakfast Club.

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