Send us a text Many parents ask me about NLP training or help with their child’s self-esteem. This episode includes The important stages of Childhood development Sense of self around age 2 The approach a parent should take if they think a child would benefit from NLP Teaching the child the NLP presuppositions and helping them apply them to life situations will help them understand how to deal with situations. Children are going to model you anyway. Teaching them the basic concepts of NLP will he...
May 02, 2022•48 min•Ep. 59
Send us a text The Score is an approach to solving problems and getting outcomes developed by Robert Dilts and Todd Epstein in 1987 to describe the process they were intuitively using to define problems and design interventions. They realized through teaching a series of seminars that they were systemically organizing the way they approach a problem differently than the advanced NLP students. The SCORE stands for symptom, causes, outcomes, resources, and effect. These are the minimum amount of i...
May 02, 2022•49 min•Ep. 60
Send us a text Decision-making is a complex process – some processes are more complex than others. How you arrive at a decision is a process of taking in information both externally and internally and then taking action. To double down is to take a further risk in a situation or passionately re-commit one's efforts to a cause or course of action. Summary Decision-making is a complex process that is affected by our past and what authorities we choose to use. Doubling down will follow decision-mak...
Mar 21, 2022•39 min•Ep. 58
Send us a text In this episode, we talk about Permissive or Indirect Language or The Milton Model. Indirect language or permissive language it is called sometimes is vaguely worded communication designed to bypass the conscious mind and speak to the unconscious. Phrases of permissive language or the Milton Model are often used to soften communication. Instead of using direct, authoritarian language, such as, "Do this report by Monday," the speaker might say, "Would it be possible to have this re...
Feb 15, 2022•47 min•Ep. 56
Send us a text Guest host, Brad Costanzo, and Susan Stageman talk about the Disney Strategy. The brilliance of Disney comes out in this strategy he used to build an entertainment empire during the depression. We talk about what it is, how to use it. Your inner critic has a job to do. Give it the right job. When you organize your planning around the Dream, the Plan, and the Critic, your goals are so much easier to reach. Brad talks about how he has used this with his clients Support the show...
Feb 08, 2022•47 min•Ep. 57
Send us a text Susan and Guest Host, James Lusk, explore the Meta Model, Process-Oriented Questions. What is the Meta Model? We review the Meta Model and its categories: deletions, generalizations, and distortions. How do the language patterns of the Meta Model relate to our mental maps? Finally, James talks about some of his outstanding applications of the Meta Model and its importance in communication. Support the show...
Nov 18, 2021•56 min•Ep. 55
Send us a text Many people think they know what they want but haven’t taken the time to discover what they are asking for. It is easy to say, I want to be a great leader or business person or salesperson or wife, husband, chef, manager, etc. but do not have criteria or even what values or beliefs or behaviors a leader, etc. would have or what they would demonstrate to be a good leader, etc. Here is a shortlist of 10 things that are necessary to be effective at a leadership level. 1. Be an excell...
Nov 17, 2021•42 min•Ep. 54
Send us a text Part 1 of Sleight of Mouth Patterns is Episode #51. In episode # 51 we did SOM patterns REDEFINE, COUNTER EXAMPLE, HIERARCHY OF CRITERIA, AND INTENTION. In this episode we are going to try to finish the patterns. CHUNK DOWN, CHUNK UP, APPLY TO SELF, REALITY STRATEGY, MODEL OF THE WORLD, ANOTHER OUTCOME, CHANGE FRAME SIZE Support the show...
Oct 04, 2021•45 min•Ep. 53
Send us a text Time is an elusive concept. Yes, Time is a concept. It doesn't exist the way we think it does. We can keep track of time on a clock. Because of that people tend to quantify time, having too much time on their hands or too little time. We have dozens of linguistic metaphors around time, i.e. Time flies or Time is money or you are running out of time or he is living on borrowed time. From an NLP point of view, the concept of time is in our heads. How we organized time in our head de...
Sep 09, 2021•28 min•Ep. 52
Send us a text In 1980, Robert Dilts modeled the patterns of such esteemed communicators as Abraham Lincoln, Gandhi, Milton Erickson, Plato, and Socrates (to name a few.) These individuals were superb at influencing belief systems and effectively persuading with these quick verbal reframes. Dilts called these language patterns Sleight of Mouth, named after sleight of hand from artful and crafty card magicians. These patterns have a magical quality when used and can produce dramatic shifts in per...
Aug 27, 2021•49 min
Send us a text Forgiveness is an often misunderstood concept. You can use NLP to help yourself truly let go of things that you cannot change. In the first segment, we talk about what is misunderstood about forgiveness. People oftentimes think that forgiving someone for what they did is condoning it. It is not. Learn what the difference is between condoning and letting go of our expectations. NLP has several forgiveness processes that can help a person free themselves from the binds of resentment...
Jul 15, 2021•47 min
Send us a text Significant Patterns in NLP for harmonious relationships: Unless you happen to find your soul mate (what is that mean anyway?) you are probably going to have ups and downs in your relationships. And even soul mates aren’t perfect. NLP offers effective processes for keeping you and your partner or family member, boss, employee, etc. on the right track. What are some of the processes in NLP that help people navigate the ups and downs of relationships? Outcomes Rapport – especially b...
Jun 08, 2021•47 min
Send us a text In EP 42 we talk about – How come I am not doing the things I really want to do? In that episode we talked about some things that stop us: 1. Modal operators: must, have to, want, need, should 2. Submodality maps 3. Don't know how or missing information 4. Lateral or mismatched criteria 5. Values 6. Confusion with goals and tasks In today’s episode, we are going to continue adding to the list and then talk about how to use a basic swish to change triggers. What are triggers (ancho...
May 03, 2021•50 min
Send us a text When many people start out doing something new, they ask for confidence to do it. They are wanting to motivate themselves to do something new. What makes people think they can be confident doing something they have never done or done enough to get good at it. The episode discusses the Bandura Curve (the study of performance versus expectation) and how we often compare our performance to our expectations rather than where we started. We learn how to do something and get good at it ...
Apr 19, 2021•50 min•Ep. 47
Send us a text A part is a metaphor that can be thought of as a collection of beliefs, ideas, abilities, and states that have less connection with other states. You could think of them as subsystems that operate in people more or less independently of the whole or other subsystems. For example, a person may think of themselves as confident but in one area have a part of them that is doubtful of their abilities. A part usually represents a behavior, idea, or belief that can be separated out from ...
Mar 19, 2021•56 min•Ep. 46
Send us a text Why do people ask questions? To get information. Have you ever left a situation thinking, I wished I had asked more questions? Questions are a valuable part of conversations and communication in general. Yet, most training will focus on using the right words and listening rather than asking good questions. The conversation, meeting, or presentation direction depends on the questions asked and the information gleaned from those questions. Ask questions to get high-quality informati...
Feb 23, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 44
Send us a text Flow is a powerful concept for aligning yourself, life, and values to create serendipity. Serendipity is the process by which things happen - synchronistic events where things come together as if by magic. This concept was originally put forth by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in his book, Flow: the psychology of optimal experience. NLP helps a person to enter a state of flow more easily by aligning their thoughts, beliefs, outcomes, and values with what they want. Flow means to create h...
Dec 30, 2020•1 hr 4 min
Send us a text Indecisiveness is something that seems to plague a lot of people. It can be appreciated because it has a positive intent. I say this because being indecisive is a strategy unto itself. How do you decide to be indecisive? Well, you have to decide not to decide. It’s the same as no response is a response. You are making a decision not to make a decision. This episode explores strategies for deciding when indecision takes over. What causes indecisiveness? What are some of the problem...
Nov 09, 2020•48 min
Send us a text What are some of the things we put off doing, don’t do, think about doing but don’t do even though we know how to do them? It can be as simple as reading a book, fixing something in your house, taking a class, returning that shirt. or changing the oil in your car. This isn’t even taking into consideration big things: moving, changing jobs, changing careers, starting a business. It is frustrating when we have ideas and tasks we want to do but don’t seem to make yourself do them. It...
Oct 16, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 42
Send us a text We live in a world with words surrounding us like we are fish in the water. We are aware of words but not necessarily conscious of their meaning or how they affect others. This episode is about the power of language. Words inform, and they also influence. The study of NLP is about how language affects our emotions and, therefore, our nervous system. Words subtly influence how to think about something without us ever knowing that it does. When we listen to a description of an exper...
Sep 10, 2020•57 min•Ep. 41
Send us a text In our 40th episode, we discuss for each pattern, what it means to exhibit a certain pattern, how to determine a pattern and the influencing language for each pattern. We repeat working organization, the patterns of how people sort their world - people, place, thing, activity, or information. At work, if a person is a high people-sort, yet they are in a job that centers mostly around processes and information, they will not be productive. Every job has a profile, having the right ...
Aug 04, 2020•1 hr•Ep. 40
Send us a text We visit Working Organization (primary focus) again (People, Place, Activity, Thing, Information; see EP #38) and Working Scope: General or Specific. Since Working Organization is explained in EP #38, we go to General or Specific. General or Specific whether a person likes the big picture or overall design of something or if they want the details. This pattern is important when it comes to communication in general. A "general person" likes summaries and overviews but does not like...
Jul 16, 2020•52 min
Send us a text This episode continues our journey through the Meta Programs (LAB Profile). We discuss a person's working style - how a person does their best: do they like to work alone, with others around them, or work in a true team. With many people working from home these days this is useful information to help them discover why they are continuing to keep their productivity up or why they have trouble being motivated. Another pattern is the Working Organization: where does a person put thei...
Jul 16, 2020•55 min
Send us a text In this episode, we continue exploring the sorting patterns of humans to determine where our motivation comes from, our motivation reason, and motivation decision. Each of these patterns determines whether we store our standards inside of us or outside, whether we like to follow set procedures or like generating alternatives and how long we will go before a significant change in a particular context. These are important traits when it comes to how we communicate and influence some...
Jun 27, 2020•57 min
Send us a text In this episode, we discuss the nature and effects the coronavirus is having on on us all. Regardless of what you're situation may be, stressed or not, you are having to deal with the impact COVID-19 is having. The underlying truth is that like any negative experience, there is a structure and a method to effectively navigate it. We provide some NLP tools and logic to help you get through the current state of affairs. Support the show...
Apr 08, 2020•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 36
Send us a text In this episode, we talk about two Meta Programs that describe why we do what we do. The pattern identified as level of activity is all about when a person is proactive or reactive. Another way to think about level of activity is when we initiate or wait. The other pattern that we discuss is motivation direction and this refers to move away from or move toward. In other words, motivation direction refers to when we move toward a goal or away from a problem, toward pleasure or away...
Mar 26, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 35
Send us a text In this episode, we work to explain what Meta Programs are in terms of NLP and the subconscious mind. Meta programs are the deeply rooted neurological processes that manage and direct other mental processes. What we pay attention to, how we feel about money, and how we respond to change all stem from our subconscious programming. This is the first in a series of episodes in which we will unpack these programs and their implications. Support the show...
Mar 11, 2020•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 34
Send us a text In this episode, we work to define sensory acuity and deliver practical methods to employ it into your communication skills. Sensory acuity boils down to how well you use your five senses (VAKOG) to observe other people with curiosity instead of judgment. In NLP, sensory acuity refers to using our senses to make accurate observations about ourselves and others. For more awesome info about NLP or to work with Susan directly please visit her website www.nlptrainingconcepts.com Suppo...
Feb 27, 2020•57 min•Ep. 33
Send us a text In this episode, Susan explains what submodalities are in terms of your brain's operating system and how you can use them to incite change in our behavior. Humans are meaning-making machines and we anchor pictures, sounds, feelings, and words to our thoughts. Tune in to find out how this affects how we feel about what has happened and what we're going to do about it. Support the show...
Feb 12, 2020•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 32
Send us a text In this episode, we cover what Neuro-Linguistic Programming is, what training can do for you, and the difference between online and live classroom education in NLP. Susan and James both have their own experiences with online training and share them along with a solution for those who have only taken classes on the internet. Support the show...
Jan 29, 2020•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 31
