Welcome to the bed head chronicles. Today I want to talk about being able to draw upon past experiences and those moments when you feel overwhelmed, you feel helpless in a way, you feel scared to death about being able to handle something that you're going through, or being able to get through a certain struggle. And you look at -- all of us have experiences to draw upon. We all woke up this morning, okay? We've all had pain. We've all suffered. We've all had struggled in our own way. And all of...
Jun 15, 2019•4 min•Ep. 33
Welcome to the bed head chronicles. Today I want to talk about listening. Some of us may have people in our lives that are going through something that's really hurting them. Or something they are struggling through. And, sometimes we may think, "Why can't they get through this? Why can't they see that they need to do this or they need to do that, and it will relieve them of their pain?" We want to fix things. I think, one of the most healing and transformative things that you can do for someone...
Jun 14, 2019•2 min•Ep. 32
Welcome to the bed head chronicles. Today, I'm following my amazing athlete on a hard run session. Yes, it is a beautiful day, but these guys are quite fatigued by this point in time this week. Some have raced last weekend. Some just had a big week in training. So, what do you do when you've got a big task ahead, but you don't feel great? You do the best that you can with what you have. And that's what each and every one of these athletes is doing. You appreciate. You trade your expectation for ...
Jun 07, 2019•1 min•Ep. 31
Welcome to the bed head chronicles. Today, I want to talk about those moments when we get deeply anxious -- where, even to the point of a panic attack. Last night on our chat with our Team Sirius Tri Club, someone asked about what to do when you're having a panic attack on the swim portion of a triathlon. Now, when I talk about this, this can relate to anything. This could be when you're having a panic attack at work. Or whatever it is -- those moments when you get so deeply anxious -- what do y...
Jun 04, 2019•5 min•Ep. 30
Welcome to the bed head chronicles. So, this morning, I want to talk about how expectations can kill us. In the year 2000, I was preparing for the Olympic trials in Sydney, Australia. I had set a goal that every single day, I was going to visualize the entire race from start to finish. Visualize the perfect race of me executing beautifully every moment and crossing the line, winning the race and making the US Olympic team. Every night I went through this visualization process of the perfect race...
Jun 03, 2019•4 min•Ep. 29
Welcome to the bed head chronicles. Yesterday I spoke about perspective. Today, I want to elaborate on that as I was thinking about yesterday's session with my athletes and they were absolutely crushing it. Basically, I was giving them goals that were way beyond what they thought they were capable of. But, for me, my perspective as a coach -- I can see their potential. And I can make a really educated guess as to how fast they are able to run given them being willing to suffer. Them being willin...
May 31, 2019•4 min•Ep. 28
Welcome to the bed head chronicles. This morning, I want to talk about perspective and how we all have a certain way of looking at things, the meaning we give things -- and sometimes we can get really upset if someone else doesn't share our perspective. But it's very important for us to always consider all the possibilities of what something could mean to anyone around you. I guess, for example, realizing that I was gay. It took me 23 years to come to terms with the fact that I was gay. And for ...
May 30, 2019•4 min•Ep. 27
Welcome to the bed head chronicles. Today, I'm going to include my amazing athletes, and we're going to talk about the single most important thing. And they're used to my bed head. I show up this way every single day. The single most important thing that they tell themselves to get the most out of themselves every single day -- to be the best they can be every day. Better than they were the day before. What does that take? I'm going to start here, first, with Alissa. Alissa: I think it's to take...
May 29, 2019•3 min•Ep. 26
Welcome to the bed head chronicles. People often ask me, how do you have the courage to get on social media with your hair all over the place, no makeup, just getting out of bed? I am proud of the woman I am today, and I have someone I want to thank for that -- Tony Robbins has been my single, most powerful, beautiful mentor. He's changed my life in every way. And Tony Robbins has given his life to this world, going around and inspiring millions of people, empowering millions of people. He's the...
May 17, 2019•3 min•Ep. 25
Welcome to the bed head chronicles. Today, I want to talk about the parts of ourselves that we're not necessarily proud of. I know I often talk about being our best selves, being better than we were the day before. And, I think, often, what we want to try and do is just suppress or hide away those parts of ourselves that make us feel some kind of a shame, or we know that it's not our best self. But, I'm encouraging you to be thankful for those parts of yourself because those aspects of who you a...
May 16, 2019•4 min•Ep. 24
Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. Today, I want to talk about relationships as that place where we go to give love. Imagine thinking about your marriage, your relationship, your friendships as a place where you go to give love, to give joy, to give support, encouragement, joy, whatever it is rather than thinking about what we want to receive from this other person. What we want to receive from our partner. What we want to receive from our friend. My belief is that if you're thinking about what...
May 15, 2019•3 min•Ep. 23
Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. Today, I'm going to call today kindness and thoughtfulness things which I try to live every day. I want you to experiment with every single person that you encounter today that you greet them with a smile, with appreciation, with gratitude, and with love. Even if it's someone that has caused you trouble before or brings up really, you know, negative feelings for you. I want you to find the one thing about them that you can appreciate; the one thing about them ...
May 14, 2019•2 min•Ep. 22
Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. Today, I want to talk about how to best manage a situation of high stress, high stakes -- a situation that could cause you to be truly anxious, fearful, scared shitless. I'll use a sporting analogy -- imagine that you are in overtime and you have the last shot that's going to win or lose the game. At that moment -- these are the ways that you can sabotage yourself: thinking about "Oh my God. The last time I was in this situation, I missed it. Or thinking in th...
May 13, 2019•4 min•Ep. 21
Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. Today, you are not seeing my bed head. But you are seeing the site where my wife and I, on mornings where it's warm enough, come out to do a process called 'Priming' that we learned from the amazing Tony Robbins. With this process, you start with some breathing exercises to get centered and to get relaxed. From there, you think about three things that you're grateful for, moments in your life, people in your life that you're grateful for. Then you ask for heal...
May 11, 2019•2 min•Ep. 20
Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. Today, I want to talk about how to get yourself out of a really dark space of suffering. We all get there, sometimes, and it's crazy how sometimes, even though we want to feel better, we decide to throw on everything possible that can make us feel worse; to almost torture ourselves to feel even worse than we already do. It's crazy. So, on that same note, what if, in those times of real suffering, in those times where things like nothing's going right you use t...
May 11, 2019•5 min•Ep. 19
Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. Today, I want to talk about how we speak to ourselves in turmoil. When we made a mistake on something we're working on or we forgot to do something that was important or was struggling to get through something that's hard. The things that we say to ourselves, obviously, are going to affect how we feel and what we are able to accomplish. When we are in a powerful state or a beautiful state, when we do most anything like gratitude, joy, love, peace, faith, coura...
May 09, 2019•3 min•Ep. 18
Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. Today I want to talk about getting out of your comfort zone. How many of you have truly gotten to the point where you were so uncomfortable, but you didn't know if you were going to survive the experience? And you put yourself there, not something that is presented to you and you have to get through it. But something, something that you decided to get so uncomfortable, so afraid, that you don't even know if you're gonna survive it. The greatest things that eve...
May 08, 2019•3 min•Ep. 17
Welcome to the bed head chronicles. Today is the best it gets. This is jet lag bed head. So, forgive me, but please love me anyway. Today, I want to talk about worthy opponents. This doesn't just mean in sport or in business, but I'm talking about those people that come into your life that caused you pain in some way, shape or form. And I truly believe as I've spoken of it before, that people come into our lives for a reason, and that there's a gift in every struggle. But I want you to think abo...
May 02, 2019•5 min•Ep. 16
Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. My bed head is truly at its best this morning. So, yes, I just woke up and I woke up thinking about the questions we ask ourselves over and over and over again throughout the day. Tony Robbins calls these our primary questions. I know, years ago, my primary question was "What's wrong with me? What am I missing? What do I need more of?" It was always this question that disempowered me because where focus goes, energy flows. If we're focusing on what we're missi...
Apr 05, 2019•3 min•Ep. 15
Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. I woke up this morning thinking about how hard it is to end a chapter in your life not knowing what's next. And I was thinking about this in relation to athletes, and when it's time to retire from the sport and how difficult that is. Especially for athletes that have been doing sport their entire lives, and the mind wants to continue but the body is saying no. Whether it's injuries or just exhaustion or not being able to perform it at the same levels anymore; ...
Mar 29, 2019•5 min•Ep. 14
What stories are holding you back? Find the gift in the struggle. Yes, we're all going to be hurt. We're all going to be rejected at some point. I, further down the line, just a couple of years ago, called my father. I said, 'Dad, I want to thank you. I want to thank you because when you rejected me, it gave me a drive, a determination, a fire that I don't think I would have ever had if you've been the father I dreamed you to be. I wanted nothing more than to find out that I was capable and that...
Mar 28, 2019•2 min•Ep. 13
Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. This morning, I woke up thinking about a mindset shift that changed everything for me as a professional triathlete. It was in the year 2000 and I had just choked at the Olympic trials. Choked in that I really was kind of a shoo-in for the Olympic team by the way that I had been racing, and I choked. I had a horrible race and I ended up just being an alternate for that 2000 Olympic team. I was absolutely devastated and when we have a disappointment like that, i...
Mar 27, 2019•5 min•Ep. 12
Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. Yes, I just rolled out of bed. I've got bed head. But it doesn't matter what we look like on the outside. It's about what we have to offer from the inside that matters most. Today, I want to talk about relationships, and I want to talk about the love languages. There's an incredible book by Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages. We all have different ways that make us feel loved. There are people that need quality time, words of affirmation, receiving gifts, p...
Mar 25, 2019•3 min•Ep. 11
Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. I literally have just woken up. So, excuse the appearance, but as always, one of the reasons why I do these is it's not about what you look like on the outside. It's about what we have to share from the inside. I woke up this morning thinking about a Maya Angelou quote and it is: 'There is no greater agony than burying an untold story inside of you.’ And I think back at my life and there was so much for so long, I didn't feel like I had a voice, and I would sa...
Mar 24, 2019•3 min•Ep. 10
And welcome to the bed head chronicles. Bed head at it's worse today. Today, I want to talk about how a few years ago, Tony Robbins always used to always tell us about your primary question. What is that question that you ask yourself, like, hundreds of times throughout the day. Like mine, about 10-15 years ago, was "What's wrong with me? What's wrong with me? What's wrong with me?" That is not a very empowering question, is it, to ask yourself a thousand times over everyday? By the way, I'm dra...
Mar 21, 2019•3 min•Ep. 9
You often hear me talk about your ‘why’ behind what you do every single day. As an athlete, I had this crazy dream of wanting to be the best in the world in the sport of triathlon, even though I didn’t know how to swim, and I started this sport at the age of 23. This was crazy. But my ‘why’ was that I was so desperate to find a love and appreciation and a respect for myself. And I knew that this process of being afraid but doing it anyway, going out and taking on something that seemed impossible...
Mar 08, 2019•3 min•Ep. 8
Today, I want to talk about how life is like an echo. What you send out into the world will come back to you. So, whatever you think, say or do has some domino effect in touching everyone and everything around you. When you look at your life today, what have you been sending out into the world that’s coming back to you? Do you empower yourself on a regular basis? or do you find ways to dis-empower yourself? Because what you give is what you get. My greatest mentor, Tony Robbins, taught me 20 yea...
Mar 02, 2019•3 min•Ep. 7
Today, I want to talk to you about taking care of you. There’s a reason why on the aeroplanes that when the oxygen masks fall down, they say put it on yourself first before you put it on your children. We cannot possibly take care of others, give to others, and love others any more than we give and love and take care of ourselves. I know we often think that if we put ourselves first that’s being selfish, but it’s actually not. When you put yourself first and take care of you, you’re going to be ...
Feb 27, 2019•3 min•Ep. 6
Today, I want to talk about really taking charge of our experience of life. How many of you have ever said to yourself, ‘I wish my partner was more romantic’ or ‘I wish my friend was more giving.’ Often times we wish for things and we don’t understand that if we step up first and give those things, we’re far more likely to attract it in everyone around us. If you want more romance, be more romantic. If you want more love, be more loving. If you want more inspiration, be more inspiring. It starts...
Feb 25, 2019•3 min•Ep. 5
Today, I want to talk about fearless authenticity. My belief is that we were all put on this planet absolutely perfect just the way that we are. I think where we get it wrong is that we need to be a certain type of person or do certain things or look a certain way in order to fit into a certain group or get a certain job or make a certain living. But I honestly believe that is such a mistake because when we find our way back to our truth, to being exactly who we are and living our lives in that ...
Feb 23, 2019•3 min•Ep. 4
