Embracing Emotions: Balancing Spontaneity and Intellect for Inner Peace

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So I wanted to talk about something that was coming up on when I was writing my course and it was something which I thought was important , and that is living spontaneously in the moment as much as possible .

Now I know that we can't be spontaneous in the sense of we are kind of prone to our habits , we are prone to the way our personality is , we are prone to the circumstances we're in . You know , whatever is going on , that kind of sets up the stage for kind of what action we may do or kind of what action we may do .

But what I mean by spontaneous is not more so that you do something like at a whim , but more so like if you're doing something , do it wholeheartedly . So if you are . You know , if happiness is arising , just be happy . If sadness is arising , just be sad . Don't resist anything .

Whenever we resist something , we end up causing more harm to ourselves , causing more harm to ourselves . For example , you know , when we're kayaking or we're on the canoe going down the river and when we're going against the current , you know we have to put a lot more effort in .

And when we put a lot more effort in , we get more tired and in the spiritual sense , we accumulate rajas sorry , tamas in this , this . So we get more lethargic and tired afterwards , but it's rajas in the sense that we have to do a lot more work , there's more hyperactivity , more activity going on , and that that will tire us out .

So we want to be where we can be calm and cool , sailing . So the way for that is , you know , know to go with the current . Where the current is flowing , go there Now . Obviously that may also have its dangers , but what I mean to say is we shouldn't restrict anything in our life .

You know , if you're feeling something , you're feeling something , just be open about it . A lot of times we we like to keep how we feel inside , and and sometimes it's good measure , because who knows what we're doing , what we're going to end up saying or doing .

And I give a , a situation that happened to me today , where and where although I've said to live spontaneously , but sometimes that can only be the best way of being when our intellect is kind of sharpened so , um , we were , we're transitioning our son to go from , uh , his milk bottle to a sippy cup . Now , uh , it's challenging , right ? So it's not easy .

He's cranky , he's annoyed and he's playing up . So there's a . So you know , me and my wife take turns because we're working from home , we kind of share how we look after him . So you know , when I'm working , I'm , you know , I've got him sometimes , and then she's working , she's got him sometimes . So we just , we just see how he goes .

And today , because obviously we're doing a change , he's's cranky , he's annoyed , he's showing his moods and he's obviously hungry too , but he does not want to drink from the sippy cup . Now there's a point when .

So what happens is my , me and my wife are texting , and I just text her saying , um , and she's like you know , I've got a call and I've got this to do , and then let me call this person , and then I'll be more free . So I then text her after you know , maybe 30 minutes saying are you free now , can you take him ?

And at the and she didn't reply back and he was crying , and I think he was just hungry , so he was crying . And then you know I was getting , I was feeling anger towards my wife , like why are you not answering ? And so go down and get some yogurt for my kid , for my son , for Christian , and start feeding him the yogurt .

And my wife , I can hear her say I only just saw your message now . Uh , so Now , so Christian goes for his nap . So you know , put him in bed for his nap . And then I go for a shower and then I think about what's happened , like I'm angry at my wife , I'm thinking why didn't she , why didn't she check her messages ?

And then I was thinking , well , she had something to deal with at work . You know she's in the healthcare industry , so everything is more serious , and you know people's lives , you know kind of their health is important to everyone .

So you know , and I was just , and then I was thinking you know , if she's busy , if she's had to deal with something , it's not like my wife to do this , so you know . So then my intellect was discerning . It was like , okay , and then the anger just dropped and there was no anger left .

I wasn't pissed off that she didn't answer my message or that she wasn't there to help me when Chris was crying or just being cranky . So it's , it's . You know , situations in our family or situations like this they kind of show how sometimes living spontaneously means .

Now , I didn't choose to show any anger to her , which was probably the best wise choice that I made , but that doesn't mean that I couldn't . I may have kept that anger in , and that can be bad too . That can have an effect too .

So what I'm trying to say with this is that we , although we need to live spontaneously in the moment , and we need to first ensure that our intellect is in check . And today , you know , thankfully I had the time to even think about it . But say , in that moment I did get angry .

It I would have added more stress to my wife's already stressful day , or , you know , a day where she's really busy , and I'm sure it's not easy for her to hear krish crying upstairs . I mean , yeah , it's , it's not easy . So you know , when we ?

So that's what happens when we , uh think , from a more higher level and then just naturally , you know , whenever krish was crying and that to comfort him , what I find really helpful is just going back to awareness . And actually when I'm consoling him , I don't feel like it's me as the father , the body and mind that's doing it .

I go back to awareness and in that awareness there's that spaciousness of serenity , of calmness , of just being there , and that's all he wants . And and I've noticed , when I'm just there with him , you know , he leans back and puts his head on my chest and and kind of just stays there for a bit . And I just realized that that's what sometimes what he wants .

He just wants to know that we're nearby , because he's obviously we're getting him to , we're trying to get him to learn to walk and he's obviously crawling , so he knows he's more independent .

But that's a scary part in his life , that's something that's new for him and and you know , eventually he's going to be more and more independent and you know that's going to come and he's going to realize that . And so , yeah , although my video started by being spontaneous , I think I kind of showed how being spontaneous comes .

We have to be very mindful about what it brings . But ultimately , what I mean to say is only someone with a great intellect knows how to act spontaneously and you shouldn't be tried by people .

You know , for some reason , I think when people hear talks like this , I just be spontaneous , they hear it and then they just do whatever they want , but without thinking of the consequences . I don't think that's what these people mean . They kind of assume that you're going to work from a higher level of understanding and the reality .

Because when we do act , from awareness for example , when I was contemplating what happened when I was in the shower , it was all about seeing from awareness , from pure consciousness , that what , what really happened .

So what happens in that situation is the you kind of step away from the transactional reality for a bit , from from the vayavadika level , and you go to the paramartika level and you just see things from that perspective and you're like , okay , you know , this is what it looks like on the bird's eye view . My , my anger is not righteous here .

And and suddenly , as soon as you say that it drops , it doesn't hold , it doesn't hold on and you can see it kind of drop away , like into the oblivion , because it's not going to return back , and this is how our vasanas get made .

So , for example , if I acted upon the anger , then what would happen is that would be in the samskara , and if I continue to do that a number of times , that will become a vasana , a tendency that I would naturally do so every time I get angry .

So the whole point that I've learned in this , and what you should learn in this , is be spontaneous for sure , but remember that the only a heightened intellect , one who is established in awareness , in formless awareness , can act spontaneously . And when they do act spontaneously , they're in there .

So what I mean to say is you go with the flow of life , you're in the moment in it . Like right now , I'm recording , I'm fully into the recording , I'm not thinking about what's going on in the world or what's going on around me , and the same thing for when I'm eating dinner with my family , it's about eating dinner .

When I'm on my phone , I'm on my phone and that's what , how we , how we must live . I don't feel that we need to always be multitasking or doing those things . I think it's okay to kind of step away and just do one thing at a time , and that's what I mean by being spontaneous .

Now , it may be that if anger arises again and it's justified , maybe that anger can then find its outlet in a certain way . When feelings of love arise , let that feeling of love arise and blossom . When it subsides , let it subside . The whole point is just don't cling to a certain action that you want to do is all I'm trying to say Be spontaneous .

So , for example , the reason why I said about being spontaneous although it looked like there was a massive thought process going on , the whole thing lasted for like maybe seconds , but it was also spontaneous of me to say you know , pause for a moment .

Before you even think about lashing out or getting angry or reacting in anger , let's take a look at what the what the situation looks like , and that's all you have to do . So yeah , I mean this was the video . I know is a lot said , a lot of .

I don't know if I was rambling for a lot of it , but I hope it was helpful to you and just remember that it's okay to whatever you're feeling right now . It's okay . There's no need to resist it . Accept it , it , and maybe that's what it was . I accepted that I was angry and it was normal to be angry in this situation

. But was it normal ? Was it right to react in anger ? Maybe not so . So there's a difference , right , being angry and then reacting in anger . I can be angry and feel that emotion , but then I should go back to analyze whether an introspect , where is this coming from and is it justified ?

And therefore , do I need to react in anger or respond in anger , or can I drop it ? That's all that one has to do , and this can be with every emotion , not just anger . It can be with joy , it can be with sadness , happiness , anything , peace , calmness , anything , wherever you may be feeling . So yeah , that's the video .

Let me know your thoughts , let me tell me what do you do when you know these feelings arise , any feeling arises in you . What do you do ? And keep it clean , by the way , but yeah , anyway , thank you for listening and I shall see you next time . Take care , namaste .