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Good morning everybody at ej NV, Charlamagne the Guy. We are the Breakfast Club. We are celebrating the twentieth season of wild'n Out. We have cast members every morning this week and we have Chico Bean and Justina Valentine this morning, and we're asking this comes from a comment that Game said yesterday. We're talking about friends. Do we put too much pressure on our friends?
That is the question.
You know, things change, you know, at one time, yeah, it was easy. We play ball all day long, we play video games. You know, we'll go out and hang go.
To the clubs and all that.
But now when you get a little older, you got families, the things to do.
Do we put too much pressure on our friends? That is the question.
We start with you, Justina, Yes, because some of your friends, you know, they just don't progress with you. They want to stay bombs. They still sell in regular.
Weed and you still have them.
He's the truth, but you gotta love them from afar because we're not selling regular weed no more, like we're doing different things. And then and then those people become liabilities because I have some friends that I love, I grew up with, but I can't bring them around anymore because I don't know what they're gonna do. And then they're a reflection of meat. So you gotta love them from a distance, not bring them to your industry events.
And you know, it's a space in your heart.
You are the celebrity of the crew, right, you're on wilding Out, You're doing so many different things.
You had a movie, you got records.
So when they have events, you are the person they expect to come because they want to show you off to their friends, right, And that's not a real friend.
And it's like a meet and greet when you think you're going to Summon's birthday or like family party. So it's like you got to pick and choose when you do it. You can't do all of them. And if they're really a friend, they're gonna understand. And there's a lot of people that don't understand. But like I said, by a bou, buy a little outside of regular weed from them.
And keep it moving.
Yeah, that's not disparage regular weed. There's still a market for that out here. There is definitely a market and there's some successful salesmen of regular weeks, so salute to those dudes. But I think that I just think people are dependent upon what you bring when you have a certain type of energy. So I never fought people for being upset about not being able to have my presence because I understand the type of energy that I bring
to any situation. So I think that we have a responsibility as people who have been given the blessings that we've been given.
If somebody is really your friend and somebody you really.
Love them, to sit them down and explain, like what comes with this because they don't understand. They just see what they think is going on. It's times that you have to take the time out to say, hey man, this is the reason why this has to change, and this is different, and this is different. I think without doing that, you're just letting them, leaving them to their own devices, and you're not allowing them to understand what comes with a level of success that most people never reach.
Like how many Djmvies in your family? Right, how many Charlemagne's in yours? It's only one of those, you know what I mean? So when you are that one, you it comes with a greater responsibility.
I will say this. You know, for me, it's not even the money, the celebrity or the fam. It's more of the family. Right.
I got six and a wife, so it's like it's separating that time. So if somebody has a birthday party or something has somebody, I got to split that time with my kids playing football, my kids playing basketball, or me just trying to be there for my kids. You know, like you said, we are on the road, we're doing shows. Sometimes you lucky enough where you can take your daughter
because she sometimes she doesn't have school. But the times when we are home, it's like I want to get that time in that I missed, you know what I mean. And sometimes I'd be like, I'll be honest, I don't want to go. I want to spend the time with my wife. I want to spend the time with my kids. I like seeing the moments of you know, like this weekend was I call my daughter a jailbird, right, this was the first time she broke out of her crib, like she hopped over the thing. Like I was there
for that. But if i'd have been on the road or i'd been I would have missed that, you know, what I mean.
So my dad comes with a level of being in the game for a certain amount of time and certain things that's never going to impress you anymore because you've been doing this for thirty years, right, So if you still trying to get the pleasure of being in the club after thirty years, of course you tripping. You know I'm talking about for those that progression, the process of aggression. Throughout your career, You've had to teach people as they
go with you. Now, if you thirty years in and it's still somebody mad at you don't want to come to the strip club, then that's not your friend. But somebody who understands you grew them to understand that, Hey, I got six kids, now now it's time for me to dedicate myself this direction. Like most people don't understand that if you don't teach them, because they don't ever get to the position to be able to do the things that you do being somebody who's successful.
Yeah, I agree with Game for the most part. I agree with most of what he's saying because if you're my friend, you're my friend. But I'm not going to put pressure on you. I'm not gonna scresh you to show up everywhere because just because you're my partner, but you also got to know your friends, right like all my people know how I am. Folks know I don't like to go out, Okay, you know what I mean. But I do think you have to make time for
your real friends, you know what I mean. I have friends that I want to see at least once a month. I like kicking it with them, so you know, we make sure we get up in politic at least once a month. But I'm also in the blood position that I have, you know, business with my friends, and you know, I work with my friends, and like you know, we
end up in a lot of the same spaces. Like even last going out to the you know, the book a whole thing, my best friend, my wife is withn't even like it's like Angela Raya is there, you know, Mallory is there. Like these my people, my son and dad. He's my partner, so it was good that all of us could get together for moments like that.
And you've upgraded your circle, you know what I mean. You've upgraded the circle of people that you're able to operate with. Most people don't. That's what I'm saying they don't have the access that you have. So if you upgrade, your friends, like all of us in here, have the same level of access depending on where we are. Most people that come with you only gonna have that access if you're there. So you've got to be able to help your friends upgrade their access, you know what I mean.
And I think that comes with that level of training throughout the time.
But I also like, even with my friends, I like to invite them to my crib. And the reason why my friends because now everything's at my crab. I got my kids here, I got my wife. You bring your kids. Now it's family. We can sit there, we can drink. We ain't got to worry about getting home. We ain't got to worry about what happens out there, and we could just enjoy.
Hey, babe, we could get both. We're going to Djambi house. That's what it is.
We get to come to his house and see how coming through. We can buy some bracelets as an entry.
Hello from you, what's up?
Brother?
Talk to us. We're talking about do we put too much pressure on our friends?
Yeah? I think a lot of you. You gotta do like females because ie, female friends break off for birthdays. I've been with a lot of my ducts. I've been went to high school. You probably see each other, like you know, every once in a while, but it's not really that important to us. We know you got me to do. But female, is that true? Justine realis?
So this is Justina.
If you got homegirls and they don't repost your maximum cover, you feel like they're not your friends.
No, it's all good. Listen.
I think you got to accept people for who they are and how much they could give you. You know what I mean, because everyone's not the same, so you know you can reciprocate the energy or just know who that person is. But females with the birthdays, yes, a lot of them are crazy. If you miss a birthday event like you are out of their friend circle. I don't know why females are like that.
I'm not like that.
I'm the type of like celebrate other people. But some females don't play about that. I've seen girls not speak to other girls. I was like one of the besties because they couldn't make it to a birthday.
Trip, which is crazy. They do, yes, they don't play with it. Posting like not.
Posting a front on a birthday and not posting a maximum couver and not posting an event.
I saw it before, But I can understand where that comes from too, because most people, the most exciting time of their year is their birthday. You know, That's the only.
Day that's all about that.
Real that's the only day that they get celebrated, and then it's about them like their life is horrible, except but this is the only time I get to be excited and people are happy to be around me, and you kind of forced to be happy to be able to be around somebody on their birthday. So when it's like a birthday trip to somebody or birthday dinner and somebody be like, I'm good now, you really don't got to deal with me because you don't rock with me the rest of the year anyway, and you missed my
birthday dinner. So that's why I think people get mad at that, because most people get their happiness on their birthday.
So what if your friend call you and says happy birthday and pours into you. Wouldn't you rather that rather that than the public display of affection on social media.
Public want the public display more than anything else. They don't even care if they want to show public.
Let's let's let's talk about this more when we come back.
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Do we put too much pressure on our friends? Pull us up?
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Club morning everybody, it's the j Envy Charlamagne to gud we are the Breakfast Club now if you just join us with asking do we put too much pressure on our friends?
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This comes from the game The game Left to comment, and I'm gonna read some of it though it was pretty interesting.
Who read better? You are just hilarious? Should I say who read worse? I still love jes.
I love Jack's accent, Like.
You need to be a segment who raised their hand on the Breakfast Club and just get people to.
Call in and read out loud. That'd be crazy, liar. You know. I used to bet him every morning and I was like, if you can read this, this sentence.
So this paragraph, without messing up, I'll give you one hundred dollars and I would win every morning.
Yeah, we need to do that. That needs to be a good segment, because you had to read over it a couple of times.
It now the game said, y'all put too much pressure on friends. We are all grown now. If a friend can't make it, they can't make it. If you ain't talking to your friend in two weeks, that's okay.
If they got to sit you out.
Joy Up next, we got Charlamagne and the God give it a shot on who raised their hand?
You read it, I'm gonna give it to you.
I'm give it to you. You let me see, y'all put too much pressure on friends. We are all grown now. If a friend can't make it, they can't make it. If you ain't talk to your friend in two weeks, that's okay. If they got to sit out your birthday festivities because money funny, that's okay. We've grown now, got kids, husband's boyfriends, wife's girlfriend's careers. It's just not enough time in the day to give your man, kids, customers, clients, work, friends, siblings,
et cetera. One hundred percent and still be mentally stable. We are at an age now where it's when we see each other. We see each other when we do be present and love on each other during that time. My mother is an English teachers, bestselling authors.
Your inflections were just perfection.
That's somebody to get paid to read ads?
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We got Kierro Good morning Cairo. Hello, Hey, what's your thoughts? So you put too much pressure on your friends.
You're supposed to, You're really supposed to.
People let you love to eat these days and.
That's why everybody turning out so selfish. I can't tell you how many says of anything that I do for people. They need to reciprocate that. It's real. Friends.
If there's a gap one month, two weeks, you know, we're all cool.
We're fine.
I'm in Miami. I think it out my girlfriends in New York when I feel like it, and it's all cool.
But you have people, and I call them vampire leechies.
They like to come stalk everything from.
You as they don't keep nothing back.
Thousands of hours talking people from the phone.
You know, me and my kids and everything help everybody, but when it's time, so they don't turn up people to turn up.
That's why everybody's those delfish the days.
I do agree with her.
You do have to reciprocate, Like, you know, this person has shown up to your birthday, this person has, you know, hit you up to say happy birthday or whatever.
You should reciprocate that. That's that's that's the least you can do. Hello, who's this they Stephan? Good morning doing today? Good good? You put too much pressure on your friends.
I used to when I was younger, but as I got older, you know, I kinized that that own life to stop putting through my own side.
All right, Well, what's the moral of the story, guys were ending this? How we close this out?
I mean, I think the moral the stories just reciprocate the energy, right, like you should match energies with your friend.
Yeah, And I think if you're busy enough with your own life, you understand the next person when they can't make it to an evance. So you know, those friends that get upset like that, they probably are not in the same space or place as you.
So you know, Justin and Chico, Justina, there somebody you got mad at for not posting your maximum cup of Chico. There's somebody that didn't repost eighty five south showing that.
I reposted it not at all.
I can care less like that little one back there, make sure I stay in pocket on what's important. So I really don't care about what anybody else thinks as long as she cool. I think having children changes you in that regard, like that's the opinion that matters. You know, if you're a friend, that's a little different than having somebody who's who you're responsible for and who you're obligated to. So that's what I dedicate most of my energy to. So anybody who can't figure and fit in around that
ain't a friend to me anyway. So it makes it easier to be able to identify what matters, and who don't post me, who don't say happy birthday, and who don't appreciate my accomplishments don't matter because to me, as long as she with whatever I got going on, I'm good.
I would say this.
I think I speak to my I speak to my my true circle of friends every day every day. Somebody don't go on and you know you just checking up on you or whatever it maybe we in a group chat.
I speak to them every.
Day it's a text at least.
Necessary though for friendship. But that's not necessary. But I stops talking tomorrow every day with that change the dynamic of your friendship. And that's what That's what I think we need to leave it at. You know, if you really are friends and it's somebody you really love, then it doesn't matter if the communication stops. You can stop communicating for months or years. But whenever we come back in, it's like we never less friendship.
That's how I feel. That's exactly I feel.
That's a real quick question, right for the parents, Should our children be our friends? You know they always say your children shouldn't be your friends. Yes, like the oldest daughter gets you fifteen, that's my little partner, you know what I mean?
My daughter my friends.
Man, my daughter is my partner. I understand. You can't you can't be. In my opinion, you can't be you know, naive to the reality of the fact that these kids have access to way more information than we did. It was much more difficult for our parents to be friends with us because of the world that we lived in and the lack of information that we had. Now, being dishonest with your children, the way that you had to kind of be dishonest with us when we were growing up.
You can't do that because all they gonna do is pick the phone up and to see that you full of stuff, right, I quote myself, you did all the way. So I think that it is possible to be friends now.
You can't.
You know, let your kids look at you as somebody that they can be friendly with all the time.
You gotta have a level of respect there.
But I want my daughter to be comfortable to talk to me as though she would talk to one of her buddies. Absolutely, because I want that information to come to me first, so I can help her navigate through whatever the world has for her that I've already experienced that she hasn't.
So I want to be my kids.
Love trolling my oldest daughter. We'll be playing the Paul's game, you know what I'm saying. Cause this generation isn't that far removed with your fourteen years because they do it the way.
Logan.
Want to be in the group chat with us your son if I want to be, He was like, yeah, put me. I'm like, I'm not putting you to you.
He logan, you do not want to see what your father and this man talk about.
You do not want to.
See the pictures and stuff they send to each other. Logan, stay out of there, stay out of the.
Matrix, all right. When we come back we got past the Agg's knowledge will be joining us, so don't move. It's to breakfast club. Good morning,