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was pretty good. I'm very excited about it. You know, I can't go into a lot of detail, but what I will say to my ladies is the Billionaire Boys Club is not gonna let you in, so you gotta fight your way through stas and when you get through that, just continue to be graceful, mind your business and do your thing. Girl, me too, Amen? And right, great was your weekend though? You got some business done? We can great? Yep, I'm feeling good inspired. Um celebrated my girl, Elsa's birthday. Lisa.

I didn't say Alsa, I didn't say Alice. Least please, at least happy birthday, at least. This is her first official birthday in Atlanta. She's been here for almost a year and she has done amazing. I'm super proud of you, girl, and I could not imagine my group of girlfriends not having you in it. I love you, sister. I saw a Saturday, actually, but I didn't see you come down. I was there? You are? Actually, how did you see her? Because I feel like you were in the birthday I

saw Tanisha. They were walking out, sound like the police, everything all right? How how you see? How do you see her? And not me? Though? You know what I'm saying. I see wifey and everybody where was you? I was outside getting my money? Hey that fired on? Weekend was great until Sunday, but I guess we'll get into that. But yeah, my weekend was great. Great weekend, at least toward the alert. We had some stuff from all alert. Chase ripped to the party a little bit. Chase, you

come see you can you on five dollars? She got it. She's into her hugging phase right now, which I think it's super dark. She hugs you and then she rubs her her back. That's love, That's sweet. I love when babies do that. We can bring her for thirty minutes because after thirty minutes she's gonna start she can run around crazy. But outside and Katie Burns, I know you said you just got back. Yeah, I just got back

from that, like y'all, I was that soon. You had on was hard and we can't put it on the screen. Damn go to what color? What color was that? The rose gold? What the Sunday? Yeah, I just posted it. Yeah, yeah, that was the that was at the try. So, you know, I hoped to try affect the galla in uh Louisville, and we did a tempole event at the Four Seasons.

So we had a brunch and we invited out, you know, people that could actually come and celebrate and uh, you know, participate in the derby with us so hard once the news broke, you know, to shake that energy, you know. And the crazy thing is, it's like, so Thursday, I started out, you know, Coca Cola Energy launch. You know, we had Sweetie and St. John. It was dope, you know energy right Friday, Jameson Miller's birthday party, a nice guy Saturday at you and then literally Robin calls me

from downstairs Sunday saying, row im downstairs. I was like, I'm coming down. She's like wait, wait, hold on. I'm like what I'm thinking? Something happening right there. She's like, Yo, Kobe Bryant just died. I come down. I gotta And so I get down to the car and she's literally like showing me, like you know, she get videos she getting pictured like no, wait, in my mind, I gotta go host fifty people at the Four Seasons And I'm like, yo,

like I don't want to know this. And then on top of that, but listen to me, I'm gonna tell you how erie the morning was. I wake up, I'm staying at the SLS and literally that's in the middle of Hollywood, you know what I'm saying. And I'm like, I mean, you know, in the middle of you know,

between Hollywood, and so I'm looking outside. You couldn't see the building across the street, so you can imagine what the fog was by the mountains, right, And I'm thinking to myself, So I'm hearing and when I tell you, everybody was calling me and like God rested day. I was saddened, like I knew him, but I didn't even know Kobe like that, and people were calling me and I'm like yeo, and I'm literally at the gala, I mean at the brunch and I'm literally talking to people.

I'm getting calls there. I mean it was, And to be honest with you, the Four Seasons brunch is usually pop popping, right, I mean our brunch, our portion of it we had sections off was popping, but then like it was like people, it was super heavy the impact Kobe had. You know, I was at my Sunday brunch and I got a text from my sister and I was like, no, you know, there's just no way. So immediately I go online and I didn't find anything, so

I was like, this can't it can't be real. Five minutes later, that's when the articles, I guess, start you know, popping up. And we always have the we always have ESPN on at brunches, you know, on Sundays. And it was so bad that you literally see the entire room look up at the screens and everybody is in shocking. The energy just went down. So about an hour or so of that plan, I had to change the channel you had. I had to change it was so much.

There were people crying in the bathroom. Like literally, I went into the bathroom there were two women crying. I'm thinking they're drunk, something wrong. I'm asking them are they okay? And they literally were saying, I can't believe Kobe died. It was insane to me. To be able to see the sadness in real time was intense. Let's let's get them and all the families. Let's work and talk about Kobe a lot. But now it's time for in case

you misscard. Yeah, and I think to um, you know the whole thing about you know, he traveled by helicopter a lot. Let's just talk about that and let ball the nation know that he traveled by hotel I'm sorry, helicopter a lot because he lived in calabassid Or where he lived, and he had to commute to the center of the Staples Center a lot of time, and they had you know, Russia I was crazy and LX. So it was convenient for him versus an hour and thirty minute exactly. So he got used to it and it

was convening and they did it all the time. It was nothing new to the Bryant family taking a helicopter. Now in this particular situation, as we mentioned there, you know, there was fog. There was all types of things that I mean even when you watch the news, you're seeing things. Well, they could have went towards the ocean and came back in versus trying to go you know, into basically airspace you could not see um, and then it was like you know, um, they've been you know the police helicopters.

I watched was watching the news in l A. The police chief got on was like they grounded their helicopters because it was so foggy. And if the police helicopters not flying and they have all the state of the art everything, um, no one else should have been flying.

But people are going back and forth. But the thing I saw today on an Internet that I loved the most is that people are petitioning to have Kobe Bryant's logo basically his body logo, I'm sorry, his his uh silhouette, the NBA logo and now that was that was Jerry West forever. He locally said that he never really wanted that to be the logo, so I think it could happen. But you know what, let me just say something real quick about this helicopter before we get into the logo.

The pilot was actually super experienced, allegedly very experienced, and there was no block box on this helicopter. But what they did have was an iPad, so the iPad showed them the weather and all these things. They were really shocked that, from what it appears, the pilot didn't slow down. He actually sped up, he went up higher. He missed a mountaintop by a hundred feet. He literally cleared a mountaintop on a hundred feet, and when he thought he was in the clear of the mountains, he then began

to descend. But he is allegedly so experienced, especially in that area. How would you not know to be cautious of mountains in the fog. So it is. It's pretty weird. It's weird, and I do hope that more details come out, and I hope that there is no I'll play whatsoever. But most importantly, I'm just you know, sitting love and positive vibrations to all the families affected. But okay, my bad,

y'all the logo, No, I mean I was fun. I mean, uh to peggyback of what you said, I actually remember wife and I was cleaning out our garage, just putting up some new stuff and organizing and stuff, and um, I got a FaceTime call and I just didn't believe it because I'm over here, like you know what I'm saying. It was m J. Then I grew up with uh, Kobe Lebron, d Wade's my favorite basketball player, Dwayne Wade, Ali iverson Lebron and m J. I wasn't necessary of

Kobe fan, but I definitely respected him so much. I was a fan of him, uh playing basketball and just you know, followed him because he was great anyway. But yeah, when when I first heard the news, man, I just dropped to my knees. I started shed a tear, like you know what I'm saying. Not because of the basketball though, because he was a father. Yeah, but then somebody free tweets something you tweeted along, Yeah, and eleven I said that I had respect for his game, you know, because

I always I was the fan. I was the person arguing with for Lebron, and you know they had Kobe fans and Lebron fans. This is Miami. He won the Chip our second chip with Lebron, and it was I was always arguing with people about Lebron versus Kobe. But I always gave Kobe respect. And that's what I had posted on my Instagram. But man, like I got super emotional because we found out his daughter was on me.

YEA man, that fucked me up, and it really bothered me, you know what I'm saying, because it kind of gave me Dad vibes, Like you know how was he feeling on. I know, Kobe, the man will probably kicked everybody out of the helicopter and he would have went down by himself if he has you know what I'm saying, like him trying to protect his daughter in that moment. Were just talking about that, Remember we were just talking about that before Sue walked in. It was like, you know,

if you are a rising ascending. Basically, he was clearly trying to get over something. He couldn't see it. He was he knew something, so he's trying to get up over whatever. And that was an immediacy. That wasn't no swirling. I mean that the plane might have hit something that

came down. They said it was like two football fields long of debris once it finally crashed, So you gotta imagine the I just pray that they hit and blacked out and was nothing else to you know what I mean, Because they say it was so immediate that you know, it's like boom boom, and then it's you know, and the thought like Robbery was saying, like what do you do to protect whoever? Like? And I'm sure if he had time, he trying to open the door and jump

out versus knowing you're gonna crash. I mean, you get what I'm saying. Like, but I'm sure there wasn't enough time for that. I guess at one point, well, the alleged video, I don't know if this is the actual video or not, but I could imagine that they probably thought they were okay because it looked like the helicopter landed safely for a quick second. Then it jumps back up, the tail breaks and it spins and blows up. I

don't know, I don't know. I don't know if that was because that one it kind of tales I used to watch. It was I can't watch that used to watch. I don't think that was the video. I heard it out that it wasn't. Yeah, because and in that case, I think somebody would have tried to get up out of it. But then you're worried about the propellers and all the other things, you know, not nothing. Then not only that, it was other younger kids, families on the

helicopter coach of people. First I thought it was seven people. Then come I was nine, and I think only three people have been found, So that's even more scary. I like to think, you know, but I mean I'm sure they're searching high and low to find anything, but they also know what happened to Yeah, they're also worried about looters and people coming trying to get like artist, you're not, that's disgusting. The Hall of Fame y'all has honored him

for their ceremony, which is definitely due. Um. We also know that Lebron and finally spoke. I was very touched by Dwayne Waves by the way too. That was so heartfelt. And then obviously le Bron you know, hadn't responded, but

he just he just responded. And to see the videos of them with Team USA and just the camaraderie and the All Star Games, just all the it's just like wow, man, like and like I said, it was out of nowhere, and just the camaraderie in sports alone, how these people feel about their players, you know, and for one to go down like this, it's just shocker for one. And it's like, you don't know how to feel in all

these emotions coming out of everywhere. Yeah, man, but I think, like Ari said, everybody respected him if you didn't like him, because he was such an assassin and because they got all the chips that's one thing, but you had no choice but to respect him. My my family group chat, Kyle sent like this is my second tattoo, and it was mama mentality because their generation like that's all they want to wear is Kobe's on the court, Like that's all they love leg He's like to what Jordan was

to us, Kobe is to them. And you have to respect this game. And I also feel I feel sorry for him, And I'll tell you why I feel sorry for him because publicly knowing him, meaning seeing his you know, things that happened in his life, from his amazing NBA career to the rape allegations back in the day, all that seeing he was not a public person. He was not the person like you know he was on the the same thing with shock Shack was the jokes. They're the

fun guy. You know, you wanted the interview you had us. But Kobe was always serious, serious and was perceived to not be, you know, exactly right. And so and you heard a bunch of broadcasters on on on TV throughout the last couple of days saying that they had certain relationships with him at one point and then they became better relationships and they got a different side of him and got to see it. But I just I feel sorry and I feel horrible because I feel like I

really feel like he was coming into his own. I really felt like, you know, his creative endeavor is winning that Oscar, you know what I'm saying, Like his mom, but academy, his daughter is him. He didn't have no sons. I don't know if y'all heard the broadcast, was like, yo, you know, don't you gonna have a son? She's like, and she was like, oh, I'm the next one. Like you know what I'm saying, I got this, you know what I mean. So I just think he was finally

comfortable and happy and just you know free. Honestly, Yeah, I think I think he everything that he set out to do, he just did it and became the best at it. Yeah. I think that his job was well done and Tom was well spent here and I felt like he was content with that, even with just having daughters. I love the way you put that last thing, the last thing, the thing that really kind of just emotional is like, you know, his last post and his last

tweet is about Lebron. His last Instagram post, he congratulated his last tweet tweet he graduated Lebron Yeah, like and I and I just I saw her in the video clips somebody put together of her in heels and address driven on the court, and that just sucked me. Oh I'm talking about when I say, I'm just like a babe, Like you know what I'm saying. And then I was also on a whole another note. Man, It's like people saying, like, why would you take your helicopter because it was easy.

It's for him if that's the way he traveled. And I want to say this, I want people to stop apologizing for spoiling these kids and moving around away. If you could do it, do it, because we are this proof that life is not guaranteed. You know what I'm saying, Like the other just the wrong thing. He also said the reason why he took the helicopter so he could be there for his kids more, because he said he would um have so it was so much traffic trying to get to practice, then trying to pick his kids

up from school. He wanted to be there to pick them up from school, and his wife was like, I could pick him up. He's like, no, I want to. I want to spend that time with them as much as I can as possible. It was just faster for him to travel to practice and then get to his kids. It's out to me that people are so concerned about whether they think somebody is, whether someone looks personal, and then why someone wants to travel the way they want to travel, like it's they have the means to do it.

On top of that, the man takes his cray very seriously, So if he wants to be serious on the court or when he's handling business, that's okay. Nobody has to make jokes for you to be comfortable. No one has to smile for you to be comfortable. I respect that he can allow himself to get in that zone, have a ton of vision, and execute what he came to do. So all you feel like if I work there hard to get to that point, fly if I want to write.

And that's my point. I want to just say, everybody in ball nation that can afford to do the things they want to do do it. Don't feel but like I used to. Honestly, when I was younger and I didn't have it, I was like, you know, when I get it, I'm gonna make him work. For now, I'm giving him everything I could give him with with stipulations along the way that you have to do this, clean

your room and things. You know what I'm saying to teach you almost because even like Jessica in the kitchen this morning, she says, my my youngest son was going crazy about his iPods or EarPods, right, And I guess Kenny came like, yo, you know your attitude. You know it's not gonna help you find This is what Kenny's telling Kyle. And when they're both poor rotten, but you can see the teachings come out. It's just a matter

of maturity, right. And I think that we get so stuck in our head about what we're not supposed to do because they didn't work for they don't know life could be over tomorrow. I want to have them to have jumped off boats. I want them to have traveled the world following their greens. All that. I'm not being up. I'm not apologized for none of that. Ship. I don't

get what you say. They can live where jewelry, they can have tattoos, they can do whatever the funk they want to do, as long as it's under our rules and guidelines. That's all I'm saying. The point is you're raising good human beings. Because I think people get it confused that if if a child has some of the materialistic things that they may not have had, you just automatically assume the child is spoiled, or not a good person, or has no compassion. I don't think that's always true.

So nonetheless, if if these luxuries improve your quality of life, if they allow you to spend more time with your family, they allow you to feel like you can be more available, do it. It's cool. Do it. On another, onto another uh NBA legend. Lady and gem All Iverson was robbed the five hundred thousand dollars worth of jewelry at the Sofa Tel and Philly. He was not actually walked up on pistol drawn done. Okay, So I wasn't on him, okay,

because I was nervous for him. They stole the book out of his hotel room, Yes, out of the Sofa Tel and thing, you know, this is my thing. I don't think it was. I don't know if it was the actual hotel room, but it was in the Sofa Tel, could have been in the lobby wherever. But the bottom line is I hate a thief. Hated thief and a liar. You know what I'm saying. You might not you might hold the truth and then when asked you have to either. But you liars and thieves, you know what I'm sayings

do you give what? Thief? And it got you on tape? Bro dear thief? They have your face. So it's not a hotel employee. No, it's not a hotel. It is a black man, which I am very disgusted with. But um, I wonder if he knew that it was Alan's bad hunter, Like I'm typing, my fucker, I'm not even gonna hold you up. You ever seen the pranks on social media when somebody walking by and dropped a big money and supposed to be blind, and somebody like yo, yo, I'm

the guy, like yo, you dropped your money. I always think in my mind, what if I found two men in the briefcase? Now, if nobody was around in the field and there was no hot you know what I mean, maybe I would hold onto it, you know. But I'm not just gonna walk in nobody room see a bag, you know what I mean, or see someone drop So,

like I said, I was running doing running cane. I dropped a thousand and I don't know why I had it in my shorts, but I had a thousand dollars cash and it dropped out, and the ladies excuse me, you dropped your cash. I'm like, God, black like you know. That's why I don't That's why I don't do that either, because I believe in carma. I feel like I want somebody to give it back to. This guy dropped a while. I had all these credit cards in the a gas

station and um, I got him. He drove off. I got in my car and I was just honking him down. He was like what I said, Hey, man dropped your wallet. She was like, oh my god, trying to give me a hug and everything. Yeah, that's good man. Call me something. Somebody y'all thieve And asked mother, I actually did that with kids. And the mom was watching her son and she was like, Oh, I know, my child is gonna return the money. My kid is a great kid. That's how I put that money in his pocket. Mama was.

He wasn't worried about nothing. Speaking of savages, y'all. After winning the Grammy Award, Tyler the creator calls out the Grammys for reducing black artists to urban categories. I agree, and I'm glad you said something. I'm glad you went and got your award, and then I'm glad you said something. A lot of people trying to give him flat for even going and receiving award. Though, if you're in the music business, you want a Grammy, It's okay, you want it. Hello, Hello,

you want it. But I am proud that he got it and said something. And I know Susans I can feel her face crunched up. But it's the truth. No, I'm just saying, why would people be mad at what he said? It is the truth. It's the truth, but the truth, the holy truth. And I'll know this, it's not new. I get so bothered that people get so bothered when someone finally says the truth about how they

feel about something. Why are you so mad? We've been talking about this with the Grammys for years at this point, but you're mad? That is it? Because it was Tyler that said it exactly and one of the best performances of the Grammys. I'm not even a Tyler fan. I don't listen to his music, but that performance he had boys and men and Charlie was he murdered that performance, and I think he's a rock star and I'm high

fiving him along the way. But also Puff had this to say as he received his Icon Award at the Clive Davis event at the Grammars. I'm speaking for all the artists here and do some executives. This amount of time that it takes to make these records, to pull your heart out into it, and you just want to even play in the great words and everybody too. We are artists, We have sensitive about our ship. We are passionate. For most of us, this is all we got. This

is our only hole. She'd be told. Hip hop has never been respected by the grannies and music that's never been disteffy about the m see a point of the ship, so to right now, the dissurence of situation. It is kind of regulation. This thing has been going on. Yeah, I'm I'm happy Puff just said all that. I'm happy Puff jumped out there too, because Puff historically has not

jumped out there for his fucking people enough. In my opinion, the fact that he had that comment at the Clive Davis probably was one of the most prestigious events during the Grammy weekend and lit the fucking Grammys up, Like, I salute him. I think he is using his superpowers for good now and I wish that, I hope and I pray that he continues to on the bigger level because of that type of voice and that type of money. Those are the type of comments I wanted. That's the thing.

That's the question. What we're gonna do about it? Well, we're gonna do about it. I remember, see our own Grammys. I'm so ready for for all this because I'm just I'm tired of asking. We got the key players with the money, Now, what we're gonna do about it? Yeah, let's prey our own I was just about to say, I remember when Trump was running for office and I'm working with him, and I'm like, yo, say something, you know because we have our conversations. He's like, he's probably

gonna win. I'm like, well, if you know something we don't know, say something, so come on, like we got the power. You are. Ain't no bigger promoter, marketer, branding motherfucker outside of me than you. Like you know what I'm saying, but that but even like you know, like seeing what Jay is doing. You know Jay and one time for Jane the Rock Nation brunch, Like you know, seeing the way that this is shaping up to be like the corridor to whatever. Right, And if you're in

the music business is necessary. I mean if you're not, it's still like watch them, see what they're doing. See the alliances that are being made because you know, two sus point to everybody's point in here, we have our own who doing what to do it though it's the profet died the cheers to Jay at the at the thing like a black man did this. So being in there, black man did this brunch for us. Everybody that is in power in the business that we are in is

in this room. There's a big sense of endearment to going on in that in that brunch. And they're white people that want us to get they want us to get our due too. I had to brunch, you know, like the weed everything, Rob Weiss, he did Entourage Ballers. You know what I'm saying. I had to dude, ninety year old white man and who did the screenplay for corn Bread and Earl, Like you know what I'm saying, Like it was just they want it's some people on the other side that wants us to have it too,

you know what I'm saying. So we like figure out these alliances and get it done. We have like the Trumpet Awards, but it's kind of a lot. Yeahs we have emphasized as a big deal. Yeah, we we have to respect our stuff, like like we respect the Grammys. We have to treat it that way. Talk about it dressed like you're going to the grand It's like like promoted, like you do that. What if we did that, it would be so much bigger. I need to Baker performed,

she didn't air because she didn't something happened. It's like this the Urban Honors, it's our ship. Cathy used forty years in the business, and then it was people that were supposed to come to didn't come, and that came because they felt pressure that they wouldn't get their records played on radio. When you have motherfucker, well, why why does it have to get to that? They just treat us and it kind of we treat us. We treat each other any in a way, and ultimately it all

starts with us. It all. We all have to make a conscious decision to put more effort into minority own things. And I think this brunches is a is a great starter because just like Clid Davis is his annual Grammy party, I feel like with Jay doing this Rock Nations Lunch, that's like an annual because it comes around only for the Grammy. Yeah, and I think that's a great start because not everybody is invited to that and if you come, you got it's a prestigious event. You gotta show up

and show out. What I like about it too, is um. They reported that they had a picture of Nipsey and Lauren London from last year's Rock Nation Brunch, and the floral designs were clearly inspired by their outfits. So I love that Ja and and Beyonce always seem to do

these subtle things that they show us love. I love It's very thoughtful and you would not know what it was unless someone pointed it out, Like I was like, you know what, There's no way you can tell me that the floral um color and the core was not inspired by nip and Lawrence Southfit last year. And yes, Rory, we love jay z is here too, speaking of um, Yeah, I don't know what in the white faces going on here.

Apparently Kanye West wants Danny Rides to betray him in his biopic, and I thought it was a joke, but clearly this you shocked. I think it was a joke whatsoever. I think this is Kanye doing Kanye like. Kanye is trying to prove a point that like, well, you know, why can't a white man play playing black man? Like like Kanye, you take it too far, man, that's what that's what You'll take it too far. Like, I get it. You want to talk about equality. It's about talent, it's

about creative It shouldn't matter about the skin. Man. You're taking it too far exactly, man. That's why the Urban Awards at the Grands right child, child, this is where I think they laugh at us. No, no, they don't know they laugh at Trump when they laugh for us. My point is this, though, I do think this is where Kanye takes away from his genius because he's a genius. We cannot argue this, but he's a fucking retard at the same time, I can say that word. As My

point is, Dan McBride has no black features. He cannot pull off Kanye. He's not black, and you gotta have musical time like Uptown Story, how happens? I would love to see the finished product, but Uptown Andrea rail stories coming out to BT, they're auditioning for people that saying like Mary sing like Joe to see like Heavy d look like Heavy. You can't when it's the best movies to me too, when when the person actually kind of looks like in favors, like like Selena, like Notorious Sea

she did it was awesome. But you know what this is Kanye be a Kanye And like I said, this man is standing in his truth. He is telling y'all who he is day in and day out. Who is he saying he is by saying he wants Danny McBride to like give okay, please jump in. Who is he saying he is? I need to know who is he saying? I like the way you were he's saying. He's saying he's saying who he is by saying who he's not?

Mm okay with your double entendres, I will say I saw a video circulate about him, and it was very motivating that he said, you know, in the future that he would just one people to recognize him by his first name. You would not have to say you know Kanye West, but by just Kanye, and you do know what Kanye means the only one? I listen, thank all the nations. Did you know that? Because I did not know that. I know him. I know baby, I did not know that, and I know him well, he's expressed

to see. Like I said, I was like a Kanye fan key word, but he's and he said in interviews, you know what his name meant meant and it meant the only one? All right. Yeah, before we go to a word from my sponsor, I have to say this because I was actually have a conversation from the way in here and my friends were telling me that Nike pulled all of Kobe stuff offline. Kobe right, but Kobe sorry because because resellers people, no, no, no, they well they said there were rumors prior to this note we

just got into ball alert. Nike says Kobe Bryant sneakers are all sold out, not pulled from Nike dot com. Because people were saying on Nike dot com like they took everything down and they were like, na, everything sold out. Because I was having back and forth with my friend this morning, like yo, like why would they do that? That all that goes to his family, you know what

I'm saying. And literally in one day, I thought it was because people were buying in reselling to you know, Nike just announced that the sneakers are all sold out, not pulled from Nike dot com whoever. I'm sure the resellers got in on that. They did, because there was a reseller who had a signed Kobe jersey on Amazon for six thousand dollars. Yeah, but keep in mind of stuff like that has already been on sale, his signature and stuff like that. That that's cool, But I feel

like of his passing, relax, that's very distasteful. So distasteful. Humans are so disgusting. Rest in peace, Kobe being briant And now a word from our sponsors. Now's time for ball of male Dear Ball Alert crew. I want my boyfriend back, Dear Ball Alert show. My boyfriend and I stopped talking three months ago because we have a long distance relationship and he didn't like that I have a

lot of male friends. He stated that it made him feel uncomfortable that I had all these male friends at work and in my and in my personal life and he's an another state and unable to be there. With me when these male friends are around. His thing is he doesn't trust them. That's right. He thinks that they like me, but I've told him in strictly friendship only. We haven't seen eye to eye on it, and we split up three months ago. I don't want to drop my male friends, but I miss my man. What should

I do? Please help child? Let that man stay where he at, like you cannot. I've always been a firm believer of not excuse me, you know, canceling friendships with people because someone I'm dating is insecure about it. I will never turn my back on someone who is a true, genuine friend. How many male friends? Of course, I have quite a few male friends, and I'm in a male but also culturally, I think this topic is as it's perfect for me. Actually, go ahead. How many men would

you like? If you like you have big brothers. I don't know that you have male friends, Like people you've seen the club aren't your friends. I have some male friends that I actually grew up. I need numbers because you can't just say all the people you know are your friends. But I literally have childhood friends or friends that you know I'm still in connection, like male friends that that okay, cool, Maybe like six or eight that are like your house, be with you, You've got your

bondet on around that. You know, no friend to my friends, A solid five of them come to so five five male friends. Yeah, and you're saying that's probably high end for not because you're not. I don't think you're the normal. But let me just say outside of the industry though, in our culture and habits culture, we don't. We're not like Jen. It's not like that. Like you can have friends of the friend they probably like you. She's in

the business, whether male dominated, it does different. But for me it does come from from culture because growing up, it wasn't weird for my mom's male friends to come over and have the ceremonial coffee or like that. In my industry also, like you know, I'm coming at it from like both angles. But I think it's healthy to have relationships from people of the opposite sex. But I also understand American culture is a little bit That's what

I was. You can't tell me half the people outside in five half or the men outside inside that you'll be around with me trying to fun. You can't say that. I can almost guarantee it. Shoot, they don't make me feel like it. So I mean, yeah, there are some people that I'm like, okay, you want to, but most of them I've I've never gotten we got a phone. That's what I was trying to say. Like she said, her culture, you know, male flourished friendships are like so normal. Yeah,

like you said, but in this in America. Okay, what about you? You got you got a lot of male friends. I will say, though, but um, I understand too, like a lot of them like me. But I understand what she's saying. That with the girl. If my man is uncomfortable with that, I don't have a problem with Yes, Yes, if you know someone has feelings for you, you know someone likes you, and you're just constantly trying to put

them in the friend zone. If you are really dating someone, you can't even have that person in the friend zone them or that there's in that situation that looks like me and Sue was super close. But she probably communicates with my My wife is just as much. We actually have a group chat. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. I think that's important. Um, with a male friend. So to the topic of this, she's not including her boyfriend,

she can't into the male friendship live here. Yeah, but if I have a female that's your partner, my wife is going to be included. Yeah, and you're gonna have each other like my wife and Sue has each other number. She feels free that she has to to be comfortable with. You can tell me at any time of the day, any time of the night. But what happens if you're dude is the type of dude that's like, I don't

want to know what this an't gonna about now. I'm like, because you know, it's a lot of y'all out here to be like, I don't care. That's what hurt. I think she's dealing with distance and not and I agree with you guys. She should try to find a way to include him something the next time he's in town. Go out for drinks, go out for topics or something. But yeah, and like have him a round your people

and don't hand him around nobody you fucked. Yeah, that's disrespectful, But like, if there's someone who is really giving him uncomfortable, I want to be with your woman vibes, and he communicates that you too, and you care about your relationship that yeah, you know, is that one thing that's if you have sex with the motherfucker, y'all could be friends.

And that's a lot of that's not that's a no, y'all know, we will never agree with stuff like this one because I think it just depends on the relationship. I think it just depends what you know. Hey, hey man, you said a child with someone and you have that type of relationship, you have to have some type of common But if you do not child, if you just sunk with somebody and your besties and he's coming over to the crib and I'm oh, that ain't that's not part of the game. That's not part of the game.

It got nothing your best your besties used to smash no, no, no guts, especially if we're doing what we do, because that's the white people's stuff. It's like you you have a group of white friends and they all husband walking the current the ex. The next thing you know, you're drunk in a bathroom getting you know what I'm saying this is. I can't remember who it is, but there's a Caucasian female actress who let her ex boyfriend move into the house with her her husband and a new baby.

So I'm going to tell you all the craziest scenario. Come on, and I had a day job. My co workers name is Tom. I'm not gonna say his last name because he's a fan of me. He's a fan of the show. He found of my radio show, The Whole Night Um. Him and his ex him and his ex wife divorce, X wife got a new boyfriend him, next wife's got gets married to a new guy. Him and the new husband become cool and then they hang out. Yeah. I have seen this in my childhood. Came to my job,

the day job. They're going to lunch together. Hey, dog, and he's married to your ex. What the hell type of fool ship is that? But if they that cool, if the ex wife, okay, what on one time to look, I don't understand. I can understand that if y'are Jada type of man, but it's still no still boundaries. If you got killed, I'm saying. I'm saying very Jada, and and and will ex wife they still James said that Will and his ex wife still go on vacations. Now

that's see, that's a see Will. I don't know if I love that they do that. I think I think it's for the days to see a healthy relationship with with the parents. I think it's a dynamic. I gotta steal yet to unravel your role. Smile dude in the stepdad cool cool, y'all ain't tight nigger, y'all don't hang out that don't come on, let's define role. Yeah, friends, friends, it's great to have that because he's around your daughter. You want to know, I actually respect him a lot

of you respects me a lot. Communicate that came more than man. Uh, you know baby moms, which I think is dope because we both are raising you know, I have to share my daughter with him. Absolutely. I respect. It was his birthday. I told him happy birthday. You know what I'm saying. That was cool. Yeah, before the

young lady, I think y'all should all get together. If he's not a cool may him feel comfortable at least, But if you want you if you want your man back, if you don't want to uh, if you don't want to deal with him and him being you know, slightly jealous, because all friends ain't friends. They could just be trying to slide up, just waiting on the opportunity. I know a lot of men are calculated and they will Wait, have you ever seen a lion stalkers praise? Yeah? Yeah, yeah,

you go, you want to make a mad girl? Yea, who's listening. You have to use this in your next relationship as a lesson. If you're not going back and not getting back with him, you have to your next man has to know your male friends, have to know your immediate male friends. That's gonna be in your life, in his life too. I was gonna say, be honest. The thing is, people meet people and they introduced like the better version of themselves or you know, the censored

version of themselves. I'm very open, Like I tell any man that wants to potentially date me or I'm interested in whatever the case is, Like, hey, twice a day, like this is what I do. Like yeah, Like I get phone calls late at night from guy's you know, who need help or who want tables or want to know what's popping or I run a dope as Sunday brunch event. I am right now, and you know it's just like it is very important. Like you're not going

to make me feel awkward about my job. You're not going to make me feel awkward about my career goals and the fact that I have to have relationships with people of the opposite sex. You will never have to be around they want I feel comfortable. Unfortunately, we're in that end of her immediate space. She don't have to have them in her media space. And if it's business, they got to have rules. No, that's cool. They've been calling you for a certain guidelines, so that's don't don't

don't be so freezy. This is what this way I have the issue. What are the rules. They don't understand that people gonna call They call you in the middle of night. No, no, Kenny, they are going to call night. If this is your big I am going to answer the phone. If it's if it's if it's someone I have, I am going to answer the phone. You need to something, you have to call her. You know what I'm saying. But he's saying as him. But that's what she say,

that's what she has to tell her due. But what I'm saying to the people that call her that are not her male friends. Yeah, it's different. If somebody was a table at compound on Saturday night and they didn't decide to do it until PM. They're gonna call me. I'm going to answer those of my business that I'm talking about, the ones that are your friends that aren't

your friends. Yeah, No, that's cool. I I'm only talking about like, because I did date someone who in the beginning told me he was comfortable with my career, he didn't mind what I did, and then all of a sudden he started having problems with do you have to go to work tonight? Can you just say, yeah, I gotta go to work tonight? Like what do you what do you mean? Let me just say this to all the women out there listening. Your man sees things you

don't because he's a man, just like y'all. Y'all I agree. I'm just saying, see me see the fact that I got this. We're a certain detector though women it's known to man trust us, trust trust the woman you're with, Like, just trust that. We're just giving scenario because this young ladies clearly still in love with her man. More than likely she she is how I used to be, and she wasn't honest about her friendships, Like she wasn't honest

about the people in her life. She probably only talked about girlfriends for a while or loosely talked about, you know, her male relationships. And that's why I feel like you have to be upfront and honest because the more information you give somebody, you allow them to make a decision on how they want to be involved and stuff again, and like that that says a lot about the person. I just want to know how much does honestly really play a part in day nowadays, because I don't think

anyone gets the truth. I think it's so spotty until you know. But then it's like you don't got so many holes and gaps in the truth telling that by the time you get to the serious part there's a whole bunch of ships in the back. That I used to that person being spotty with with what I gave, and I realized that did not benefit me in the long run. So now I don't care I tell you, And if you don't like it, great, like great, because at least we know now, like cool, all right, I

wanta we gotta get this. We're giving the phone number again. We gotta get this, you know. Yeah, when they do that, I don't have them. We need them to want to have this conversation on the air. You can come to the ball Alert show and you can get down with to get down and we can have some real off thing because I think we give answers, but I think it's some ship we don't be knowing that we could get to the bottom the details. So people in the

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